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Deeper Learning Framework Outline

Three circles intersecting as follows:

Caring-the power to relate constructively to self & other

Perseverance

Compassion

Respect

Thinking-the power to think critically, creatively & productively

Innovation

Reflection

Problem-solving

Communicating-the power to interpret, express & influence

Negotiation

Voice

Collaboration

Three circles overlapped = Me-becoming

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In the 2018-19 school year, NMS will implement 6 essential skills , adapting materials from both the Deeper Learning and the "40 Developmental Assets" frameworks.  NMS will utilize additional resources to further provide guidance for lesson planning and development.

Self-Awareness: Respect of self with attention to caring, social justice and equality, integrity, honesty, responsibility and restraint.

Cultural Awareness/Cultural Responsiveness (Inclusive of Code Switching)

Collaboration: Negotiation, problem solving

Community Service

Personal & Business Etiquette Skills

Life Skills

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Lesson Framework: Positive Youth Development

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Lesson Framework: Positive Youth Development

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40 Developmental Assets - Positive Youth Development

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Teach young people to appreciate differences

Although most people gravitate toward people who are similar to themselves, it's important to expose young people to a variety of cultures and people. People from different cultural, ethnic, and racial backgrounds can learn many things from one another. Being culturally competent doesn't mean that you have to like others who are different from you, but rather be able to treat one another with respect, tolerance, and equality. It means making an effort to learn about and understand people of other cultural, racial, and ethnic backgrounds. Cultural Competence is Asset 34 of Search Institute's 40 Developmental Assets, the qualities, experiences, and relationships that help young people grow up healthy, caring, and responsible.

Here are the facts

Research shows that young people who have knowledge of and feel comfortable with people of different cultural, racial, and ethnic backgrounds feel good about themselves, are less lonely, can solve problems well, and do better in school. About 43 percent of young people, ages 11-18, report having knowledge of and comfort with people of different cultural, racial, and ethnic backgrounds, according to Search Institute surveys. Cultural competence builds strong, capable, and interesting young people.

Tips for building this asset

Think about your family, ethnic background, or cultural heritage and what makes you proud and gives you comfort. Then explore other cultures' or countries' people, art, sayings, food, songs and traditions. Help young people learn about the backgrounds of others and create a more understanding world by appreciating differences.

Also try this

In your home and family: Explain to your child how and why her or his name was chosen. Talk about any connections the name has with your family's roots and culture-old or new.

In your neighborhood and community: Get to know people who are from a different country or have a different cultural heritage from you. Ask them about their family traditions, celebrations, and other unique aspects of their backgrounds.

In your school or youth program: Seated in a circle, ask students or participants to talk about their ethnic or family backgrounds and their favorite celebrations, foods, music, and traditions. Then have them complete this sentence: "If I could share one thing about my cultural heritage, my gift to you would be . . ."

Want to know more about the 40 Developmental Assets and ideas for helping young people build them?
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Developmental Assets ® are positive factors within young people, families, communities, schools, and other settings that research has found to be important in promoting the healthy development of young people. From Instant Assets: 52 Short and Simple E-Mails for Sharing the Asset Message. Copyright © 2007 by Search Institute ® , 877-240-7251; www.search-institute.org. This message may be reproduced for educational, noncommercial uses only (with this copyright line). All rights reserved.

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40 Developmental Assets - Positive Youth Development

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Although most people gravitate toward people who are similar to themselves, it's important to expose young people to a variety of cultures and people. People from different cultural, ethnic, and racial backgrounds can learn many things from one another.

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Working it Out

Whether it's a spat between sisters over who should take out the trash or an argument between nations over natural resources, disagreements are a part of being human. But no matter how small or large, every dispute can be resolved peacefully if both sides are willing to listen and compromise. Encourage young people to talk it out-and truly listen to one another. Speaking and listening respectfully are key. Peaceful Conflict Resolution is Asset 36 of Search Institute's 40 Developmental Assets, the qualities, experiences, and relationships that help young people grow up healthy, caring, and responsible.

Here are the facts

Research shows that young people who resolve conflicts peacefully do better in school, have higher self-esteem, and are less likely to use alcohol and other substances. About 40 percent of young people, ages 11-18, say they seek to resolve conflicts nonviolently, according to Search Institute surveys. It's normal for anyone to feel mad every now and then, but learning to keep cool helps people express anger more effectively.

Tips for building this asset

When you notice two young people arguing, ask them to stop and take a deep breath. Once they're calmer, ask them to think about why they are mad before they start talking. Being calm helps to focus on the problem at hand and not on attacking the other person. Suggest they talk about problems before the problems get too big. This can help keep everyone from blowing things out of proportion.

Also try this

In your home and family: Talk with your child about a conflict you had as a young person. Discuss how you handled the situation then and how you might approach it now.

In your neighborhood and community: Model peaceful conflict resolution in your own life. Remember, when you argue in public, whether it's in a grocery store or on a bus, there's a good chance young people are listening. What do you want them to hear?

In your school or youth program: When a conflict arises between two young people in your school or program, help them through the following steps: Have each person 1. State what he or she wants without blaming others; 2. Listen and try to understand each other; 3. Stay focused on the conflict at hand-don't bring up other conflicts; 4. Emphasize creative problem-solving and new solutions; and 5. Negotiate a win-win result.

Want to know more about the 40 Developmental Assets and ideas for helping young people build them?
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Developmental Assets ® are positive factors within young people, families, communities, schools, and other settings that research has found to be important in promoting the healthy development of young people. From Instant Assets: 52 Short and Simple E-Mails for Sharing the Asset Message. Copyright © 2007 by Search Institute ® , 877-240-7251; www.search-institute.org. This message may be reproduced for educational, noncommercial uses only (with this copyright line). All rights reserved.

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40 Developmental Assets - Positive Youth Development

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Whether it's a spat between sisters over who should take out the trash or an argument between nations over natural resources, disagreements are a part of being human. But no matter how small or large, every dispute can be resolved peacefully if both sides are willing to listen and compromise.

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By helping others, young people learn to help themselves

To many young people, the world is small. It's made up of their school, home, and neighborhood. They may assume all schools are like their school. And, when they're very young, they may think the world revolves around them. But when young people start to reach out and help others, their world grows and so does their confidence. In fact, many young people report that when they give of their time and energy, they receive much in return. Serving others can help kids feel good about themselves and that they can make a difference in the world. Service to Others is Asset 9 of Search Institute's 40 Developmental Assets, qualities, experiences, and relationships that help young people grow up healthy, caring, and responsible.

Here are the facts

Research shows that young people who serve others in the community for one or more hours a week are more apt to be respectful of others, helpful and kind, and patient. They also tend to value diversity. About 48 percent of young people, ages 11-18, serve in the community one hour or more a week, according to Search Institute surveys. Encourage all young people to recognize the value of helping others.

Tips for building this asset

The best way to teach young people the value of helping others is to be a role model. Activities such as providing a meal to a new parent, driving a neighbor to an appointment, or babysitting can make a huge difference in someone's life. Look for service opportunities to do with a young person. Join organizations that involve-and provide leadership roles for-both young people and adults.

Also try this

In your home and family: Together, think of 10 ways your family can serve others. Choose one idea. Pick a date to do the activity. Afterward, talk about your experience.

In your neighborhood and community: Join or support an organization that teaches (and provides opportunities for) serving others. Some possibilities to consider: Boy Scouts, Girl Scouts, Habitat for Humanity, United Way, YMCA/YWCA, and Youth Service America.

In your school or youth program: Seek learning opportunities for students and group members to engage in community service projects. Also bring community resources into the classroom or program setting.

Want to know more about the 40 Developmental Assets and ideas for helping young people build them?
Visit www.search-institute.org/assets.

Developmental Assets ® are positive factors within young people, families, communities, schools, and other settings that research has found to be important in promoting the healthy development of young people. From Instant Assets: 52 Short and Simple E-Mails for Sharing the Asset Message. Copyright © 2007 by Search Institute ® , 877-240-7251; www.search-institute.org. This message may be reproduced for educational, noncommercial uses only (with this copyright line). All rights reserved.

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40 Developmental Assets - Positive Youth Development

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To many young people, the world is small. It's made up of their school, home, and neighborhood. They may assume all schools are like their school. And, when they're very young, they may think the world revolves around them. But when young people start to reach out and help others, their world grows and so does their confidence.

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Listening to diverse opinions can help everyone move ahead

As young people grow older, they quickly sense where they are wanted and where they aren't. Do the young people around you have opportunities to participate, serve, lead, and make decisions within the community? Do these same young people feel the community supports children and youth? If the answer to these questions is "not always" or "not enough," it may be time to make some changes. After all, remember how you felt when you were young and the adults around you didn't listen or give you credit for your opinions? Everyone deserves a voice! Community Values Youth is Asset 7 of Search Institute's 40 Developmental Assets, the qualities, experiences, and relationships that help young people grow up healthy, caring, and responsible.

Here are the facts

Research shows that young people who perceive that adults in the community value young people are more likely to grow up healthy, exhibit leadership, value diversity, and succeed in school. Only 22 percent of young people, ages 11-18, perceive that adults in the community value their opinions and input, according to Search Institute surveys. Set a goal to create an environment in which you and other adults take time to listen to young people, spend time with them, and give credit to their opinions.

Tips for building this asset

Young people's perceptions can tell you a lot about your community and what needs to happen so they feel the community values them. Ask young people what they think. Acknowledge their opinions, even if you don't agree. Work together to turn your community into a place that values its young people.

Also try this

In your home and family: Ask your child's opinion about something in the news. Listen carefully, without interrupting. Discuss the topic (agreeing to disagree, if necessary).

In your neighborhood and community: Serve on a community committee and seek out young people's feedback about specific issues. Let them know you greatly appreciate their presence and participation. Encourage civic groups to include young people in critical conversations.

In your school or youth program: Engage the young people in your school or program as leaders and decision makers. Get their input on school board or program directors' decisions. Invite them to discuss their experiences with the school board or program directors.

Want to know more about the 40 Developmental Assets and ideas for helping young people build them?
Visit www.search-institute.org/assets.

Developmental Assets ® are positive factors within young people, families, communities, schools, and other settings that research has found to be important in promoting the healthy development of young people. From Instant Assets: 52 Short and Simple E-Mails for Sharing the Asset Message. Copyright © 2007 by Search Institute ® , 877-240-7251; www.search-institute.org. This message may be reproduced for educational, noncommercial uses only (with this copyright line). All rights reserved.

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As young people grow older, they quickly sense where they are wanted and where they aren't. Do the young people around you have opportunities to participate, serve, lead, and make decisions within the community? Do these same young people feel the community supports children and youth?

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Lesson Framework: Developing Good Manners

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Lesson Framework: Developing Good Manners

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Lessons, Resources, and Activities to Practice Good Manners

Lesson Plans

Cyberbullying: Be Upstanding Students in grades 6-8 learn the difference between being a passive bystander versus a brave upstander in cyberbullying situations.

Manners & Mores of Washington's America ( PDF, 279 KB, 3 pgs.)
Students in grades 6-8 investigate the manners and mores of late 18th-century America and of the personal rules of decorum by which George Washington lived.

Activities

The Good Behavior Game Manual ( PDF, 122 KB, 38 pgs.)
"A team competition for prizes, privileges, and special activities. Check marks are recorded on the blackboard for a team when disruptive behavior of any team member occurs. If the check marks for a team remain below a pre-set number (4) by the end of the Game the team wins. All teams may win if their check marks do not exceed the pre-set number (4)."

Background Resources

Etiquette: Online Books
Links to three centuries of books on etiquette and manners for children, teens, men, and women.

Etiquette: A History of Social Dance in America
Etiquette in eighteenth and nineteenth century ballrooms

Essay

A Treatise on Good Manners and Good Breeding by Jonathan Swift
Unlike Swift's satiric "Modest Proposal," this brief essay is a straightforward discussion of manners. He recognizes cultural differences, acknowledging that nations fix manners "best suited to their general customs."

Quizzes

Printables

Video, Audio, Books

Videos

Poem

"Silent Manners"
Printed and audio. Listen to the author, Carl Dennis, read the poem.

Books

The History of Manners (The Civilizing Process, Vol. 1)
By Norbert Elias
Pantheon; 1st paperback edition (August 12, 1982)

Learning How to Behave: A Historical Study of American Etiquette Books
By Arthur M. Schlesinger, Sr.
Cooper Square Publishers (1968)

A Short History of Rudeness: Manners, Morals, and Misbehavior in Modern America
By Mark Caldwell
Picador; 1st edition (July 7, 2000)

last updated: May 10, 2018

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Learning and Practicing Good Manners, Grades 6-8

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Cyberbullying: Be Upstanding Students in grades 6-8 learn the difference between being a passive bystander versus a brave upstander in cyberbullying situations. Manners & Mores of Washington's America ( PDF, 279 KB, 3 pgs.) Students in grades 6-8 investigate the manners and mores of late 18th-century America and of the personal rules of decorum by which George Washington lived.

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Basic . . . .
. Accepting Criticism
Accepting "No"
.American Table Manners
Apologizing
.Dealing with Fear
Expressing Feelings
Following Directions
. Introducing Yourself
. Passing in Hallways
.Proximity
.. Accepting Consequences
.Children's Rights
.Controlling Anger
.Dominance & Submission
.Following Rules
.Good Sportsmanship
.Learning to Disagree
.Responding to Defeat
.Using Self-Control Reading Body Language
.Showing Respect
. Solving a Problem . Talking With Others. The Most Magical Words . Using Humor
. Waiting Your Turn

Disciplinary

. Adhering to Dress Codes
.Appropriate Langua
.Willingness to Try New Tasks ge .
Asking Questions
. . Being on Time. Netiquette
.. Staying on Task
.Tolerance of Differences Being in a Group Discussion
. Resisting Peer Pressure
Setting Goals

. Brainstorming
.Complying with Requests
. Getting Teacher's Attention
. Ignoring Distractions
. Listening to Others

Self-Esteem
. Accepting Compliments
.Changes in Adolescence
.Exchanging Gifts
.Expressing Success
.Giving Compliments
.Handling Embarrassment
.Helping Others
.Knowing Strengths
.Self-Defense
.Self-Improvement
.Trigger Points & Buttons

. Accepting an Apology

.Asking a Favor . Being a Good Listener . Arguing Respectfully

.. Conversational Skills
. Dealing with Bullying
.Declining an Invitation
. Expressing Empathy
.Expressing Grief
.Get Someone's Attention
.Interrupting
. Maintaining Friendships
.Making New Friends
.Media Models
. Offering Assistance
.Reacting to Rumors
. Refusing Requests . Responding to Prejudice . Responding to Teasing
.Showing Appreciation
.Teen Violence
.Visiting a Sick Friend Conflict Resolution

Teacher Recording Form

Vision Statement

. Accepting Disciplinary Actions
.Completing Agreements
.Determining Time for a Request
.Following Safety Rules
.Following Verbal Directions
.Greeting a Dog and Its Owner
.Making a Suggestion
.Reporting Emergencies
.Reporting Inappropriate Actions
.Shopping
.Showing Respectful Submission
. Theater Behavior Prevocational Skills
. Doorway Etiquette
.Interacting with Opposite Sex
.Internet Safety & Courtesy
. Interviewing Skills
.Introducing Others
.Introducing Yourself
.Making An Appointment
.Managing An Angry Person
.Personal Hygiene
.Professional Conduct
.Relaxation Strategies
.Riding an Elevator
.Telephone Etiquette
.Volunteering

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Social Skills Lesson Plans for Middle School

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Basic . . . . . Accepting Criticism Accepting "No" .American Table Manners Apologizing .Dealing with Fear Expressing Feelings Following Directions . Introducing Yourself . Passing in Hallways .Proximity .. Accepting Consequences .Children's Rights .Controlling Anger .Dominance & Submission .Following Rules .Good Sportsmanship .Learning to Disagree .Responding to Defeat .Using Self-Control Reading Body Language .Showing Respect .

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The teen years are filled with endless opportunities for growth and learning. Although teens are busy hitting the books to explore language arts, history, math, and science subjects in detail, it is important to remember another area of study they need help to understand - life skills.

Life skills are the day-to-day behaviors and activities and are essential to learn. The good new is we can help teach teens life skills with some practical lessons, no curriculum required.

When we talk about life skills with our teens we are referencing all of the skills and abilities that will help to make them successful and independent adults. This can include a wide variety of topics including personal care, cooking, money management, time management, being a good citizen, and more.

Most of the skills teens need to learn are things that we, as adults, do every day. Activities such as preparing lunch or doing laundry have become so routine we usually do them without even thinking about them. As parents we can help to teach our teens life skills by being mindful of the daily life lessons we complete each day and actively involving our teens in activities around the house and within the community.

Teaching Teens Life Skills

Here are some important life skills our teens need to learn along with a few ideas for helping them build and practice these skills:

Food Skills

Plan and shop for health foods

Reading food labels

Preparing a meal

Using kitchen appliances and utensils

Safe food storage

Here are some of our suggestions for helping kids acquire food skills: How to Make a DIY Cookbook for Kids 10 Simple Breakfast Recipes Teens Will Want to Make Life Skills for Teens: Slow Cooking Fundamentals Teens in the Kitchen: Make an Easy Potato Dish Teaching Kids Life Skills: Get your Middle School Kids Cooking Teaching Kids Life Skills: Food Shopping
Health, Wellness, and Personal Appearance Skills

Laundry, reading clothing care labels, folding clothes

Ironing

Basic sewing to maintain clothes

Personal hygiene/grooming

Personal safety/basic first aid

Exercise and physical fitness

Here are some of our suggestions for helping kids acquire health and wellness skills: Teaching Kids Life Skills: Necessary Skills and Then Some... Teaching Kids Life Skills: Sewing Teaching Kids Life Skills: How to Tie a Necktie An Easy Sewing Project for Teens Who Love Minecraft
Social and Self Management Skills

Develop and maintain healthy friendships and family relationships

Etiquette skills and appropriate behaviors

Time management

Financial management

Goal setting

Career exploration

Here are some of our suggestions for helping kids acquire social and self management skills: Middle School Etiquette: Teaching Communication Skills Teaching Kids Life Skills: Etiquette When Visiting Others' Homes How Creative Kids Are Exploring Career Options Teaching Kids Life Skills: Goal Setting Teaching Kids Life Skills: Managing Schedules Etiquette is an Important Life Skill to Focus on for Teens How to Develop Social Skills Without Socialization
Citizenship and Community Involvement Skills

Volunteer and support the community

Comply with laws

Register to vote

Learn to drive, maintain a car, purchase insurance

Map reading, being familiar with surroundings

Here are some of our suggestions for helping kids acquire citizenship and community involvement skills: Teaching Kids Life Skills: Flag Etiquette 5 Ways Teens Can Make a Difference in the World 20 Volunteer Ideas for Teens & Families Learning on Vacation: Map Skills for Kids What other important life skills are you teaching your teens?
Looking for more ideas about how to effectively teach without a curriculum? Check out this amazing list from our fellow bloggers at iHomeschool Network:

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Teaching Teens Life Skills - No Curriculum Required

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The teen years are filled with endless opportunities for growth and learning. Although teens are busy hitting the books to explore language arts, history, math, and science subjects in detail, it is important to remember another area of study they need help to understand -- life skills.

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While this curriculum set is not free, there are free lesson plans contained therein.

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Employability Skills Lesson Plans and Career Readiness

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How do you begin to cover career readiness and employability skills lesson plans for middle school and high school? Get started here!

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Lesson Framework: Specific Employability Skills

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Lesson Framework: Specific Employability Skills

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Teachers can sign up for a free account and have access to free lesson plans.

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Teaching Resources | Interactive Employability Worksheets | LifeSkills

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LifeSkills is a free, curriculum-linked programme helping to improve the skills and employability of young people. Find teaching resources and worksheets here