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You don't need to know were they are 24/7

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You don't need to be constantly texting them

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Sooner or later, the man in your life is bound to mess up. (He's only human!) But if you trust your partner, you're more likely to forgive and forget his mistakes than if you don't trust him, according a new study recently published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

Researchers from Northwestern University and Redeemer University College used a questionnaire to assess trust levels in 69 undergraduates' relationships. Then, the students filled out surveys about their partners' recent mishaps every two weeks for the next six months. They also rated the severity of the issue, how well their partner tried to make amends, and their own degree of forgiveness. At the end of the six-month period, participants in the most trusting relationships remembered their partners' past transgressions as less serious and were ultimately more forgiving.

While the study didn't examine exactly what caused these results, lead study author Laura Luchies, Ph.D., assistant professor of psychology at Redeemer University College, says that trust appears to distort people's memory of the past. One explanation: when you trust your partner to act in your best interest, you're more likely to let his mistakes slide because you see them as one-time events. But when you don't trust him, you might play and replay the situation in your head, or assume it's part of a pattern of bad behavior-making it a lot more difficult to forget (or forgive).

The thing is, trust plays a more integral role in relationships than in simply keeping the peace. "Trust helps people think less about the risks of getting close to someone, depend on them, and see them in a positive light," says Luchies. The result: a more secure, fulfilling relationship for both of you.

To boost your bond at any stage in the game, follow these trust-amplifying tips:

Let him plan date night
Trust is learned and earned-you'll grant it, over time, to those who act supportive, dependable, and trustworthy, says Luchies. To give your partner opportunities to strut his stuff, ask him to make decisions that affect you. Start small: let him choose a restaurant. When he picks a place that suits your palate-not the burger joint he frequents with his friends-you'll feel more comfortable relying on him for bigger decisions.

Show him your flaws
Not everyone can tally a dinner tab tip in her head, or wake up in the morning with her hair as well-coiffed as it was the night before. But when you let him see your true colors, you give him the opportunity to accept the real you-even it reflects your insecurities. Once you realize that he won't berate you for your math skills, or reject you for your bed head, you'll feel more comfortable revealing bigger things-like life goals and family issues-and trust that he'll be totally supportive.

Confide in him
If you leave your office fuming, don't keep it all in when you meet him for after-work drinks. "By and large, you get what you give," says Joel Block, Ph.D., a certified couples therapist and author of more than 20 books on love and sex, including Broken Promises, Mended Hearts: Maintaining Trust In Love Relationships. "If you're open and self-revealing, your partner is more likely to be more open with you."

Don't judge
Every time your partner tells you something personal-like the major mistake he made at work-it's a critical moment that can either strengthen your intimacy or deteriorate it, says Block. If you criticize his behavior or dismiss his feelings, he'll think twice about confiding in you next time. To make him feel accepted and promote more self-disclosure, express empathy and suggest solutions. And if he judges you? Say this: "I need to feel safe confiding in you and right now I feel attacked."

Keep your promises
"Trust goes both ways," says Luchies. Meaning? If you're not dependable, you can't expect your partner to be. To show him you're trustworthy, be accountable: If he asks you to watch his intramural basketball game, show up before the first buzzer to secure a bleacher seat where he can see you from the court. And if you say you'll call him before bed, actually pick up the phone before you tuck in.

Be yourself in front of others
If you tell him you got a measly raise, and tell his parents about your absolutely A-M-A-Z-I-N-G promotion, he'll wonder what else you're capable of hiding. Present yourself accurately no matter what crowd you're in, and you'll show him you're a person who's worthy of his trust.

Tell him the truth
"Even small lies are like psychological termites," says Block. "They take unnoticeable bites over time and eventually weaken the foundation of your relationship." So if your new statement bag cost more than what your guy earns in a month, be honest when he asks what you paid.

Arrive on time
If you say you'll be over at 7, but miss your train, call him to say you'll be closer to 8:10. Being on time isn't just considerate: it's part of being able to count on someone, says Block. And if he knows he can count on you, then he'll make more of an effort to show that he's equally dependable.

Take his side...or at least be diplomatic
Sometimes it's more important to be supportive than it is to be right. When you're brought into an argument between him and his buddy, stand up for your guy. And when he's wrong? Say, "You both have good points, and I can see where you're both coming from." Then, discuss it later in private.

Avoid unnecessary secrecy
Especially if your partner has been betrayed before-or worse: you've cheated on him-it's important to be as open as possible. So tell him who you're texting. And leave your phone unlocked. "Don't think of it as supervision. It's making a choice to help the other person heal," says Block.

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10 Ways to Build Trust In Your Relationship

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Sooner or later, the man in your life is bound to mess up. (He's only human!) But if you trust your partner, you're more likely to forgive and forget his mistakes than if you don't trust him, according a new study recently published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

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One of the most vital components to creating a happy, healthy and fulfilling relationship is to become a master at setting boundaries. Simply put, boundaries are what set the space between where you end and the other person begins.

Depending on your upbringing and past experience, setting boundaries in relationships may be easier or more difficult for you. Often if we have had a parent, guardian or other person in our life during childhood who didn't know how to set boundaries with us then we have to learn how to set boundaries in relationships. We have to learn when it is the proper time to set a boundary and how to find a balance in setting boundaries so they are not too weak or too strong.

Though learning how to properly and effectively set boundaries can be a long process, here are basic steps to begin setting boundaries in your relationships.

Step 1: Recognize and acknowledge your own feelings. In order to set effective boundaries, we must be able to know what it is that we are feeling. Did this person's critical comment make me feel bad? Is this person making me feel overwhelmed or drained?

Being able to do this is absolutely vital because by being able to check in with ourselves and recognize how we are feeling then we have separated ourselves from the other person.

The problem with many of us who have weak or leaky boundaries in relationships is that we become so enmeshed, so encompassed by the other person's "stuff" that we have no idea that it is that we ourselves are feeling. By taking the time to break away, reflect, and really check in with yourself, you are then consciously making the distinct difference between yourself and the other person.

Step 2: Recognize how your boundaries have been crossed. So now looking at your feelings, stop and recognize how your boundary has been crossed. Is this person always asking to borrow money from you but they never pay you back? Do you find yourself always answering your friend's text or phone calls late at night and it's causing you to lose sleep? Is this person always making critical comments towards you? Does this person always seem to have problems that you always have to help them with? Do you have a client who always shows up late for your appointments?

Step 3: Recognize how you need to set your boundary. Once you can recognize what it is that is causing you to feel overwhelmed, drained, or, simply, bad, then decide what it is that you need to say to this person.

So if the person is always borrowing money from you but never paying you back, then you may need to tell them that you are not letting them borrow anything else until you get paid back what you've already given.

If it's a friend who is always texting or calling you late at night when you're trying to sleep, then maybe you want to tell them that you can't talk now cause you need to sleep -- or you can stop answering all together.

If someone keeps making critical comments towards you, then you can tell them that you don't appreciate being spoken to that way and that you will not accept it.

If it's a friend who seems to always have problems for you to listen to and it's draining your energy, then its probably time to be sure you say something like, "Hey, I know you're in pain, but I have some of my own stuff to do right now."

Step 4: Get grounded. There are two things that often happen when boundaries in relationships have been weak: 1. There is backlash from the other person and 2. You feel guilty.

For this reason, it is extremely important to get grounded within yourself. We can do this by simply taking the time to do some breath work, meditation, or to tune in with your body. A grounding meditation by envisioning a cord going down from your root chakra and deep into the earth can also be beneficial.

Also, remember that your emotions are valid. For that reason, you are not wrong for setting your boundary. In fact, you are taking care of yourself, which is something that we should all do above all else.

Step 5: Voice it! Make your boundary known -- communicate it to the other person. Keep in mind that if there is any backlash from the other person or if they want to argue, then it may be best to simply just walk away and focus on taking care of yourself.

The reality is that if there is a backlash then the other person isn't respecting your boundary. If we acknowledge their disrespect by arguing with them, then we are giving them what they want: A weakness of our boundary. By acknowledging and focusing on their backlash we are then subconsciously telling them that we are not grounded within ourselves and confident in what we want.

Step 6: Take care of yourself. If setting the boundary brought up any backlash or feelings of guilt, then be sure to take care of yourself. Go for a walk, exercise, be out in nature, etc. Do something to help yourself get re-centered and don't spend too much (or any) energy focusing on what happened.

So even if someone else wants to talk about the "drama" of what happened, then just don't even go there. Tell them you don't want to talk about it, because when we do that we keep the stress and fear-based thinking alive.
The blog was originally published on JenniferTwardowski.com
Jennifer is a self and relationship coach and teacher. She helps women worldwide create fulfilling relationships and lives by helping their hearts' true desires to become a reality. Click here for her Free Self and Relationship Healing Meditation.

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6 Steps to Setting Boundaries in Relationships

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Most of us agree that trust is an essential foundation on which to build a relationship. Despite the great things we say about being honest-that it's "the best policy" or that "the truth shall set us free"-research tells us that we aren't so great at it.

According to studies by Dr. Bella DePaulo, people lie in one in five of their interactions. These lies aren't only to strangers or peripheral figures-couples regularly deceive each other. DePaulo's research showed that dating couples lie to each other about a third of the time, while married couples do so in about 1 in 10 interactions. While people seem to tell fewer of the "little" or "everyday" lies to loved ones, 64% of our serious lies ("deep betrayals of trust") do involve people's closest relationship partners. Renowned relationship researcher John Gottman examined focus groups of couples from all over the country and discovered that trust and betrayal were the most important issues to arise between partners.

How can we create more trust when we continue to lie to the people closest to us in countless ways? Honesty is a key component of a healthy relationship, not only because it helps us avoid harmful breaches of trust, but because it allows us to live in reality instead of fantasy and to share this reality with another. Of course, every human being has his or her own unique perception of the world, but by sharing these perceptions with each other, we get to know each other for who we really are.

What can we do to not only be more honest but to promote an atmosphere of honesty around us? How can we generate a steady flow of truth-telling between ourselves and the people we love most?

Here are 5 essential elements:
1. Know yourself and your intentions.
To be honest with someone else, we must know ourselves. We have to understand what we really think and feel about the world around us. Very often in life, we are either influenced by or conforming to a series of "shoulds" imposed on us by society, particularly the culture within our family of origin. We may get married because everyone our age is "settling down." Or we may refuse to get close to someone because our parents never got along.

It's important to differentiate ourselves from harmful influences on our personality that don't reflect who we really are and what we really want. If a voice in our head is telling us not to take a chance or be vulnerable, it's important to question where those thoughts come from, then align our actions to that which we really desire.

When we are true to ourselves in this way, we are better able to be honest with the people around us. We are less likely to just tell people what they want to hear or try to cover up things about ourselves of which we feel ashamed. Instead, we can be honest about who we are and what we want in a relationship.
2. Make your actions match your words.
Often, relationships lose their spark when couples replace substance with form. Things like saying "I love you" or doing certain things together become a matter of routine instead of lively choices that emerge from how we really feel. When we form what my father, Dr. Robert Firestone, termed a " fantasy bond"-an illusion of connection that replaces real, loving ways of relating-we often begin to feel distant from our partner or lose interest. We may start making excuses for pulling away or we may still talk of being in love while not engaging in behaviors that are loving toward our partner.

To avoid this dishonest way of relating, it's important to always act with integrity and to make our actions match our words. If we say we are in love, we should engage in behaviors toward our partner that someone else would observe as loving. We should spend real, quality time with our partner, in which we slow down and make contact. We should show our feelings, not just in words but through our body language. Saying "I love you," while grimacing or sighing at every move our partner makes, is not an expression of love that matches what we supposedly feel.
3. Be sincere about your reactions.
Not everything we feel in a relationship will be warm and fuzzy. Yet being honest and direct with someone we love doesn't mean we have to be hurtful or cruel. Sharing life with someone, we are bound to notice some of their negative tendencies and defenses that get in the way of our feelings of closeness and attraction. When we aren't open with our partner about what we feel and observe, we may grow cynical or start building a case against them that actually distorts and exaggerates their flaws.

Instead of being overly critical or attacking angrily, we should aim to be vulnerable with our partner in exposing what we think and feel. We can say things like, "I miss you when you work all the time," or, "I feel less attracted to you when you act tough or try to control what we do together." These honest, direct statements may feel uncomfortable at times, but they come from a place of vulnerability and openness that can actually lead to more closeness and intimacy.
4. Be open to feedback.
Just as we should be direct with our partner, we should be open to hearing honesty directed toward us. We should always be willing to listen to our partners and to see things from their point of view. What are they trying to tell us about how they are experiencing us and feeling toward us? Rather than argue every small detail, we should look for the kernel of truth in what our partner tells us. It's important not to be defensive, reactive, or punishing for feedback. If we get victimized or fall apart when we hear criticism, then we emotionally manipulate our partner, and encourage them to sugarcoat or even deceive us in the future. Having a partner who feels comfortable to open up to us is the best-case scenario for having an honest relationship, in which we can both mature and develop ourselves.
5. Accept your partner as a separate person.
No matter how connected we may feel to someone else, we will always be two separate people with two sovereign minds. If our partner doesn't see things the same way we do, it doesn't necessarily mean they're lying. It just means that we are two people who observe the world from different perspectives. The more we accept this reality, the more comfortable we can feel in accepting that we won't agree on everything. By being honest with each other, we can know and accept each other for who we actually are, not who we want each other to be. In this scenario, neither one of us has to pretend to be someone else or try to fit an image or expectation. We can support each other for the things that make us who we are as individuals, that light us up and give our lives meaning.

This steady flow of give and take, this willingness to be truthful, even when it's uncomfortable, helps establish trust in each other and the relationship. An open exchange, no matter how hard it may feel, really does set us free; we can accept that we are two individuals who choose to be together despite our differences. Most important, when we make this choice, we can rest assured that it's because we really love each other and not just because we are drawn to the fantasy of being together.
Living truthfully, things may not always have a fairy tale ending, but as human beings, we are resilient. We can handle our partner feeling attracted to someone else, and we can handle telling him or her when we feel insecure, afraid, or even furious. We can handle pretty much anything, as long as we are willing to live in reality and face the truths that exist. Honesty in relationships makes us feel secure, because we know where we stand. When we are honest with ourselves and our partner, we can experience the joy and excitement of living in a real relationship, in which we are being chosen for who we are. Read more from Dr. Lisa Firestone at PsychAlive.org

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5 Ways to Build Trust and Honesty in Your Relationship

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Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but how couples communicate during a conflict goes a long way toward determining whether the problem will be resolved - or if it will continue to fester and corrode the relationship. In fact, one of the most pressing problems that couples counselors face is helping clients express themselves so that their partners will listen. The search for the keys to effective communication is a pressing concern for counseling and clinical psychologists.

Lots of ideas have been floated in the self-help literature. One frequent piece of advice is to use "I" words instead "you" words. For example, say, "I feel angry when you leave your dirty underwear on the bathroom floor," instead of saying, "You make me angry when you..." The idea is to avoid playing the blame game. But, of course, the underlying blame is still quite obvious to the accused party.

Psychologists Nikola Overall and James McNulty have studied the communication strategies that couples use when confronted with a conflict, and they also followed up by looking at whether problems were eventually solved. What they found is that no particular communication style is always effective. Even more surprising, they discovered that communication styles which counselors deem counterproductive can sometimes be quite effective.

Overall and McNulty maintain that the best approach to use depends on four factors.

1. Necessity of change: Problems that threaten the continuation of the relationship, such as infidelity or lack of intimacy, need to be approached quite differently than minor problems like leaving gobs of toothpaste in the bathroom sink.

2. Possibility of change: There's no point in confronting your partner about a problem that's out of their control. For example, your husband really can't do anything about his snoring, so don't complain. Instead, find a workaround, such as separate bedrooms.

3. Agent's motivation: Before you raise an issue with your partner, consider carefully what it is that you're really upset about. You can't solve underlying intimacy issues if you fly off the handle each time your wife squeezes the toothpaste from the middle of the tube instead of the end.

4. Partner's vulnerabilities: When both partners have the emotional resolve to work out a problem, a direct discussion of the issues is usually the best approach. However, if you know your partner tends to act defensively when challenged, you'll need to use an indirect approach. Likewise, if your partner is depressed, she may feel incapable of changes that, from your perspective, don't seem difficult.

In their study of communication styles, Overall and McNulty found that they range along two dimensions: First, communication can be either direct (explicitly stating the problem) or indirect (alluding to the problem through humor, teasing, or sarcasm). Second, communication can involve either cooperation (focusing on the problem) or opposition (focusing on the partner's behavior). Crossing these two dimensions yields four communication styles.

Direct Cooperation. This approach uses reasoning and negotiation to work through a conflict. Let's say, for example, that you're concerned about family finances and bring this up with your spouse. The two of you agree to discuss the source of the problem and potential solutions, such as leaving credit cards at home instead of in your wallet, or packing lunch instead of eating out.

Direct cooperation is the best way to solve run-of-the-mill problems, but it doesn't convey sufficient urgency in major problems that potentially threaten the relationship. Further, if your partner is defensive or depressed, your attempt at direct cooperation will likely fail.

Indirect Cooperation. This approach uses humor and expressions of affection to broach the problem. For instance, if your wife brings her smartphone to bed, you could joke about always having to have a threesome. If she's the defensive type, this approach can convey your message without triggering her defenses, especially if you follow it up with a statement that shows how much you value the relationship, such as, "But I'd rather have you all to myself."

However, indirect cooperation fails to convey the seriousness of major problems. In fact, it may even signal to your partner that the problem really isn't that important. For example, if you're concerned that your husband's attentions are straying toward another woman, a casual, lighthearted comment might signal to him that you're OK with the situation.

Indirect Opposition. In this approach, you try to change your partner's behavior by laying on guilt and pleading for sympathy. Overall and McNulty point out that people high in attachment anxiety tend to rely on this communication style, because it assuages their insecurities about the relationship, at least for a while.

Generally speaking, indirect opposition is corrosive to relationships. Partners resent being guilted into doing something, and even when they do comply, the resentment comes out in other ways, so the problem isn't really solved. And if your partner is high in attachment avoidance, he'll not only reject the guilt, he'll probably also distance himself from you as well. Thus, a minor problem escalates into a major one.

However, when both partners are anxiously attached, the relationship can thrive on the histrionics of guilt and sympathy, hurt and sadness, undying devotion and unrequited love. These are the couples that love a good fight, because it's so much fun making up and falling in love all over again.

Direct Opposition. In this approach, you directly confront your partner in a domineering manner with anger in your voice. You blame your partner for the problem and demand change. Direct opposition is the "knock-down, drag-out" fight that's typically the turning point of a romantic comedy or drama. This communication style is quite risky, but Overall and McNulty's research shows that it's the most effective approach when the relationship is on the line. This is because the drama that ensues fully communicates to the partner the magnitude of the problem and the necessity of resolving it.

In any other situation, though, direct opposition is likely to do more harm than good. If you explode when your wife forgets to put another roll of toilet paper on the holder, or if you go off the rail when your husband tracks mud on the carpet, you're reacting out of proportion to the problem. And that's exactly how your partner will feel, so they'll be even less motivated to resolve the issue.

If your partner has a strong sense of self-worth, he'll likely just brush off your fit for what it is and try to be more mindful about not offending you next time. But if he's struggling with emotional issues, direct opposition can have a crushing effect. Let's say your husband has been out of work for three months and spends his days lying on the couch in front of the TV. Reading him the riot act won't motivate him; instead, he'll just spiral even deeper into depression.

Effective communication in a relationship conflict requires a high degree of self-awareness, as well as an objective understanding of your partner's personality. No particular communication style works in all situations. Rather, we need to tailor our approach to match our needs and our partner's vulnerabilities. If you find that you're just not getting through to your significant other, it's time for you to rethink your communication style.

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Conflict is inevitable in any relationship, but how couples communicate during a conflict goes a long way toward determining whether the problem will be resolved - or if it will continue to fester and corrode the relationship. In fact, one of the most pressing problems that couples counselors face is helping clients express themselves so that their partners will listen.

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What do I want to do with my life? It's a question all of us think about at one point or another.

For some, the answer comes easily. For others, it takes a lifetime to figure out.

It's easy to just go through the motions and continue to do what's comfortable and familiar. But for those of you who seek fulfillment, who want to do more, these questions will help you paint a clearer picture of what you want to do with your life.

1. What are the things I'm most passionate about?

The first step to living a more fulfilling life is to think about the things that you're passionate about.

What do you love? What fulfills you? What "work" do you do that doesn't feel like work? Maybe you enjoy writing, maybe you love working with animals or maybe you have a knack for photography.

The point is, figure out what you love doing, then do more of it.

2. What are my greatest accomplishments in life so far?

Think about your past experiences and the things in your life you're most proud of.

How did those accomplishments make you feel? Pretty darn good, right? So why not try and emulate those experiences and feelings?

If you ran a marathon once and loved the feeling you had afterwards, start training for another one. If your child grew up to be a star athlete or musician because of your teachings, then be a coach or mentor for other kids.

Continue to do the things that have been most fulfilling for you.

3. If my life had absolutely no limits, what would I choose to have and what would I choose to do?

Here's a cool exercise: Think about what you would do if you had no limits.

If you had all the money and time in the world, where would you go? What would you do? Who would you spend time with?

These answers can help you figure out what you want to do with your life. It doesn't mean you need millions of dollars to be happy though.

What it does mean is answering these questions will help you set goals to reach certain milestones and create a path toward happiness and fulfillment. Which leads to our next question ...

4. What are my goals in life?

Goals are a necessary component to set you up for a happy future. So answer these questions:

Once you figure out the answers to each of these, you'll have a much better idea of what you should do with your life.

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5. Whom do I admire most in the world?

Following the path of successful people can set you up for success.

Think about the people you respect and admire most. What are their best qualities? Why do you respect them? What can you learn from them?

You're the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. So don't waste your time with people who hold you back from achieving your dreams.

Spend more time with happy, successful, optimistic people and you'll become one of them.

6. What do I not like to do?

An important part of figuring out what you want to do with your life is honestly assessing what you don't want to do.

What are the things you despise? What bugs you the most about your current job?

Maybe you hate meetings even though you sit through 6 hours of them every day. If that's the case, find a job where you can work more independently.

The point is, if you want something to change in your life, you need to take action. Which leads to our final question ...

7. How hard am I willing to work to get what I want?

Great accomplishments never come easy. If you want to do great things with your life, you're going to have to make a great effort. That will probably mean putting in more hours the average person, getting outside your comfort zone and learning as much as you can to achieve as much as you can.

But here's the cool part: it's often the journey that is the most fulfilling part. It's during these seemingly small, insignificant moments that you'll often find that "aha" moments that helps you answer the question,
"What do I want to do with my life?"
So take the first step toward improving your life. You won't regret it.

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Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper

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Want to get your anger under control? Start by considering these 10 anger management tips.

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Making yourself vulnerable is needed to start a serious relationship

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Vulnerability doesn't make you weak it just opens up your person and you have to let your partner in

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Making yourself vulnerable and being an open book leads to healthier relationships then if you were to keep secrets and things about you from your partner

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Why Being Vulnerable is the Key to Intimacy - Fulfillment Daily

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The Challenge: We want relationships, but we are so afraid of opening up and being hurt. The Science: Research shows that vulnerability - the ability to be open - is the secret to connection. The Solution: Here's how you can take the first steps towards vulnerability and successful relationships.

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If you are not able to share and experience the same feelings as your partner you may look at the relationship differently be it better or worse.