Social Toxicity Rain Cloud Reflection-Confederated Tribes of the Umatilla Indian Reservation by Farima Pour-Khorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn Think about a time you either witnessed, perpetuated or were impacted by a toxic rain cloud/form of oppression individually, interpersonally, or institutionally. What happened? How did you feel? en-us 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC 2023-02-18 01:45:25 UTC hello@padlet.com fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277507 Anti-Blackness exists in every culture, even among People of Color. ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277507 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277511 Lack of pay equity- a racial wage gap between Black and non-Black ppl in every institution I've worked at ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277511 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277513 The ignorant fear that I held in relationship to urban communities having grown up in a largely homogeneous rural community is something that I am still ashamed of today. ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277513 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277514 Sex education was ALWAYS hetero, never queer and never liberatory]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277514 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277515 Automatically assuming I was straight ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277515 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277516 Coming out as Bisexual, I have been consistently criticized and undermined by my peers. People think because I (a woman) married a man that being Bisexual is null and void when it is really a large part of my identity. ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277516 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277517 being afraid to bring my delicious cultural foods to lunch because other kids would bully me]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277517 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277518 Picked on by white students at my middle school for being an immigrant into this country and having a language barrier.]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277518 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277519 as a teen I wanted to try out to be a cheerleader but when I went to sign up, the girl at the sign up table said I was too fat and I was going to get rejected ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277519 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277526 being told I'm pretty for a fat girl, or shouldn't be wearing certain clothes because it's not for my size, but i PROUDLY STILL DO!]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277526 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277527 my body never fit the image we are told to aspire to in our culture. it has resulted in body image issues for most of my life.]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277527 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277530 Being told by my uncle that I would have my "man card" revoked if I expressed anything he thought was too feminine.]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277530 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277531 Men not being able to have safe spaces (even within anti-violence spaces) to talk about being survivors. ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277531 machismo ... fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277534 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277534 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277536 not fitting in with middle class norms or understanding their etiquette]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277536 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277540 not being able to participate in book fairs due to not being able to buy books...always feeling visibly separate from others because my family couldn't afford things]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277540 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277544 Being judged and not taken seriously by other interns because I didn't got to an Ivy League School ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277544 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277548 There was no LGBTQ clubs or support groups or resources at all at my high school and the admin would not allow students to start their own on campus]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277548 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277551 Denying my sexuality for so long because it was easier to pass as straight]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277551 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277553 My wife's parents and religious upbringing at first rejected our same sex relationship. Caused years of stress, feelings of unworthiness, rejection, pain, and hurt. ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277553 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277555 Having to take personal days for my most holy holidays or my kids having to choose between exams and religious practice.

]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277555 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277557 always bombarded with European standards of beauty, religion, and ways of being]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277557 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277558 My mom thinking the only way I will succeed in life in America was to only speak English instead of our native language because of the way she was treated for her accent. ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277558 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277561 White washed history….history created so that the narrative praises whiteness, I was even told to feel pride that I had ancestors from the Mayflower.]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277561 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277568 Primarily white community refuses to change Mascot because they feel it “honors” Indigenous people’s culture. I also see so many kids playing Cowboy-Indians in front of adults who never intervene]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277568 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277570 I was one of a handful of Mexican-American in a very white high school and was clearly treated differently than the other light skinned, white-passing Mexicans at the school.]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277570 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277575 Being able to walk into stores and hotels to use bathroom because I am white.]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277575 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277576 “You’re pretty for a dark girl”]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277576 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277583 being harassed in stores, banks, hospitals, and having security called to bathrooms when I'd enter them.]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277583 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277584 Trans direct service workers not having safe spaces in statewide support spaces ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277584 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277586 a colleague told me she "had no time for this" when I tried to tell her a new colleague uses "they/them" pronouns, this person holds marginalized identities herself!]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277586 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277589 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277589 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277592 In our district the staff are 97% white. ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277592 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277593 I have had so much white privilege my whole life. ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277593 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277597 Not being allowed to try out for the foot ball team because I was a girl ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277597 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277598 Consistently denied jobs in computer science field as a woman in the 90s]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277598 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277600 Harassment by male coworker. Being told my anger was because it must be “that time of the month”]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277600 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277608 as a kid, I was made to feel invisible in my family because of my age.]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277608 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277610 "you're too young to understand"]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277610 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277615 People second guessing and undermining my authority due to my age-- causing on self doubt

]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277615 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277617 At school was given feedback on my “accent” and was treated like it was a disability]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277617 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277618 At one of the public elementary schools I attended, the staff would publicly punish the students for speaking Mandarin on the playground with one another--even though the student body was predominantly Chinese.   ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277618 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277623 Grew up in a household where my father's word was gospel and there was no real room for my opinion or thoughts as a woman or as his daughter. ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277623 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277624 Growing up in a deeply conservative Christian household I both perpetuated and was subjected to incredibly toxic patriarchy, it took me well into my 20s to fully understand the extent of both the damage I exacted, experienced, and internalized as the result of this time in my life. It remains something that creeps into my actions if I am not acutely aware. ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277624 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277630 I have often witnessed people deny other people's hidden disability. ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277630 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277632 My husband being told that they couldn't accommodate his deafness- higher ed, jobs, healthcare.]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277632 fpourkhorshid https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277633 Being questioned over using a sick day for mental health reasons ]]> 2022-08-02 06:49:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253277633 Not taken seriously because of my young age https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652208 2022-08-02 20:36:13 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652208 https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652612 Not advancing in a position because I was told that I was not strong enough like a man. ]]> 2022-08-02 20:37:35 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652612 Having to hide my disability to avoid people thinking I am less capable. https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652628 2022-08-02 20:37:38 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652628 “How is this ‘girl’ going to accomplish all this?” Said to the old white man next to me by the old white man across from me. https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652641 2022-08-02 20:37:41 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652641 Being placed in special ED classes when I started school because I didn't speak English https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652671 2022-08-02 20:37:48 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652671 Both my "disability" and my chronic illness are invisible. Can't tell you how many times I've been told "but you look fine". https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652674 2022-08-02 20:37:49 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652674 Being told I'm not skinny enough for certain things https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652853 2022-08-02 20:38:15 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652853 Being told my transgender identity is not aligned with my black culture https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652939 2022-08-02 20:38:28 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652939 Hard of hearing https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652952 I have seen people be frustrated when a person hard of hearing ask for them to repeat something.]]> 2022-08-02 20:38:31 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652952 Not fitting into one culture or another. https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652969 2022-08-02 20:38:34 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652969 https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652996 Having my size be the first thing people notice about me. ]]> 2022-08-02 20:38:39 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253652996 I look younger than I am, but am also told I am an old soul. As a child, I was "too big for your britches". https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653007 2022-08-02 20:38:42 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653007 Sizeism https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653083 Never felt comfortable in my own skin because I was told I wasn't good enough because of my waistline. ]]> 2022-08-02 20:38:47 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653083 Finding out that the new male hire, with zero experience, was being paid more than I was, despite the fact that I had more education, qualifications and experience in the job https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653095 2022-08-02 20:38:49 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653095 https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653100 When I worked in a portrait studio, one of the women I worked with would always ask me to handle the Pakistani or Indian or really any non native English speakers because she couldn’t understand them and often said things like, “They should learn to speak English,” when often, their English was better than hers was.]]> 2022-08-02 20:38:50 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653100 https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653103 Not being able to attend an event with friends because I lived in a low income apartment and we were below the poverty line and the even required a certain amount of money. ]]> 2022-08-02 20:38:50 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653103 Having to work harder for things https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653104 2022-08-02 20:38:51 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653104 Expecting my daughter to do more house work than I did of my son's. Continued the cycle https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653165 2022-08-02 20:39:04 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653165 https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653854 My step dad always said the kitchen was for a woman. Cleaning is for women. And that no one will truly love a woman but only use her for sex. Being objectified by boys in my younger years. Just because I am a woman does not mean I’m just an object or that all I am good for is cleaning and cooking. ]]> 2022-08-02 20:39:43 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653854 Assuming that because I am older that healing to a lesser extent than a younger or more athletic appearing person is acceptable. https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653924 2022-08-02 20:39:47 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653924 https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653967 Not taken seriously-no higher education-college degree ]]> 2022-08-02 20:39:52 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653967 https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653968 As soon as I walk in the room they see my young face and instantly undermine the work I do ]]> 2022-08-02 20:39:53 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253653968 New advocates having to earn there place at the table because people take they do not having the education. https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654092 2022-08-02 20:40:08 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654092 Being told by my male supervisor that I needed to be better “friends” with female co-workers in order to resolve differences. https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654094 2022-08-02 20:40:10 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654094 Living in a gated subdivision in a beautiful home and a manicured lawn meant that it wasn't possible I was suffering from child abuse and a witness to violence. https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654102 2022-08-02 20:40:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654102 https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654115 My husband not participating in household chores because he was a man and that was something he reported they didn’t have to do. 🙈]]> 2022-08-02 20:40:13 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654115 My husband won't let my kids have their own opinions about anything he doesn't agree with https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654117 2022-08-02 20:40:14 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654117 I grew up in a Christian household, I was not taught any of my culture. Being told that Native Americans are a concouqred people. Being told that the Bible was right and the only way to live your life. I was taught that the husband was the head of the household and he was to make all of the decisions. https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654226 2022-08-02 20:40:28 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654226 https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654282 Not being consider for a job or most jobs because I’m in my 50s. ]]> 2022-08-02 20:40:38 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654282 Toxic masculinity https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654517 My boyfriend being inconsiderate of my feelings because he thought being sensitive is "pathetic"]]> 2022-08-02 20:41:11 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654517 Being told to respect someone’s religious beliefs, even though those beliefs disrespect someone’s entire life https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654602 2022-08-02 20:41:27 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654602 https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654607 When walking into a new position and the team is younger then me and I hear whispering that I am to old do this kind of work anymore. 😑]]> 2022-08-02 20:41:28 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654607 All my life feeling I had to assimilate to whiteness or I wouldn't be able to..... Fill in blank here _ https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654717 2022-08-02 20:41:52 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654717 I was told that I was too fat to have a boyfriend, no one could possibly love me. I was accepted behind closed doors but not in public. https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654731 2022-08-02 20:41:55 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654731 https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654766 Wondering if people will make assumptions about what I’m doing, eating, etc due to my size. ]]> 2022-08-02 20:42:03 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654766 Ageism https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654822 My aunty saying "your opinion doesn't matter, you're a child."]]> 2022-08-02 20:42:14 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654822 https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654856 Because my disability is not visible to eye people think I am lazy and do not want to do the work. ]]> 2022-08-02 20:42:21 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654856 Just because I look like Barbie, doesn't mean I don't struggle with weight. My body, also, isn't perfect. In highschool, I was asked if I was going to go vomit after lunch. https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654879 2022-08-02 20:42:26 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654879 https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654949 Participating in my native culture but being judged for looking too white. ]]> 2022-08-02 20:42:43 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654949 Being told I was too light skinned to be Native American. https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654980 2022-08-02 20:42:50 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253654980 https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253655055 Being labeled a “bad kid” just because I was from the Reservation ]]> 2022-08-02 20:43:07 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253655055 When I was younger I was told I looked like a white person and I was happy that I could pass as white. Ashamed of my own culture https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253655372 2022-08-02 20:43:41 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253655372 I have been told that I can't possibly be Native American because I am too light. I must be one of those Cherokee's that have a grandma that is a princess. https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253655384 2022-08-02 20:43:43 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253655384 There are no women ministers https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253655399 2022-08-02 20:43:46 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253655399 Being Chicana (Mexican-American woman) has allowed me to see through lenses of 2 different cultures. I get so sad when I hear my people shame our people who have darker skin or have larger features. https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253655409 2022-08-02 20:43:48 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253655409 Colorism https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253655893 Saying I'm not Native enough because my skin is lighter then most Natives. ]]> 2022-08-02 20:45:22 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253655893 Marital status. When I got married in my mid twenties, I saw the rural community I worked in suddenly treat me different, with more respect. It's hard to explain. When I got divorced it was astounding how the light switch turned back off and somehow I was less of a responsible person? Less capable? Less valuable? https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253656439 2022-08-02 20:47:19 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253656439 Being called lazy when I’m experiencing crippling depression. https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253656822 2022-08-02 20:48:32 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253656822 https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253657102 I’m too dark a native that I face looks and name calling every day.]]> 2022-08-02 20:49:02 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253657102 Still feeling influenced to conform to body and beauty standards when I have birthed 4 children, one by myself. Why am I still judging myself by impossible patriarchal standards? https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253657422 2022-08-02 20:49:49 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253657422 I bought a new car for myself and others that noticed stated I must have a caring husband. https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253657968 2022-08-02 20:51:46 UTC https://padlet.com/fpourkhorshid/1g9pshnoa6z0vedn/wish/2253657968