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A Person Centered Approach by Carl Rogers struck me the most because I am interested to know one's thoughts and behavior to uncover who we truly are. This concept helped me understand myself better. The three ingredients: unconditional positive regard, empathy and genuineness aid me to the process of knowing one's self.

A past event that happened to me was back in grade school when I feel insignificant and bad that I did not achieve my goal to become an honor student. Now, I understand that situation does not define who I am. Regardless of having a medal or not, I am worthy of love by not proving anything but being myself and how I am striving to be who I want to be. Unconditional positive regard helped me realize I can be accepted by being true to myself.

One behavior that I possess is being kind with others. I have experienced firsthand what it felt like to be brushed off so I want to be the one to exhibit kindness. Empathy makes me understand that I am putting myself in their shoes and feel what they are feeling. I realized how my behavior associates with what I felt before and what I acquire now who makes me who I am today. This concept makes me recognize myself in a deeper sense by how I am acting to the emotions I felt from other people's contexts.

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The ABC Model really made me pause and think about my own emotions. In this model, I can understand my emotions as a process of becoming attuned who I am. The activating events, beliefs and consequence changed my perspective because it helps me to literally pause and explore my thoughts which can in turn develop more positive emotions. More importantly, I love this model because it helps me get rid of negative thoughts and feelings which will surely affect my behavior.

I remember auditioning for a role in our batch play and did not get selected because I mixed up my lines back in high school. I thought that I am not good at anything that is why I did not make it in the cast. I felt like a failure and awful about myself so I pressure myself a lot. I walked down through memory lane and recognize my thoughts do not determine my whole self. I realized that one mistake does not mean I am worthless or not good at anything.

Little did I know that I would be selected as one of the heads for wardrobe committee which is an important part of the play. Looking back I would not changed that rejection because it taught me
how to control my thoughts by purposely replacing it with a more positive thought with the help of this ABC Model.

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Socialization is a concept that is often overlooked but is a significant influence of who we are today. This particular concept helped me become more aware of who I surround myself with in connection to my development of morality and personality.

The film Frozen is one of my all-time favorite Disney movies which imparts a great lesson to all of us. This specific scene in the movie is a blast from the past experience for me. It reminds me of the time I got bullied by my supposedly friends and only then I realized the importance of true friends. The true friend who would stand by your side and love you no matter the circumstance and no matter who you are. I love how our lesson imparts a sense of quality over quantity peer groups (i.e., HIMYM and Friends) because it serves as a reality to our unfair and cruel world.

The agents of socialization make me see the terrible experience I have gone through worth it because it served as an important lesson that I should recognize the people of my surroundings and of course, to choose my friends wisely. It may have been common to hear that statement but it has a tremendous and positive impact on my way of life.

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The process of individuation is crucial development to get a clearer sense of myself by being able to embrace my own uniqueness while still maintaining meaningful relationship with other people. The term separate togetherness hit me because the juxtaposition perfectly epitomize social and personal interactions in our lives.

This lesson reminds me of the song title This is Me in the musical drama film The Greatest Showman. The scene of this song in the movie got me because I also experienced this kind of struggle accepting who I am and embracing how I look like. I remember the time that I would hate on my appearance especially because of my acne problem on my forehead and would always get conscious when someone looks at me. I would get embarrassed and disgusted by my pimples so it affected my everyday interaction plus the standards set for women.

This is why I remember the song This is Me in our lesson of individuation and identity in relationships because I fully embrace what and who I am no matter how I look solely because I am the captain of my ship with my family and peers cheering me on. This taught me the greatest lesson that I carry through my life that looks does not matter on the outside and it is what is on the inside that counts! Today, I am confident in my own skin and appearance because my attitude is one thing that matters.

PS I still have a love-hate relationship with acne but now I can bear them because I already accept my flaws which made me happy and confident.