# data[].attributes.body
Permission to put myself first

# data[].attributes.body
I need to give myself permission to open up and feel comfortable in the group sharing.

# data[].attributes.body
I need to give myself permission to put work away and be present in the study.

# data[].attributes.headline
I am giving myself permission to not care about dinner not being cooked right now.

# data[].attributes.subject
I am giving myself permission to not care about dinner not being cooked right now.

# data[].attributes.body
I need to give myself persmission to take the time to read and come to the meetings, to stop working in time to be here. I need to allow myself to feel uncomfortable and to be open.

# data[].attributes.headline
I'm giving up my time with my husband and son at dinner.

# data[].attributes.subject
I'm giving up my time with my husband and son at dinner.

# data[].attributes.body
I will give myself permission to be vulnerable and learn from the rest of the group.

# data[].attributes.headline
Giving myself permission to take the time I need to work on this book study away from everything else.

# data[].attributes.subject
Giving myself permission to take the time I need to work on this book study away from everything else.

# data[].attributes.body
I need to give myself permission to see my thoughts and ideas as valuable and be vulnerable with sharing my thoughts and ideas.

# data[].attributes.body
My summer's a little busy, so I will need to be careful to take the time to be prepared. If things get hairy, I may need the support of others to fill in any gaps.

# data[].attributes.headline
too often pleasing gets in the way of leading

# data[].attributes.subject
too often pleasing gets in the way of leading

# data[].attributes.headline
time, other home + work responsibilities Taking over smaller tasks

# data[].attributes.subject
time, other home + work responsibilities Taking over smaller tasks

# data[].attributes.body
Opting out of vital conversations about diversity and inclusivity.

# data[].attributes.body
Permission to put this in my schedule and not push it to the side as items come up for others/family.

# data[].attributes.body
Release the idea of perfectionism and to be open, honest, and vulnerable so that I can learn from those around me!

# data[].attributes.body
If the group remains large, I think it would be helpful to keep the small groups consistent.  This will help establish connections.  I also would love to add to the agenda large group share out--maybe that will be part of the celebrations at the end.
I am an introvert so this is definitely pushing me outside my comfort zone, but I know I will learn so much more by reading Dare to Lead as part of the group rather than on my own.

# data[].attributes.headline
Pleasing everyone, having difficult conversations, 

# data[].attributes.subject
Pleasing everyone, having difficult conversations, 

# data[].attributes.body
I need to give myself permission to take time for myself and to part of a group and add value

# data[].attributes.headline
Understanding, trust, lack of flexibility

# data[].attributes.subject
Understanding, trust, lack of flexibility

# data[].attributes.body
Remembering Direct is Kind; Vital conversations about diversity, Rushing to fix rather than spend time finding root cause

# data[].attributes.headline
I needed to give myself permission to miss tonight's kick-off if I didn't get my mom situated in the hospital...

# data[].attributes.subject
I needed to give myself permission to miss tonight's kick-off if I didn't get my mom situated in the hospital...

# data[].attributes.headline
Prioritize, be intentional and committed...

# data[].attributes.subject
Prioritize, be intentional and committed...

# data[].attributes.headline
Time, I don't want to get lazy and not read.  Holding myself to the reading schedule

# data[].attributes.subject
Time, I don't want to get lazy and not read.  Holding myself to the reading schedule

# data[].attributes.body
I decided not to work this summer and now I am going back on my promise to myself, but I think it is for a good reason.

# data[].attributes.body
Setting a certain time to read and reflect.
I will be the only reason that I do not get the reading completed.

# data[].attributes.body
Making the commitment and being dedicated to do the work.
Support looks like encouraging one another

# data[].attributes.body
I need to make sure I take the time to read and be present on the book study. Use this opportunity to grow as a leader.

# data[].attributes.headline
Other committments; being home with family here (distracting!); making time to read

# data[].attributes.subject
Other committments; being home with family here (distracting!); making time to read

# data[].attributes.body
Honest feedback, showing your own vulnerability, and not always having the answers

# data[].attributes.headline
feeling inadequate, trying to please others, lack of communication 

# data[].attributes.subject
feeling inadequate, trying to please others, lack of communication 

# data[].attributes.headline
1. Armor- toxic positivity, perfectionism

# data[].attributes.subject
1. Armor- toxic positivity, perfectionism

# data[].attributes.body
2. Imposter Syndrom
3. fear

# data[].attributes.headline
Worrying about hurt feelings, lack of confidence in my own abilities, willingness to be vulnerable

# data[].attributes.subject
Worrying about hurt feelings, lack of confidence in my own abilities, willingness to be vulnerable

# data[].attributes.body
Feedback
Effective communication
Not asking for help

# data[].attributes.body
fear of judgement
fear of hurting others
personal insecurity

# data[].attributes.body
Support is authentically connecting with each other

# data[].attributes.body
Staying in our same groups would be helpful.

# data[].attributes.body
Having people to share ideas. It is hard and lonely at the top. We need to be there for each other.

# data[].attributes.body
Self-doubt
Comfort Zone
People-pleasing

# data[].attributes.body
Not much. I am ready.

# data[].attributes.body
Prioritizing my time and items in my to-do list

# data[].attributes.body
Schedule it!! Schedule family activities around this to keep attendance a priority. Making PD important for my personal and professional growth.

# data[].attributes.body
1. Having tough conversations
2. Spending too much time reassuring staff if their strengths/abilities
3. Trying to do/be perfect

# data[].attributes.body
1.  Managing people/having on the spot strategies for conflict resolution
2. Feelings
3. Effective communication (were we in the same meeting?!?!? lol)

# data[].attributes.headline
Need to give myself permission NOT to do the things I brought home from work so that I can be fully present and engaged here. Glad to be here!

# data[].attributes.subject
Need to give myself permission NOT to do the things I brought home from work so that I can be fully present and engaged here. Glad to be here!

# data[].attributes.headline
I don't have trouble showing up and wanting to do the work, but my leadership style is to bring out from others a multitude of ideas and then work towards consensus. This is frustrating to some folks and they need support in the process. I need calm to see it through.

# data[].attributes.subject
I don't have trouble showing up and wanting to do the work, but my leadership style is to bring out from others a multitude of ideas and then work towards consensus. This is frustrating to some folks and they need support in the process. I need calm to see it through.

# data[].attributes.headline
Becoming unafraid to hold the courageous (uncomfortable) conversations; going beyond having to be "nice"; addressing equity and professionalism.

# data[].attributes.subject
Becoming unafraid to hold the courageous (uncomfortable) conversations; going beyond having to be "nice"; addressing equity and professionalism.

# data[].attributes.body
Time and the ability to feel vulnerable which is difficult when everyone looks to you for the answers.

# data[].attributes.body
Time to read and be ready for the discussions.

# data[].attributes.body
Honesty, being wrong, learning to depend on others

# data[].attributes.body
Trust, tough conversations, and perfectionism & fear

# data[].attributes.body
Set boundaries with parents

# data[].attributes.body
Energy! Taking care of my health and family first so that I can be on my game while working.

# data[].attributes.body
Time, realizing we are all different, grace in hard situations

# data[].attributes.body
I need to set limits on other parts of life so I can take part in personal growth. When learning I need then to put down armour and allow myself to be vulnerable in order to truly learn and grow.

# data[].attributes.body
I need to give myself permission to believe that I am enough and the leadership qualities I possess and demonstrate are authentic and valuable- I just need to be more daring!

# data[].attributes.body
I just need to commit and not give in to the many other distractions. I need to believe that I am worth this time investment and stick to the readings and post-discussions even if I cant show up to the real-time meetings. Support is knowing that I will have all of you to inspire and guide me, even when I get in my own way.

# data[].attributes.body
Getting over the idea of imposter syndrome, understanding difficult conversations don't mean confrontational conversations, and believing in the worthiness of my input.

# data[].attributes.headline
Permission to not feel guilty if I have something else at the same time as this.

# data[].attributes.subject
Permission to not feel guilty if I have something else at the same time as this.

# data[].attributes.headline
Being able to join in on the weeks that I can will keep me accountable to the homework.  I would really like the option of being able to join in on the zoom calls, even if I can't commit to 9 weeks.

# data[].attributes.subject
Being able to join in on the weeks that I can will keep me accountable to the homework.  I would really like the option of being able to join in on the zoom calls, even if I can't commit to 9 weeks.

# data[].attributes.body
1. I have a lot of close friends/family that I  really take what they say about me to heart BUT it really doesn't have a positive  impact on students or my life. I need to focus on whose opinions  actually matter when I'm being true to myself and being vulnerable.
2. Show gratitude  for being with me at my lowest, don't expect them to be there because they are my square squad

# data[].attributes.body
Learn that u

# data[].attributes.body
I try to engineer uncertainty and discomfort in everything I do, especially vulnerability - i take control too much of things

# data[].attributes.body
Being the only administrator in a building of just over 600 is lonely and I've thought I've had to be the only one to handle all the things and have all the answers. I need to collaborate, set boundaries  and ask for support in order to be productive!

# data[].attributes.headline
What Happened to You?  By Oprah Winfrey & Bruce Perry

# data[].attributes.subject
What Happened to You?  By Oprah Winfrey & Bruce Perry

# data[].attributes.body
By Brene' Brown

# data[].attributes.body
Crazy Brave, Joy Harjo
Dare to Lead :)
Legacy
Cassandra Speaks
Leadershift
This Book is Anti-Racist
The Mother In-Law
What Happened to You
Grading for Equity
Real Simple (Magazine)
Lead with Appreciation
Hacking School Discipline
The SPeed of Trust
Daring Greatly
Gifts of Imperfections
Rooted in Strength
Fierce Conversations
The Alchemist
The AP 50 Critical Questions for Meaningful Leadership & Professional Growth
Also, Start with Why
What Great Principals do Differently
Dangerous Women
Good to Great
Soup (Jon Gordon)
Nowhere is a Place
Choice Words
How to Win Friends & Influence People

# data[].attributes.body
Working on being that authentic communicator without worrying what the people outside the square are thinking (or judging).

# data[].attributes.body
Keep sharing stories of the positives and the accomplishments to leverage away the naysayers.

# data[].attributes.body
125 Points of Wisdom, Practical Tips, and Relatable Stories for all Leaders

By Andrew Marotta

He presented at our FASA (Florida Assn of School Admin) conference. Very dynamic and funny speaker. Very practical tips and small reminders of how and what we do as principals to build culture and community.