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Neglectful parents provide basic necessities, but they generally don't engage with kids emotionally.

Uninvolved parenting often stems from life stressors, like health concerns or financial insecurity.

You can get more involved by spending time with your kids, setting clear rules, and getting support.

In some circumstances, giving children the space and flexibility to solve problems on their own can help them develop confidence and a sense of self-worth.

But when parents are incredibly distant and unresponsive, this can leave a child feeling insecure and rejected, according to Ellie Borden, a registered psychotherapist, clinical supervisor, and clinical director at Mind By Design, a private therapy practice.

An uninvolved parent rarely responds to a child's needs or desires, beyond providing basic necessities like clothing, food, and housing. Uninvolved parents also place few expectations or demands on children and rarely interfere with their decisions or become involved in their lives.

This parenting style, which also goes by the name of neglectful parenting, can have long-term negative effects on kids, from poor academic performance to difficulties forming relationships with peers.

Read on to learn more about why some parents use this parenting style and a few changes you can make to become more involved as a parent.

Examples of uninvolved parenting

Of the four main parenting styles, uninvolved parenting provides the least amount of emotional support, advice, and structure to a child, Borden says.

Uninvolved parents may appear indifferent, dismissive, and emotionally detached.

For example:

They may not know their child's daily routine, school activities, or friends.

They rarely interfere with a child's decisions or offer advice.

They generally won't offer much response to a child's feelings or experiences.

They typically don't provide much in the way of rules, structure, or discipline.

For example, an uninvolved parent may respond to a child asking to go to a friend's house after school by saying "Go ahead" - without asking where they'll be, who they'll be with, or when they plan to come home.

Or, they may ignore a child who asks for a toy in a store and continue shopping without responding to or acknowledging the request.

Is uninvolved parenting abuse?

Like any style of parenting, uninvolved parenting exists on a spectrum.

Not all uninvolved parenting would count as abuse or neglect. However, some uninvolved parents may not provide essentials, like food, housing, or medical care - and this would be considered abuse, according to Borden.

Children raised in households with uninvolved parents may also have difficulty establishing good relationships, which can leave them more vulnerable to abuse, according to Borden.

Uninvolved parents may not, for instance, explain to a child what it means to have their boundaries violated. They may also offer little guidance on how kids should interact with adults and other kids, which can increase the risk of them experiencing abuse from other adults or bullying from peers.

"If a parent ignores an indication of abuse by others because of emotional detachment, they may be complicit in the act," Borden says.

What's the impact?

Uninvolved parents place few expectations on kids' behavior, and they aren't very responsive to their emotional needs.

Overall, they may seem disinterested in their children's lives, Borden says.

This can have many harmful effects on kids, including:

Low self-esteem, confidence, and self-worth: Children of uninvolved parents may feel unimportant and unloved due to a lack of parental attention and affection. "This may also affect their confidence in their abilities and decisions, as they get no guidance, not even a pat on the back for a job well done," Borden says.

Increased risk of substance use: Kids who lack guidance from a parent may be more likely to use substances, like alcohol, cigarettes, and marijuana.

Poor academic performance: Uninvolved parents may not set rules around kids completing their homework and, in some cases, even attending school, Borden says. This gives kids little motivation to do well in school. Children of uninvolved parents often also lack the tools and guidance to do well on assignments and exams.

Behavioral problems: Kids who don't receive attention at home may try to get attention from others by acting out in school or picking fights with other kids, Borden says.

Mental health issues: Children of uninvolved parents are more likely to struggle socially, which can lead them to withdraw from peers and lack social connection. Social isolation and loneliness may then increase the risk of developing mental health issues, like depression and anxiety.

Uninvolved parenting can also negatively affect the parent-child relationship, Borden says. Kids may feel neglected and rejected by the lack of communication and emotional connection from their parents.

According to Borden, children of uninvolved parents also may not trust their parents when they become adults, since the parents didn't exert any effort to supervise them growing up.

Where does this type of parenting come from?

Most of the time, uninvolved or neglectful parenting doesn't happen intentionally. Parents often don't realize they're uninvolved or understand how their behavior affects their kids, Borden says.

A parent might become uninvolved for many reasons, including:

Life stressors: Big life changes, like losing a job, separating from a spouse, losing a loved one, or supporting a sick family member can cause a parent to withdraw from their children, Borden says. In these cases, a parent may simply feel overwhelmed by other things happening in their life and unable to give kids the attention they need.

Mental health challenges: Parents who struggle with anxiety and depression may find it hard to show up emotionally for their children. "Some parents may also lack the ability to effectively support and guide their children because they may not have the skills for it. Likewise, lonely parents may be unable to provide the companionship their children require," Borden says.

Socio-economic factors: Low-income households where parents lack access to healthcare and childcare and struggle to put food on the table may not be as involved in their children's lives as they'd like. "A lack of money and increased financial stress can make it hard for the parent to offer their children a stable and nurturing home," Borden says.

Other parenting styles

In addition to uninvolved or neglectful parenting, experts recognize three other styles:

Authoritarian parenting: This style of parenting places high expectations on children and enforces rules with punishment. Authoritative parents offer little flexibility to kids or consider their experiences when establishing rules, and they maintain firm boundaries.

Permissive parenting: This style is considered the exact opposite of authoritarian parenting. Permissive parents are warm and responsive to their children's emotional needs, but they offer little structure and have low expectations for behavior.

Authoritative parenting: This style incorporates the positive parts of both authoritarian and permissive styles by holding children to high standards while working with them to solve problems. Authoritative parents consider and respond to their children's experiences and feelings and explain the reasoning for their rules.

What experts recommend

Experts generally recommend an authoritative approach to parenting. This style emphasizes connection and responsiveness to a child's emotional and physical needs while teaching them the skills they need to form strong social connections and do well in school.

Adjusting your parenting style from uninvolved to authoritative can be hard work that takes time and practice.

To become more involved with your kids and strengthen your relationship, Borden recommends these tips:

1. Seek help from a professional

Parents rarely choose to neglect their children. If major life circumstances, like mental health challenges or grief, have made it harder to stay present as a parent, connecting with a professional counselor or family doctor can help.

An expert can teach new coping skills and offer more guidance with addressing any underlying issues preventing you from being a more involved parent.

2. Start spending more time with your child

This could mean asking them what they're interested in and engaging in activities they enjoy, for example. Spending uninterrupted one-on-one time with your child even just once a week can make a difference, Borden says.

For instance, try talking to them about who their friends are at school and what they like about them. You can also start going through their backpack together after school every day and asking questions about their schoolwork.

3. Set rules and expectations

You can slowly start to become more involved in your child's life by establishing rules and boundaries. For example, you might communicate an expectation that your child finishes their homework before playing video games.

Setting clear guidelines can help teach kids what you expect from them and that their actions have consequences, Borden says.

Insider's takeaway

Uninvolved parenting, one of four main parenting styles, is characterized by a lack of responsiveness to a child's needs. Uninvolved parents show little interest in their children's lives and generally place few rules and expectations on them.

This type of parenting can cause children to withdraw socially, which can increase their risk of developing behavioral problems or mental health issues.

Uninvolved parenting is rarely a conscious choice - typically, it stems from outside factors, like life stressors, mental health challenges, or poverty, Borden says.

You can start to become a more involved parent by spending more one-on-one time with your child and seeking professional help to address any underlying issues preventing you from being more involved.

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Kids with neglectful parents may have trouble forming healthy relationships and doing well at school

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A lack of involvement in your child's life can harm their mental health and self-esteem, but spending more time together can make a huge difference.

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Uninvolved parenting, sometimes referred to as neglectful parenting, is a style characterized by a lack of responsiveness to a child's needs. Uninvolved parents make few to no demands of their children and they are often indifferent, dismissive, or even completely neglectful.

During the 1960s, psychologist Diana Baumrind described three different parenting styles based on her research with preschool-age children: authoritarian, authoritative, and permissive parenting. In later years, researchers added uninvolved parenting.

Characteristics

Baumrind characterized her parenting styles in terms of two key dimensions: parental responsiveness and parental demandingness. Uninvolved parents are low on both of these dimensions.

They do not respond well to the needs of their children and provide little affection, support, or love. They also make very few demands on their children. They rarely set rules and do not offer guidance or expectations for behavior.

Common Patterns of Behavior for Uninvolved Parents

Act emotionally distant from their children

Limit interactions with their children because they're too overwhelmed by their own problems

Provide little or no supervision

Set few or no expectations or demands for behavior

Show little warmth, love, and affection towards their children

Skip school events and parent-teacher conferences

Free-Range vs. Uninvolved Parents

It is important to note that uninvolved parenting is not the same as free-range parenting. Where uninvolved parents have no interest in their children's lives, free-range parents are loving and attentive but give their kids plenty of freedom to experience the natural consequences of their actions.

Busy Parents

It is also important to note that just because a parent is busy with work or other obligations does not mean they are uninvolved. Intent and caring matter. While parents may work a lot of hours, they are not uninvolved if they spend the free time they have with their kids and make sure their children are cared for when they cannot be with them.

Uninvolved parents have little emotional involvement with their kids. While they provide for basic needs like food and shelter, they are, for the most part, uninvolved in their children's lives. The exact degree of involvement may vary considerably.

Some uninvolved parents may be relatively hands-off with their kids, but may still have some basic limits such as curfews. Others may be downright neglectful or even reject their children outright. Kids might be given the bare minimum they need for survival, such as shelter, nourishment, and clothing, yet little or nothing in the way of guidance or affection.

It is important to note that uninvolved parenting is often not intentional. It may arise for a number of different reasons, including things like parental experience and stress.

Parents who exhibit an uninvolved parenting style were often raised by uninvolved and dismissive parents. As adults, they may find themselves repeating the same patterns they were raised with. Other parents who display this style may simply be so caught up in their busy lives that they find it easier to take a hands-off approach to dealing with their children.

In some cases, parents may be so wrapped up in their own problems (i.e., being overworked, coping with depression, struggling with substance abuse) that they actually fail to see how uninvolved they are with their children or are simply unable to provide the emotional support their children need.

Researchers associate parenting styles with a range of child outcomes in areas such as social skills and academic performance. The children of uninvolved parents generally perform poorly in nearly every area of life. These children tend to display deficits in cognition, attachment, emotional skills, and social skills.

Due to the lack of emotional responsiveness and love from their caretakers, children raised by uninvolved parents may have difficulty forming attachments later in life.

The complete lack of boundaries in the home makes it difficult to learn appropriate behaviors and limits in school and other social situations, which is why children with uninvolved parents are more likely to misbehave.

Outcomes Linked to Uninvolved Parenting

Children with uninvolved parents may:

Be anxious or stressed due to the lack of family support

Be motionally withdrawn

Fear becoming dependent on other people

Have an increased risk of substance abuse

Have to learn to provide for themselves

Exhibit more delinquency during adolescence

How to Respond

Uninvolved parenting can leave a lasting mark on kids, which you may continue to feel as an adult if you were raised by uninvolved parents. You may also fear repeating these patterns with your own children. There are things you can do to improve your parenting skills, such as:

Learn more about parenting: Read books, websites, and articles devoted to childrearing to learn more about effective approaches that are beneficial for children.

Take a parenting class: Parent training has been shown to help improve parental involvement. Check with local hospitals, schools, libraries, and community colleges to find parenting courses in your area.

Consider therapy: Talking to a mental health professional can help you contextualize your own experiences and develop new skills that will help you build healthy bonds and boundaries with your kids.

Get involved: Make an active effort to spend more time with your children. Listen to them and learn about their lives. Changing isn't easy and it may be more difficult if you are a busy, working parent. Focus on carving out whatever time you can to devote your undivided attention to your kids.

If you recognize that you have been an uninvolved parent, you may find family therapy helpful. A therapist can help you identify strategies that will help form closer connections, deeper bonds, and better responsiveness within your family unit.

While you can't change the past, there are also things you can do to help heal from being raised by uninvolved parents. Caring for yourself, developing healthy attachments with other people in your life, and speaking to a mental health professional are all steps you can take that can foster the healing process.

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A Word From Verywell

It is clear from looking at the consequences of this type of child-rearing that the uninvolved parenting style is far from ideal. In order to raise confident children who are emotionally healthy and resilient, children need support, warmth, love, appropriate discipline, structure, and guidance from adults that they trust.

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