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Jymnash Czar E Elauria
When I was about 10 years old a person that is close to me experience dishonest decisions by other and leads into multiple mental issues such as depression, severe anxiety, and a general sense of mistrust. Me witnessing a family member who suffers multiple mental issues made me think why do people need to be dishonest or create fake identities to hurt or use people for their own desire. Do they not know that being dishonest can cause a life of fakeness that ultimately alienates them from themselves. And as we all know, lies beget lie. Through this years that still have trust issues because of that event.

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When I was about 4 years old I was with my friend whom I know for almost 10 years. We always get along but sometimes not. He always lie so that we can get out of trouble. One day we were caught by the guards because we are doing something naughty. The guard asked us some questions and we lied. The guards didnt clearly saw what we were so they let us off after they asked some question.

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When I was younger I lie to get almost everything I need, sometimes even comfort because I lie to myself or trick my brain to tell myself that I will "not" get in trouble with I lied about

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When i wa on elementary school i remember my somewhat of a friend classmate who's always lying, sometimes i don't know what hes saying if it's true or not, so i developed this kind of trust issue with my friend.

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when i was in elementary school, i had three friends, two of them were real to me, and one i didn't really trust, because he wasn't being honest with us, he was also the one who made way to break us friends , so we don't really get along with him

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when i was on elementary, specifically on grade 3, i took the trust of my classmates being honest about them being my friends.  but it turned out they were the complete opposite. one day i eventually realized that they were'nt my friends. they kept bullying me, teasing me, sometimes even physically hurting me. no matter what i do even if i tell to my teacher or principal, i was the one who ended up being in trouble because the teacher's believed them. they always try to frame me when they are the ones in trouble. that's why i decided to just ignore them. it's better than than getting bullied everyday. and also to prevent anything from happening myself.

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When I was on elementary school i've been sometimes lying to my friends but one time they somehow knew I was lying to them and they were really mad at me but they didnt show it but ever since then theyre now lying to me too and i felt betrayed so i wanted to be honest to try and fix things and for the future so the same situation wont happen to me again

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I haven't really experienced a situation where a lie affected me but one time my friend lied to the others because i did something bad, he lied so i wouldn't get in trouble. But he's the one who got in trouble.

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Adults are awesome!, once I sed when I was a kid I idolize adults when I was 5 years old, I always thought when I was a kid that adults have their freedom to live and do whatever they want, and in fact they were but, although they were free there mental health is like in prison they were in experiencing trauma, depressed, anxiety, and other kinds of mental issues. First day of Grade 1, I was excited, I couldn't wait for the classes starts and meet my classmates. first class I met some classmates they were kind. they asked me were do I live and I answered. Then one of my reckless classmate come, he bump me into the floor, He sed can't you see me coming thru?!. I answered he's question scared and frightened, I don't know what was going into my mind when that moment happened, And he completely ignored me. Next class, Teacher asked me to write something on the board, Because I was terrified I couldn't stand up. The feeling was like thousands of audience watching me just sitting, crying, and terrified, And the teacher came up to me, asked me why are you afraid? I didn't answered because of how frightened I was to talk. Teacher helped me go to the front to answer the question on the board. I failed to answer the question. Teacher came up to me and sed each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them and he also sed to accept the failure and keep trying, Then the class ended with me putting a smile in my face. It was the end of the school day, While I was going to the gates the person earlier blocked me, asked if he could borrow my time. We got in the gymnasium of the school asked me if I can throw the ball at him. After I threw the ball at him he threw a stick while I was sitting in the bench, It hit directly to my eyebrow. I went to the clinic on our school. The nurse asked me about what happened. Because I didn't want the person to be angry at me I just told them a lie, That I stumbled on a rock. I ended up having a wound on my eyebrow. I will never forget this day.

The lesson that I learned is being afraid leads harm to yourself. And Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them

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I remember when is was in 6 grade. We went to my cousins house in sta.rosa. My cousin was going biking and asked me if i want to join him. He told me that were just stay inside the subdivision and then go to the basketball court to play some hoops. So i asked my parents if i can go with my cousin. My dad and my mom gave me permission but told me to stay inside the subdivision. But my cousin lied about it and told me that we are going to his friends house which is in another subdivision so we need to pass the hi-way to go there. To make the long story short me and my cousin almost got hit by a jeep while biking along the hi-way. My parents heard about the story and got mad at me. As a punishment my parents won’t let me use a bike again everytime we went to my cousins house.

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When I was 7 years old I usually lie to my parents because I'm scared to disappoint or make mistakes before but I do realize when I lie and it will come to the point that all of my lies will  just spread to everyone in that situation other people are the ones affected in my own problems it made me realize that I should not hide from my family in the end they are the one who will help me grow.

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I lied about something that lead to me losing alot of friends back then. I really dont wanna dig too much into it since it happened in the past and i forced myself to forget it so its really vague. But i do remember it being something about love.

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For me,my parents is the one who is the most affected in my decisions in life. They are the who is responsible to take care of me no matter what happened. Even if my decision is wrong they are the one whos responsible to help me correct my wrong doings or decisions in life. And of course I need to help myself to.

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I haven't really experienced a situation where a lie affected the situation a lot well none that I can remember though I guess there was one time when my friend had to lie so that it wouldn't affect me and the others that badly and so that we wouldn't feel sad and everything. I think they were sick that one time. There was also apparently a time where people were insulting me without me knowing or at least that's what I was told. During that time I was pretty dense so I really didn't realize it and thankfully really didn't affect me that much.

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When I was in 4th grade, my friend asked a favor from me to tell her father that she will go to the gym to watch a dance practice of his brother. I then went to their house and told his father. After several hours, her father came to our house asking where her daughter was. He said he looked for her in the gym, but she was not there. I was surprised why this happened. The father of my friend thought that there was a conspiracy between me and his daughter on not telling the truth. I was  in dismay. I have to talk to my friend asking the real story. She admitted that she was lying. She did asked forgiveness to me and promised to tell his father the truth. I did understand her and leave to her to make her wrong doing right. "Sometimes, we are innocent when  someone did a dishonest act on our back but the important thing is the realisation to correct one's mistake."

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When I was a kid, I saw a situation which the two siblings is in the computer shop. The little brother was the one who went out first to go home and then at the moment he went out, he accidentally met his mother on his way to their home. The mother ask him where is his brother. He said that he was playing in the basketball court. His mom slapped him because she know that it's not the truth and went in the computer shop finding his brother. The two were beaten in the hand and was grounded. Up until this day, he said that his mother is having a hard time in trusting them but they still love her.

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When I was in sixth grade, I had a group of friends. We're always together and inseparable from each other. And one day all of a sudden everything disappeared. We had a new student. We wanted to befriended with her so we introduced ourselves. She was still too shy to get along with us, but after a while she was no longer ashamed of us and we reconciled. Everything went well at first until I found out that they were insulting me for a long time. I would have gone to the restroom to wash my hands and all of a sudden I heard my friends talking about me. I heard them insulting me and they were laughing so hard, so I listened to their conversation. I heard that they only became friends with me because I was the smartest in our class and I heard that they were just using me at the first place. I felt so betrayed, but I didn't want to tell them about what I heard because I was scared of them, they might even told me that I wanted to start a fight and I also didn't tell them because I didn't want to lose a friend, they were the only ones I could get along with at that time and I don't want to be lonely. But I was very hurt about what they did, because I trusted them, I considered them as my family then all of a sudden I would found out that they're just using me.

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Someone's dishonesty oftentimes put another person in a difficult situation, that even result into a big problem in the long run. When people are being dishonest about something a lot of things go wrong such as bad decision making, negative thinking as well as throwing ill feelings and words towards other, because of the dishonest information being told to you. I remember the last time I was being dishonest about not telling my older brother and my mom that I missed the first scheduled exam during 3rd Grading Period. I hide this truth from my parents because I don’t want to upset them. After two weeks, my advisor reminded me about the missed exam. When my parents found out, they are more upset than I expected, because I was not allowed to get the special exam anymore. This is the result of being dishonest, and it serves as a lesson for me not to do it anymore.

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When I was Grade 6 , I have two bestfriends in our school, we are always hanging out and tell each others problem. Both of them are dancers, One day theres a dance competion in our school,both of them are participating in the competion, they said I can be a good dancer so I should participate in the contest, I spend my whole day practicing the choreo, they said I am doing great,they said I'm really good at dancing and that words boost my confidence. The day of the contest, I spend all my energy for the contest and the judges compliment me that I have a good energy and that makes my confidence boost more. Then one day, my friends go to my house face to face and said to me that I'm not a good dancer, that my moves is really bad,I shouldn't be a dancer. After that I quit being a dancer, and I feel that i'm being betrayed with the persons that I trusted a lot. After that, I comeback to school and act like nothing happens.

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Yes, there is this situation where my friend lied to her parents and it did damaged the trust of her parents to us and especially to her. This situation happened 2 years ago and this story may be a bit silly. So I have a group of friends and we have been friends since I was 7 years old. We have this friend who always use us as an excuse to meet her boyfriend, but of course since we are a bunch of teenagers we did not object to her decision (We know it is not the right thing to do but...hehe). She would tell her parents that she would hangout with us but truth is she will meet her boyfriend at the nearest Dunkin' Donuts store. And then one time, we didn't saw her message to us that we should not go to her house because she, again, used us as an excuse to her parents. So we continued going to her house. We asked Tita (Her Mother) where is she and then boom!... we got caught. I tried to come up with a reason by saying "ah Tita baka nagkasalisi lang" but her mother said that she left hours ago... After that, she was grounded for days hehe (but everything is okay now). By reminiscing this story I can say that even the simple lies that we make everyday can make a big impact to our relationship to others.

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When i'm 9 years old i am a type of a kid that doesn't like a negative emotions i never been into a fight with someone, but i've been into an argument. I'm having a dinner with my family, i don't know how did the argument started, i remember that my father ang my mother fighting infront of us then my father asked us something about the sticker in the laptop our father ask who did put the sticker in the laptop and my sister's remain silent and because i hate hearing and seeing people angry i blame my self for the mistake that i did not made for them to stop shouting and after that i feel bad for my self because instead of my sisters te
ll the truth, i lied for them.

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When I was in grade 3, I was a shy and quiet kid. I remember having a friend. I think she's a friend of my friend that's why we are friends. We talk like like nothing's wrong, we hang out together and so on. But one day, her friend (which is my friend too) told me that she's talking bad about me. She said I'm "pabebe" just because of how I always put my chin on my hand (when sitting on a chair) but I just do that because I'm not a person who always talk, I'm not good in communicating with other people. After what happened, we never talked because I transfered to a different school. I never forgot about what she said to me until now because I feel betrayed. But I think I can forgive her because as time goes by, we become mature and know what is right and wrong.

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During my elementary days, i was always the black sheep in class, i didn’t fit in with any of my classmates whether it's in another country or here, i was really shy and didn't talk much back then and of course they took advantage of that, they were so kind to me, or atleast that's what I thought, me being the oblivious person i was before, didn't know about the horrible talks they were describing me, always putting on a facade when infront of me, i was scared and did not know how to stand up for myself before, i couldn't even tell them to my parents. So i did what i thought was good, and ignored them until i graduated and moved to another school. Looking back, all their dishonesty towards me were harsh and unforgivable, i didn’t deserve that, nobody deserves to be treated that way actually, but i realized that they are not worth my time and not needed in my future, it's not something i should make a big deal, yes, it will leave a scar but that just shows how strong i was to overcome them.

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I have this friend who are a liar whenever he needed it so, I didn't stop him because I think it is good to lie whenever you are in a strange situation but, the time has passed and his behavior has been acting strange and bad some people hated him because of this behavior where he makes story and be gossip about it and one day he makes a story about me where him and I are enemies and he is the one being treated bad so some people hated me for that and because of that I hated him and he says sorry for me because he knows that he make that story to make fun of me but, I didn't forgive him because I trusted him and he broke it. I hated him so me and him are now stranger because of that behavior and it affected me by some of his friend were in the past we are friends know they see me as a stranger.

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When I was in seventh grade one of my friend is in a relationship(MU). They've been quite together for a long time.

They seem to have no problem when they are together at school in fact they eat together in the canteen and they go home together sometimes. One day after i came home from school i opened my messenger and saw in our group chat with my friends at another school (not all members are my friends) one of the members there sent a picture with him and my friend’s “MU” at the mall(?-not sure) and he even said they were "MU". After that I asked my friend if they were still "MU" and my friend said "They just broke up" then I told him that he already had someone else and I showed him the pic then he said that "She asked me a permission if she could meet up with the guy". Then my friend said that he was hurt at the end. But then I was also hurt because I saw my friend suffering.

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Definitely, most of the people are going to feel downhearted or betrayed for the reason that most of the things that preferred to be hidden or unknown are important and confidential information. Hiding the truth is easy but over time, things will become more difficult so the truth will eventually come out. I know that there are things that are meant to be hidden because we all know the saying "the truth hurts," but still, all people deserves to know the truth whether their status in life is not the same or whether the information may be serious or not. As for myself, I am not that open to others when it comes to my problems even if it is not that serious. Apart from the reason that I don't want to add my personal problems to other people's problems, is as I grew up, I realized that there were times that I don't want other people to meddle in some of my personal problems. Certainly I feel lonely when someone prefers not to tell me the truth, but I am thankful because most of the time I don't really encounter such problems.

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This happened last year, we are friends during our grade 7 days but we aren’t close, I was the one who contacted her first during the first week pandemic because I need some advice on how to keep a conversation on going and she was the only one I know that has the knowledge to that. She and I talked for a couple of months and all of a sudden I asked her “what do you think about me, lol?” And her response shocked me. She said I was a user, narcissist, attention seeker, etc. But I didn’t tell her my perspective about her saying all of the things she has said. I was mad and sad at her because the fact she is my friend and i believed her for a long time, I didn’t t expect that a friend would say such thing. And during this our chats she said a couple of things about I should be careful for picking and for trusting friends because the May have been back-stabbing me the time i was opening up to a friend. I really didn’t think this was a red flag so I just ignored it and I instantly regretted that i did not take notice of that. After she said those things I started thinking it was my mistake and I had a blank mind for a friend that I didn’t even notice how they will treat me as a human. We didn’t talk until it was about 2-3 months, we are on a group-chat with our other friends and we were fighting about an activity that was a open letter to your friend. And they didn’t really take it seriously and we were lead to a fight but good thing we fixed it in the end. I realized that not all friends are friends up until the end, most will leave, some will stay, and more will come. We shouldn’t really trust someone that easily and never open up when you know a person isn’t trustworthy.

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3 years ago, i have a squad or we call it "girls squad" we are bestfriends since elementary from Grade 1 to Grade 5. We love to hang outs everywhere, and no one can break or inseperable us. We support each other, we genuinely love to have a sleepover in different house of our squad. But it came to that day of our recognition, and just because if that one thing it was ruined. It came to the day of our field trip but I didn't got to join, I've known it when it was the day of our practice that they wasn't giving me attention. Until where I knew that they was slandering me and my secrets that was supposed to be kept as a secret, they told it to everyone and they messed up the story and they was saying that they wouldn't tell it to anyone of any secret of ours. But that day our friendship is already ruined and the next day was supposedly our recognition day.Until now, we still haven't been talking or fix the problem of what happened that day. And I've realized that every friends you will have or the ones you've trust the most, they will still lie and betray you so you have to learn how to find friends that you will trust and they will also trust you no matter what and make sure that they aren't fake or will lie to you in any situationAnd, of course it hurts because  we was friends for 5 years in elementary days, but they ruined it all for that one lie.

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There are certain topics about life that are better left unsaid so that no one can get upset or contribute to their troubles, and then there are those that are better left open so that we can understand what is right and wrong. I'm not a very open person, but as long as I can keep it to myself, I'll do so. That way, I won't have to contribute to their personal difficulties. There were problems that I did not over think that much, and there are also problems that I think that it is not worthy of my time. I'm still lucky because if I am stress it is more often in school works, and I do not have that much family problems and I am surrounded by my real friends.

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About 10 years ago, relationships will not always be intact nor is it always going to be full of love, others may fall out of love, lose interest and cheat. When I was a kid I was left at oblivion, since I was a kid no one bothered to tell me the truth hence they believed that I would never find out nor understand if I did. Until I found out the truth myself though I didn’t confront the one at fault instead I confronted the other person, the one who’s also a victim of the dishonest act. Not confronting the one at fault felt horrible,I knew the person is lying but I turned a blind eye, this dishonest act affected me through having lots of questions that can’t be answered and of course pain and betrayal, I haven’t confronted the person until now so I still carry this feeling though the person itself wouldn’t open up the topic either.

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4 years ago, I had a big problem that I never thought would come into my life. I kept it from myself because I didn't know how to tell my parents or how to open up. Since I couldn’t get it out of my mind, I chose to be open with my friends first. Because of that, I felt a little less worried about my problem. But, that still doesn't seem to be enough, I think it can be solved if I tell my parents. I still haven't been able to tell my parents because I don't have the courage to open up about it. Sometimes, I am just stunned because I carry a big thorn in my heart. One day, Papa ask me if I was okay, of course I said I was okay. But they don't want to believe because they can already see it in my eyes. Years past, this is the time I told them about my problem. I didn't expect this to happen. They told me why I didn't tell them right away so that we could fix it. They are worried about me. That day, as if the big thorn in my heart had disappeared, I was honest with my parent's. That is one of the biggest honest things I've done for being dishonest with them for a long time. I realized that the only way to solve such a problem is to be transparent and honest with my parents.