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What's one negative thing that friends can do to each other?

How does dishonesty affect relationships?

How does good communication affect relationships

What can you do if you're having trouble communicating with a friend or someone you're dating?

What is the most important quality to you in a relationship with someone else?  How and why is it important to you?

Talk about a relationship between people you know that you admire. Why?

Who is someone in your life that you look up to?

Who is someone in your life that you have learned from?  What did you learn from them?

Who is someone in your life that has helped you to grow?  How have you grown?  How did they help you to do so?

Who was a teacher who influenced you in positive ways? How?

Tell us about a time when you felt like you really belonged.

Tell us about a time when you felt left out.

In what social setting or situation have you felt the least powerful?  What was it that caused you to feel that way?

What person or persons in your life are your greatest challenge?

What person or people know you the best, and how well do you feel they really know you?

What do others want from you?

What do you want from others?

What do you most appreciate about someone who is important to you in your life?

What are some reasons students get into conflicts here at school?

Can conflicts ever be positive? What are some positive things that can come from a conflict?

Do people ever start conflicts with a positive goal in mind? Why or why not?

Can a conflict have a positive result for only one of the people involved and not the other(s)? Why or why not?

What's an example of a time you compromised with someone?

When you compromise, you don't get everything you want. What are some advantages of compromising? Can you think of an example?

What are some disadvantages of compromising?

How can compromising help people resolve conflicts?

What characteristics do you think are important in a dating relationship?

How should you respond if you feel pressured to do something you don't want to do?

Is it okay to spend time with friends without the person you're dating? Why or why not?

What are some challenges that can happen in a relationship, even if it's positive?

Have you ever had to work to keep a friend? Why did you put effort into it?

How can you tell when you need to stop putting time and effort into a relationship?

How do you feel when someone doesn't listen to you?

Why is it important to listen to other people?

Has listening ever helped you avoid a conflict? If so, how?

Have you ever seen a conflict start because someone wasn't listening? What happened?

Active listening is a skill. What's something you can do to improve your listening skills?

What are some of the differences between positive and negative relationships?

Can a relationship start out positive and then become negative? Why or why not?

Is a negative relationship always negative for both people involved? Why or why not? How can it affect people outside the relationship?

Do you think negative relationships are common in middle/high school? Why or why not?

What kinds of effects can a negative relationship have on a person, even after the relationship is over?

Have you ever been able to resolve a conflict with a friend? What did you do to maintain the friendship?

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These structures specifically work on RELATIONSHIP SKILLS & team building.

Choose ANY for your BINGO board.

AllRecord Consensus 6.26

AllRecord Round Robin 6.26

Round Robin & Continuous RoundRobin 6.64

Round Table & Continuous RoundTable 6.66

Round Table Consensus 6.66

Fact or Fiction 6.34

FanPick 6.30

Jot Thoughts 6.40

Pairs Compare 6.52

Talking Chips 6.76

Think-Write-Round Robin 6.64

Three Step Interview 6.82

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In your bingo game. :)

“We’ll take two minutes for our closing activity today, and within those two minutes please connect with as many people as possible in the room, greeting them by name and making a physical connection (handshake, high five, hug...whatever is mutually comfortable) and thanking
them for engaging in our work today, either as a general appreciation, or if you can, with a specific thank-you for an inspiring comment, intriguing idea, or act of kindness that you noticed during our work time (meeting) today. (PAUSE.) Take a moment to look around and think about appreciations you may wish to share. (PAUSE.) Ready? Go!”

Set the timer and use an agreed-upon attention signal to bring the room to full quiet. “Thank
you for that optimistic closing! I can feel my energy lifted for what lies ahead!”

Also works for beginning of the day or engaging strategies.

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This relationship skills game gets students ready to work COLLABORATIVELY and learn how to COMMUNICATE more effectively.

Takes zero prep and only 1-2 minutes.

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Works great as a CLOSURE for academic content.

Full instructions HERE

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These non-Kagan structures are often equally effective at promoting relationship skills:

Socratic Seminar

Jigsaw

Brain Breaks

Transition Techniques

Fishbowl

Gallery Walk

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Ask students to reflect on what they have learned and ask, "Thinking about what you learned today, what is one takeaway (an idea, strategy, tool or action step) you want to try and why?

Have students share their takeaway with a partner and tell them to try to keep them accountable to their takeaway.

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Relationship Skills Conflict Resolution Role Playing

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Sign up for free, instant access to In Control's/Can Do U's video SEL curriculum.

IN CONTROL (middle school program) (click link to sign up for free)
6th grade: Taking Control 6 Part 1, 2, & 3

7th grade: Connected 7 Part 1, 2, & 3

8th grade: Crushed 8 Part 1, 2, & 3

CAN DO U (high school program) (click link to sign up for free)
Disagreements Part 1 & 2
Friends Part 1 & 2

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Students create commercials based on conflict resolution strategies.

Link to instructions.

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Circle up and have students say kind things to each other.

You can have them draw names out of a hat, or simply say something kind to the person on their right until you complete the circle.

Encourage students to truly think about the person they’re offering words of kindness to. Was there something specific they noticed about the other student? For example, they could say something like, “I noticed that you doodle during recess, and you draw really beautifully.”

OTHER OPTIONS FOR DISCUSSION/CIRCLE:
- What is a kind act you could do this week for someone in your family?
- What is a kind act you could do this week for a friend?
- What is a kind act you could do this week for someone at school?
- Why is kindness important? Does it even make a difference?
- Discuss this quote: "No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted." Thoughts? Feelings?
- Share a time when someone was genuinely kind to you and how that made you feel.

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Differentiate Between Passive, Assertive, and Aggressive Responses From Others

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Differentiate Between Passive, Assertive, and Aggressive Responses From Others

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Teach a vocabulary lesson that includes the words, passive, assertive, and aggressive.

Lead a discussion about how passive, assertive and aggressive may be different depending on the situation – such as when they’re with friends, in class, at home with siblings or with adults in public.

Ask students to develop role-play scenarios or otherwise demonstrate where the person responding is either passive, assertive or aggressive.

Ask students to demonstrate passive, assertive or aggressive postures.
https://education.mn.gov/mdeprod/groups/educ/documents/hiddencontent/bwrl/mdcz/~edisp/mde073495.pdf

More ideas related to assertiveness can be found here: https://www.acmtraining.co.uk/rtaCourseContent/ASSERTIVENESS%20TRAINING%20BOOKLET.doc#:~:text=Assertive%20people%20state%20their%20opinions,state%20their%20opinions%20at%20all.

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Monitor How Facial Expressions, Body Language and Tone Impact Interactions

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Have students watch video clips with the sound off and analyze how non-verbal communication impacts relationships. Here is a playlist with  some examples but there are many more:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xusemZImx3c&list=PLDYlYnxn1Oxsy6y5MuZrDNBVc1Q8O4fZD

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VRJzvJ5XPQI

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fLaslONQAKM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4jwUXV4QaTw

In literature, routinely ask students questions that draw their attention to the way facial expressions and other body language are described in text, and how expressions and body language provide implicit messages about how someone is feeling and how

Check out these links for more videos and examples:
https://www.verywellmind.com/types-of-nonverbal-communication-2795397

https://www.forbes.com/sites/carolkinseygoman/2018/08/26/5-ways-body-language-impacts-leadership-results/?sh=5ab8599a536a

https://www.verywellmind.com/understand-body-language-and-facial-expressions-4147228

https://www.indeed.com/career-advice/career-development/body-language-examples

https://www.mindtools.com/aejjzul/body-language

Body Language Expert Explains How to Show Confidence | WIRED:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VRJzvJ5XPQI

Former FBI Agent Explains How to Read Body Language: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4jwUXV4QaTw

Joe Navarro's TED talk | The Power of Nonverbal Communication:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fLaslONQAKM

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Understand the Potential Consequences of Safe and Unsafe Behaviors in Relationships

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Here a few great ideas:

In small groups or teams, have students develop written and oral reports about safe and unsafe behaviors in relationships.

Have students develop public service campaigns about safe and unsafe behaviors in relationships.

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This article looks at how empathy grows throughout our formative years and offers a set of exercises that can be used to develop it further in yourself and your students. It includes several worksheets with various activities as well as a short (7:26) TED Talk discussing the neurobiology of empathy in humans. https://positivepsychology.com/empathy-worksheets/

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We have all met people who appear to lack empathy.

When they see someone upset or having a hard time, they appear baffled, unclear how to respond.

Why are they like that, and can it be changed?

Genetics provide part of the story (Horsburgh, Schermer, Veselka, & Vernon, 2009). The rest of who we are is explained by our environment, how we grew up, and what we are learning right now.

We have the potential to change. Our empathy is not fixed; it can be developed.

This article looks at how empathy grows throughout our formative years and offers a set of exercises that can be used with clients to develop it further.

Before you continue, we thought you might like to download our three Emotional Intelligence Exercises for free. These science-based exercises will not only enhance your ability to understand and work with your emotions but will also give you the tools to foster the emotional intelligence of your clients, students, or employees.

How Is Empathy Developed? 5 Stages and 5 Factors

Empathy is an integral part of emotional and social development and an essential motivator for helping those in distress. In a very literal sense, it is the " ability to feel or imagine another person's emotional experience " (McDonald & Messinger, 2011).

While initially it was thought that empathy did not develop in young children, research into their response to others' distress has shown otherwise.

Below we discuss some of the development stages and factors that influence empathy, drawing on research performed at the University of Miami (McDonald & Messinger, 2011).

Stages of empathy development

Newborns: when newborns hear other infants crying, they frequently exhibit signs of distress, known as reflexive crying or emotional contagion.

Their behavior suggests a precursor to empathy and a predisposition to others' negative emotions, rather than an unthinking reaction to noise.

Infants: infants exhibit concern for others. However, as any parent knows, they have difficulty regulating their emotions and often become overwhelmed by others' feelings.

Toddlers: between the ages of 14 and 36 months, children begin to show clear signs of the emotional components of empathy, including apologizing, showing concern for others, and offering help. In a very real way, they begin to 'try on' others' experiences, whether seen on TV, with friends, or in a family situation.

Early childhood: as children begin their early school years, they not only experience others' emotional states but also start to imagine their experiences. Referred to by psychologists and philosophers as the theory of mind, they begin to see themselves and others in terms of emotions, feelings, and desires (Wellman, Cross, & Watson, 2001).

Middle childhood into adulthood: significant developments in empathy are seen from middle childhood to adulthood that form part of a broader prosocial personality trait. Indeed, the development of early prosocial behavior, such as empathic concern and perspective taking, motivates helping behavior (McDonald & Messinger, 2011).

Factors of empathy development

There are many factors involved in the early and rapid development of empathy.

Genetic: twin research has consistently implicated the importance of heredity in the development of empathy, accounting for between one third and one half of the variation found in children (Knafo, Zahn-Waxler, Van Hulle, Robinson, & Rhee, 2008).

Neurodevelopmental factors: mirror neurons in the animal and human brain, which reflect other people's emotions, may provide a neurological basis for connecting others' experiences with our own. Check out Vilayanur Ramachandran's excellent TED Talk for an overview (Ramachandran, 2009).

The neurons that shaped civilization - Vilayanur Ramachandran

Temperament: our personality is an essential factor in how we develop empathy. For example, fearful and shy children appear less likely to engage in empathic behavior in unfamiliar situations.

Mimicry and imitation: facial mimicry begins in early infancy and appears to be linked to internalizing others' emotional experiences.

Parenting: the socializing influence of parents and caregivers on young children is considerable and further impacts empathy. Feldman (2007) found that increased matching behaviors during play in infancy led to more empathy displays in later life.

Other research has confirmed the importance of parent-child relationships in promoting the development of empathy, most likely based around feelings of trust and a sense of a loving relationship.

While the above list is not exhaustive, it does provide crucial insights into the complexity and importance of empathy.

Why Work on Your Empathy Skills?

In the book Emotional Intelligence, science reporter for the New York Times Daniel Goleman (2006) describes empathy as a capacity to " know how another feels" coming " into play in a vast array of life arenas, from sales and management to romance and parenting, to compassion and political action."

To intuit another's feelings, we must read nonverbal cues: facial expressions, tone of voice, and behavior. And the benefits are profound.

Indeed, it isn't easy to find any part of our life unaffected by our ability to empathize. Some of which we identify below:

How we and others see ourselves:
According to research by Robert Rosenthal and colleagues at Harvard University, our capacity to read the feelings of others makes us more outgoing and popular in childhood and adulthood (Goleman, 2006).

Positive impact on work relationships:
Research confirms that increased empathy impacts our work effectiveness, thereby improving our skills as workers and managers (McKee, David, Chaskalson, & Chussil, 2017).

Successful marriages:
Plopa, Kaźmierczak, and Karasiewicz (2016) found that partners' empathy was a strong predictor of their chances of a successful relationship.

Better parenting:
Empathy makes parents more resilient and better able to face the challenges associated with raising children (Geiger, Piel, Lietz, & Julien-Chinn, 2016).

Averting global disaster:
Psychologist Robert Ornstein and biologist Paul Ehrlich, inHumanity on a Tightrope (2012), point out that while we are hardwired to empathize with those closest to us, by extending humanity's compassion, we will be able to tackle the challenges ahead, from global warming to pandemics and war.

8 Strategies to Develop Empathy

Our ability to be empathic to others is not fixed; it can be developed.

Making changes, often small ones, in our daily lives can significantly impact our ability to empathize with individuals and groups (Miller, 2019).

We should encourage ourselves and our clients to experience the lives of others by learning to:

1. Cultivate curiosity

Develop an insatiable curiosity about the particulars of those you meet (Eyal, Steffel, & Epley, 2018; Krznaric, 2012):

Spend time with people you know less well, and ask them about themselves, how they are, and what their life is like.

Follow people from many different backgrounds - religious, ethnic, political - on social media and listen to what they have to say.

Be present with people when you talk to them. Recognize the subjects that make them passionate, happy, or sad.

Visit new places, meeting local people while immersing yourself in their way of life.

2. Step out of your comfort zone

Learn something new or travel, and see how it feels to be out of your comfort zone:

Experience what it is like to be unable to do something or not know how to interact with where you are.

Reach out for support.

Accept how helpless you may feel at times, and let it humble you.

Humility can be a useful path to empathy.

3. Receive feedback

Ask for feedback from friends, family, and colleagues regarding your active listening and relationships skills:

How could you improve?

What opportunities did you miss?

4. Examine your biases

We all have biases, and they impact our capacity for empathy. Often without knowing, we judge others on the way they look and how they live (Miller, 2019):

Find opportunities to mix with people from other backgrounds.

Talk to people about the important things in their lives.

While recognizing the similarities we share, be interested, without judgment, in the differences.

Donate to charities that provide support to other communities.

5. Walk in the shoes of others

Understand what it is like for people in other situations. How do they live, work, and share?

Spend time with others, and understand their worries. What gives them happiness? What are their dreams?

Build relationships with people you see but don't usually connect with.

6. Difficult, respectful conversations

While it can be hard to challenge or be challenged by alternative points of view, a few simple lessons can help (Miller, 2019):

Listen and don't interrupt.

Be open to new and different ideas.

Apologize if you have hurt someone's feelings by what you have said.

Research the issue. Understand where a point of view has come from and how it affects the people involved.

7. Join a shared cause

Research has shown that working together on community projects can help heal differences and divisions and remove biases (Halpern & Weinstein, 2004):

Find a community project, locally or in another country.

Join others who have been through similar life experiences.

Join a group from different backgrounds and help out at school, political, or church events.

8. Read widely

Reading fiction, nonfiction, newspapers, journals, and online content that captures people's lives from different backgrounds increases our emotional intelligence and our capacity to empathize (Kidd & Castano, 2013):

Find writers with unique stories to tell.

Enter the lives of their characters, their feelings, and thoughts.

Fostering Empathy in Students and Kids: 4 Games and Activities

Children can learn empathy in their daily lives through play, interaction with others, reading, and caregivers' behavior.

1. Teach children how to empathize

Imaginative play and reading can offer incredible opportunities for children to learn empathy (Miller, 2019):

Teach children the names of their emotions.

Ask children what emotions the characters might be feeling in their stories and imaginative play.

Let children see your concern for others' wellbeing.

Read stories to them with characters from different backgrounds, and discuss why someone might feel the way they do.

2. Empathy scavenger hunts

Bring a youth group or school class together and give them a set of clues that take them to multiple locations (possibly classrooms). At each one, they will find a different teacher or leader.

Once there, give them a clue about the person they have found and instructions on how to 'interview' them.

Ask them to listen carefully, with compassion. Their goal is to understand the person's hopes and dreams, and what is important to them.

3. Identifying emotions

Write out various emotions on small pieces of paper and place them in a container in front of a group of children.

Ask a child to choose one piece of paper and either read it themselves or (if too young) read it to them, without the rest of the group hearing.

Ask the child to make a face or perform an action to enact the emotion to the rest of the group.

Ask the group to watch and guess the emotion. If correct, ask them why they choose that emotion.

4. Feeling collage

This art-based activity works well with any age group. The messier, the better for younger children.

Ask children to cut out faces from newspapers and magazines and stick them on to a large piece of paper or lay them on the floor.

Ask them to think about what the displayed emotion might be and place pictures in groups.

Discuss each picture with the broader group.

When moving from empathy to compassion, consider compassion for yourself as well.

Dr. Kristin Neff is a world-renowned expert on self-compassion, and suggests that self-compassion has three essential components (Neff, 2003):

1. Self-Kindness vs. Self-Judgment:

Self-kindness refers to the tendency to be caring and understanding of the self instead of critical. Rather than attacking and criticizing the self for personal shortcomings, warmth and unconditional acceptance are offered.

2. Common Humanity vs. Isolation:

Common humanity involves recognizing that humans are imperfect; all people fail, make mistakes, and have serious life challenges. It is the recognition that we all go through these adversities at times, rather than something that happens to "me" alone.

3. Mindfulness vs. Over-Identification:

Mindfulness involves being aware of one's painful experiences in a way that neither ignores nor amplifies painful thoughts and emotions. Awareness of-without over-identifying with-personal sufferings is necessary to extend compassion toward the self.

4 Helpful Activities and Exercises

Try out these exercises to help develop and improve empathy.

Mindfulness and empathy

One of the many strengths of mindfulness is its ability to " shift perspective from our personal subjectivity to impersonal objectivity " (Shapiro, 2020). This move away from an egocentric perspective allows us to experience another's feelings.

Try out the following worksheets:

Role-play

Role-play can offer a safe, comfortable way for people to tackle difficult issues and practice putting themselves in others' shoes.

Try out the following worksheet:

Random acts of kindness

Notice when others perform a kind act for you and expect nothing in return. It could be as simple as keeping a door open for you while you are running to get out of the rain or helping you lift a heavy load to the trunk of your car.

As you go through your day and opportunities arise, see what simple acts you can perform to benefit someone else, perhaps without them knowing.

At the end of each day, consider the acts of kindness you have received and how you have improved other people's day.

24 Questions and Statements to Use With Your Clients

Empathic listening is vital to developing relationships.

When successful, it forms a deeper connection with the client, friend, family member, or colleague both emotionally and intellectually.

To listen well, you must learn to be patient and not interrupt, even if you disagree with what is being said.

Empathic questions can be helpful but should not dominate sessions.

Try out a few of the following, tailoring as appropriate:

1. When has your personal bias led to a wrong choice?

2. What decisions make you feel uncomfortable?

3. When have your instincts let you down?

4. How do you balance looking after yourself and the needs of others?

5. How do you comfort others?

6. What about an experience makes it meaningful?

7. When were you most challenged to be your best self?

8. Does your curiosity ever create difficulty?

9. Do you use silence during your conversations? If so, when?

10. What should others understand about you?

11. How do you deal with negative emotions?

12. When are you most present?

Empathetic statements and responses can show that you understand your client's feelings:

1. I am sorry that this happened to you.

2. That would upset me too.

3. I want to thank you for being so open and honest with me.

4. This sort of challenge is never easy.

5. It is clear that this has impacted you deeply.

6. What else would you like to share?

7. It sounds like you had a very stressful time.

8. Yes, what has happened makes no sense at all.

9. I am on your side.

10. It's no surprise you are upset.

11. That sounds frightening.

12. You are making complete sense.

7 Worksheets and Tools

Concepts, feelings, and emotions can often become clearer by working through real or imagined situations.

Try out the following worksheets with clients as a way to develop their empathic skills:

Also, the following two tools provide support for teaching children and adults about empathy:

The next two worksheets help grow listening skills that foster empathy in communication:

17 Exercises To Develop Emotional Intelligence

These 17 Emotional Intelligence Exercises [PDF] will help others strengthen their relationships, lower stress, and enhance their wellbeing through improved EQ.
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PositivePsychology.com's Resources

If you're looking for more tools to help your clients improve their empathy and strengthen their relationships, be sure to check out three of our hand-picked exercises from the Positive Psychology Toolkit©, which you can download for free in our Positive Relationships Exercises Pack.

To develop empathy in children, the first stop would be to develop emotional intelligence, and our article Is Emotional Intelligence Relevant for Kids? provides guidance on exactly that.

For more science-based ways to help others develop emotional intelligence, this collection contains 17 validated EI tools for practitioners. Use them to help others understand and use their emotions to their advantage.

A Take-Home Message

While a large part of who we are is defined by our genetic make-up, our childhood and the life we lead as an adult can change many aspects of how we behave and the way we respond to our environment.

If we are to solve problems at an individual level and gain a greater understanding of the issues humanity faces, we must develop compassion and empathy to make decisions that meet the needs of everyone, not just ourselves.

After all, we are all humans, sharing both a time and a location, with a psychological need to connect. Building empathy allows us to form an authentic, deep relationship with the people we meet and society at large, making decisions that solve our problems and those of others.

Try out some of the worksheets with your clients to help them implement empathy-building strategies daily and develop the empathy needed for stronger relationships, while avoiding disagreements that arise from not being able to see another's point of view.

We hope you enjoyed reading this article. Don't forget to download our three Emotional Intelligence Exercises for free.

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Feldman, R. (2007). Mother-infant synchrony and the development of moral orientation in childhood and adolescence: Direct and indirect mechanisms of developmental continuity. American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 77, 582-597.

Geiger, J. M., Piel, M. H., Lietz, C. A., & Julien-Chinn, F. J. (2016). Empathy as an essential foundation to successful foster parenting. Journal of Child and Family Studies, 25(12), 3771-3779.

Goleman, D. (2006). Emotional intelligence. New York: Bantam Books.

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Plopa, M., Kaźmierczak, M., & Karasiewicz, K. (2016). The quality of parental relationships and dispositional empathy as predictors of satisfaction during the transition to marriage. Journal of Family Studies, 25(2), 170-183.

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Here is a short video that uses the concept of offering someone tea to discuss consent when it comes to sex. Please watch the video first before sharing with your class. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fGoWLWS4-kU

If you have more time available, this EdPuzzle has the tea video embedded and expands on the discussion. If you aren't familiar with EdPuzzle, it stops the video and asks questions that students can answer and are recorded for review by the teacher.

If this video is too mature for your audience, you can use this version meant for kids: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h3nhM9UlJjc