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Dear Journal        1/14/2021 I have been reading a book called The Love and Lie of Ruhksana Ali recently. This book is telling the story about the conflicts between Ruhksana and her family. The secret, violence and misunderstanding that around them. From this book, I learned that don’t and never try to control and decide the destiny for your children. They are individuals. They have their own ideas and preference. Such as what Ruhksana’s mother did to Ruhksana. Manage the marriage for her and also think she is sick just because she was showing the difference.  One of event in this book is when Ruhksana’s mother knows she likes girl she is really mad and don’t want her see that girl again so she was introducing men to Ruhksana and try to let her like male and marriage with this men. Even though Ruhksana doesn't want to but she just ignored Ruhksana’s will. As a her mother, she was awful. She misunderstands Ruhksana and doesn't listen to her thoughts. And she even push Ruhksana to do things that she doesn’t like. Parents should be the protection of their children. Another event in this book is when Mother knows Ruhksana try to escape from this marriage she was very angry so she locked her in the room and drugged Ruhksana in the coffee, and then invited an exorcist to exorcise her because she thought Ruhksana did this because she was possessed by the devil. This is the worst thing a mother can do to her child. Don’t think your children are sick when they show their difference because everyone is different as an individual. We cannot put our will into our children because they are human, they have rights to decide what they want to be and the only thing parents can do is support them.        Also, in another chapter, Rukhsana decides to marry the man she's dating. Although their marriage was voluntary by Rukhsana. But it's all a decision made to avoid mom's control. If it wasn't for her mother's control, Rukhsana would not choose to marry a strange man, even if he was gay, for the sake of freedom. It's very painful to marry someone you don't love. The mother's desire for control led to this unhappy marriage. The mother interferes in the child's decision and destroys her life. This is connected to the theme because Mom shouldn't force Rukhsana by her own wish.                                  Overall, this book is so impressive to me. parents force their children do things they don't want and like is always seen in our daily life. Just like me. My parents always don't understand what I exactly want. They just keep give me what they think is good for me. They never consider my will. They just think that what they give me is best so I shouldn't refuse and kind of force me to take It. don’t and never try to control and decide the destiny for your children. They are individuals. They have their own ideas. As a parent. You should always support and listen to their thoughts. We all deserve respect no matter what we are and what we want to be. sincerely，                  Shiqing Wei                     

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Dear Journal        1/14/2021 I have been reading a book called The Love and Lie of Ruhksana Ali recently. This book is telling the story about the conflicts between Ruhksana and her family. The secret, violence and misunderstanding that around them. From this book, I learned that don’t and never try to control and decide the destiny for your children. They are individuals. They have their own ideas and preference. Such as what Ruhksana’s mother did to Ruhksana. Manage the marriage for her and also think she is sick just because she was showing the difference.  One of event in this book is when Ruhksana’s mother knows she likes girl she is really mad and don’t want her see that girl again so she was introducing men to Ruhksana and try to let her like male and marriage with this men. Even though Ruhksana doesn't want to but she just ignored Ruhksana’s will. As a her mother, she was awful. She misunderstands Ruhksana and doesn't listen to her thoughts. And she even push Ruhksana to do things that she doesn’t like. Parents should be the protection of their children. Another event in this book is when Mother knows Ruhksana try to escape from this marriage she was very angry so she locked her in the room and drugged Ruhksana in the coffee, and then invited an exorcist to exorcise her because she thought Ruhksana did this because she was possessed by the devil. This is the worst thing a mother can do to her child. Don’t think your children are sick when they show their difference because everyone is different as an individual. We cannot put our will into our children because they are human, they have rights to decide what they want to be and the only thing parents can do is support them.        Also, in another chapter, Rukhsana decides to marry the man she's dating. Although their marriage was voluntary by Rukhsana. But it's all a decision made to avoid mom's control. If it wasn't for her mother's control, Rukhsana would not choose to marry a strange man, even if he was gay, for the sake of freedom. It's very painful to marry someone you don't love. The mother's desire for control led to this unhappy marriage. The mother interferes in the child's decision and destroys her life. This is connected to the theme because Mom shouldn't force Rukhsana by her own wish.                                  Overall, this book is so impressive to me. parents force their children do things they don't want and like is always seen in our daily life. Just like me. My parents always don't understand what I exactly want. They just keep give me what they think is good for me. They never consider my will. They just think that what they give me is best so I shouldn't refuse and kind of force me to take It. don’t and never try to control and decide the destiny for your children. They are individuals. They have their own ideas. As a parent. You should always support and listen to their thoughts. We all deserve respect no matter what we are and what we want to be. sincerely，                  Shiqing Wei                     

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Dear Journal                                                                                                                                   1/13/2021                               I have been reading a book called The Love and Lie of Ruhksana Ali recently. This book is telling the story about the conflicts between Ruhksana and her family. The secret, violence and misunderstanding that around them. From this book, I learned that don’t and never try to control and decide the destiny for your children. They are individuals. They have their own ideas and favor. As a parent. You should always support and listen to their thoughts. Don’t treat them like they are sick or freaky just because they do not follow what you wish. Such as what Ruhksana’s mother did to Ruhksana. Manage the marriage for her and also think she is sick just because she was showing the difference.  One of event in this book is when Ruhksana’s mother knows she likes girl she is really mad and don’t want her see that girl again so she was introducing men to Ruhksana and try to let her like male and marriage with this men. Even though Ruhksana doesn't want to but she just ignored Ruhksana’s will.  As a her mother, she was awful. She misunderstands Ruhksana and doesn't listen to her thoughts. And she even push Ruhksana to do things that she doesn’t like. Parents should be the protection of their children.  Another event in this book is when Mother knows Ruhksana try to escape from this marriage she was very angry so she locked her in the room and drugged Ruhksana in the coffee, and then invited an exorcist to exorcise her because she thought Ruhksana did this because she was possessed by the devil. This is the worst thing a mother can do to her child. Don’t think your children are sick when they show their difference because everyone is different as an individual. We cannot put our will into our children because they are human, they have rights to decide what they want to be and the only thing parents can do is support them.  Overall, don’t and never try to control and decide the destiny for your children. They are individuals. They have their own ideas and favor. As a parent. You should always support and listen to their thoughts. Don’t treat them like they are sick or freaky just because they do not follow what you wish. We all deserve respect no matter what we are and what we want to be.               Sincerely,                     Shiqing Wei           

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Dear Journal                                                                                                                                   1/13/2021                               I have been reading a book called The Love and Lie of Ruhksana Ali recently. This book is telling the story about the conflicts between Ruhksana and her family. The secret, violence and misunderstanding that around them. From this book, I learned that don’t and never try to control and decide the destiny for your children. They are individuals. They have their own ideas and favor. As a parent. You should always support and listen to their thoughts. Don’t treat them like they are sick or freaky just because they do not follow what you wish. Such as what Ruhksana’s mother did to Ruhksana. Manage the marriage for her and also think she is sick just because she was showing the difference.  One of event in this book is when Ruhksana’s mother knows she likes girl she is really mad and don’t want her see that girl again so she was introducing men to Ruhksana and try to let her like male and marriage with this men. Even though Ruhksana doesn't want to but she just ignored Ruhksana’s will.  As a her mother, she was awful. She misunderstands Ruhksana and doesn't listen to her thoughts. And she even push Ruhksana to do things that she doesn’t like. Parents should be the protection of their children.  Another event in this book is when Mother knows Ruhksana try to escape from this marriage she was very angry so she locked her in the room and drugged Ruhksana in the coffee, and then invited an exorcist to exorcise her because she thought Ruhksana did this because she was possessed by the devil. This is the worst thing a mother can do to her child. Don’t think your children are sick when they show their difference because everyone is different as an individual. We cannot put our will into our children because they are human, they have rights to decide what they want to be and the only thing parents can do is support them.  Overall, don’t and never try to control and decide the destiny for your children. They are individuals. They have their own ideas and favor. As a parent. You should always support and listen to their thoughts. Don’t treat them like they are sick or freaky just because they do not follow what you wish. We all deserve respect no matter what we are and what we want to be.               Sincerely,                     Shiqing Wei           

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Character vs Self (Internal)

Ruhksana is troubled by the marriage arranged by her parents. But at the same time she felt guilty because she knew she would not be a traditional Bengali bride and she would not accept

Character vs Character (External)

Ruhksana’s mother controlled that she had to marry a man even if she didn’t want to, so in order to get out of this predicament, she had to escape secretly.

Character vs Self (Internal)

When Ruhksana saw the man that her mother arranged to meet again, she felt as if she had betrayed Ariana, even though the first meeting was only a temporary strategy

Character vs Society(External)
In Bangladesh, almost all marriages of children are managed by parents. But Ruhksana does not support and agree with this culture. She thinks she has the right and freedom to chase her love.

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Dear journal                                                                                      1/11/2021

Today was so upsetting. I invited Asif’s family to our home, but the most important thing is his son Minhas. I hope my daughter Ruhksana and him both have a good impression of each other. So that might change the ridiculous mistake that she committed. As her mother, I have responsibility to correct her behavior.

I prepared a beautiful and fantastic dress for Rukhsana so she will show up in front of Asif’s family in her best side and show how excellent she is. I do all of these for good for Ruhksana. She will never know if other people know that she is a lesbian how will they judge and look at her. We are a traditional family.  Even though we are living in the United States right now, and it doesn’t means we can don’t care about others view.

My husband was really angry about that. He argued with me and I don’t understand why he is being so mad. As a father, he should support this decision. He said this is not the right way and we cannot do this. At least we should tell her. I told him All this nonsense is the reason we are in this mess. I always told you, don’t give her so much freedom. But he never listened. If he doesn’t take action to fix this mistake. Then I will do it.

I will help Ruhksana go back to normal and make sure she is in the right way. All of things went wrong before and can not be continued. I give her too much freedom in this home so that makes her think she can do anything she wants. I really hope she can be more mature and think more for us, for this home.

Until next time

Zubaida

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Dear Journal

Today is a terrible day. Ariana came to my house today and we could study for our calculus test together. When Mom came into the kitchen to start dinner, we went up to my room. I closed the door and turned to Ariana. We talk about marriage and things about my family.

Everything was nice and she was looking at me with such tenderness so I couldn't hold myself and I kissed her. God! Why should I kiss her at that time? This is really a big mistake. My mom came in and I feel like my blood ran cold. How long she had been standing in thee and Why I had been stupid. I kept questioning myself.

Then My mom slapped Ariana and let her go. I know everything is over. I tried my best to hide this secret, and was finally betrayed by my own stupidity. After a few moments Dad also knew that message that I like girls and they were being really unbelievable and mad at me. They said how others are gonna treat us. I don't know why this is the question that we need to worry about.  We only need to keep responsibility to ourselves and do ourselves.

I hope we can have more freedom in our family instead of being a traditional family. If they can open their mind everything will be easy. We can not always live in each other's opinions. That makes us lose ourselves and our true happiness.

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Main Character: Ruhksana Ali. In the comments write a character trait or emotional event with evidence from the text. (Paraphrased)

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Main Character: Ruhksana Ali. In the comments write a character trait or emotional event with evidence from the text. (Paraphrased)

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I think Ruhksana is sensitive because how she react to someone might see her kiss another girl is over tension. She is been very worried and anxious about Irfan might see that kiss in the Starbucks.

I think Ruhksana is assertive because she didn't care about what others judge about her. In the text she said she didn't do anything wrong. They don't have to worried and explain to others.

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Supporting Character: Pick another character that you like or dislike and identify traits/emotions and then give evidence from the text. (Paraphrased)

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Supporting Character: Pick another character that you like or dislike and identify traits/emotions and then give evidence from the text. (Paraphrased)

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Chapters 9-11. I like Irfan because he is kind and respect to Ruhksana's sexual orientation. He was seeing Ruhksana kissed her girlfriend but he didn't tell others and her parents. He choose to sit down and talk with Rushksana instead of discuss and tell this with others.

Chapter 12-14. I like Aamir because he is supportive to his sister. When Ruhksana's parents found out she is a lesbian they were really angry and misunderstanding it, but Amair not, he is helping her to meet her girlfriend and support her.

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Vocabulary: Add three words from the reading and define it in your own words in the comment section. Remember to sign in with your ELHS gmail for credit. 

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Vocabulary: Add three words from the reading and define it in your own words in the comment section. Remember to sign in with your ELHS gmail for credit. 

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Grinned: Smile with teeth and mouth open.
Snagging: catch or tear something
Savoring: Taste something.

Triggered: caused by action or situation.
Rubbish: Something worthless or useless.
Blazed: burn fiercely or brightly.