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Day 299: Learning The Concept of Sunk Cost (Mar 01)

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Day 299: Learning The Concept of Sunk Cost (Mar 01)

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I found this quote interesting because I recently experienced the concept sunk cost.  You get attached to an idea, product where you have invested a lot of time and effort.  However, sometime you need to cut your losses and move on.  The wise choice is to recognize the mistake more as a learning opportunity and move forward with a new strategy that has the potential for success.

#accept and move ahead

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Day 298: Embracing Every Moment: Time Is Passing Too Fast (Feb 28)

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Day 298: Embracing Every Moment: Time Is Passing Too Fast (Feb 28)

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Have you ever noticed how quickly time seems to pass?  One minute it's January, and before you know it, it's already December. For me personally, I cannot believe its already end of February.  We started this adventure year last May and we are like two months away (I feel like time went by like a blink of an eye).

I’m going to soak up every moment because even though time seems to be flying by, it's the moments we cherish that give our lives meaning and purpose.

#LiveInTheMoment

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Day 297: Continue to Stay the Course (Feb 27)

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Day 297: Continue to Stay the Course (Feb 27)

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After the last few weeks of intense activities and coordination both within and across countries, Whew…I'm feeling like I’m ready for a break. Do you ever get the feeling that when one thing happens, it triggers a chain reaction of events? It's like a domino effect where one thing leads to another. I also know that it is part of life and we must accept and stay the course.

But I have something exciting to look forward to! First, I'm going to meet my niece in a few days, which I'm really looking forward to. Then, I’m traveling to Thailand to explore new countries, sights, and cultures. It’s going to be our last leg of our adventure year to reset, recharge, and gain a fresh perspective.

I know that when I return, I'll need to stay focused and keep pushing forward to get all those dominos lined up again. But for now, I'm going to enjoy this –present moment and make the most of it.

#staythecourse

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Day 292:  Quick Reminders That Resonated With Me (Feb 22)

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Day 292:  Quick Reminders That Resonated With Me (Feb 22)

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Sharing few pieces of well-worn advice from therapists, career coaches from an article that resonated with me.

#goodreminders

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Day 290: Having and Being Someone's Magical Reminder (Feb 20)

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Day 290: Having and Being Someone's Magical Reminder (Feb 20)

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This post reminded me of how fortunate I am to have a wonderful family, friends, and mentors in my life. Whenever I feel like I need a little boost, they magically appear and make me believe in myself. They push me and help me see my potential, even when I can't see it myself. I try to pay it forward by helping others because I believe what goes around comes around!

So, my call to action for you is: Are you being the person who supports and uplifts someone else?  Be somebody's magical reminder!

#SpreadPositivity

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Day 285: Sharing A Ted Video On Importance of Having Fun (Feb 15)

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Day 285: Sharing A Ted Video On Importance of Having Fun (Feb 15)

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I stumbled upon this video from TED2022 conference from Catherine Price who believes that fun is a critical component of a fulfilling, healthy life.  She talks about three factors that are important to have real fun: Playfulness, Connection and Flow.

Curious - how can fun be a secret to a healthier life ...Check out this video above

#havingfun

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Have you had your daily dose of fun? It’s not just enjoyable, it’s also essential for your health and happiness, says science journalist Catherine Price. She proposes a new definition of fun -- what she calls “true fun” -- and shares easy, evidence-backed ways to weave playfulness, flow and connection into your everyday life.

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Day 278: Making Time For Meditation (Feb 08)

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Day 278: Making Time For Meditation (Feb 08)

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Meditation is my time that helps me look within and introspect.  It helps me clam down when my mind is agitated and also sometimes found answers (what actions to take) to questions or issues that might have arisen.

What I've realized that when I'm meditating I do not see the benefit but rather when I stop the practice I feel like something is missing or feel irritated.

#timeforyourself

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Day 271: Winning Runner's Up At Women's Cricket League (Feb 04)

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Day 271: Winning Runner's Up At Women's Cricket League (Feb 04)

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I recently joined a women's cricket league in my condominium to experience the excitement of cricket in India. My team, Team Red, had been practicing for weeks and today was the league match. Despite facing tough competition from two other teams, we emerged victorious and made it to the final.

In the final, we elected to bat first, but were unfortunately unable to score many runs. Despite this setback, we remained determined and focused on our bowling and fielding game. I could feel the pressure building as Team Red and Team Blue went head to head. Although we didn't come out on top, I learned that pressure can bring out one's inner strengths. By stepping outside of your comfort zone, you can uncover new abilities and opportunities.

In the words of Michael Johnson, "Pressure is nothing more than the shadow of great opportunity."

#PressureAsOpportunity

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Day 269: Learning Lessons From Nature (Feb 02)

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Day 269: Learning Lessons From Nature (Feb 02)

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The sun (light) is a powerful symbol of hope and renewal, reminding us each day that just as it rises from the darkness, we too have the ability to overcome challenges and difficulties.

Let the sun be a daily reminder to rise above our struggles and embrace the promise of a brighter tomorrow.

#riseabovedarkness

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Day 266: Sharing An Illustration That I Liked! (Jan 30)

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Day 266: Sharing An Illustration That I Liked! (Jan 30)

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Sharing this visual illustration because I liked the message it was trying to convey.  It might seem things are falling apart but actually things might be failing into place.  We most likely realize this after we have reached our destination and look back and reflect on things!

#trustyourself

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Day 265: Underdogs Rise to Victory: Have A Winning Mindset (Jan 28)

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Day 265: Underdogs Rise to Victory: Have A Winning Mindset (Jan 28)

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My nephew and his cricket team played in the cricket league finals against a strong opponent. Despite being considered the underdogs, they had a fire in their belly and a winning mindset that would ultimately lead them to victory.

As I watched the intense game, I learned a few valuable lessons about the power of a winning mindset. Firstly, the team huddled together and came up with a strategic plan that utilized their strengths and exploited the weaknesses of their opponent. This showed the power of teamwork and communication.

Additionally, the team had complete faith in their captain, who led with confidence and determination. Despite the mounting pressure, the team remained calm and focused, executing their plan to perfection.

In the end, my nephew and his team emerged victorious with two balls to spare. Their victory serves as a reminder that with the right mindset, anything is possible.

#winningmindset

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Day 263: Reflecting on How To Awakening My Inner Saraswati (Jan 26)

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Day 263: Reflecting on How To Awakening My Inner Saraswati (Jan 26)

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Today was Basant Panchami, a festival celebrating the onset of spring as well as the birthday of Goddess Saraswati. Saraswati is the Hindu goddess of knowledge, arts, music, and speech. She embodies knowledge and human consciousness. As depicted in the picture, Saraswati holds a book in one hand, symbolizing her as the embodiment of true knowledge. The rosary of crystals in her other hand signifies the power of meditation and spirituality. The veena, a musical instrument, represents her mastery in various art forms. The fourth hand holds a pot of sacred water, symbolizing her creative and purification powers. As I reflect, I wonder how I can awaken my own inner Saraswati in my daily life. Here are some of my thoughts:

Pick up a musical instrument (going to add it to my vision board)

Learn a new language by downloading Duolingo

Do something creative once a quarter (painting, dance, cooking etc.)

Dedicate time to monitoring my speech and practicing acceptance and non-reaction when negativity arises.

Continue with the meditation practice

#spirituality

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Day 262: Reflecting on A Book I'm Reading (Jan 25)

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Day 262: Reflecting on A Book I'm Reading (Jan 25)

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5 Signs you’re doing BETTER than you think YOU ARE

1. You are not the same person you were a year ago: You are learning and evolving

2. You question yourself, you doubt your life. You feel miserable some day: this mean you are open to growth and self aware.

3. If you could talk to your younger self, you would be able to say:  We did it, We made it out, we survived that terrible thing: You have going through life and know – You are going to be okay

4. You can eat because you enjoy it.  It’s not a matter of sheer survival.

5. You have time to do something you enjoy, even if “what you enjoy”’ is sitting on the couch and watching Netflix

Overall, you will doing okay!

#BetterThanYouThink

(Excerpt from Book Chapter: 101 essays that will change the way you think by Brianna Wiest)

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Day 261: Practicing Surya Namaskar (Jan 24)

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Day 261: Practicing Surya Namaskar (Jan 24)

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I’ve been wanting to do a post on Surya Namaskar because I believe it is its it the "Ultimate Asana". Surya Namaskar, also known as Sun Salutations, is a powerful yoga practice that consists of 12 asanas performed in a cyclic sequence. It is an efficient and effective full-body workout that can be done in just a few minutes. It’s a perfect practice who is short on time but wants to maintain a regular exercise routine.

The practice of Surya Namaskar can provide numerous benefits such as improved flexibility, strength, balance, and cardiovascular fitness. It also helps to calm the mind, reduce stress, and improve overall well-being. I highly recommend incorporating Surya Namaskar into your daily routine. To perform Surya Namaskar, refer to the image for the step-by-step instructions.

#KingofYogaAsana

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Day 259: Admiring Affirmation Cards (Jan 22)

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Day 259: Admiring Affirmation Cards (Jan 22)

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Sharing an affirmation card that was painted by my sister-in-law - Neha.

The message speaks for itself.  No matter good or bad situation know that it is not permanent and it will pass!

#thistooshallpass

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Day 256: Choosing Meaningful Conversations, Not Gossip (Jan 19)

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Day 256: Choosing Meaningful Conversations, Not Gossip (Jan 19)

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In India, it is common for people to be interested in the details of others' lives, which can lead to gossip within families, among neighbors and friends.  Here, folks consider it to being involved in each other's lives but I do not completely agree.

Personally, I choose to avoid gossip because it is a waste of time and brings negative emotions and vibes. Instead, I prefer to have meaningful conversations about topics such as health, financial investing, travel, wellness, and books. I am learning how to politely walk away, refrain from joining gossiping conversations, or interject and change the topic of discussion.

#SayNoToGossip

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Day 255: Book Reflection: How To  Conquer Fear & Live With Purpose (Jan 18)

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Day 255: Book Reflection: How To  Conquer Fear & Live With Purpose (Jan 18)

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One of my goals for my adventure year was to actively read and reflect on self help books. In the upcoming month, I plan to read, ponder, and summarize the key takeaways that resonated with me from each book.

Here Is my key takeaways for - Win Your Inner Battles book.  The book aims to help readers overcome the internal obstacles, primarily fear, that hold them back from achieving their goals and living a fulfilling life.  We all face some form of fear - failure, rejection, losing face, changing careers, being alone, ending a relationship etc.

1.  Understand its Natural to Feel Fear & everyone experiences some kind of fear

2. Take Responsibility & Believe we can handle all the challenges live throws at us

3. Stop complaining, its a waste of time and energy and leads to negative mindset

4. Take Action by changing the situation or accepting things as they are (something I also learning during vipassana meditation), analyzing the worst that can happen - it might not be bad after all.

5. Commit to make it happen by taking action (I/You Can Do This).

#conquer-your-fear

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Day 254:  Bringing Joy To The World, One Smile At A Time (Jan 17)

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Day 254:  Bringing Joy To The World, One Smile At A Time (Jan 17)

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Wearing a smile can help us to improve our own mood and bring joy to those around us. Despite the difficulties and challenges that we might be going through, when we smile, it helps bring joy to our environment. If we frown over problems, it does not solve them and can make them seem worse. Instead, when we face our problems with a smile, it helps us deal with them in a happier manner.

Just smiling at someone walking down the street can make the person's day. It's a small act that can make a big difference in the world.

#SmileMoreSpreadJoy

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Day 253: Learnings Live Lessons: Martin Luther King Jr. (Jan 16)

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Day 253: Learnings Live Lessons: Martin Luther King Jr. (Jan 16)

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I believe we can learn a lot by reading and studying lives of famous personalities. As we commemorate Martin Luther King Jr. Day today, it's important to remember the admirable qualities he possessed and the lessons we can learn from him.

Three important lessons I can learn from MLK Jr. are:

1. Dare To Dream: He had a clear and compelling vision for a more just and equal society, and was able to articulate that vision in a way that resonated with many people. He taught us that having a dream is the first step towards making it a reality.

2. Persistence: He was unwavering in his commitment to his cause and continued to fight for civil rights despite numerous setbacks and obstacles. He showed us that perseverance is key in achieving our goals.

3. Love & Forgiveness: He believed in the power of love and forgiveness as a means of overcoming hatred. He taught us that preventing hatred starts by learning to forgive quickly. He showed us that hating people is stooping low and we should never fall prey to hate.

#livelessons

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Day 246: Embracing The Journey Of Self-Discovery (Jan 09)

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Day 246: Embracing The Journey Of Self-Discovery (Jan 09)

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The little blurb - in my opinion speaks about the journey of self-discovery. It encourages searching one's heart and taking leaps of faith, even though it may result in injuries, both visible and invisible.  So like how a river flows we need to  embrace the journey of self-discovery, recognizing the value of the struggles, and understanding that love and growth is intertwined with the process. So, take a leap of faith and continue your journey and accept what it bring you in the process!

#journeyofselfdiscovery

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Day 244: Trying To Stay Disciplined With My Meditation Practice (Jan 07)

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Day 244: Trying To Stay Disciplined With My Meditation Practice (Jan 07)

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It has been 40 days since I completed the silent meditation workshop, and the feeling of bliss I experienced at that time is still with me. As part of the workshop, we were encouraged to practice meditation for two hours daily – one hour in the morning and one hour in the evening – in order to strengthen our ability to remain equanimous.

Returning to a social environment with many distractions has made it difficult for me to calm my mind before meditating. However, I have found that when I do meditate, I feel more calm and when I don't, I am more agitated. Currently, I am practicing at different times of the day, but I am working towards establishing a consistent daily routine. On the days when I am unable to meditate, I try not to be too hard on myself and simply accept it.

To stay disciplined and reap the long-term benefits of meditation, it is important for me to show up every day at the same time and trust in the process.

#meditationjourney #mindfulliving

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Day 241: Learning & Implementing "PEEP" (Jan 04)

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Day 241: Learning & Implementing "PEEP" (Jan 04)

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My dad has been practicing lean management and six sigma when he was working and now at home now that he is retired.  He taught me this concept called PEEP: Place for Everything and Everything In It's Place.  I know that if we kept everything in its place its easy to find and the home will be organized and cutter free.  I've implemented my own PEEP system and trying to follow it.  I sometimes get lazy and do not follow PEEP and then its a bigger effort to organize it rather than spending few extra minutes to put things at its designated space in the first place.

Now, Venit and I keep holding each other accountable to follow the PEEP principle. This one is a keeper to be adopted for a simple & organized life!

#stayingorganized

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Day 238: Starting The New Year With Some Insights for My Journey Ahead (Jan 01) 

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Day 238: Starting The New Year With Some Insights for My Journey Ahead (Jan 01) 

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I wanted to start the new year with some inspiration for my  journey ahead in the new year.

Happy New Year! Welcome 2023!

#newbeginnings

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Day 234: Enjoying A Simple Article That Was Shared on LinkedIn (Dec 28)

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Day 234: Enjoying A Simple Article That Was Shared on LinkedIn (Dec 28)

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Listed below are some concepts (for quick reading) from Japanese culture that are worth reflecting during year end!

1: Oubaitori
Never compare yourself.
Everyone blossoms in their own time in different ways.
Don't judge yourself by someone else's path.

2: Kaizen
Continuously improve.
Constantly strive to improve across all areas of your life.
Small changes accumulate and make all the difference.

3: Wabi-sabi
Embrace imperfection.
Nothing lasts, nothing is complete.
Accept your own flaws and those of others.
Find beauty in imperfection.

4: Gaman
Have dignity during duress.
Hard times need to be met with emotional maturity and self-control. We need patience, perseverance, + tolerance.

5: Ikigai
Know your reason for being.
Define the reason you get up in the morning.
Make it something you are good at, passionate about, and that the world needs. THIS is meaning.

6: Shikita ga nai
Accept and let go.
Some things simply aren't within our control.
Accept what you cannot change, and move on.

7: Shu-Ha-Ri
Don't be wasteful.
Everything deserves respect and gratitude.
Recognize the value in what's around you and don't waste it.

8: Kintsugi
Repair cracks with gold.
Imperfections are a thing of beauty.
The journeys we all take are golden.
Our flaws are embellishments that make us more beautiful.

9: Omoiyari
Show consideration for others.
Life is better when we care for others.
Be thoughtful. Build compassion.

#foodforthought

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Day 231: Spending Low Key Christmas With Family (Dec 25)

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Day 231: Spending Low Key Christmas With Family (Dec 25)

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It was a chilled out relaxing Christmas with family and connecting with friends over WhatsApp.

The spirit of Christmas is in the 'togetherness', it's in the thought to which you put into thinking about others, it's a selfless time, where we forgive and become 'better' versions of ourselves!

#MerryXmas

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Day 230: Sheer Joy To Get My Eyesight Back (Dec 24)

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Day 230: Sheer Joy To Get My Eyesight Back (Dec 24)

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I was thrilled today, as I was getting my eyesight back!  This is my Christmas gift to be on the road to recovery with my eyes.   I feel much better now but have to visit the doctor on Dec 31 to check my vision.

#earlychristmasgift.

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Day 219: Something I'm Trying To Practice More: Listening (Dec 13)

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Day 219: Something I'm Trying To Practice More: Listening (Dec 13)

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Quote worth sharing!  To becoming a better listener!  Definitely going to be part of my 2023 goals.

Listen Well || Understand More || React Less

#Tolistening

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Day 216: Reflecting On Few Quotes I Came Across In Indonesia (Dec 10)

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Day 216: Reflecting On Few Quotes I Came Across In Indonesia (Dec 10)

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It is human nature to compare and there are always instances in my day to day routine where I tend to compare how things are in India vs US.  Both countries what they offer is like comparing apples vs oranges.  I was looking for something and found these photos tucked away on my phone that I had taken on my trip to Indonesia.  It helps me stay centered,, not take things for granted and enjoy what I've in this present moment.

I wanted to share these quotes with all of you, its a good refresher and feel grateful for all we have.

#quotesworthreflecting

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Day 215: Taking Time To Stop & Smell The Tuberoses (Dec 09)

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Day 215: Taking Time To Stop & Smell The Tuberoses (Dec 09)

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I'm enjoying the sweet fragrance of the Rajnigandha flower local name in India.  It is called Tuberose in english (I had to google it).  I never used to find them in US but they are easily available at all the florists.

It release a sweet scent especially in the evening/night.  I've place few stalks in the living room and few in my bedroom. I'm stopping to smell the roses!

#stop&smelltheroses

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Day 211: Wondering...If I Talked Too Much (Dec 05)

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Day 211: Wondering...If I Talked Too Much (Dec 05)

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After 10 days of silence and back to society felt full of noise, distraction, chaos.  I was enjoying the calm and bliss state of silence.  I did not feel the need to talk as much.  I had learned how to be in joy with my own company. I could go on for hours without talking which was so unlike me.  I had discovered something new about me - silence is more powerful than proving a point at times.

It got me wondering was I talking too much all this time? Was conversations filling some void in my live? Oh well, I decided to enjoy this state until it lasts for few more days!

#enjoyingsilence

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Day 209: Performing Meditation of Love & Kindness & Breaking Noble Silence (Dec 03)

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Day 209: Performing Meditation of Love & Kindness & Breaking Noble Silence (Dec 03)

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We had come to the closing part of the Vipassana meditation workshop and this practice of mettā-bhāvanā (meditation of loving kindness) before we can start talking again. As part of this  practice mettā, we generate vibrations of pure love which will influence not only the surrounding atmosphere, but also the persons towards whom the metta is directed.

After this meditation of loving kindness, we broke the Noble Silence and can start talking with other participant meditators.  Wow! I had survived not talking for 10 days...I could not believe it.  I got to know other female meditators - the youngest in our group was 22 years old and oldest at 83 years.  I really enjoyed hearing their stories - on what made them join the meditation and how they plan to continue to practice.

#Awesomeexperience

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Day 208: Getting to Meditate Inside The Pagoda Filled With Vibrations (Dec 02)

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Day 208: Getting to Meditate Inside The Pagoda Filled With Vibrations (Dec 02)

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I would see the pagoda everyday when we would be meditating in the Dhamma Hall.  But today, as we get to end the course we got to mediate inside the Global Vipassana Pagoda.  The vibrations inside the Pagoda were just at a different level as the sounds would echo inside the chamber creating unique sound waves that touch your body. Truly a lifetime experience!

Listed below are the facts about the pagoda.

It has been designed as a replica of the Shwedagon Pagoda of Yangon, Myanmar to show the gratitude of India to Myanmar for preserving the non-sectarian Vipassana Meditation, in its pristine purity, when it was lost in the country of its birth, India.

The genuine relics of the Buddha are enshrined here.

It is one of the largest stone monuments in Asia.

The technique of inter-locking stones is used to construct the monument. This negates the need for any pillars in the construction of the Pagoda.

It contains the biggest pillar-less stone dome on earth.

It is more than thrice the size of the previously largest stone dome structure - the Gol Gumbaz in Bijapur (90 feet in diameter).

At its centre is a huge meditation hall, 280 feet in diameter which has a seating capacity of 8000 people.

At 325 feet height, it is almost as tall as a 30 storey building.

#outofworldexperience

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Day 207: Missing Family Today As I Continue My Journey (Dec 01)

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Day 207: Missing Family Today As I Continue My Journey (Dec 01)

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I had already made it to Day 8 of the workshop.  Today was a tough day for me, I was missing family, I just wanted to talk to them for few minutes to know they were all ok.  I was speaking to the teacher everyday because I had so many questions :-) and she was always very kind, calm and would listen to me and provide guidance and put my mind to ease.  I told her I was missing family, and she said its natural and that I should accept it but not justify it further with why am I here, when I could be spending with them etc. etc.  She also said that after I'm done with the course and back I'll be answerable to everyone's expectations and how I'll remember this calm here, so I should enjoy the present. That made so much sense and I let go of those thoughts.

On the other hand,  I had not missed the cellphone all this days - no insta, no whatsapp, no craving for news or what was happening in the outside world.  I was amazed at myself!

#thistooshallpass

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Day 206: Deeper Understanding: Death Is Inevitable (Nov 30)

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Day 206: Deeper Understanding: Death Is Inevitable (Nov 30)

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As I continue to practice, I understand more and more the law of impermanence (anicca).  I did get thoughts about death.  Nothing is permanent and so if I'm born I'll have to die, our life span is decreasing continuously and death can occur any moment.  It causes unpleasant sensations.  But I just need to observe the thought and sensations objectively and less it pass.

The understanding of impermanence and attachment are a cause of suffering and realization helps us take off all pride and prejudices. It enables us to fulfill our duty without generating defilement.

#absolutetruth

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Day 205: Deeper Insight Into How Craving or Aversion May Cause Unhappiness (Nov 29)

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Day 205: Deeper Insight Into How Craving or Aversion May Cause Unhappiness (Nov 29)

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By now I had gotten used to the daily schedule.  Each day we were given some exercise to work on and from morning 4:00 AM to 9:00 PM would just fly by.  It was not like you were sitting idle doing nothing but looking deeper and deeper inside your mind.  You are conducting operation of your mind yourself.

Today's instructions: Sit still, meditate and observe the sensations on your body while staying equanimous for one hour.  Even if I feel pain in your leg or numbness in my leg I was not supposed to change the posture.  Also, my hands were not supposed to move even though I felt an itching sensation or other sensations while keeping eyes closed for the entire hour.

It was much harder than I thought.  The first 30 minutes I was able to manage but then my leg started to pain, feeling some itch in my ear - but I cannot move my leg or move my hands while keeps my eyes closed and observing all these sensations while staying equanimous.  Every minute seem to feel like an hour and I somehow managed it for maximum 45 min and then opened my eyes.

The reason for this exercise was to realize:
If a pleasant sensation arises, it will react with craving. Pleasant sensation: "I like it. I want more, I want more!"
If an unpleasant sensation arises, it will react with aversion.  Unpleasant sensation: "I dislike it. I don't want it."

You want something to happen to your wishes and it does not happen – you are not happy.  If you want to get rid of something you do not like – it does not happen you are not happy.  Whatever you desire and that desire does not happen you become miserable.

With this exercise of experiencing any sensation and simply observing it objectively. I realized that every sensation arises and passes away. Nothing is eternal.  However unpleasant a sensation maybe it arises only to pass away. However, pleasant a sensation may be, it is just a vibration—arising and passing. Pleasant, unpleasant or neutral, the characteristic of impermanence remains the same.

The teaching is:- do not have any craving or aversion for things.  Just stay neutral and this will lead to happiness.  Of course, this is easier said than done but the teacher says as you continue to practice and stay equanimous it will help you to remove deep-rooted defilements of craving and aversion.

The more you learn to stay equanimous the more you will experience real peace, harmony and happiness.

#experiencereality

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Day 204: Understanding Impermanence: Nothing Lasts Forever (Nov 28)

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Day 204: Understanding Impermanence: Nothing Lasts Forever (Nov 28)

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After learning the Vipassana meditation technique, today we were supposed to keep practicing it - individual setting or group setting.  As I continue to stay equanimous and observe the various sensations - I realized the sensations were changing over time.  No sensation was eternal. Where I was hurting before did not anymore and where I felt lighter sensations on the body had changed and experiencing tingling sensations.

What I learned via experience and after listening to teachers discourse - about impermanence.  That made me realize that one has no reason to cling to external things and one has no control over anything.  For example: we say "I", "Me" and "Mine - if the body is really ours why does it keep decaying.

In addition, today we can enjoy our lives completely as long as we understand that unpleasant situations are unavoidable and none of our experiences last forever. Everything in your life, including yourself, has an expiration date.

#nothinglastsforever

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Day 203: Diving Into The Vipassana Meditation Technique (Nov 27)

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Day 203: Diving Into The Vipassana Meditation Technique (Nov 27)

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Today, we plunge into the world of sensations.  The guruji - does a guided vipassana meditation session.  We are guided from the top of head to tips of toes and asked to observe the various sensation and stay equanimous.   As I follow the instructions - I feel lots of sensations like: heat, heaviness, tingling, numbness, pain - in various part of the body.  And some part feel light and calm.

As part of the practice we have to stay equanimous - to all sensations.  We are not supposed to crave pleasant sensations or create aversion for unpleasant sensations but to just see things as they are.  The thinking is by remaining equanimous to the sensations we can get rid of past defilements to which these sensations are connected.

As I plunged into the world of sensations - it was tough day - my mind and body was not sure how could all these sensations surface on the body.  It did make one thing clear that how the thoughts in my mind after your body and create bodily sensations.

#Experiential experience

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Day 202: Building Strength To Sit Up Straight During Meditation (Nov 26)

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Day 202: Building Strength To Sit Up Straight During Meditation (Nov 26)

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As my journey continues, my back and neck were hurting and my leg would start getting numb in the middle of the meditation session.  I spoke to the teacher and she suggested few things:

Sit up straight, so that your head and neck are in line with your spine.  Try not to slouch.

Place a pillow under my hips to raise the pressure of the lower back.

Slightly tucked my chin to keep your cervical spine aligned

Resting your hands on your knees or place them in your lap

If you legs getting numb - moving the big toe from time to time for blood flow

If it get very painful, use the wall for support to straighten my back

And finally making sure I gently closed my eyes!

After all the adjustments - I ended up not with one or two pillows but four of them :-).  I ended up with four pillows - one under my hips, one under each leg and one on the lap to rest my hands.

#pillowstomyrescue!

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Day 201: Learning: What its Means To Have Awareness Of Reality Of This Very Moment (Nov 25)

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Day 201: Learning: What its Means To Have Awareness Of Reality Of This Very Moment (Nov 25)

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Yay! I had made it to Day 1 of the silent meditation.  I had not spoke to anyone other than the teacher for maximum 5 minutes in the last 24 hours.  I could not believe it, but then I realized that wow, sometimes I talk so much - that is not required.  I started to like the silence, I was observing things much more than I would.  I could taste every bite of the food - and was eating consciously by chewing and savoring each morsel of food.  I would observe things - birds, trees, insects  on the walks during the rest time.

Today's exercise for the meditation session was to continue to observe the breath + now feel sensations.  As I breathe in - where do I feel the sensations - inside the nostrils, on the rim of the nostril.   And as I breathe out - do I feel a sensation above my upper lip.

As I continue to observe the breath > my mind wanders but this time I just accept that my mind has wandered at this very moment and get back to the breathing exercise.  The teacher tells I should not to be upset or disappointed if the mind wanders but just accept the reality and get back to the exercises.

#acceptingthepresentmoment!

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Day 200: Accepting: My Monkey Mind Will Always Wander! (Nov 24) 

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Day 200: Accepting: My Monkey Mind Will Always Wander! (Nov 24) 

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I wake up at 4:00 AM to be at the meditation hall at 4:30 AM.  As we all have very busy lives the first few days were focused to calm down. Today we were given the exercise to just observe our breath.  It is NOT an exercise to control the breath but just observe it as it is.

Is your breath shallow or deep?

Are you breathing from your left nostril or right nostril or both?

It took me a while to figure that out.  I had to put a finger above the upper lip to figure out my breath.  But slowly after some time I could feel my breath - go in and out.  But as usual the mind would wander (no wonder its called the monkey mind).  There were two types of thoughts- about past and future.  I pretty much re-lived my past - all the good moments and also the bad moments(when somebody told me something and I felt sad, when I did not get the what I wanted etc.)  And then my monkey mind would jump in the future - to fantasize about things- travel, home, prestige, money, career, community etc.  and also about future events like death, what if somethings do not pan out etc.  This is all happening during me sitting and meditating (while observing the breath).

Our teacher told us that it is completely normal and this happens to everyone.  One should accept - just like eyes job is to see and ears job is to hear, MINDs job is to think. It cleared a big myth I had - which was - I wanted to be in a state of mind where I did not have any thoughts.

After the end of the 8 hours of sitting - I got better at observing the breath and my mind was calm! :-)

#clamingmymind!

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Day 198: Chilling Out With A Book (Nov 22)  

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Day 198: Chilling Out With A Book (Nov 22)  

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As I was reading a picture book on quotes found a nice visual worth sharing.  Over the next few days I'm going to be discovering my inner self :-).  Nervous but excited at the same time.

#discover

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Day 188: Listening To Recent Episode of Jay Shetty's Podcast (Nov 12)

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Day 188: Listening To Recent Episode of Jay Shetty's Podcast (Nov 12)

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I was listening to Jay Shetty's podcast while walking around my condo.  In his recent episode he talks about "Discipline".  He talks about about how discipline is underestimated. We talk about creativity, innovation and being spontaneous but discipline is important regardless of any field (finance or business or singing or art).

So what is discipline - this is how he explains that resonated with me:

Discipline is to wake up at the same time every day, every single day, the discipline to sit and meditate.

Discipline is to do something, even when you don't feel the benefit.

Discipline is to do something, even when you don't have taste for it yet, but to recognize that with patience and practice, the taste will come and that meaning and fulfillment will come.

In short, discipline is a key trait in life and I wanted to share with all of you all!

#powerofdiscipline

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I'm Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I'm so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you're able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life's ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we've never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don't take it for granted - click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can't wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

I'm Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I'm so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed. I believe that when you (yes you) feel seen, heard and understood you're able to deal with relationship struggles, work challenges and life's ups and downs with more ease and grace.

I interview experts, celebrities, thought leaders and athletes so that we can grow our mindset, build better habits and uncover a side of them we've never seen before. New episodes every Monday and Friday. Your support means the world to me and I don't take it for granted - click the follow button and leave a review to help us spread the love with On Purpose. I can't wait for you to listen to your first or 500th episode!

Positivity for everyone

We all NEED to receive the positive message that Jay is sending. He provides concepts backed by science. He encourages his guests to share their own experiences so that we all may learn how to become our best selves. Thank you Jay!

One of My favourite Podcasts

It's uplifting, inspiring, and relatable. I love Jay. He chooses the best guest speakers and from each I have learned a lot. Thank you Jay!

Trauma

Your talk with Gabor Mate brought up several aha moments... One being "pick your pain" . Another, it is possible to hold to opposite feelings at once.
This conversation brought up some things I need to address. I feel guilty for so many events in the past that it would consume me. I feel guilt for things I didn't even do. I would apologize constantly. After listening to this conversation , I am going to read Gabor's latest book. Thank you for sharing with us!

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‎On Purpose with Jay Shetty on Apple Podcasts

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I'm Jay Shetty host of On Purpose the worlds #1 Mental Health podcast and I'm so grateful you found us. I started this podcast 5 years ago to invite you into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you happier, healthier and more healed.

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Day 187: Feeling Blessed To Receive The Gift of Time (Nov 11)

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Day 187: Feeling Blessed To Receive The Gift of Time (Nov 11)

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Recently, I've been fortunate because few of my friends have traveled from US and from their busy schedule carved out time for me.  Having 1:1 conversations where you can connect at a deeper level brings you closer.  I'm thankful to them that they have given me the best gift which is the gift of time from their precious lives!

Next time you are thinking of buying a gift for somebody, think of giving the gift of time (it helps reduce the carbon footprint as well).  Undivided attention to listen and talk heart to heart - it could be spending time with your parents, child, friends,  spouse, uncles and aunts, nephew or nieces, anyone you cherish - its the most valuable and expensive gift - as you are giving them a portion of your life!

#giftoftime

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Day 181: Article Worth Sharing: Introspection Brings Clarity (Nov 05)

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Day 181: Article Worth Sharing: Introspection Brings Clarity (Nov 05)

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We all experience situations on a daily basis where we may not agree on thoughts with family, friends, coworkers etc. and create some tension in our minds.  What I liked about in this article that how withdrawing ourselves or taking a step back helps us better examine the situation from all perspectives.

Call for action as mentioned in the article: Today as you introspect, go into your inner shell and ask yourself - Do I have any habit that has negative impact on my daily behavior?  How can I dissolve this habit?

Do I have any habit that has negative impact on my daily behavior? - Yes, I do.  I've a habit of jumping in when people are speaking and filling in word.  How can I dissolve this habit? - Learn to be a better listener and next time count to five before speaking.

PS: Back to reading the newspaper.

#introspect #innershell

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Day 178: Sharing Secrets To A Happy Marriage (Nov 02)

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Day 178: Sharing Secrets To A Happy Marriage (Nov 02)

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When I was visiting my in-laws last week, I saw this poster on the art of marriage pasted on their closet. The line items were simple and resonated with me, so wanted to share.

#happymarriagesecrets

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Day 176:  Making Health Goals for Month of November (Oct 31)

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Day 176:  Making Health Goals for Month of November (Oct 31)

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After all the festivities, and eating a lot of food...including sweets we have decided that month of November is going to be focused on physical and mental health.

We are making a pledge to "no added sugar" for month of November.  What does that mean - no sugar in tea or coffee, no cookies, no cakes, no ice creams etc.. you get the idea.  So you will be seeing a lot of posts related to health!

Also, I need to get back to playing tennis - I've been missing it so cannot wait to get back on the courts.

Finally, end of November - signed up for 10 day silent meditation which I'm looking forward to give all my senses a little break...which are super stimulated right now.

#goals

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Day 173:  Sharing My Love For Tennis (Oct 28)

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Day 173:  Sharing My Love For Tennis (Oct 28)

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Today, I shared my love for tennis with two new friends I made.  To see the love and joy in their eyes when I gave them the tennis ball..was just priceless and made my day!

Secret Formula If You To Feel Happy: - Share your love of anything (art, sport, music...any activity or hobby) with someone else...especially those who do not have the means or tools.  I guarantee it will make you happy!

#purehappiness!

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Day 162: Whoa...Check Out This Man-Made Water Fall (Oct 17)

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Day 162: Whoa...Check Out This Man-Made Water Fall (Oct 17)

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Last time we were in Singapore, we had missed this tourist attraction.  This is the only touristy thing we did on this trip because it was mainly to spend time with family.

The waterfall does not disappoint.  It is setup within a conservatory which has lush green trees and plants.  This place is huge and has walking trails where you sit and enjoy the falls and take pictures.   If you get bored from the falls it has all the brand name shops for shopping. Its also very close to the airport and they have facility too check in or store your luggage so you can enjoy the sites - handsfree.

#playingtourist

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Day 161: Girl Time With My Sister-In-Law (Oct 16)

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Day 161: Girl Time With My Sister-In-Law (Oct 16)

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Had a wonderful evening catching up with my sister-in-law Neha.  I learn a lot and she is great company to talk about - design, fashion, yoga, wellness essential oils etc.

I've realized during this adventure, that you do not need a lot to be happy...For me its just three things..

Good food
Good company and
Good conversations...

Bonus: Good View

#girltime

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Day 160: Amazed At Digital Tech In Singapore (Oct 15)

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Day 160: Amazed At Digital Tech In Singapore (Oct 15)

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This is my second time visiting Singapore and I'm amazed by the use and adoption of  digital tech.  Check out this video (less than 15 seconds) of the robot serving drinks and snacks for the customers waiting for their table outside a famous Haidilao Hot Pot restaurant.

#techforward

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Day 159: Spending Time With My Niece (Oct 14) 

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Day 159: Spending Time With My Niece (Oct 14) 

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We made sure on our way back we stopped in Singapore to spend time with my niece.  It was quality time spent with Zoya making water color paintings, reading story books, playing with water guns!  We last saw her in June and she had gotten taller and speaking sentences in just 3 months time.  She goes to pre-school and she was teaching me name of colors in chinese...can you believe that..:-)

#familytime

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Day 158:  Appreciating Lush Green Scenery on Train to Jakarta (Oct 13)

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Day 158:  Appreciating Lush Green Scenery on Train to Jakarta (Oct 13)

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I’m catching up on the blog as we ride the train from Yogyakarta to Jakarta.  Our Indonesia journey is coming to an end as we fly out from Jakarta to Singapore where we spend few days with my niece before returning back to Mumbai just in time for my Dad’s 75th birthday and celebrate Diwali!

I leave you to enjoy the quick video clip taken from the train to showcase the real Indonesia!

#memorieswilllastforever!

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Day 157: Girl’s Gotta Shop Some Batik Printed Outfits (Oct 12)

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Day 157: Girl’s Gotta Shop Some Batik Printed Outfits (Oct 12)

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I had not shopped anything so far on this trip.  I had promised myself not to accumulate all the touristy knick-knacks that end up accumulating dust on the shelves.  A very painful experience when I was moving our stuff to storage (still have nightmares on move).   However, I found some beautiful batik dresses that I could not resist to buy. 😊 …You will see me wearing them in future posts!

#shopping  #supportinglocalartists

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Day 156:  Wait…There are More Temples to See – Prambhanan Temple (Oct 11)

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Day 156:  Wait…There are More Temples to See – Prambhanan Temple (Oct 11)

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Today we hopped on our scooter to travel around 17 kilometers from Yogyakarta to visit the Prambanan Temple.  It is a UNSECO world heritage site – as it’s the largest Hindu temple site in Indonesia and second largest in Southeast Asia after the Angkor Wat temple in Cambodia.

The temple complex is estimated to be built around 9th-century and has three main temples dedicated to the Trimurti, the expression of God as the Creator (Brahma), the Preserver (Vishnu) and the Destroyer (Shiva) and surrounded with other temples.  The entire Prambanan temple compounds originally consisted of 224 temple structures, however in 2006 a massive earthquake hit the region causing massive damage to the buildings.  Restoration efforts are in progress to preserve these ancient temples for future generations.

It is a huge complex, and we explored the compounds of the temple for hours.  It even rained for around 30 min and our ponchos came in handy. 😊  We wondered at times how these massive temples were built without computer technology and high-tech machinery tools but still these temples have stood tall for such a long time.

For me, personally, I had not known that Hinduism had spread all they way to Indonesia back in the days and now the people of Yogyakarta mostly follow Muslim religion but still very proud of the ancient history of the region.  The legends and mythological stories kept us enthralled and intrigued as we wandered across this massive complex surrounded with lots of temples.

#magicalexperience

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Day 155: Tasting the Most Smelly Fruit – Durian (Oct 10) 

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Day 155: Tasting the Most Smelly Fruit – Durian (Oct 10) 

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Durian looks similar to jackfruit but is a very smelly fruit.  It is so smelly that you cannot carry with you in the hotel or airport etc.  However, people of Indonesia love to eat it.  I was not brave enough to try the fruit by itself so decided to opt for durian flavored ice cream.  I’ve to say it is an acquired taste...and kept burping its flavor the rest of the day but it was worth a try! 😊

#smellyfruit

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Day 154: Visiting The Most Awaited Borobudur Temple (Oct 09)

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Day 154: Visiting The Most Awaited Borobudur Temple (Oct 09)

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The design of the Borobudur Temple is a physical representation of the Buddhist concept of stages in attaining Nirvana, symbolized by terraced mountain.  We learned that in Buddhism, universe is divided into three spheres:

Kamadhatu: Represented at the basement of the temple.  It showcases the sphere of desires.

Rupadhatu: Represented at the body (five terraces) of the temple.  It showcases the sphere where we abandon our desires but which is still bound to name and form.

Arupadhatu: Represented at the three circular platforms and main stupa.  It showcases the sphere of formlessness.

I have to say, the photos do not do justice at the massive structure.  It’s like the pyramid, you wonder how it was built without any technology tools or machinery.  All the blocks seems to perfectly align to hold this massive structure and cravings that tell a story.

#beautifulworld

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Day 153: Flying to Yogyakarta (Java Island) & Driving to Borobudur (Oct 08)

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Day 153: Flying to Yogyakarta (Java Island) & Driving to Borobudur (Oct 08)

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We woke up early morning to catch an early morning flight to Yogyakarta (another island of Indonesia).  I had added this to the leg of the trip because I wanted to visit the largest Buddhist Temple (World Heritage Site UNSCO) in Borobudur.  I was super excited because I had seen Borobudur in pictures and wanted to see the actual temple and marvel at the architecture.   We reached Borobudur by noon. After some rest we decided to visit the Buddhist monastery to tee up our visit for tomorrow.  I was wowed by the various buddha sculptures we discovered.  For some reason it did not have a lot of tourists, so we had the place to ourselves.  It was a very peaceful place as we strolled around getting lost in the various areas of the monastery.

#borobudur

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Day 152: Hiking in the Rain With Ponchos to Visit Waterfalls (Oct 07)

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Day 152: Hiking in the Rain With Ponchos to Visit Waterfalls (Oct 07)

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The rainy season in Indonesia is supposed to start end of October.  However, with climate change, monsoons have arrived early and its raining everyday now.  But that did not stop us from getting on our scooter with our ponchos and hiking up to experience the tropical jungle and waterfalls.  Bali has a lot of waterfalls, we just picked this one as it was closest one to drive.  No insta worthy pics….but funny photos – of us in our ponchos with helmets (did not want our heads to get wet!)…with waterfall in the background.

#funnymoments

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Day 151: Learning the Art of Batik Painting (Oct 06):

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Day 151: Learning the Art of Batik Painting (Oct 06):

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Batik is an Indonesian technique of wax-resist dyeing with color applied to the fabric/cloth. This technique originated from the Island of Java.  So, I decided to try my hand to some batik art workshop.

Steps:
1. Pick a design and trace it on fabric or create your own design and draw it with pencil on fabric.  I decided to trace the design of Lord Ganesha.

2. Use the wax pen to apply was on the outline of the design.  You are coating areas with wax know as blocking on the parts of the painting you do not want to dye.

3. Dye the fabric. You start colors from light to dark. The traditional colors are brown, black and red.

4. Apply second layer of wax on the areas you do not want to dye.

5. Dye the fabric with another color.  Keep repeating the process to create complex multicolored designs with various colors.

6. Added Crackle Effect – to show black streaks in our painting.

7. Remove Wax – by dipping the fabric in hot water.

8. Enjoy the Final Masterpiece!

Personally, I wanted to display more colors especially yellow, but I did not block it with wax and the painting turned a lot red than I imagined.  But, oh well it was my first time learning the process to create batik painting.  My creation took 3 hours from start to finish so I can imagine it takes a lot of skills and patience to create complex intricate designs.  Also, a great souvenir for me to take back home!

#batik  #lovehandsonart

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Day 150: Watching the Sunrise On Top of Mount Batur (Oct 05)

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Day 150: Watching the Sunrise On Top of Mount Batur (Oct 05)

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We woke up at 3:00 AM to be ready at 3:30 AM for our hike.  It was still pitch dark and we were hiking up with flashlights provided by our trek guide.  He was born and brought up in Kintamani and shared information about his family, life in the village and history of the volcano when it had erupted last in 2010.  It was a steep hike up and our hearts were pounding.  Our bodies now all warmed up, we removed a layer of clothing.  Venit and the guide kept going while I needed to take break to let my heart rate catch up.   I had to tell them to slow down when I needed the breaks.  From my hike in May I had realized that I could make it to the summit but just at my own pace, so I was ok to tell them when I had the need to take breaks.  After a steep climb we reached to the top with 30 minutes to spare for the sunrise.  In the East we would see a band of orange glow starting to form.
The birds had started chirping as if they knew that the sun was about to rise.   We waited while enjoying the views from the top and the sun to show us its magic.   And finally, at around 6:10 AM at sunrise happened very quickly and the darkness vanished and it was all daylight.  We could also see that we were on the ridge of the crater.  We took pictures to capture this moment and hiking up – made it worth it because it felt like you accomplished something.

#spectacularsunrise

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Day 149: Soaking Myself in Hot Springs (Oct 04)

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Day 149: Soaking Myself in Hot Springs (Oct 04)

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We drove to Kintamani area so we could hike Mount Batur (active volcano) to see the sunrise.  However, we got soaked in the rain and our shoes were drenched.  So we had to adjust our plans today.  We had time to just chill enjoy the rural scernary and soak ourself in the hot spring.  We rode up to the nearest hot spring pool resort – called Toya Devasya

We spent few hours just soaking in the hot spring waters with the view of the mountains.  While we soaked, we discussed how fulfilling this experience  has been and as we were coming up to the fifth month mark.  By this time we have almost forgotten about all the stress at work, navigating politics and just enjoying life. We are enjoying all the present moments that we can cherish for the years to come.

#chilltime

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Day 148: Tasting Various Kopi @ the Coffee Plantation (Oct 03)

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Day 148: Tasting Various Kopi @ the Coffee Plantation (Oct 03)

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If you're a coffee lover, then you need to put Bali coffee (or kopi luwak) on your list of must-try coffees. Indonesian coffee is known for its unique flavor and rich aroma.

This coffee is made from coffee cherry that have been eaten and then excreted by the wild cat(luwak).  Who would have thought cat coffee poop was a thing!

The civet's digestive system remove most of the bitterness from the coffee bean, resulting in a smoother, more flavorful cup of coffee.  We tried the Kopi Luwak but I personally did not find much difference...I guess not much of a coffee connoisseur.

#coffeetime

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Day 147: Expanding Up My Culinary Skills With Hands On Balinese Cooking Class (Oct 02)

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Day 147: Expanding Up My Culinary Skills With Hands On Balinese Cooking Class (Oct 02)

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We signed up for balinese cooking class (we opted for vegetarian menu) to learn some dishes that we could add to our everyday cooking.   Balinese cusine also uses some of the ingrediants we use in Indian cooking like ginger, tumeric, garam masala.  We make some tofu and tempeh satay with peanut sauce, nasi goreng noddles (indonesia noodles with vegetables), yellow curry with vegetables and tofu (tumeric, red chilli, garlic, shallots was used to make the yellow curry paste), banana with plam sugar caramel sauce.   We had an amazing experience as we used traditional mortal and paste to grind our spices.

The best part was after make all the delicious food we got to eat all of it!

#culturalimmersion

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Day 146: Finding Zen @ Yoga Barn Studio In Ubud (Oct 01)

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Day 146: Finding Zen @ Yoga Barn Studio In Ubud (Oct 01)

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I had heard about Yoga Barn from my sister in law and she kept raving about the sudio - magical cool hip vibe, the yoga teachers and their Garden Kafe.  So I decided to give it a try, I booked myself for a Yin Yoga class.   Yin yoga is a slow, passive style of yoga.  As part of this practice you target the connective tissues of the shoulder, hips, pelvis, and lower spine and hold the pose for anywhere between one minute or more.

The teacher leading the session was just amazing.  The pracitce was targetted towards relaxing the shoulders, neck and chest.   It turned out perfect for me as I've very tight shoulders.  :-).  The class was for 90 min which flew by so quickly.  As they say time flyes when you are having fun.

I would highly recommend if anyone who is traveling to Ubud, Bali to make take time to visit the Yoga Barn.

#zentime  #yogabarn

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Day 145: Exploring Goa Gajah (Elephant Cave) Site (Sep 30)

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Day 145: Exploring Goa Gajah (Elephant Cave) Site (Sep 30)

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The Goa Gajah ‘Elephant Cave’ is an archeological site outside of Ubud.  The cave’s entrance shows a menacing giant face with its wide open mouth as the door. Various motifs depicting the forest and animals are carved out of the outer rock face.

The giant face was considered to be that of an elephant’s.  Goa Gajah translates to ‘Elephant Cave’, you won’t find any references here. Sources state that the ‘Gajah’ or elephant aspect came in from the stone figure inside the cave which depicted the Hindu god Ganesh, who is characterized bearing an elephant’s head.

#playingtourist

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Day 144: Visiting Saraswati Temple In Ubud (Sep 29)

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Day 144: Visiting Saraswati Temple In Ubud (Sep 29)

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If you have been following my blog, Bali has a lot of temples. Today we visiting the Saraswati temple in Ubud.  It has been my personal favorite so far of all the temples I've visted in Bali.
The temple features classical Balinese temple architecture (orange gate with grey stone work) and a beautiful foyer with ponds filled with blooming pink lotuses.  I loved the vibrations of this temple and decided to sit here for sometime and just take it all in, a truly magical experience.

Just FYI: In Hinduism, Saraswati is the goddess of knowledge, music, art, wisdom, and nature, represents the free flow of wisdom and consciousness.

#magicalexperience

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Day 143: Experiencing Balinese Massage (Sep 28) 

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Day 143: Experiencing Balinese Massage (Sep 28) 

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In Bali, you will see a lot of massage salons.  I decided to give it a try to Balinese massage.  I wanted to see how it was different from a swedish massage + I've very tight shoulders.

She applied some aromatheraphy essential oils on my body and use various techniques like acupressure, firm and gentle stroking, streching and working my knots.  All I can say, it was super relaxing and I did not want it to end even after 60 min.

#selfcare

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Day 142: Admiring the Beautiful Baliense Wood Furniture Home Decor (Sep 27)

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Day 142: Admiring the Beautiful Baliense Wood Furniture Home Decor (Sep 27)

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While driving around Bali, we found these beautiful boho style home decor items.  They are beautifully crafted with local artistans with natural materials like wood, wool and beads.  Unfortunately, we cannot take these pieces home but we got some great design ideas for a future home :-)

We enjoyed going from shop to shop to check out different ascent pieces, storage bins, tablemats etc.

#boho  #homedecor

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Day 141: Experiencing Rural Life By Hiking The Rice Terraces (Sep 26)

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Day 141: Experiencing Rural Life By Hiking The Rice Terraces (Sep 26)

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Indonesia is third largest producer of rice in the world.  There are lot of small famers in Bali working on the lands to grow rice.  However, with instagram it has become one of the popular tourist destination.   So we also decided to take a hike in the various rice fields and get a sense of rural life.    Beautiful rural scenery and pleasant walking make this a very zen like atomsphere.

As we hiked we enjoyed the green lush fields with rice plants in various stages of preparing the seeds, planting, checking the water levels, replanting after the rice plant produces four or five tillers, harvesting.  Its very important to know how hard farmers work to grow the food we eat.

Let us all pledge not waste food.  I feel wasting food should also be classifed as a crime.

#scenichikes

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Day 140: Admiring the Floating Temple in Bali (Sep 25)

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Day 140: Admiring the Floating Temple in Bali (Sep 25)

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In Bali there are more than 100,000 temples but we are trying to visit as many as possible because each one of them are unique in their own way.

Today we picked up our scooter and drove up to Bali's central highlands to visit the Ulun Danu Beratan Temple. Ulun Danu Beratan was built in the 17th century to worship the Hindu trinity (Brahma-Vishnu-Shiva) and the lake goddess, Dewi Danu.

The ‘floating’ temple complex comprises 4 groups of shrines, including the prominent Lingga Petak shrine to its east. There are 4 gates facing each of the cardinal points. Through the temple gates, you'll come across the typical Balinese architectural features with the tiered shrines. Inside the complex, the 3 main shrines are dedicated to the worship of god Vishnu with its 11 tiers, god Brahma with 7 tiers and Shiva with its 3 tiers.

As the temple sits on the western side of Beratan Lake, the smooth reflective surface of Beratan surrounds most of the temple’s base, creating a unique floating illusion.

#magicalexperience

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Day 139: Watching Kecak Dance Performance (Sep 24)

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Day 139: Watching Kecak Dance Performance (Sep 24)

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The Uluwatu Kecak Dance is one of the traditional art performing in Bali. The dancers of Kecak dance are energetic with more than 60 shirtless men in traditional plaid clothes sitting in a circle. They all sound “Cak – Cak – Cak” rhythmically, there are no instruments that play a role but only sounds that come out of the mouths of the dancers in rhythm.

As part of this performance they share the the story of the great Ramayana.  To know more about the Ramayana story here.

I've condenced and summarized an hour performance in 1 minute video.  :-)

#baliculture #kecakdance

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Day 138: Relishing Mouth Watering Vegan Sushi! (Sep 23)

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Day 138: Relishing Mouth Watering Vegan Sushi! (Sep 23)

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Yes, you read correctly, VEGAN SUSHI.. I know you might be wondering....it cannot be true...let me tell you - yes there are lot of vegan sushi rolls and it tastes yum!

So here are the ingredians of this sushi:-

Lily (name of this sushi dish) - crunchy mushroom, avocado, cucumber, carrot topped with carmelized pineapple, green onion

It had all the ingrediants that I enjoy eating and it melted in my mouth.  Bali is one of the most vegan/vegetarian friendly places which I'm loving.  The tropical fruits are amazing which deserves a post in itself. :-)

#vegansushi  #shakarikirestautant

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Day 137: Getting My Adrenaline Fix With Paragliding (Sep 22)

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Day 137: Getting My Adrenaline Fix With Paragliding (Sep 22)

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Sharing my adventure experience via a short video above!

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Day 136: Watching The Sunset At Uluwatu Temple (Sep 21)

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Day 136: Watching The Sunset At Uluwatu Temple (Sep 21)

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Uluwatu Temple (Pura Luhur Uluwatu) is one of six key temples believed to be Bali's spiritual pillars, is renowned for its location as its perched on top of a steep cliff approximately 70 metres above sea level.  We explored the temple site, watched the ocean waves hit the cliffs, enjoyed the sunset and ended the day by watching the Kecak Dance (form of Balinese Hindu dance and music drama) performance at the temple.

Trying something new, going to video record my one thing (do not worry will limit it to one minute).  Check out my first video recording, a little amateur for now but hoping will get better with practice. :-)

#culturalimmersion

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Made our own zen stone temple by the beach

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Day 135: Renting The Scooter & Exploring Uluwatu (Sep 20)

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Day 135: Renting The Scooter & Exploring Uluwatu (Sep 20)

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After some hearty breakfast we rented the scooter (which is very common in Bali) to explore the island.  Today, we decided to acclimatize ourseleves with the roads, culture, food etc.  We drove up to the a local hindu temple named- Pura Dhang Kahyangan Gunung Payung.  This temple is a little off the touristy trail which we like because we have it to ourselves.   We offered our prayers and walked down to make it to the beach - watched the waves crash the shore, constructed a zen stone structure (see pic above) from the rocks we found at the beach and relaxed.

This trip we do not want to rush to see the sights but enjoy slow traveling!

#beachday

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Day 134: Arriving to Depansar, Bali (Sep 19)

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Day 134: Arriving to Depansar, Bali (Sep 19)

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We arrived to Depansar airport in Bali at 10:00 AM.  By the time we were done with immigration and custom it was 11:00AM.  We had somebody from the hotel pick us up at the airport rather than have to figure out the logistics after just landed a new country.  The first region that we are going to explore is Uluwatu area.  Uluwatu is located on the southernmost tip of Bali, Indonesia, and is known for having incredible surf, beautiful beaches, jawdropping cliff views, and an overall laid-back ambiance.

We checked in our Villa took a shower an slept because sleeping in the airport was no fun :-(...we realized we are not in our tweeties and love a nice bed...We were so tired that we had slept like a baby.

Today, we took it easy with dinner and dip in the pool!

#weclometobali

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Day 133:  Flying From Mumbai - Singapore - Bali (Sep 18)

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Day 133:  Flying From Mumbai - Singapore - Bali (Sep 18)

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Most of the day was spent on traveling from mumbai to singapore.  It was a 5 hour flight and we reached Singapore local time at 8:00 PM.  We were supposed to go to Venit's brother's place to spend the night with them but Neha (sister-in-law) caught covid so we decided to stay at the airport to be on the safer side. We had a 10 hour layover before our flight to Denpasar, Bali. So we slept at the airport overnight (true backpacking!) to catch the early morning flight!

#intransit

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Day 132:  Spending Time With Family Before Our Trip (Sep 17)

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Day 132:  Spending Time With Family Before Our Trip (Sep 17)

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Today, other than packing for the trip, we had lunch with my parents (who love to feed me) and dinner at my sisters.  I truly feeling blessed right now.  We wanted to spend as much time together before we are off to our next adventure!

Both my mum and sister are so much better at culinary skills than I.  I like to eat and shower them with compliments.  Venit keeps asking me to learn from them but for now I've decided to enjoy their delicious food and appreciate them (the strategy works) :-)..because I know how much effort it takes to make a good meal.

Food made with love always tastes delicious!!

#blessed  #homemadefood

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Day 131: Getting Ready For My Next Adventure: Indonesia (Sep 16)

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Day 131: Getting Ready For My Next Adventure: Indonesia (Sep 16)

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Today I saw busy researching, planning, packing for the upcoming trip to Bali, Indonesia.  We are not taking check-in luggage but using backpacks.  This would be a first for us and we will find out if we are able to survive our trip as backpackers. I'm sure you will be hearing about it in my posts :-)

So here  are some quick facts about Indonesia.

Indonesia is a country in Southeast Asia and Oceania between the Indian and Pacific oceans.

Islands: Over 17,000 islands, including Sumatra, Java, Sulawesi and parts of Borneo and New Guinea.
Climate: Hot and Humid - Year round - 30 °C (86 °F)
Language: 700 living languages are spoken in Indonesia.  Official language is Indonesian
Religion:  Indonesia is mostly a Muslim (87%) country however, Bali is the only Hindu majority province
Economy: Agriculture & Tourism
Currency: Indonesian rupiah ($1 = Rp14999.20 IDR)

Our first destination will be the famous and most touristy island of Bali and leave on Sunday. :-)

#nextadventure

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Day 130: CookBook I Cannot Wait to Check Out (Sep 15)

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Day 130: CookBook I Cannot Wait to Check Out (Sep 15)

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If you are someone like me who hates to clean up dishes this cook might interest you as well.  Melissa Clark - a New York Times star food writer and bestselling author of Dinner in French has recently published another cookbook.  It is supposed to have simple and incredibly delicious one-pot, one-pan, one-sheet—one-everything!

I cannot wait to check out the book and try some of her one pot dishes myself.  If you want to learn about her inspiration for the cookbook check out her vogue interview link below:
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#onepotmeals

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Day 129: Researching How to Transition to Natural Hair (Sep 14)

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Day 129: Researching How to Transition to Natural Hair (Sep 14)

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Mumbai has very humid climate and so your hair tends to frizz and curl or do things that you did not even know it could.  I had straightened my hair few years ago and so I'm in this transition phase where part of my hair is super straight and the new hair is  wavy.  This has made it to a totally different hair style.  I've not been sure what to do -

Should I cut my hair shorts? - then I'll not be able to tie my hair and it will not look good in Indian sari which I plan to wear for Diwali in October

Should I let the hair grow out?  - then I've to keep using styling product and tools to make it look straight - but with the humid weather those styles do not last at all...

And so the struggle continues....

So I found this awesome article on Life Kit - about how to transition to natural hair...if interested check out the link: https://www.npr.org/2022/08/17/1117982800/transitioning-to-natural-hair-doesnt-have-to-be-complicated-5-steps-to-make-it-e

One tip she says is: Undergo the transition
When you know yourself with straight hair and then see yourself with the way your hair behaves, unfettered and unprocessed and unstraightened, it's like you are seeing yourself for the first time. It takes inner work to learn how to not just style natural hair but to love the hair and love yourself."

#loveyourself  #haircare

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The Black women in my family have been straightening their hair for as long as I can remember. Because of this, straight hair was all I knew. Without it, I rarely felt confident or beautiful.

Eventually, I got fed up with the pressure to keep my hair straight. I wanted to learn how to love and embrace the hair I was born with. So in 2019, I decided to ditch the hot tools and transition to wearing my hair natural full time.

It was a frustrating process. I didn't feel confident I was using the right techniques. I wasn't even sure which products to use. Eventually, after two years, I figured it out. But I wished I had talked to professionals sooner. That's why I created this guide to natural hair care - to help others have an easier journey.

To get the best advice, I spoke to Isfahan Chambers-Harris, a hair and scalp researcher who runs Alodia, a natural hair care company; and tight curl specialists Aisha Strickland and Aeleise Ollarvia, the founders of Black Curl Magic, a media company that offers natural hair education for consumers and professionals.

They share what you need to know to about growing out natural hair, from washing it and styling it - to learning to love it.

Cut away damaged hair

If you're newly natural, you may have dry and brittle hair or hair prone to breakage. That could be due to years of damage from the heat or chemicals used to style your hair, not hydrating your hair enough or inundating your hair with products that can dry your hair out.

You may feel inclined to go to a salon and cut off all the damaged hair, says Chambers-Harris, in what is known as "the big chop." Doing so would allow you to begin the process of growing healthy hair more quickly with less chance of further breakage.

But for many people, including me, wearing a short hairstyle is a bold look. So they prefer to keep their current hairstyle - and slowly trim away the damaged hair over time as the natural hair grows in. This is what's known as a "long transition," says Chambers-Harris.

If you do this, she adds, you'll see something known as the " 'line of demarcation.' It's where that natural hair meets the [damaged] hair. The natural hair from the roots is extremely healthy and a lot stronger than the hair that has been [damaged] for years."

This damaged hair requires upkeep. "Every month or so, slowly trim off those ends so that it's [not weighing down] on that newly grown, healthy, natural hair," Chambers-Harris says. Added weight can cause the natural hair to break off. Since damaged hair is visibly different from new, natural hair, this is something you can do at home yourself.

Once the damage has been gradually cut away and your natural hair is at your preferred length - a process that can take several weeks to years, depending on the hairstyle - maintain the look with regular haircuts to remove naturally occurring split ends and breakage. Ollarvia recommends getting your hair cut every 12 to 16 weeks, preferably by a professional who can help shape your hair into a desired style.

Understand your hair's traits

When I went natural, I would look at pictures of other people and use their hair as a baseline for what I wanted to achieve. I thought that healthy, natural hair had to look super thick and sleek. But my hair is thin and frizzy! It took me a while to realize that everyone has different kinds of hair - and my hair is perfectly normal.

Knowing your hair's qualities can help you better understand your natural hair type and communicate your needs to a hairstylist, says Ollarvia. It can also prevent you from comparing your hair to others.

Here are the 5 traits you should know.

Texture: "Texture is the diameter of your hair strand," Ollarvia says - in other words, the thickness or the width. "People can have very fine hair strands all the way up to coarse hair."

To find out the texture of your hair, compare a strand of your hair with a regular piece of string. Hold them both against a white sheet of paper to see them clearly. If the strand is thinner than the string, you likely have finer hair, and if it is wider, you likely have thicker hair.

Surface texture: Surface texture describes the look and feel of the hair's outer layer. "Some people's [hair strands] have a rougher, bumpier outer layer," Ollarvia says. "Some have a silkier, smoother layer. Where you are on that spectrum is going to determine how much light reflects from your hair."

To determine your hair's surface texture, gently run your fingertips along a few strands of hair. If they feel very bumpy along a section with no visible knots, you have a rougher surface texture. This hair looks more matte and absorbs more light. Hair with a smoother surface texture feels flat and is shinier and reflects more light.

Ollarvia says that the amount of light your hair reflects does not indicate its hydration - so don't automatically assume that matte or dull hair is unhealthy. (You can tell if your hair is hydrated simply by feeling it. Hydrated hair should feel soft, not stiff or dry.)

Hair density: "You're born with either a lot of hair follicles on your head, [about average] or less," Chambers-Harris says.

Get a sense of how dense your hair follicles are by tying your hair into a ponytail, she suggests. "If it's hard for you to [wrap] your [index] finger and your thumb" around the circumference of the ponytail, "then you have more hair on your head. If it's a very small ponytail, then you [likely] have a lower density" of follicles, she says.

Porosity: Porosity refers to how much your hair is able to absorb moisture, either from water or hair products, says Chambers-Harris.

If your hair has low porosity, it's very hard for your hair to take up moisture, she adds. If your hair has "high porosity, it can take up moisture quickly, but it also loses the moisture just as quickly."

To test your hair's porosity, put a strand of your hair in a glass of water, says Chambers-Harris. Generally, if your hair immediately sinks to the bottom, then it's highly porous. If it floats in the middle, then it's in the medium to normal porosity range. If it sits on top, then it has a low porosity.

Knowing how porous your hair is can help you figure out what kinds of products to use - and how often you should moisturize it with water. Less porous hair requires deep conditioning products and less frequent hydrating, while more porous hair requires lightweight products, such as mousse, and more frequent hydrating.

Curl pattern: "You can have either a straighter hair type, a wavy hair type, a curly hair type or a very coily hair type," Chambers-Harris says. "That's important to understand because the curlier your hair is, the drier it is. And if it's dry, you need more moisture [from water and moisture-retaining products such as hair cream]. If it's straight, it's oilier. So you need less oils and [oil-based hair] products."

Consider talking to a professional stylist for a hair consultation and product recommendations. And check out the nonprofit Environmental Working Group's Skin Deep Database, which has safety rankings and detailed ingredient explanations for a variety of hair products.

Make wash days a routine

Because natural hair tends to be drier, you need to add more moisture to it. And the way to add moisture to it is not by adding heavy raw oils and butters - which coat the hair and scalp with a waterproof film that can dry out the hair - but to wash it with water.

Water not only cleans and moisturizes your hair, but it allows other hair products to work more effectively. "No. 1, wash your hair," says Ollarvia. She's so serious about this point that she and Strickland wrote a digital textbook called Wash Your Damn Hair.

Strickland and Ollarvia recommend washing your natural hair every four to 10 days depending on how much time you have available, how active you are, the climate you live in and your desired look. If you sweat a lot because of frequent exercise or because you live in a hot part of the country, for example, you might want to wash your hair more often.

Wash day doesn't need to be complicated, they say. All you need to do to keep your natural hair healthy and clean is follow these simple steps.

"Basically, cleanse with shampoo," Strickland says. Then "condition and detangle your hair."

Wash out your hair - then style it with a hair product with hold, such as gel. And lastly, she says, set that hairstyle (more on that below) by air drying it or using a hair dryer or diffuser.

Maintain your hair through setting and styling

After washing your hair, you will want to set it, says Ollarvia. That's when you apply a product like gel or mousse to wet hair then dry it, "setting" the hair into a desired pattern or shape. The product locks in the water in your hair, keeping it moisturized, and setting it keeps your hair styled in between wash days. Setting is also convenient because it means you don't have to wet your hair again and again each day just to style it.

There are many techniques you can use to set your hair. If you're new to natural hair, Ollarvia recommends trying simpler setting methods such as wash n' go, twist-out, braid-out or bantu knots. If you've never braided or twisted natural hair before, don't try a complicated style like cornrows.

"Choose a [style] you have the most dexterity with," Ollarvia says. This will make the styling process easier and quicker if you're a beginner.

When your hair is fully set and dry, you can play around with the look until your next wash day by taking out twists or braids, using a pick to add volume or parting the style in different ways. For example, if I set my hair in twists on my wash day, the next day, I'd take those twists out and part my hair to the side. In the days that follow, I'd change up my look by separating some of the twists so they're less defined or change my part to the middle or spread hair in front of my forehead to create bangs.

Prepare for 'inner work'

When I finally achieved my natural hair look, I felt like a brand-new person.

That's a common sentiment among many Black women who undergo the transition, says Lori Tharps, journalist and coauthor of Hair Story: Untangling the Roots of Black Hair in America. " When you know yourself with straight hair and then see yourself with the way your hair behaves, unfettered and unprocessed and unstraightened, it's like you are seeing yourself for the first time."

"And in a world that does not appreciate Black natural hair, it takes inner work to learn how to not just style natural hair but to love the hair and love yourself," she adds.

To do that "inner work" as you transition to natural hair, think about the intention behind your efforts. For me, I was convinced it was a necessary step for Black people to free ourselves from a legacy of following Eurocentric beauty standards in order to be accepted.

For others, going natural is simply a matter of convenience. Ollarvia went natural to help her survive the Florida heat. For Strickland, she just wanted to try something new. Talking to them helped me realize it's not the hairstyle that matters, it's centering yourself in the decision.
The audio portion of this episode was produced by 2021-2022 Kroc Fellow Michelle Aslam, with engineering support from Maggie Luthar. The digital story was edited by Malaka Gharib. We'd love to hear from you. Leave us a voicemail at 202-216-9823, or email us at LifeKit@npr.org.

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Transitioning to natural hair doesn't have to be complicated. 5 steps to make it easy : Life Kit

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For many Black people, transitioning to natural hair can feel frustrating, especially if you're doing it for the first time. Experts share what you need to know about growing out natural hair, from washing it and styling it - to learning to love it.

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Day 128: Listening to Relaxing & Peaceful Gayatri Mantra (Sep 13) 

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Day 128: Listening to Relaxing & Peaceful Gayatri Mantra (Sep 13) 

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In Hinduism, GAYATRI MANTRA is considered to be one of the important Mantras.  I'm enjoying listening to this rendition of the mantra than the traditional one (check out the link above).

Meaning Of The Mantra: “We meditate on the glory of that Being who has produced this universe; may She enlighten our minds.”

#aum, #calmingmusic

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Deva Premal - Gayatri Mantra (30 Min Meditation)

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Day 127: Having Faith In Yourself (Sep 12)

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Day 127: Having Faith In Yourself (Sep 12)

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When you are living in one of the most populous countries you tend to interact with a lot of people.  While interacting with people you will receive advice when you did not ask for it, lot of opinions and half-baked information.   So, at times your principles, beliefs, ideas might contradict to what others think leading to various uncomfortable emotions and thoughts.

When I read this article in the newspaper it resonated and was a good validation that I need to stick to my convictions and ideas even though it might not align with other people.

#adviceworthsharing

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Day 126: Spending Time with Mum and Dad (Sep 11)

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Day 126: Spending Time with Mum and Dad (Sep 11)

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I was back in Mumbai by noon and went to spend time with my parents.  The last few weeks I had been on the move traveling that I had not spent quality time with my folks.  So I decided to spend the evening/night with them.  I can see all my parents want of me is I spend quality time listening to them.

I tend to react and want them to think like I do but I can see their needs are different than mine.  I've to keep reminding myself that they are not looking for solutions but just want me to listen to them :-).  Plus at times I might not agree with their thought process but I should respect their decisions.

So today was dedicated to spending quality and uninterrupted time with my Mum and Dad!

#qualitytime

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Day 125: Chilling in the Pool To Beat The Heat (Sep 10)

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Day 125: Chilling in the Pool To Beat The Heat (Sep 10)

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After a delicious breakfast with cousins. We jumped into the pool to beat the hot and humid weather.  It was super relaxing to chill in the pool for hours with family. We ate, listened to music, played water polo - it was super relaxing time with family!

#pooltime

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Day 124: Having Fun With Cousins At Alibaug (Sep 09)

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Day 124: Having Fun With Cousins At Alibaug (Sep 09)

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Alibaug, is a coastal town, just 3 hours by car south of Mumbai.  It was a long weekend in Mumbai so we decide to hang out and spend time together.  On our way to Alibaug, we stopped over to try some local food and tea.  We reached the airbnb just in time for dinner.  We had some delicious food prepared with the staff who manage the property and played games until midnight like pictionary, guess who - place or famous person...and had some amazing pan shots (vanilla ice-cream with pan)

#familytime

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Day 123: Hosting Dinner Party With Cousins (Sep 08)

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Day 123: Hosting Dinner Party With Cousins (Sep 08)

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An impromptu plan turned into a full party with fun and games.  We had been planning to host a party but the dates were not aligning so we just decided to host it on the fly.  Sometimes the best plans are the ones made spontaneously.  One on the fly plan let to another one is to spend the weekend at Alibaug (stay tuned in the upcoming posts)

We had a wonderful gathering with family!  Special thank you to Hemal for organizing games that all the age groups enjoyed.  Everyone was engaged and had a lot of fun!

#familytime

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Day 122: Message Worth Spreading (Sep 07)

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Day 122: Message Worth Spreading (Sep 07)

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During my everyday life, I've been privileged to have continuous running water for 24/7.  However, during my travels I can see water becoming a precious commodity. With global warming I can see that it is getting worse unless we all do something about it.

I remember when we went on the trek earlier in May we had limited supply of water for drinking, cleaning our dishes, brushing etc. and we got frugal with our use of water by using a glass of water while brushing teeth.  Another learning we had was to make sure you only take as much food you are going to eat, make sure you eat all the food without wasting and that will result into using less water for cleaning.  These are few simple tips. I believe if we all conserved water for even a day it would have a big impact.

During my travels I see women walking distances to collect water at a designated water location and taking it back to their homes.  I saw this poster and wholeheartedly agree with this quote: If you have to put in hard work to collect water you will be realize the value of each drop!

Feel free to share your tips, on how you currently or plan to in the future conserve water.

#savewater

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Day 121 : A Girl Needs Her Beauty Sleep (Sep 06)

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Day 121 : A Girl Needs Her Beauty Sleep (Sep 06)

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We flew back from Jaipur to Mumbai - it was the first flight out at 5:00 AM.  After we reached home I literally dropped our bags took a quick shower and hit the bed! :-)

We had been up so many nights with family and friends that I had a backlog of sleep...if there is such a thing.  A girl needs her beauty sleep after all. LOL

#beautysleep

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Day 120: Hanging Out With Cousins At taBLU Rooftop Restaurant (Sep 05)

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Day 120: Hanging Out With Cousins At taBLU Rooftop Restaurant (Sep 05)

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Today we decided to just chill and catch up with cousins.  We went to the oldest hotel in Jaipur - which is called Clarks Amer Hotel and hung out at their beautifully decorated rooftop restaurant.  It has windows around the restaurant where we could enjoy wonderful views of the city. We wanted to learn from our cousins about their normal routine, challenges they face, what are they excited about and looking forward towards etc.  I personally was getting advice on how do they manage time and juggle various activities, how do they all stay healthy at the same time attending all the parties every week.

There is very optimistic buzz/energy with whoever you talk about the growth in India.  Everyone is very excited that India is finally been recognized on the global world stage as the top 5 economies in the world.  India has set themselves apart from other neighboring countries like Sri Lanka, China, Pakistan.

We brought our conversations back to our cousins home ..where we stay up until 3:30 AM because we had to then catch a 5:00 AM flight.  I had not been up all night in a very long time and it felt like college days..:-) It was nice to bond with all the cousins face to face for a very long time.

#endlessconversations

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Day 119: Watching Epic Sunset From Nahargarh Fort (Sep 04)

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Day 119: Watching Epic Sunset From Nahargarh Fort (Sep 04)

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Today, we drove up to the Nahargarh Fort to catch the views of the entire city of Jaipur. In English, Nahargarh means the “abode of tigers” though I didn’t find out exactly how it got its name. :-).  We just went there to chill and spend time to watch the sunset and relax.

We did not explore the Nahargarh Fort’s Padao Restaurant but you could grab a book and enjoy the views for hours and watch the sun go down.

#sunsetviews

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Day 118: Exploring All The Sights Of Jaipur (Sep 03)

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Day 118: Exploring All The Sights Of Jaipur (Sep 03)

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We started our tourist journey at Hawa Mahal.  The structure was built in 1799 by the Maharaja Sawai Pratap Singh, grandson of Maharaja Sawai Jai Singh, the founder of the city of Jaipur.  Designed by Lal Chand Ustad, Hawa Mahal is a five-floor exterior is like to a honeycomb with 953 small windows called Jharokhas decorated with intricate latticework. The original intent of the lattice design was to allow royal ladies to observe everyday life and festivals celebrated in the street below without being seen, since they had to obey the strict rules of "purdah", which forbade them to appear in public without face coverings. This architectural feature also allowed cool air to pass through the small windows which is much needed during the high temperatures in summer.  As it is a very popular tourist destination it’s hard to find a spot to take pictures without crowds.  There is a café opposite the mahal that makes it for a perfect photo shoot which we decided to go the following day.

Another popular tourist attraction is the Amer Palace Fort.  It sits on top of small hill located 11 km from the main city.  The magnificent Amer Fort is an extensive palace complex that has been built with pale yellow and pink sandstone, and with white marble.  You can get lost inside Amer Fort chambers and courtyards – like diwan-e-aam (Hall of Public Audience - where the king met all his court ministers), the Diwan-e-Khas (Hall of Private Audience) and the famous Sheesh Mahal (mirror palace).  During the night the mirrors reflect the light of a torch or wick, resembling stars in the sky. This technique of mirror work on walls and ceilings was popular during the reign of the Mughal emperor Shah Jahan.

It was truly a magical place and a must visit spot if you visit Jaipur.  We explored Amer Fort for like 3 - 4 hours and I felt you could spend an entire day here and sit at each of the chambers and take it all in.

There is an elephant ride up the fort if you want to experience entry through the gates of the fort like the kings but we decided to skip that.  Truly a majestic experience and a photographers paradise - anywhere you look you want to capture it.

#playingtourist

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Day 117: Experiencing Rajasthani Hospitality Culture From Family (Sep 02)

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Day 117: Experiencing Rajasthani Hospitality Culture From Family (Sep 02)

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Rajasthan's culture dates back to the years of kings and still continues till date.  'Attithi Devo bhavo' means to treat your guests like as you would treat God. This principle is a part of the Rajasthani Culture.  I was able to experience that same welcome from Venit's side of the family.

They made us feel so welcome and they show their affection via food by preparing and offering various dishes.  Preeti Bhabhi (Venit's cousin's wife) took the culture to another level.  She had prepared an 8 course dinner with various Indian dishes from appetizers to desserts.  We ate till our pants were super tight because they kept offering us servings of food. The food was paired with conversations, laughter and pulling each other's leg for fun. It felt good to be all together.

Thank you Preeti Bhabhi for amazing hospitality!

#familytime

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Day 116: Traveling To Pink City of Jaipur (Sep 01)

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Day 116: Traveling To Pink City of Jaipur (Sep 01)

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We boarded the night train from Udaipur (Venit's home town) to Jaipur. Venit has lot of his uncles/aunts and cousins living in Jaipur and plus he study architecture in Jaipur - so it was bitter sweet for him.  So our Rajasthan journey continues.  I was very excited because I had only stayed a night in Jaipur in the past and not seeing all the sights as well as met his side of family for a very long time.

Just a little history of Jaipur:
It was built in the 1700s under the order of Rajput ruler Sawai Raja Jai Singh II and hence the name "Jai"= name of king "Pur" meaning city. Jaipur is surrounded by a city wall and several defensive forts.  Jaipur is know as the Pink City -because a romantic dusty pink hue -- which has defined the city since 1876, after it was painted pink to welcome Queen Victoria's husband, Prince Albert.

#nextleg

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Day 115: Performing Rituals Samvatsari Pratikraman To Ask For Forgiveness (Aug 31)

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Day 115: Performing Rituals Samvatsari Pratikraman To Ask For Forgiveness (Aug 31)

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Today was the last and the main days of the Paryushana festival celebrated by Jains.  Today, we seek forgiveness from all living beings for any actions that we made deliberately or unknowingly.  I went to the temple and perform the prayer service ritual that lasted for three hours.  It included chanting mantras, bowing down to ask forgiveness, listening to hymns, meditating.  At the end of the rituals - we say 'Michhami Dukkadam' to all the family, friends and acquaintances. The meaning of this phrase is - I want your forgiveness if knowingly or unknowingly I've hurt you with my words, actions, deeds.

In all forgiveness is the motto of this festival.  I really admire this system and wish if only we could adopt the concept of forgiveness in the world, it would be a very happy place.

#forgiveness

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Day 114: Meeting Up With My Mom-In-Laws Friends (Aug 30)

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Day 114: Meeting Up With My Mom-In-Laws Friends (Aug 30)

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We hosted a dinner get together for all my mom-in-laws friends.  We wanted to take this opportunity to meet up and thank them because they help my mom-in-law a lot when we are not around.  We are grateful for their support. Interacting with them and seeing them full of life even thought they are all above 68+ was a good feeling.  I felt they were full of life, laughing, and enjoying even thought everyone of them now has some ailment due to age.  They were so happy to see us and seeing them happy made us happy.

We forgot to take a photo of the event :-( (bummer)

#thankyou

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Day 113: Relishing on Some Yummy Mexican Indian Fusion Platter (Aug 29)

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Day 113: Relishing on Some Yummy Mexican Indian Fusion Platter (Aug 29)

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Since my last visit to India, I feel the food scene has exploded with various cusines.  You can find - mexican to italian, thai to middle eastern (falafels/hummus) and various regional Indian cusines.  Practically, you name a cusine and its available.  However, the tastes have been tweaked to Indian flavors to cater to Indian food preferences.

Today, we tried the Indian - Mexican food platter which has some tacos, corn salad, nacho chips, quesadilla with three kind of sauces, wraps, salsa, queso bread toast, and fries.

We shared the platter with Tarun Bhaiya's (Venit's friend) family with fun conversations and fully enjoyed the burgeoning food scene in Udaipur.

#goodfood

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Day 112: Visiting Jain Temple To Offer Prayers (Aug 28)

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Day 112: Visiting Jain Temple To Offer Prayers (Aug 28)

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Paryushan is a 8 day Jain festival and unlike most festivals that involve feasting, fun and merry making with friends and family, this auspicious celebration offers an opportunity to reflect on spirituality, sacrifice, fasting, penance and endurance.

Paryushan stands for some of the most important Jain practices like nonviolence (Ahimsa), engaging in self-discipline (Sanyam), partial or complete fasting penance (Tapah), study of scriptures (Swadhyaya), introspection (Pratikraman) and repentance (Prayaschitta).

My parents follow all the elements and rituals of this Jain festival. We decided to visit the Jain temple in Udaipur to offer our prayers, express gratitude on having the opportunity to spend time with family, good health, travel and being able to take the bold decision on taking a gap year.

#gratitude

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Day 111: Exploring Hindu Temple Ruins & Monsoon Palace (Aug 27) 

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Day 111: Exploring Hindu Temple Ruins & Monsoon Palace (Aug 27) 

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Today, we drove around 25 Kilometers outside of Udaipur city limits to visit some old temples and palaces.  We started our journey at the famous Eklingji Temple near Udaipur.
In Hindu mythology, the Trinity - Lord Brahma (Creator) , Lord Vishnu (Preserver), and Lord Shiva (Destroyer of all evil things).  Eklingji is also one of the names of Lord Shiva and was built by the Maharanas of Mewar.  No photography was allowed inside the temple premises.  The idol of the God is a Four-faced statue which is about 50 feet in height and is made out of black stone. The four-faced figure depicts four different forms of Lord Shiva. The eastern side recognizes Surya (the sun), western side recognizes Lord Brahma (the ultimate creator), northern side recognizes Lord Vishu (the supreme being), and the southern side is Rudra (the mightiest of the mighty). The Eklinga statue is encircled with the figures of Goddess Parvati (Wife of Shiva), Lord Ganesha and Lord Kartikay (sons of Shiva).  We offered our prayers at the temple and then drove to another temple, dedicated to mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships (the Saas-Bahu Temple). The intricate carvings and architecture of the temple are incredibly gorgeous. There were no tourists and we had the temple to ourselves for almost an hour which enhanced our experience. With birds chirping in the background, sun peeking through clouds, water splashing in the nearby lake, we were just mesamerized and sat there marveling the carvings of the temple (check out the video).

In the afternoon, we ventured to see the monsoon palace - Sajjangarh Fort which was the other side of town. Sajjangarh Fort is a magnificent palace built on the Aravalli hilltop. Built-in 1884, the Sajjangarh Palace is a palatial residence of Maharana Sajjan Singh. The Palace overlooks a breathtaking view of the various lakes, city palace and mountains as the backdrop.   We spent 3 hours exporing the fort and taking in great views of the city.  It is a great spot for enjoying sunset in Udaipur and very popular with tourists.  You should plan a trip in the afternoon and stay till dusk. There is a cafe for those craving tea, coffee and snacks.

In all, it was a very eventful day, visiting various sights around Udaipur City which made it for a long write up!

#incredibleindia!

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Day 110: Admiring Udaipur City Views From Chunda Place Heritage Hotel Roof Top Restaurant (Aug 26)

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Day 110: Admiring Udaipur City Views From Chunda Place Heritage Hotel Roof Top Restaurant (Aug 26)

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So far, we had been taking in all the sights of Udaipur during the day. But Udaipur city at sunset is a totally different experience.  As the sun sets and dusk seettles in, the sky lights up in various shades of reds and purples, the lights are turned on to light up at all the historical palaces & forts, and city momuments, and Udaipur looks absolutely magical.  We had booked a table at the roof top restaurant (Chunda Palace) for dinner tongiht. The pictures are from the restaurant and do not do justice to the view we enjoyed. We marvel looking at all the sights and I do not have words to describe but the city views from the rooftop restaurant were breathtaking. If you get a chance, have dinner at one of the roof top restaurants overlooking the city palace when visiting Udaipur.

The tables were lit with candles to create a muted ambience so that you can enjoy the striking panoramic view of the city in night light. Venit's friend, Tarun and his wife, Payal, joined us for dinner. It was great catching up with them both ( I met them after almost 5 years). We had great conversation over delicious food (mix of Punjabi and Rajasthani vegetarion dishes), settled in for a low key evening, and marveled the city view for hours. It was truly a magical evening.

#breathtakingviews