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Hello Readers!! this week we talked about neighbor, money, birthday, and relationship problems. i am always here to help give advice so feel free to message me your questions! the questions can be from anything from Money to personal to animal to relationship problems. ask me anything!
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Dear Daniels,

Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost a year and we both love each other. there's just one problem, he's very immature. we are both 21 and he is just ridiculous but i love him.

when we go out to dinner or to the movies or the mall he is always fooling around and being foolish. he will be loud and inconsiderate of others. but he is the sweetest person ever. he cares so much about me and loves me as much as i love him.

we can sort of be open with each other just the problem is that he gets mad easily. i don't know what to do about his immaturity. Do i tell him? or let it be? or the talk to him about it? - crazy love bug

Dear crazy love bug,

being mature in a relationship is very important.

i would say to be straightforward with him but if he gets mad easily and if you think it will cause a problem then don't do it.

but you could either fight it and try to get over his immaturity then go ahead but i wouldn't do that.

if he loves you as much as you say he does and maybe you can gamble and bluff him. tell him and say if he doesn't change it you will leave him.
the best thing you can do is try and talk to him. before you talk to him act upset or sad try and act sad for a couple of days.wait for him to ask you what's wrong. if he asks too early say nothing and then drop it wait for him to ask again.. make it seem like a big problem! then tell him you will tell him what's wrong as long as he doesn't get mad and you both will help to work on this. then break it to him. Good Luck!

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Dear Daniels,

I have a problem, i forgot my sons birthday. ive been sick all week and haven't been doing anything other than laying down and throwing up. i haven't had any time to even think about what the date was.

this morning he ended up going out with a couple of friends. i was still sleeping at the time. and when i woke up there was a note that said he was going out with his friends to celebrate his birthday and he will be home for dinner.

im not sure what to do! he will be getting home soon and if he knows in forgot his birthday he will be very angry and upset at me. what can i do to make it seem like i didnt forget his birthday or what can i do so he isn't angry at me for not doing/getting anything?  -birthday snafu

Dear birthday snafu,

forgetting your son’s birthday is a big problem. but you can fix it.

you can either run out to the store grab some of his favorite food for dinner and some stacks. if you have the time you can grab some gifts cards as quick gifts unless you have something in mind that he would want. just pretend like you didnt forget and just surprise him with some food and presents and just have fun.
but if you're really sick and really can't go out to do any of that then when he gets home be straightforward with him. tell him you've been really sick and really couldn't go out to get anything. just make sure you tell him you will make it up to him when you feel better. it gives you more time to think instead of rushing everything while not feeling good.

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Dear Daniels,

I’m a 63 year old woman, I own a house

with my husband and we have very loud neighbors. There are 2 guys both 24 they share the rent and all they do is play loud music and party. They always have friends over; they are always drinking, and doing stupid stuff they shouldn’t be. They always keep me up all night and I don’t know what to do about it.

The problem is, is that they are very helpful towards me and my husband. We are both old and whenever we need help bringing in groceries, moving furniture, help setting something up they are always a phone call away and they are here helping.

I don’t want to be mean and tell them to stop having fun because I will still need them to help me with the stuff I can’t do. I just can’t sleep at night because of them. Please help!    -Tired elderly women!

Dear tired elderly women,

If your neighbors are a bunch of partiers and they still help you it seems like they would have lots of respect for you and they also seem like they are nice. If this is true then your best bet is to just be straight with them. Ask them to come over sometime to help you with something when there not partying. Ask them if they want anything to eat or drink offer them something. And then be straight forward with them but be nice and respectful toward them. You were 24 at some point also.

If you don’t think they would be okay with that then maybe get some of your neighbors together to have a little intervention for them, nothing too serious though.

Just make sure they know that you are very thankful for their help and will be needing them.

you need your sleep check this out! http://library.cqpress.com/cqresearcher/document.php?id=cqresrre2010021200&type=hitlist&num=0

(CQ Researcher)

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Dear Daniels,

My daughter is 17 and she loves

soccer. I have never seen her so happy to be out there having fun doing what she loves.  She has been playing travel soccer for 5 months now and it has cost a lot! But she doesn’t really show appreciation towards me for making it all possible.

I’m not quite sure what to do about it because I’m tired of spending so much money on all the traveling. I’m spending around $150 a week for gas and food when we are on the road and there is one game a week and it adds up.

Should I tell her that it costs a lot and it is a lot of work to make all this possible? Or ask her to appreciate me more? Or should I stop her from playing travel soccer and make her unhappy?

-Scared Father

Dear scared father,

Happiness is key in any relationship.

But yes you should bring up to her that it costs a lot and it a lot of work for you. Tell her how you really feel about how she doesn’t appreciate it enough. Start off by asking if she loves soccer, if you’re not close then try and get close. The closer you both are with each other the better off and comfortable you both will be with each other.

If you do it right and nicely she should understand and start appreciating all that you’re doing for her.

If I were in your shoes I would do that because she will be very thankful later on in life and she will be there for you when you need her.
try to let her keep playing check this http://library.cqpress.com/cqresearcher/document.php?id=cqresrre2011032500&type=hitlist&num=6

(CQ Researcher)