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This Vlog is about my recent journey through Divorce. I break it down to the "5 stages of Grief" and talk about my experience with Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and then Acceptance... This in no way reflects the vast experiences that each, individual person faces when going through a breakup, separation and divorce.

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Marital stress and divorce affect parents and children.

Many marriages end in divorce. Marital stress and divorce affect everyone involved directly and indirectly in a marriage. This can include the couple, children and other family members. If you or your spouse is experiencing stress caused by marital complications, it is important to determine the factors that are influencing these feelings. Understanding the causes of marital stress and divorce can help couples avoid and/or overcome these issues.

Addiction

Addictions take an emotional and a financial toll on families. Often, the partner who is an addict refuses to acknowledge the effects on the family and chooses not to stop the unhealthy behavior. This can lead to marital stress and, eventually, divorce. Types of addiction include alcohol and/or drug abuse and gambling and sexual addictions. Some additions may take the person's attention away from the spouse or put financial strain on the family; others, such as substance abuse, can lead to violence or extreme psychological stress.

Spousal Abuse and Conflict

Spousal abuse, which can be physical, sexual or emotional, is a source of stress in a marriage and can contribute to divorce. Although resorting to violence is an extreme form of conflict, arguments and seemingly minor disagreements can be influential in the decision to separate. Verbal fighting in a marriage is normal, but if the argument turns physical or becomes something that one or both partners can no longer handle, divorce is an option.

Financial Stress

Conflict over money is common in marriages and can strain the relationship. According to Seth Meyers, Psy.D., a clinical psychologist and relationship expert, the tendency to be reckless with money or to lack the ability to plan financially negatively affects the spouse and the relationship itself. Other issues may arise due to job loss, one partner making more than the other or a general lack of financial security in the relationship.

Infidelity and Trust Issues

Infidelity and trust issues often occur together and can have a significant impact on the decision to separate or divorce. Cheating can lead to distrust and feelings of discontent in a marriage. It can also cause the faithful partner to feel insecure. When trust is lost due to infidelity, one or both partners may have difficulty moving past the betrayal. Loss of trust can also stem from lying, stealing, jealousy or flirting.

Loss of Interest and Communication Issues

During the course of a marriage, one or both partners may lose interest in the relationship. This can be made worse by a lack of healthy communication with each other. As noted by D. Wayne Matthews, a human development specialist, communication includes facial expressions, listening skills, tone of voice and words used in a discussion. The absence or hostile nature of these factors leads to negative communication patterns and can contribute to a loss of interest in the relationship and subsequent divorce.

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Many marriages end in divorce. Marital stress and divorce affect everyone involved directly and indirectly in a marriage. This can include the couple, children and other family members. If you or your spouse is experiencing stress caused by marital complications, it is important to determine the factors that are ...

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The teen years are difficult for anyone. They are full of change, both mentally and physically, and this is a lot to take on. Adding the stress and change of a divorce or separation makes this challenging time even harder to cope with. Teens will often feel like they have no foundation, even when they may be acting as though they are fine. If they are going to develop into healthy adults, they will need your support and love. Here are a few tips on how to help teens through this difficult time.

When your teen already feels like they are on unstable ground, it is best not to add many more changes to their life if you can help it. In a divorce, there is no way to avoid change, but mindfully making the changes can help give your teenager time to adjust. While it might be hard to avoid a few big changes like a new home or a new school, let your teen take their time to get used to it all. Talking to your child about the changes to come will also allow them to prepare mentally, which will help with getting used to the new way that things work.
Make sure that your teen will still have contact with their old friends. Making new friends is an added stress, and their old friends can offer emotional support as they try to work through this difficult process. Try to wait until the end of the school year before moving to a new school. Switching in the middle of the year is much harder and will cause extra stress as well as possibly failing grades. See if you can arrange for your teen to visit the school beforehand so that they don't feel as lost on their first day.

If you are moving, allow them to decorate their own room. Try to make it a fun experience, and let them express themselves through the way they decorate it.

Your divorce will be very hard on your teenager, and they will likely feel anger, betrayal, and resentment toward one or both of their parents. Even if they aren't actually angry at you, they will probably take their negative feelings out on you anyway. Whether they are being rude, rebellious, or withdrawn, you need to be sensitive to their emotions. Try not to get too angry, but take disciplinary measures if what they did was over the line of acceptability. If they take their acting out to an unhealthy level, that is when you may need to intervene with professional help.

Consider taking them to a therapist or counselor if they start acting in a manner that causes you to be concerned about their well being. Don't force it one them, as they probably won't like the idea at first. Don't lecture them about why they should see a professional, but rather explain why you are concerned for their well being. Make sure that they understand that you don't think that they need to be "fixed". Being forceful will only gain greater pushback from your teenager, while being sensitive and caring can open up communication and ease their pain. They are looking for solid ground; be that for them.

While it can be difficult to see your teen acting out or in a negative way towards you, loosening up on the rules is not a good way to earn back their affection. Instead, this will teach them that they receive rewards for acting rebellious. They need discipline and foundation in order to become healthy adults, and removing the rules removes both of those.
Give them the freedoms that you feel they are mature enough for, and reward good behavior with more freedom. If they have good grades and are respectful, let them stay out a bit later or spend extra time on the computer. Be reasonable with your teen, and remember that they are growing into young adults. As they grow older, they will crave more and more freedom.

Having gone through a divorce or separation, you will have your very own confused feelings to work through. While talking to them about your feelings can help strengthen your bond and show them that you respect and trust them, you must be careful about how much you share. Remember that you are their parent and must be strong for your kids. Also, don't say negative things about their other parent in front of them. Save the more painful and negative topics to be talked over with adult friends and trusted family members, or even a professional such as a therapist. Some things would do nothing more than hurt your teen, and you need to pay careful attention what you tell them.
Helping a teen through this process can be very difficult, especially if they don't feel like working with you. However, consistent support and love from you and others they know can help them through this challenging experience and onward into adulthood.

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Navigating Parenting in High-Conflict Divorces

Nov 07, 2017

Credit: iStock. A new peer-reviewed article by Dr. Matt Mutchler provides strategies to help parents navigate high-conflict divorces.

A new peer-reviewed article by Dr. Matt Mutchler, a Delaware Valley University assistant professor of counseling psychology, offers strategies to help parents who are going through high-conflict divorces.

Dr. Mutchler recently published " Family Counseling With High-Conflict Separated Parents: Challenges and Strategies" in The Family Journal, The Official Journal of the International Association of Marriage and Family Counselors.

Dr. Mutchler's article offers a framework for understanding high-conflict divorce and provides strategies to address common challenges high-conflict parents face. The article includes examples from real parents who have navigated high-conflict divorces.

When parents separate and divorce, they and their children often suffer dire emotional consequences, especially when the parents have a "high-conflict" relationship. Some of these negative impacts include delayed adjustment, strained parent-child relationships, depression, anxiety and negative coping strategies such as substance abuse. The negative effects of a high-conflict divorce can last for years after the parents separate. When parents have a more collaborative relationship, however, outcomes are more positive.

Counseling can help parents minimize the negative impacts of divorce on their children. In the article, Dr. Mutchler suggests counselors and parents use the following strategies:

Redirect the focus to how a child could win rather than one parent
In his work with a couple where both people were constantly trying to "win" arguments by making the other parent look bad, Dr. Mutchler encouraged the parents to think about how their daughter could win rather than how one parent could win. This helped refocus the conversation on what was best for the child.

Identify both parents' strengths
Often in high-conflict divorces, parents emphasize the negative and ignore the positive when it comes to their former spouses. Dr. Mutchler suggests reframing each parent as both good and bad. By shifting the focus to what makes the other party good as a parent, Dr. Mutchler helps people remember and identify their former partners' strengths.

Emphasize that the couple is over and focusing on co-parenting
Dr. Mutchler suggests that high-conflict couples go into therapy with a clear understanding of their goals. While the couple is over, divorced parents still have to interact with each other. Dr. Mutchler suggests making it clear to both parties that the counseling is not aimed at healing wounds each parent suffered in the relationship or at reconciliation. Both parties should understand that the only goal of the counseling is to build a "cooperative co-parenting environment."

Establish ground rules for communication
To keep counseling sessions productive, it is helpful to set ground rules for communication. Dr. Mutchler suggests setting rules such as "only one person may talk at a time." He also found that allowing a person to take a five-minute break is helpful. He allowed a client who would shut down to do this whenever she became overwhelmed, and after some time, she was able to focus and stay more engaged.

Communicate about sensitive issues when children are not present
Dr. Mutchler emphasizes with clients that communication in front of children should always be civil and respectful. Any sensitive topics should be discussed when children are not present.

About Dr. Matt Mutchler
Dr. Matt Mutchler is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and holds master's and doctoral degrees in human development and family studies with specializations in couples and family therapy. While working on his Ph.D. at the University of Connecticut, he discovered a passion for teaching. He currently teaches counseling psychology students at Delaware Valley University. Dr. Mutchler's research focuses on counselor development and self-efficacy, ethical dilemmas, and developing methods to work conjointly with divorced or separated parents. He has presented at many national and international conferences, including the American Psychological Association, the International Society of Interpersonal Acceptance and Rejection, and the National Council on Family Relations.

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Navigating Parenting in High-Conflict Divorces Nov 07, 2017 A new peer-reviewed article by Dr. Matt Mutchler, a Delaware Valley University assistant professor of counseling psychology, offers strategies to help parents who are going through high-conflict divorces.

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