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Valentine's Day on a Budget - B2-C2

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Business English - opisywanie grafów z serduszkiem w tle

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Preparation: copy the poster with a love cloud for each student in your class Procedure: Ask your students to create together a love cloud (a cloud with different words and expressions connected...

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Valentine's Day ESL Vocabulary game: Learn words related to Valentine's Day and love. Hope you enjoy this game and have a great Valentine's Day celebrations. Wishing you love and good health from ESL Games Plus.

Click on a tile to flip. Keep doing this until you make a match. When a match is made, the word and picture will move to the side where you can click to hear the word again. Play the game again to exhaust the list of 7 words. Words used include: Chocolate, love, kiss.

Games are great for motivating students to learn. By playing our fun educational games, students can practice and review key English vocabulary, grammar and sentences without the boredom which is usually encountered when doing paper-based gap-fill exercises. Play the game below and do not hesitate to share these resources with other learners. This is the philosophy behind our site - www.eslgamesplus.com.

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Valentine's Day ESL Vocabulary game: Learn words related to Valentine's Day and love. Hope you enjoy this game and have a great Valentine's Day celebrations. Wishing you love and good health from ESL Games Plus. Click on a tile to flip. Keep doing this until you make a match.

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In Mandy Len Catron's Modern Love essay, " To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This," she refers to a study by the psychologist Arthur Aron (and others) that explores whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions. The 36 questions in the study are broken up into three sets, with each set intended to be more probing than the previous one.

The idea is that mutual vulnerability fosters closeness. To quote the study's authors, "One key pattern associated with the development of a close relationship among peers is sustained, escalating, reciprocal, personal self-disclosure." Allowing oneself to be vulnerable with another person can be exceedingly difficult, so this exercise forces the issue.

The final task Ms. Catron and her friend try - staring into each other's eyes for four minutes - is less well documented, with the suggested duration ranging from two minutes to four. But Ms. Catron was unequivocal in her recommendation. "Two minutes is just enough to be terrified," she told me. "Four really goes somewhere."
Set I
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a "perfect" day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?
Set II
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you've dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven't you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
Set III
25. Make three true "we" statements each. For instance, "We are both in this room feeling ... "

26. Complete this sentence: "I wish I had someone with whom I could share ... "

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven't you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner's advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

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The 36 Questions That Lead to Love (Published 2015)

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In Mandy Len Catron's Modern Love essay, " To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This," she refers to a study by the psychologist Arthur Aron (and others) that explores whether intimacy between two strangers can be accelerated by having them ask each other a specific series of personal questions.

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Mandy Len Catron: Falling in love is the easy part

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Did you know you can fall in love with anyone just by asking them 36 questions? Mandy Len Catron tried this experiment, it worked, and she wrote a viral article about it (that your mom probably sent you). But ... is that real love? Did it last?

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In this lesson, students watch a TED Talk by Mandy Len Catron, answer comprehension questions, practice asking and answering questions, and discuss the topic of falling in love, dating, and relationships. It is suitable for levels intermediate and higher. Before deciding to teach this lesson, take a look at this article and consider your students' cultural sensitivity.

The Task

Step 1: Introduction

Put the following on the board:
4 MINUTES, ROMANTIC, LABORATORY, 36, PERSONAL
Tell your students these words describe the content of the video they are about to watch. Ask them to figure out what the video might be about using these keywords.

These are some words taken from the first part of Mandy's talk:
I published this article in the New York Times Modern Love column in January of this year. "To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This." And the article is about a psychological study designed to create and my own experience trying the study myself one night last summer. romantic love in the laboratory, So the procedure is fairly simple: two strangers take turns asking each other without speaking for 36 increasingly personal questions and then they stare into each other's eyes four minutes.
Step 2: Watching the Talk, part 1

Students watch the first part of the video (until 6.06, see the transcript) and fill in the missing information. Watch the video twice if necessary. Check the answers. Ask your students whether they think Mandy and her boyfriend are still together (were still together at the time the Talk was published)

Step 3: Making questions

Your students heard 3 sample questions (out of 36) in the Talk. First, ask them to narrow down the definition of a "personal question". What kinds of questions do they think were asked during the study (bearing in mind these questions were supposed to let people get to know each other and possibly fall in love in the process)?

Distribute the questions handout and tell your students these are 5 actual questions asked in the study but they need to finish each of them. Students work in pairs or individually.

When they finish, ask your students to interview each other using the questions they had written. Emphasise that anybody has the right to refuse to answer the question if they find it too personal/ uncomfortable.

Once your students finish, ask them whether any questions they heard were difficult to answer. Why? Have they refused to answer any questions? Why?

At this point, you might show your students the original 36 questions used in this study. For the purposes of this activity, I used questions 1, 4, 10, 17/18, and 29. Compare your students' ideas with the original, decide which ones are easier to answer / give more information about the person who is answering.
Ask your students some questions about the premise of the study:

Is it possible to make strangers fall in love during a scientific study?

Why would some people fall in love during this experiment?

Are such relationships long-lasting? Why?

Would you agree to participate in such a study? Why?

Step 4: Watching the Talk, part 2

Continue watching the Talk until the end. They should answer 6 questions from the Step 4 worksheet (video part 2).

Step 5: Discussion

In her talk Mandy states that the question "Are you still together" is the easiest and the least informative question to ask about love. In turn, she proposes several other questions that would shed more light on the issue of "loving somebody".

Start the discussion with a quote from the Talk and ask your students whether they agree and why:
But falling in love is not the same thing as staying in love. Falling in love is the easy part.
Next, distribute the Step 5: Discussion worksheets. Students need to fill in the gaps in the question with the verbs in red (all questions come from the Talk). Students need to pay attention to the verb forms and meaning.

Finally, you might try to discuss questions 2,3, and 4 with your students.

Personal Experience

I have used this TED Talk several times with adult and teenage students when discussing the topics of love, dating, and relationships. Since it is longer than the Talks I usually choose, I decided to break it up into two parts and I think it works better than having students watch the whole video first.

My students have generally been interested in the idea of interviewing potential romantic interests and "manufacturing" romantic love. I have been relieved to see my students come up with very interesting questions in Step 3 and I have been lucky as they took answering them seriously. Nevertheless, I am aware that not every group of students might be comfortable (or mature enough) to participate in this class.

Materials
Step 2: Watching the Talk, part 1 Step 3: Making questions Step 4: Watching the Talk, part 2 Step 5: Discussion

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TED Talk: Falling in love is the easy part

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In this lesson, students watch a TED Talk by Mandy Len Catron, answer comprehension questions, practice asking and answering questions, and discuss the topic of falling in love, dating, and relationships. It is suitable for levels intermediate and higher. Before deciding to teach this lesson, take a look at this article and consider your students' cultural sensitivity.