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The best friendships are truly unfiltered - you feel comfortable telling your best friend things you would never dream of confiding in anyone else. Ever wonder why that is? Science can explain it!

1. Because she offers support, even if she can't help.

Studies show that people value acceptance and emotional expressiveness over utility in friendship. So even if your best friend can't solve your problem, it's helpful to have someone listen to you vent.

2. Because you share the same "social-identity."

A study of college students showed that while intimacy builds friendships, the surest indicator of a best friend is sharing the same "social-identity", which can be religion, sports teams, roles like motherhood, or membership in the same club.

3. Because we go the extra mile for them.

Psychologists call this the Ben Franklin Effect: "He that has once done you a kindness will be more ready to do you another than he whom you yourself have obliged." Which is to say, we tend to like someone more after we do something nice for them.

4. Because your friend is comfortable saying anything to you.

Sociologists have found that the key to jumping from being acquaintances to being friends is reciprocal sharing. So as one person reveals deeper information about herself to an acquaintance, the acquaintance reciprocates, and soon they're sharing everything.

5. Because your friend stays positive.

Disclosure is necessary for intimacy, but the personal revelations can't be one long string of downers. We're more likely to work to maintain a friendship if it doesn't feel draining, so by remembering to look on the bright side and not being a drag, best friends increase their intimacy.

6. Because you hang out with your best friend.

This one may seem obvious, but in the age of virtual interactions it bears repeating: studies show we feel closest to people with whom we spend actual face-to-face time.

7. Because your best friend makes everything seem easier.

One study showed that people reported hills seemed less steep when in the presence of a close friend. Another found lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol present if a negative situation was experienced with a friend. When you've got your best friend with you, everything feels manageable, so why wouldn't you confide in them?

8. Because your best friend doesn't hold a grudge.

A lot of friendship is about expectations. While it's important to work to meet those expectations, friendships can't last unless you cut each other some slack when one person falls short of those expectations. Since you know your best friend won't judge you forever, you're more willing to share a secret with them.

9. Because you're their best friend, too.

Friendship is built not just on reciprocity of intimacy but also reciprocity of value. In other words, we tend to like people who like us back. Studies have found that we tend to give higher ranks to the people who rank us highly when considering friends.

10. Because nonverbal clues tell you your best friend is trustworthy.

Studies show that humans are remarkably good at picking up on nonverbal indications of trustworthiness. By the time someone has become your best friend, you know you can trust her with even your deepest secrets.

11. Because friendship is good for you!

Numerous studies have shown that social support is incredibly important to health late in life and even lowers mortality rates. So go ahead and tell your best friend anything - it may help you live longer!

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11 Reasons You Feel Comfortable Saying Anything to Your Best Friend

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The best friendships are truly unfiltered - you feel comfortable telling your best friend things you would never dream of confiding in anyone else. Ever wonder why that is? Science can explain it! 1. Because she offers support, even if she can't help. Studies show that people value acceptance and emotional expressiveness over utility in friendship.

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Where a suitable place that we can confide with the parents

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Some people confide in their friends rather than theirfamily members. Do you? -In what ways might a friend be more helpful than a familymember? I agree that people prefer to confide in their friendsrather than family, in fact I do too.

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why we trust friend than our own family?

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Teachers Play the Role of Second Parents

The Best Teacher sees her students as a continuum of oneself; she is someone who has personified this for me. There are times when I think my mannerism match her personality more than my own mother, treat her students like her own children and watches out for them, making sure they always do their best.

Teachers are like second parents. For thirteen years, they shape our minds and help us to recognize our talents and goals. To some teachers, it is nothing but a job that pays the bills. But to others, it is their life. Between junior high and high school I have had thirty-six different teachers. Some people believe that the teachers' primary role is to teach children to behave and to judge what is right and wrong. But on the other hand, teachers play the role of second parents to the pupils. It is they who correct the pupils if something went wrong like what they do on their own children. The teachers also play significant role in shaping the life of the pupils under their care.

Talking to a pupil can help a teacher understand a pupil's life situation better. Some of them are from a broken family, while others don't have parents and live with immediate relatives. Sometimes they are experiencing problems and difficulties in school and the teacher as a second parent will decide to have a home visit to somehow solve the problem. Home visitation also helps teachers to understand why pupils behave in different ways. There are circumstances that some pupils are voluntarily sharing their problem at home to their teacher. Teacher as a second parent will support their pupils by giving proper guidance. Once a pupil feels that the teacher appreciates what they do, they will trust their teacher more. Pupils spend quality time in school than in home. We need to make pupils to feel that they are safe enough and never let fear be your image but love. In return, pupils should give respect to their teachers through disciplined behavior and putting in good efforts in their studies; pupils can attain success in their life and also make their parents and teachers proud of their success.

Children are like wet cement, they are imprinted with all that is taught to them. Relationship between a teacher and a student should more be personal than professional. A teacher motivates the students towards a better growth. A teacher should teach in such a way the students get pleasure from studies. Students should never try to insult the teacher. Rather, they must be respectful towards them. Attitude of the teacher towards the students sets the foundation for this. Students should complete a given work in time and respond positively. This is one of the ways in which to show appreciation to your teacher and give him/her the confidence in his/her skills.

A teacher alone can't lead to a student to success. "Practice makes perfect" is an adage that will always hold true.When the student-teacher relationship is good, students grow up to be sincere human beings.

Communication is an essential component in fostering a good relationship between students and teachers. Talking to a student can help a teacher understand a student better. A teacher should come across a student as a friend, guide and mentor, empathize with the student by being one like them. Once a student feels that the teacher appreciates what it feels like to a student, the students feel they are on the same wavelength as their teacher. Consequently, they will trust their teacher more. We criticize a student's action but students are so used to criticism that they develop a defense mechanism. We need to make them feel safe enough to relax their defences and and turn even the most difficult student to into a positive member of the class. Tips for teachers: Praise students before scolding. Never let fear be your image but love. Give them a sense of belonging and not empty threats. Avoid comparisons as it is deeply resented. One must never label a child but try and understand their needs. Keep doing all this and one would soon find students as a teacher's best friends confiding everything in the teacher.

The real reason OF A TEACHER WHO holds significance
1. The teacher is always there for you.
Be it that maths problem you have difficulty solving or a life problem you can't figure out; your teacher is always there for you.

2. (S)he is your guiding light.

The teacher always shows you the right way.
3. Sometimes, your teacher knows more of your secrets than your mother - and still keeps them.
Be it the subtle flirting in class or that bad habit you indulged in once and were caught, your teacher knows it all. However, he/she gently guides you to the right path and sometimes holds your secrets close to the heart.
4. Teachers are sometimes harsh, but only because they love you.
Just like your mother, your teacher too is sometimes harsh with you. However this is only because (s)he wants you to grow and be a good individual.
5. A teacher is truly selfless.
It's tough being a teacher.
6. Teachers are inspirational.
Teachers truly inspire you and push you to follow your dreams. A teacher stands by you every step of the way and shows you the correct path and helps boost your confidence.
7. Teachers never blow their own trumpets, they do things quietly but surely.
A teacher is proud, very proud but not of himself or herself but of students. (S)he will never boast but will be supportive and helpful.
8. Only a teacher can push you to explore your full potential.
A teacher sometimes knows you and your strengths better than you yourself.
9. A teacher is a lot more than just someone who teaches.
(S)he is a guide, a friend, an enemy and a parent.
10. A teacher is the only one who will celebrate if you rise beyond him/her.
Ever wondered what your teachers feel when you become rich and famous but they are still there at the same salary? They feel proud. because silently, they made you, you!
11. A teacher is not afraid of telling you the truth.
All those times you hated your teacher for being harsh? Well, you were only being moulded into a better individual.
12. A teacher might not remember your name after 10 years but will remember every little quirk of yours.
What lies in a name? But a lot does lie in your personality and a teacher will never forget that.
13. A teacher always puts him/herself second.
You are the first priority. Always.
14. A teacher knows you for all your goodness and vices.
And still loves you.

THE ROLE:

Many believe that the teachers' primary role is to teach children to behave and to judge what is right and wrong. But on the other hand, teachers play the role of second parents to the pupils. It is they who correct the pupils if something went wrong like what they do on their own children. The teachers also play significant role in shaping the life of the pupils under their care.Talking to a pupil can help a teacher understand a pupil's life situation better. Some of them are from a broken family, while others don't have parents and live with immediate relatives. Sometimes they are experiencing problems and difficulties in school and the teacher as a second parent will decide to have a home visit to somehow solve the problem. Home visitation also helps teachers to understand why pupils behave in different ways. There are circumstances that some pupils are voluntarily sharing their problem at home to their teacher. Teacher as a second parent will support their pupils by giving proper guidance. Once a pupil feels that the teacher appreciates what they do, they will trust their teacher more. Pupils spend quality time in school than in home. We need to make pupils to feel that they are safe enough and never let fear be your image but love. In return, pupils should give respect to their teachers through disciplined behavior and putting in good efforts in their studies; pupils can attain success in their life and also make their parents and teachers proud of their success.

Learning can be hard because it puts new ideas in your brain. And since your brain is still developing, it needs these new ideas to be stronger. That, my loves, is why you're in school. We also have to understand why a teacher chooses to be strict or lenient. But in the end, difficult teacher or not, it will always depend on you. Would you rather know nothing, or know much more?"

"Teachers are there to be instruments for your learning, too. And the best teachers look past what is written in textbooks. They go as far as thinking about how your learning today can affect your future. They also see how you deal with pressure, express yourself verbally, evaluate situations, approach problems, accept mistakes and find solutions.

"If you look at it, these are things you have to learn in real life. Plus the fact that in your case, can you imagine them being in a roomful of teenagers to teach?"

My lovable Teachers, I salute you. Your service to our children is as valuable as life itself. Besides us parents, you are role models for our children.I hope that we can also remind our sons and daughters to thank you, because no matter what behavior you have shown them, be it kindness, thoughtfulness, understanding, and even strictness, you have in one way or another have given them a taste of the kind of people they will meet in their lifetime.

As responsible adults, we will not forget that we are also on our own journeys. In our world full of distractions, which the vulnerable minds of our youth are exposed to, let us see it fit to approach them in a manner that will welcome and inspire, rather than alienate them from the priceless gift of education.

From my own experience, I understand that balancing our personal and professional lives does test us. But it is our test, not theirs. And as we empower the youth to become true and honorable leaders in the future, we, too, enable ourselves to become more than just the ordinary people these children encounter in their lives-just like Ma'am.....

A teacher: Our role-models, second parents and for the rest of our lives, an undying guide. When we commit a mistake, a good teacher will not hesitate to point them out to us. Also, they help us to walk on the right path and endow us with life skills. A teacher besides involved with main objective of teaching also molds the heart and mind of students. a teacher is a person who helps others to learn and prepare children for their life.

AWAITING FOR YOUR REFLECTIONS!!!!!

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A teacher: Our role-models, second parents and for the rest of our lives, an undying guide!!!.

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Teachers Play the Role of Second Parents The Best Teacher sees her students as a continuum of oneself; she is someone who has personified this for me.

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who can we confide in other than family members ? do you think  you can confide in with your teacher ?

act as a parent in school
- cares for us
- has responsibilities and duties
- can be trusted to keep secrets

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what confiding ways can teacher gave their students ? do any of your teachers show their concern and care for you ?

provides professional advice
- based on extensive dealing with many students
- based on extensive reading

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where can we confide in with our teacher ? did school was the safest place to shared with ?

can be trusted to keep secrets
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gives neutral advice from a professional perspective
- neutral stance: can see both sides of an issue, very valuable
- spends time to listen

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Think back to a recent incident that made you feel intensely angry or sad. You probably told some (or many) people about what happened and shared your feelings with them. We share our feelings in this way because doing so is supposed to reduce their intensity and make them easier to manage.

But does it really help?

A new study in the journal Emotion, entitled "To Share or Not to Share," examined this very question. Karen Brans and a group of researchers at the University of Louvain in Belgium followed participants for a full week after a real-life incident left them feeling either intensely angry or sad. Each evening, participants completed self-reports indicating how often they shared their feelings about the incident with others, and then completed questionnaires and rating scales that illuminated the immediate impact of doing so (whether they felt better after sharing) as well as the delayed impact (whether they felt better about the situation a day or more after sharing).

The researchers found that sharing angry feelings led to both immediate and delayed beneficial effects-but that sharing sadness led to positive effects that were limited and that emerged only later on. Specifically, people who shared feelings of anger felt an immediate reduction in the intensity of those feelings. They also felt more able to manage the incident and more empowered days later. Sharing feelings of sadness did not bring about an immediate significant reduction in emotional intensity but did make people feel less "stuck" later on (i.e., they were less likely to feel that "nothing could be done" about the situation).

This study was the first to look at how sharing behaviors impact people over time, and as such its findings were interesting. However, I believe the study has a critical omission that renders the findings less useful than they could have been. Specifically, the researchers measured the quantity of sharing behaviors but not the quality -they asked participants how often they shared their feelings but not about the nature of the responses they received.

Neglecting to gather such information is a critical problem because the payoff we get for sharing our feelings with others hinges almost entirely on the quality of the response we get. If the other person listens well, shows empathy, and validates our feelings, we are likely to feel much better, both in the immediate aftermath and later on. But if another person just sits there while we spill our guts and their only response is to mumble "Bummer," we are unlikely to feel much better.

Without measuring how satisfactory sharing experiences felt to the participants or how comprehensive the emotional validation they received was, the researchers could not make the vital distinction between the impact of sharing our feelings with emotionally validating good listeners, sharing them with bad listeners, or not sharing our feelings at all.

Empathy and emotional validation are vitally important relationship skills that lead to stronger, longer lasting, and more satisfying friendships and relationships as a whole. (See The Three Relationship Skills You Have to Practice).

Further complicating matters, in some situations, sharing anger and sadness can backfire and make you feel even angrier and sadder, without the anticipated relief one expects when venting their feelings.
5 Tips for Getting the Most out of Sharing Your Feelings
When considering whether to share your feelings with a specific person consider the following:

1. Is the person a good listener? Give thought to whether the person has listened well in the past, whether they maintain eye contact when you speak in person, whether they make "supportive sounds" when you speak in person or on the phone (oh, wow, gosh, tsk, sigh, etc.), and whether they avoid checking their phone when you're at the most dramatic part of a story.

2. Is the person supportive? Or are they the type that says things like, "Just to play devil's advocate for a moment," and then take the other side? Ideally you should choose someone who will see things from your point of view, at least when you're sad and looking for empathy.

3. Can the person offer empathy and emotional validation? Does the person tend to "get" how you feel? It's important that someone you open up to not only sees things from your perspective, but is capable of expressing these perceptions as well. When someone can convey back to us an accurate understanding of how and why we feel the way we do, it has a powerful positive impact on our state of mind.

4. Is the person likely to make the talk about them? Some people are quick to offer support, but even quicker to follow it up with, "I know exactly how you feel-the same thing happened to me!" and then go off talking about themselves. Make sure to choose someone who's willing to stay focused on your experience while you're in pain.

5. Is the person loyal? When we're hurting, the desire to share can override our decision- making about whether the person is likely to keep our confidences and respect our privacy. Don't forget to give thought to whether this person is likely to be as discreet and loyal as you expect and need them to be.

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By Dr. Shawn Sidhu

Those of us who work with children can sometimes forget how important sibling relationships are to the healthy development of children and teenagers. We tend to focus more on parent relationships, which while incredibly important, are only a party of the family system. Yet 82 percent of children live with a sibling, and relationships with our siblings may be the longest of our lives.

Siblings are important for many reasons. First, given their closeness in age, kids may be more likely to tell their siblings things that they might not tell their parents. This might include typical topics such as friendships, relationships and school - but it may also include more worrisome topics, such as abuse, drug use, pregnancy, self-harming behavior or suicidal thoughts.

Second, given that children and teenagers are more likely to confide in their siblings, they may also turn more readily to their siblings as a source of support. This piece is critical, because we know that one of the biggest risk factors for developing youth is suffering in isolation. The ability for young people to express their feelings to anyone - sibling, parent, or friend - can be highly therapeutic and can prevent a worsening of depressed mood or anxiety. Finally, siblings can serve as a sounding board for one another before trying things out in social settings. There is evidence to suggest that healthy sibling relationships promote empathy, prosocial behavior and academic achievement.

While healthy sibling relationships can be an incredible source of support, unhealthy and toxic sibling relationships may be equally devastating and destabilizing. Siblings sometimes say things to one another that parents would never say to their child (termed "sibling bullying"), and thus siblings can be even more emotionally abusive to one another than adults typically are to children.

Another source of stress can be when adults compare one sibling to another. This has the dual effect of shattering the self-esteem of the sibling who feels judged, while driving a wedge between the siblings and pushing them further apart. Also, when one sibling is suffering medically or emotionally, it can be a considerable stressor for the entire household including other siblings.

A sibling who is engaging in unhealthy behavior could model this behavior to other, typically younger, siblings who follow suit. For example, teenager girls are more likely to engage in sexual activity at an earlier age or get pregnant in high school if they've had an older sibling who has done the same. Toxic sibling relationships have been linked to increased substance use, depression, self-harming behavior and psychotic experiences such as hallucinations and delusions in adolescence.

To get the most out of sibling relationships, parents and child professionals can do the following:

1. Both parents and child professionals should ask about how sibling relationships are going, ways that they are healthy and also ways that they could be improved.

2. Celebrate sibling differences and avoid comparing siblings. This will promote self-esteem and prevent wedges from being formed between siblings.

3. Encourage siblings to work together and support one another.

4. Have both siblings earn rewards for cooperating with one another, but have neither of them receive this reward when they are not cooperating with one another. This will create an external incentive for them to work with one another until they are old enough that it becomes second nature.

5. When one child is suffering from a medical, developmental or emotional problem, try to ensure that other siblings also receive enough attention even thought his may be difficult. It is very common for children to develop their own emotional difficulties when their siblings are struggling.

6. In cases of sibling conflict where parents feel stuck, encourage families to seek out family counseling or family therapy in which a professional can help siblings to get on the same page with one another.

The power of sibling relationships can be life-changing in a positive way, and a little bit of maintenance can go a long way in ensuring that these relationships stay healthy in the long run.

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1) Siblings can be a place to share our thought,feelings or emotions
2) we could seek for their help or point of view about somethimg that we don't want to share with parent
3) They also can be our peer if the age gape is not to far

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why is siblings is the best place to share our thought rather than with parent

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why is siblings is the best place to share our thought rather than with parent

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It is because our siblings especially our older sister and brother, they have gone through an experience that we will face one day too.

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How siblings could be a peer to ourself too

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How siblings could be a peer to ourself too

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Siblings are individuals who have a close relationship with us in the term of bloodline after our parents.

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The idiom upward show that the family relationship will last despite having a various misunderstandings.

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If your parents are not around,who would stand up for you? 

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If your parents are not around,who would stand up for you? 

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the person that will stand up for ourself after our parents would be our siblings

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If you have a problem.what can a siblings provide you?

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If you have a problem.what can a siblings provide you?

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our sibling could helps us in a best way that they could

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why do you think it is easier to speak to a sibling

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why do you think it is easier to speak to a sibling

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its because siblings have age gape that maybe not to far from us