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You can't be happy with yourself unless you learn to love yourself first. 

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You can't be happy with yourself unless you learn to love yourself first. 

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I am 22 years old. Born and Raised in Denver,CO. I am survived by mom who resides in Denver and my father who resides in San Fran. I also half a half brother, and sister, and a biological baby brother who passed in 2002. I also am an aunt of 3 girls from my sister. So I really do love being involved with my family. I am also a mother to a 5 year old. Single mom for the last 6 years has been nothing but a great gift ! I love being a mom and I love having my son around. If it wasn't for my son I wouldn't be where I am at. Through my childhood, I had a big family, and had some good friends until I hit middle school. Middle school was the worst years of my life. I was bullied, used, abused. It made me start acting out into a person I didn't like to be. I was stealing, doing drugs, hanging around the wrong people. I wasn't myself just because I was a broken girl afraid to tell anyone what's going on. Well eventually it came to find out of who I became and I ended up doing online schooling for 8th grade while I lived in California it went on anatomy freshman year, because I was so traumatized. I didn't finish freshman year. I ended up failing, which had me move with my dad in North Carolina for my second year. While I was out there it was crazy . I made some bad choices and I regret what I did for that choice but , things happen for a reason. After the happened I started to focus more on school and my self , gained amazing friends and gained a lot of support ! Until I decided to move back with my mom here in Colorado. I started acting out again , smoking , drinking, dating, hanging out with my friends, not being home, skipping class. I wasn't sure why I did this. But I ended up getting pregnant and it made me realize maybe my life isn't meant to be free and young. I think I was put here to be a independent , responsible person with a future. Which has been working out. I have been doing amazing on my own, no help, no struggles, being a person my family thought I couldn't be. Here I am 2021 , focusing on starting a brighter future in North Carolina where my sister and brother reside. I have been focusing on work, school, my son and his disability, and working on myself. I told myself this is my year to shine and its been doing great. I am a person who knows when to say no, don't have the patience for negative and toxic ness, and will ut my foot down! Independent self loving person !

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Unique
Sensitive
Procastinater
Kind
Respectful
Independent
Confident
Enthusiastic
Big Heart
Generous

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Defender - ISFJ-A / ISFJ-T
65 % Turbulent
72% Introverted
57% Judging
61% Feeling
58% Observant

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Who is A Defender (ISFJ)?

A Defender (ISFJ) is someone with the Introverted, Observant, Feeling, and Judging personality traits. These people tend to be warm and unassuming in their own steady way. They're efficient and responsible, giving careful attention to practical details in their daily lives.

Love only grows by sharing. You can only have more for yourself by giving it away to others.

Brian Tracy

In their unassuming, understated way, Defenders help make the world go round. Hardworking and devoted, people with this personality type feel a deep sense of responsibility to those around them. Defenders can be counted on to meet deadlines, remember birthdays and special occasions, uphold traditions, and shower their loved ones with gestures of care and support. But they rarely demand recognition for all that they do, preferring instead to operate behind the scenes.

This is a capable, can-do personality type, with a wealth of versatile gifts. Though sensitive and caring, Defenders also have excellent analytical abilities and an eye for detail. And despite their reserve, they tend to have well-developed people skills and robust social relationships. Defenders are truly more than the sum of their parts, and their varied strengths shine in even the most ordinary aspects of their daily lives.

Defenders are true altruists, meeting kindness with kindness-in-excess and engaging with the work and people they believe in with enthusiasm and generosity.

The Gift of Loyalty

Among Defenders' most distinctive traits is loyalty. Rare is the Defender who allows a friendship or relationship to fade away from lack of effort. Instead, they invest a great deal of energy into maintaining strong connections with their loved ones - and not just by sending "How are you doing?" texts. People with this personality type are known for dropping everything and lending a hand whenever a friend or family member is going through a hard time.

Defenders tend to feel most energized and effective when they're showing up for someone who needs their help.

Defenders' sense of loyalty doesn't stop with their nearest and dearest - it often extends to their communities, their employers, and even family traditions. But the intensity of their commitment and desire to serve can have its downsides. Other people may take advantage of Defenders' helpful, hardworking nature, leaving them feeling burned out and overworked. And Defenders may feel guilty or stressed when they contemplate changes - even necessary changes - to themselves, their relationships, or the way they've done things in the past.

The Highest of Standards

For Defenders, "good enough" is rarely good enough. People with this personality type can be meticulous to the point of perfectionism. They take their responsibilities personally, consistently going above and beyond and doing everything that they can to exceed others' expectations.

Defender personalities are known for their humility, and they rarely seek the spotlight.

But what happens when Defenders' efforts go unnoticed or unappreciated? While Defenders tend to underplay their accomplishments, that doesn't mean that they don't enjoy recognition - or that they're fine with being taken for granted. Unless they learn to stand up for themselves, Defenders may find themselves quietly losing their enthusiasm and motivation, eventually becoming resentful toward the people who just don't seem to appreciate them.

Showing Up for Others - and Themselves

Although they're Introverted, Defenders have a deeply social nature. Thanks to their ability to remember the details of other people's lives, Defenders have a special talent for making their friends and acquaintances feel seen, known, and cherished. Few personality types can match Defenders' ability to choose just the right gift for any occasion, whether large or small.

Dedicated and thoughtful, Defenders find great joy in helping those around them build stable, secure, and happy lives. It may not be easy for people with this personality type to show up for themselves in the way that they show up for other people, but when they do, they often find themselves with even more energy and motivation to do good in the world.

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Introduction | Defender (ISFJ Personality) | 16Personalities

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Who is A Defender (ISFJ)? A Defender (ISFJ) is someone with the Introverted, Observant, Feeling, and Judging personality traits. These people tend to be warm and unassuming in their own steady way. They're efficient and responsible, giving careful attention to practical details in their daily lives. Love only grows by sharing.