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This is my little family(minus my 2 little kitties) I was born in Macedonia, I came to the states when I was 6 years old. I’ve lived in ladysmith wi for as long as I can remember. I graduated from Ladysmith highschool and currently attending Northwood technical college for nursing. I am 20 years old( will be 21 in march!) I have 3 younger siblings, 2 sisters and 1 brother. I’m a chatty Kathy I will talk to anyone about anything for hours on end!

I am a Disney girl 100 percent, till this day High school musical is my favorite movie

I am very much very empathic and love emotions, I have a love for psychology and why the brain is the way it is. Mostly because of myself (I am bipolar) and my grandma is schizophrenic. I don’t see her often cause she’s across the world in a nursing home

I love going on little hikes with my friends

I have been to 19 different states with my fiance! We just recently got engaged on thanksgiving

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my definition of communication is 2 people having a conversation and both sides are able to say how they feel and express emotion without an argument. you need to listen to what the other person has to say instead of thinking about how your going to reply back. a lack of communication can lead to so many problems and even losses. that is why it is so important to listen to both sides during a conversation

communication is not just something we have to learn about in english classes but as well as real life things. we communicate with others every single day. its a natural human thing. that is why it is so important to do it right

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while reading this module it reminded me of the blue valentine because of how it is related to the EIAC non empathic topic.

this movie starts of based on this happy married couple that slowly fades away due to the lack of empathy, emotion and communication. while arguing instead of listening to what the other is saying they are thinking about how they are going to reply ( this also reminds me of communication from the other module).

I can't say that I have never done this because I have, sometimes I don't listen to what my fiancé has to say, Im just thinking about how to reply which is not good and I need to work on.

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what's included in a non verbal communication?

we think that people don't taking the nonverbal communication as serious as the verbal but that is false.

nonverbal is just as important, something that would include this are body language(posture, gesture), facial expressions, as well as tone and many others. when talking to someone I believe that they are watching for those things. I do and notice it fairly well. actually I go based off how they are standing and speaking before I say my next thing

body language is so important, it can show that you care or you honestly just don't. the little things do matter

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why does public speaking scare us so much?

personally I hate public speaking, I break out in hives and get anxiety. not because I will mess up but mostly because of how the audience is going to react.

Now if you are a people pleaser and need the validation I feel like it makes this even worse because after words if you don't get the right feedback then you feel like you fail.

we live in such a negative world that it's hard to speak in front of others because of they are going to respond.

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where do you think this sense of self comes from?

i believe that as you grow older and find out more things about yourself, what you like and what you don't you tend to realize what type of person you are and who you are. life shapes you in different way that you wouldn't think it will but it does.

your traits, beliefs, values as well as behavior they are all apart of it, so it could come from growing up in a family with certain good traits and bad ones. you decide which ones you want to keep and which ones to throw out the window

for example, I learned my self of self through trauma. I realized that I don't want to be like my parents so i need to change absolutely everything about me and I did. I don't let others tell me what to believe in or how to behave myself.

its all about finding your inner self.

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how can we understand inattentional blindness as a communication problem?

this a problem because you are missing the little things. it is a failure of selective attention. missing these things can lead to miscommunications and then to conflicts. that is why it is important to notice the little things when doing something for example having a little kid in a pool or talking to your partner. you might miss the nonverbal cues and then you miss what they are saying and reply back and it has nothing to do with what they said. then the fighting starts and disagreement. so yes think about what you say but make sure you also focus on what the other person is doing while saying something.