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1. One of my strategies is to hold back when I know my actions and/or words will not help the situation.
-The suggestion for this is to count to ten. The book refrences your kindergarten teacher. This made me laugh as I was a kindergarten teacher for 18 years! But, it's completely right. The count to ten method is something that is taught to us in our first year of schooling.
-I've been trying to hold back thoughts and keep them to myself if they aren't going to be helpful in the situation. I don't necessarily count to ten, but more have a short conversation in my head about only saying what is needed.
- Other strategies that i've applied would be to sleep on it. Waiting a longer period of time before coming back around to the conversation and sharing input.

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Boats and boating--Equipment and supplies

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I’ve been working on listening, specifically listening to learn instead of listening to contribute. I’ve been reluctant to post because it seems incongruent with my goal to “shut up and listen.” I won’t burden you with my answers, but I thought it might be useful if I shared the rabbit-hole questions I’ve been asking myself.

Is there a difference between listening to learn and lurking?

Is there always an expectation of contribution?

There seems to be a tension between listening to learn and contributing, is this true?

If so, how do I strike the appropriate balance?

When can listening be enough… no further need to contribute?

Is it selfish to listen to learn without being willing to contribute?

How does this fit with the idea that “leaders go first?”

Contributing value concisely takes work – am I too lazy to put in the work?

Does anything need to be said?

How should it be said?

When should it be said?

Am I the right person to say it?

Would a question be more appropriate?

How can I learn to contribute powerful, thought-provoking, discussion-spurring, paradigm-busting, questions?

I have blind spots – everybody does… which leads me to two more questions; one for me, and one for you.

Am I oblivious to who I am?

What am I missing, anyone have answers? More questions are welcome too!

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I created a desktop background that I have on my second screen to remind me of my Self-Management goals: 

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Put a mental recharge into my schedule.
Sleep on it.
Create an emotion v.s reasoning list.

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1. I am working on Self-Awareness Strategy #2 Observe the Ripple Effect from Your Emotions.
2. It has been interesting to see how my emotions and mood impacts others around me - especially my children. If I am stressed, it often comes across as anger and that is exactly how my 6 year old interprets it. I think becoming aware of the ripple effect has made it a bit easier to recognize how my mood effects the conversations I have with people.
3. It is still a challenge to curb my mood before it is too late. For example, my husband drove my car yesterday and the way he parked it and moved my seat caused me a bit of grief this morning, which put me in a bad mood. When I got to the office, my co-workers could feel that I was in a bad mood and our work environment was a lot quieter than normal. It took most of the work day to get out of the funk.

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1.  The strategy I am working on is Take Control of Your Self-Talk.
2.  Recently I have started a new role in my department and it is an entirely new direction from the position I was in previously.  I am very hard on myself as I learn new processes, and get down on myself when my retention isn't what I feel it should be.  Thankfully I have a great supervisor that is beyond patient with me, and builds me up when I get down on myself.  I'm learning to be positive to myself even if I have to fake it.  Watching what I say to myself when I make a mistake, or forget a process is essential for my confidence and self-esteem.  I have sticky notes on my computer screen to remind me of my capabilities, and the strengths I bring to our team.
3. The challenge I still face is when something new comes along, and the learning process begins again. I draw from how far I've come, and the encouragement from my co-workers.

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Jean Ann Fischer. Strategy?What's going well?challenge?

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Jean Ann Fischer. Strategy?What's going well?challenge?

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Strategies -Increasing recognition of others; Explaining decisions.
Well - using small ways of recognition that are sincere has been positively received.
challenge - explaining decisions is tough in the meetings where there is a lot on the agenda and there are not guaranteed 'time slots'...I've trained myself to give brief bullet points otherwise, I won't have time to present the information ...so, this is going to take some additional practice, research on effectively managing this with different circles of work-life.

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1. My strategy has been to get to know myself under stress. In the past it was easy for me to just to abandon the situation/task because I could. But now in the professional world I can't do that I have to find ways to work around the problem.
2. I chose this strategy because I get stressed very easily and most of the time its something I should be able to work my way around and find the solution. I need to keep in mind that a I am a hard worker and can do anything I set my mind too. My other low was Self-Managment and a strategy there is Stay Synchronized. I like this one because I go and workout everyday after work and it allows me to have alone time to work on my mind and body and to destress.
3. The challenge I am facing right now is my living situation is not the best. I just have one roommate that has very low social-awareness and causes a lot of stress in my life. I did work through the problem and found a single apartment, so thats good!

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1. My strategies are breathe right and count to 10.
2. I choose two of them because I felt like they went hand in hand for me. When I feel myself getting angry I need to stop myself from a quick reaction and take a few deep breaths. This allows me to think through the situation better. I've been using these strategies more at home with my kids than I have needed to at work and it's been great. We definitely have better day at home when I am more regulated.
3. I still have that huge urge to react quickly. Sometimes I slip and let it all spill out and then I regret it. I'm very much someone who needs to have some sort of release and taking a breath doesn't always do it for me.

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1. One of the strategies that I have been working on is the Keeping a Journal about my emotions - Self-Awareness #7
2. I may still have moments where I don't handle a situation correctly or I have a moment where I blurt out something that wasn't correct, but I have been able to notice those instances easier and have been able to do some reflection on how that wasn't the proper way to handle the situation or the correct comment to make. Hopefully from those reflections I will be able to have less and less of these instances. Writing down exactly the emotions I have felt throughout the day has helped me to be able to acknowledge and reflect on why I have felt those.
3. The challenges I still face it the "pause" and allowing time for the self-talk and not just saying the first thing that comes to mind. So that is something I plan to continue to work on. My next goal is to find a self-management strategy to focus on for the next time we meet.

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1. My strategy has been to "sleep on it."
2. Since the training, when dealing with a conflict that requires time to step back and really think about what the problem is and what is the best way to solve it, giving myself an extra day or week to really reflect and choose how I will react has shown me how effective this practice is.
3. The challenge I still face is making that choice to step back before initially reacting! But practice makes perfect!

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My strategy has been to learn more about EQ by reading the book. I have learned a lot and love the comparisons they provide with participants who rate high in a skill compared to those who are not high in that skill. It helps provide greater understanding. Some of the scenarios help identify where i might not be as strong and similar things I do, or responses that might not be optimal to my growth in emotional intelligence.

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I'm working on asking clarifying questions and not trying to focus on my own response while people are talking. It has been a challenge in that sometimes people have a hard time trying to convey what they want to say and it's so easy to jump right in and finish their sentence for them. I have also focused on my breathing at work when clientele are being difficult. This has been easier said than done but it's something I'm striving to work towards as it does seem to help with my blood pressure.

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1. My strategy has been to hold back when I know my actions and/or words will not help the situation.
2. One thing I have been trying (suggested in the strategy) is to count to 10 when something triggers me.  While this is so simple and we have been told this numerous times, it does work!  Sometimes I have to count higher then 10 but it does give me time to think about what I should say not just what I want to blurt out.
3. What's still a challenge is not just going silent and not responding or saying anything at all. That looks like I am giving the silent treatment not just pausing to think. I still need to say something but in a less reactive way.

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1. Strategy You are Working On
2. What's going well?
3. What's still a challenge?