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I think I relate to this tip the most. In almost every arguments of mine, I always have a tendency to act agressively and talk more in order to assuage myself, to prove myself right or to assert authority without sparing a thought for the opposite person. In situation like these, silence is something that is sorely missed. There's an adage saying that "Silence is golden", which means sometimes it's best not to say anything. Remaining silent should not be interpreted as evasive or cowardice, but rather sagacious and tactful. A pregnant silence is not so much an impedance to your conversation as an impetus since it help both sides to reconsider everthing and sort it all out for themselves first. One may wonder what's the point of a conversation without words and exchanges but sometimes a minute of silence worths more than a thousand words.

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In the context of engaging in difficult conversations, allowing room for silence, even if it feels uncomfortable, can be incredibly valuable. Silence provides a moment for reflection and processing, allowing both sides to gather their thoughts and respond thoughtfully rather than speaking impulsively. It also gives the other person the opportunity to express themselves fully and ensures that their thoughts are heard and respected. Embracing silence in conversations can lead to deeper understanding, effective communication, and a more meaningful exchange of ideas. I think I relate to this tip the most since in almost every arguments of mine, people have a tendency to act agressively and therefore, there is always an urgent need for one to take a step back and get hold of the bigger picture.

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I hope I can apply this tip to myself in the near future since it is something, for me, that is easier said than done. The verb confront is usually used against the backdrop of a difficult or unpleasant situation and as you can see, a hard conversation is such a good example. Many chose not to showing up for the mere sake of their comfort and ran away with the self-assurance that things will get back on their own track in the course of time. But evading, instead of making all the problems go always will only make them take a turn for the worse. So bear in mind that: showing up imperfectly is better than not showing up at all. You are halfway through a problem the moment you decide to face up to it.

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I find the following advice to be quite related to everyday situations. In conversations, it's easy to fall into the trap of only expressing our own ideas and not taking the time to truly understand what the other person is saying. This approach can lead to a meaningless exchange and ultimately, it won't yield any positive results. Additionally, the other person may feel unheard, which could lead to frustration and resentment. Instead, we should take the time to ask questions and try to understand the other person's perspective. This approach can help us broaden our own thinking and learn something new. Furthermore, when we exhibit curiosity and truly listen to the other person, we create a safe space for them to express their ideas and opinions freely. Therefore, it’s important to maintain this mindset during any conversation we have.

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I selected this tip because it highlights the importance of clear communication in avoiding conflicts. It is a fact that people have their own standards and criteria, which can lead to misunderstandings. For instance, something that one person finds amusing may be offensive to another. Therefore, it is crucial that we make an effort to explain key terms clearly to the listener to prevent potential conflicts. By doing so, the person we are communicating with will be able to understand our needs and demands, and therefore, be better equipped to fulfill them. On the other hand, if we use ambiguous language, we will not be able to resolve any issues because we cannot know what the other person wants. This tip is also applicable to the education field. For example, if teachers want their students to do homework, they should specify the amount of homework required and the deadline. This will help students better prepare for upcoming exams.

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HO HUY HOANG (A 7 LIEM)

I agree with this tip

1. Sometimes a cnversation can turn into an argument. This can be very unpleasant for both sides. However a good way to defuse the situation is by using curiosity. Curiosity helps the other person know that you're not trying to argue but to be informed of whatever topic they're talking about. -> They only want to be informed, not dispute

2. Curiosity invites knowledge and help you learn more from another person's perspective. This helps broaden your horizon and also foster a good relationshil between the two people.

3. Curiosity also acts as a sign of respect to the other person. It means that you want to know more about what they're talking about, which means that you show appreciation for their words and their actions. Not only are you benefitting from the knowledge but the other person is also positively mentally impacted

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HO HUY HOANG (A 7 LIEM)

I agree with this because:

1. To "show up" is a metaphor for confronting a certain issue. Sure, to avoid something ensures that you'll stay comfortable and in peace. But for how long? Eventually, you'll have to face your problems. And it's always best to prepare for that eventuality.

2. Showing up is good because it helps you "grow". By facing your fears and uncomfortable matters, you'll mature immensely. This will prove crucial for your development as an individual for the future.

3. If you don't show up, you will forever stay in the "casket of fear", never daring to step out of your boundaries and explore new horizons. This will be detrimental to your coming of age process and will hamper your growth.

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HO HUY HOANG (A 7 LIEM)

1. I agree with this reason because communication is a two-way matter. Both must make an effort to maintain the conversation and remain active in it in order for the flow to keep going.

2. If one party fails to fulfill the requirements of a conversation (fails to participate in it) by being partly absent in it, then it will result in one person being active and the other inactive. -> The talks become unbalanced and one-sided, leading to the conversation reach its end

3. When one person talks while the other person only listens, the former will feel unappreciated and mentally impacted. You'd feel like your words don't matter, and the other person doesn't care about what you have to say. -> Breakdown of a relationship

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1. I think that I really need this tip. I rarely have hard conversation with myself when I feel burnt-out or disoriented. Most of the time I just get lost in my thoughts (just pessimistic thoughts) then become aggressive and hopeless.

2. Having conversation with myself may be the necessary things for me to do to fully understand what I really want, because there's no need to lie to myself. But sadly i don't usually do this.

3. Thanks to this paper gives me such helpful tip. I will apply this tip the next time when I find myself start getting don't know what to do.

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1. I picked this tip for i relate to it deeply as i subconsciously stay silent during heated arguments in order to gather my thoughts and come up with what to say so that i don't hurt the other person.

2. Pausing a conflict may seem like delaying the inevitable but it actually means giving each other a moment to rethink and come up with solutions and/or rephrase how to communicate your thoughts in a peaceful manner.

3. I find this highly useful because it lowers the possibility of unpurposefully hurting your relationship and paves the way for solving problems without being controlled by emotions.

4. I already use this tip without really knowing i do it. I always take some time to think before replying during a misunderstanding for i know what being wounded by people not thinking straight feels like, i try to think of the least aggressive way to interpret my thoughts and ideas on the matter and if i can't, i'd just say i don't know what to say and ask what the other person is thinking about and how they feel about the situation so that we can calm down and take on the problem as adults..

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Hi guys, thank yall for the fervent contribution!!! while I haven't had time to total up the number of responses and the bonuses, further response is still accepted :D so let's make the most of it not just for the bonuses but your personal growth as well!

you know, it's nice to listen to your takes, your perspectives and those from others; a discussion board like this always have that particular je ne sais quoi, i dunno what that is but it's something u gonna look back on and be like uuu wao, i did a stuff back then :D

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1. i find this interesting. because there are lots of things that we ourselves are in denial and wouldn’t allow ourselves to think about it thoroughly just because it’s a hard topic that we don’t want to think about.

2. from what i understand of this tip, there are topics so hard that sometimes it’s not even easy to actually think about it. however, we must try to break this barrier, overcome this fear and actually address this problem ourselves and stop procrastinating.

3. this tip is so useful because we, as humans, tend to procrastinate on tasks that we feel are too hard. it’s the same about hard conversation. our laziness and fear wear us out and keep us from actually addressing and talking about it to ourselves, let alone to others. trying to break this barrier means that we truly make an effort to understand the problem at hand more and would help you to come up with something helpful.

4. me: “i need to improve upon my presentation skills. what can i do”

me: “i’m too lazy tho, let’s do that tomorrow, i don’t even know where i’m lacking at”

someone: “stop procrastinating bro”

me: “fine I’ll do it now”

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1. it’s not hard to find yourself in difficult situations like this. we a lot of the times don’t think in similar patterns with others so there are things people say that we may not understand.

2. i think this tip is telling us to actively try to understand what the other person just said by rephrasing and asking the other person again to confirm that we do understand what they’ve just said.

3. i think this tip is useful because it’s so easy to misunderstand others during conversations, making it a hard conversation even harder. rephrasing and asking the other person again about the point they’ve just made makes us feel like we’ve made some progress towards a positive outcome.

4. me: “so what you’re saying is that this font looks bad on this background”

someone: “ye”

me: “got it”

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1. I choose this advice because I really think that silence is necessary in every conflicts. We could have time to cool down, to think carefully of what to say and find out solutions to the problems.

2. I think that when we are angry, we could say something that would hurt other people. Or maybe we could say something nonsense and embarrassing. And the fact that we allow room for silence may give the other person opportunity to cool down and fully finish their thought.

3. I find this advice useful, because I used to be very angry and literally say anything that I pops up in my mind, regardless of people's feelings. And afterwards they start estrange me or avoid sharing with me. So I think I should have taken this advice earlier so that I wouldn't have lost such good friend.

4. I think that I will try to keep calm and think carefully before say anything, even if there would be uncomfortavle silence.

5. The expected outcomes may be that I could make more friends and get on with my siblings.

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1. i think this tip is fantastic. if we only focus on the differences between us and the person we’re talking to, we’ll have nothing to work up and we’ll just end up being frustrated. thinking about the similarities does the exact opposite.

2. from what i understand, this tip is telling us to find the similarities between us and the person we’re talking to while having a discussion, whether it’s an opinion, the conditions, some random thoughts or spontaneous ideas.

3. i find this very useful because again, if we only focus on differences, we’ll have nothing to build upon, and this will only contribute to creating more frustration between the two. thinking about similarities will make us feel like we’ve made some progress and this will make hard conversation feels a little bit easier to deal with.

4. someone: “this film is so bad”

me: “i don’t think so, but the plot certainly needs some improvement”

someone: “ye i think so too”

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1. A reason why I choose this is just because I often find myself feeling fear of being judged. That's why I tend to avoid having hard conversation.

2. I just don't want to share and express my feelings and thoughts because in my mind those people will not feel for me. They might also look down on me and make fun of my problems, although they know nothing about me.

3. I find this advice useful because I just want to have hard conversation with someone who is patient enough to fully understand my problems - who truly want to understand me and appreciate our relationship.

4. I have the belief that people will treat me the same way I treat them. So I will apply this advice by being curious and ask for more clarification.

5. The expect outcome may be that I want to find someone who could be patient and sympathetic so that I could feel more comfortable to have hard conversations

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1. i find this interesting, cus this is something we always deny doing, yet always find ourselves doing it during discussions. i think we always subconsciously do this (we’re just humans, after all), what we need to try to do is try to organize our thoughts and figure out what are we getting defensive about and what are we hearing from the other.

2. from what i understand, sometimes we bring our own frustrations into discussions and act extremely unreasonable to others just because we’re upset. not only will they not understand us, but it will also make it harder for the two to get any points across in such a tense atmosphere.

3. i find this very useful because as said above, we subconsciously do this a lot. it’s important that we don’t let our negative feelings affect how we feel towards someone else that’s just trying to have a nice respectful discussion with you.

4. me raising my voice cus i’m angry with someone else.

someone: “why are you being mad with me? did i do anything wrong? did i say anything to upset you?”

me: “oh right sorry, nah i‘m just a bit upset about something else”

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1. i chose this because out of all the tips here i relate to this (and number 8) the most. a moment of silence, in my opinion, is always a very necessary thing to have in any discussions, allowing both sides to have time to comprehend each other’s perspectives better.

2. from what i can understand, this tip is telling us to have moments of silence during any discussion in order to organize your thoughts and take in what the other person just said, in order to understand and provide reasonable responses instead of losing your mind and trying to protect your viewpoint at all costs.

3. this tip is so useful because:

try to give your point while the other person is not listening will only anger them more. some silence gives both of you some time to think about what things have been said, what the other person said that we understand/don’t understand/agree/disagree.

silence is always the best way to calm everyone down. (why do i know this? cus i do this too many times. whenever i try to protect my points the other person will only get more hyper and start going insane. if i talk less and only say important stuff, they’ll calm down, significantly, and actually try to listen.

4. someone: “yapping nonstop, going crazy to protect your point, trying to disapprove everything you say”

you: “calm down bro. stop a bit. let’s both try to think more thoroughly and not raise our voices at each other”

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1. i chose this because i think it’s one of the most reasonable things to do in any discussion. everyone really should do this more often in discussion. instead of trying to protect your own viewpoints at any costs, we should all try to open up and listen to what people have to say.

2. from what i understand, this tip is telling us to stay open-minded and ask questions in discussions whenever there’s something we don’t agree with or don’t really understand, instead of getting angry and start rushing to get your point across.

3. i find this tip very useful because first of all, as I’ve said above, it’s a reasonable thing to do. besides, not only will you be able to understand other people’s points more, staying calm and curious will also help others understand you more. such a positive discussion will likely lead to a more positive outcome.

4. someone: “you’ve been acting weird lately, please stop”

you being confused because you don’t know what you did but still try to stay calm: “hmm i’m not sure what you mean by that, maybe explain more about it? i’ll try to improve but you gotta tell me what’s wrong”

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1. I feel related to this advice because i sometimes get defensive for no reason and everyone was like: "Chill bro". I didn't know if it was because of my ego or my fear or my frustration about something else.

2. Getting angry, frustrated, irritated is at someone else especially it's not their fault can result in hurt feelings. To avoid this you need to analyse the source of what you're feeling. Sometimes what you're feeling is only triggered by what the other person is saying not because of their action. What they said might remind you of an unpleasant situation you encountered in the past. Therefore, this causes anger deep inside you and makes you hurl those feelings at directly at the other person.

3. For example, my mom kept yapping to me how hard me sister study in university but she still got to sleep for more than 8hrs. I thought that however she studied she still got to be treated as a normal human being, unlike me. My buried resentment towards the overwhelming lessons was unleased and i had an argument with my mom.

4. Applying this advice helps me analyse my feelings, therefore i can minimise the damage before it was done. I can also keep my composure and avoid causing other people's hurt feelings.

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1. I feel related to this advice because i often find myself in an akward situation where i cannot say or do anything to relieve the tension.

2. Allowing room for silence instead of filling it with unnecessary word is the best solution for these situations. Silence helps people process the other person's action and words. This helps them fully finish their train of thought. Speaking when they're deep in thought will only result in their irritation and make the situation worse.

3. For example, when a youtuber is yapping to me about a crochet pattern that i don't fully understand. Even though she was enthusiastic and talks nonstop about how to form the pattern the right way, i was irriated becasue she didn't let me have the time to process what she said. Therefore, after the lesson, I can't remember what she said and learned nothing. I think she should've let people have sometime to figure it out first.

4. Implementing this stratergy helps you figure out many things on our own without relying on anyone and can avoid unnecessary irritation and frustration.

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1. i feel related to this advice because i usually overthink about how different other people define things.

2. meanings of words are perceived by people differently, so this can cause high disagreements or conflicts between many people. To avoid this, you should rephrase their words and ask them carefully about what they meant. Although this might cause them irritation but it's better be safe than sorry.

3. for example, my parent told me to get them a bottle of water, but they didn't tell me specifically which one, so i ended up graping the wrong one. They were irritated and told me to get the blue one. I was a bit angry because they didn't say clearly which water bottle they really wanted. They could've save some time if they had told me specifically which bottle they wanted.

4. Applying this tip could help me save a lot of time trying to guess what other people wanted, and helps me avoid unnecessary arguments and hard feelings. Even though it might cause other people's slight irritation, i think it's very important that everyone apply this tip.

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1. I feel related to this advice because this is what my parents always tell me about what to say in an argument without resulting in any hard feelings.

2. When you're arguing with somebody, it's perfectly normal to rush to make your point, to point out that the other person is wrong. But doing so could cause hurt feelings. Instead of doing this, try asking about the other person's point of view might make them see that we are a reasonable and level-headed person. After listening to them yapping, you should point out their errors gently and proceed to make your point.

3. I think this tip is useful and applicable to social relationships. For example, when I'm arguing with my parents. They will first try to get their point across, i will try to listen to them, then i prove to them that i'm right. If i'm not then i get to learn new lessons.

4. This tip not only helps you gain more knowledge, see things in various points of view but also stops you from making a fool of yourself.

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1. This resonates with me on a spiritual level since i put it to practice almost everyday and in almost every argument.

2. I believe holding yourself back and remaining silent is the best solution to a conflict situation. This gives yourself and the person you are disagreeing with time to think and reevaluate what to say and do, further reducing the chances of accidentally hurting the other person again.

3. I find this tip extremely useful as i have many times implemented it into my daily life. For instance, there have always been heated arguments between my friends and i whenever we game together, and to calm the situation i always choose to keep quiet or just say something out of pocket so that my friends would stop yelling conflicting.

4. In order to capitalize on the usefulness of just not saying anything, i would expand into using it against more conflict situations i encounter as it is ultimately a practice of self control. Whether it is a friendship, romantic relationship, parent-child relationship or just a random encounter on the street, solving conflict by staying silent and thinking thoroughly is the greatest solution, provided you inform them you will have some silent time in order to process and not just give them the "silent treatment"..

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This is helpful. I usually step away when it comes to situation like this. Although, there are various reasons people don’t want to talk to me, I find this really normal. No one has time for you if you’re not their priority or simply they don’t need you at that time.

So why not step away? Not only does this save your precious time but you can also find yourself the right one to share your thoughts. It works all the time. Try to accept the sad truth that that person is not interested in your story.

However, this is not going to useful to apply to every situations. You should not do this with your family or your close friends since they are important ones in your life. Instead of stepping away, you must have a real conversation with them to solve all your contradictions.

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I can relate to this situation. This is probably a good way to rethink of yourself and others’ points. Silence doesn’t mean that you don’t have a point or can’t debate with others. It’s just a moment to listen to your partner, understand what they are up to, their needs and wants. I really like the phrase “this also gives the other person the opportunity to fully finish their thought”. Some people often interrupt their partner’s speech regardless of the fact that they are finished or not. I think it’s kind of impolite.

We often value speakers who are influential but forget to value listeners. The person who has the ability to fully listen to others is always the best one for deep talking. I have a friend who is so patient that I could talk to him about all of my problems in my life. He always listens to me, gives me advices and heal me. That’s truly a good friend ever.

An example of listeners is psychiatrists. Psychiatrists is the one who can treat your mental illnesses by listening to your problems, giving advice and remedies or medicines. If you had serious mental issues, you would need to go find psychiatrist. But in many cases, someone you love and trust is enough.

In conclusion, sometimes let silence do its job. You don’t have to rush in and tell others how to do, just listen to them.

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This is highly relevant to me. Whenever I felt anxious, I used to lose my ability to think straight. My mind would get tangled with negative thoughts and worst-case scenarios. However, one of my friends taught me a helpful technique. Whenever I found myself in a similar situation, I would sit down and have a conversation with myself. I would try to identify my problems and what I really wanted. I would ask myself questions like, what problems am I facing right now? Can I tackle these problems, or do I have to accept them? I would then grab a pen and paper and write everything down. By organizing my thoughts and feelings, I always felt better. I realized that if I didn't understand myself, nobody else could either. So, it's essential to take care of yourself first.

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1. I choose this bc I find myself related to this advice. I used to afraid to share my thoughts with others, even with whom I’m sure that she won’t do harm to me.

2. I think that dare to have hard convo help you to express your own feelings, make other people understand what you want, and even becoming closer with others

3. I find this advice useful because I used to be afraid to have hard convo with my friends and family. But after a long time suffering from bad feelings and big pressure, I first time opened my heart and share my feelings with a friend, and surprisingly she felt sympathetic for me and didnt judge me. So I think everyone should confront the fear of being judged, attacked bc there’s always sb truly kind and won’t do harm to you.

4. Everytime I think that I will share this thought with sb, I will find sb that I can belief. This will make me feel more comfortable to have hard convo.

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I can relate to this tip because whenever I feel depressed, I have an urge to confide in someone. Even if they seem reluctant to listen, I still want to share my feelings. However, if I sense that the listener is distracted or uninterested, it makes me feel worse and like I'm bothering them. I've learned that talking to people who are unwilling to listen is a waste of my time and can be toxic for me. It drains my energy and can lead me to overthink that I'm a loser and nobody wants to talk to me.

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This tip can be incredibly valuable in our day-to-day conversations. Communication plays a vital role in our lives, and it's crucial to ensure that we understand each other's perspectives to avoid misunderstandings and conflicts. I’m often misunderstood by other people, and I know that it is really frustrating that people don’t get what I mean. So by actively listening and genuinely comprehending what the other person is saying as well as re-asking what they mean, we can prevent potential arguments and make the person we're conversing with feel heard and respected. This way, we can build better relationships and foster a more positive and constructive environment around us.

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Misunderstanding is common among conversations nowadays. By re-asking for your partners’ opinions, you can fully know the primary meaning they want to say. Sometimes, we don’t want to accept the truth that we ourselves is the one who is wrong in that case, we haven’t heard it accurately but then want to argue. I’m a person who is usually misunderstood by others; however, I know they have no intention at all.

The advice is that you should be optimistic at life and keep a cold mind in any cases. Don’t overthink anything!! I think that’s all you have to do.

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I find this tip very helpful as it provides an effective way to deal with problems that arise when working with others. When we are part of a team, providing feedback to our colleagues is essential to improve overall performance. However, sometimes we may feel reluctant to give feedback as we fear it may hurt others' feelings. This tip can help us work more effectively as a team as it encourages us to give feedback constructively. Instead of criticizing, we should try to find common ground and approach the conversation positively, for instance, by saying "I like this idea, but it could be even better if you consider doing this...". Ultimately, people are more receptive to positive feedback than criticism, and this approach can lead to a more productive and constructive teamwork environment.

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this tip is useful to a judgmental person like me. sometimes being too critical makes people uncomfortable, as they may just simply want to share their thoughts and if we keep on interupting them with judgement then there's a high chance our conversations will become fewer in the future. letting people fully finish their sharing and then asking as we are curious about sth can help maintain the conversation in my opinion.

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1. I chose this advice because it is so so relatable. I have this problem so often

2. Sometimes we just get very frustrated and we blame it on someone else, making them suffer. It is unfair because they are not the main reason of our frustration. This advice reminds us to rethink of our emotions, try to understand them carefully, ask ourselves questions like why are we feeling like that and is it right to feel like that, are we becoming too defensive...

3. I find it extremely useful and it might help me with my relationships, as well as conversations. So of course it is useful.

4. One way I might apply this advice in real life: When I have hard conversations, I will try to find the real source of my frustration, and try not to turn defensive

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this tip is the one that I feel related to the most as I talk to my self a lot in my daily life, even more often than to my friends or my family. although sometimes this habit makes me feel like an autist, i am grateful because i have such ability and confidence in confronting with my real thoughts. i believe that everything stems from our thinking, from what we say to how we act. because of that, when being in such awkward situations like hard conversations, we all need to talk to ourselves first in order to know what we want, at which point did this conversation start, and how we view on the other's opinion. Otherwise, it is likely that we will hurt the other's feelings and eventually ruin the relationship. i perceive myself as being hot-tempered and easily to be triggered whenever there is anything offensive happen. in those moments, i try to control myself, not to split out mean words and distract myself with my inner thoughts. i remember when i was a child, whenever my sister did anything that or had any points i feel dissatisfied with, i blamed her and started a fight with her (sounds like child abuse:)). however, when i got older, i realized that being mean was not a good way to solve problems but talking to myself did. i need to lower my ego, remain silence, and think. (of course i can still blame her in my thoughts:)). in short, sometimes, self-reflection is extremely important as it helps me a lot in understanding myself, my opinions, and the other's, too.

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1. I feel related to this tip because absence are often perceived as rudeness and disrespect. Showing and doing your best leaves better impression on everyone than not showing up at all.

2. I already try to apply this tip to my relationships with families and friends

3. Although you have to go a long way or take a lot of time to show up but at least you can have other people's respect and leaves a good impression on other people about your character.

4. I have to travel a long way to school but j try to be present most of the times

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I feel like this tip is very relatable to me because I have turned to being defensive in every argument or hard conversations i had in my life. Not only does this make the argument way worse, but it also worsens the relationship between two people and always makes me feel worse about myself after every situation. Because of that, i especially needed tips like this, albeit difficult to execute them, but I believe i can practice applying it to real life situations. The way to do this is probably taking a step back whenever you feel like your emotions are taking control of you during a conversation and reevaluate your opinions, feelings, fear, ego,… Not only will this helps improve your relationships but it also makes your mental health better by the end of the day.

- Huy

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I can understand and relate to the advice given here as I am currently facing a similar situation. I am a sentimental person and I always try to have deep conversations with my friends and family to address any problems we may have. However, whenever it comes to having a difficult conversation, people tend to avoid the topic and change the subject. This makes me feel anxious at times and I wish that people would confront the problem directly rather than avoiding it. Avoiding hard conversations may seem like a comfortable option, but it is only a temporary solution and not a good way to maintain a healthy relationship. In my opinion, a strong relationship requires understanding and communication and without it, the relationship may eventually fall apart.

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1. I feel pretty much related to the tip since I have always been a vulnerable person and needed somebody to share some of my thoughts with.

2. Whenever you feel let down or experience a bad day or you are being snowed under with all those workloads, having a somebody to listen to you is necessary as it is a way to release your negative energy. So if you are not feeling heard or healed, then they're not worth spending time with, the burden of yours will just be there to continually drain you out.

3. It is useful to me as I can always prevent myself from wasting time on the wrong hard conversation and unnecessary negativity.

4. If I find myself feeling uneasy, I am going to find a close friend and share my feelings with them. If they appear to be ignoring me, then maybe I'll just step away and let them have time for themselves, maybe they are encountering a stressful situation as well. Plus I cam save time for my self

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In my opinion, this advice is really useful and can be applied to a whole lot of social relationships.

Nowadays, most of people don’t have a tendency to listen to others while having a conversation. When it comes to whatever topics they don't have the same ideas, they try to argue and judge others instead of calmly listening and understanding.

This advice can actually be applied to friendships, partnerships or any other relationships as discussions exist in everyday life and understanding others leads to happiness. From the time being, individuals must remember to stay calm at any discussion, fully understand what your partner means by saying that, don’t be aggressive too soon. Due to practising meditation daily, you can feel some changes in yourself.

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This advice is really useful and relevant to me. I've only started to have conversations with myself for a while now but I feel that I've learnt a lot about myself e.g. what I think, what I want, how should I react to things, etc. I find that when I understand myself better, I want to understand people better. Therefore, I now prefer to have discussions or conversations rather than arguments if the other person and I disagree about something.

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HO HUY HOANG ( A 7 LI EM)

Sometimes you should cease the yapping in order to invite silence into the room.

The immense density of yapping causes one's train of thought to abruptly come to a halt in the middle of the conversation.

One cannot fully express their intentions and interpretations if their what they are trying to convey is pre-maturely conceived.

Thus, as to the conclusion of this advice, despite how uncomfortable silence may make one feel, it is advisable that the yapping shall cease so as to fully commence the building of one's complete thoughts.

example:

HO HUY HOANG: *yaps but then suddenly stop because he ran out of idea

MONSIEUR: pls shut up

HO HUY HOANG: *shuts up and becomes smarter because he talks less*

also HO HUY HOANG: *talks in a more intelligent manner because his thoughts are now mature*

MONSIEUR: 👍

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I love this advice tbh. Like I usually have conflicts every now and then wwith my peers (mostly from my club) since we each have different ideas, opinions, approaches, vice versa but we don't know hot to express that and how to comment on the others'. We cannot solve things evenly and come to an agreement but still have thoughts and not really comfortable with each other after.

Well, definitely I want to tackle this problem as I want to keep my friends close and I also want my club to come up with the best events we can plan, so I tried to find a tip in communicating, such as this one, and I find it most useful. Instead of roasting each other's opinions (sad right:(((((), they find me more respectful towards their ideas even if I argue with their claims, because they think that I'm trying to help improving the plan, not to judge it😋.

Overall, luv it. Definitely recommend everyone to apply.

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Showing up is absolutely necessary in these situations

Even if you can't talk things out, you still show the other person that you actually care.

Maybe show up and listen to what the other person has to say, then make sure you understand it before replying. Even if it's late, it's always better to understand how the other person perceived the situation.

Showing up the first time, will give you courage to show up the second time, and more. Having been in the conversation for a few times, the problem is going to seem smaller because you've slowly been there to disentangle smaller things and understand why the other person feels the way they do. By doing that, you can evaluate the situation more rationally and maybe forgive the other person.

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1. i chose this tip cus i make this mistake a lot too. sometimes my expectations and criteria and people’s are very different from each other so we gotta make it clear to each other.

2. for example:

your mom: u got such a low score.

you: (holding a 9 in your hands) wdym low?????

and you 2 start arguing

3. very useful, cus again everyone’s expectations and criteria are so different from each other, sometimes it’s hard to figure out what people mean by ‘bad’ or ‘not enough’. (even worse when you are trying everything you can to improve but they just dont care because of their ridiculous criteria that they won’t open their mouth to speak about)

4. teacher: your presentation is not good enough

me having prepared for it for days: ok??????

insert us having a more detailed conversations about what’s good and what’s bad about my presentation

me: ok i get it now, thanks for the advice

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I relate to this tip the most because I can totally see myself in a similar situation. Sometimes I'm just too desperate to be heard that even if the listener was clearly ignoring me I'd keep talking anyways, which makes me feel like I'm a loser and disturbing them at the same time.

This tip is quite practical and is definitely helpful for someone like me, and I will start applying it in the future, by stepping away from people who simply don't have the time to listen to me and find ways to connect with the ones who really do, as well as reconnect with myself.

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I understand that it can be tough to face a heated conversation, especially between friends or classmates. Here's how the "replace judgment with curiosity" tip can help in those situations:

Imagine you're talking to a friend who says, "School is pointless." Easy to get defensive and argue back, right? But with curiosity, you can turn this into an actual conversation.

Hold off on judging their statement. Instead, ask a question to understand their perspective. Maybe say, "That's an interesting point. What classes are you finding pointless?"

By asking "why" you get a chance to see things from their angle. Maybe they're struggling in a particular subject, or bored because the material isn't challenging.

Here's the key: you're not attacking their opinion, you're trying to understand it. This makes them more likely to listen to you when you share your thoughts on why school matters.

So, curiosity turns a fight into a conversation because:

-You're listening, not just waiting to talk.

-You're showing respect for their feelings.

-You're opening the door for a two-way exchange of ideas.

This doesn't mean you have to agree with everything they say. But approaching things with curiosity can lead to a more civil discussion where you can both learn something.

Le Duc Kien

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I feel related to this tip because:

1. I often avoid having a hard conversation with myself. I prefer to have a hard conversation with someone else rather have it with myself. I avoid it so much that i often break down and realise that I need to have a hard conversation with myself.

2. i think this tip is very useful and i'll try to apply it more

3. I think this tip is trying to remind us that we need to not only look after ourselves physically but also emotionally. This tip can really help me find balance and make peace with myself.

4. When someone discuss with me about a sensitive topic, i usually try to smile and make fun of my weakness or avoid having to answer their question all together.

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The reason why i relate to this advice is so true and real because i think that this mindset is frfr really helpful in any arguments and any conversations in general. In a conversation, it is important to try and understand the other person's point of view instead of only trying to judge them and make them agree with you. This way, it will be easier to communicate with eachother and lead the conversation in a more constructive direction. I strive to maintain this mindset in every conversations i have with people who i study or work with (even though i always end up only trying to convince them 😭😭💢💢). I believe that, together, we can all are a hard conversation.

TQLong

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The reason why I chose to write about this tip is because I found myself arguing with my parents from time to time. When arguing I realise how I keep on seeking for loopholes in their statements and use those as an excuse to disacknowledge their advice despite them having good intention. I interpret the tip as instead of nick-picking on the people we're talking to and dishing out judgements, we should remain curious and try to understand their perspective better before letting our desire to prove ourselves right overshadow their opinion thus (intentionally or not) belittling them. An example of this is when my mom suggest I seek help from other people to do my group project, I was infuriated and shout at her, telling her this and that and in retrospect, I shouldn't've been so aggresive towards her, I still disagree with her but it could've been resolved more peacefully.

Lightningpheonix

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I strongly resonate with this tip because it can be very helpful in everyday arguments. During conflicts, people often say hurtful things to each other, which only adds to the distress. Such conversations usually don't lead to a solution and can make the problem worse. Instead, it's important to allow for moments of silence. After taking time to think, people may be able to address the problem more clearly.

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Tip noted

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Vo lu minh hai

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Mai Pháp Thiếu Nữ cute 🥰🥰😘😘😍😍

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1. i chose this cus normally i can barely construct rational and ‘perfect’ thoughts anyways. i yap a lot and so i’d appreciate the idea of showing up imperfectly and starting yapping cus well, it’s better than not showing up at all.

2. even if u cant think of some rational or smart thoughts just show up and try to talk things out.

3. very useful, cus i tend to yap so if an argument requires me to construct meaningful and strong arguments and come up with smart rebuttals, i aint showing up.

4. for example:

mom: we need to talk about your behavior lately

you: i got nothing to say tho

mom: yeh sure but we’ll try to figure things out while on the topic.

you:…

you: ok

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be a potato

in heated convos

soften up

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1. Tip number 5 is so relatable because this paper is making me defensive myself.

2. This advice is probably trying to tell us to be doubtful and suspicious of our emotions as if we're literally amogus imposter. "I don't think, therefore I don't am" (setracseD eneR). That is the reason why we should always doubt ourselves and it will contribute in our pursuit of the truth about ourselves.

3. This tip is useful if you want to improve upon your perception of yourself and your relationships. So in general, quite useful. If you don't care about having emotional connections with people, pass on this.

4. Whenever someone close to me talks about a sensitive (to me) topic, I will tell them to wait for me as I run away and contemplate the questions in the tip... Yeah that should work.

P.S. sorry for the wall also skibidi bidi dop dop ya ya skibidi bidi dop dop yaaaaa

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yah sure

applies to arguments and hard conversations fr fr

doesnt apply to school

yo skip tiet 1 yo skip the whole morning

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Truly relatable I LOVE MYSELF. I'm willing to do anything if i could, as long as i want to do that

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HO HUY HOANG (a 7 liem)

You should do this because misunderstandings cause disagreements and conflicts between the parties involved in a conversation. When one individual makes a statement regarding a peculiar topic, the recipient side of the exchange may misinterpret it as that of another understanding. When something is misunderstood, it may lead to fallouts and conflicts. This is perhaps best avoided by the usage of tip 7, in which the recipient attempts to rephrase what the other party stated, the other party can either confirm or deny what the recipient understood from their words. The avoidance of misconception is key to a healthy exchange of comments between two sides in a conversation.

example:

Hanh Nguyen: "I ate cats."

Vee: "Did you just say you ate cats??"

Hanh Nguyen: "No. I said I hate cats."

Vee: "Oh, that's your opinion and I respect that."

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whenever i feel bad talking to my friends or family, i always share this video with them and we watch it together. it really helps us take time and understand each other, and accept the difference between us. the person himself in the video is truly an artist, being able to provoke empathy between people. i highly recommend this video for those who are facing troubles breaking the ice and start a conversation with someone. cheers and wish u good luck :)

from: n.d.nhan

https://youtu.be/NhHb9usKy6Q?si=5AXHJxDf0drH0ckx

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1 I choose 9 bcz its easy

2 Its very clear on how you assess yo feelings and attitude just by asking yourself

3 I find it useful cuz im braindead

4 Id use it when im getting defensive for example against my mom

5 Id be a better arguer and debater

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I feel related to this tip the most since conversations are often resulted in miscommunication. By rephrasing what the person said to make sure you fully understood, you can minimise the risk of confusion and future arguments. I think this tip is very useful and can be applied in our social relationships. For instance, you can use this tip to clear the confusion and make certain that your message or your opinion be delivered correctly. Moreover, this tip can also help you avoid having big arguments which are caused by miscommunication and avoid having your relationships worsened. I think this tip is very useful and easily applicable to our lives.

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Truly relatable. Based on my experience, there are some things that cant be talked out but rather, silence is the key. If we were to talk continuously, it would only make conflicts more severe. Instead, try to take time to understand your partner's viewpoint. I kinda used the tip in my relationship subconsciously some time ago when me and my pardner once had a big argument. When the matter got out of hand, I said to them that "im tired". "Lets just give ourselves a moment before it gets worse". And we did, and it did work actually. Eventually, we talked it out and managed to solve the problem. End log.

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I feel related to this advice the most bcs this is literally what im doing now. I really want to listen to everyone, and vice versa. I won't try to say anything that sounds like im teaching them i just sit and hear their thoughts. I know i dont have the right to judge anyone's pain

P/s: i love aventurine

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1. i chose this advice because it’s very practical, since i already apply it into real life with my family and friends.

2. if people aint listening to you, stop trying to argue with them.

3. very useful, i can tell because i’m already using it in my real life. silence (and sometimes, sadly, ignorance) can calm people anger’s down surprisingly well by taking them by surprise (since you know, usually when people try to argue with you they’ll expect you to yell at them back)

4. i myself see no point in trying to talk to wasting my energy when someone is talkative and yapping stuff. in times like that i just walk away and not say anything and give them some time to calm down

5. same as above

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Remember: sometimes the hard conversation needs to start with yourself. How am i feeling? What are my opinions on the matter at hand? How am i biased? What are my blindspots? How do i want to be a better person? To others? To myself?

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TIP WHEN THE HARD PART IS FROM YOURSELF:

soften up

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Nah, i'd win