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would i have grown up differently, like would I have a different personality, because i feel that like my personality might have been different

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if the others are going through the same process from a ideal family to a divorced family I think there should be some presence that can be there for you and to help you

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I watched a lot of TV drama where the families were going through divorced so I thought it was a norm in real life too hence I was afraid of sharing the news with other people

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in secondary school there was this programmed organized specially for students with divorced parents where they gather them and talk about certain topics but that's about it. I wouldn't say it was much help to be honest

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Cluster: Parents couldn't really do certain things in the child life

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Cluster: Parents couldn't really do certain things in the child life

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Insight 1: Parents are unable to help the child do specific task due to the gender stereotypes (Blue)

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I had gadgets like nintendo ds , smartphones as well as laptop so I was pretty much occupied everyday with playing my DS and watching youtube on my laptop

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as time goes by I kind of got used to being alone

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I'm like the only girl in the family so initially it was kinda hard living with him because my father.... there were things like how girls need to tie hair in the morning and stuff like that that my father couldn't really do and perform

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it feels empty as usually when you come home you expect to see one of your parents at home to take care of you but in my case my everyday live was just returning to an empty room being all by myself

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when my parents divorce I was feeling pretty lonely in the room as sometimes my parents will come over to check on my since they only stayed 1 block away

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of course I wanted my parents to stay together forever but I was still young back then so that thought didn't stayed there for too long

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I didn't really felt sad as I feel that as long as my parents were happy in the end

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Nothing much really change as I was staying with my grandparents since my parents were busy and they didn't want to hire a helper

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Even when I see my step-mom I don't bother greeting her

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Whenever I visit my dad I would always hope that I don't see her

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i have been living with my grandparents ,having my other family members support. Hence i think to me, that was already perfect

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Didn't like my step-mom's side as I heard nasty things about her since I was young, like how she was always talking bad things behind other's back

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Insight 1: Having a person to talk to can help with the emotional needs (Blue)

Insight 2: Help with schoolwork and education

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Insights 1: The process of transitioning didn't really affect me (Purple)

Insights 2: Often thought and needed the father/mother role in the family (Pink)

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Ya, as if like I have something to do with the thing, because I think it was not normal

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It’s more of mentally and how would you take it mentally that you are transitioning into. I mean it’s the way you think lor, if you’re not affect about it mentally, then you won’t be affected by it

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I felt that talking to the counsellor was, it was like good la, like I can share and she don’t know me I don’t know her and I felt safe to like sort of tell her. Like at least I got some adult to tell It to you know, cause I felt that I couldn’t talk to anyone

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I would say it wasn’t very easy for me because like living with my father right, and I’m like the only girl in the family, so it’s like my brother, my father and me right, so it was kind of hard because my father…there were a lot of things, there were things like girls needs like tie hair in the morning and stuff like that, that my father didn’t really, couldn’t really perform?

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Like, if they are sad and stuff, they can comfort them, cause usually like school stuff, my mom isn’t really good at teaching, and last time it was my father that was teaching, but then got problem, cause now my father isn’t staying with us, so in school I have to ask a lot of help from my friends, to cope with my studies.

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if people know about it, they shouldn’t judge, I mean I was lucky that no one was judging me and I think if someone was like supporting me, it should be fine, it will make the journey better.

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Ya I was afraid like people will think like wah his family like messed up, then he’s probably like... something wrong with him, that’s why my parents divorced

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Er, it was kinda like a little bit sad, I just play games to get my mind off it

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Er, it didn’t really like take a tow on me, because I didn’t really had like much connection to my father compared to my mom. So, like, even though we are missing like a father figure at home, like it’s still okay, not really that much of a burden.

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Erm, at first it was like, it didn’t really like affect me that much cause like I was still like very young at the time

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I don't think it would be great as I am not comfortable with my step-mom's side of family

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it would be a wild experience, I have always thought what if I followed my dad instead of my mom

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we try to motivate each other to do better as there is normally a stereotype that broken family has no sufficient income and lots of problem at home so we try to get out of this social stigma and try to improve ourselves

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I had some classmates who were going through the same phase as me where their parents were going through a divorce too

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I am not afraid to share the news as it's getting more frequent as broken families surface, it just normally just brush under the carpet

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even though i grew up without a father, having my grandparents and mom is already more than what I could ask for

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I treat my grandparents as my own parents as they are the one who have been taking care of me since young occasionally my mom will come by too

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everything went by very fast all I knew the next moment was I was about to have a new mom, back then I was very young so I had no say I just had to go with the flow

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as well as I want to forgive my dad it is a long process to forget what happened in the past

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initially I felt that my dad was being selfish for prioritizing his interest over the needs of the family

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At first I felt confused because at the young age of 5, I don't know what is going on

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Not really drastic as I live with my grandparents so it doesn't really affect me until a few weeks that my parents were not living together

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How can we help kids/teenagers transition from an ideal family to a divorced family

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How can we help kids/teenagers transition from an ideal family to a divorced family

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Above is the issue/problem

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i thought my father is busy doing something that's why he's always not there

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1. Need emotional and academic support
2. Need more awareness on the issue (To prevent them from being judged)

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I want a listening ear to share about their story

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My father still provided me with everything. Like it never really felt like i didn't have a motherly figure in my life.

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I don’t have any problems like having food on the table or any problems

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i wanted academic support to cope with the transition

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I always think about how it would've been growing up with a mom, can tell secrets and talk about boys together

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Er, not really cause like usually they will work, and they will come back very late so they didn’t really have much time spending with me.

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i didn't want to be treated differently with the other friends

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I wish that my father would be more in my life

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friends didn't really judge them for having a broken family

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At first i was scared but after i shared with some people, i realised its kind of common in SG (having a broken family)

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Insight 1: I'm scared that being in a divorced family is not normal

Insight 2: I don't want to be treated differently compared to other normal people

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I only know when its a bit later, when i was 13 then i know what happened

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focus on their studies and school when it happened

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didn't really affected me much because of my young age

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How can we help teenagers transition from an ideal family to a divorced family?

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How can we help teenagers transition from an ideal family to a divorced family?

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Above is the issue/problem