# data[].attributes.body
Queer horror movie

# data[].attributes.body
I also want to add that not being neurotypical in care is really difficult, because even though I have problems due to my neurodiversity too, sometimes that isn't my issue at all once in care. It's not all about one issue...?

# data[].attributes.body
tbh i'm infuriated by how health care doesn't want to include the topic of identity... part of my health might even relate to it...? how do you make them take you seriously...

# data[].attributes.body
Having a chronic illness makes me feel like I have to justify being ill.. or remind people that I'm still suffering. The most validating experience for me was my doctor telling me how sorry she was to hear I had such an illness.. made me feel understood, which helped more than the drugs.

# data[].attributes.body
What was mentioned about the wellness industry  making it your responsibility to be “well” really struck.

I know it comes from a good place when people say things like “make sure you look after yourself” after they witness your poor health but you have zero control over what’s going on. It makes me angry that I should have that responsibility (obviously I do have a responsibility to a point)

# data[].attributes.body
(possible trigger for serious illness story) I resonated strongly with your story of finding out you needed to be treated. I never thought myself that I would be treated for anything physical. But recently I'm being checked and still waiting for further appointments and physicals to see if I've got an illness, which also affects how long I might live. That was a blow I didn't think I'd have to face. From having been so immersed in finding my sexuality and queer identity I was faced with the same questions. If it's the right time to be who I am, or if it's better to only focus on my health? But, isn't focusing on who I am, part of focusing on my health? How can I be happy, unless I'm comfortable with myself, and finding a community that finally feels like I do, and accepts me as I am... no matter how long it will be.

# data[].attributes.headline
Might be an alternative view of hard care but… Seeing a loved one go through the worst grief of their life and not being able to help - how do you care for someone in that situation? Feeling helpless. This is very difficult care to give...

# data[].attributes.subject
Might be an alternative view of hard care but… Seeing a loved one go through the worst grief of their life and not being able to help - how do you care for someone in that situation? Feeling helpless. This is very difficult care to give...

# data[].attributes.body
Everyone talks about forums being a dangerous place or being toxic. But I've found the anonymity to be freeing. I was going through a tough time with some personal issues, and talking to a therapist nor friends didn't help. I liked connecting with people online with a username and avatar because I could share the parts of me I felt comfortable sharing, and set boundaries.

One stranger wrote me this amazing post - it must have 1500 words. I was early 20s and the guidance helped so much. It basically said things will get better, but they seemed to understand my particular experience better than some of the closer people in my life. I still feel grateful for their words.

# data[].attributes.headline
I  find that when I have a serious problem its much easier to speak to a complete stranger who doesn't know me and has no knowledge of my circumstance, they are less judgemental and have nothing to gain by whatever decision I make. Family and friends can often give you advice to suit themselves even if they do not realise this. Have you ever sat in a coffee shop and struck up a conversation with a complete strange and you could have stayed there for hours chatting to them telling them intimate things you would never tell your friends?  I have!

# data[].attributes.subject
I  find that when I have a serious problem its much easier to speak to a complete stranger who doesn't know me and has no knowledge of my circumstance, they are less judgemental and have nothing to gain by whatever decision I make. Family and friends can often give you advice to suit themselves even if they do not realise this. Have you ever sat in a coffee shop and struck up a conversation with a complete strange and you could have stayed there for hours chatting to them telling them intimate things you would never tell your friends?  I have!

# data[].attributes.body
Having a longterm chronic illness  and trying your best to maintain good health most of the time, a hard balance . I can feel quite a guilt sometimes after staying up all night dancing drinking , laughing and sometimes tears with good friends , which I then try to balance out with a jug of keifer next morning ! But sometimes the release of stress and forgetting of illness for a few hours is or at least feels far more caring .

# data[].attributes.body
I really find the start to highlight these topics such an important and great initiative, to start this series of projects that will follow too.

I kept thinking of all the instances myself and friends of mine have been treated oddly when in care.

A friend who's trans, and who's new doc (for transbody related things) asked him what size his cup had been before op.
During a time when he was in care related to his identity, and even when in immediate contact with care and identity, he wasn't treated respectfully.

I think of all instances when my race has been the main topic rather than my health and issues, and questions of countries of origin, and family situations.

I think an awareness of how to care, to care, to think about care within care is Very important.

# data[].attributes.headline
During periods of illness, do you see yourself differently? 

# data[].attributes.subject
During periods of illness, do you see yourself differently? 

# data[].attributes.body
while i was listening to the talk it occured to me