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Presentation : Social relationships and well being

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Presentation : Social relationships and well being

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Advantages :

Emotional support and help in case of problem + good mood is contageous , management of stress...

Challenges :

Isolation =\= loneliness

Several reasons related to lose of balance in a component of life : career, love, friendship ...

Risk of conflicts

Lack of communication or weak choice of the tool can lead to fights ..

Can impact our well being.

Stress, anxiety, depression ...

==> Improving the communication = Build strong relationships

Respect

clarity in discussion

active listening

openness to feedbacks

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First exercise :

I believe in my shallow relationships, I need to put my ego aside a bit. I often avoid talking to people because if they don't listen to me it makes me feel bad. Sometimes I act like I don't really care to avoid the bad feelings behind it.

Putting my ego aside will allow me to just talk naturally and not weight my phrases before each time I want to talk, and just accept that the others are different and sometimes just need their space. Whatever the reason is, I just need to try give the others excuses.

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Gift of  Time : Calling my good close friend 

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Gift of  Time : Calling my good close friend 

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There is a friend I miss a lot. I don't often call her or meet her even if I really want to.

She doesn't need anything from me, and neither i do, but I enjoy spending time with her.

Tonight I will call her for sure.

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Strenghs :

Empathy

Patience

Flexibility depending on the situation

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Things I love to do :

Cooking

Softball

Creating memes on my close friends

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Need in the world :

Abolish generalities and stereotypes

Making people understand that money is a tool to happiness not happiness

changing the consumptions modes

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Making memes about racism and stereotypes in order to abolish it.

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For me, Happiness is a choice of waking up every morning and decide to be happy instead of being miserable and sad. What makes me happy, is the process of purchasing happiness, living the day as it is and focusing on the small details of that day.

That doesn't mean I must ignore other feelings, but just live each emotion as it is and not forgetting that in the end of the day, it was a happy ending as long as my beloved ones and myself are ok . And ESPECIALLLY : in the end of the journey of life, it was happy life with its problems, heartbreaks, success...

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My goals this year :

DOING MY BEST. I don't want to just succeed, I want to enjoy my last year in college.

Finding the right internship for me that will allow me to find what I really want or what I don't want at all

On the personal aspect, I want to learn active listening and emotional management. I believe it would be beneficial for my career but also to build strong social relationships in the futur.

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After this test, I felt that indeed the results correspond to my character.

I need to work more on my discipline as well as the group-work and try to retake control on my life again.

For my strenghts ( curiosity, love, recognition of beauty and good humour), I should embrace them more and use them more often.

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Independance : since I live in France alone and I do most of my things alone, I learned to become fully independant.

Fairness : either I like the person or not, I try to stay fair and not be subjective and I can be proud that I have never intentionely did wrong to someone.

Hyperactiveness : Its a strength but can be easily assimilated to a shortcomming as it can make others feel overwhelmed.

Forgiveness : Keeping grudge is just like carrying some useless weight. I like to throw it away

Humor : I often try to use humor when talking to people, sometimes I can be misunderstood thought.

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What allowed for the project to work out ?

In 2018, my biggest project was to go to Japan. I wanted to immerse myself in the culture and experience the daily life of summer of Japanese people.

What allowed for the project to be satisfying for you ?

What was your personal contribution to it working out ?

I was very satisfied because I was able to finance this huge trip fully by myself by doing some part-time jobs. I also did the whole organization and procedure by myself .

What skills/strengths did you use ?

I had to be all ears when asking people for advice and tips. I also had to be perseverant and patient to find the right tickets, apply and wait for the visa and organise the logistics of the trip .

What values did the project allow you to connect with ?

After this trip, I gained a lot of openness and tolerance. When there was a cultural shock I had to take a step back and take it objectively instead of being subjective.

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With the kids I babysit, I use this cycle above in order to understand them better and give them distance or attention depending on their needs.

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Description of the black dot on the center of paper : Nobody sees the white part, everyone focused on the dot .... on the negative.

Attraction law : positive attracts positive.

Two things meet often if they are in the same frequency.

If we think about something enough, we end up reach its frequency. (music can help in reaching that frequency).

Methods :

Journaling :

a method that consist of tracking your life:

"Journal 3 times a day (morning, afternoon, evening) for 9 weeks, focusing on specific goals or desires."

Visualization :

Creating a vision board of your goal.

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Labeling : Happens to me several time to label others without giving chance to know them better.

Mind reading : happens with my closest ones to make conclusions without asking them what they meant.

Discounting positive : happens sometimes.

Should Statement : often leads me to be anxious of failing in the task or question myself if I fail..

Rarely Overgeneralizing happens to me as well, but I try to take a step back.

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I believe that positivity is important and indeed being negative all the time my be energy consuming for itself and the others. However, Keeping a good balance between the Yin and the Yang is important.

If we are always positive, 24h/24 7d/7, it might seem unnatural or even annoying to others. Besides, the negativity (with moderation) can be valuable to learn to be realistic, avoid complacency, have cautious decision-making, and have emotional resilience.

It provides a balanced approach when used as a tool for careful planning without fostering a consistently negative behaviour and thoughts

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A Me-time. After this long week, I'd like to take 2hours for my own body and hygiene : make my nails ( by myself) , hydrate my skin, do some facial and hair treatment,...

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" The sunlight is what changes the openness of flowers, the openness of our minds and hearts obey to the warmth of positivity"

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Breathing

THERE IS A WAY OF BREATHING

THAT’S A SHAME AND A SUFFOCATION

AND THERE’S ANOTHER WAY OF EXPIRING,

A LOVE BREATH,

THAT LETS YOU OPEN INFINITELY.

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Meaning :

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Item 1 : 1

Item 2 : 3

Item 3 : 2

Item 4: 1

Item 5 : 1

Item 6 : 3

Item 7 : 3

Item 8 : 1

Item 9: 2

Item 10 : 2

Result : 19

I still h=have room for Improvement but this test allowed me to have a step back and see my shortcommings and strenghs.

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The last time I felt this is actually these days every single hour.

I was on my sofa sad because of my tooth pain and just realized how I was gratefull for being in good health, having no big financial problems to treat my illness, being surrounded by my loved ones that tried to help.. and EVEN being able to eat good things and enjoy them.

This made me want to take care more of myself and enjoy simple things and also focus on things I have and I take for granted.

I have noticed this emotion on people that attracts me the most, that inspire me and its a positivity cycle. When I am positive I attract positive people, and positive people attract me,

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•Think of 3 satisfying moments that you experienced this summer.

Cleaning the fish pond at my gramma's house.

Finishing the preparation of my cousin's wedding.

Traveling all alone around the south of Spain

The three events made me feel good and a great sensation of achievement . I was tired in the end but it was worth it when you see the results of the efforts I have put in.

I was also proud of myself because I thought It would never finish but doing it with my significant ones made it easier.

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This is my honnest opinion about this class :

It allowed me to be aware about some details of my life that I must be grateful for. Compared to few years ago, I started developping a positive mindset, and this classes are quite helpfull to carry on!

THANKS!!

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Our brains are continuously growing since our early childhood.

The brain is no different from muscles in terms of growing. Training our muscles on a daily basis and exercising often helps our musle gain in mass. So is the brain, training it through the interactions with people, giving it challenges and so helps our neurones get more connected and numerous.

To become more intellignet, we have to give our brains more challenges and struggles . (The easy the task we give to our brains, the least our intelligence grows).

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Neuroplasticity is the fact that our brain is adabtable like plastic and changes through our lifes.

If we make our brains take a certain road (through a though, an action , a feeling..) over and over, we strenghten that road. this is how neuroplasticity works. Changing our roads to more positive ones helps our minds grow.

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Guidelines for Developing a Growth Mindset

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Guidelines for Developing a Growth Mindset

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Despite the fact that all the guidelines were correct, here are the ones that resonates with me the most:

Accepting its imperfection : this goes along with continuously learning from the others and accepting challenges that are reasonable and put aside our ego.

Seeking aproval from myself instead of the others : This is what I need to learn right now, sometimes I feel like I need the approval of the others which might lead to frustration. If I reach that point where I am enough with myself , I ll feel way better .

Taking calculated risk : This is important for me, I like to get out of comfort zone. However, as we say in french : never put all your eggs in the same basket.

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The activity I believe I am unskilled in is : SPSS and JASP software classes ( softwares for statistics)

Describe the thoughts and feelings you have when you reflect on this activity and your relationship to it.

I always feel overwhelmed whenever I enter to the class and loses the teacher when he is explaining. I often avoid this class and try to escape from it in one way or another.

What do you believe you lack that makes doing this activity feel daunting?

I just dislike it and failed each time I tried to get it. Many people tried to help me in it but I just see them waste their time on me.

Describe the feelings you have when you think about this activity and your relationship to it using a growth mindset.

I should accept that failing once or several times doesn't mean the end, I should persevere again and again.

What strengths have you already developed in your life that you could draw upon to support you in this activity

To be honest, except for '' fake it until you make it'', I really don't know.

I only try to reduce a task into multiple tiny ones and do one by one until its finished, and maybe for this class I can do the same.

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I have learned from this class that growing is a continuous process that we decide to engage ourselves in. It is also the belief that our skills and abilities can be developed with persevering and training each day, accepting the clallenges that comes with it and put in the efforts that are necessary to achieve it.

Growing our mindset will allow us to adopt a positive attitude toward all the aspects of life (personal, career, social ...)

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Activty : Reaching a goal after understanding where is the problem

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Activty : Reaching a goal after understanding where is the problem

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This activity allowed me to take a stapback on why our homework with my classmates is stagnating.

I understood that in order to reach my goals, I have to understand where I am at at the present, what are the problems in the process and what are the steps that I should take to get rid of the problem.

This activity can be used for every single goal we have and we struggle to reach .

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-       What have you read, watched, or heard recently that makes you feel a sense of hope for the world?

Recently, I saw that there is some hopes to save the climate and that people started considering changing their habits for this matter.

-        Think of someone who is doing something purposeful that you find inspiring. What are they doing and why are you moved?

Halaand , a football player, who is very different from other football players. He is very modest and kind, live a peaceful life surrounded by nature and healthy habits.

-         What is a problem in your local community or larger world you feel moved by that doesn’t seem to be talked about much?

Being mean to each other. Nowadays, youngsters are becoming less kind to each other and can easily bad mouth or even making fun of the others in front of everyone without caring of the persons' feelings

-         If you could teach your friends about one thing that matters to you in the world that they might not know about, what would it be? Why is it important to you?

Generosity is the key to people's heart. The more you give the more you get. It is good to love ourselves and keep the best for ourselves, however, sometimes sharing can make us feel great.

It is important because the world becomes individualistic, and that won't help for reaching peace and ending wars