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9) Are the students only bullies at schools?  

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Unfotunately, the answer is a big NO. The bullies at schools are not only limited to the students but there are times when students get bullied by their teachers or the school administration, as well. This type of bullying especially occurs in terms of sexual discrimination between students. School rules are most likely to suppress young female students than male ones.
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As a school student, my experience shaped the way I see the world today. My opinions and beliefs were shaped by the people I met and interactions I had in those 14 years. In many ways, my feminist ideas were inspired by teachers and students I was close to. Here are 5 examples of the subtle sexism demonstrated in schools, that are regressive and hurt a student's learning experience. These aren't specific to one campus's population, but issues that reach far beyond into even the best schools of the country.

1. Uniform

The purpose of having a school uniform is that everybody looks the same and feels equal. However, girls face a lot more criticism regarding their uniforms than boys do. Pulling one's skirt down when spotting a teacher is a popular move and being corrected in a hallway or classroom is common. Short skirts are the enemy and valuable class time is spent confronting them.

A female student I spoke to said, "I remember in my first council meeting, the Principal was congratulating all the boys and then she called me aside and I thought she was going to congratulate me too but she said my skirt was too short and it showed a lack of respect for my school and post."

This is sexualizing girls from a young age, and even when teachers mean well, the message being sent is that a little more of your legs showing is distracting others. Boys who wear tight shirts aren't told to change or buy another. Wearing the correct uniform is important, otherwise it doesn't have a use, but the double standard has to go.

Short skirts are the enemy and valuable class time is spent confronting them.

2. Being 'charming' vs. disrespectful

In classrooms, the majority of 'class clowns' or 'jokes-ters' are boys who create a playful rapport with the teacher and get away with the cheekiest lines. Teachers laugh at their jokes and even disrespect is seen in good fun. If a girl tries to do the same, she's more likely to be called 'distracted' or 'disrespectful.'

One female student says, "During a parent-teacher meeting, my class teacher told my parents I would talk to my boyfriend in class too much and needed to fix my priorities. My boyfriend's parents were told that it wasn't a big deal and was all in good fun." The boys are seen as charming young men and the girls are scolded. There's nothing wrong with having a good relationship with your teachers and being casual with them if they don't mind, but the reaction shouldn't depend on gender.

Also Read: The Classroom Is A Gender Mould In Itself

This is a term thrown about casually in schools, to describe someone who has a lot of knowledge about a subject and isn't scared to demonstrate it in the classroom. This word is usually used in reference to a girl who keeps putting her hand up or excelling in exams. Someone who is seen as smug and aloof.

The reality is that this term makes girls who are intelligent and confident unsure about participating in a classroom and conscious of their own abilities. A female student says, "Our teacher used to look exasperated when my friends and I used to explain things or put up our hands with the answer and her tone would be more annoyed than it was when interacting with the boys." A student who is talented should be encouraged by peers and motivated by faculty. Not made to feel threatened by others who are annoyed by her capabilities.

When students are caught hooking-up in schools, more often than not, the girls face more judgement than the boys. They are both pulled up for the same thing and should face the same consequences. Girls are told that there is 'better expected' of them as if their gender identity limits their choices.

For instance, a female student recalls, " We were at our school trip and my boyfriend, a couple of other friends and I were chilling with everyone outside a tent. A teacher came by and told me she wanted to talk to me. That time I had some allergic reaction on my legs so I thought it was about that, but it turned out to be a 40-minute lecture about how it was unacceptable that I was chilling outside a tent with my boyfriend. When I argued that everyone was there she shouted at me and told me to behave myself. My boyfriend didn't have to listen to any of this". Why should girls be made to feel ashamed in such situations?

A student who is talented should not be made to feel threatened by others who are annoyed by her capabilities.

Many schools have student councils, meant to bridge the gap between the student body and administration. They are seen as the leaders of the grade and most students aspire for these posts for years. School elections are held or they are nominated. An occurrence not difficult to pick up on is the probability of a boy being elected instead of a girl.

Boys are seen as natural leaders, who can be decisive and aggressive when needed. Qualities which usually classify girls as everyone's favourite adjective - 'bossy.' Even if a girl is elected, she can find herself being undermined by peers or faculty who don't give her the same respect as her male counterpart.

A member of one such council says, "I've been reprimanded for doing things that boys are encouraged to do because if I'm seen or heard more than them, it undermines them somehow. They've forgotten to introduce me while giving 5 minute long monologues about my male counterpart and constantly ignored me when it came to communication about work."

Girls who are ambitious and hard-working don't receive the credit they deserve and have to work ten times as hard to get the approval boys receive immediately. Even in relatively progressive schools, this contradiction exists, not necessarily at the hands of only male faculty or students, but female too. We need to learn to show appreciation and support, for everyone. Showing girls that their achievements aren't as valued when they are younger harms their drive and zeal for the future.

These are in no way the only manifestations of our instituted gender bias in schools, but they are examples. We need to call them out, observe more and pick up on them, and stop, at the very least ourselves, from participating in them. Combating this sexism in schools is of the highest importance.

Of course they are areas of education and exploration, but more importantly, they are the place children go every single day. The place which gives them their first impressions of the world and how they will be treated in it. The world isn't always fair, but at the very least our schools need to be.

Also Read: Creating A Feminist Classroom: Why Should Marx Have All The Fun?

Tara loves poetry, discussing opinions and napping. She is happiest when she has a warm cup of chai in one hand and a book in the other.

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Have You Witnessed These 5 Examples Of Subtle Sexism In School?

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As a school student, my experience shaped the way I see the world today. My opinions and beliefs were shaped by the people I met and interactions I had in those 14 years. In many ways, my feminist ideas were inspired by teachers and students I was close to.

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There are a lot of types of bullying which can range from physical, social, and psychological to cyberbullying which increases day by day, making the internet an unsafe place for young children. Most of the physical and psychological bullying is in the forms of spreading rumors or lies, making fun of, calling names, insulting, or leaving out/exclusion deliberately while cyberbullying occurs with spreading videos, photos, or rumors online. The victims are targeted mainly due to their race, appearance, and gender. Most of the female students experience sexual bullying by their male peers while male students are bullied due to their looks or their sexual orientation by their male peers, again.

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This section pulls together fundamental information about bullying, including:

Definition of Bullying

In 2014, the Centers for Disease Control and Department of Education released the first federal definition of bullying. The definition includes three core elements:

unwanted aggressive behavior

observed or perceived power imbalance

repetition or high likelihood of repetition of bullying behaviors

This definition helps determine whether an incident is bullying or another type of aggressive behavior or both.

Research on Bullying

Bullying prevention is a growing research field that investigates the complexities and consequences of bullying. Important areas for more research include:

Prevalence of bullying in schools

Prevalence of cyberbullying in online spaces

How bullying affects people

Risk factors for people who are bullied, people who bully others, or both

How to prevent bullying

How media and media coverage affects bullying

What We've Learned about Bullying

Bullying affects all youth, including those who are bullied, those who bully others, and those who witness bullying. The effects of bullying may continue into adulthood.

There is not a single profile of a young person involved in bullying. Youth who bully can be either well connected socially or marginalized, and may be bullied by others as well. Similarly, those who are bullied sometimes bully others.

Solutions to bullying are not simple. Bullying prevention approaches that show the most promise confront the problem from many angles. They involve the entire school community-students, families, administrators, teachers, and staff such as bus drivers, nurses, cafeteria and front office staff-in creating a culture of respect. Zero tolerance and expulsion are not effective approaches.

Bystanders, or those who see bullying, can make a huge difference when they intervene on behalf of someone being bullied.

Studies also have shown that adults can help prevent bullying by talking to children about bullying, encouraging them to do what they love, modeling kindness and respect, and seeking help.

Bullying Statistics

Here are federal statistics about bullying in the United States. Data sources include the Indicators of School Crime and Safety: 2019 (National Center for Education Statistics and Bureau of Justice) and the 2017 Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance System (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention).

How Common Is Bullying

About 20% of students ages 12-18 experienced bullying nationwide.

Students ages 12-18 who reported being bullied said they thought those who bullied them:

Had the ability to influence other students' perception of them (56%).

Had more social influence (50%).

Were physically stronger or larger (40%).

Had more money (31%).

Bullying in Schools

Nationwide, 19% of students in grades 9-12 report being bullied on school property in the 12 months prior to the survey.

The following percentages of students ages 12-18 had experienced bullying in various places at school:

Hallway or stairwell (43.4%)

Classroom (42.1%)

Cafeteria (26.8%)

Outside on school grounds (21.9%)

Online or text (15.3%)

Bathroom or locker room (12.1%)

Somewhere else in the school building (2.1%)

Approximately 46% of students ages 12-18 who were bullied during the school year notified an adult at school about the bullying.

Cyberbullying

Among students ages 12-18 who reported being bullied at school during the school year, 15 % were bullied online or by text.

An estimated 14.9% of high school students were electronically bullied in the 12 months prior to the survey.

Types of Bullying

Students ages 12-18 experienced various types of bullying, including:

Being the subject of rumors or lies (13.4%)

Being made fun of, called names, or insulted (13.0%)

Pushed, shoved, tripped, or spit on (5.3%)

Leaving out/exclusion (5.2%)

Threatened with harm (3.9%)

Others tried to make them do things they did not want to do (1.9%)

Property was destroyed on purpose (1.4%)

State and Local Statistics

Follow these links for state and local figures on the following topics:

International Statistics

According to the UNESCO Institute of Statistics:

One third of the globe's youth is bullied; this ranges from as low as 7% in Tajikistan to 74% in Samoa.

Low socioeconomic status is a main factor in youth bullying within wealthy countries.

Immigrant-born youth in wealthy countries are more likely to be bullied than locally-born youth.

Bullying and Suicide

The relationship between bullying and suicide is complex. The media should avoid oversimplifying these issues and insinuating or directly stating that bullying can cause suicide. The facts tell a different story. It is not accurate and potentially dangerous to present bullying as the "cause" or "reason" for a suicide, or to suggest that suicide is a natural response to bullying.

Research indicates that persistent bullying can lead to or worsen feelings of isolation, rejection, exclusion, and despair, as well as depression and anxiety, which can contribute to suicidal behavior.

The vast majority of young people who are bullied do not become suicidal.

Most young people who die by suicide have multiple risk factors.

For more information on the relationship between bullying and suicide, read "The Relationship Between Bullying and Suicide: What We Know and What it Means for Schools" from the CDC.

Anti-Bullying Laws

All states have anti-bullying legislation. When bullying is also harassment and happens in the school context, schools have a legal obligation to respond to it according to federal laws.

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This section pulls together fundamental information about bullying.

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7) Does school bullying affect students' academic performance?

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Bullying can happen on any educational level. Students who are bullied at school avoid attending classes and struggle to keep up with their academic responsibilities. Students who are subjected to bullying are reported to score lower in reading, mathematics, and science compared to their peers who never or rarely experienced bullying. Bullying, also, is one of the main reasons for the increasing drop-out rates.

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It's a harmful behavior that impacts 1 in 5 students in the US.

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School bullying is the act of aggressive behavior that can occur in any educational setting. It can be performed by any student and every student can be the victim of bullies regardless of their social status or popularity. Bullying affects not only the victims but also the bullies and the stand-byers in their post-school life, causing most of them to struggle with issues in their adulthood.

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Bullying among 12- to 18-year-old students has declined over the past decade, but approximately 1 in 5 students still experience bullying on school property, the National Center for Education Statistics (NCES) reports (PDF, 4.6 MB). To create bully-free schools that allow students to focus on learning, administrators and teachers can better understand how bullying occurs. The USC Rossier School of Education, which offers the MAT online program, has put together the following guide to help schools navigate this pressing issue.

The NCES says bullying is often characterized by three of the following elements:

The aggressor seeks to inflict physical, social and/or emotional harm.

The aggressor's behavior is recurrent.

The victim feels inferior to or less powerful than the aggressor.

More than half of bullied students ages 12 to 18 said the student who bullied them had the ability to influence what others thought of them.
Go to the bottom of the page to review tabular data about the perceptions of power imbalances for students who are bullied.
Students were also asked whether bullying was related to specific characteristics. The most common characteristics bullying was related to included:

Physical appearance

Race

Gender

Disability

Ethnicity

Religion

Sexual orientation

Nearly 12% of public schools reported bullying at school at least once a week in 2017, according to NCES data. That percentage was highest for middle schools (21.8%), followed by high schools (14.7%) and primary schools (8.1%).

Stopbullying.gov identifies common bullying tactics students use, including:

The most common types of bullying experienced by students in 2017 included being the subject of rumors (13.4%) and being insulted or called names (13%).
Go to the bottom of the page to review tabular data about the types of bullying experienced by students.
Of students who reported bullying, more than 40% said they believed it would occur again.

With more students constantly connected to digital devices and social media, schools are having to address electronic bullying. According to NCES:

According to a bullying prevention fact sheet from the Centers for Disease Control (PDF, 600 KB), bullying can have a number of negative outcomes. Students who are bullied may experience:

Physical injury

Social and emotional distress

Increased risk of depression and anxiety

Difficulties sleeping

Lower academic achievement

Increased likelihood to drop out of school

Self-harm

Death

About a quarter of bullied students ages 12 to 18 said bullying negatively affected how they felt about themselves.
Go to the bottom of the page to review tabular data about the negative effects of bullying.
However, the harmful effects of bullying are not limited to those who experience it. Students who bully face increased risk of substance misuse, academic problems and violence later in life. Those who bully others and are bullied experience the most serious behavioral and mental health problems.

Creating a safe learning space for children requires buy-in from the top down. Bullying.gov highlights the unique role administrators play in preventing bullying (PDF, 173 KB), including:

Providing bullying prevention training so staff are better equipped to intervene.

Establishing and consistently enforcing policies against bullying.

Talking with students about their concerns and helping them build social and emotional skills to help address the issue.

Collecting data on bullying to understand how frequently and where it's occurring on school grounds.

More than 40% of bullied students said the incidents took place in hallways, stairwells and classrooms.
Go to the bottom of the page to review tabular data about the locations of bullying.
To foster safe and respectful classrooms, the Department of Education advises teachers to focus on respect, inclusion and open communication. The department developed a training toolkit that identifies the primary features of a supportive classroom (PDF, 391 KB):

Educators model positive thinking and respectful behavior, while proactively encouraging conversations about tolerance, inclusivity and diversity. They also listen to students' experiences.

Educators also model appropriate expectations for relationships and work directly with not only students who are being bullied but also students who are bullying others to establish a culture of respect for differences.

Educators intervene when they see problems and make bully-free culture the norm by teaching positive relationship skills and clear ground rules for behavior.

Teachers can watch for warning signs of bullying, such as unexplained injuries, frequent illness, decline in school attendance, decline in grades, isolation and avoidance of social situations.

When bullying occurs, teachers should intervene immediately. A Department of Education toolkit provides a four-step approach (PDF, 1.1 MB):

Stop the Behavior

Keep calm, make sure everyone is safe, and reassure all the students involved. Separate them and ask what they need from you, including any medical attention.

Find Out What Happened

Listen to as many sources as you can, document what you hear and see, and collect other evidence that may help you determine whether bullying occurred. Don't make assumptions.

Support the Students Involved

Both the student who is bullied and the student who bullied need support. Allow the student being bullied to share their story and reassure them that bullying is not their fault. The student who bullied needs to understand why their behavior may be problematic, what the consequences are according to school policy and how they can be involved in making amends.

Report and Follow Up

A thorough report of what happened, where the incident took place and other evidence can enable schools to track patterns of behavior and properly address the issue. Following up ensures that students who are bullied know they are supported and safe.

Every student can help make schools safer places to learn for their peers. The Department of Education toolkit on bullying prevention provides tips for students who witness bullying:

Don't engage in bullying.

The following section contains tabular data from the graphics in this post.

Students 12 to 18 who reported being bullied in 2017 identified the following power imbalance in favor of the student who bullied them.

Source: "Indicators of School Crime and Safety: 2018," (PDF, 4.6 MB) Institute of Education Sciences, National Center for Education Statistics.
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Source: "Indicators of School Crime and Safety: 2018," (PDF, 4.6 MB) Institute of Education Sciences, National Center for Education Statistics.
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Students 12 to 18 who reported being bullied in 2017 said that bullying had negative effects on following aspects of their lives.

Source: "Indicators of School Crime and Safety: 2018," (PDF, 4.6 MB) Institute of Education Sciences, National Center for Education Statistics.
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Students 12 to 18 who were bullied in 2017 were asked to identify where incidents took place.

Source: "Student Reports of Bullying: Results from the 2017 School Crime Supplement to the National Crime Victimization Survey," (PDF, 3.3 MB) Institute of Education Sciences, National Center for Education Statistics.
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A Guide to Understanding and Preventing School Bullying

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Bullying among 12- to 18-year-old students has declined over the past decade, but approximately 1 in 5 students still experience bullying on school property, the National Center for Education Statistics (NCES) reports (PDF, 4.6 MB). To create bully-free schools that allow students to focus on learning, administrators and teachers can better understand how bullying occurs.

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6)Are there any organizations or events to raise awareness of the effects of bullying?

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Held in the UK, there is an annual Anti-Bullying Week to raise awareness of bullying at schools or elsewhere. The first day of Anti-Bullying week is called Odd Socks Day. People wear odd socks and purple wristbands with united against bullying written on them to celebrate individuality. Also held annually on the third day of October since 2010 in the US, Spirit Day is celebrated to stand up against LGBTQ+ bullying among young generation.

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GLAAD published a moving video today for Spirit Day, GLAAD's annual worldwide event that encourages millions of people to stand against bullying and show their support for LGBT youth by wearing purple. In this video, teenagers tell their heartwrenching stories of being bullied. The video puts a face to the victims of bullying, showing the immense personal toll that harassment takes on young people everywhere.

On October 15, Spirit Day provides the opportunity for everyone - from students and teachers to celebrities and corporations - to raise their voices in support of LGBT youth. By "going purple," Spirit Day participants can show LGBT youth everywhere that there are people who support them in their struggles against bullying.

According to recent studies, eight out of 10 LGBT students experience harassment at school, and over 60% of LGBT students who report a bullying case said their school staff did nothing. Spirit Day raises up the voices of the victims of anti-LGBT bullying, starting necessary conversations about an issue that goes largely unheard.

"Since 2010, Spirit Day has cast unprecedented light on the issue of bullying and its disproportionate impact on LGBT youth," said GLAAD CEO & President Sarah Kate Ellis. "This year, Spirit Day and GLAAD's anti-bullying resources will reach more young people than ever with messages of empowerment and acceptance."

Many groups and individuals have already pledged to participate in Spirit Day in 2015. Partners include Wells Fargo, Target, and major sports leagues like the NBA, WNBA, NFL and WWE.

For more information on Spirit Day, please visit http://www.glaad.org/spiritday and watch GLAAD's touching video here:

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WATCH: Video about bullying spotlights challenges LGBT teens face

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5) Does being bullied always have negative consequences later in life for bully-victims? 

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It is known that bullying in childhood leaves victims with long term damages later in life. However, that’s not always the case. Indeed,to some of the most accomplished artists, comedians, authors, and athletes, who were once bully-victims, the oppression they were subjected to in their school years became the driving force for what they’ve become today.

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They say the worst thing to be is ignored, but I wouldn't know. I have hair so large and frizzy you could see me coming from a football field away. I'm a bit pretentious. I make loud jokes and overshare and ask strangers who seem nice to meet for coffee, because why not. I'm yet to meet anyone as outwardly sociable as myself, which-depending on your disposition-could either be a good or bad thing.

Growing up, I wasn't ignored either. My fondness for books, debates, and weird outfits meant I was relentlessly made fun of in primary school, consistently (and pretty creatively) insulted and taunted throughout secondary school and publicly ridiculed at university. I sort of had friends, but they were on-and-off and usually from outside the confines of whichever academic institution I was attending at that point in time, so really provided little respite from the bullies.

There's an accepted rhetoric and accepted roles when it comes to bullying: a victim who is helpless and introverted, who over the years becomes more and more ostracized and insecure, who will often tumble into a pit of depression or social anxiety; and a perpetrator-an evil, thuggish figure with "problems at home" who takes it out on the most vulnerable. This may be true in some cases, but in my own experience it's not quite as black and white.

A couple of years ago I went away for a weekend with a close female friend of mine, who-like me-is outgoing to the point of obnoxious. At one point I asked if she thought we would have been friends had we met ten years earlier. "There were a bunch of us at school who used to hang out. We were blonde and thin and wore a lot of makeup. No one messed with us," she told me, slurring slightly by this point because of all the wine. "To be honest, Sirena, I probably would have made your life hell."

She knows about the bullying-about the Facebook group a bunch of 19-year-olds made during university to discuss how awful they thought I was. She knows because I've told her, and others, because I'm not ashamed of being bullied. It's not my dirty little secret; it's one of the many things that helped shape the person I am today. Of course, the same can't be said for everyone; I'm lucky that I was able to process the bullying rather than internalize the pain and let it affect me in later life.

My friend, it seemed, fell under into that latter group-even though she'd been the bully, not the bullied. She was visibly ashamed as she told me of the time her and her clique had told the fat girl with the NHS glasses that the class heartthrob fancied her, just to watch in peals of laughter as she went over to ask him out. She also looked stricken as she recounted the time an unpopular bookworm had been invited to a sleepover, only to have her eyebrows shaved off.

"Yeah, you were a bitch then," was my response. "But don't worry too much; maybe they turned out like me."

Liam Hackett is one of the most successful people I've met in a long time. At just 24, he's the CEO of a digital marketing agency and the founder of anti-bullying charity Ditch the Label.

He was also bullied throughout his teenage years, and even hospitalized after a particularly brutal physical attack, but he credits these experiences with giving him the drive and ambition to excel academically and launch a career which has seen him make regular media appearances and public speeches.

"The bullying I experienced has been my driving force," he said. "If you grow up with a lot of rejection around you, as an adult you want to protect yourself, and everyone does that differently. For me, it's certainly led to my success. It's weird to say bullying can have a positive impact, but it's all about how different people deal with it. It can be a really positive thing."

It's fascinating to meet someone whose trajectory is similar to my own-who can perhaps understand that once you've been ostracized from what feels like the only social circle that'll ever matter, it's hard to give a fuck about someone at work not inviting you out for a drink, or a friend's friend finding you a bit annoying, or someone on the tube sniggering at your outfit. The worst has been and gone, so you might as well just be yourself and see what happens: it can't be that bad.

Read on Motherboard: When Humans Bully Robots, There Will Be Consequences

For anyone being bullied who might be reading this, I understand that this is easier said that done; that attitude shift isn't going to happen overnight. You need experiences outside of your age group and immediate contemporaries, whether that's a retail job or a book club or anything in between, to find out who you can be when you're not just The One Who's Picked On.

I spoke to Lisa*, a 21-year-old who's about to start university and is petrified of once again being singled out and bullied by classmates. She's been a target since she was nine years old, verbally harassed and ostracized both online and at school, and regularly told that she should commit suicide and break her limbs.

She told me: "I didn't apply after my A-Levels because I've been suffering from anorexia for years and only just recovered. I just wait for the abuse and judgement and tend not to talk at all. I'm scared about university because I really don't want to relive my past, and because I'm so shy, I don't know how I'm going to make friends. I panic about it every day."

I wish I could have told her that university would be different-that adults tend to not be such massive pricks-but I can't, because I don't know that for certain. All I can say is that it will most likely get better one day.

Ana Bird is in her twenties and works as a virtual assistant in Nottinghamshire. Like me, she has no shame or embarrassment about having been bullied. She's happy to be identified and speaks openly about how, as a teenager, she was hit, kicked, called names, had her hair burnt with a lighter, rumors spread about her and her possessions were stolen and ruined.

When it became intolerable she left school and, through independent learning, managed to ace her A Levels and get a job in her chosen field. She said: "As a result of the bullying, I've learnt coping mechanisms and I'm a more resilient person. I've had my trauma, so as an adult I know who I am and I'm comfortable with that. I like who I am, and I can almost thank the bullies in a way, because they made me who I am."

However, removing herself from the academic institutions that failed to protect her and finding a unique voice hasn't stopped Ana's experiences impacting her life. She says one of the reasons she's terrified of having children is the fear that they might go through anything remotely similar to what she endured.

"The people I want my future children to be fit into the 'bullying victim' stereotype," she said. "Well spoken, good manners, smart, school lovers, kind. This terrifies me, because I've been there. The bullying is a factor in my possible choice to have children, and that is kind of sad."

Despite how unaffected she seems, the troubles during Ana's educational career have, predictably, had a profound affect on her. Her admission makes me realize that perhaps my adamance against ever being a parent comes from subconsciously sharing her fears. Underneath my exterior, do I actually still believe that being bullied is the worst thing that could happen to a person?

Professor Chris Kyriacou teaches Educational Psychology at the University of York and has written countless theses around bullying. I asked him what leads to being a bully or a victim during school years. His response was reassuring: "In certain circumstances, almost anyone can become a bully or a victim," he said. "But often a bully may be facing problems in their personal lives for which bullying someone offers some relief and social status. Victims are often just in the wrong place at the wrong time."

Bullying can be a horrendous thing to go through, and is not something I would wish on anyone. If you're being bullied, it's important you talk to someone about it-whether that's a friend or a parent, or a charity like Ditch the Label-because if you voice your worries to someone else, they can help you process them rationally. It's also important to remember that things get better; they did for me, they did for Liam, they did for Ana, they will for Lisa, and they will for you, too.
If you or anyone you know is being affected by bullying, contact Ditch the Label here.

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How Being Bullied Mercilessly as a Child Can Help You as an Adult

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According to research conducted, bullying of LGBTQ+ students is the most common in schools compared to bullying relating to sexism, racism, and religion.

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5)Does being bullied always have negative consequences later in life for bully-victims?

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5)Does being bullied always have negative consequences later in life for bully-victims?

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4)Who is most at risk of being bullied at schools?

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4)Who is most at risk of being bullied at schools?

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Bullying is usually defined as habitual aggressive behavior intended to hurt someone. It could be divided into four categories. These are verbal, physical, relational/social, and cyberbullying.

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3)What kind of psychological disorders does bullying at school cause in the future?

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3)What kind of psychological disorders does bullying at school cause in the future?

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Bullied people may have anxiety, depression, and eating disorder and develop thoughts tending to violance and suicide in the future because of lack of confidence. And being bullied at a young age affects people's physical and mental developments. So they tend to be introvert and asocial.

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2)Why do children  become bullies at school?    

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2)Why do children  become bullies at school?    

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There are several reasons why they become bullies. While some of them bully because they feel angry or afraid of being bullied, others bully due to the want to dominate others and make themselves superior or they have low self-esteem.

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1)Does online education help prevent bullying?

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1)Does online education help prevent bullying?

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Online education makes students feel secure and comfortable and it also enables parent to check their children if they are being bullied or bully someone. Online education may be the solution for physical and verbal bullying but cyber bullying is an important issue that needs control of parents.

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3)What kind of psychological disorders does bullying at school cause in the future?

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3)What kind of psychological disorders does bullying at school cause in the future?

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2)Why do children  become bullies at school?                                      

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2)Why do children  become bullies at school?                                      

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1)Does online education help prevent bullying?

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1)Does online education help prevent bullying?

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Bullying is the repeated act of aggression that can occur physically,verbally, psychologically, and socially among school-aged children.