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PERSONAL SPACE | SOCIAL STORY AUTISM | BEHAVIOUR THERAPY | AUTISM PARENTS EXPERIENCES

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Social Skills Printables Workbook: For Students with Autism and Similar Special Needs

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FE- Any Age- Social Skills Connectedness for ASD

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Edited by Stephen Braren & Rose Perry, Ph.D.

The Creatures Times aims to promote awareness of the importance of social connectedness for all individuals. However, we've yet to talk about social connectedness through the lens of neurodiversity. That is, do individual differences in brain function lead to differences in the needs or desires for social connections? To begin to answer this question, we look to the social connectedness needs of individuals on the autism spectrum.

Many autistic* individuals communicate and socially interact in ways that are different from non-autistic individuals. Specifically, autistic social communication styles are often characterized by delayed language, differences in the production and recognition of facial expressions, and decreased eye contact.

Due to these differences, it has frequently been assumed that autistic individuals are not interested in making social connections.

In one study on public perceptions of autism, many people stated that they interpreted the social communication styles often displayed by some autistic individuals, such as avoided eye contact or reduced emotion, as signs of social disinterest [1]. Unfortunately, these differences in social behavior are sometimes misconstrued by non-autistic individuals as coldness and disengagement, rather than simply being recognized as different styles of social and emotional expression. As one survey respondent candidly put it, autistic individuals "don't seem to want to mix with anybody."

The perception that autistic individuals do not want social connection is not new and was initially voiced by early clinical researchers like Leo Kanner and Hans Asperger, who are both credited with first describing autism. For instance, in one of the field's foundational scientific papers published in 1943, Kanner described his autistic patients as having a "powerful desire for aloneness" [2]. And while this early research has profoundly advanced our understanding of autism, it was based on the biased assumption that autistic individuals prefer aloneness and social isolation over friendship and connectedness.

The bottom line is that many autistic individuals do desire social connections, but oftentimes face difficulties forging friendships due to differences in their social presentation styles. And in fact, research is increasingly revealing that the difficulties that autistic individuals face with social connection stem in part from non-autistics' negative impressions of autistic social presentation styles and a subsequent reluctance to socially engage with individuals on the autism spectrum [3].

Fortunately, scientists and clinicians are now developing a more accurate understanding of the social needs of autistic individuals, as well as recognizing that interventions to promote social connection need to address both autistic and non-autistic individuals' abilities to recognize each other's social signals. For instance, one recent article published in Behavioral and Brain Sciences found strong evidence that, contrary to common belief, autistic individuals do have a desire to connect with others [4]. The researchers analyzed studies in which autistic individuals reported their personal experiences with navigating social relationships. Collectively, studies show that many autistic people share an interest in social connections, but the misconception that autistic individuals prefer not to socially interact may itself lead some autistic people to experience little enjoyment in social situations.

In other words, autistic individuals are interested in making social connections but may demonstrate this interest differently. Despite these differences, non-autistic individuals must learn to recognize the social connection needs of autistic individuals, and increase their efforts to genuinely engage with autistic individuals even if doing so requires changing their own communication styles. Such alterations are central to dismantling the "social model of disability," which suggests that disability exists due to the barriers that society creates for people with disabilities.

It is critical to note that the realization of the social needs of the autistic community has come to light thanks to increasing efforts to include perspectives from the autistic community in autism-related science and research. In a particularly illuminating account, one person shared their frustration with other people's misconceptions about the social lives of autistic individuals:

"You might have been told that people with autism do not want social or romantic relationships, but this is a myth. While it is true that many of us struggle to create or maintain them, this does not mean that we do not want them. I have met some people with autism who, as a result of their experiences of repeated failure, have decided not to pursue friendships or relationships and focus on spending their lives on their own, but this is a rarity [5]."

Another person shared the importance of drawing on alternative explanations for atypical social behavior, besides how it appears on the surface:

"I can also seem uninterested, but this is only a self-preservation mask. I find it hard to communicate even if I have a lot of things I want to say [6]."

These personal accounts highlight the importance of studying autism with an empathetic ear and trying to understand a person's lived experiences, instead of projecting assumptions and interpretations onto them. The voices of autistic individuals matter and should be heard to advance our collective understanding of autism, as well as to reveal the barriers to social connection that non-autistics create for the autism community. This was the approach taken by a pioneer in neurology, Oliver Sacks, who relied heavily on patient experiences to guide his conceptualization of neurological disorders and patient advocacy. Sacks valued learning from the individual, and was agile in working out ways to engage in friendly interactions despite individual differences in brain function, and this is largely why he is remembered today as a champion for the voice of autistic individuals [7].

Fortunately, we have come a long way since the initial misperceptions of Kanner and Asperger that autistic individuals strongly desire aloneness. Yet, more work is needed to continue amplifying the voices from the community so that we can all do our part to address their overlooked needs for social connectedness. After all, as their experiences suggest, autistic individuals are social creatures just like all of us.
*Social Creatures has chosen to use "identity-first" language when writing about autism in general, in accordance with the Autism Self-Advocacy Network, and evidence that the majority of autistic individuals prefer the use of identity-first language [8]. However, it's important to acknowledge that some members of the autism community prefer the use of "person-first" language. Thus, when featuring a specific member of the autism community, we will ask and abide by their preference. We added this disclaimer primarily to make the reader aware of the distinction and to encourage them to be thoughtful in the use of identity-first vs. person-first language when referring to the autism community. As always, we are happy to hear from our readers, so please do not hesitate to contact us using the link below if you have thoughts on our use of inclusive language.
In-text References:

[1] Huws, J. C., and R. S. P. Jones. "'They just seem to live their lives in their own little world': Lay perceptions of autism." Disability & Society 25.3 (2010): 331-344.

[2] Kanner, L. (1943). Autistic disturbances of affective contact. Nervous child, 2(3), 217-250.

[3] Sasson, N. J., Faso, D. J., Nugent, J., Lovell, S., Kennedy, D. P., & Grossman, R. B. (2017). Neurotypical peers are less willing to interact with those with autism based on thin slice judgments. Scientific reports, 7(1), 1-10.

[4] Jaswal, V. K., & Akhtar, N. (2019). Being versus appearing socially uninterested: Challenging assumptions about social motivation in autism. Behavioral and Brain Sciences, 42.

[5] Drew, G. (2017). An adult with an autism diagnosis: A guide for the newly diagnosed. Jessica Kingsley

[6] Sequenzia, A. (2012). Just me. In: Loud hands: Autistic people, speaking, ed. Bascom, J. pp. 114-15. Autistic Press.

[7] Sacks, O. (1995). An Anthropologist on Mars: Seven Paradoxical Tales. New York: Alfred A. Knopf.

[8] Kenny, L., Hattersley, C., Molins, B., Buckley, C., Povey, C., & Pellicano, E. (2016). Which terms should be used to describe autism? Perspectives from the UK autism community. Autism, 20(4), 442-462

Have a question or wish to request a topic? Con tac t us. We'd love to hear from you!

Edited by Stephen Braren & Rose Perry, Ph.D.

The Creatures Times aims to promote awareness of the importance of social connectedness for all individuals. However, we've yet to talk about social connectedness through the lens of neurodiversity. That is, do individual differences in brain function lead to differences in the needs or desires for social connections? To begin to answer this question, we look to the social connectedness needs of individuals on the autism spectrum.

Many autistic* individuals communicate and socially interact in ways that are different from non-autistic individuals. Specifically, autistic social communication styles are often characterized by delayed language, differences in the production and recognition of facial expressions, and decreased eye contact.

Due to these differences, it has frequently been assumed that autistic individuals are not interested in making social connections.

In one study on public perceptions of autism, many people stated that they interpreted the social communication styles often displayed by some autistic individuals, such as avoided eye contact or reduced emotion, as signs of social disinterest [1]. Unfortunately, these differences in social behavior are sometimes misconstrued by non-autistic individuals as coldness and disengagement, rather than simply being recognized as different styles of social and emotional expression. As one survey respondent candidly put it, autistic individuals "don't seem to want to mix with anybody."

The perception that autistic individuals do not want social connection is not new and was initially voiced by early clinical researchers like Leo Kanner and Hans Asperger, who are both credited with first describing autism. For instance, in one of the field's foundational scientific papers published in 1943, Kanner described his autistic patients as having a "powerful desire for aloneness" [2]. And while this early research has profoundly advanced our understanding of autism, it was based on the biased assumption that autistic individuals prefer aloneness and social isolation over friendship and connectedness.

The bottom line is that many autistic individuals do desire social connections, but oftentimes face difficulties forging friendships due to differences in their social presentation styles. And in fact, research is increasingly revealing that the difficulties that autistic individuals face with social connection stem in part from non-autistics' negative impressions of autistic social presentation styles and a subsequent reluctance to socially engage with individuals on the autism spectrum [3].

Fortunately, scientists and clinicians are now developing a more accurate understanding of the social needs of autistic individuals, as well as recognizing that interventions to promote social connection need to address both autistic and non-autistic individuals' abilities to recognize each other's social signals. For instance, one recent article published in Behavioral and Brain Sciences found strong evidence that, contrary to common belief, autistic individuals do have a desire to connect with others [4]. The researchers analyzed studies in which autistic individuals reported their personal experiences with navigating social relationships. Collectively, studies show that many autistic people share an interest in social connections, but the misconception that autistic individuals prefer not to socially interact may itself lead some autistic people to experience little enjoyment in social situations.

In other words, autistic individuals are interested in making social connections but may demonstrate this interest differently. Despite these differences, non-autistic individuals must learn to recognize the social connection needs of autistic individuals, and increase their efforts to genuinely engage with autistic individuals even if doing so requires changing their own communication styles. Such alterations are central to dismantling the "social model of disability," which suggests that disability exists due to the barriers that society creates for people with disabilities.

It is critical to note that the realization of the social needs of the autistic community has come to light thanks to increasing efforts to include perspectives from the autistic community in autism-related science and research. In a particularly illuminating account, one person shared their frustration with other people's misconceptions about the social lives of autistic individuals:

"You might have been told that people with autism do not want social or romantic relationships, but this is a myth. While it is true that many of us struggle to create or maintain them, this does not mean that we do not want them. I have met some people with autism who, as a result of their experiences of repeated failure, have decided not to pursue friendships or relationships and focus on spending their lives on their own, but this is a rarity [5]."

Another person shared the importance of drawing on alternative explanations for atypical social behavior, besides how it appears on the surface:

"I can also seem uninterested, but this is only a self-preservation mask. I find it hard to communicate even if I have a lot of things I want to say [6]."

These personal accounts highlight the importance of studying autism with an empathetic ear and trying to understand a person's lived experiences, instead of projecting assumptions and interpretations onto them. The voices of autistic individuals matter and should be heard to advance our collective understanding of autism, as well as to reveal the barriers to social connection that non-autistics create for the autism community. This was the approach taken by a pioneer in neurology, Oliver Sacks, who relied heavily on patient experiences to guide his conceptualization of neurological disorders and patient advocacy. Sacks valued learning from the individual, and was agile in working out ways to engage in friendly interactions despite individual differences in brain function, and this is largely why he is remembered today as a champion for the voice of autistic individuals [7].

Fortunately, we have come a long way since the initial misperceptions of Kanner and Asperger that autistic individuals strongly desire aloneness. Yet, more work is needed to continue amplifying the voices from the community so that we can all do our part to address their overlooked needs for social connectedness. After all, as their experiences suggest, autistic individuals are social creatures just like all of us.
*Social Creatures has chosen to use "identity-first" language when writing about autism in general, in accordance with the Autism Self-Advocacy Network, and evidence that the majority of autistic individuals prefer the use of identity-first language [8]. However, it's important to acknowledge that some members of the autism community prefer the use of "person-first" language. Thus, when featuring a specific member of the autism community, we will ask and abide by their preference. We added this disclaimer primarily to make the reader aware of the distinction and to encourage them to be thoughtful in the use of identity-first vs. person-first language when referring to the autism community. As always, we are happy to hear from our readers, so please do not hesitate to contact us using the link below if you have thoughts on our use of inclusive language.
In-text References:

[1] Huws, J. C., and R. S. P. Jones. "'They just seem to live their lives in their own little world': Lay perceptions of autism." Disability & Society 25.3 (2010): 331-344.

[2] Kanner, L. (1943). Autistic disturbances of affective contact. Nervous child, 2(3), 217-250.

[3] Sasson, N. J., Faso, D. J., Nugent, J., Lovell, S., Kennedy, D. P., & Grossman, R. B. (2017). Neurotypical peers are less willing to interact with those with autism based on thin slice judgments. Scientific reports, 7(1), 1-10.

[4] Jaswal, V. K., & Akhtar, N. (2019). Being versus appearing socially uninterested: Challenging assumptions about social motivation in autism. Behavioral and Brain Sciences, 42.

[5] Drew, G. (2017). An adult with an autism diagnosis: A guide for the newly diagnosed. Jessica Kingsley

[6] Sequenzia, A. (2012). Just me. In: Loud hands: Autistic people, speaking, ed. Bascom, J. pp. 114-15. Autistic Press.

[7] Sacks, O. (1995). An Anthropologist on Mars: Seven Paradoxical Tales. New York: Alfred A. Knopf.

[8] Kenny, L., Hattersley, C., Molins, B., Buckley, C., Povey, C., & Pellicano, E. (2016). Which terms should be used to describe autism? Perspectives from the UK autism community. Autism, 20(4), 442-462

Have a question or wish to request a topic? Con tac t us. We'd love to hear from you!

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Do individual differences in brain function, such as occurs for individuals on the autism spectrum, lead to differences in the needs or desires for social connections? Here we explore the social connectedness needs of autistic individuals through the lens of the "social model of disability.&quo

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The core symptoms of autism are:

Symptoms of autism may:

begin in early childhood (though they may go unrecognized)

interfere with daily living.

Specialized healthcare providers diagnose autism using a checklist of criteria in the two categories above. They also assess autism symptom severity. Autism's severity scale reflects how much support a person needs for daily function.

Many people with autism have sensory issues. These typically involve over- or under-sensitivities to sounds, lights, touch, tastes, smells, pain and other stimuli.

Autism is also associated with high rates of certain physical and mental health conditions.

Social communication challenges

Children and adults with autism have difficulty with verbal and non-verbal communication. For example, they may not understand or appropriately use:

Spoken language (around a third of people with autism are nonverbal)

Gestures

Eye contact

Facial expressions

Tone of voice

Expressions not meant to be taken literally

Additional social challenges can include difficulty with:

Recognizing emotions and intentions in others

Recognizing one's own emotions

Expressing emotions

Seeking emotional comfort from others

Feeling overwhelmed in social situations

Taking turns in conversation

Gauging personal space (appropriate distance between people)

Restricted and repetitive behaviors

Restricted and repetitive behaviors vary greatly across the autism spectrum. They can include:

Repetitive body movements (e.g. rocking, flapping, spinning, running back and forth)

Repetitive motions with objects (e.g. spinning wheels, shaking sticks, flipping levers)

Staring at lights or spinning objects

Ritualistic behaviors (e.g. lining up objects, repeatedly touching objects in a set order)

Narrow or extreme interests in specific topics

Need for unvarying routine/resistance to change (e.g. same daily schedule, meal menu, clothes, route to school)

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100 Day Toolkit for Young Children 100 Day Tool Kit for School Age Children Is It Autism and if So, What Next? A Guide for Adults

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What are the symptoms of autism? Learn more about social communication challenges, repetitive behaviors and other symptoms of ASD.

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How to make friends, and how to improve your social skills! We will go over everything you need to know to make your social life bloom. You host Nathan Ament, previously shy person who is getting better by the day, will tell you everything he's learned...and is still learning.

How to make friends, and how to improve your social skills! We will go over everything you need to know to make your social life bloom. You host Nathan Ament, previously shy person who is getting better by the day, will tell you everything he's learned...and is still learning.

Excellent

First podcast that actually had great, easy and realistic actionable things people with social anxiety can do. Highly recommend. Wish I knew who the speaker was!!

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‎The Social Skills Lab on Apple Podcasts

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Teaching social skills for kids is one of the most complex, confusing, but rewarding aspects of raising young children.

It's no secret that preschoolers and kindergarteners are naturally egocentric. Even when playing or interacting with others, many children have difficulty sharing, empathizing, collaborating, and cooperating.

HOMER is here to help you learn eight of the most important social skills for kids, as well as how to incorporate them into your family life.

8 Important Social Skills For Kids

1) Sharing

Sharing is a part of daily life. That doesn't mean it's easy!

Sharing is a difficult concept for young children to get behind. Toddlers, preschoolers, and kindergarteners have a particularly difficult time, as they are more focused on their needs and desires than the needs and desires of others.

This is normal. The feeling that something "belongs" to them is typically much stronger than their desire to please others.

Even though it's hard to share, doing so is critical to a child's social skill development, as it helps them keep and advance friendships. It's also a great way to bond and show appreciation.

2) Listening

Active listening is an important skill that even some adults struggle with. Properly deciphering and absorbing information requires significant focus.

We all know this can be challenging for young kids, but active listening can strengthen their receptive language skills (the ability to comprehend spoken language).

Receptive language skills help your child:

While developing their social skills, your child will come to see how important it is to actively listen when others are speaking.

Paying attention to what someone is saying and responding directly to their statements or questions is a big part of healthy communication.

3) Following Directions

The cousin of good listening skills would be executing the instructions your child heard - a.k.a., following directions!

Following directions becomes particularly important once your child enters into their school years.

It's one thing to follow directions at home with their parents where they're innately comfortable; it's another task entirely to follow directions from adult authority figures they may not know well.

Your child will learn how listening and following directions overlap with one another. If they listen well, it becomes easier for them to follow directions accurately. And when they follow directions accurately, they'll often be rewarded for their hard work!

Keep in mind, however, that multi-step directions are challenging for young children. To help them develop the ability to follow directions, give them one direction at a time.

4) Collaborating And Cooperating

Similar to sharing, your child will learn how to move beyond sharing objects to sharing ideas, stories, and work.

With good collaboration and cooperation skills, children will learn that working in a group gives them a chance to express their ideas and listen to the ideas of others. It allows them to see that it can be fun to work on a shared project!

This may sound simple, but for young children, cooperation can often require real effort. It will take time for them to learn to respect others' opinions even when they're different.

By working together toward a common goal, kids can advance their sharing skills to include both intellectual and physical (think: cleaning the dinner table with a sibling) feats.

5) Patience

How many times have you heard the cliche, "Patience is a virtue"? Well, we are here to say it one more time!

It's normal for young children to be impatient. However, patience really is one of the most rewarding social skills for kids.

Patience is critical for many things, including maintaining friendships and relationships and achieving big goals that can only be completed over an extended period of time.

This is where the concept of delayed gratification comes into play. When you help your child understand that good things often take time (not everything in life is microwaveable!), you nurture them into a patient person.

Learning patience takes practice and, you guessed it, patience! Trust that it will come with time (as everything does).

6) Empathy

When we say "empathy," we're referring to the traditional definition - the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.

Your child will learn how to appreciate the similarities and differences between their lives and those of people they meet. They will also learn how to empathize with these people, no matter how different they are.

For young children, this can mean small gestures.

For example, if their friend or sibling cries because your child is playing with a specific toy, your child may pause and say, "I know you want to play, too. Don't be sad. We can take turns!"

But this sense of empathy will likely not appear overnight! Empathy develops over time and across a variety of scenarios.

The easiest way to promote your child's development of empathy is by showing it in action. When you extend grace to your child often, they will learn how to extend it back.

7) Respecting Boundaries

Some people require different emotional and physical boundaries than your child.

This can be a particularly difficult concept to learn, especially for very young children who receive most of their socialization from within the household.

Likely, if your child is extroverted, they may assume everyone is OK with hugs, questions, or lots of chit-chat. In some cases, they may be right! In others, they may accidentally cross boundaries in their efforts to be friendly.

Teaching your child how to ask permission and identify boundaries helps them establish a sense of respect between themselves and others. The same goes for helping them establish boundaries for themselves.

Let your child know that it's OK to say no to hugs, kisses, or other displays of affection from someone - no matter who it may be - if they feel uncomfortable. Model this idea by asking questions yourself ("Would you like a hug?").

When they make their boundaries clear and ask for others to do the same, it will make both parties feel much more at-home.

8) Positivity

Working on positivity can make it exponentially easier for your child to tackle many of the other social skills for kids we've mentioned, especially patience, boundaries, listening, and sharing.

With a positive attitude, your child will find it easier to make and keep friends, succeed in school, and achieve their goals.

The easiest way to demonstrate positivity is by modeling it. The more positive you are about your child's social skill development (including their inevitable slip-ups), the more reassured and positive they will become themselves.

This doesn't mean you have to be positive all the time. In fact, a healthy amount of honest criticism can be beneficial in helping your child learn to express their feelings.

To do this, start with your own emotions. Let them know how you're feeling and how you're managing it in real time if you can. Kids need to know it's OK to be sad, angry, or mad sometimes and how to handle it.

How To Teach Social Skills To Kids

Now that you know what social skills for kids to include, how do you go about teaching them at home? Let's take a look!

Normalize Mistakes

Your child should know that you do not expect perfection. There is no way to execute all of these social skills every time, everywhere, without mistakes.

That is OK! In fact, it's encouraged. Mistakes are normal; they're how we learn what went right or wrong.

Make sure you normalize this for your child. If they know all humans learn lessons this way, it'll be easier for them to push through the sting of a mistake and try again.

Encourage Sharing (Without Violating Boundaries!)

Although sharing is great and should be encouraged, there may be some things that are special to your child that they don't want to share. This can be especially true of stuffed animals, blankets, or special toys.

This is OK, too! It's great for your child to set boundaries that you and other children respect. To encourage sharing, try not to force it.

Encouraging without forcing also demonstrates to kids how boundaries can be created, acknowledged, and respected between people.

This will motivate them to share with those around them by taking comfort in the fact that what is special to them has been kept sacred and separate. It will also encourage them to be direct about their and others' boundaries when it comes to play, school, or emotional issues.

Check Their Listening

During social interactions within your own family or outside of it, pay attention to your child's listening skills. You can observe them to see if they are listening carefully.

Do they seem engaged? Are the asking questions?

And remember it is just as important to listen to your child. This shows them that what they are saying is important and encourages them to listen to you in return.

Think About How You Give Directions

In teaching social skills for kids, the parent or authority figure is responsible for ensuring the directions they give are something a young child can execute successfully.

When giving instructions, be clear, firm, and gentle. As we mentioned earlier, children have a very difficult time executing tasks with many directions at once. Start with one direction at a time that your child can focus on.

When giving instructions, have your child repeat what you want them to do. Only give an additional instruction when the first has been completed. Repeat until the task is complete.

Your child can give you directions, too! That way they have a sense of what it takes to delegate, manage, and execute a task from start to finish.

Give Empathy To Get Empathy

Show your child that you think about other people's emotions, too! This is less of a teaching moment and more of an authentic display of empathy.

If you see that your child is expressing an emotion, validate it for them. "Oh, I see that you're excited. I love that you're so eager and happy to do this!"

You can acknowledge negative emotions, too. For example, you might say, "I know that must make you angry. Do you know how I can tell? What can we do together to make you feel less unhappy?"

This not only helps them feel seen and heard in the moment, but it also gives them a direct example of how to tackle empathy with others in similar situations.

Social Skills For Kids Are Essential

The more your child experiences the benefits of social skills, the more intuitive these skills will become for them. However, all children learn at different rates. With practice (and patience!), we know they'll get there.

If you ever feel like expanding your child's exposure to social and emotional learning, our HOMER Learn & Grow App has tons of activities that engage their empathy, listening, and sharing skills, plus more!

Especially at a time when playdates are in short supply, our app's personalized activity center can be the perfect cherry on top of your family routine to teach social skills to your child.

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I am the type of person who likes to be prepared. In the pre-Covid era, when I went somewhere new, I liked to do my research: I checked out the website, looked at venue photos, found videos of the place, looked it up on maps and scrolled through street view. I found it calming to know what to expect in new situations.

What is Video Modeling

A video model is a type of prompt that can be used when an instruction is given to a learner. For a refresher on what video modeling is check out our previous post. Video modeling is a great tool that can be used to support teaching many skills, such as self-help skills (e.g., brushing teeth, getting dressed), school readiness skills (e.g., raising hand in class, lining up), and social skills (e.g., conversation, play routines).

Types of Video Models

There are many ways to use video modeling and teaching social and conversation skills is one of them! Although watching a video of a social interaction will not suffice for teaching social skills, it is a great tool to use as part of the program.

You can use resources like Model Me Kids or Everyday Speech that have great video modeling resources available. These can be used in conjunction with role play, discussion, practice, and feedback on the skill being taught.

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The video model can be from a resource online (Model Me Kids, Everyday Speech, or videos on YouTube) that showcase unknown individuals in generalized situations. A video model can also be home made and feature familiar people such as family members and friends, instructor therapists, preferred characters or role models, or the learner themselves!

There are pros and cons to each video modeling source:

Pro: You do not need to spend time reinventing the wheel; materials and resources are provided

Con: Not individualized to the learner, situation, or environment

Pro: Individualized to the learner, situation, or environment

Con: Can take more time to create; may require multiple takes/editing; does not come with additional resource material

If you choose to make your own video model featuring the learner, you can edit the video in short snippets to capture the strengths of the learner to focus on the skills you want to see more of in the future. For example, if it is a conversation between two people you can edit out any prompts or errors, so the learner can see a full social interaction starring themselves!

How to Use Video Modeling to Teach Social Skills

One method to incorporating video modeling into social skills learning would be to identify skill areas that need strengthening. Does the learner tell peers "I hope you lose" when playing board games, scream when play does not go their way, not respond when a peer asks for help, or become aggressive when someone is playing with a preferred item?

When you can identify an area that needs to be strengthened, you can watch a video model of a successful social interaction. When the video is over, it is a good time to role play and practice what happened - do this more than once!

Talk about what was successful in the interaction, how the characters felt, and what we can do in a similar situation. Then practice again using different items, environments, and people.

If a learner comments negatively to peers and engages in tantrum-behaviour when they lose a board game, you can watch a video model on losing.

Practice being both the winner and the loser, using different types of games, and with multiple people (instructor, peers, siblings, etc.).

During practice, you can talk about how you feel when someone comments negatively versus positively, have visuals (or other prompts) for appropriate comments to make, and provide lots of praise and reinforcement for working on such a tough social skill.

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As a developmental disorder, autism impacts a child's ability to interact socially and exhibit appropriate behaviors. This can hinder social skills and interfere with positive peer relationships.

Parents can help to improve social skills in autistic children in these five ways:

1. Reinforce positive behavior and celebrate strengths.

2. Model and practice desired behaviors.

3. Provide structured social interactions.

4. Talk through possible social scenarios and use visual aids.

5. Set the environment for success.

As part of therapy, autistic children can acquire coping skills and techniques that boost their social skills. Therapy can also offer support for both the parent and child to learn social skills and how to improve upon them at home. Parents can then help children to transfer the skills learned at home to public settings like school.

All this work at home and in therapy sessions can translate into substantial social improvements for autistic children.

Autism's Impact on Social Skills

Autism is a developmental disorder that can impact the way a person communicates, interacts with the world around them, and manages emotions.

Social skills are formed through regular interactions with people. Since children with autism have a hard time understanding and reading others, social skills often need to be taught differently.

The CDC publishes that symptoms of autism related to social skills and interactions include:

An inability to "read" others.

Difficulties with back-and-forth conversations and interactions.

Poor nonverbal communication skills and behaviors, and difficulty understanding these cues in other people.

Trouble adjusting behaviors to the situation, often resulting in inappropriate behaviors.

Lack of interest in peers.

No desire for imaginary or collaborative play.

Inflexibility with routines and schedules.

Difficulty responding to social interactions or initiating them.

Autism is a spectrum disorder, which means it can have varying degrees of severity and disability.

Some children are high-functioning. They are able to mask autism symptoms until social pressures build and become too vast for them. This often coincides with entering a highly social environment like school.

Others with autism regress in language and motor skills. Developmental delays are evident as early as 6 months old, but they may not present until later in toddlerhood. Autism can be diagnosed as early as 18 months, though it is most often diagnosed around age 3.

Social skills can be limited or different in a child with autism regardless of the severity of the disorder. Generally, a higher degree of disability means a more significant impact on behavior, communication skills, and social interactions.

How to Boost Social Skills in Autistic Children

If your child has limited social skills, it doesn't mean they are destined to live this way for the rest of their life.

Autistic children can benefit greatly from therapy, particularly applied behavior analysis (ABA) therapy, which is considered the ideal treatment for autism. If a child's social skills are further limited by communication issues, such as speech issues, speech therapy may also be recommended.

Parents are key to a child's success. With conscious efforts to implement the lessons learned in therapy on a regular basis and positive reinforcement, parents can help their children better communicate with the world around them.

Oftentimes, autistic children can see substantial improvements in their social skills due to therapy and parental work at home.

Here are five ways to improve your child's social skills:

1. Reinforce Positive Behavior & Celebrate Strengths

Positive reinforcement has long been a method to reward good behaviors in a nonpunitive way in order to encourage them. This can be especially effective for autistic children.

Often, autistic children might not understand what is expected of them and why. By offering praise and reinforcement for prosocial behaviors, parents and teachers can help to shape behavior and cultivate desired social skills.

To reinforce positive behaviors and social skills:

Find a reinforcer that works. It can be edible, visual, tangible, verbal, an activity, or social attention.

Deliver the reinforcement as soon as possible after the desired behavior - within 5 seconds is best.

Vary the reinforcers. This can keep things interesting and keep the child engaged longer.

Change out reinforcers as needed. If one reinforcement technique or reinforcer is not working as well as it has in the past, consider switching it up.

Slowly back down on using reinforcers after you have achieved success with a particular behavior. Over time, you want to get to a point where the behavior is set, and you no longer need to reinforce it.

Be patient. Positive behavior changes do not occur overnight. They take time, effort, and practice.

To further enhance social skills, capitalize on the child's strengths. Autistic children often have a particular area of interest or expertise. Highlighting this in a social setting can help autistic children find a way to connect socially. Since they feel more comfortable talking about this area of interest, it can take away some of the initial awkwardness of the social interaction.

2. Model & Practice Desired Behaviors

All children learn behaviors by watching. They often see a behavior and mimic it. Parents can teach children how to behave in social situations by showing them how.

With autistic children, parents will typically need to take this a step further. Autistic children often do not understand what they are witnessing, so they need help interpreting the behavior. If parents break down the social interaction and explain it to them, autistic children can get a better grasp on learning these skills.

Roleplaying can be a great way to help autistic children practice social skills and interactions. Parents can design a situation and then walk through it with the child ahead of time to help them understand what to expect and how to socialize appropriately.

Roleplaying can also offer your child the chance to experiment and learn in a low-risk situation. You are right there to offer suggestions and corrections as needed without the stress of a public environment.

When roleplaying, take turns. If you are roleplaying a particular peer-to-peer interaction, it can be beneficial for the autistic child to play the role of their peer. This can help them gain a better understanding of others and the interaction in general. You will need to talk them through how their peer may be feeling in this situation.

Playing games together at home can help autistic children learn how to take turns, follow the rules, and be a good sport. While playing the game, observe your child's behavior and talk them through what to expect and what is expected of them.

Examples of simple games that can help with social skills include:

3. Provide Structured Social Interactions

Children with autism appreciate structure and stability. Change can be difficult. Routines are important.

As a result, it can be easier to teach new skills and enhance social skills when working within a structure that is expected. Parents can set up small, structured social interactions to work on social skills before children need to carry these skills into a larger setting, such as a classroom.

During these structured interactions, lay out the expectations clearly up front, so everyone knows what behaviors are anticipated and expected of them. Skills can be taught ahead of time at home and then translated into small group settings with one or two peers initially.

These high levels of structure in early interactions can actually encourage an autistic child to be more flexible. They learn how to interact and evolve within the set parameters, and they feel more comfortable in their actions. This gradually allows them to be more flexible in situations with less structure.

4. Talk Through Possible Social Scenarios & Use Visual Aids

Prepping an autistic child for social situations is extremely important. These conversations help your child to learn about the world around them and build the tools to interact well in social situations.

Talk to your child about potential social situations and events, and how to respond appropriately. It is helpful to offer a visual representation, such as:

A visual representation of peer interactions can help autistic children learn what to expect and give them additional resources to model. Verbalize what is happening in these scenes to reinforce accepted social skills and expected behaviors.

Social coaching is a form of conversation and visual representation that involves helping the child learn to become more aware of their specific actions and master the social challenges that autism presents. Social coaching can include videotaping interactions and walking through them with the child later. As you watch the videos, identify certain behaviors and offer feedback.

5. Set the Environment for Success

Autistic children thrive on structure and routine. They often have sensory issues, such as sensitivity to loud noises or bright lights.

Consider both these points when working with your child on social interactions. During teaching moments, keep outside distractions to a minimum. Choose times when your child is most relaxed and apt to want to work with you.

Keep room lights dimmed and minimize loud noises to promote learning. Make sure your child is not hungry or overly tired when trying to teach something new. Social communication is most effective when offered in a comfortable setting.

Focus on only teaching the specific social skill. It can be difficult for an autistic child to absorb a social lesson if they are focused on something else as well.

Improvements Take Time

Autistic children can experience significant gains in social skills, but they don't happen immediately. Be consistent with therapy and the lessons you reinforce at home. Over time, you'll see improvement.

References

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As a developmental disorder, autism impacts a child's ability to interact socially and exhibit appropriate behaviors. This can hinder social skills and interfere with positive peer relationships. Parents can help to improve social skills in autistic children in these five ways: Reinforce positive behavior and celebrate strengths. Model and practice desired behaviors.