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Power of Positivity gives different quotes about personality, daily life and many other things. “Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s trouble. It takes away todays’ peace.”

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Power of Positivity: Positive Thinking & Attitude

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While success means something different for everyone, it usually involves accomplishing some goal that you set your mind to. We all take different paths in life, but the ones who make it to the finish line have something in common: persistence. Whatever you want in life, you have to keep picking yourself back up after you fail and mustering up the courage to try again. Any successful person will tell you that the path to success is often paved by failure.

Of course, how you react to the failures ultimately determines your destiny. The people who keep grinding despite their shortcomings and learn from their mistakes make it to the top. Nothing that is worth it in life comes easily, so if you've been struggling on your path to success, read the following quotes about success to regain your motivation.

100 Quotes about Success to Never Forget

1. "When you stop chasing the wrong things you give the right things a chance to catch you." - Lolly Daskal

2. "The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential? These are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence." - Eddie Robinson

3. "There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure."- Paulo Coelho

4. "A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him." - David Brinkley

5. "Don't be afraid to stand for what you believe in, even if that means standing alone." - Andy Biersack

6. "Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs." - Farrah Gray

7. "Nobody ever wrote down a plan to be broke, fat, lazy, or stupid. Those things are what happen when you don't have a plan." - Larry Winget

8. "When the past calls, let it go to voicemail. Believe me, it has nothing new to say." - Unknown

9. "Love what you have. Need what you want. Accept what you receive. Give what you can. Always remember, what goes around, comes around." - Unknown

10. "Let us make our future now, and let us make our dreams tomorrow's reality." - Malala Yousafzai

1. "All you need is the plan, the roadmap, and the courage to press on to your destination." - Earl Nightingale

2. "Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit." - E. E. Cummings

3. "A No. 2 pencil and a dream can take you anywhere." - Joyce Meyer

4. "Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present." - Jim Rohn

5. "Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls." - Joseph Campbell

6. "Happiness is a butterfly, which when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you." - Nathaniel Hawthorne

7. "Success is no accident. It is hard work, perseverance, learning, studying, sacrifice, and most of all, love of what you are doing or learning to do." - Pele

8. "Success is the result of perfection, hard work, learning from failure, loyalty, and persistence." - Colin Powell

9. "Your positive action combined with positive thinking results in success." - Shiv Khera

10. "The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand." - Vince Lombardi

11. "Ultimately, leadership is not about glorious crowning acts. It's about keeping your team focused on a goal and motivated to do their best to achieve it, especially when the stakes are high and the consequences really matter. It is about laying the groundwork for others' success, and then standing back and letting them shine." - Chris Hadfield

12. "At the end of the day, you are solely responsible for your success and your failure. And the sooner you realize that, the sooner you accept that, and integrate that into your work ethic, you will start being successful. As long as you blame others for the reason you aren't where you want to be, you will always be a failure." - Erin Cummings

"I know of no single formula for success. But over the years I have observed that some attributes of leadership are universal and are often about finding ways of encouraging people to combine their efforts, their talents, their insights, their enthusiasm, and their inspiration to work together." - Queen Elizabeth II

Here are 25 Dale Carnegie quotes about success, since he's pretty knowledgeable about the subject:

1. "If you are not in the process of becoming the person you want to be, you are automatically
engaged in becoming the person you don't want to be."

2. "Big shots are only little shots who kept on shooting."

3. "It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it."

4. "People rarely succeed unless they have fun in what they are doing."

5. "Do the hard jobs first. The easy jobs will take care of themselves."

6. "Take a chance! All life is a chance. The man who goes furthest is generally the one who is willing to do and dare."

7. "It is the way we react to circumstances that determines our feelings."

8. "The successful man will profit from his mistakes and try again in a different way."

9. "Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all."

10. "Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition, is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have."

11. "When we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness."

12. "Happiness doesn't depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions."

13. "Remember, today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday."

1. "Our thoughts make us what we are."

2. "Be more concerned with your character than with your reputation, for your character is what you are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are."

3. "If you want to keep happiness, you have to share it."

4. "Develop success from failures. Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success."

5. "No matter what happens, always be yourself."

6. 42. "Nothing can bring you peace but yourself."

7. "One reason why birds and horses are not unhappy is because they are not trying to impress other birds and horses."

8. "You can't win an argument. You can't because if you lose it, you lose it; and if you win it, you lose it."

9. "Today is our most precious possession. It is our only sure possession."

10. "If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive."

11. "All men have fears, but the brave put down their fears and go forward, sometimes to death, but always to victory."

12. "The expression one wears on one's face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one's back."

The following 19 quotes about success are from Steve Jobs, one of the most successful innovators and businessmen to date:

1. "I'm convinced that about half of what separates the successful entrepreneurs from the non-successful ones is pure perseverance."

2. "My job is not to be easy on people. My job is to make them better."

3. "Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow know what you truly want to become."

4. "Let's go invent tomorrow rather than worrying about what happened yesterday."

5. "If today were the last day of your life, would you want to do what you are about to do today?"

6. "Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it."

7. "Life is about creating and living experiences that are worth sharing."

8. "We don't get a chance to do that many things, and everyone should be really excellent. Because this is our life. Life is brief, and then you die, you know? And we've all chosen to do this with our lives. So it better be damn good. It better be worth it."

9. "Be a yardstick of quality. Some people aren't used to an environment where excellence is expected."

10. "You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something-your gut, destiny, life and karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life."

11. "Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes.... The ones who see things differently-they're not fond of rules.... You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can't do is ignore them because they change things.... They push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world are the ones who do."

12. "Sometimes when you innovate, you make mistakes. It is best to admit them quickly, and get on with improving your other innovations."

13. "A lot of companies have chosen to downsize, and maybe that was the right thing for them. We chose a different path. Our belief was that if we kept putting great products in front of customers, they would continue to open their wallets."

14. "You can't just ask customers what they want and then try to give that to them. By the time you get it built, they'll want something new."

15. "You know, my main reaction to this money thing is that it's humorous, all the attention to it, because it's hardly the most insightful or valuable thing that's happened to me."

16. "My model for business is The Beatles. They were four guys who kept each other's kind of negative tendencies in check. They balanced each other, and the total was greater than the sum of the parts. That's how I see business: Great things in business are never done by one person, they're done by a team of people."

17. "Creativity is just connecting things. When you ask creative people how they did something, they feel a little guilty because they didn't really do it. They just saw something. It seemed obvious to them after a while."

18. "Design is not just what it looks like and feels like. Design is how it works."

19. "When you're a carpenter making a beautiful chest of drawers, you're not going to use a piece of plywood on the back, even though it faces the wall and nobody will see it. You'll know it's there, so you're going to use a beautiful piece of wood on the back. For you to sleep well at night, the aesthetic, the quality, has to be carried all the way through."

More quotes about success to keep your fire burning:

1. "Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts." - Winston S. Churchill

2. "It is better to fail in originality than to succeed in imitation." - Herman Melville

3. "The road to success and the road to failure are almost exactly the same." - Colin R. Davis

4. "Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it." - Henry David Thoreau

5. "Opportunities don't happen. You create them." - Chris Grosser

6. "Don't be afraid to give up the good to go for the great." - John D. Rockefeller

7. "I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have." - Thomas Jefferson

8. "There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world: those who are afraid to try and those who are afraid you will succeed." - Ray Goforth

9. "Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don't wish it were easier; wish you were better." - Jim Rohn

10. "Try not to become a man of success. Rather become a man of value." - Albert Einstein

11. "I never did anything worth doing by accident, nor did any of my inventions come indirectly through accident, except the phonograph. No, when I have fully decided that a result is worth getting, I go about it, and make trial after trial, until it comes." - Thomas Edison

12. "Stop chasing the money and start chasing the passion." - Tony Hsieh

13. "Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm." - Winston Churchill

14. "I owe my success to having listened respectfully to the very best advice, and then going away and doing the exact opposite." - G. K. Chesterton

15. "Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It's quite simple, really: Double your rate of failure. You are thinking of failure as the enemy of success. But it isn't at all. You can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it, so go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can. Because remember that's where you will find success." - Thomas J. Watson

16. "If you are not willing to risk the usual, you will have to settle for the ordinary." - Jim Rohn

17. "Keep on going, and the chances are that you will stumble on something, perhaps when you are least expecting it. I never heard of anyone ever stumbling on something sitting down." - Charles F. Kettering

18. "Do one thing every day that scares you." - Anonymous

19. "All progress takes place outside the comfort zone." - Michael John Bobak

20. "People who succeed have momentum. The more they succeed, the more they want to succeed, and the more they find a way to succeed. Similarly, when someone is failing, the tendency is to get on a downward spiral that can even become a self-fulfilling prophecy." - Tony Robbins

21. "Don't let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning." - Robert Kiyosaki

22. "If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time." - Steve Jobs

23. "The real test is not whether you avoid this failure, because you won't. It's whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere." - Barack Obama

24. "The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today." - Franklin D. Roosevelt

25. "Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, ambition inspired, and success achieved." - Helen Keller

26. "The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing." - Walt Disney

27. "The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus." - Bruce Lee

28. "There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure." - Colin Powell

29. "Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes, but they don't quit." - Conrad Hilton

30. "If you really want to do something, you'll find a way. If you don't, you'll find an excuse." - Jim Rohn

31. "I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure-It is: Try to please everybody." - Herbert Bayard Swope

32. "Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful." - Albert Schweitzer

33. "Success isn't just about what you accomplish in your life; it's about what you inspire others to do." - Unknown

Final thoughts

We hope these quotes about success will help you stay on the path to achieving your dreams and keep you motivated when you feel like giving up. Just remember that no one who ever reached their goals had an easy journey. They all had to make huge sacrifices in regard to time, money, and energy in order to make their dreams a reality.

Obviously the road to success might take a while to navigate, but think about how good it will feel to look back on your journey from the finish line. Think about how you'll feel years from now when you can say that you made it and didn't give up despite all the obstacles you faced. You can make the choice today to start living your dreams; once you have the momentum, you won't want to stop until you've shown the world (and yourself) what you're capable of!

We leave you with a few more quotes about success from Oprah:

"Everybody has a calling. And your real job in life is to figure out as soon as possible what that is, who you were meant to be, and to begin to honor that in the best way possible for yourself."

"The key to realizing a dream is to focus not on success but on significance - and then even the small steps and little victories along your path will take on greater meaning."

"Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe."

"You have to know what sparks the light in you so that you, in your own way, can illuminate the world."

"My philosophy is that not only are you responsible for your life but doing the best at this moment puts you in the best place for the next moment."

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This book is a great guide to follow your heart and listen to the language of the world. Even though it's a novel but I think this book is so helpful and it can calm me down. “And, when you can't go back, you have to worry only about the best way of moving forward.”

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There is a great way to calm down our anxiety; have a target and follow it. I believe when I have a target and want to reach it, I have less time to be worry and focus more on my target. Tartakovskye  quotes Corboy who says “When you’re feeling anxious, it’s also helpful to focus your attention on a meaningful, goal-directed activity.”

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When you're feeling anxious, you might feel stuck and unsure of how to feel better. You might even do things that unwittingly fuel your anxiety. You might hyperfocus on the future, and get carried away by a slew of what-ifs. How do you reduce your anxiety right now?
What if I start to feel worse? What if they hate my presentation? What if she sees me sweating? What if I bomb the exam? What if I don't get the house?
You might judge and bash yourself for your anxiety. You might believe your negative, worst-case scenario thoughts are indisputable facts.

Thankfully, there are many tools and techniques you can use to manage anxiety effectively. Below, experts shared healthy ways to cope with anxiety right here, right now.

Reducing Anxiety Symptoms Right Now

How do you reduce or eliminate your anxiety and anxiousness right now? Here are 9 ways to do so that have been shown to work.

1. Take a deep breath.

"The first thing to do when you get anxious is to breathe," said Tom Corboy, MFT, the founder and executive director of the OCD Center of Los Angeles, and co-author of the upcoming book The Mindfulness Workbook for OCD.

Deep diaphragmatic breathing is a powerful anxiety-reducing technique because it activates the body's relaxation response. It helps the body go from the fight-or-flight response of the sympathetic nervous system to the relaxed response of the parasympathetic nervous system, said Marla W. Deibler, PsyD, a clinical psychologist and director of The Center for Emotional Health of Greater Philadelphia, LLC.

She suggested this practice: "Try slowly inhaling to a count of 4, filling your belly first and then your chest, gently holding your breath to a count of 4, and slowly exhaling to a count of 4 and repeat several times."
Learn more: Learning deep breathing
2. Accept that you're anxious.

Remember that "anxiety is just a feeling, like any other feeling," said Deibler, also author of the Psych Central blog " Therapy That Works." By reminding yourself that anxiety is simply an emotional reaction, you can start to accept it, Corboy said.

Acceptance is critical because trying to wrangle or eliminate anxiety often worsens it. It just perpetuates the idea that your anxiety is intolerable, he said.

But accepting your anxiety doesn't mean liking it or resigning yourself to a miserable existence.

"It just means you would benefit by accepting reality as it is - and in that moment, reality includes anxiety. The bottom line is that the feeling of anxiety is less than ideal, but it is not intolerable."

Learn more about: Causes of Anxiety Disorders

3. Realize that your brain is playing tricks on you.

Psychiatrist Kelli Hyland, M.D., has seen first-hand how a person's brain can make them believe they're dying of a heart attack when they're actually having a panic attack. She recalled an experience she had as a medical student.

"I had seen people having heart attacks and look this ill on the medical floors for medical reasons and it looked exactly the same. A wise, kind and experienced psychiatrist came over to [the patient] and gently, calmly reminded him that he is not dying, that it will pass and his brain is playing tricks on him. It calmed me too and we both just stayed with him until [the panic attack] was over."

Today, Dr. Hyland, who has a private practice in Salt Lake City, Utah, tells her patients the same thing. "It helps remove the shame, guilt, pressure and responsibility for fixing yourself or judging yourself in the midst of needing nurturing more than ever."

4. Question your thoughts.

"When people are anxious, their brains start coming up with all sorts of outlandish ideas, many of which are highly unrealistic and unlikely to occur," Corboy said. And these thoughts only heighten an individual's already anxious state.

For instance, say you're about to give a wedding toast. Thoughts like "Oh my God, I can't do this. It will kill me" may be running through your brain.

Remind yourself, however, that this isn't a catastrophe, and in reality, no one has died giving a toast, Corboy said.

"Yes, you may be anxious, and you may even flub your toast. But the worst thing that will happen is that some people, many of whom will never see you again, will get a few chuckles, and that by tomorrow they will have completely forgotten about it."

Deibler also suggested asking yourself these questions when challenging your thoughts:

"Is this worry realistic?

Is this really likely to happen?

If the worst possible outcome happens, what would be so bad about that?

Could I handle that?

What might I do?

If something bad happens, what might that mean about me?

Is this really true or does it just seem that way?

What might I do to prepare for whatever may happen?"

Learn more: Challenging Negative Self-Talk
5. Use a calming visualization.

Hyland suggested practicing the following meditation regularly, which will make it easier to access when you're anxious in the moment.

"Picture yourself on a river bank or outside in a favorite park, field or beach. Watch leaves pass by on the river or clouds pass by in the sky. Assign [your] emotions, thoughts [and] sensations to the clouds and leaves, and just watch them float by."

This is very different from what people typically do. Typically, we assign emotions, thoughts and physical sensations certain qualities and judgments, such as good or bad, right or wrong, Hyland said. And this often amplifies anxiety. Remember that "it is all just information."
Learn more: Practical Tips for Using Imagery
6. Be an observer - without judgment.

Hyland gives her new patients a 3×5 index card with the following written on it: "Practice observing (thoughts, feelings, emotions, sensations, judgment) with compassion, or without judgment."

"I have had patients come back after months or years and say that they still have that card on their mirror or up on their car dash, and it helps them."

7. Use positive self-talk.

Anxiety can produce a lot of negative chatter. Tell yourself "positive coping statements," Deibler said. For instance, you might say, "this anxiety feels bad, but I can use strategies to manage it."

8. Focus on right now.

"When people are anxious, they are usually obsessing about something that might occur in the future," Corboy said. Instead, pause, breathe and pay attention to what's happening right now, he said. Even if something serious is happening, focusing on the present moment will improve your ability to manage the situation, he added.

9. Focus on meaningful activities.

When you're feeling anxious, it's also helpful to focus your attention on a "meaningful, goal-directed activity," Corboy said. He suggested asking yourself what you'd be doing if you weren't anxious.

If you were going to see a movie, still go. If you were going to do the laundry, still do it.

"The worst thing you can do when anxious is to passively sit around obsessing about how you feel." Doing what needs to get done teaches you key lessons, he said: getting out of your head feels better; you're able to live your life even though you're anxious; and you'll get things done.

"The bottom line is, get busy with the business of life. Don't sit around focusing on being anxious - nothing good will come of that."

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When you're feeling anxious, you might feel stuck and unsure of how to feel better. You might even do things that unwittingly fuel your anxiety. You might hyperfocus on the future, and get carried away by a slew of what-ifs. How do you reduce your anxiety right now?

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In this article, Pincus explains the facts and assumptions that we have about our anxiety. She also gives solutions to our assumptions and be more focus on our selves. I think to be focus on something will make me do another thing instead of thinking and be worried. “The best way to know if you are parenting from fear vs. facts is to ask yourself if there is any evidence of what you are worried about.”

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Sometimes we parents don't think we are anxious because we are not trembling in our boots. Often there is no visible sign of how anxious we are. Yet when we look inside our heads, we notice that we spend a lot of time thinking about our kids-sometimes scary thoughts about things that haven't even happened. These "awfulizing" thoughts can sound something like this:

"The best way to know if you are parenting from fear vs. facts is to ask yourself if there is any evidence of what you are so worried about."

"He didn't do well in school last year; I'm afraid this year will be worse."

"I wasn't crazy about the kids she was hanging around with last year; I can only imagine who she will be hanging with this year!"

"How is she going to handle all the increased pressure of being on the varsity team? She will never be able to do it."

"My son always lies to me. He reminds me of my delinquent brother who's done nothing with his life. Is that going to happen to my son too?"

It's natural to want to protect our kids from what might happen or to try to make sure nothing bad does happen. And funny as it sounds, our brains are actually comforted when we think up every worst-case scenario and then worry about them. We think that somehow if we just worry enough, we can control things and make them go right. But fretting about the future, about the unknown, can cause extreme thinking, stirring up our fears, imaginations and projections. "He will never...She always... He's a loser..." No surprise that this causes our (and everyone else's) anxiety to skyrocket which causes us to-guess what... worry more! It's an unending negative cycle unless we can get control of our anxious and awfulizing thoughts.

When parents get caught up in this negative cycle, we often find that we are spending much of our energy directing, lecturing, hovering, cajoling or nagging instead of connecting with our children. We get so frantic about "fixing" things that we are not able to see we are parenting out of fear rather than from a calm, realistic and helpful place. We lose track of the facts about our children and see them from the lens of our anxieties, often stemming from our own unfinished business. Maybe we didn't do well in 7th grade or felt left out of the popular group. It's normal to want our kids to do better than we did and not fall into the same holes. But it can be hard to see that perhaps that's not where they are headed.

Until we can recognize and name all this awfulizing as anxiety and reactivity rather than the actual facts about our children, we will not see our children clearly and therefore not be able to give them what they actually need. We worry and awfulize, rather than guide. In order to see our children as they are, not how we wish them to be, we need to calm our anxiety down first. Calm is contagious - calm parents raise calm children.

Easier said than done? For sure! After all, we are only human. But it can be done. Here are some tips to being a less anxious, calmer parent.

Know what you can and can't control. Control battles can be over many things, like friends, school, and even food. Is it possible to provide healthy foods in your house? Yes, that is something a parent can do and be responsible for. But can you make your child eat them? Maybe, but at what cost to you, your child and your relationship? Anxiety about their health might compel you to "make" them eat those vegetables but that might only land you in a battle of wills that becomes less about the vegetables and more about "you don't control me." Put your efforts into what you have control over and let go of what you don't. Accepting that you can't possibly control every outcome will help you feel calmer. And you will be making the space your kids need to learn to be responsible for their choices.

Know the Difference between Fear and Facts. The best way to know if you are parenting from fear is to ask yourself if there is any evidence of what you are so worried about. You might worry that your child is unhappy. Write down the evidence that backs this belief up. For example, he cries every day or he used to be very talkative but now he is quiet and withdrawn. If you have facts to back up your concern, determine useful next steps to attend to the problem. Maybe talking to him or to his teachers or school counselor would be a good first step. But if you find no evidence to back up your awfulizing thoughts then recognize this is about you, not him. Get off of him and on to yourself. Pay attention to your own unfinished business of the past or feelings you had when you were his age. Understand what is getting triggered in you when you see him. Does he remind you of your troubled sibling at that age? Where does your imagination take you? In other words, find the source of your worry so you don't confuse yourself with your child. Facts help us to stay calmer.

Ask Yourself: What Are You Really Anxious About? One of the ways adults manage anxiety in our important relationships is to deflect onto our kids. Let's say you feel emotional distance in your marriage. Rather than address the problem directly with your spouse, you might instead get overly focused on your child. You might see problems in your child that barely exist but become exaggerated in your mind. This gives you a place to focus the intense emotions not being dealt with in your marriage. A child is an easy target to place the focus on. It's normal to want to avoid the hard stuff between you and another person and bring in a third, like a child, to reduce the intensity. However, it doesn't solve anything. It increases anxiety and we end up trying to "fix" something that isn't the problem. Attending to the actual problem will calm us down and help our life function at its best.

Focus on Yourself. "How could I possibly focus on myself? I have 3 kids, a job and a million things to do!" Focusing on yourself does not mean not taking care of your responsibilities. It does mean finding a way to make you a priority as well. If you don't care for yourself, you won't be able to take care of the kids, the house, your job. Focusing on yourself means knowing where you end and your child begins. You are not one, but two. It means developing yourself, your adult relationships, your goals and aspirations. Doing this will help calm you down because you will be in charge of your own life rather than living in reaction to everyone around you. Not everything in your child's life is your "job"! And if your children see you taking responsibility for managing your life, they will learn to manage their own responsibilities and feel free to develop their own life.

Stay in the Present. When you find yourself thinking up "what if" scenarios about your child, bring yourself back to the "now". Ask yourself if there is anything now, right now, that would be helpful to do or say that would aid your child both now and in the future. This will help you calm down and give your child what she actually needs. Try this simple exercise. A "what if" anxiety creeps in: "What if my daughter doesn't pass her history test?" Bring yourself back to the present and ask yourself:

What are the facts suggesting to me that she won't do well? Her last test score was low (fact).

Is my concern based on facts or fears? I'm also worried because I struggled in history at her age (fear).

What would be helpful to do now to help her do the best she can on her test? I can have my other kids, who don't have a test tomorrow, play outside so she can have some quiet study time.

Is my plan realistically taking into account what is my responsibility and what belongs to my child? What I can control and what I can't? Having the other kids play outside is an appropriate responsibility as a parent-something you can control. Can you make her do well? No. That is in her control and is her responsibility.

We all worry because we love and care so much about our children and wish to protect them from life's struggles and disappointments. But you will feel calmer when you gently remind your intense loving emotions that trying to do what is not possible only increases anxiety. Instead THINK about and act on the things that are possible, reasonable and realistic for you to do for you and your family. You will become calmer and your life and theirs will function better. Functioning better helps everyone feel calmer and feeling calmer helps everyone function better. You have changed the cycle into a healthier and less anxious one!
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Parental Anxiety? 5 Ways to Relieve the Worry

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Sometimes we parents don't think we are anxious because we are not trembling in our boots. Often there is no visible sign of how anxious we are. Yet when we look inside our heads, we notice that we spend a lot of time thinking about our kids-sometimes scary thoughts about things that haven't even happened.

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This research is for the kids between  7-13 years old.  In this academic journal statics shows that the kids receive anxiety from their moms. This article proves we pass it to our kids; even though, we don't want our kids being worry. "Mothers perceive heightened frequency of worry and the least amount
of control over these worries when children are 10. However, the interference of
worry in daily life increases at 13, especially in girls ... ."

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Eagleman states about what is reality, and what is our experience of reality. This is exactly we, as moms,  should notice and find the way to see the reality. Mostly, we have assumption rather than to see the reality. “Our perception of reality has less to do with what’s happening out there and more to do with what’s happening inside our brain”

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