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That it is their fault for not knowing more

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That it is their fault for not knowing more

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Afraid to express doubts or ask for help

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My mentors helped me greatly. They shaped me into the person that I am by helping me feel heard and accepted. Showing empathy when others did not. Empathy is one of the most important things that is unfortunately severely lacking in the modern world. Some of my favorite mentoring relationsips have come from mutual understanding and empathy.

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I think they feel overwhelmed - out of their depth. They definitely need some guidance to navigate their new environment.

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I think they feel overwhelmed - out of their depth. They definitely need some guidance to navigate their new environment.

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by being more direct and initiating conversations that I didn't know needed to be had

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by being more direct and initiating conversations that I didn't know needed to be had

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Ask me what types of support I wanted

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Not sure they have the maturity to self-mentor

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Not sure they have the maturity to self-mentor

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Proactively and repeatedly normalizing the failure that comes with doing hard new things and the feelings that come up around failure

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Taking me under his/her wing, showing me the ropes, and helping me discern non-explicit expectations.

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Assisted with connecting to others

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Being vulnerable by telling me about their own struggles when they were in my shoes

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Not sure. Maybe I mentored myself by advising to not quit, do my best, and see what happens

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Not sure. Maybe I mentored myself by advising to not quit, do my best, and see what happens

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Letting me know it was common and OK to feel lost and underprepared

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Letting me know it was common and OK to feel lost and underprepared

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Explaining norms and describing next steps

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Helped navigate new expectations, resources, and norms.

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Being open to discussing life and not just “professional” topics.

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Introducing me to others, facilitating events amongst new grad students or faculty

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Introducing me to others, facilitating events amongst new grad students or faculty

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Being more clear about what they are willing to do to support me, and where I need to go to other people for support.

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Being more clear about what they are willing to do to support me, and where I need to go to other people for support.

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I adopted a "fake it til you make it" approach, and it worked out 😄

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I’ve always had to seek out my own mentors and have had to figure out who I can rely on by trial and error, is there a better way to establish mentoring relationships?

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Needing to establish myself as a valued member of the department. Like, showing I belonged there. It is still a challange for me mentally, especially with certain individuals.

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I didn't realize at the time that I was afraid, and simply "blindly" pushed through; probably ignoring many aspects that would have been better to consider.

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In regards to my first few weeks as a grad student

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In regards to my first few weeks as a grad student

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I was a successful undergrad student, and underestimated how different grad school would be. I was almost immediately behind in my classes, and was also teaching for the first time. Often I would go to my “mentor” and they would say “just do whatever you think is best, everyone teaches slightly differently, you do you.” But I had no idea what to do!

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Being unsure of how safe it was to share my experience and feelings

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Being unsure of how safe it was to share my experience and feelings

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Navigating institutional culture. I wanted to do things the "right" way. I wanted to be accepted.

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Understanding the meaning behind project 

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Understanding the meaning behind project 

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Soon, I felt overwhelmed, underprepared, and stupid

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Soon, I felt overwhelmed, underprepared, and stupid

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I didn't see others struggling in the ways I was struggling, which made it feel like I was alone.

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Navigating new, implicit, expectations

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adjusting to a new environment with new norms and expectations

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adjusting to a new environment with new norms and expectations

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Uncomfortable and alone

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Nervous but also very excited

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I felt very out of place, very unfamiliar with how things work in the mathematical community. I was also afraid that if I failed at this task, it would tell me that I didn’t belong, and if I kept trying anyway it would have to be in spite of all the “evidence” telling me otherwise. It was scary and daunting.

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Excited, anxious, and uncertain

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I felt lost, like there were hidden norms and expectations that I didn’t know about

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Excited but the excitement eventually fades

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Like I did not belong

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Confused and alone

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Nervous/excited but isolated

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Overwhelmed