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Article about why being athletic is important and how it helps build good personality.

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Benefits of Being A High School Athlete - In Like Me

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Finally, in addition to the already great benefits listed above, when college admission counselors and college coaches see a high school student who has performed well both academically and athletically, they see a well-rounded student athlete who will be a welcome student in higher education.

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I found an article about why having a high personality in the agreeableness

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The sixth tool of civility is "Be Agreeable." By definition agreeable means ready or willing to agree, willing to do or allow something.

I think the key word for agreeability to be a tool of civility is READY. Our attitude and mindset is that our approach for every communication that we have with another person is that our manner will be agreeable to that person. We will be pleasant, amiable, likeable, sympathetic, warm, considerate, kind and gracious. In our readiness we are listening to where we do agree, acknowledging that agreement and where we may cooperate and be harmonious.

In order to have this readiness I think it is helpful to look at the Five Factor Model that was initially developed in 1961 but not really accepted until the 1980s. Agreement is one of the five personality traits that are used to describe human personality. Awareness of all five traits can help us to prepare our approach to being agreeable.

* The first trait is openness to experience, which means one is inventive and curious. One has an appreciation for and an interest in a whole range of things - art, beauty, science, people's feelings, etc. Variety is a preference. One wants to try new things. Also one is open to emotions.

* The next trait is conscientiousness with one being efficient and organized. One is dependable. One shows self-discipline by controlling, regulating and directing their impulses. One prefers planned behavior.

* Extroversion is the third trait or outgoing and energetic. One not only is engaged with the external world, but enjoys interacting with people. One has a wide range of activities. Of course one is talkative.

* The fourth trait is our agreeableness. Here the tendency is to be friendly, compassionate and cooperative with others rather than antagonistic and suspicious. One has a both a trusting and helpful nature. Finally, one has an optimistic view of human nature.

* The last trait is neuroticism and one is sensitive and nervous. One feels the negative emotions easily which makes one vulnerable to stress. One sees normal situations as threatening, is pessimistic, and often in a bad mood. This mind set can affect clear thinking and decision making. Obviously one who is low on the neuroticism scale would be less likely to get upset easily and less emotionally reactive. One could stay calm, be emotionally stable and have few negative feelings.

These traits of being open, conscientious, extroverted and less neurotic can help us to be more agreeable in our communication with others. We can be open to their points of view. We can be patient and see the benefits of hearing another's ideas. We can find new excitement in trying new things. Finally we are not frightened by someone else's thoughts.

Still, we need to be true to ourselves. We have come to a conversation "ready" to find agreement where we can. We listen by letting the person finish their thought and consider its meaning.

Next we take into consideration what our thoughts have been on the subject. We may be able to find some areas of agreement. By definition ready means to be prepared, which is not synonymous with agree.

We are going to disagree with others, and we do need to speak up. Probably there are a good number of issues, concerns, likes, activities that are passionate for the person speaking, but are of little importance to you. In those instances you can listen attentively and thank the person for sharing.

Other times you are affected or passionate about the subject. After you have listened, you share your views respectfully without demeaning the person or their ideas. It may be possible to find some consensus, or you can both respect that each of you have a different view.

This is a monthly column from the Door County Civility Project, which seeks to promote a more civil public dialogue. For more information about the project, visit doorcountycivilityproject.org.

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The sixth tool of civility is "Be Agreeable." By definition agreeable means ready or willing to agree, willing to do or allow something. I think the key word for agreeability to be a tool of civility is READY.

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How would the Big 5 describe my personality

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How would the Big 5 describe my personality

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The big 5 personality theory would say that I am very high in the agreeableness category. This is because I am very tolerant and kind to each and everyone. I have learned to be nice and kind and supportive to everyone because nobody deserves to live in an awful state. They would also say that I am very open to new ideas and up for any challenge. Also, being not the highest in the extraversion category would explain my shy-ness and not very talkative to people who I am not close with.

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How would the psychodynamic theory explain my personality?

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How would the psychodynamic theory explain my personality?

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The Psychodynamic Theory would describe my personality in the now and not from my unconscious. I do not have BIG memories that would have changed me if I had remembered them. However having a older sibling, I acted like him because he was who I looked up too so when talking about the Id, Ego, and Superego I have a very High superego because my brother always does the right thing so therefor I do the right and moral thing because growing up I acted like he did.

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How would Humanistic theory explain my personality?

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How would Humanistic theory explain my personality?

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The Humanistic Theory on the Hierarchy of needs would say that I am most suitable on the esteem level because I am not yet old enough to experience the Self Actualization stage because I have not reached my full potential in my life. I still have big dreams and things to accomplish. They would say that I am on the Esteem level because I have based my personality on how people think of me. I believe that people think good of me, so it's easy for me to have a high esteem of my self. Also, on the Ideal vs Real Self the Humanistic Theory. The theory would explain my personality to be goal driven and focused because I have high hopes and big dreams that I want to accomplish.

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This song reminds me about myself, I am always humble and kind.

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Tim McGraw - Humble And Kind (Official Music Video)

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Neuroticism: Being anxious, irritable, temperamental, and moody. Although I can get very anxious about things, a lot of people can too. I would say I am average in the Neuroticism part I can also be moody when having a bad day at school.

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Agreeableness: Being affable, tolerant, sensitive, trusting, kind, and warm. This Big 5 trait is definitely my strongest, I can tolerate people and things very well because I just learn to live with things. Also, I am definitely very kind and warm to others, I know how to lighten people up and I have learned to be nice to everyone because you don't know what they are going through.

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Extraversion: Being outgoing, talkative, sociable, and enjoying social situations. This is not closely related to me because I am not that outgoing with people who I don't know. I am only outgoing when I am with my friends.

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Conscientiousness: Being organized, systematic, punctual, achievement orientated, and dependable. This Big 5 trait only relates to me during school. For example, at home I have a very messy room and I don't care about it. However, at school and on my laptop I am very organized. I make sure that everything is easy to find for finals.

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The Superego is doing the right or moral thing. When I am in class and overhear someone not saying the right thing to someone I stand up and say "thats not right" and they usually stop and understand that it wasn't right.

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The Ego is a defense mechanism to ease anxiety of guilt. I go out with friends a lot and my mom gives me money for food but sometimes I want to spend the rest of it on clothes or something unneeded but I don't because it is my moms money and I know that she will get upset with me.

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Rationalization: Offering self-justifying explanations in place of the actual reason for the behavior. When my parents get mad at me for something I did I find a way to blame it on them and not myself. This also relates to my personality trait of stubborn because I won't accept the fact that It was my fault.

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Sublimation: Redirecting an unacceptable feeling in an acceptable way. When I am in a bad mood I run on my treadmill downstairs to help me rethink things and realize that I shouldn't be in a bad mood. This related to my personality trait of being athletic because, running or playing outside is something I ALWAYS do to get things off my mind.

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Displacement: Redirecting (usually) negative feelings from one source to another. When a teacher does something that I don't like, I can't take it out on them because they are my teacher. So, instead I usually accidentally take it out my family. This relates to my personality trait of Stubborn because I shouldn't hurt my parents for something that they didn't do.

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Love and belonging is the family, friends, trust, and acceptance. This is the second need level that motivates my happy behavior because my family and friends make me very happy to be around which inspires me to have a happy and joyful personality.

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The Id is the pleasure-seeking action without thinking of consequences. My Id behavior is buying things without thinking of the outcome. I buy a lot of things that are unnecessary and that will be useless in the future. Therefore, I don't think through with it.

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Reaction Formation: Acting opposite than you really feel. For example, when something is bothering me and someone asks if something is wrong I say "No I'm fine". I say the opposite of how I feel because I don't want people to have to deal with my problems because it is not their problem, this relates to my personality trait of kindhearted because I don't want to hurt anyone.

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Openness: Being curious, original, intellectual, creative, and open to new ideas. The openness applies to me because I believe that I am very smart and creative. I do very well in my strong classes and I am very creative with some of my work.

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Your self-esteem is either based on what others say about you or what you say about yourself. Esteem is the need level that most describes my behavior because people are very positive to me and that makes me happy and gives me a joyful personality.

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Your Real Self is the person you really are and your Ideal Self is the type of person you want to be. My Real self is a High School student that works hard to achieve good grades. My Ideal self Is going to the college that has the best Marketing program, getting a job in Product Marketing and hopefully having a family when I'm financially stable.