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Parents are supposed to discipline their kid but it doesn't always have to be spanking? Spanking has many negative and positive effects. A negative affect is that the kid is more aggressive then others but a positive affect is that the kid wont be demanding, have a tantrum when they don't get there way or what they want, or have random tantrums, and go crazy and lash out on people. When a kid gets spanked they tend to stop doing whatever they were originally doing but that doesn't mean that they have learned why they need to stop or what they should be doing instead.

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Disciplining young children is what parents are supposed to do - most moms and dads have no trouble agreeing with that. But should the punishment include spanking?

As many parents can attest, few disciplinary measures stop a child from misbehaving as quickly as a swift smack or two on the bottom.

But in a new study published in Pediatrics , researchers at Tulane University provide the strongest evidence yet that children's short-term response to spanking may make them act out more in the long run. Of the nearly 2,500 youngsters in the study, those who were spanked more frequently at age 3 were much more likely to be aggressive by age 5.

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The study, led by community-health-sciences professor Catherine Taylor, was the first to control for a host of issues affecting the mother, such as depression, alcohol and drug use, spousal abuse and even whether she considered abortion while pregnant with the child. After controlling for all these factors - each of which can contribute to a child's aggression - spanking remained a strong predictor of violent behavior. "The odds of a child being more aggressive at age 5 increased by 50% if he had been spanked more than twice in the month before the study began," says Taylor.

The association remained even after her team accounted for varying levels of natural aggression in children, suggesting, she says, that "it's not just that children who are more aggressive are more likely to be spanked."

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Among mothers surveyed in 20 cities when their children were both 3 and 5 years old, nearly half (45.6%) reported not spanking their 3-year-olds in the previous month, 27.9% reported spanking once or twice that month, and 26.5% reported spanking more than twice. As 5-year-olds, the children who had been spanked were more likely than the nonspanked to be defiant, demand immediate satisfaction of their wants and needs, become frustrated easily, have temper tantrums and lash out physically against other people or animals.

The reason for this may be that spanking sets up a loop of bad behavior. Corporal punishment instills fear rather than understanding. Even if children stop tantrums when spanked, that doesn't mean they get why they shouldn't have been acting up in the first place. What's more, spanking sets a bad example, teaching children that aggressive behavior is a solution to their parents' problems.

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"There is now some nice hard data that can back up clinicians when they share their caution with parents against using corporal punishment," says Dr. Jayne Singer, clinical director of the child and parent program at Children's Hospital Boston, who was not involved with the Tulane study.

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) does not endorse spanking under any circumstance. It's a form of punishment that becomes less effective with repeated use, according to the AAP; it also makes discipline more difficult as the child outgrows it.

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Instead of spanking, the AAP recommends time-outs, which typically involve denying the child any interaction, positive or negative, for a specified period of time. These quiet moments force children to calm down and think about their emotions rather than acting on them reflexively. After all, the goal of punishment is to get children to understand not just that they did something wrong but also what motivated them to do it.

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A multiyear study shows spanking kids makes them more aggressive later on

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Spanking is known to alter children’s brain responses in ways similar to severe maltreatment and increases perception of threats. Spanking can also cause many mental issues. It can also cause an impact on brain development, and leads to lasting consequences. Kids that have been spanked are also more likely to have anxiety and depression disorders. Spanking can also cause the kid to have problems in school. 62 countries have banned corporal punishments.

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Corporal punishment isn't just spanking it is also when a parent hits or causes pain when trying to fix the kids behavior. Many parents don't realize what they are actually doing the that child. Spanking can lead to increased aggression, antisocial behavior, physical injury and mental health problems for children. In the long run spanking is very ineffective. It also cause the kid to later on in life be more negative and have more negative emotions.

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The downside to spanking (there is no upside)

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Find out why spanking doesn’t work and learn what does.

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Other negative discipline approaches to avoid

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Other negative discipline approaches to avoid

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Kids grow up with spanking so later on in life they also tend to spank their kids since that's the only discipline they are use to. Spanking also teaches kids that aggressive behaviors fix things. Some other options beside spanking your kid is using timeouts, take the TV or ipad, show them what they should be doing instead. When they do something good you could give them a small reward or give positive words.

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How Can Parents Discipline Without Spanking? (for Parents)

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Spanking is only a temporary solution. Some other solutions are give choices, take a timeout, ask someone else to help and step in, tell them what you would like to see instead, time outs, consequences, set limits, if it's not that serious and important just ignore it.

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By Kendra Nenia (Child Development and Family Center Teacher)

Before delving into this heavy topic I want to say, parenting is hard. Period. It can be a difficult, exhausting and an unappreciative job! It is normal to feel frustrated, angry, upset and sometimes alone as we work through tough parenting decisions. Know that the teachers here do understand all of those parenting related feelings. That's why I am writing about and presenting this information, to give you alternatives and acknowledge what you do as parents, on a daily basis, isn't always easy.

In this article I will define and clarify what spanking is; address five reasons not to use spanking; I will share alternatives to spanking, and lastly share tips and pointers to help you during those stressful times.

What is spanking? It is a form of corporal punishment. It includes whoopin', slapping, grabbing, popping, smacking... handling your child roughly in any way is a form of corporal punishment. FYI - If you hit your child with any object (belt, brush, fly swatter, wooden spoon) it falls under the U.S. definition of abuse. Corporal punishment is the use of physical force with the intention to cause a child to experience pain, but not injury, for the purpose of correction or the control of the child's behavior. Which leads me to an interesting fact; in the U.S. we are not allowed to perform corporal punishment on any inmate in our correctional system. It is illegal to do so. But, corporal punishment against a child is overlooked time after time. It is socially sanctioned.

So, why should you not spank your child? Here are five points I pulled from a recent seminar I attended at a CAEYC conference presented by Michele Knox Ph.D., Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Toledo, College of Medicine, and Margarita Hernandez, Program Coordinator for Pillars‐Safe From the Start called "I was spanked and I turned out okay."

Spanking has limited control. Two out of the five studies that were presented showed decreased compliance. The studies actually supported the fact that children who were guided by parents and caregivers who used firm verbal directives and discipline had a higher level of compliance. Children who are spanked were found to have a lower moral internalization. That means when parents are away those children are far less likely to make good choices and do what they are supposed to do. Also, most cases of abuse began with socially sanctioned discipline. It's difficult to show our children how to maintain control over their choices when we are using a form of discipline that leads adults to lose complete control.

Children who are spanked are more aggressive. Another result of one of the studies presented at this workshop stated that children who were hit at three years of age were 50% more aggressive at age five. Other findings were as follows:

Delinquent behaviors increased

There were medium amounts of damage that occurred to the parent/child relationship

There was a worsened state of children's mental health

There was an increase in physical abuse towards children

Increase in adult aggression

Increase in adult criminal behavior

Small increased risk of abuse towards their own spouse and/or children

Children who are spanked have lower IQs. Children who were re‐directed by using other forms of guidance or discipline were shown to have an IQ score of five points higher than children who were spanked. Why? Corporal punishment or the constant threat of violence is stressful! When individuals are under that amount of stress has a negative effect on brain development. During the act of spanking a child, zero learning can occur.

What does spanking teach your child? Number one... spanking teaches children that violence is okay. It says that when others aren't doing what you want them to do hitting them is the solution. When you spank you are teaching your child to be anxious and aggressive. Spanking displays to children that they are not worthy to live with the freedom from violence and aggression like adults are. It was only approximately 50 years ago that beating your wife was socially sanctioned and expected. Now, we as women can fully expect that freedom. It was "during the 1960s, the women's liberation movement began drawing attention to violence committed against women, and the battered women's movement began to form." (Source: answers.com)

"I was spanked and I turned out okay." You are probably right but stop and think:

You would have turned out fine even if you weren't spanked (and your childhood would have been a lot less painful).

Not all kids who were spanked turned out bad - but why take a chance? Do your best as a parent to ensure your child will have the best future you can offer.

Back then we didn't know any better... now we do!

If this article is all about not spanking then we as parents need rational alternatives to spanking, as well as ways to deal with what can be frustrating moments during our parenting journey. So here are some tips, ideas and suggestions. Hopefully you can each find something that works and apply to other parenting strategies!

Ten Alternatives To Spanking By Destry Maycock

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Spanking is only a temporary solution to ongoing problems. Spanking usually leaves a child wondering, "what should I do differently so I don't get hit again?". Seldom are spankings followed by instruction on what the child needs to do or stop doing. It generally is nothing more than a release of the parent's frustration directed toward the child. It teaches a child to comply because of fear rather than a sense of what is right or wrong. It teaches children that violence is an acceptable way to solve their problems. Children who are spanked often have a greater risk of low self‐esteem, aggression, lying, cheating, depression and bullying. Spanking sets the example that it is okay to hit when a person is upset or angry.

Below are ten alternatives to spanking that you might find helpful.

Give choices. A choice gives some control back to the child on the parents' terms. Parents who are really good at providing choices have children who are more compliant and good at making decisions!

Take a timeout. Yes, you the parent walk away. It is perfectly okay to say. "I'm too upset to deal with you right now; we will talk about this later."

Get someone else involved. If you feel like your child has got you so angry that you may not be in control, then ask someone else to help you who is not as intimately involved in the situation. This reduces the likelihood that you will strike your child.

Teach them what you expect. Instead of punishing them for misbehaving, teach them what they can do differently. Tell them, "Next time, please hang your coat up in the closet! How can we help you remember to do this?"

Recognize their positive behaviors. So, when they hang up that coat tell them how much you appreciate that! Too often parents only notice their children's misbehaviors and disregard the things they do well.

Timeout. The general rule is one minute for every year of their age. The setting where the timeout takes place isn't as important as the fact you are tying the misbehavior to the consequence. Try to make it a place that is quiet and the child is unable to get your attention or be unintentionally rewarded. If a child is having a tantrum then their time should start when they have calmed down and can keep it under control for the duration of the timeout.

Consequence. Providing a logical consequence is often very effective. Always tie the consequence back to the misbehavior. "I would like to be able to take you to the store but remember the last time how you ran around the store and wouldn't listen to me. Well, I am not up for that. You are staying home with _____. Maybe next time you will be able to listen and you can go with me."

Pick your battles. Pick the top four things that you just can't tolerate and focus on disciplining them just for those four behaviors. This lets your child know what is really important to you and you don't come across as if you are disciplining them for every little infraction.

Set limits. Instead of telling your children what to do try telling them what you are going to do or allow. "I will be happy to take you to your friends when you have finished your chores."

State your request in the positive. Have you ever noticed how we usually make a request or give directives in the negative? The first thing your child hears... what they can't have. Just by changing the structure of how you make request will increase your child's cooperation. Try stating things in the positive by telling them what they can have or what you will allow. They are less likely to argue when you are telling them what they can have or what you will allow.

12 Simple Alternatives to Lashing out at Your Child

Take a deep breath... and another. Then remember you are the adult.

Close your eyes and imagine you are hearing what your child is about to hear.

Press your lips together and count to 10... or 20.

Put your child in a time‐out chair (one minute for each year of their age).

Put yourself in a time‐out chair. Think about why you are angry; is it your child, or is your child simply a convenient target for your anger?

Phone a friend.

If someone can watch the children, go outside and take a walk.

Take a hot bath or splash cold water on your face.

Hug a pillow.

Turn on some music. Maybe even sing along.

Pick up a pencil and write down as many helpful words as you can think of. Save the list.

Call 1-800-4-A-CHILD

Additional and Informative Sites and Resources

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By Kendra Nenia (Child Development and Family Center Teacher) Before delving into this heavy topic I want to say, parenting is hard. Period. It can be a difficult, exhausting and an unappreciative job! It is normal to feel frustrated, angry, upset and sometimes alone as we work through tough parenting decisions.

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There are other ways to punish a kid besides just spanking them. Spanking causes many problems like social problems, emotional problems, development problems, and many other problems. There are many ways that you can handle the situation besides spanking them. You could tell them what they should be doing instead, take away the TV, ipad, or a toy, put them in time out, or just simply talk to them. In the long run spanking does not help at all. Kids don't understand what they did wrong or how to fix it when all you do is spank them. It's not just your kid it is also you. You can take a breath, think about why you're mad and if it's really necessary, take a hot bath, turn on music, or journal.