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https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/most-likely-to-succeed-documentary-film-screening-tickets-45134862589

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Toxic shame : a poem to help us empathise deeper with our clients ( and ourselves ) ;Warning : Powerful! To be read when feeling grounded!

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Toxic shame : a poem to help us empathise deeper with our clients ( and ourselves ) ;Warning : Powerful! To be read when feeling grounded!

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It is by Leo Booth/John Bradshaw

My Name Is Toxic Shame

I was there at your conception
In the epinephrine of your mother’s shame
You felt me in the fluid of your mother’s womb
I came upon you before you could speak
Before you understood
Before you had any way of knowing
I came upon you when you were learning to walk
When you were unprotected and exposed
When you were vulnerable and needy
Before you had any boundaries
MY NAME IS TOXIC SHAME

I came upon you when you were magical
Before you could know I was there
I severed your soul
I pierced you to the core
I brought you feelings of being flawed and defective
I brought you feelings of distrust, ugliness, stupidity, doubt
worthlessness, inferiority, and unworthiness
I made you feel different
I told you there was something wrong with you
I soiled your Godlikeness
MY NAME IS TOXIC SHAME

I existed before conscience
Before guilt
Before morality
I am the master emotion
I am the internal voice that whispers words of condemnation
I am the internal shudder that courses through you without any
mental preparation
MY NAME IS TOXIC SHAME

I live in secrecy
In the deep moist banks of darkness
depression and despair
Always I sneak up on you I catch you off guard I come through
the back door
Uninvited unwanted
The first to arrive
I was there at the beginning of time
With Father Adam, Mother Eve
Brother Cain
I was at the Tower of Babel the Slaughter of the Innocents
MY NAME IS TOXIC SHAME

I come from “shameless” caretakers, abandonment, ridicule,
abuse, neglect – perfectionistic systems
I am empowered by the shocking intensity of a parent’s rage
The cruel remarks of siblings
The jeering humiliation of other children
The awkward reflection in the mirrors
The touch that feels icky and frightening
The slap, the pinch, the jerk that ruptures trust
I am intensified by
A racist, sexist culture
The righteous condemnation of religious bigots
The fears and pressures of schooling
The hypocrisy of politicians
The multigenerational shame of dysfunctional
family systems
MY NAME IS TOXIC SHAME

I can transform a woman person, a Jewish person, a black
person, a gay person, an oriental person, a precious child into
A bitch, a kike, a nigger, a bull dyke, a faggot, a chink, a selfish
little bastard
I bring pain that is chronic
A pain that will not go away
I am the hunter that stalks you night and day
Every day everywhere
I have no boundaries
You try to hide from me
But you cannot
Because I live inside of you
I make you feel hopeless
Like there is no way out
MY NAME IS TOXIC SHAME

My pain is so unbearable that you must pass me on to others
through control, perfectionism, contempt, criticism, blame,
envy, judgment, power, and rage
My pain is so intense
You must cover me up with addictions, rigid roles, re-enactment,
and unconscious ego defenses.
My pain is so intense
That you must numb out and no longer feel me.
I convinced you that I am gone – that I do not exist –
you experience absence and emptiness.
MY NAME IS TOXIC SHAME

I am the core of co-dependency
I am spiritual bankruptcy
The logic of absurdity
The repetition compulsion
I am crime, violence, incest, rape
I am the voracious hole that fuels all addictions
I am instability and lust
I am Ahaverus the Wandering Jew, Wagner’s Flying Dutchman,
Dostoyevski’s underground man, Kierkegaard’s seducer,
Goethe’s Faust
I twist who you are into what you do and have
I murder your soul and you pass me on for generations
MY NAME IS TOXIC SHAME

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This seems a useful resource on therapist s limits approached by a person centred perspective
( I haven’t yet read it but seems a catchy title for pc therapists )

Therapist Limits in Person-Centred Therapy by Lisbeth

https://www.pccs-books.co.uk/authors/lisbeth-sommerbeck

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Title “Person centred work with children and young people
Uk practitioner perspectives “ by Tracey Walshaw and Suzanne Keys ; also take note of this site for reductions to students every now and then!)

https://www.pccs-books.co.uk/products/person-centred-work-with-children-and-young-people-uk-practitioner-perspect/

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A really useful paper exploring working with shame in the therapeutic room to give you an informed understanding on how shame operates in the room and how to sensitively approach it , some of the things suggested could be framed ina really person centred manner for the benefit of the client

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COUNSELLORS IN COURT ...A VERY USEFUL RESOURCE TO REFELCT ON THE POSSIBILITY OF COUNSELLOR NOTES BEEN CALLED INTO COURT

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very useful resource by Peter Jenkins , latest edition on issues around ethics and Law. 

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very useful resource by Peter Jenkins , latest edition on issues around ethics and Law. 

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Professional Practice in Counselling and Psychotherapy: Ethics and the Law (Sage, 2017).

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http://mediastream.buffalo.edu/Content/sw/field/Orientation_web/Morrissey.pdf

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Using Creative Techniques With Children Who Have Experienced Trauma

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This is the book i had mentioned in one of our sessions. A lovely moving deeply person centred journey. Well worth a read