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 I have a serious crush on my teacher – should I tell her?

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 I have a serious crush on my teacher – should I tell her?

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No, it's not a good idea to go and tell her that, just like that. First of all, when you are sure that it attracts you as you think it attracts you, you should think about this:

Sometimes we fall in love with people we don’t owe or at least it is not socially correct. That is the love. Sometimes it emerges with force and doesn’t respect laws, impositions, social guidelines, relationships, ages and an endless number of other obstacles. Many times impossible love is a forbidden or almost forbidden love; since at this age teenagers tend to fall in love with their teachers due to the physical, psychological and emotional changes they experience.

Age matters. Not only her, but yours too. She is an adult, at least in the legal sense.  You're a teenager, that kind of relationship is prohibited by law, and with very good reasons. It is normal to have a certain crush on a teacher. In these cases, the best thing you can do is let her goes and move on. It's much simpler to say it than to do it, I know.

Focus on the present: no matter how nice it is to think about going with her, your studies come first.

If she's your current teacher, won't declare. It is the fastest way to bring problems to the lives of both.

I shall tell you that I understand your fears and frustrations when you want to declare her your feelings; due that the teacher is always a figure of authority, and a priori the student must comply with the tasks imposed by the teacher to not be creditor to any sanction, low grades or reprobatory, etc. As a figure of authority, the teacher in principle receives respect, obedience and sometimes admiration from the student. On the other hand, the teacher has the ability to punish or encourage attitudes that consider negative or positive in students, this being in accordance with the ethical principles of the teacher.

Lastly, if in your environment you don’t find anyone to comment on, you should talk to a professional (psychologist, etc.). It is important that you relieve yourself, that you can share your feelings, fears, longings, sufferings and desires.

I hope you can use my advice to improve your mood and will be able to make a good decision.

I'll be waiting for your feedback!

Have a good night and God bless you!

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My father is a womanizer. I’m terrified I’ll become one, too.

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My father is a womanizer. I’m terrified I’ll become one, too.

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This must be really difficult. I can sense the conflict in you. You've seen a different side to your dad. He's let you down.

When we are faced with our parents' fallibilities it can be incredibly destabilizing. If we don't know who they are any more, and then who are we? Who can we rely on? And unfaithful parents can be really hard to make sense of. Even adults with a lifetime's experience struggle with it. So it's not surprising that you are struggling too. Clearly you fear unwittingly becoming what you most despise. But just because you share genetic material doesn't mean you share their morals. You have two things they don't - a very healthy dose of self-awareness, and respect for other people's feelings. I think that combination means you will be fine. On the letter it is said I wasn't sure what a 'womaniser' was so I looked it up: a man who engages in numerous casual sexual affairs with women.

I think it's fine to have numerous casual sexual affairs, I think the problem arises when there is a lack of honesty. If you are perfectly open and honest about what you want from a relationship: one night stand, casual dating, long term relationship etc you will find many people of the opposite sex or same sex, who want the same things.

These 'womanisers' (apparently it's a derogatory term) tend to get off on the lies and secrecy and running around behind people's backs. Whether they are afraid of intimacy or commitment or family gatherings, doesn't matter because they are treating people badly. That's the crux of the issue here; having integrity and consideration for other people.

You need to let go and give yourself a chance to be yourself - you are not your father. Let you learn and make mistakes and get used to being in a relationship. Give some lovely girl the chance to be with this romantic you describe. Just be yourself. When you are much older and look back at your life, you will see that the mistakes you made were not mistakes, but were merely indicators of where you were going wrong and how you could do it (life and relationships) better. So called 'mistakes' are a learning ground in how to become a best version of yourself. They are gold dust. There is no shortcut to achieving this 'best version of yourself' as this necessitates 'experience’ and the most fertile ground to achieve this is through your relationships with others. And if you feel yourself getting itchy feet that's fine - maybe it’s not the relationship for  you. Keep being honest to yourself and be honest to those around you. There is no need to turn into someone you don’t want to be, and no need to avoid relationships out of fear. t's important for you to know what you do want from a partner, and what you won't put up with. To  compromise, but also to have and to enforce your own boundaries. To recognise which behaviours are deal-breakers, and which are not. Learn not to be too rigid or unrealistic in all of this, but at the same time, it's important to have your own self-respect, and to uphold it.

Finally, you make your own decisions in life.

Thanks.

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My daughter is dating a man more than twice her age.

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My daughter is dating a man more than twice her age.

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Dear Father

I understand your anger and I agree with your thinking about this situation. However, I Consider you should calm down.

First thing you have to do is to talk with your daughter, patiently listen to her and attend all her opinions. I am sure if you do that, you will be able to advise her with correct words.

You can ask her about her feelings and her boyfriend, ask her if she consider that the relationship is good for her life, ask her, if she consider that this relationship will help her to grow in all the aspects of her life.

Your responsibility as a father is to guide her, no matter if she is an adult and professional woman. Now is time to show your daughter how much you love and you worry about her.

Your daughter needs to understand that this is not a good relationship; she is building a fake happiness by destroying a family. A correct man loves her wife and never pretend to leave her because of the beauty of a younger woman.( That is not love what he feels.) That man is hurting her wife and sons.

However, is your responsibility to make your daughter understands. He is 25 years older than she is. He is in love of the beauty and young of your daughter but later, he will understand that he does not love her and will try to get back his family.

Explain to your daughter the importance of a plenty life, the importance of the wrong determinations, and how they affect our future life, you can put your two marriages as an example.

On the other hand, I dare you to talk with the man, give him the chance to explain with his own words the situation. Be careful when you to listen to him, you need to take into account every word, every movement, every gesture.

I may be wrong about him, but I think he is not the correct person for your daughter.

Anyway, at the end, the only one who can take the decision is she.

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 My family is great, but I feel as though I have no real friends.

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 My family is great, but I feel as though I have no real friends.

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Hello dear friend

Firstly, my friend you need to change your mindset, you must consider that you can be happy wherever you live. Man! You could have good friends in the past, this fact indicates that you are a friendly someone, so it could be thought that you can have new friends again. you might give your life a new beginning.

Come on you can!

You say "as our lives have evolved, people have moved away." Maybe, your friends have also strayed, therefore, friend you should find new friends.

But, be careful! here I could give an essential advice, you must be very careful when looking for friends through social networks, because these may have bad people with bad plans. Maybe, social networks might help you communicate with others who live far away, but you should consider that face-to-face environments are the best to interact and share with people.

In addition, you can do many other activities in which you feel happy. So, in this way you can mitigate loneliness. For example: in my particular case I like to play soccer, do exercise, go to the football stadium, swim, go dancing, go to the cinema. This is a great help to feel good. this type of activities that you can develop with your family or your new friends, on this mode, you also will be allowed spend your free time in a better form.

Finally my friend, I am sure that if you put these advices into practice, your life will improve and loneliness will have to go away.

You should remember that we all must be happy, it is your decision.

God luck my friend.