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Remember That Everyone Makes Mistakes

It's important to remember that everyone makes mistakes. We all mess up; it's part of being human. And so we shouldn't take ourselves too seriously; we should learn to laugh at ourselves and brush it off when we mess up.

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Meditation

Meditation is a good way to improve self esteem. Many people don't consider it but there are a lot of benefits to meditation. Meditation can even help with depression. Meditation is a journey within your self and helps you understand yourself as well as be friends with yourself. I suggest everyone gives it a try,

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There are two very specific ways meditation can help you transform a lack of self-esteem into inner confidence and self-belief. First, it enables you to meet, greet and make friends with yourself. You get to know who you really are, and to accept and embrace every part. You'll soon find that your doubts, insecurities or fears are really only superficial, as you begin to connect with a deeper place of trust, dignity and self-worth.

Second, it awakens you to the inter-connection between everyone, the sense that you are not alone here. Rather, you are a part of this wondrous planet, and the more you extend yourself with kindness, the less you will be focused on your own limitations. Discovering your inter-connection takes you from a place of self-centeredness to other-centeredness.

As you bring acceptance and loving kindness to yourself, you may uncover the deeper belief that you do not deserve to be happy, that you do not believe you are good enough-a sort of built-in self-destruction clause. As Oprah says: "What you believe has more power than what you dream or wish or hope for. You become what you believe." So you invite kindness into that self-negation and lack of self-esteem, until such uncertainty dissolves in love.

Loving Self-Meditation
Find a comfortable and upright place to sit. Take a few deep breaths, and watch the flow of your breath as it enters and leaves.

Bring your focus to your heart, and as you breathe in, feel as if your heart is opening and softening; as you breathe out, release any tension or resistance.

Now bring into your heart either an image of yourself or repeat your name, and hold yourself in your heart, tenderly and gently. Silently repeat, "May I be freed from self-doubt, may I be happy, may all things go well for me."

Keep breathing into your heart, holding yourself with love and repeating the words. This will generate a deep, loving kindness and appreciation for yourself.

When you are ready, take a deep breath and let it go. Then go about your day with a caring heart and a smile on your lips.

Ed and Deb Shapiro are the authors of Be the Change, How Meditation Can Transform You and the World. They are featured weekly contributors to Oprah.com, HuffingtonPost.com and Care2.com. Ed and Deb write Sprint's The Daily CHILLOUT inspirational text messages. They have three meditation CDs: Metta: Loving Kindness and Forgiveness, Samadhi: Breath Awareness and Insight and Yoga Nidra: Inner Conscious Relaxation. Deb is also the author of the best-selling book Your Body Speaks Your Mind, winner of the 2007 Visionary Book Award.

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Feeling Insecure? How to Get a Self-Esteem Boost

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Thinking Positive

Whenever you think about the positive things about you rather than the negative, you will get a happy surprise. We all mope around too much about the negatives, but we should all take a moment to think about the things we are doing that are good and the things we should be proud of. Improving your inner dialogue to yourself can also improve how you feel. Instead of repeating lines like "I am doing it all wrong" or "I can't do this," say things like "I can do this" and "I will be able to do this right."
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Before you can bring back or improve your self esteem, you first need to know what brings down your self esteem. Once you have identified the problem, you think about why that thing is bringing your self esteem down and then you challenge that problem, you need to face that problem head-on and finally adjust that your thinking or belief to a positive one that will help bring up your self esteem.

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The key to improving self esteem is very clear. Long sessions of meditation. You have to think deep to yourself and know all the negative thoughts you have ever had towards yourself are completely wrong and not warranted. Nobody is perfect and negative thoughts are natural. But you have the power to look deep in yourself and be successful.

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Don't be too hard on yourself. Think about the things you can change and don't think about the things you can't change nobody is perfect, everybody makes mistakes. Think about the  positive things and the things you enjoy to do.

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It seems we all want to know how to improve self-esteem these days.

Life can be hard. And who is usually hardest on you? Yourself. There's that negative voice in your head criticizing you. And sometimes you can't shut it up.

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It seems we all want to know how to improve self-esteem these days.

Life can be hard. And who is usually hardest on you? Yourself. There's that negative voice in your head criticizing you. And sometimes you can't shut it up.

So the answer is to boost your self-esteem, right? We've seen an explosion of this kind of thinking lately, that self-esteem is the answer to everything.

But it's had some negative effects on the world too - like an epidemic of narcissism.

Via Self-Compassion, a 2011 book by researcher Kristin Neff:

This emphasis on high self-esteem at all costs has also led to a worrying trend toward increasing narcissism. Twenge and colleagues examined the scores of more than fifteen thousand college students who took the Narcissistic Personality Inventory between 1987 and 2006. During the twenty-year period, scores went through the roof, with 65 percent of modern-day students scoring higher in narcissism than previous generations.

Oh, and there's one other teensy weensy little problem with trying to boost self-esteem to deal with that critical voice...

It doesn't work.

Self-esteem ain't the answer.

This focus on improving self-esteem got to the point where the State of California started a task force and gave it $250,000 a year to raise children's self-esteem.

They expected this to boost grades and reduce bullying, crime, teen pregnancy and drug abuse.

Guess what? It was a total failure in almost every category.

Reports on the efficacy of California's self-esteem initiative, for instance, suggest that it was a total failure. Hardly any of the program's hoped-for outcomes were achieved.

What?!? Self-esteem is supposed to cure everything, right? Wrong.

Research shows self-esteem doesn't cause all those good things. It's just a side effect of healthy behavior. So artificially boosting it doesn't work.

In one influential review of the self-esteem literature, it was concluded that high self-esteem actually did not improve academic achievement or job performance or leadership skills or prevent children from smoking, drinking, taking drugs, and engaging in early sex. If anything, high self-esteem appears to be the consequence rather than the cause of healthy behaviors.

(For the science-based secret to never being frustrated again, click here.)

Uh-oh. The cure-all is a cure-nothing. So what do we do?

Researchers have found an answer to feeling much better about yourself - but it's not improving self-esteem.

Forget self-esteem. Try self-compassion.

Stop lying to yourself that you're so awesome. Instead, focus on forgiving yourself when you're not. Why?

Research shows increasing self-compassion has all the benefits of self-esteem - but without the downsides.

The bottom line is that according to the science, self-compassion appears to offer the same advantages as high self-esteem, with no discernible downsides. The first thing to know is that self-compassion and self-esteem do tend to go together. If you're self-compassionate, you'll tend to have higher self-esteem than if you're endlessly self-critical. And like high self-esteem - self-compassion is associated with significantly less anxiety and depression, as well as more happiness, optimism, and positive emotions. However, self-compassion offers clear advantages over self-esteem when things go wrong, or when our egos are threatened.

Self-compassion reduces anxiety. Self-esteem doesn't.

Participants' self-compassion levels, but not their self-esteem levels, predicted how much anxiety they felt. In other words, self-compassionate students reported feeling less self-conscious and nervous than those who lacked self-compassion, presumably because they felt okay admitting and talking about their weak points. Students with high self-esteem, by contrast, were no less anxious than those with low self-esteem, having been thrown off balance by the challenge of discussing their failings.

When you're self-compassionate you feel less embarrassed when you screw up. Self-esteem doesn't help here.

Another study required people to imagine being in potentially embarrassing situations: being on a sports team and blowing a big game, for instance, or performing in a play and forgetting one's lines. How would participants feel if something like this happened to them? Self-compassionate participants were less likely to feel humiliated or incompetent, or to take it too personally. Instead, they said they would take things in their stride, thinking thoughts like "Everybody goofs up now and then" and "In the long run, this doesn't really matter." Having high self-esteem, however, made little difference. Those with both high and low self-esteem were equally likely to have thoughts like "I'm such a loser" or "I wish I could die." Once again, high self-esteem tends to come up empty-handed when the chips are down.

Want to feel more self-worth? Guess who wins? Yup. Self-compassion.

...self-compassion was clearly associated with steadier and more constant feelings of self-worth than self-esteem. We also found that self-compassion was less likely than self-esteem to be contingent on particular outcomes like social approval, competing successfully, or feeling attractive. When our sense of self-worth stems from being a human being intrinsically worthy of respect - rather than being contingent on obtaining certain ideals - our sense of self-worth is much less easily shaken.

And guess who's more likely to be narcissistic? Those with self-esteem, not self-compassion.

In fact, a striking finding of the study was that people with high self-esteem were much more narcissistic than those with low self-esteem. In contrast, self-compassion was completely unassociated with narcissism. (The reason there wasn't a negative association is because people who lack self-compassion don't tend to be narcissistic, either.)

Research also shows self-compassion even makes you less likely to procrastinate. It also boosts happiness and reduces stress.

Want a better love life? Self-compassion improves romantic relationships. Self-esteem doesn't.

The results of our study indicated that self-compassionate people did in fact have happier and more satisfying romantic relationships than those who lacked self-compassion. This is largely because self-compassionate participants were described by their partners as being more accepting and nonjudgmental than those who lacked self-compassion.... High self-esteem, it should be noted, did not appear to do a whole hell of a lot for couples. Self-esteem was not associated with happier, healthier relationships, and people with high self-esteem weren't described by their partners as being any more accepting, caring, or supportive in their relationships than those who lacked self-esteem.

I could go on and on. But I'm sure you're already saying, "Just tell me how to do it, Eric!" Fair enough.

Don't worry. It's not hard.

There are a number of ways to boost self-compassion but I'm going to focus on one here because it's epically simple:

I want you to talk to yourself. Nicely.

Next time that voice in your head starts saying critical things, reframe the thoughts into something positive and forgiving.

The best way to counteract self-criticism, therefore, is to understand it, have compassion for it, and then replace it with a kinder response... Reframe the observations made by your inner critic in a kind, friendly, positive way.

Sound silly? Tell that to the Navy SEALs. Positive self-talk is one of the methods that showed the best results in helping them get through their incredibly difficult training.

Talking to yourself out loud can make you smarter, improve your memory, help you focus and even increase athletic performance.

Maybe you're not buying it. Talking to yourself not doing it for you? Imagine someone who loves you saying the kind words instead. Research shows this delivers serious results.

Practitioners first instruct patients to generate an image of a safe place to help counter any fears that may arise. They are then instructed to create an ideal image of a caring and compassionate figure... The training resulted in significant reductions in depression, self-attacking, feelings of inferiority, and shame.

Say you blow your diet and eat a whole bag of cookies. Now that voice in your head is beating you up. How would your loving grandma address the issue? Probably with less criticism and more like this...

"Darling, I know you ate that bag of cookies because you're feeling really sad right now and you thought it would cheer you up. But you feel even worse and are not feeling good in your body. I want you to be happy, so why don't you take a long walk so you feel better?"

You need to dispute the negative thoughts and reframe them into something positive. Every time that critical voice starts yammering, instead imagine Grandma giving supportive advice.

You forgive others all the time. You need to start forgiving yourself more often.

Okay, let's round it up and put it to use. Next time that critical voice in your head starts going and you think you need a self-esteem boost, instead reach for some self-compassion:

Reframe whatever the voice says into something more positive.

If it helps you more, visualize a compassionate figure and have them say it to you.

Yes, it's that simple.

When we focus on self-esteem, we often build ourselves up by comparing ourselves to others. In the end, this is a losing strategy. Even if we come out ahead, it still distances us from other people and that's no path to happiness.

By remembering that everybody screws up you not only engage your compassion muscles but you also draw yourself closer to others. You're not better or worse. We're all imperfect. And that's okay. And it unites everyone.

As Neff explains in her book: "Who is the only person in your life who is available 24/7 to provide you with care and kindness? You."
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EXERCISE

Regular exercising can lead to a boost in health, energy, and testosterone which can help raise self esteem. Along with the many mental perks excercising can have, it can also help lead to a longer life.

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Be Nice to Yourself

Often times we are more critical of ourselves than we are of our friends. So, why don't we talk to ourselves the way we talk to our friends? Where we are kind and uplifting about the things that we like about ourselves. Using this method is actually pretty powerful for increasing one's self-esteem. This is because how we talk to ourselves has the power to shape our confidence and self love. The website actually recommends writing down three things that you like about yourself.

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Low self esteem

Having low self-esteem might mean you aren't confident in your abilities, your personality, or the value you bring to others in your life. Low self esteem might be caused by:

not feeling a sense of security in life

doubts about your gender, sexuality, or body

feeling like you don't belong with your family, friends, or colleagues.

Good self esteem

On the contrary, having good self-esteem means you have positive beliefs about your abilities and your place in the world. It can be caused by:

being confident in your ability to create change and withstand challenges in your life

a sense of confidence and pride in your identity

feeling like you belong in your family, school, or group of friends.

What are the 4 components of self-esteem?

Your self-esteem is made up from four attitudes you have about yourself: your confidence, your sense of identity, feeling a sense of belonging and being self-assured in your abilities.

Your self-confidence

Self-confidence is all about your sense of security you have in yourself and in your life. You can only branch out and grow if you feel secure that your needs are being met. Having your needs met means you have things like a place to live, physical health, and stable finances.

Your identity

Your sense of identity is important to your self esteem because it is the knowledge you have about yourself. This can include your confidence in your body, your gender, your sexuality, your job, your beliefs, your culture, or anything else about yourself. It's helpful to be confident in these things because they can help you understand what you need and what you want in life.

Feeling like you belong

Belonging is all about feeling welcome and an active part of where we actually are in life, whether that's in your school, your workplace, your family, or the other groups you're a part of. Sometimes, if you don't feel belonging in one group you're in, like your workplace, you can find your sense of belonging in another group, like your family or friends.

Feeling confident in your abilities

It's important to feel confident in your abilities so that you can control what happens to you in life. If you're confident in what you can do, you can handle big challenges and make the changes you need to make to respond to them. However, being confident in your abilities isn't just about succeeding. It's about learning from your mistakes and being resilient in the face of failure.

Why is self-esteem important?

Self-esteem is important because it is the underlying foundation supporting everything you do, from everyday chores and activities to long-term goals. While everyone occasionally has doubts about themselves, low self-esteem can leave you:

Tips for improving your self esteem

1. Be nice to yourself

That little voice that tells you you're killin' it (or not) is way more powerful than you might think. Make an effort to be kind to yourself and, if you do slip up, try to challenge any negative thoughts. A good rule of thumb is to speak to yourself in the same way that you'd speak to your mates. This can be really hard at first, but practise makes perfect. If you want a few pointers, check out our tips for talking yourself up.
Try: Writing down three things that you like about yourself.
2. You do you

Comparing yourself to other people is a sure-fire way to start feeling crummy. Try to focus on your own goals and achievements, rather than measuring them against someone else's. Nobody needs that kind of pressure!

3. Get movin'

Exercise is a great way to increase motivation, practise setting goals and build confidence. Breaking a sweat also cues the body to release endorphins, the feel-good hormones.

4. Nobody's perfect

Always strive to be the best version of yourself, but it's also important to accept that perfection is an unrealistic goal.

5. Remember that everyone makes mistakes

You've got to make mistakes in order to learn and grow, so try not to beat yourself up if you forget to hit CTRL+S on a super-important assignment. Everyone's been there.

6. Focus on what you can change

It's easy to get hung up on all the things that are out of your control, but it won't achieve much. Instead, try to focus your energy on identifying the things that are within your control and seeing what you can do about them. Read more about how you can accept things that are out of your control.
Try: Writing down one thing that you're not happy with, and three ways you could change it.
7. Do what makes you happy

If you spend time doing the things you enjoy, you're more likely to think positively. Try to schedule in a little you-time every day. Whether that's time spent reading, cooking or just conking out on the couch for a bit, if it makes you happy, make time for it.

8. Celebrate the small stuff

You got up on time this morning. Tick. You poached your eggs to perfection. Winning. Celebrating the small victories is a great way to build confidence and start feeling better about yourself.
Try: Writing down three things you did well at the end of each day.
9. Be a pal

Being helpful and considerate to other people will certainly boost their mood, but it'll also make you feel pretty good about yourself

10. Surround yourself with a supportive squad

Find people who make you feel good about yourself and avoid those who tend to trigger your negative thinking.

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Exercise: Improving your mental health
Exercise has many benefits besides looking better or getting stronger. Exercise releases endorphins, improves overall mental health, and gives you a short term goal that’s attainable. Exercising just 3 times a week can change how you look at yourself and how you approach problems in life as well. Through exercise you learn to “dig in” and push past the hard part so that you achieve your goals

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There are many benefits of exercise, one of them being a boost in self-esteem. Exercising can make you feel more comfortable with yourself and increase your self-confidence. According to lots of research, physical activity is directly and indirectly associated with self-esteem .

One of the most prominent ways exercise can boost your self-esteem is by making you look better, but toning muscles and losing weight are just the beginning. There are innumerable ways physical activity can boost your self-esteem, and in this guide, we'll touch upon five of our favorite.

1. Improve Your Mental Health

In addition to building physical strength, exercise can improve mental health. It's been shown to reduce depression, anxiety and negative moods as well as alleviate low self-esteem and social withdrawal. In place of these negative emotions, exercise boosts self-esteem and cognitive function .

2. Reduce Stress

Any form of exercise, from aerobics to strength training to yoga, can act as a stress reliever . Physical activity in any form boosts feel-good endorphins and distracts the mind from daily stresses.

3. Gain a Sense of Accomplishment

One of the biggest payoffs of exercise is that, through focus and physical movement, you're able to feel a strong sense of accomplishment . Whether you beat an old time in the 100-meter dash or add time to your daily walk, exercise can give you a sense of pride at having achieved a particular goal.

4. Improve Your Brain Function

During endurance exercise, a molecule called irisin is produced in the brain through a chain reaction. Scientists believe it has neuroprotective effects and can activate genes involved in memory and learning. Through experiments on mice, investigators of Harvard Medical School and the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute discovered that irisin and FNDC5 become elevated in the brain during endurance exercise .

5. Start Feeling Better

In the short-term, exercise has been shown to enhance our mood and influence our minds toward adopting more positive thoughts. In the long-term, physical exercise can improve our confidence by making us feel good about our physique and abilities .

According to the Physical Activity Guidelines for Americans, each individual should exercise 150 to 300 minutes per week at a moderately intense level for an allover sense of well-being. Combine strength training, cardio and flexibility-building disciplines like yoga to reap the benefits of an allover approach to fitness.

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Steps to relief

With these 5 steps you will be able to easily find peace within your self esteem. Positive thinking,  self effort, and controlling what you can control. All stress relievers with the common issue that everyone deals with.  We all share this issue and we can all help each other through it.

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5 easy ways to improve your self-esteem, boost your confidence - and love yourself

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Mastering the ability to think and speak positively about yourself may just change your life for the better - and no, it's not the same as boasting

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Identify the positive about yourself:

Identify positive things that you like about yourself or that you do well. When you are feeling down you can look at these things and remember that there are plenty of good things about you.

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When I think of ways to boost my self esteem and personal confidence, I think of my image. What I look like, and what I can do better.  So watching YouTube videos on how to “groom” myself, how to fix my hair a certain way, or how to apply makeup.
Even watching motivational videos along with listening to individuals personal experiences with change help me better my self esteem.

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identify the positives about yourself

In order to identify the positives about yourself you  should write down everything that is good about yourself and remember those things. If you ever go back to negative self thinking you should remember all those positive things you have listed.

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8 ways to improve your self-esteem

These 8 steps help improve your self-esteem and includes exercising, being mindful of your negative talk and how to minimize it, how we change the story, channeling our inner rock star and more.

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When it comes to your self-worth, only one opinion truly matters-your own. And even that one should be carefully evaluated; we tend to be our own harshest critics.

Glenn R. Schiraldi, Ph.D., author of The Self-Esteem Workbook, describes healthy self-esteem as a realistic, appreciative opinion of oneself. He writes, "Unconditional human worth assumes that each of us is born with all the capacities needed to live fruitfully, although everyone has a different mix of skills, which are at different levels of development." He emphasizes that core worth is independent of externals that the marketplace values, such as wealth, education, health, status-or the way one has been treated.

Some navigate the world-and relationships-searching for any bit of evidence to validate their self-limiting beliefs. Much like judge and jury, they constantly put themselves on trial and sometimes sentence themselves to a lifetime of self-criticism.

Following are eight steps you can take to increase your feelings of self-worth.

1. Be mindful.

We can't change something if we don't recognize that there is something to change. By simply becoming aware of our negative self-talk, we begin to distance ourselves from the feelings it brings up. This enables us to identify with them less. Without this awareness, we can easily fall into the trap of believing our self-limiting talk, and as meditation teacher Allan Lokos says, "Don't believe everything you think. Thoughts are just that-thoughts."

As soon as you find yourself going down the path of self-criticism, gently note what is happening, be curious about it, and remind yourself, "These are thoughts, not facts."

2. Change the story.

We all have a narrative or a story we've created about ourselves that shapes our self-perceptions, upon which our core self-image is based. If we want to change that story, we have to understand where it came from and where we received the messages we tell ourselves. Whose voices are we internalizing?

"Sometimes automatic negative thoughts like 'you're fat' or 'you're lazy' can be repeated in your mind so often that you start to believe they are true," says Jessica Koblenz, Psy.D. "These thoughts are learned, which means they can be unlearned. You can start with affirmations. What do you wish you believed about yourself? Repeat these phrases to yourself every day."

Thomas Boyce, Ph.D., supports the use of affirmations. Research conducted by Boyce and his colleagues has demonstrated that "fluency training" in positive affirmations (for example, writing down as many different positive things you can about yourself in a minute) can lessen symptoms of depression as measured by self-report using the Beck Depression Inventory. Larger numbers of written positive statements are correlated with greater improvement. "While they have a bad reputation because of late-night TV," Boyce says, "positive affirmations can help."

3. Avoid falling into the compare-and-despair rabbit hole.

"Two key things I emphasize are to practice acceptance and stop comparing yourself to others," says psychotherapist Kimberly Hershenson, LMSW. "I emphasize that just because someone else appears happy on social media or even in person doesn't mean they are happy. Comparisons only lead to negative self-talk, which leads to anxiety and stress." Feelings of low self-worth can negatively affect your mental health as well as other areas in your life, such as work, relationships, and physical health.

4. Channel your inner rock star.

Albert Einstein said, "Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Someone may be a brilliant musician, but a dreadful cook. Neither quality defines their core worth. Recognize what your strengths are and the feelings of confidence they engender, especially in times of doubt. It's easy to make generalizations when you "mess up" or "fail" at something, but reminding yourself of the ways you rock offers a more realistic perspective of yourself.

Psychotherapist and certified sex therapist Kristie Overstreet, LPCC, CST, CAP, suggests asking yourself, "Was there a time in your life where you had better self-esteem? What were you doing at that stage of your life?" If it's difficult for you to identify your unique gifts, ask a friend to point them out to you. Sometimes it's easier for others to see the best in us than it is for us to see it in ourselves.

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5. Exercise.

Many studies have shown a correlation between exercise and higher self-esteem, as well as improved mental health. "Exercising creates empowerment both physical and mental," says Debbie Mandel, author of Addicted to Stress, "especially weight lifting where you can calibrate the accomplishments. Exercise organizes your day around self-care." She suggests dropping a task daily from your endless to-do list for the sole purpose of relaxation or doing something fun, and seeing how that feels. Other forms of self-care, such as proper nutrition and sufficient sleep, have also been shown to have positive effects on one's self-perception.

6. Do unto others.

Hershenson suggests volunteering to help those who may be less fortunate. "Being of service to others helps take you out of your head. When you are able to help someone else, it makes you less focused on your own issues."

David Simonsen, Ph.D., LMFT, agrees:

"What I find is that the more someone does something in their life that they can be proud of, the easier it is for them to recognize their worth. Doing things that one can respect about themselves is the one key that I have found that works to raise one's worth. It is something tangible. Helping at a homeless shelter, animal shelter, giving of time at a big brother or sister organization. These are things that mean something and give value to not only oneself, but to someone else as well."

There is much truth to the fact that what we put out there into the world tends to boomerang back to us. To test this out, spend a day intentionally putting out positive thoughts and behaviors toward those with whom you come into contact. As you go about your day, be mindful of what comes back to you, and also notice if your mood improves.

7. Forgive.

Is there someone in your life you haven't forgiven? An ex-partner? A family member? Yourself? By holding on to feelings of bitterness or resentment, we keep ourselves stuck in a cycle of negativity. If we haven't forgiven ourselves, shame will keep us in this same loop.

"Forgiving self and others has been found to improve self-esteem," says Schiraldi, "perhaps because it connects us with our innately loving nature and promotes an acceptance of people, despite our flaws." He refers to the Buddhist meditation on forgiveness, which can be practiced at any time: " If I have hurt or harmed anyone, knowingly or unknowingly, I ask forgiveness. If anyone has hurt or harmed me, knowingly or unknowingly, I forgive them. For the ways I have hurt myself, knowingly or unknowingly, I offer forgiveness."

8. Remember that you are not your circumstances.

Finally, learning to differentiate between your circumstances and who you are is key to self-worth. "Recognizing inner worth, and loving one's imperfect self, provide the secure foundation for growth," says Schiraldi. "With that security, one is free to grow with enjoyment, not fear of failure-because failure doesn't change core worth."

We are all born with infinite potential and equal worth as human beings. That we are anything less is a false belief that we have learned over time. Therefore, with hard work and self-compassion, self-destructive thoughts and beliefs can be unlearned. Taking the steps outlined above is a start in the effort to increase self-worth, or as Schiraldi says, to " recognize self-worth. It already exists in each person."
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When it comes to your self-worth, only one opinion truly matters-your own. And even that one should be carefully evaluated; we tend to be our own harshest critics. Glenn R. Schiraldi, Ph.D., author of The Self-Esteem Workbook, describes healthy self-esteem as a realistic, appreciative opinion of oneself.

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Positive Thinking

Practicing positive thinking can improve self-esteem by allowing you to really identify and appreciate all of the good aspects of your personality. It also allows you to come to terms with more negative aspects of your personality, giving you the opportunity to own them and change them for the better. To practice positive thinking, really concentrate and think about good things you have done or accomplished, or things that you like about yourself. Overtime, you will more easily think of yourself in a positive light and increase your self-esteem.

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Self-esteem is affected by early life experiences and is a blend of internal confidence and external achievements. Self-esteem is something anyone can increase and maintain at a higher level. Two key components of self-esteem are self-image and self-talk.

A positive attitude is at the heart of optimistic and successful people. Successful and confident people have positive attitudes. Self-confidence is based on a belief that one's efforts and abilities will allow one to reach a goal. Successful and confident people have positive self-images. This image of self-or self-image-is largely developed in early life. Self-image is how you see yourself in relation to the world. Self-image includes:

what you think you look like physically-and acceptance of your physical characteristics

what kind of person you think you are-your values and beliefs

what you think others think of you-how your personality comes across

what you believe your strengths and weaknesses are-your ability to have an accurate and objective view of yourself

how much you like yourself-and how well you take care of yourself

HOW TO IMPROVE YOUR SELF IMAGE

Stop comparing yourself to others. When you do this, you are likely to compare yourself in a negative way. Besides, each of us is a unique individual with our own strengths and weaknesses. Celebrate your individuality!

Acknowledge your positive qualities. Make a list of your positive attributes. Include appearance, personality and skills. If you have difficulty with this, ask others to help you. They'll come up with things you might not see in yourself.

Involve yourself in work and life activities that you love. So many people with low self-esteem fail to fill their lives with meaningful activities. Follow the career path that is most rewarding to you. If you are not fully satisfied with your job but are not in a position to make immediate changes in your career, you can still devote leisure time to hobbies and activities that are enjoyable and fulfilling.

Develop a positive personal support network. The people with whom you associate influence your own self-image. Negative people can bring you down. On the other hand, when positive and supportive people surround you, you feel better about yourself.

Speak up for yourself. Learn to be assertive and practice clear communication. Not voicing and acknowledging your needs or setting limits with others means that you are putting up with more stuff than you need to for your own well-being. By learning how to say "no," you are sending the message that you value yourself and that you deserve to be treated with respect.

Lighten up! Take yourself less seriously. Learn to laugh at yourself and see the humorous side of life. Smile as much as you can; it's contagious!

Accept all compliments graciously. Don't dismiss or ignore compliments or praise from others. When you do, it not only sends the message that you are not worthy of praise, but also that you don't value the opinion of the person giving you the compliment.

Take advantage of personal growth programs. Actively pursue an elevated self-image by reading self-help books; listening to inspirational tapes; attending motivational workshops, lectures and classes; starting an exercise program or using life coaches or personal counselors for self-improvement.

Develop tolerance for yourself and others. Remember, nobody's perfect! Stop criticizing yourself and others for every imperfection or shortcoming. Recognize that a mistake is just a mistake so don't dwell on it.

Stop putting yourself down. You can't develop high self-esteem if you constantly berate and belittle yourself. Don't beat yourself up for making mistakes. Instead, find ways to learn something valuable from them and then move on. Use positive affirmations to reprogram your negative inner conversations.

Help others. Do something useful for others. Help others feel good about themselves by giving them compliments or acknowledgements for accomplishments. Make a positive contribution to the lives of others through volunteer work or community service.

By Karen S. Dickason, LCSW, CEAP
© 2006 Achieve Solutions®

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Self-esteem: Take steps to feel better about yourself

Harness the power of your thoughts and beliefs to raise your self-esteem. Start with these steps.
By Mayo Clinic Staff
Low self-esteem can affect nearly every aspect of life. It can impact your relationships, job and health. But you can boost your self-esteem by taking cues from mental health counseling.

Consider these steps, based on cognitive behavioral therapy.

1. Recognize situations that affect self-esteem

Think about the situations that seem to deflate your self-esteem. Common triggers might include:

A work or school presentation

A crisis at work or home

A challenge with a spouse, loved one, co-worker or other close contact

A change in roles or life events, such as a job loss or a child leaving home

2. Become aware of thoughts and beliefs

Once you've learned which situations affect your self-esteem, notice your thoughts about them. This includes what you tell yourself (self-talk) and how you view the situations.

Your thoughts and beliefs might be positive, negative or neutral. They might be rational, based on reason or facts. Or they may be irrational, based on false ideas.

Ask yourself if these beliefs are true. Would you say them to a friend? If you wouldn't say them to someone else, don't say them to yourself.

3. Challenge negative thinking

Your initial thoughts might not be the only way to view a situation. Ask yourself whether your view is in line with facts and logic. Or is there another explanation?

Be aware that it can be hard to see flaws in your logic. Long-held thoughts and beliefs can feel factual even if they're opinions.

Also notice if you're having these thought patterns that erode self-esteem:

All-or-nothing thinking. This involves seeing things as either all good or all bad. For example, you may think, "If I don't succeed in this task, I'm a total failure."

Mental filtering. This means you focus and dwell on the negatives. It can distort your view of a person or situation. For example, "I made a mistake on that report and now everyone will realize I'm not up to the job."

Converting positives into negatives. This may involve rejecting your achievements and other positive experiences by insisting that they don't count. For example, "I only did well on that test because it was so easy."

Jumping to negative conclusions. You may tend to reach a negative conclusion with little or no evidence. For example, "My friend hasn't replied to my text, so I must have done something to make her angry."

Mistaking feelings for facts. You may confuse feelings or beliefs with facts. For example, "I feel like a failure, so I must be a failure."

Negative self-talk. You undervalue yourself. You may put yourself down or joke about your faults. For example, you may say, "I don't deserve anything better."

4. Adjust your thoughts and beliefs

Now replace negative or untrue thoughts with positive, accurate thoughts. Try these strategies:

Use hopeful statements. Be kind and encouraging to yourself. Instead of thinking a situation won't go well, focus on the positive. Tell yourself, "Even though it's tough, I can handle this."

Forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. But mistakes aren't permanent reflections on you as a person. They're moments in time. Tell yourself, "I made a mistake, but that doesn't make me a bad person."

Avoid 'should' and 'must' statements. If you find that your thoughts are full of these words, you might be putting too many demands on yourself. Try to remove these words from your thoughts. It may lead to a healthier view of what to expect from yourself.

Focus on the positive. Think about the parts of your life that work well. Remember the skills you've used to cope with challenges.

Consider what you've learned. If it was a negative experience, what changes can you make next time to create a more positive outcome?

Relabel upsetting thoughts. Think of negative thoughts as signals to try new, healthy patterns. Ask yourself, "What can I think and do to make this less stressful?"

Encourage yourself. Give yourself credit for making positive changes. For example, "My presentation might not have been perfect, but my colleagues asked questions and remained engaged. That means I met my goal."

You might also try these steps, based on acceptance and commitment therapy.

1. Spot troubling conditions or situations

Again, think about the conditions or situations that seem to deflate your self-esteem. Then pay attention to your thoughts about them.

2. Step back from your thoughts

Repeat your negative thoughts many times. The goal is to take a step back from automatic thoughts and beliefs and observe them. Instead of trying to change your thoughts, distance yourself from them. Realize that they are nothing more than words.

3. Accept your thoughts

Instead of resisting or being overwhelmed by negative thoughts or feelings, accept them. You don't have to like them. Just allow yourself to feel them.

Negative thoughts don't need to be controlled, changed or acted upon. Aim to lessen their power on your behavior.

These steps might seem awkward at first. But they'll get easier with practice. Recognizing the thoughts and beliefs that affect low self-esteem allows you to change the way you think about them. This will help you accept your value as a person. As your self-esteem increases, your confidence and sense of well-being are likely to soar.

In addition to these suggestions, remember that you're worth special care. Be sure to:

Take care of yourself. Follow good health guidelines. Try to exercise at least 30 minutes a day most days of the week. Eat lots of fruits and vegetables. Limit sweets, junk food and saturated fats.

Do things you enjoy. Start by making a list of things you like to do. Try to do something from that list every day.

Spend time with people who make you happy. Don't waste time on people who don't treat you well.

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1. Orth U, et al. Is high self-esteem beneficial? Revisiting a classic question. American Psychologist. 2022; doi:10.1037/amp0000922.

2. Levenson JL, ed. Psychotherapy. In: The American Psychiatric Association Publishing Textbook of Psychosomatic Medicine and Consultation-Liaison Psychiatry. 3rd ed. American Psychiatric Association Publishing; 2019. https://psychiatryonline.org. Accessed April 27, 2022.

3. Kliegman RM, et al. Psychotherapy and psychiatric hospitalization. In: Nelson Textbook of Pediatrics. 21st ed. Elsevier; 2020. https://www.clinicalkey.com. Accessed April 27, 2022.

4. Fusar-Poli P, et al. What is good mental health? A scoping review. European Neuropsychopharmacology. 202; doi:10.1016/j.euroneuro.2019.12.105.

5. Van de Graaf DL, et al. Online acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) interventions for chronic pain: A systematic literature review. Internet Interventions. 2021; doi:10.1016/j.invent.2021.100465.

6. Bourne EJ. The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook. 7th ed. New Harbinger Publications; 2020.

7. Ebert MH, et al., eds. Behavioral and cognitive-behavioral interventions. In: Current Diagnosis & Treatment: Psychiatry. 3rd ed. McGraw Hill; 2019. https://www.accessmedicine.mhmedical.com. Accessed May 4, 2022.

8. Self-esteem self-help guide. NHS inform. https://www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/mental-health/mental-health-self-help-guides/self-esteem-self-help-guide. Accessed May 4, 2022.

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Challenge the Negative

Allowing yourself to feel things in a negative that have a positive available is a trap. Examples are thinking if one ting does not go correctly as hoped you are a complete failure. Concentrate on not letting feelings represent facts as they do not always do so accurately. Re-imagine the thought by concentrating on the positive over the negative aspects.

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Self-esteem: Take steps to feel better about yourself

Harness the power of your thoughts and beliefs to raise your self-esteem. Start with these steps.
By Mayo Clinic Staff
Low self-esteem can affect nearly every aspect of life. It can impact your relationships, job and health. But you can boost your self-esteem by taking cues from mental health counseling.

Consider these steps, based on cognitive behavioral therapy.

1. Recognize situations that affect self-esteem

Think about the situations that seem to deflate your self-esteem. Common triggers might include:

A work or school presentation

A crisis at work or home

A challenge with a spouse, loved one, co-worker or other close contact

A change in roles or life events, such as a job loss or a child leaving home

2. Become aware of thoughts and beliefs

Once you've learned which situations affect your self-esteem, notice your thoughts about them. This includes what you tell yourself (self-talk) and how you view the situations.

Your thoughts and beliefs might be positive, negative or neutral. They might be rational, based on reason or facts. Or they may be irrational, based on false ideas.

Ask yourself if these beliefs are true. Would you say them to a friend? If you wouldn't say them to someone else, don't say them to yourself.

3. Challenge negative thinking

Your initial thoughts might not be the only way to view a situation. Ask yourself whether your view is in line with facts and logic. Or is there another explanation?

Be aware that it can be hard to see flaws in your logic. Long-held thoughts and beliefs can feel factual even if they're opinions.

Also notice if you're having these thought patterns that erode self-esteem:

All-or-nothing thinking. This involves seeing things as either all good or all bad. For example, you may think, "If I don't succeed in this task, I'm a total failure."

Mental filtering. This means you focus and dwell on the negatives. It can distort your view of a person or situation. For example, "I made a mistake on that report and now everyone will realize I'm not up to the job."

Converting positives into negatives. This may involve rejecting your achievements and other positive experiences by insisting that they don't count. For example, "I only did well on that test because it was so easy."

Jumping to negative conclusions. You may tend to reach a negative conclusion with little or no evidence. For example, "My friend hasn't replied to my text, so I must have done something to make her angry."

Mistaking feelings for facts. You may confuse feelings or beliefs with facts. For example, "I feel like a failure, so I must be a failure."

Negative self-talk. You undervalue yourself. You may put yourself down or joke about your faults. For example, you may say, "I don't deserve anything better."

4. Adjust your thoughts and beliefs

Now replace negative or untrue thoughts with positive, accurate thoughts. Try these strategies:

Use hopeful statements. Be kind and encouraging to yourself. Instead of thinking a situation won't go well, focus on the positive. Tell yourself, "Even though it's tough, I can handle this."

Forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. But mistakes aren't permanent reflections on you as a person. They're moments in time. Tell yourself, "I made a mistake, but that doesn't make me a bad person."

Avoid 'should' and 'must' statements. If you find that your thoughts are full of these words, you might be putting too many demands on yourself. Try to remove these words from your thoughts. It may lead to a healthier view of what to expect from yourself.

Focus on the positive. Think about the parts of your life that work well. Remember the skills you've used to cope with challenges.

Consider what you've learned. If it was a negative experience, what changes can you make next time to create a more positive outcome?

Relabel upsetting thoughts. Think of negative thoughts as signals to try new, healthy patterns. Ask yourself, "What can I think and do to make this less stressful?"

Encourage yourself. Give yourself credit for making positive changes. For example, "My presentation might not have been perfect, but my colleagues asked questions and remained engaged. That means I met my goal."

You might also try these steps, based on acceptance and commitment therapy.

1. Spot troubling conditions or situations

Again, think about the conditions or situations that seem to deflate your self-esteem. Then pay attention to your thoughts about them.

2. Step back from your thoughts

Repeat your negative thoughts many times. The goal is to take a step back from automatic thoughts and beliefs and observe them. Instead of trying to change your thoughts, distance yourself from them. Realize that they are nothing more than words.

3. Accept your thoughts

Instead of resisting or being overwhelmed by negative thoughts or feelings, accept them. You don't have to like them. Just allow yourself to feel them.

Negative thoughts don't need to be controlled, changed or acted upon. Aim to lessen their power on your behavior.

These steps might seem awkward at first. But they'll get easier with practice. Recognizing the thoughts and beliefs that affect low self-esteem allows you to change the way you think about them. This will help you accept your value as a person. As your self-esteem increases, your confidence and sense of well-being are likely to soar.

In addition to these suggestions, remember that you're worth special care. Be sure to:

Take care of yourself. Follow good health guidelines. Try to exercise at least 30 minutes a day most days of the week. Eat lots of fruits and vegetables. Limit sweets, junk food and saturated fats.

Do things you enjoy. Start by making a list of things you like to do. Try to do something from that list every day.

Spend time with people who make you happy. Don't waste time on people who don't treat you well.

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1. Orth U, et al. Is high self-esteem beneficial? Revisiting a classic question. American Psychologist. 2022; doi:10.1037/amp0000922.

2. Levenson JL, ed. Psychotherapy. In: The American Psychiatric Association Publishing Textbook of Psychosomatic Medicine and Consultation-Liaison Psychiatry. 3rd ed. American Psychiatric Association Publishing; 2019. https://psychiatryonline.org. Accessed April 27, 2022.

3. Kliegman RM, et al. Psychotherapy and psychiatric hospitalization. In: Nelson Textbook of Pediatrics. 21st ed. Elsevier; 2020. https://www.clinicalkey.com. Accessed April 27, 2022.

4. Fusar-Poli P, et al. What is good mental health? A scoping review. European Neuropsychopharmacology. 202; doi:10.1016/j.euroneuro.2019.12.105.

5. Van de Graaf DL, et al. Online acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) interventions for chronic pain: A systematic literature review. Internet Interventions. 2021; doi:10.1016/j.invent.2021.100465.

6. Bourne EJ. The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook. 7th ed. New Harbinger Publications; 2020.

7. Ebert MH, et al., eds. Behavioral and cognitive-behavioral interventions. In: Current Diagnosis & Treatment: Psychiatry. 3rd ed. McGraw Hill; 2019. https://www.accessmedicine.mhmedical.com. Accessed May 4, 2022.

8. Self-esteem self-help guide. NHS inform. https://www.nhsinform.scot/illnesses-and-conditions/mental-health/mental-health-self-help-guides/self-esteem-self-help-guide. Accessed May 4, 2022.

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Regular exercise provides a number of benefits to your physical and mental health. While everyone knows that exercise keeps you physically fit, you might not have realized that exercise can also help increase feelings of mental alertness. According to a 2006 report in the "Primary Care Companion to the Journal of Clinical Psychiatry," exercise improves mental alertness by reducing feelings of tiredness and increasing stamina and energy levels.

Cognitive Decline

Mild cognitive decline is somewhat common in aging adults. According to a 2010 article in Science Daily, mild cognitive decline is an intermediary state between the normal memory and learning problems that occur with aging and dementia. Symptoms include a lack of mental alertness, forgetfulness and mild memory loss. A study published in the January 2010 issue of the journal, "Archives of Neurology," found high-intensity aerobic exercise improved cognitive functioning in adults with mild cognitive impairment when compared with a control group. Exercise can help maintain clear thinking, learning and judgment skills as you age, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

Mental Health Disorders

Exercise may help improve mental alertness and decrease cognitive symptoms in those suffering from certain mood disorders such as depression and anxiety. Cognitive symptoms of depression and anxiety often include decreased mental clarity, forgetfulness, apathy and tension. In their book, "Foundations of Sport and Exercise Psychology," sports psychologists Robert S. Weinberg and Daniel Gould report that exercise can benefit mood disorders by decreasing anger, increasing alertness and feelings of well-being and improving energy levels.

Fatigue

A lack of sleep and feelings of fatigue can cause you to feel forgetful, make more mistakes and result in decreased mental alertness. Exercise may provide short-term benefits for ameliorating decreased mental alertness caused by a lack of sleep and fatigue. A study published in 2000 in the journal, "Military Psychology," found that sleep-deprived aviators experienced improved mental alertness immediately following exercise, but the benefits decreased as time elapsed. During times of fatigue, exercise may promote mental clarity by improving blood flow to the brain and increasing your body's production of ADP, or adenosine diphosphate, your body's energy currency.

Reaction Time

A lack of mental alertness can cause a decrease in your reaction time, resulting in increased falls and accidents and decreased performance abilities. By promoting increased mental alertness, exercise may also help improve your reaction time. A study published in 2005 in the journal, "Neuroscience Letters," found that study participants experienced an improvement in reaction time during periods of exercise as opposed to during periods of rest.

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Writing in a journal or writing songs

Writing in a journal or writing songs helps with low self esteem and often takes the negative vibes away. It is a way one can express their feelings/emotions with no cost to it. Usually, songs are good because you can get into the music and ease your mind.

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Low self-esteem is seeing yourself as inadequate, unacceptable, unworthy, unlovable, and/or incompetent. These beliefs create negative, self-critical thoughts that affect your behaviour and your life choices, often lowering your self-esteem even further. Using the tools of mindfulness, you can learn to look at situations, other people and yourself objectively, without the negative influence of the past and with the awareness that you always have a choice, says Deborah Ward.
Live in the moment
When you are focused on the moment, you can choose your actions consciously and wisely, unaffected by the hurts of your past and unconcerned by worries or hopes about the future.
Develop awareness
When we're aware, we can recognise how we are responding and reacting to our own fears, creating a moment between our emotions and our actions. We can then choose to respond in a healthier way.
Write in a journal
Many of our thoughts and feelings are locked in our subconscious mind and writing can help to bring them into our awareness. Writing about the way we feel and think can help to separate negative ideas about ourselves from the truth of who we really are.
Be non-judgemental
When we approach our lives non-judgementally, we simply accept ourselves, our experiences, our failures and successes and other people just as they are, neither good or bad, without pride or shame.
Stay connected to yourself
Mindfulness can help you to develop a sense of connection to yourself and reduce your people-pleasing ways by allowing you to stop the autopilot thinking and behaviour that keeps you jumping to please others without thinking of your own needs.
Practice mindful meditation
Meditation just means letting go of the racing thoughts in your mind and accepting that those thoughts, feelings and beliefs are transient, rather than parts of yourself. Take a few moments every day to simply be still, focus on your breathing and watch your worries drift away like clouds.
Participate in your own life
Mindfulness encourages us to become active and assertive in creating our own lives. Awareness of your thoughts and choosing your responses to them enables you to take action and participate in your own life.
Develop a beginner's mind
When you have a beginner's mind, you look at things as if you are seeing them for the first time, with openness, eagerness and freedom from expectation. You can see things in a new light, rather than automatically responding with the same old patterns of behaviour.
Let go
Non-attachment, or letting go, is the goal of mindfulness. When you let go of what you think you should do or who you should be, you can trust yourself and choose what's right for you.
Show compassion toward yourself
You deserve love as much as anyone else. Self-compassion simply means providing yourself with the love, safety and acceptance you need.

Overcoming Low Self-Esteem with Mindfulness by Deborah Ward is available now.
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If you suffer from low self-confidence, finding a way to boost your self-esteem can seem like a monumental task. Especially when you're experiencing self-defeating thoughts and feelings.

However, when you step back, you'll discover that low self-esteem is really just a continuous cycle, and breaking any part of that cycle can stop the whole thing in its tracks.

Here's how to boost your self-esteem and skyrocket your personal confidence.

What Are The Symptoms Of Low Self-Esteem?

The low self-esteem cycle usually looks something like this:

First, you start to feel bad about yourself because you made a mistake or someone pointed out something they didn't like about you.

Then, you start to obsessively stress about that "mistake" or "flaw." Eventually, you tell yourself that you're not good enough and then you start to believe it. And once you believe it, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, and the cycle repeats.

Sound familiar?
Low self-esteem can highly impact your quality of your life.
Here are some of the symptoms of low self-esteem:

1. Self-neglect

2. Anxiety

3. Eating disorders

4. Social withdrawal

5. Treating yourself badly

6. Don't trust your own opinion

7. Don't take on new challenges

8. Worry what others might think of you

If you feel all or any of these on regular basis, it's time to move on and make some changes!

How Do I Build My Self Esteem And Confidence?
Below are ten simple ways you can instantly improve your self-esteem.
These techniques work because they break the negative feedback loop of the low self-esteem cycle. The more you practice these techniques, the better they work, so practice them often for even better results.

1. Do something kind for someone

When you're in a low self-esteem cycle, it can be difficult to see outside of yourself. You become so focused on what your limitations are that you can't see the pain others might be experiencing.

But when you actively seek out doing something kind for someone else or something good for your environment, your focus shifts. Not only will your obsessive, negative thoughts about yourself stop, you'll also begin to think positive things about yourself.
Positive actions attract positive thoughts.

"Love and kindness are never wasted. They always make a difference. They bless the one who receives them, and they bless you, the giver."
- Barbara de Angelis, NY Times bestselling author

2. Take care of your appearance

Your outward appearance is often a reflection of how you feel on the inside. Have you ever noticed that when you're sick, people say "You don't look well"? Our bodies are connected to our spirit and mind, and they all reflect each other.
When you have low self-esteem, it often shows how you take care of yourself.
Small things like picking out something flattering to wear, taking time to style your hair differently, or accessorizing an outfit can seem vain and superficial, but they can actually help you feel better about yourself.

The lesson here is not about vanity; it's about treating yourself kindly.

Love yourself first, and everything else falls in line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.

3. Change your scenery

A great (and fun!) way to break a low self-esteem cycle is to do something completely out of the ordinary.

It can be as simple as traveling a different route to work in the morning, taking a short weekend vacation to a place you've never visited, or working from a cafe you've always wanted to check out.

Doing something you've never done before or being somewhere you've never been to can quickly refresh your mind and break negative thought patterns. We have a tendency to get stuck in a small bubble, neglecting to see that the universe is vast and our problems are usually a lot smaller than we make them out to be.

Changing your scenery can give you a fresh perspective and motivate you to make positive changes rather than dwell in the negative. Give it a shot.

Sometimes it's the smallest decisions that can change your life forever.

4. Write down your accomplishments

Think back to all of the accomplishments you've had. Get out a pen and paper and start writing them down.

It seems simple, but as your list grows, you'll start to see that not only have you accomplished some impressive things, you are capable of even more.

You might begin to see patterns of times when you felt really good about yourself and accomplished a lot of great things. This exercise can help you tune in to the parts of yourself that know you're adequate, capable and extraordinary!

Nothing builds self esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.

- Thomas Carlyle, Philosopher

5. Teach someone something

There are definitely things you know that other people don't.

Maybe you're a great writer, or you're really proficient in math. Perhaps you know how to organize a messy closet, or you know how to change a tire on a car.
The simple knowledge that you may take for granted could be something that someone else is seeking to learn.
By teaching someone a skill or imparting some of your know-how, you not only share knowledge with them, you prove to yourself how amazing and unique of person you are, one that can share valuable gifts with the world.

Teaching is the greatest act of optimism.

- Colleen Wilcox, Executive Director of the Alliance for Teaching

6. Reflect on your surroundings

Sometimes, when we have low self-esteem, we think that all of the problems we have are somehow our fault. When you're in that state of mind, you end up taking the blame for everything.

If you find yourself in this position, observe your surroundings and see what outside stressors may be influencing you.

Is your job really stressful? Do you live in an unsupportive home environment? Do you live in a community that doesn't meet your needs?

Take some time to figure out what's adding stress to your life, be conscious of it, and start making a plan to change it.

No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.

7. Simplify your life

Just as our outward appearance is often a reflection of our internal world, our homes are usually a reflection as well.

And just as we hold on to negative emotions, beliefs and thoughts that don't serve us, we often hold on to material possessions that don't serve us either - they actually weigh us down.

Take a weekend to go through your things and see if you can find some items that might be weighing you down.

Do you have clothes you haven't worn in years? Do you have items that once held sentimental value, but now don't hold the same meaning? What about the things you bought that you thought you'd use, but never have?

Have a yard sale and get rid of those things or donate those items to a local charity. You'll free up some space in your life and in the process, you might just make some money and do something kind for someone else.

The question of what you want to own is actually the question of how you want to live your life.

- Marie Kondo, Author of The Magical Art of Tidying Up

8. Pursue a passion

Everyone has a list of things they've wanted to do, but have never got around to doing.

We tell ourselves that we don't have the time or money, but we know deep down that we can arrange things in our life to create time or money when it's needed.

When you suffer from low self-esteem, you often make excuses as to why you can't pursue your passions, but in the end, it's because you don't believe you deserve to follow your bliss.

Stop the cycle and make a commitment to pursuing a passion.
Don't delay with excuses; start today.

It's your place in the world; it's your life. Go on and do all you can with it, and make it the life you want to live.

- Mae Jemison, First African-American woman to travel in space

9. Exercise

It sounds simple, but getting up and moving can have profound effects on your self-esteem. Exercise doesn't just help your body, it improves your state of mind by helping you focus on small, achievable goals.

Sure, you'll get a rush of endorphins that make you feel good, but it's really the accomplishment that makes exercise a great choice for someone with low self-esteem.

By setting small exercise goals and achieving them, you prove to yourself that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to.

10. Invest in your well-being

Take a look at your spending patterns and see if you can make some changes.

Are you spending money on self-destructive coping mechanisms? Whether it's unhealthy comfort food, excessive drinking, video games or apps, or overindulgence of any kind, these spending habits can be transformed.

By taking the money you spend on indulgences and spending that money on self-improvement, you can empower your mind and body to raise your self-esteem.

Whether it's a meditation retreat, yoga classes, self-improvement courses or simply healthier food, spending money on things that are good for you can make you feel better about yourself.

There's only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that's your own self.

- Aldous Huxley, writer & philosopher

What tricks do you use to help boost your self-esteem?

The Power of 'I'm Enough'

If you've ever doubted yourself, you know how crippling it can be.

The missed opportunities, the indecision, the quiet torment - it stops us from living our best lives.

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Use Positive Affirmations Correctly

Rephrase the things you say to yourself to motivate you correctly. Sometimes when trying to get motivated we use sayings that end up making us feel worse because they aren't worded correctly

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Everyone is in favor of high self-esteem - but cultivating it can be surprisingly tough. Psychologist Guy Winch explains why - and describes smart ways we can help build ourselves up.

Many of us recognize the value of improving our feelings of self-worth. When our self-esteem is higher, we not only feel better about ourselves, we are more resilient as well. Brain scan studies demonstrate that when our self-esteem is higher, we are likely to experience common emotional wounds such as rejection and failure as less painful, and bounce back from them more quickly. When our self-esteem is higher, we are also less vulnerable to anxiety; we release less cortisol into our bloodstream when under stress, and it is less likely to linger in our system.

Part of the problem is that our self-esteem is rather unstable to begin with, as it can fluctuate daily, if not hourly. Further complicating matters, our self-esteem comprises both our global feelings about ourselves as well as how we feel about ourselves in the specific domains of our lives (e.g., as a father, a nurse, an athlete, etc.). The more meaningful a specific domain of self-esteem, the greater the impact it has on our global self-esteem. Having someone wince when they taste the not-so-delicious dinner you prepared will hurt a chef's self-esteem much more than someone for whom cooking is not a significant aspect of their identity.

That said, it is certainly possible to improve our self-esteem if we go about it the right way. Here are five ways to nourish your self-esteem when it is low:

1. Use positive affirmations correctly

2. Identify your competencies and develop them

Self-esteem is built by demonstrating real ability and achievement in areas of our lives that matter to us. If you pride yourself on being a good cook, throw more dinner parties. If you're a good runner, sign up for races and train for them. In short, figure out your core competencies and find opportunities and careers that accentuate them.

3. Learn to accept compliments

4. Eliminate self-criticism and introduce self-compassion

5. Affirm your real worth

The bottom line is improving self-esteem requires a bit of work, as it involves developing and maintaining healthier emotional habits but doing so, and especially doing so correctly, will provide a great emotional and psychological return on your investment.

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Heal past wounds

Past issues and traumas can keep you trapped in low self-esteem. Seek the support of a trained counselor to help you heal the wounds of the past.