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"The most important aspect surely has to be finding someone who is on the same level as you, and having a frank and open discussion about what you want from the relationship."

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Sub-theme 3.2: fine line between traditional relationship and casual sex

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Sub-theme 3.2: fine line between traditional relationship and casual sex

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- emotionality not easy to control
- resilience
- find partner with same needs

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At what point does an FB becomes someone that you think you might like to be in a relationship with?
The sex is just that “great SEX” then something starts to happen. You start thinking of this person as someone to have around in your life a little bit more , you start to fantasize about having that person as a little more as an F.B. Then you start asking questions. “Are you seeing anyone else?”
You wait with baited breath for the answer, then start questioning why you have asked this of them when you knew that the relationship was only a sexual one.
There is a fine line between being in a relationship with an FB and not. After all having sex with someone is extremely intimate and it is difficult to remove yourself away emotionally from that person especially when the sex is great and you can talk about the most intimate desires with this person.

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Physical intimacy was the driving force; they didn’t want to have a relationship with their FB. They liked the person and were physically attracted to them BUT did not want a relationship with them.
I could see the benefit of knowing that you had one person who you could rely on to push your buttons in a positive way. Someone being available for sexing when you needed it. Someone that you could recharge the banks of intimacy with without commitment. But do we become emotionally unavailable because we have our physical needs met?

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"You simply must rage against the prehistoric urges to begin naming your children/planning your wedding/designing your dream home with this person, otherwise you're defeating the purpose and no longer engaging in casual sex. (And you're bound to get let down if the other person is firmly locked in casual mode)."

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"Have sex with someone completely attracted to you. And vice versa. That’s the whole point really isn’t it? You want to feel good after it. If you pick well you’ll be feeling sexier, happier and more attractive for days."

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With an increasing population of singles - 86 million and counting - who are marrying later or not marrying at all, Americans are spending the majority of their lives uncoupled. That adds up to a lot of folks looking for someone to hook up with. And for many, that someone is likely to be a friend.

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"If you’re not feeling emotionally resilient, you’re a train wreck waiting to happen. I’ve had friends who’ve had periods in their lives where sex is the way they band aid up their heart while it’s hemorrhaging everywhere else. If you’re having sex with randoms, waking up, regretting it, then doing it all over again week after week, you’re not doing anything good for yourself."

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Sub-theme 2.1: Relationaships are not necessarily monogamous

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Sub-theme 2.1: Relationaships are not necessarily monogamous

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"Convenience
'Friends with benefits' is often employed by people who don't have time for a real romance, but still want to get some action (without misleading dates and breaking hearts). You can get what you want - and not have to go through the charade of flirting, buying drinks, trying to figure out what each other wants. Remember though, that this isn't like ordering take-out. You don't get to be mad or get insistent if your bed buddy is busy or tired when you call."

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"No Strings
The obvious draw is the idea of easy sex without the pressures and limitations of a relationship. There's one necessary key to this, though, and that's clarity. You both need to be honest that you're using each other (but in a good way), that you're not secretly hoping for more. No getting territorial or possessive when one of you is dating someone. No use of collective pronouns (us, we) or talk of a future later than a few hours away."

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General consensus was that going out to breakfast was highly unusual and definitely went above and beyond typical one night stand etiquette.

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"Discretion
As proud as you are that your bed buddy would come running at even your most clumsy attempts at a 3am booty text, there's no need to brag to your other friends. No getting grabby in public. No meeting your hook-up's family or co-workers. No outings - dinners, movies, romantic strolls in the park - that start resembling dates."

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Indeed, it seems the only common ground between the sexes is that clean sheets are preferable, cuddling is not on - it is a strict relationship-only privilege - and you should always offer a lift home.

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At what point does an FB becomes someone that you think you might like to be in a relationship with?
The sex is just that “great SEX” then something starts to happen. You start thinking of this person as someone to have around in your life a little bit more , you start to fantasize about having that person as a little more as an F.B. Then you start asking questions. “Are you seeing anyone else?”
You wait with baited breath for the answer, then start questioning why you have asked this of them when you knew that the relationship was only a sexual one.
There is a fine line between being in a relationship with an FB and not. After all having sex with someone is extremely intimate and it is difficult to remove yourself away emotionally from that person especially when the sex is great and you can talk about the most intimate desires with this person.

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Sub-theme 3.1: Rules for differentiation of traditional relationships to modern casual sex

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Sub-theme 3.1: Rules for differentiation of traditional relationships to modern casual sex

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- time commitment
- emotional commitment
-social commitment

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(Don’t) Get too snuggly - it's only a one night stand.

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Physical intimacy was the driving force; they didn’t want to have a relationship with their FB. They liked the person and were physically attracted to them BUT did not want a relationship with them.
I could see the benefit of knowing that you had one person who you could rely on to push your buttons in a positive way. Someone being available for sexing when you needed it. Someone that you could recharge the banks of intimacy with without commitment. But do we become emotionally unavailable because we have our physical needs met?

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cuddling is not on - it is a strict relationship-only privilege

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In this new age of “it’s ok to be single” do we still desire having someone in our lives?
One of the friends of lovingtouch mentioned that she was now looking for a FB (a friend with benefits sort of guy). I started to wonder if this was a normal thing for women my age to have in their lives and after asking a few of my single mates have they or were they considering doing this.
I was surprised that a few of my friends, male and female, have.

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It takes a certain kind of person to keep emotion out of something that is essentially a very emotive act.

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"Society tells us that you simply must have someone and you must be monogamously loyal to that person for the rest of your days. Guess what, society got that so wrong - one size does not fit all, it's just that no one will admit it."

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"The most important aspect surely has to be finding someone who is on the same level as you, and having a frank and open discussion about what you want from the relationship.

For the most part, people who are either involved in casual sex or are thinking about becoming involved in it are battling against the tide."

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"Casual sex, the booty call, friends with benefits - whatever you call it, it's essentially the same thing: consenting adults acknowledging and accepting that they are entering a purely sexual relationship, free from the expectations of a traditional relationship."

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Theme 2: Relationship concepts are changing

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Theme 2: Relationship concepts are changing

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·  casual sex is becoming increasingly prevalent

·  more diverse views on relationships are coming up

·  people stay single for longer, and many of those look for casual sex

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Theme 1: What is a traditional relationship?A traditional relationship is associated with feelings, expectations and commitment

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Theme 1: What is a traditional relationship?A traditional relationship is associated with feelings, expectations and commitment

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What does casual sex advice on the internet tell us about the modern view on relationships?

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What does casual sex advice on the internet tell us about the modern view on relationships?