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psychological abuse

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Is emotional abuse the same as psychological abuse?
What is emotional and psychological abuse?
What are the signs of emotional and psychological abuse?
What are some forms of emotional and psychological abuse?
What are the effects of emotional and psychological abuse?
What can I do if I am a victim of emotional and psychological abuse?
Is emotional abuse the same as psychological abuse?
There is no clear agreement among experts in the field whether there is a meaningful difference between emotional and psychological abuse. There is some research that suggests that there are slight differences between the two. Emotional abuse is believed to be broader and so psychological abuse is often considered to be one form of emotional abuse. Also, psychological abuse involves the use of verbal and social tactics to control someone's way of thinking, such as "gaslighting," which is not necessarily the same as other forms of emotional abuse.

However, for the purposes of the following questions, WomensLaw will group the terms together since the behaviors described by both concepts are similar enough that there isn't a real difference when considering legal remedies for victims of these behaviors.

What is emotional and psychological abuse?
Abuse comes in many different forms. Even when there is no physical violence, abusive language can be very damaging to you and your children. Emotional and psychological abuse are include mostly non-physical behaviors that the abuser uses to control, isolate, or frighten you. Often, the abuser uses it to break down your self-esteem and self-worth in order to create a psychological dependency on him/her. Emotional and psychological abuse are hard forms of abuse to recognize because the abuse is spread throughout your everyday interactions. Unlike physical abuse, there are often no isolated incidents or clear physical evidence to reference. ¹

¹ See The National Domestic Violence Hotline, What is Emotional Abuse page

What are the signs of emotional and psychological abuse?
Emotional and psychological abuse may begin suddenly or it may slowly start to enter into your relationship. Some abusers behave like a good partner in the beginning and start the abuse after the relationship is established. When this shift in behavior occurs, it can leave you feeling shocked, confused, and even embarrassed. However, abuse is never your fault even if the abuser tells you it is or if your family members or friends blame you for "allowing" the abuse. It is often difficult to decide whether or not certain behaviors are emotionally or psychologically abusive, especially if you grew up witnessing abuse. However, as with all other types of domestic violence, the behavior is intended to gain and keep power and control over you. Some signs that a partner is being emotionally and psychologically abusive include:

humiliating you in front of others;

calling you insulting names, such as "stupid," "disgusting," or "worthless";

getting angry in a way that is frightening to you;

threatening to hurt you, people you care about, or pets;

the abuser threatening to harm him/herself when upset with you;

saying things like, "If I can't have you, then no one can;"

deciding things for you that you should decide, like what you wear or eat;

acting jealous, including constantly accusing you of cheating;

continually pretending to not to understand what you are saying, making you feel stupid, or refusing to listen to your thoughts and opinions;

questioning your memory of events or denying that an event happened the way you said it did, even when the abuser knows that you are right;

changing the subject whenever you try to start conversations with the abuser and others and questioning your thoughts in a way that makes you feel unworthy; and

making your needs or feelings seem unimportant or less important than those of the abuser.¹

1 See U.S. Dept. of Health & Human Services, Office on Women's Health, Emotional and Verbal Abuse page

What are some forms of emotional and psychological abuse?
Emotional and psychological abuse can involve behaviors or acts towards you or towards others. Below, we discuss both.

Acts towards others:
Abuse of pets
Pets are commonly viewed as family members and treasured companions. The abuser may use the emotional and psychological connection you have with your pets to gain power and control over you by harming or threatening to harm your pet in any of the following ways:

harming your pet to get back at you for actions that you may have taken that show self-determination or independence;

harming your pet as "punishment" for something that you or your children did;

threatening or harming your pet in an attempt to force (coerce) you into doing something; or

forcing you or your children to harm or kill your pet or to watch the abuser do it.¹

Threats to self-harm
When your partner regularly threatens self-harm when you don't do what the abuser wants you to do or when you decide to leave the relationship, this is a form of emotional and psychological abuse. The abuser is using your love for him/her to manipulate and control you. When your partner makes these threats, steps you can take to protect yourself include:

telling your partner you care about him/her, but sticking to your boundaries - in other words, not necessarily doing whatever the abuser tells you is necessary to do to "prevent" self-harm;

not taking responsibility for the abuser's actions if the abuser does decide to self-harm; and

remembering that it is not your responsibility to "make" the abuser not self-harm. For example, the abuser may say, "If you really loved me, you'd stop me from killing myself" but this is part of the manipulation that often comes with emotional abuse.²

Acts towards you:
Isolation
In an emotionally and psychologically abusive relationship, the abuser will do many things in an attempt to cut all of the emotional ties you have with other people so that the only one left is the one to the abuser. Some signs of this type of isolation include:

preventing or discouraging you from seeing family or friends and making you feel guilty when you do;

wanting to know what you're doing all the time and making you be in constant contact;

restricting access to transportation so you can't leave the home;

acting jealous of time spent with your family or friends, often to the point where you will "choose" not to see them anymore so you don't have to put up with the abuser's jealousy; and

wanting you to ask for permission before doing something or spending time with other people.³

Gaslighting
Gaslighting is a form of emotional and psychological abuse that tends to happen gradually in a relationship. The term "gaslighting" is used to describe a pattern of behavior in which the abuser intentionally denies that acts or events happened in the way that you know that they happened. An abuser will often twist your emotions, words, and experiences and use them against you, which causes you to question your reality, to doubt your own judgment and memory, and to make you feel that you are "going crazy." Signs that you are experiencing gaslighting include:

feeling confused, "crazy," and constantly second-guessing yourself;

constantly questioning if you are being "too sensitive";

having trouble making simple decisions;

constantly apologizing to your partner;

frequently making excuses for your partner's behavior;

finding yourself withholding information from loved ones;

starting to lie to avoid the put-downs or reality twists;

feeling as though you can't do anything right; and

wondering if you are a "good enough" partner.⁴

Ultimately, these behaviors are meant to control, isolate, or frighten you, and while they do not leave physical scars, they can leave long-lasting trauma. ⁵

1 This information was adapted from Pets and Domestic Violence
² See The National Domestic Violence Hotline, When Your Partner Threatens Suicide page
³ See The National Domestic Violence Hotline, What is Emotional Abuse page
⁴ See The National Domestic Violence Hotline, What is Gaslighting page
⁵ See U.S. Dept. of Health & Human Services, Office on Women's Health, Emotional and Verbal Abuse page

What are the effects of emotional and psychological abuse?
Emotional and psychological abuse can have severe short- and long-term effects. This type of abuse can affect both your physical and your mental health. You may experience feelings of confusion, anxiety, shame, guilt, frequent crying, over-compliance, powerlessness, and more. You may stay in the relationship and try to bargain with the abuser or try to change the abuser's behavior, often placing blame on yourself, even though you are not at fault.

If you're dealing with severe and ongoing emotional abuse, it's possible to lose your entire sense of self and begin to doubt your self-worth or your abilities, which may make it even harder to leave the relationship. Long-term emotional abuse can also result in several health problems, including depression, anxiety, substance abuse, chronic pain, and more. ¹ It's important to get emotional support to help you deal with the trauma of emotional and psychological abuse - see What can I do if I am a victim of emotional and psychological for more information.

¹ This information was adapted from U.S. Dept. of Health & Human Services, Office on Women's Health, Emotional and Verbal Abuse page and Effects of Violence Against Women page.

What can I do if I am a victim of emotional and psychological abuse?
If you are the victim of emotional and psychological abuse, you may be hesitant to seek help or tell your friends and family because you fear they will not believe you or take you seriously. You may feel shame or confusion as to what is happening. However, seeking help and support is essential to ending an emotionally or psychologically abusive relationship. The effects of these types of abuse are serious and it is common for emotional and psychological abuse to escalate to physical violence. You can go to our National Organizations - Emotional Abuse section for national resources or talk to an advocate or counselor at your local domestic violence organization, listed on our Advocates and Shelters page. Local domestic violence programs often offer free counseling, support groups, and the advocates in these organizations could point you to other local help and support options.

In addition, depending on how domestic violence is defined in your state, the abuser's behavior can fall under certain crimes or you may qualify for a restraining order. A few states specifically allow someone to get a restraining order based on "coercive control," which is a form of emotional and psychological abuse. Even in states where emotional abuse is not considered as a reason for a restraining order, it's possible that certain emotionally abusive acts may, in fact, qualify you for an order. For example, if an abuser threatens you or continually texts or calls you repeatedly without reason to do so, this could be considered enough to grant an order. In our Restraining Orders page, you can chose your state from the drop-down menu and look for the question where we include the legal definition of domestic violence for the purposes of getting a restraining order. Some states also recognize emotionally abusive acts as crimes, such as threats or public disturbances, for example. You can go to our Crimes page to read through the list of common crimes committed by abusers to see if any match up with the abuser's actions.

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Is emotional abuse the same as psychological abuse? What is emotional and psychological abuse? What are the signs of emotional and psychological abuse? What are some forms of emotional and psychological abuse? What are the effects of emotional and psychological abuse? What can I do if I am a victim of emotional and psychological abuse?

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Domestic violence is a huge problem worldwide which also contributes to long-term effects on the victims and their well-being. Causing physical, mental, and financial abuse to victims.

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physical abuse

are law enforcement going to step up?

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financial abuse

main targets are women

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\a. Give your proposed solution: This can be in first person.

b. Restate Thesis:

-Domestic violence has been around from the beginning of time, with wife beatings only becoming illegal in the United States in 1920 (wiki), but we still have a long way to go.

-There are many Advocates and Organizations around the country that help battered women and men...

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a. Transitional Topic Sentence: Lastly, financial abuse is when one partner attempts to control, manipulate, or intimidate the other through money.

b. Claim: Now with the evolution of technology abusers can now install software on victim's laptops and devices to see if the victim is trying to seek help, or to open their own accounts. Some perpetrators may go as far as installing hidden cameras to monitor their spouse's daily activities.

c. Evidence (Quote): "If you're living in a $5 million home, driving a luxury car and your kids are in private schools, many people will find it very difficult to believe that your spouse is financially abusive," says Laurie Lile, who helps affluent survivors at the Shelter for Abused Women and Children in Naples, Fla."

d. Explanation: Women who live a luxurious life might find it difficult to come forward because people might not believe she's going through financial abuse. But in reality, she might feel isolated and that there is no way out.

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a. Transitional Topic Sentence: Another form of domestic violence that is not easily detected by friends and family is emotional abuse.

b. Claim: ( list different types of abuse) The abuser regularly threatens self-harm when the victim doesn’t do what the abuser wants them to do or when the victim decides to leave the relationship, this is a form of emotional and psychological abuse. This is a tactic they might use to try and manipulate and control them. Another strategy the abuser might use is gaslighting. Gaslighting is a behavior the perpetrator often uses when trying to twist their words and emotions, which often has one questioning their reality.

c. Evidence (Quote): " An abuser will often twist emotions, your words, and experiences and use them against you, which causes you to question your reality, to doubt your judgment and memory, and to make you feel that you are “going crazy.' "

d. Explanation: Facing these abusive patterns over and over can cause short-term and long-term effects. Emotional abuse can cause anxiety and confusion. The victim often wants to stay with the abuser in an attempt to try and change the abuser's behavior. Long-term abuse can affect a person's overall well-being, resulting in severe depression and anxiety.

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a. Transitional Topic Sentence: One of the most common or well-known forms of domestic abuse is physical abuse which can include punching, choking, slapping, and even biting.

b. Claim: Women are five times more likely to suffer at the hands of a loved one. For example, A 39-year-old North Carolina woman was evicted from her apartment because she was "too loud" after her ex-boyfriend shot her and she jumped out from her apartment's second-story balcony to escape his attack.

c. Evidence (Quote): "They are women like Yvette Cade, 31, from Clinton, Md., who was doused with gasoline and set on fire by her estranged husband."

d. Explanation: Many women have tried to even to come forward. But police often responded to domestic violence calls by telling the battered, typically a man, to walk around the block to cool off. As well as doctors and healthcare providers rarely screen their patients for domestic violence.

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Domestic Violence is something that often gets pushed to the side by law enforcement. With even 1/4 of women will experience domestic/ dating violence in their lifetime.

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1) the treatment of refugees in America

2) domestic violence

3) racism

4) oppressive governments

5) misogyny

6) the economic gap between the rich and the poor

7) the Vietnam War’s effect on refugees

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Domestic violence is a violent act or other abuse that occurs in a domestic setting, such as in a marriage or cohabitation. Studies show that during the COVID-19 pandemic, domestic violence increased while people were forced to quarantine with their abusers. Over the years it has become known that boys who witness domestic violence are 2 times as likely to abuse their own partners. Also, some children, when they become adults, tend to continue this violent cycle. There are different types of abuse including physical, mental, and financial. Because it's not always physical, it can be hard for a person to detect or even realize they are in a dangerous relationship.