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I am sorry I can’t do more for you in my capacity. And have to withdraw. There is so much you are dealing with that you don’t deserve. But this relationship we have is not the kind where I can step over boundaries to help you. You wouldn’t want me to do that either. I don’t know - I am just sorry things are the way they are.

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I wish you well. After you left from this world, I teared up as our memories growing up together flashed past me. Strangers to lovers to strangers. It’s crazy that we can choose to love and forget. Please forgive me for hurting your feelings, and for not appreciating your love in its simplest form. In simple days, your smile was enough to make me feel loved. I made my life complicated, somehow I chose that path over you. Please forgive me. I hope that you had your time to love with all your heart, and that you’re safe in heaven.

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Maaf saya terlalu sombong, dan meninggalkan jejak kotor. Tabik

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I’m sorry I cant make myself give you what you want. I think you want and need a level of validation and affection that I am unable to give. Maybe it’s also something you can give yourself. Some from you, some from me, some from other people who care and value you. I wonder what it was like for you, when you were young. I think back to when I was young and you were caring for me. I don’t remember much of it but I do know that there is an absence of lovely memories. You did all you could. But the bond you want with me was never there. I am so sorry I was unable to make it happen now the way you want. I know I could never say this to you. 

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I’m sorry I cant make myself give you what you want. I think you want and need a level of validation and affection that I am unable to give. Maybe it’s also something you can give yourself. Some from you, some from me, some from other people who care and value you. I wonder what it was like for you, when you were young. I think back to when I was young and you were caring for me. I don’t remember much of it but I do know that there is an absence of lovely memories. You did all you could. But the bond you want with me was never there. I am so sorry I was unable to make it happen now the way you want. I know I could never say this to you. 

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i have thought many times how to apologise, but it's hard. it's hard when you feel like you shouldn't be apologising. it's hard when you just want an apology back. but if i have to be the first to say it, then i'm sorry. i am sorry i couldn't be a better daughter. i am sorry i could not live up to who you wanted me to be. it sounds disingenuous but i really am so sorry. i wish we could be happier, together. i wish i could apologise a hundred times over for growing up. for even finding myself. i hope some day we can get along, and the pain isn't so fresh and it doesn't hurt so much. maafkan aku.

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I think this is probably the deepest I have ever hurt someone, and I am so sorry. I am so, so sorry. It's been five months and I can feel the wound starting to scab over but I know it will never heal for each of us. We will just have to find a way to live life around it. But I hope you find it in your heart to retain some affection for me, as I do you. In a way I know I will always love you. I hope you know this.

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Kepada anakku yang tersayang,

Mama rindu mendakapmu di dada. Mama rindu membawamu dalam rahim. Mama meminta maaf kerana tidak menjaga tanggungjawab ini dengan baik.

Mama masih mencari jalan untuk redha dengan dugaan ini. Mama rasa sedih sangat dan masih tidak tahu jika mama boleh melalui semua ini. Terima kasih sayang kerana bersama dengan mama. Mama dapat rasa kasih sayang dan In sha Allah impian keluaraga kami akan terjalin di akhir zaman nanti.

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Why apologizing is important?
-Anonymous

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Many people have complicated feelings about apologies, and not all of our thoughts and feelings about apologies line up. Some of us were forced to apologize as children when we hurt someone, and some of us apologized freely and felt immediately better after having done so. Some people feel shamed by apologizing while others feel ashamed until we have done so.

While a popular movie from decades ago declared that "Love means never having to say you're sorry," many relationship experts warn that never apologizing in a relationship is a sure way to risk losing it.

Positive Outcomes From Giving a Sincere Apology

We may have learned about the need for apologizing when we've hurt a friend-accidentally or otherwise-but do you know why apologizing is really important, and what function a good apology serves? Researchers and psychologists have pinpointed some important reasons why apologizing is necessary when social rules have been violated.

Some of the good things that come from a sincere apology:

Apologizing when you've broken a rule of social conduct-from cutting in line to breaking the law-re-establishes that you know what the "rules" are, and you agree that they should be upheld. This allows others to feel safe knowing you agree that hurtful behavior isn't OK.

Apologies re-establish dignity for those you hurt. Letting the injured party know that you know it was your fault, not theirs, helps them feel better, and it helps them save face.

Apologizing helps repair relationships by getting people talking again, and makes them feel comfortable with each other again.

A sincere apology allows you to let people know you're not proud of what you did, and won't be repeating the behavior. That lets people know you're the kind of person who is generally careful not to hurt others and puts the focus on your better virtues, rather than on your worst mistakes.

Benefits of Apologizing

Relationships can be great sources of stress relief, but conflict can cause considerable stress, which really takes a toll. Learn the art of apologizing effectively and you may find a significant reduction in the negative effects of conflict and relationship stress because apologies help us put the conflict behind us and move on more easily.

There are many benefits that come from forgiveness in terms of and happiness and stress relief as well. In these ways, being adept at apologizing when appropriate can bring the benefits that come with stronger relationships, reduced conflict, and forgiveness-it's well worth the effort.

Why Apologizing Is so Hard for Some People

For some people, an apology often feels like an admission that they are inadequate-that, rather than having made a mistake, there is something inherently wrong with them. Others believe that offering the first apology after an argument is an admission of guilt and responsibility for the entirety of a conflict that involved wrongs on the part of both parties; they think an apology from them will allow the other person to take no responsibility for their own part in the conflict. Sometimes an apology seems to call added attention to a mistake that may have gone unnoticed.

However, in the right circumstances, a well-delivered, appropriately sincere apology will generally avoid all of these issues, and will merely serve to usher in a resolution, reaffirm shared values, and restore positive feelings. You just have to know when and how to deliver your apology.

When Apologizing Is a Good Idea

If something you've done has caused pain for another person, it's a good idea to apologize, even if whatever you did was unintentional. This is because apologizing opens up the doors to communication, which allows you to reconnect with the person who was hurt. It also allows you to express regret that they have been hurt, which lets them know you really care about their feelings; this can help them feel safer with you again.

Creating new rules for the relationship can help you be protected from getting hurt in the future as well. Basically, if you care about the other person and the relationship, and you can avoid offending behavior in the future, an apology is usually a good idea.

This doesn't mean that you need to take responsibility for things that were not your fault. For example, you can express regret at unintentionally hurting someone's feelings, but you don't have to say you "should have known better" if you truly feel there is no way you could have known they would be hurt by your actions-this is where creating a new rule can help. (For example, "I'm sorry I woke you! Now that I know you don't want people to call you after 8 p.m., I will be careful not to do so.")

Taking responsibility also means specifying what you did that you believe was wrong, but can entail gently mentioning what you believe was not wrong on your part. In this way, you protect yourself from the feeling that if you are the first to apologize, you are taking responsibility for the whole conflict, or for the bulk of it.

It is also important to remember that an apology can include a simple statement such as "I am sorry that you felt that way." An apology does not necessarily have to involve stating that you did something wrong. Instead, it may be an acknowledgment that you hurt another person. Sometimes when you don't see eye to eye with another individual, an apology will turn into another argument. ("I am sorry, but...."). You can avoid this kind of circular argument by just acknowledging someone else's feelings and that you hurt them.

When Apologizing May Be a Bad Idea

It is important to note that apologies that involve empty promises are a bad idea. One of the important functions of an apology is that it affords the opportunity to re-establish trust; resolving not to repeat the offending behavior-or to make whatever change is possible-is an important part of an apology.

Don't make promises you can't keep, but do try to make reasonable promises to avoid hurting the person in the future, and the follow through on those promises. If the other person is expecting something unreasonable or impossible, perhaps you're taking responsibility for more than you need to.

Tips for Sincerely Apologizing

An insincere apology can often do more damage than no apology at all. When you are apologizing, it is important to include a few key ingredients so you can apologize sincerely. They should help you to maintain healthy, happy relationships with your friends, family and loved ones.

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The Importance of Apologizing for Relationship Repair

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Many people have complicated feelings about apologies, and not all of our thoughts and feelings about apologies line up. Some of us were forced to apologize as children when we hurt someone, and some of us apologized freely and felt immediately better after having done so.

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This way of thinking and expressing is essential.

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This way of thinking and expressing is essential.

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- Thinking about an apology?

- What is an apology that can satisfy?

- How do you say sorry sincerely?

P7:1SMA wishes to invite community and country to reflect on how apology is expressed in person and in distance.

This way of thinking and expressing is essential. We hope that this can help someone out there. Together, we will soften the way we speak to each other. Let's perform your apology this Syawal 2026.

The meaning of the word “Maaf Zahir & Batin” is not only about celebration, food and new clothes that we buy to use during Syawal / Hari Ray Aidilfitri. It is a time for “atonement” to ask for forgiveness for sins that we may have done knowingly or unknowingly to others by our words, thoughts, deeds and actions. At times we find it so difficult to come forth to ask for forgiveness to those we have hurt unintentionally. This is the best time to ask for forgiveness, or is it? 🫶🏽

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Maaf kan saya. I only see and feel darkness. I am trying my best to love me. I am trying my best to love you. There will be mistakes that I will make along the way. I am afraid to make fatal mistakes. I will learn to pick myself up and love another day of trying again and again. You will teach me more than I will ever know. I don’t want to do this again.

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When something is so mainstreamed, it has lost its purpose and meaning. How many people do you feel mean what they say when they lafazkan "maaf zahir batin". You don't even know what you are apologising for specifically, so it starts on the premise that one is already a sinner, or wrongdoer (but don't know what for) and should have a general attitude of remorse or regretfulness, or maybe humility? But is that really true?

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From the bottom of my heart,
I am sorry for the wrongs I have done to everyone.
I am only human and humans do make mistakes
So please do forgive me

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First and foremost I want to seek forgiveness from everyone that I’ve hurt. Even if I did it knowingly or unknowingly.

I tend to be destructive to myself other others. There is no excuse for the things that I did but I hope you’ll forgive me so that I can learn to forgive myself.

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I fear something that I dare not say.
The calm before the storm.
Before I begin, I apologize that this may not be comforting.

I’m sorry have since lost its meaning.
So how can I move forward when an apology is no longer an option.

I lived and accepted that it is what it is.
Thus I do not regret.

For so many nights I prayed,
I ask that I be forgiven.
Yet I feel no remorse.
So now I ask that my heart be soften again and that I start to feel instead of the numbness that has devoured it entirely. I pray to for heart to heal and all that it has broken; to be healed n lifted from darkness.

Then the night comes and once again I surrender.

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Observing the last sunset of Syawal 1441H (22 June 2020). 
A tribute to an apology. 

Without being able to touch, hug, tear and visit this past months of global pandemic, 
this is a tribute to the collection of apology letters that may or may not have been said in 2020.

We value our community for the generosity in sharing letters that tug heartstrings. 
You can read it here: https://padlet.com/info1623/maafzahirdanbatin

This is an ongoing curiosity by P7:1SMA (Prisma) to ask community to come together. 
Sharing the power of an apology and its relationship to the saying ‘Maaf zahir dan batin'.

Music credit: The Story is Lost by The Caretaker
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Observing the last sunset of Syawal 1441H (22 June 2020). A tribute to an apology.

Music credit: The Story is Lost by The Caretaker
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Reflections on Apology

When I train leaders, sometimes a sincere question is raised in good faith about why we need to apologise.

This has made me believe that one of the most overlooked leadership skills is the skill of offering a clear, sincere and appropriate apology.

There are many reasons why we resist picking up or improving in this skill. I’ll focus on two and talk about why we must embark on a lifelong learning of apology as a skill.

First,
some of us have been trained to believe that apologies are a show of weakness - moral, intellectual, political or otherwise.

This belief could have been engrained by fiercely competent parental/power figures who we deeply respect. They may have learnt it from a previous generation or they have undergone their own significant trauma at the hands of a bullying power figure themself and vowed never to be weak ever again.

We might have learnt from them that to be respected, to be feared, to be dominant, one must never apologise. We might have been taught this explicitly or by modelling.

This is the playbook of observable patterns.

If the case raised against you by an opponent is obviously weak or better yet mistaken, you must seize the opportunity to bring them down. Belittle their incompetence and reliability. Berate then for their stupidity. Make a show of bringing down the weight of your individual and network power on them so people watching understand the high costs of taking you on.

To followers who ask you to consider an alternative way, you can subtly or explicitly belittle them too. You can acknowledge their softness or sweetness but with a tone of pity at their ignorance. Make sure they know that they have no sense of “the real world” and only you do.

The language used by proponents would be all about strength and dominance: being “muscular”, “vigorous”, “expect to be bloodied”, “get your hands dirty”, “watch your back”. Life is about being the rugged and respected, first-to-attack alphas, and your job is to (at best) benignly lead and instruct or (at worst) punish these bullyable betas so they are always on the defence.

If there is any substance to the case, find a way to move on quickly. Even in apology do not offer any word or sign that can be construed as weakness. Find a way to make the apology about you and your strengths.

People do persist in the behaviour because there are obvious gains: not a lot of people in the world know how to handle aggression so you can advance far in the world socially, financially, politically etc by “not being a nice guy”.

Any behavioural pattern comes with gains and costs. The individual cost here is mostly in personal growth, a kind of spiritual satisfaction and vulnerable relationships with others. It’s up to an individual to decide whether those are meaningful life rewards they want for themselves.

There will be an increasing societal cost of having a lot of people who are not personally evolving, not spiritually satisfied and not engaged in vulnerable relationships with others.

A second reason why we resist offering apologies is that the vulnerability and uncertainty is real. It involves interpersonal and group risk.

The most skilfully phrased, well-intentioned of apologies may not be received by a person who is dead set against you. They may double down. They may hit back. They may use your apology against you. They may get smug. They may still choose to remain hurt anyway.

You can’t control how they react. And that’s why sometimes we choose not to apologise. We want to retain some level of control over an uncontrollable situation.

So why learn to apologise?

There are many good reasons (personal growth, justice etc) but I am going to focus just on one overlooked reason.

A clear, sincere and timely apology is sometimes the only thing standing in the way of everyone’s capacity to move on.

Even when something happens between two people, it happens to a group of onlookers who relate themself to the situation because they sincerely care about it, and attach themselves to its closure for some reason.

If something happened that caused misunderstanding, confusion or hurt to you, you yourself need to make psychological and emotional meaning of it to find closure or resolution. Only with closure, can you move on.

You can make meaning and find closure on your own of course but there is the risk that meaning-making on your own can deepen the confusion, misunderstanding or hurt.

When Individuals are left alone to make their own meaning of what the heck happened they may choose to rewrite history in their minds in an even worse light. The risk of not apologising is this: What started small and inconsequential can metasize into something far more poisonous and lethal to the relationship. Trust can never be restored in the worst case scenario.

We engage in the challenging process of sincere apology not to preemptively and artificially close the work for ourselves.

We engage in it so that we can do the self-work of learning, maturing and growing. We engage in it also to help others through their own meaning-making. Meaning-making that is done together has more chance for accuracy and more chance for mutual moving on from the incident.

If you look at the history of families, communities or countries, you can see the high costs of a lack of clear, sincere and timely apologies for mistakes made in the past. The cost is in sheer accumulated hours of actual time, mental energy and emotional energy spent brooding and wondering about the meaning of the incident.

If you are efficiency driven as a leader, a strong case of making accurate apologies is that you save the system plenty of accumulated wasted man-hours of arguing, brooding, water cooler gossiping, Facebooking etc. Empathy is another pathway to efficiency. Sincere empathetic apologies can help people find closure faster and move on faster to do other important work vs dwelling on “he said/she said/ what about/you right I wrong etc”

Whenever people keep bringing up the past, it’s because something never closed for them.

There was no psychological or emotional closure. There is a unit of work that remains open, nagging in our psyche. There is some unfinished business still left to be done there.

When people ask for an apology or grieve for the lack of an apology, we must see it as a request to “help us move on”.

Apologies are not cheap currency. You don’t apologise for everything. You don’t apologise to artificially close off a painful situation. You don’t apologise insincerely.

You take pains to offer a true apology so everyone who is sincerely caring and involved in the situation (not the popcorn eaters and trolls) can move on and move forward into a stronger relationship with each other.

One Facebook post cannot get into the depths of apology as a skill. And I am a learner on the journey of authentic apology just as much as anyone.

If this has raised your interest in apology, do check out Dr Harriet Lerner’s research work into apology.

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i wish i could have you say sorry to me. the hardest thing to accept is that i may never hear it.

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Dear .......

I have not been the nicest. I have never been the wisest. I have never asked for this to happen. I have never asked for an acceptance. I am sorry for not able to keep up to my words. I am sorry for I have been neglecting. I am sorry for not being able to provide you with anything. I am sorry but deserve more.

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I’m sorry Baba for making you mad and disturbing you. I hope that you will be proud of me soon.
From Ayden, 7 years old

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I’m sorry I don’t know how to apologise. I feel there are no words in the whole universe to truly make sense of a sincere apology. No teardrop can justify my apology. I just hope that you can feel my apology.

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I nak mintak maaf selame ini I simpan semua perasaan I. Nak share tapi takut u cakap I merepek. Nak gaduh pun takde energy lagi. Orang tengok macam happy tapi I rase weird seh, takde yang special je. I mintak maaf cos maybe u regret ah dengan I. I cube buat u happy ok.

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I'm sorry I'm gay.
I really am.
I know I shouldn't be, but I am.

I'm sorry that I won't be able to give you a daughter-in-law.
I'm sorry I can't bear you offsprings, but this hurts me as much as it does you.
I'm sorry that I'm not normal.
I'm sorry that I am a sin.
I'm sorry that I am potentially an embarrassment to the family.
I'm sorry that I didn't have a choice.
I'm sorry that I can't change it.

I'm sorry that all I can say is that I'm sorry.

And that I can't bear to let you know, or say sorry to your personally.

- Anon

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I learnt that being genuinely sorry was to have changed behaviour.

I know I betrayed your trust and did what I did. I promised I wouldn't tell, yet I let my temper get the better of me and told the last person I should have.

I know I've apologised by I still wonder, "would I still do it if I could turn back time?"

Yes, I would. My behaviour wouldn't change. To confront the injustice, at the expense of your trust. (However is this being defensive in my apology? Does it make it any less sincere?)

Was I sorry for I did? Yes.
Was I sorry for why I did it? No.

Perhaps it is to myself that I owe an apology. To accept that I'm not the ideal human I had planned to be. I am imperfect, I have a temper that is still being managed.  Is it someone else's forgiveness that I need, or my own?

I'm sorry.
You really don't have to try so hard to be perfect.
You're trying, and that's good enough.

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Come to think of it, could an apology be a selfish act? Sure we do it to make the other party feel better. But we also do it to feel better ourselves. To feel forgiven, to feel like we can put it behind us after everybody else does.

Is that why it's harder to move on for people who can't get closure, or apologise for the last time? Because it does not calm and soothe our own hearts, mind and soul?

So who is an apology for?
To whom do we owe it to?
Do we apologise for others or for ourselves?

- Anon

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http://www.jewishencyclopedia.com/articles/13764-sin-offering

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-Biblical Data:

The sin-offering proper is a sacrifice consisting of either a beast or a fowl and offered on the altar to atone for a sin committed unwittingly. The rules concerning the sin-offering are as follows: If the anointed priest or the whole congregation commits a sin through ignorance, the sin-offering is a young bullock without blemish. Should the ruler so sin, his offering is a male kid without blemish. But when a private individual sins, his offering must be either a female kid or a female lamb without blemish, or, if he is too poor to provide one of these, a turtle-dove.

Sin-offerings were brought on other occasions also. On the Day of Atonement the high priest inaugurated the festival with two sin-offerings-a bullock as his own offering, and a male kid for the congregation. The flesh of these was not eaten, but after the fat had been removed the carcasses were burned outside the camp (Lev. xvi. 3, 5, 10-11, 25, 27). A woman, after the days of her purification had been fulfilled, was required to bring a dove for a sin-offering, in addition to a burnt offering. A leper, on the day of his cleansing, was required to bring, besides other offerings, a female lamb or, if he were too poor, a dove for a sin-offering (Lev. xii. 6; xiv. 10, 19, 22).

Sin-offerings formed a part of inaugural and dedicatory ceremonies. Thus, when Aaron and his sons were inaugurated into the priesthood, one of the sacrifices was a sin-offering consisting of a bullock, the flesh of which was burned outside the camp (Ex. xxix. 1, 10-14; Lev. viii. 14-17). Eight days later Aaron brought a calf, and the Israelites brought a small kid, as sin-offerings (Lev. ix. 2-10). At the dedication of the altar each of the twelve princes offered a male kid (Num. vii. 16 et passim). The sacrifices of those who returned from captivity with Ezra included twelve he-goats (Ezra viii. 35).

Ritual of the Sin-Offering.

The ritual of the sin-offering was as follows: If the victim were a quadruped, the offerer confessed his sins over the head of the victim and slew it himself (comp. Lev. iv. 4, 15, 24, 29). The place of slaughter was on the north side of the altar (comp. ib. i. 11 and ib. iv. 19 [A. V. 25]). The priest took some of the blood and sprinkled it before the veil ( ib. iv. 5 [6]), or, on the Day of Atonement, before the mercy-seat ( ib. xvi. 15); this he did seven times, and then smeared some on the horns of the altar. The remainder of the blood was poured out at the base of the altar of burnt offering. The internal fat of the animal, with the caul, liver, and kidneys, was burned upon the altar of burnt offering. In early times the flesh belonged to the priests (comp. Hos. iv. 8 and Lev. vi. 22 [29]), though it was sacrosanct, making everything which touched it holy, and might be eaten by priests alone. The law of Lev. iv. prescribed that the flesh, together with the hide, head, legs, viscera, and dung, should be burned outside the Temple. The blood was so holy that an earthen vessel which touched it was to be broken, and a brazen vessel scoured ( ib. vi. 21 [28]).

When the victim was a bird the priest pinched off its head with his thumb-nail ( ib. v. 8; but see Jew. Encyc. x. 619b, s. v. Sacrifice), and sprinkled its blood without dividing the carcass. A second bird was offered as a burnt sacrifice. When an offering of fine flour was made, the priest burned a handful of it on the altar and retained the rest for himself ( ib. v. 11-13).

The sin-offering ( ) was an ancient sacrifice. In the later ritual it is associated with the Burnt Offering ( ) and the Guilt-Offering ( ). An early reference to it occurs in Hos. iv. 8. In Ezekiel's proposed reconstruction of the cultus the sin-offering had for its objects: (1) the consecration of the altar (Ezek. xliii. 19 et seq.); (2) the annual cleansing of the sanctuary ( ib. xlv. 18-20); (3) a part of the preparation for the Passover ( ib. xlv. 22); and (4) preparation for the festivals of the New Moon, etc. ( ib. xlv. 15 et seq.). In the first three cases the offering consisted of a bullock, and in the last of lambs. Ezekiel provided also a table in the north porch of the Temple where the sin-offering might be slain or eaten ( ib. xl. 39), and one on the south side where it might be laid or eaten (Ezek. xlii. 13). In accordance with the use of the sin-offering in the consecration of the altar, a late supplementary priestly narrative relates that when the altar of the Tabernacle was dedicated a sin-offering was brought for each of the twelve tribes. In this case the victims were he-goats (comp. Num. vii. 16, 22, et passim).

In Levitical Ritual.

Somewhat akin to the use of the sin-offering in these cases of consecration is its use in the Levitical ritual in ceremonies of purification, i.e., in the removal of a taboo. Several of these taboos are connected with sexual matters, or mysterious diseases. Of these may be noted; (1) cases of gonorrhea (Lev. xv. 14, 15), in which the offering was a turtle-dove or a young pigeon; (2) cases of menorrhagia ( ib. xv. 29, 30), when also the offering was a turtle-dove or a young pigeon; (3) purification after childbirth ( ib. xii. 6), the offering being again a turtle-dove or a young pigeon; (4) it formed a part of the ritual of a leper who had recovered ( ib. xiv. 19), the victim in this case being a ewe lamb (comp. ib. v. 10). With these may be classed (5) the use of the sin-offering as part of the ritual by which a Nazarite's vow was discharged (Num. vi. 14), the victim in this case being a ewe lamb a year old. Evidently the sin-offering in the first four of these cases was offered as a recognition of the mysterious or supernatural character of sexual secretions, childbirth, and leprosy. While the vow of the Nazarite is not really in the same class, yet he also became taboo by virtue of his consecration to the Deity, symbolized by the great length of his hair.

Primitive Origin.

The cases thus far considered have their origin in very primitive thought. A more advanced conception may be looked for in cases where the sin-offering is associated with atonement for the nation. In this connection the Day of Atonement comes under consideration (Lev. xvi.), on which the high priest offered a bullock as a sin-offering for himself and for his house. This was done apparently that the priest might not be slain while performing public duty; it had, therefore, a national significance. Two he-goats were then selected as a sin-offering for the congregation. One of these was selected by lot for Yhwh; the remaining one was for Azazel. The priest then killed the bullock, took the blood together with incense, entered into the Holy Place, and sprinkled the blood on the east side of the mercyseat and "before the mercy-seat" seven times, "that he die not." The blood of the goat that was Yhwh's was brought in and sprinkled in like manner, "to make atonement for the holy place, because of the uncleanness of the children of Israel, and because of their transgressions, even all their sins." The high priest then confessed the sins of the people over the head of the live goat, and it was driven away into the wilderness where Azazel might catch it. Azazel appears to have been a wilderness demon (comp. Ethiopian Book of Enoch, viii. 1; x. 4, 8 et seq.).

Akin to the sin-offering of the high priest on the Day of Atonement was the offering prescribed in one of the latest laws (Lev. iv. 3-12) and which an anointed priest was obliged to offer if he had sinned so as to bring guilt on the congregation. This offering also consisted of a bullock. The same law provided that, if the whole people sinned unwittingly, they should bring, when the sin was known, a young bullock for a sin-offering ( ib. iv. 13-21). These sin-offerings, like those of the Day of Atonement, were of a national character. That which the same law ( ib. iv. 22-26) prescribed for the ruler may have partaken of the same public nature, because of the prominence of the ruler; but this is not stated, and the offering may have been a purely personal one. The victim was in this case a he-goat.

Offenses Expiated.

In Lev. iv. the laws descend finally to the individual. If one of the common people sinned unwittingly (verses 27-32), he was to offer a female goat or a ewe lamb as a sin-offering. The offenses whichdemanded a sin-offering are detailed in Lev. v. 1-6. They are for the most part of a non-moral nature, such as contact with a dead body, with an unclean reptile, or with an unclean discharge from a human being; but two of them have more of a moral character. These latter are (1) cases where a man permits injustice by withholding information ( ib. verse 1), and (2) cases of rash though ignorant swearing to that which turns out to be false ( ib. verse 4). A noticeable feature of Lev. iv. and v. is that the expense of the sacrifice is graded according to the dignity or wealth of the offender. Thus in ch. iv. the offering may be a bullock, a he-goat, a she-goat, or a ewe lamb, while in ch. v. it may be a she-goat, a ewe lamb, a turtle-dove, a young pigeon, or the tenth part of an ephah of fine flour (comp. ib. verses 6, 7, 11).

It is clear that the sin-offering was not primarily an offering for real sins, but for the unconscious violation of mere taboos. It was demanded in the case of actual sins only sporadically, and then only to a slight degree. There is an exception to this in the ritual of the Day of Atonement; but the words in Lev. xvi. 16 which make the sin-offering cover real sins are probably of late date.
Bibliography:

W. R. Smith, Rel. of Sem. 2d ed., pp. 344-352, London. 1904;

Baentsch, Exodus-Leviticus-Numeri, in Nowack's Hand-Kommentar, pp. 373 et seq., Göttingen, 1903.

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Biblical Data: The sin-offering proper is a sacrifice consisting of either a beast or a fowl and offered on the altar to atone for a sin committed unwittingly. The rules concerning the sin-offering are as follows: If the anointed priest or the whole congregation commits a sin through ignorance, the sin-offering is a young bullock without blemish.

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I am sorry for constantly making excuses for other people. People from my ethnic group and their insensitive remarks about others. My coreligionists, for their insensitive remarks and condemnation of those who are different from them. I am sorry for having remained silent and standing there, as I watch them evoke the wrath and damnation of their deity onto others. I am sorry and I cannot pretend any longer.
- anonymous

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i am sorry.

how are you? i should’ve asked you that more. you are good in every sense goodness can be. you gave, expecting nothing in return. in the end you were empty. because i took, with no exchange. that was cold of me. but even in emptiness, you were never cold.

i see you.

in the warmth outside, after months indoors. i feel it, despite the distance. i’m building my own. can you feel it too? i hope so. and so, we started building apart. but i love seeing you grow.

i’ll be better.

for you - the running faces i see in my head. all of you. for me. the one that i’ve hurt too. i’ll pull harder at the weeds that refuse to be pulled. the weeds that have grown within these familiar four walls. let’s meet in newfound warmth one day. i’d really love that.

- Anonymous

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An Apology for Better Life in this World and the Hereafter

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An Apology for Better Life in this World and the Hereafter

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Maafkan saya atas segala perbuatan saya yang telah menguris hati ataupun menanamkan rasa yang tidak baik dalam sanubari awak tentang saya. Sesungguhnya saya manusia yang tidak putus dari dosa dan khilaf. Saya akan terus memperbaiki diri demi kebaikkan dunia dan juga akhirat.
- Anonymous

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I’m sorry that I get so mad at you for not listening to me. I feel like I’m talking to the wall. I’m getting so upset but I don’t know how to express it. I always make things worse and then just walk away. I’m sorry that I can’t help but want to demand from you. See me, look at me. I’m right here, why don’t you see me. I’m sorry if this isn’t what you were expecting, I’ve run out of begging words. I’m sorry that your life is doomed just being with me. I’m so sorry.
- Anonymous

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Dear you,

For;
Being too hurt and broken.
Building walls around me, thinking I'm protecting others when in fact I'm protecting myself.
Not giving enough love because I don't have enough love for myself.
Being too caught up with everything that I lost touch with everything else.
Not being there when needed.
Being too difficult and too hard on myself and to us.
Neglecting, not listening, not sparing a thought.
Becoming insensitive and unaware of what was happening to us.
Invalidating our thoughts and emotions, pushing them aside telling, "Lets not think about that."
Not being enough, and never being enough.
Absence.

I am sorry.
To you.
To everyone.
To myself.

-Anonymous

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I am sorry if my best is not good enough. Please know that I am sincere in my efforts so thank you for your patience.
-Anonymous

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I forgive you so that you remember that We are human. He forgives us unconditionally. Why would u deny me of your forgiveness. We lost. We learn. We let live.
-Anonymous

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Some i did without thinking how much it would hurt you. Maybe it was out of spite for reasons?, maybe it was unintentional. For all that have hurt because of me, my actions or words: i am sorry. I humbly hope you can forgive me even if you cannot forget.
-Anonymous

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I am sorry for not being that person or that idea you want me to be. What lives in your mind is valid and its true. To you.  I am sorry i cannot perform for you anymore. I am me.

Sometimes it is congruous what we believe in, many times it is not. That is okay. I am sorry and I will keep saying I am sorry because you are you and you are me.
-Anonymous

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THANK YOU AND IM SORRY !

Im sorry if i ever neglected you, raise my voice at you, and push you aside when all you wanted was to make sure i live well and not make the mistakes you did when you were younger. You wanted me to have a life better than yours and trust me i got my own version of that. Although there is a lot that is awaiting for me.

Im thankful for your advice, for your endless scoldings, your love and support through everything. I couldnt pay up for all the things you have sarcrifice for me and everybody you love and because of your undying love, I want to be a better version of myself everyday. Along the way i may have fell, made a few mistakes which probably have snowballed and i just couldnt tell you anymore. I hope you forgive me for all the things i didnt do right and one day I want to make you proud. I want to do soo many things for you and hopefully god will be nice to us and let us spend more time so that i can make it up to you. Stay healthy, may god blessed you with great strength, health and wealth.

I love you,mak!
-Anonymous

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Thank you Mama and Abah for all the sacrifices you’ve made to ensure that our family has all we need (and sometimes want). The family has gone through thick and thin and I’m truly happy that we are all still staying under one roof.

I would like to apologise for not being the pious and religious child you hoped for. The both of you did everything right but I just can’t seem to practise as closely as everyone else at home. I do believe in God but there are just some key happenings in the past few years which has made me view religion in a slightly different way.

It breaks my heart every time you tell me that you’ll be questioned on my sins in the after life. When I do these things I usually just think about how it affects me. It’s really unfair that our religion’s principles has gotten you involved when you’ve truly done nothing wrong.

To let you know, my life philosophy right now is about being a better human being, which may or may not involve praying five times a day. I really hope that you’ll be more accepting of this person I’ve become.

(Dear God, could you please make sure that both of my parents earn a place in heaven, please.)
- Anonymous

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Social media’s impact on mental health by Nurin Nazifa Binte Mohd Yusoff

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Magazine Article

Abstract

I recently came across a CNN article1 that discussed social media's impact on mental health. It highlightedthe findings of a UK-based study conducted by the RoyalSociety for Public Health, and involved around 1,500 young people aged between 14 to 24 years. Entitled#StatusofMind, it reported that out of many popular social media platforms, Instagram demonstrated the most negative effects on users' mental health, evoking in them feelings of inadequacy, anxiety, depression, loneliness, worthlessness and body image issues. Snapchat came closely behind, followed by Facebook and Twitter. YouTube, on the other hand, was found to have a positive effect on mental health.

Discipline

Technology and Innovation

Publisher/Conference

Singapore Management University

Copyright Owner and License

Singapore Management University

Citation

Binte Mohd Yusoff, Nurin Nazifa. Overcome FOMO: Five easy steps, one social media platform at a time. (2019). 53-56. Social Space.
Available at: https://ink.library.smu.edu.sg/lien_research/166

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"Overcome FOMO: Five easy steps, one social media platform at a time" by Nurin Nazifa Binte Mohd Yusoff

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I recently came across a CNN article1 that discussed social media's impact on mental health. It highlightedthe findings of a UK-based study conducted by the RoyalSociety for Public Health, and involved around 1,500 young people aged between 14 to 24 years.

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Dear Darlings,

Some of us are not fortunate to have the luxury of time and especially resources. Many of us either parents have to do what it takes just to get by...

U may not understand it now but surely one day u would...tho i do not wish for u to go thru it..

I'm sorry I couldn't be there as promised... daddy loves u unconditionally...

Daddy di perbatasan...

-Anonymous

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Fakultas Psikologi Universitas Islam Indonesia

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Oleh: Dr. H. Fuad Nashori, S.Psi., M.Si., M.Ag., Psikolog

Salah satu kehidupan manusia adalah suka berbuat salah dan dosa. Manusia membutuhkan cara untuk menutupi kekurangannya itu, khususnya dosa yang terarah kepada sesama manusia. Saat orang lain berbuat salah dan dosa yang terarah kepada kita, kita diajari untuk memaafkan. Saat kita berbuat salah dan dosa kepada orang lain, kita diajari untuk meminta maaf. Tulisan ini akan melakukan kajian terhadap dua hal di atas, yaitu memaafkan dan meminta maaf.
Sabar dan Memaafkan
Dalam kehidupan sehari-hari ada saja perbuatan orang lain yang tidak berkenan bahkan menyakitkan hati kita. Bila kita menyimpannya dalam hati, rasa sakit itu ternyata menimbulkan berbagai dampak fisik dan psikologis. Sakit hati membahayakan kesehatan jantung dan sistem peredaran darah (William & William, 1993), kanker, tekanan darah, tukak lambung, flu, sakit kepala, sakit telinga (Pennabaker, 2003). Sakit hati juga menjadikan hati manusia dipenuhi marah, dendam dan benci kepada orang lain yang dipersepsi merugikannya. Ini menjadi sumber stres dan depresi manusia. Hati yang dipenuhi energi negatif, akan mengarahkan individu untuk berkata-kata yang destruktif, baik dalam bentuk rerasan, pengungkapan kemarahan di depan publik, maupun hujatan. Dampak lebih jauh adalah kekerasan, termasuk di dalamnya mutilasi.
Bagaimana semestinya kita menyikapi perilaku orang lain yang mengganggu kita? Jawaban pertama adalah kesabaran. Allah 'azza wa jalla (QS al-Baqarah <2>: 155-156) berfirman:

"Dan sungguh Kami akan berikan cobaan kepadamu, dengan ketakutan, kelaparan, kehilangan harta dan jiwa. Namun, berikanlah berita gembira kepada orang-orang yang sabar, yaitu orang yang apabila ditimpa musibah mengucapkan 'sesungguhnya kami milik Allah dan kepada-Nyalah kami kembali' (inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raji'un).

Yang harus menjadi kepastian dalam diri kita adalah apapun yang terjadi, termasuk perilaku orang lain yang menyakitkan hati kita, terjadi karena Allah 'azza wa jalla mengizinkannya. Tidak mungkin suatu peristiwa terjadi kalau Allah tidak mengizinkannya. Seekor nyamuk tak akan menyentuh kulit apalagi sampai menghisap darah kita kalau Allah tidak mengizinkan. Tidak mungkin ada tamparan mendarat di muka kita kalau Allah tidak mengizinkan. Kalau Allah menghendaki atau mengizinkan suatu kerugian menimpa kita, pasti Allah punya maksud. Maksud utamanya adalah menguji kita dengan cara memberi cobaan kepada kita. Bila punya cara berpikir ilahiyah sebagaimana di atas, maka kita akan sampai kepada pemahaman "Allah sedang menguji saya". Orang yang mampu bersabar, maka Allah bersamanya. Innallaha ma'ash-shabirin.
Menarik untuk menjadi catatan kita sebuah penelitian yang dilakukan oleh Sofyan Trenggana (UII, 2008). Hasil penelitian menunjukkan bahwa ada korelasi antara intensitas puasa (senin-kamis) dengan kesabaran. Puasa melatih seseorang untuk merelevankan setiap perilakunya dengan Allah. Puasa senin dan kamis, sebagaimana penelitian di atas, dapat mengubah diri seseorang untuk menjadi lebih sabar. Lebih-lebih kalau puasa itu dilakukan secara terus-menerus sebagaimana halnya kita lakukan di bulan ramadhan. Pastilah efek yang ditimbulkannya lebih besar, dalam hal ini adalah melatih kesabaran seseorang.
Jawaban kedua adalah memaafkan. Allah 'azza wa jalla dalam al-Qur'an (QS al-Maidah, 5:15) berfirman:

"(Tetapi) karena mereka melanggar janjinya, Kami kutuki mereka, dan Kami jadikan hati mereka keras membatu. Mereka suka merubah perkataan (Allah) dari tempat-tempatnya, dan mereka (sengaja) melupakan sebagian dari apa yang mereka telah diperingatkan dengannya, dan kamu (Muhammad) senantiasa akan melihat kekhianatan dari mereka kecuali sedikit diantara mereka (yang tidak berkhianat), maka maafkanlah mereka dan biarkan mereka, sesungguhnya Allah menyukai orang-orang yang berbuat baik".

Memaafkan adalah proses untuk menghentikan perasaan dendam, jengkel, atau marah karena merasa disakiti atau didzalimi. Lebih dari itu, pemaafan juga proses menghidupkan sikap dan perilaku positif terhadap orang lain yang pernah menyakiti . Oleh Nashori (2014), pemaafan dapat diartikan kesediaan untuk meninggalkan hal-hal yang tidak menyenangkan yang bersumber dari hubungan interpersonal dengan orang lain dan menumbuhkembangkan pikiran, perasaan, dan hubungan interpersonal yang positif dengan orang lain yang melakukan pelanggaran secara tidak adil
Memaafkan memang tidak mudah. Butuh proses dan perjuangan untuk melakukannya. Adanya kebaikan bagi diri kita dan bagi orang lain akan menjadikan memaafkan menjadi sesuatu yang mungkin dilakukan. Seorang ahli psikologi dari Universitas Stanford California, Frederic Luskin (Martin, 2003), pernah melakukan eksperimen memaafkan pada sejumlah orang. Hasil penelitian Luskin menunjukkan bahwa memaafkan akan menjadikan seseorang: (a) Jauh lebih tenang kehidupannya. Mereka juga (b): tidak mudah marah, tidak mudah tersinggung, dan dapat membina hubungan lebih baik dengan sesama. Dan yang pasti, mereka (c) semakin jarang mengalami konflik dengan orang lain.
Para ahli psikologi mempercayai bahwa memaafkan memiliki efek yang sangat positif bagi kesehatan. Pemaafan (forgiveness) merupakan salah satu karakter positif yang membantu individu mencapai tingkatan optimal dalam hal kesehatan fisik, psikologis, dan spiritual. Pada beberapa tahun belakangan, pemaafan semakin populer sebagai psikoterapi atau sebagai suatu cara untuk menerima dan membebaskan emosi negatif seperti marah, depresi, rasa bersalah akibat ketidakadilan, memfasilitasi penyembuhan, perbaikan diri, dan perbaikan hubungan interpersonal dengan berbagai situasi permasalahan (Walton, 2005). Pemaafan selanjutnya secara langsung mempengaruhi ketahanan dan kesehatan fisik dengan mengurangi tingkat permusuhan, meningkatkan sistem kekebalan pada sel dan neuro-endokrin, membebaskan antibodi, dan mempengaruhi proses dalam sistem saraf pusat (Worthington & Scherer, 2004).
Pada saat berpuasa, kesediaan kita untuk memaafkan juga tinggi. Kita memiliki semangat yang tinggi untuk memperoleh pahala dan menguras dosa-dosa kita. Maka, saat lebaran datang, kita bahkan mengobral pemaafan. Semoga pemaafan tidak hanya di bibir, tapi sampai di hati. Allah 'azza wa jalla melalui Al-Qur'an (QS Ali Imran, 3: 159) memberikan resep agar pemaafan tuntas, yakni memohonkan ampunan bagi mereka serta bermusyawarah.

Maka disebabkan rahmat dari Allah-lah kamu berlaku lemah lembut terhadap mereka. Sekiranya kamu bersikap keras lagi berhati kasar, tentulah mereka menjauhkan diri dari sekelilingmu. Karena itu maafkanlah mereka, mohonkanlah ampun bagi mereka, dan bermusyawaratlah dengan mereka dalam urusan itu. Kemudian apabila kamu telah membulatkan tekad, maka bertawakkallah kepada Allah. Sesungguhnya Allah menyukai orang-orang yang bertawakkal kepada-Nya.

Termasuk pengertian memohonkan ampun bagi mereka adalah mendoakan kebaikan bagi mereka, mengusahakan kebaikan bagi mereka, dan sebagainya. Melalui ayat tersebut, Allah juga memerintahkan manusia agar luka yang pernah ada jangan sampai semakin menganga dikarenakan munculnya sebab kemarahan, yaitu dengan bermusyawarah. Oleh karena itu, bermusyawarahlah sebagaimana disampaikan ayat di atas dimaksudkan agar dua orang atau lebih yang pernah konflik hendaknya membuat kesepakatan-kesepakatan sebelum bekerjasama lagi agar peristiwa yang menyakitkan hati tidak lagi terulang.

Meminta Maaf
Dalam al-Qur'an, sebagaimana diungkapkan ahli tafsir terkemuka di Indonesia, M. Quraish Shihab (2011), tidak ditemukan perintah untuk meminta maaf. Namun, dalam al-Hadits ditemukan perintah untuk berusaha dihalalkan dosa-dosa kita kepada saudara kita, yang berarti kita diminta untuk meminta maaf atau dimaafkan. Hal ini sebagaimana diungkapkan sebuah hadis Nabi saw.
Abu Hurairah berkata, telah bersabda Rasulullah Saw, "Barangsiapa pernah melakukan kedzaliman terhadap saudaranya, baik menyangkut kehormatannya atau sesuatu yang lain, maka hendaklah ia minta dihalalkan darinya hari ini, sebelum dinar dan dirham tidak berguna lagi (hari kiamat). (Kelak) jika dia memiliki amal shaleh, akan diambil darinya seukuran kedzalimannya. Dan jika dia tidak mempunyai kebaikan (lagi), akan diambil dari keburukan saudara (yang dizalimi) kemudian dibenankan kepadanya. (HR Al-Bukhari).

Salah satu pengetahuan yang sudah lama kita simpan berkaitan dengan masalah ini adalah dosa orang tidak dimaafkan kecuali korban atau orang yang dirugikan memberi maaf. Memang ada kemungkinan orang yang menjadi korban dari perbuatan dzalim kita akan memberi maaf. Namun, ada kemungkinan juga dia tidak memberikan maaf. Dia simpan kebencian dan kemarahan dalam hatinya. Kalau itu yang terjadi, dosa tetap tersandang dalam diri kita.
Karenanya, pilihan yang lebih proaktif, yaitu meminta maaf, menjadi pilihan yang lebih menjamin kepastian dihapuskannya dosa-dosa. Meminta maaf jelas merupakan salah satu bentuk kerendahhatian (tawadhu') pribadi dan tentu juga merupakan salah satu bentuk keberanian manusia.
Kita percaya bahwa sekalipun suatu perbuatan salah atau memalukan kita lakukan, tetap ada jalan bagi seseorang untuk memperbaiki diri. Jalan untuk menghapus perbuatan yang memalukan atau perbuatan salah adalah menghapus kesalahan dengan jalan sosial (meminta maaf kepada orang lain) dan spiritual (bertaubat kepada Tuhan) dan melakukan perbuatan yang baik dengan jalan sosial (berbuat positif kepada sesama) dan spiritual (berbuat baik kepada Tuhan).
Satu hal positif yang semestinya dilakukan untuk menghapus perbuatan salah adalah meminta maaf. Kalau perbuatan salah itu terarah kepada seseorang, pemintaan maaf mestinya diarahkan kepada seseorang atau keluarga yang menjadi korban. Bila kesalahan itu tertuju kepada banyak orang, maka permintaan maaf itu semestinya dilakukan secara terbuka, melalui pers.
Selain itu, permintaan maaf sesungguhnya punya manfaat agar orang-orang yang menjadi objek dari perbuatan salah tidak melakukan tindakan yang destruktif dan agresif (Baron & Byrne, 2014). Sebagaimana kita ketahui, seringkali orang yang menjadi objek kedzaliman melakukan pembalasan dengan cara yang lebih keras. Temuan dalam psikologi sosial menunjukkan bahwa agresivitas lebih sering didasari oleh alasan membalas perkataan atau perbuatan agresif orang lain. Yang jadi permasalahan adalah balasan itu umumnya lebih keras dibanding rasa sakit yang diterima seseorang.
Permintaan maaf ini berguna untuk meredam amarah yang ada dalam diri orang yang didzalimi. Penyesalan atas kata-kata atau perbuatan di masa lalu serta janji untuk tidak mengulangi perbuatan salah berfungsi untuk meredam amarah yang bergejolak dalam diri seseorang yang disakiti.
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Menghapus Dosa dengan Memaafkan dan Meminta Maaf - Fakultas Psikologi Universitas Islam Indonesia

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Oleh: Dr. H. Fuad Nashori, S.Psi., M.Si., M.Ag., Psikolog Salah satu kehidupan manusia adalah suka berbuat salah dan dosa. Manusia membutuhkan cara untuk menutupi kekurangannya itu, khususnya dosa yang terarah kepada sesama manusia. Saat orang lain berbuat salah dan dosa yang terarah kepada kita, kita diajari untuk memaafkan.

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Public Penitence: Facebook and the Performance of Apology - Kimberly Hall, 2020

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This article explores the 2018 apology campaign launched by Facebook in the wake of the Cambridge Analytica scandal. While the campaign has largely been read as a failure, this article reads the fi...

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Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri to all our Muslim friends...our very best wishes to all as you celebrate the end of Ramadan, the fasting month!

Hari Raya Aidilfitri is a time where Muslim families and friends seek forgiveness from each other, visit their ancestors' graves, say prayers at the mosque, and visit relatives and friends to feast on traditional Malay delicacies. In Singapore and Malaysia, children are also given token sums of money from their parents or elders.

The most common greeting used by Muslims in Singapore is " Selamat Hari Raya". Another greeting is " Maaf Zahir Dan Batin", which translates loosely to " I seek forgiveness (from you) physically and spiritually ".

As the later greeting suggests, Hari Raya Aidilfitri is a time of forgiveness within the Muslim community. In particular, many Muslims make it a point to forgive others, and to ask forgiveness from their father and their mother for the wrongs they have committed over the past year. This is a laudable act of honour to one's father and mother - freely offered from the heart as an expression of gratitude, respect, concern and, above all, honour. It is an act of honour that wipes the slate clean, and enables one to move forward and live life light.

Not choosing to forgive is akin to us drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. When we do not forgive others, they become a burden that we carry around on our minds, spirits, and souls.

In his book, " Forgive for Good", Dr Fred Luskin, the cofounder and director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Project stated that research has emerged over the past decade to show that " learning to forgive is good for both your mental and physical well-being and your relationships" as forgiveness "has been shown to reduce depression, increase hopefulness, decrease anger...increase emotional self-confidence, and help heal relationships".

All of us should thus learn from this healthy annual practice of our Muslim friends, and make a daily effort to forgive those who offend us and seek forgiveness from those we have wronged till it becomes a natural, authentic part of ourselves - not as a show of false goodness, but an authentic outpouring out of love and honour...if not for the sake of others...for ourselves!

As Mahatma Gandhi said: " The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."So, let's be strong, and choose to forgive and ask for forgiveness!
Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri!
Photo Credit:
http://mile.mmu.edu.my/orion/sharifah/files/2012/08/Hari-Raya-Puasa.jpg
Info sources:
http://explorer.justenglish.com/magazine/special-event/hari-raya-aidilfitri http://eresources.nlb.gov.sg/infopedia/articles/SIP_919_2004-12-20.html

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Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri... Be strong and choose to forgive! - Honour Singapore

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Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri to all our Muslim friends...our very best wishes to all as you celebrate the end of Ramadan, the fasting month! Hari Raya Aidilfitri is a time where Muslim families and friends seek forgiveness from each other, visit their ancestors' graves, say prayers at the mosque, and visit relatives and friends to feast on traditional Malay delicacies.

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Imagine that you are asking for forgiveness. Without being able to touch, hug, tear and visit due to the departed, distanced or strained relationships etc. please share your apology here.

Please know that you are not broken. You are not alone. Your apology will be felt in all of our hearts. Together, we will soften the way we speak to each other.

You decide who it is for.
These prompts are just openings and can be disregarded.

What will you say to minta maaf / say sorry to different people?

What are you apologising for? How will you say sincerely?

Steps:

1. Choose a format that is most sincere to you. Please OWN it.

2. Format: letter/ video/ audio/photo/ up to you lah

3. Use any language or body language.

4. You can use your name or remain anonymous.

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Kami insan biasa yang sering melakukan kesalahan. Tiada yang sempurna di dunia ini, tapi sama-samalah kita cuba untuk selalu memperbaiki diri.

Kami ingin bertanya tentang “ayat” yang selalu digunakan di pagi Aidilfitri, dalam kad-kad dan mesej ucapan hari raya.

Apabila kita memohon maaf zahir dan batin, apa yang kita mengharapkan?

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Saya ingin minta maaf dengan cikgu kerana selalu susahkan cikgu dan semua. Ada kalanya, ramai yang mengutuk dan menuduh cikgu tidak pandai mendidik anak. Tapi, cikgu selalu memberi saya ruang untuk mengatur langkah dan memberi nasihat tentang hidup dan mati. Seni itu ruang yang penting untuk saya memahami buah fikiran dan menjaga kesihatan. Saya amat berterima kasih kerana cikgu menerima saya di dalam keluarga ini. Saya sedar bahawa ada yang rasa malu dengan tindakan saya. Membuat cikgu malu. Saya minta maaf kerana saya tidak dapat menipu diri. Saya berdoa dan mengharap yang naluri minda dan badan saya untuk berkarya ini juga atas niat untuk menolong dan menyatukan hati diantara yang ramai. Saya tidak pandai menjaga mulut dan hanya mampu meminta maaf atas malu yang datang bersama dengan saya. Harap halalkan makan dan minum saya dan terima kasih cikgu kerana memberi saya semangat di dalam senyuman dan juga berdiam diri.
-Anonymous

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How the world is now🌎
When we open our eyes, our hearts and our minds.

My apology is for being ignorant.

For justifying my wrong for a greater cause.

Alive but not living.

Complaining instead of doing.

Loving but not caring.

Voicing out but remain silent.

I apologize for me and others like me.

- Anonymous

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Dear you,
I'm sorry. I'm sorry that I gave too much, and I'm sorry that I gave too little.
I'm sorry that I can't help you love yourself more, even though I desperately want that for you.
I'm sad that you don't need me that much.
I'm sorry that I need(ed) you.
I'm okay now, thank you for helping me be okay.
I'll always be here.
I hope you can forgive me, I hope you can forgive yourself.
Love, me.

- Anonymous

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I’m sorry i’m not who you want me to be.

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Your apologies will be shared to public via @p71sma instagram during the last sunset of Syawal 2026.

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Your apologies will be shared to public via @p71sma instagram during the last sunset of Syawal 2026.