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Covert racism stifles romance for Asian men

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Covert racism stifles romance for Asian men

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Asian men are considered to be less attractive, stigmatized as being nerdy academics, feminine or homosexual, with a diminutive stature (and penis). To offset this stereotype they may resort to compensation, deflection, denial or repudiation.

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There are many myths and stereotypes when it comes to dating asian guys. Some are completely outlandish and some are, well, a little more spot on. Multiple articles and studies discuss how cultural stereotypes of Asian men may make them less attractive to women of all races, including Asians.

In the book Freakonomics, one study showed that single Asians (male) had to make $247,000 more annually to receive the same response rate as White men on online dating sites. Ouch. According to the U.S. Census Bureau, 40% of Asian females will marry a non-Asian male, whereas 20% of Asian males will marry a non-Asian female. This frustration is not being taken lightly. In fact, there's even a website which acts as a forum for asian men reclaiming their "asianalitiy" - and they are pissed that their potential asian wives are shacking up with non-asians. On another website, one Asian male expresses: "It's definitely harder for an Asian male to date a white female than for Asian females to date white males. Asian males are not portrayed as masculine, whereas Asian females are stereotyped as submissive, exotic." What gives?!

The good news for Asian males is that as online dating is becoming less and less taboo, there are a lot more asian dating sites ready to help make meeting potential matches easier. White, black, yellow - really, one's ethnicity shouldn't make a difference as we are all part of the human race. No argument there. However, keep in mind that there are certain cultural differences that come to play that shape a person's mentality, values, ideas of what a relationship dynamic should look like, and subsequently, their behaviour. And because of this, sometimes, there is some truth to the cultural differences of people raised with diverse upbringings. So I'm here today to dispel (or confirm) some of those myths, but only according to my own experience. Before you make any accusations of me making sweeping generalizations, note that my points here are completely biased according to my own sample size. Here goes...

Myth 1: Asian guys fight for the bill. True. When the dinner cheque arrives at the table, the Asian guy will swoop in like a properly trained ninja and attack the dinner cheque before you can even do that "reach" for your wallet. This swift technique is an ancient move passed on by his ancestors - a learned behavior through many many years watching his parents challenge their opponents to who gets to the cheque first. White guys are much more laid back and are happy to carry on the conversation for another 30 minutes while the check is laying on the table; some are even willing to go dutch to further showcase their support towards gender equality.

Myth 2: Asian guys are lightweights. True. Look, it's an enzyme thing ok? When it comes to alcohol consumption, according to research, the 'Asian Flush' occurs due to a deficiency in an enzyme called aldehyde dehydrogenase, which is part of a vital process that digests alcohol. Headache, red flushing, even itchiness will occur after a few sips of alcohol. But, enzyme or no enzyme, don't think this will deter an asian guy from schooling you in a drinking game though. Challenge him to a game of Pai Gow or Big 2 and he'll drink you under the table.

Myth 3: Asian guys live with their parents. Depends. Ok, well until they're married at least. Many asians brought up in a traditional upbringing (both men and women) choose to live at home with their parents until they get married. Asian culture emphasizes family and collectivity, so it is quite the norm to take care of your parents while living under the same roof. Also, living with a romantic partner pre-marriage is generally looked down upon, which is another reason why many asians wait until marriage to move out.

Myth 4: Asian guys have better manners. False. There are many behaviours that are emphasized in a traditional asian culture. With a big emphasis on "taking care" of those around you. For example, at the dinner table, it is a blasphemy to serve yourself food first and immediately start eating. You serve the person you are dining with first, and always offer the last bite. But while an Asian guy's table manners may be impeccable, other "gentlemanly" behaviours like opening the car door, helping a lady put on her jacket, etc, are not lessons that parents typically focused on teaching. Thus, in my opinion it's an even ball game.

Myth 5: Asian guys aren't masculine. False. Unfortunately, we are influenced by what we see in the media whether we are conscious of it or not. Most depictions of Asian males in the popular media are not the same as their Caucasian counterparts. The odd Jackie Chan movie as the exception, you hardly see the Asian guy as hunky, masculine star of the show. Whereas in the 19th century, Asian men were portrayed at the other extreme in the 19th century: sexually dangerous and desirable. The stereotype that Asian men aren't masculine exists in a large part because of how they are portrayed in the media, not necessarily because that's actually reflective of reality.

Myth 6: Asian guys aren't good at expressing emotions. Depends. In Asian culture, males are not encouraged to be expressive with their emotions. Crying is seen as weakness. For example, when a boy gets hurt and starts crying, it's not rare to see the parents scold the child for crying. Because this is engrained at such an early age, this may cause some Asian men to continue withholding emotion as they grow up. It's rare to hear traditional Asian parents say "I love you" to their children. It's not rare for Asian kids to grow up on the receiving end of dictator-esque verbal instructions and scoldings. Parents educate and try to push their children to work harder and achieve more by using negative language versus complimentary language. A study conducted by China Daily interviewed a cross-section of people to see if they said "I love you" to their parents. Many people interviewed had never said those three words, and one 56-year old commenting "Saying it aloud is embarrassing for me." Of course, even in an upbringing where being emotionally expressive is not encouraged, one can still learn how to communicate feelings despite the odds. So in the case of this stereotype, it really depends on the person.

Myth 7: Asian guys aren't romantic. False. Sure, an Asian guy will think bubble tea is a perfectly acceptable venue for a first date. Nothing wrong with that! Asian guys will almost always say "Yes" to dessert as a date spot. Think crepes with fruit compote or shaved ice cream, their way of romanticizing the occasion involves making the girl happy first before letting themselves pick a place that might suit their own taste. If you see an Asian male holding on to his beau's shopping bags or Louis Vuitton purse, that doesn't means he's "whipped", he's just being helpful. It may sound cliché and completely unmasculine, but in Asian culture, the men are raised to always offer comfort for the female, making sure that they are provided and cared for. That's their idea of romance. Swoon.

Myth 8: Asian guys seek their parent's approval. True. Beware the tiger mom. When it comes to marriage prospects, Asian guys take into consideration the advice of his parents. It's more common for a Caucasian male to independently pursue his desires without asking for anyone else's approval. When one gets paired with an Asian man, however, you don't just marry the man himself but you marry his family as well.

Myth 9: Asian guys never make the first move. False. Although Asian guys might take awhile to confess their undying love, but that's only because they like to take it slow. And when they do, they want to be sure that she's the one. Asian guys are taught by their traditional parents that in order for them to meet the right person, you must already be a successful individual with a lot to offer. You date to marry. Caucasian guys are told they are going to meet a lot of people first before finding the right one. See the difference?

Myth 10: Asian guys don't like public display of affection. True. Traditional Asian parents show love through immense generosity, helping out financially, and feeding you 24/7. Hugs, cuddles and kisses however, not so much. In a culture where preserving "face" and appearances is of utmost importance, there is a major emphasis on always keeping your cool, being proper and composed. They might steal a kiss or two when no one's looking, but in retrospect the Asian male would much rather prefer it behind closed doors. Whether it's their demeanour towards the public eye, or how they choose privacy over strong lustful urges, it's easy to assume Asian males are more conservative when it comes to showcasing their emotions. Theories explain that this dates back to the nature of Confucian teaching - where displaying one's emotions publicly is not encouraged.

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Despite the stereotype that eating disorders only occur in women, about one in three people struggling with an eating disorder is male, and subclinical eating disordered behaviors (including binge eating, purging, laxative abuse, and fasting for weight loss) are nearly as common among men as they are among women.

In the United States alone, eating disorders will affect 10 million males at some point in their lives. But due in large part to cultural bias, they are much less likely to seek treatment for their eating disorder. The good news is that once a man finds help, they show similar responses to treatment as women. Several factors lead to men and boys being under- and undiagnosed for an eating disorder. Men can face a double stigma, for having a disorder characterized as feminine or gay and for seeking psychological help. Additionally, assessment tests with language geared to women and girls have led to misconceptions about the nature of disordered eating in men.

TREATMENT CONSIDERATIONS

Treatment is not one-size-fits-all. For any person, biological and cultural factors should be taken into consideration in order to provide an effective treatment environment.

Studies suggest that risk of mortality for males with eating disorders is higher than it is for females - early intervention is critical.

A gender-sensitive approach with recognition of different needs and dynamics for males is critical in effective treatment. Men and boys in treatment can feel out of place when predominantly surrounded by women, and an all-male treatment environment is recommended-when possible.

Men and boys with anorexia nervosa usually exhibit low levels of testosterone and vitamin D, and they have a high risk of osteopenia and osteoporosis. Testosterone supplementation is often recommended.
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MEN AND BODY IMAGE

There are numerous studies on male body image, and results vary widely. Many men have misconceived notions about their weight and physique, particularly the importance of muscularity. Findings include:

Most males would like to be lean and muscular, which typically represents the "ideal" male body type. Exposure to unattainable images in the media leads to male body dissatisfaction.

The sexual objectification of men and internalization of media images predicts drive for muscularity.

The desire for increased musculature is not uncommon, and it crosses age groups. 25% of normal weight males perceive themselves to be underweight and 90% of teenage boys exercised with the goal of bulking up.

Muscle dysmorphia, a subtype of body dysmorphic disorder, is an emerging condition that primarily affects male bodybuilders. Such individuals obsess about being adequately muscular. Compulsions include spending many hours in the gym, squandering excessive amounts of money on supplements, abnormal eating patterns, or use of steroids.
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Big dicks, hung hunks -- we've all googled those terms. Unless I am the only one who has hunted them down for purely scientific research purposes? Nah.

If only all sexual minorities were admired this much! It seems that most men wish they had a whopper instead of the organ that came with their DNA. Sometimes it's because they think they'd get more romantic traction if they were built bigger, or worry that their partner won't think they're "big enough." Just as often, it's because they themselves feel they would be sexier to themselves if they could swing a load of meat like a porn star. But the biological realities of a larger-than-average penis tell sex scientists quite a different tale.

Only 15% of all men have organs larger than 7 inches and just a tiny 2% are bigger than 8 inches, as documented in a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, which also showed that an average penis is just over 5 inches when hard. So if you take average to mean "norm," a 5 incher is the most "normal" type of penis to have.

Science turns a cold shoulder to what people think they should have. Science knows, for example, that if someone was hung like a horse, he'd risk killing his human partners. Science knows the human penis evolved exactly right to be fully effective, capable of having numerous orgasms every day, able to shoot over a billion sperm a month. The reason an average penis is about 5 inches long during full erection is because that is the perfect range for efficient performance with the largest number of partners.

If bigger penises were an advantage anywhere outside the human imagination, we'd be super-schlonged as a species. But there is no biological reason or evolutionary advantage for penises to be bigger. I don't want to mess up your divine fantasies. But when it comes actual sexual functionality, smaller is better. So here are three reasons to start seeing why less is more when it comes to penis size

BIG PENIS, BIG PENETRATION PROBLEMS

Guys with 6 inches or less can literally partner with anyone and have successful penetrative sex. Their penis was designed to be easily insertable into the largest number of adults. It fits comfortably into the adult vagina and into the anus too. Best of all, when it's smaller, a man can maneuver it better and deliver targeted stimulation.

For people who do not like pain with their penetration, a larger-than-average penis (7 1/2 inches or more fully erect) can be a sensual challenge, especially if the woman has a petite build. While vaginal tissue expands during intercourse, to allow for full penetration, over 7 inches can be longer than the vaginal canal itself, and bump the uber-sensitive cervix during sex, a howlingly painful experience for women. Women with anxieties or sex-negativity may come to fear being penetrated altogether and stop their sex lives. A more efficient (i.e., normal-range) penis can give more women more and better orgasms if the man knows how to move it.

I have never talked to anyone who quit having sex, divorced or broke up with someone, or rejected someone nice because their penis was too small. Instead, I've talked to tons of women who say they are fine with average, prefer average and have great orgasms with men who are average to small.

After all, the most pleasurable, orgasm-inducing part of the vagina are the first 2-3 inches into the canal. The clit and the surrounding tissues leading to and then inside the vaginal canal have the highest concentration of nerve endings and pleasure-receptors. That is why oral sex and digital stimulation can make a woman cum more successfully than a penis can. You don't need to penetrate deeper to give a woman satisfying orgasms if you know how to use your penis -- or hands or mouth or toy.

While people may dream of packing 8 or 9" of thick meat, in reality, finding people who can accept that size is a challenge unless your partners have already worked up the skill to take you in comfortably, were born with equally capacious vaginas, or actually enjoy a little pain with their penetration. I've had three clients over the years whose sex lives with their wives ground to a halt because the women complained of pain or discomfort.

The same applies to anal sex. Smaller fits better, moves better and is less likely to cause pain during penetration.

SMALLER PENIS, BETTER BLOW JOBS

It may look sexy to see tiny people nibble on big rods on the Internet but how do you think it feels to the nibbled upon? I've known several men who felt eternally deprived of ever getting a truly satisfying blowjob because their girlfriends and wives couldn't go down on too far before gagging. Meanwhile, one of my clients got TMJ ( Temporomandibular joint dysfunction) from too much enthusiastic oral sex to a partner with a huge build.

No matter how good you are giving a blow-job, a guy with a giant penis may never get to see you at your best. Warning: Choking Hazard! You likely won't be able to deep-throat him unless you have the talents of a sword-swallower and worked on relaxing your throat muscles. Even then, your teeth may scrape the skin of his penis and leave abrasions. Your jaw may start hurting a few minutes in. So again, a smaller penis wins the category for best biological design for oral sex too.

NORMAL SIZE ORGAN, NORMAL LIFE

Not everyone wants to be a porn star and make a living off the genetic anomaly that gave them a large penis. It may sound hot in fantasy but in reality, men whose genitals aren't giving them the joy they should have and are being objectified by culture at large feel demeaned. It triggers shame and confusion over whether people love them as human beings or mainly want to use them as sex toys. More than a few of them were either the object of teasing or jokes in their youth, and some of them were molested by adults, often older girls or women, who exploited their naivete to get to their meat. All of these things create stress, shame and emotional conflicts. Jumbo-size organs can lead to jumbo-size problems. Men with large builds commonly complain that

Condoms don't fit

Their penis dunks in the toilet water when sitting on the seat

People are afraid to have sex with them

People objectify them

Their pants require special tailoring

They get unwanted advances

They are prone to abuse in their teens

They're subject to smirks and wisecracks

What else makes life perplexing and difficult for men with really big organs? Sometimes, their penises mess up their minds in ways that normal people can barely understand. Men who fit in the small/normal range (4" to 6") do not express anxiety that women only love them for their penis. It's different for men who are unusually large. Some of them worry that people don't really want them for their qualities as people but because they are intrigued by their penis. To deter unwanted attention, or feel properly concealed for work, they spend hours at stores trying on pants that disguise their size or opt for special tailoring to avoid unwanted attention.

If you have a normal build, be grateful. Learn to make the most of it by natural means -- exercise, good health habits, cutting down on booze, promoting blood flow, and watching your weight. It's estimated that for every extra 30 pounds a man carries buries his penis shaft by about an inch. Focus on taking good care of the body you have and get the maximum performance out of your normal build.

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Big dicks, hung hunks -- we've all googled those terms. Unless I am the only one who has hunted them down for purely scientific research purposes? Nah. If only all sexual minorities were admired this much! It seems that most men wish they had a whopper instead of the organ that came with their DNA.

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Whether it's your ear, your eyebrow, or your third eye, this is everything you need to know about safe and slick piercing.

We all have a friend who got drunk and woke up with a nipple piercing. Laugh, yes. Because getting pierced is kind of funny. But don't be that guy. Instead, be the guy who thoroughly researched his piercing (and piercer!) before he got a needle shoved through his ear, nose, eyebrow, lip, or, for the sake of completism, dick.

Like beards and tattoos, piercings have migrated into a more mainstream place. These days you won't turn as many heads at work, and meanwhile guys like Colin Farrell, Lenny Kravitz, and even Harrison Ford have long sported piercings of various degrees.

We got an expert to break it all down for us. Sean Dowdell is a body piercer and the CEO of Club Tattoo and Piercing studio in Las Vegas and across Arizona. He gave us eleven rules to help us all avoid infections and unnecessary anguish. Here they are:

Use a Needle!

Always go with a sterile needle instead of a piercing gun. That means, generally speaking, don't go to the mall to get pierced. Go to a tattoo or piercing parlor. "By using a 'gun,' the actual hole that is being created in your lobe is by blunt force and literally punching through the lobe tissue," Dowdell says. "This not only causes much more trauma to the lobe itself, but also creates an uneven scar tube for the jewelry to sit in." On top of that, the guns cannot be sterilized, while a needle hole also heals much faster and with less pain.

You Get What You Pay For

"If the price seems too low to make sense (like $20 including jewelry), they must be cutting corners somewhere and most likely it is with your safety and quality of jewelry that they are about to put into your body," Dowdell said.

Titanium Is the Best

"Titanium is the purest material you can put into your body. It is hypo-allergenic, but in very rare cases people can have a reaction to it. It is much safer than implant-grade stainless steel, as those alloys still have carbon or nickel elements in some grades and tend to cause reactions."

Don't Screw Up Your Septum

The septum piercing-one of the oldest and most common piercings-is making a comeback. "The septum piercing has been around for thousands of years, originating with warrior cultures, most likely since a warrior with a large tusk dangling between his nostrils looks especially fierce," Dowdell says. Here's what lots of people get wrong about the septum piercing, however: "The correct placement for the septum is not the hard piece of tissue at the base of your nostrils, as many have done," he says. "It is instead a very thin membrane located just above that tissue, and underneath the septal cartilage." He says that any experienced and trusted piercer will know where to locate this spot and that the piercing, when done correctly, can be painless and quick. Healing is also quick, and your pro piercer can advise on the best size for you.

Getting Your Eyebrow Pierced Kinda Sucks

Eyebrows are one of the slowest-healing piercings, Dowdell says. This is because follicular cysts from the eyebrow follicles can be very common-and noticeable. These cysts are tiny red bumps that form on any side of the piercing, and are caused by skincare products, dirt, or sweat that clogs the fresh piercing and leads to infection. Dowdell says to have a sterile sea-salt solution (like NeilMed Piercing Aftercare) applied immediately after you shower or cleanse, 2-3 times daily.

Don't Drink While Your Tongue Piercing Heals

"Tongue piercings can be done from the top down or the bottom up," Dowdell says. "Each piercer usually develops whichever technique works best for them. The piercing sits in between both sides of the tongue muscle in a layer called the medial lateral, and they generally heal up in about 8-12 weeks, but need to be downsized with a shorter barbell in 2-3 weeks to avoid tooth damage." He says that there has been a dramatic shift away from tongue piercings in the previous few years, largely due to compromised dental health or the fact that the novelty has worn off. Should you still get one, Dowdell urges you to avoid alcohol while it heals to prevent major swelling and inflammation. "Use an alcohol-free mouth rinse 3-4 times daily, but don't overuse it," he says.

A Little Info on Ear Cartilage

There are several common cartilage options: the forward helix, the tragus, the conch, the rook, and the daith. Basically, anywhere on the ear that has cartilage can be pierced. The daith is the innermost cartilage fold of the ear. It's gotten wildly popular recently as a piercing site because there's a claim out there that it can alleviate certain types of migraines. (There is no medical study to back that up.)

Lip Piercings Take a Lot of Work, Too

You can pierce the lips in just about any spot: at the sides, down the middle of the philtrum (beneath the septum of the nose), along the top and bottom. "Lips are a unique piercing in that they require an oral aftercare regimen along with a regular piercing regimen on the outer portion of the piercing," says Dowdell. "We usually recommend internally an alcohol-free mouth rinse, plus one like Biotène on the outside. Apply NeilMed Piercing Aftercare 2-3 times daily, and remove any of the sebaceous crusty material that may collect around the piercing."

Nipple Piercings Hurt. Obviously.

Dowdell says this is one of the more painful piercings in existence, because men have lots of nerve endings in the nipples and therefore heightened sensitivity. However, the pain ends once the piercing is done-assuming your piercer is a pro. A proper nipple piercing is done at the base of the nipple, and not through the areola. (If done in the areola, your heal time is longer and the pain is significantly greater.) The heal time is lengthy, though: up to 4-6 months on average. During this time you must administer a sterile saline regimen 2-3 times daily.

How to Pierce Your Dick

Yeah, you knew this was coming. "There are many types of penis piercings for men. The most common is the Prince Albert, at the base of the penis through the urethra. Next is the frenum, from the base of the head horizontally through the soft tissue. Then there is the apadravya, all the way through the head of the penis from top to bottom, followed by the ampallang, all the way through the head of the penis horizontally (and usually through or under the urethra). Last is the dydoes, at the top of the back crown of the penis running vertically forward into the glans."

"Prince Albert and frenums are generally not too painful, and they heal relatively fast," Dowdell says. (Ten to 16 weeks for the former, and 16-20 for the latter.) "The others mentioned above require much longer healing times generally and can have more risk." The others often take 10-12 months to heal and require total abstinence. Dowdell urges you to research your piercer's background before you go in, because inexperienced ones can cause irreversible damage.

If You're a Hypochondriac, Check the Sterilization Logs

"There are several ways to tell if piercers are hygienic and aseptic. First, ask to check his or her sterilization logs. These will be on hand for any upper-echelon studio or piercer. You can make sure that the jewelry and all instruments that are used are sterilized and documented in a log or release form, prior to use. If anything is not in a sterilized format, as in packaged or sterilized right in front of you, then ask why-and be cautious. Watch the piercer in his or her environment and observe what they touch, how they touch, and if they change gloves after touching anything in the procedure room."

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For many men, looking down at their chest and seeing cleavage is their worst nightmare.

Having gynecomastia - more commonly known as man boobs, or "moobs" for short - is still largely stigmatized by guys who don't want to seem effeminate or grossly out of shape. But they're not alone: Roughly 30 percent of men will deal with enlarged breasts at some point in their life.

To get rid of their prominent breasts, men are increasingly opting for a surgical solution. Male breast reduction procedures rose by 32 percent from 2000 to 2017 according to the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, and in 2015 men accounted for more than 40 percent of all reduction surgeries, marking an all-time high.

Thankfully, the fatty lumps aren't necessarily dangerous ( belly fat in the gut is what you should really worry about), but the condition could be caused by changes in hormone levels from a variety of natural or synthetic factors. When you boil it all down, there are two major reasons why a guy might have man boobs.

The first is the medical condition, clinical gynecomastia, from a hormonal imbalance or elevated levels of estrogen and lowered levels of testosterone.

It's usually not a serious problem and may go away on its own. However, if you think you have gynecomastia and it continues to persist or cause you discomfort, you should visit a doctor to find out if medication or surgery will help.

The second reason for is simply excess fat stored in the chest.

If that's the cause, you don't have to cut corners to nip and tuck your way to a flatter profile. BJ Gaddour, former Men's Health fitness director, has a solution for man boobs: A fat-frying, muscle-building workout.

"When it comes to weight loss, you shouldn't focus just on cardio," he said. "You need to build muscle through strength training. It ignites your metabolism, which burns calories and accelerates fat loss."

The Man Boob Eliminator Workout

Firm up your chest and shed your man boobs with these supersets - two exercises done back-to-back.

"These exercises not only blast your chest, but also target your back muscles and glutes- body zones that contain the most muscle mass," Gaddour said.

Elevating your metabolism is all about how much muscle you activate at once. By doing big-muscle exercises, you'll boost your metabolism and testosterone levels more than you would just working your pecs.

DO THIS: Use a pair of 15- or 20-pound dumbbells and do each pair of exercises as a superset.

Beginning with exercise 1 A, do as many reps as you can in 30 seconds. Then rest for 30 seconds.

Next, do exercise 1 B, completing as many reps as you can in 30 seconds, and then rest for 30 seconds. That's 1 round. Complete 4 rounds of superset 1, then rest 2 minutes before moving on to superset 2 for 4 rounds.

Add these supersets to your workout routine 2 or 3 times a week.

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SUPERSET 1
1 A. Lying Supported Neutral-Grip Dumbbell Row
Grab a pair of dumbbells and lie chest-down on a 45-degree incline bench. Let your arms hang straight down, palms facing each other. Row the dumbbells to the side of your chest by bending your elbows and squeezing your shoulder blades. Pause and lower the weights.

1 B. Dumbbell Goblet Box Squat
Stand 4 to 6 inches forward of a knee-high bench or box. Cup the end of a dumbbell with both hands and hold it vertically in front of your chest, your elbows pointing down.

Keeping your back naturally arched, push your hips back, bend your knees, and squat. Sit on the bench for a moment. Keeping your heels pressed into the ground, stand back up.

SUPERSET 2

2 A. Dumbbell 1 1/2 Pushup

Grasp the handle of a dumbbell in each hand and assume a pushup position with your arms straight. Your hands should be about shoulder-width apart, and your body should form a straight line from head to ankles.

Bend your elbows and lower your body until your chest nearly touches the floor. Pause, and then push yourself halfway back up.

Pause again, then lower your body back to the floor. Push yourself all the way back up to the starting position, and repeat.
2 B. Dumbbell Skier Swings
Holding a pair of dumbbells at arm's length next to your sides, stand with your feet hip-width apart and your knees slightly bent.

Without rounding your lower back, bend at your hips as you simultaneously swing your arms backward.

Now explosively thrust your hips forward and raise your torso until you're standing upright, while allowing your momentum to swing the weights up to chest level. (Don't actively lift the weight.) Swing back and forth for the duration of your set.

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Romantic attraction is a complicated thing that scientists still don't completely understand.

But, through research and experimentation, they've come up with many ideas about what draws one person to another.

Below, Business Insider has rounded up some of the most compelling scientific insights about the traits and behaviors that make men more appealing to women.

The best part? None of the items on this list require you to get cosmetic surgery or do a major personality overhaul. We're talking small tweaks, like acting nicer and swapping your deodorant.

Read on for simple ways to step up your dating game.

Look for the universal signals of flirtation

Rutgers University anthropologist and best-selling author Helen E. Fisher says that women around the world signal interest with a remarkably similar sequence of expressions.

As she shared at Psychology Today, it goes like this:

"First the woman smiles at her admirer and lifts her eyebrows in a swift, jerky motion as she opens her eyes wide to gaze at him. Then she drops her eyelids, tilts her head down and to the side, and looks away. Frequently she also covers her face with her hands, giggling nervously as she retreats behind her palms.

"This sequential flirting gesture is so distinctive that [German ethologist Irenaus] Eibl-Eibesfeldt was convinced it is innate, a human female courtship ploy that evolved eons ago to signal sexual interest."

Look for someone 'in your league'

Men - and women - are attracted to people who are as attractive as they are.

In one study, researchers at the University of California at Berkeley looked at the behavior of 60 heterosexual male and 60 heterosexual female users on an online dating site. While the majority of users were inclined to reach out to highly attractive people, they were most likely to get a response if that person was about as attractive as they were (as judged by independent raters).

"If you go for someone roughly [equal] to you in attractiveness, it avoids two things," Nottingham Trent University psychologist Mark Sergeant, who was not involved with the study, told The Independent. "If they are much better-looking than you, you are worried about them going off and having affairs. If they are much less attractive, you are worried that you could do better."

Present yourself as high status

A 2010 study from the University of Wales Institute found that men pictured with a Silver Bentley Continental GT were perceived as way more attractive than those pictures with a Red Ford Fiesta ST.

And a 2014 stud y from Cardiff Metropolitan University found that men pictured in a luxury apartment were rated more attractive than those in a control group.

Interestingly, men don't seem to be more attracted to women when they're pictured in a high-status context.

Look older

Psychologists call it the " George Clooney Effect."

As 2010 study of 3,770 heterosexual adults suggested that women often prefer older men. As the women became more financially independent, they said they liked older guys even more.

"We think this suggests greater financial independence gives women more confidence in partner choices, and attracts them to powerful, attractive older men," lead author and University of Dundee psychologist Fhionna Moore said in a statement.

Evolutionary psychologists say that younger women and older men often pair up because while fertility only lasts from puberty to menopause in women, it can extend long into midlife for many men. Society also gives men greater opportunity to accumulate status and resources as they age.

Grow a light beard

In a 2013 study from researchers at the University of New South Wales, researchers had 177 heterosexual men and 351 heterosexual women look at images of 10 men in one of four conditions: clean-shaven, light stubble, heavy stubble, or full beard. Participants rated the men pictured on several traits, including attractiveness.

That women said the most attractive beard length was heavy stubble.

"Facial hair correlates not only with maturity and masculinity, but also with dominance and aggression," write authors Barnaby J. Dixson and Robert C. Brooks.

"An intermediate level of beardedness is most attractive," they add.

Build muscle (but not too much)

In a 2007 study from University of California, Los Angeles, 286 women looked at pictures of shirtless men and indicated which ones seemed like they would make the best long- and short-term partners.

Results showed that women were more likely to want short-term relationships with the guys who had big muscles.

The evolutionary signal that might be at work here?

Characteristics like muscularity are "cues of genes that increase offspring viability or reproductive success," say authors David A. Frederick and Martie G. Haselton.

But Frederick and Haselton took away another telling finding: Less-muscular men were thought to be a better fit for long-term relationships. So if you want to catch a woman's eye and hold her attention, you may be better off not going overboard.

Be kind

One of the best documented findings in psychology is the halo effect, a bias where you unconsciously take one aspect of somebody as a proxy for their overall character. It's why we think beautiful people are good at their jobs, even when they aren't necessarily.

As psychologist and writer Scott Barry Kaufman notes, the halo effect works in other ways too.

In a 2014 Chinese study, more than 100 young people looked at images of men and women's faces and rated them on attractiveness. Each face pictured was paired with a word that described either a positive personality trait - like kindness or honesty - or a negative personality trait, like being evil or mean.

Results showed that the people described with positive traits were rated more attractive.

"Even though beauty is an assessment of fitness value, there is no reason why assessment of fitness needs to be purely physical," Kaufman writes, meaning that acting kind can make you appear more attractive.

Wear red

A 2010 cross-cultural study - with participants from China, England, Germany, and the US - found that women are most attracted to men wearing red.

In one experiment from the study, 55 female undergrads looked at a colour photo of a man in either a red or green shirt, and then rated the man's attractiveness.

Sure enough, the man was rated significantly more attractive when he was wearing a red shirt. The results were similar when researchers compared the red shirt to other colour shirts as well.

Interestingly, participants generally weren't aware that the man's clothing colour was influencing their perceptions of his attractiveness.

Make your partner laugh

Multiple studies indicate that women are more attracted to men who can make them laugh.

In one small French study, a man told a joke to two friends at a bar while a woman sat at a nearby table. Then that man was instructed to approach the woman and ask for her number. In another version of the situation, one of the men who listened to the joke asked the woman for her number. (These scenarios were repeated about 60 times total.)

After the man left, an experimenter approached the woman and asked her to rate the man on attractiveness and intelligence, and to indicate how much she would want to date the man long-term.

Results showed that the guy was three times as likely to get the woman's number when he'd told a joke. Plus he was rated more attractive and intelligent.

Walk a dog

In a 2014 experiment from the Ruppin Academic Center in Israel and the University of Michigan, 100 Israeli women read vignettes about men.

Some of the men were described as "cads": They would cheat on their partner and get into fights. The other men were described as stereotypical "dads": They would work hard at their job and take good care of their kids.

Whenever the story featured a cad who owned a dog, women rated that man as a more suitable long-term partner than a cad who didn't own a dog. Cads with dogs were even rated slightly more attractive than dads with dogs.

The researchers concluded that owning a pet signals that you're nurturing and capable of making long-term commitments. It can also help you appear more relaxed, approachable, and happy.

Not into pet ownership? Simply being seen with a dog can make you seem more dateable. In a French study from 2008, a 20-year-old man approached hundreds of women and asked for their phone numbers. When he had a dog with him, he was three times more likely to score their digits.

Play good music

In a 2014 study, researchers at the University of Sussex asked about 1,500 women (whose average age was 28) to listen to simple and complex pieces of music and rate the attractiveness of the composer.

The results showed that women preferred the more complex music, and said they would choose the composer of the more complex music as a long-term partner.

Even just holding an instrument could help you get a date. A 2014 French study found that men who approached 300 women and asked for their number were more successful when they carried a guitar case, as opposed to a gym bag or nothing at all.

Practice mindfulness

Australian researchers recently studied undergrads participating in a speed-dating session, and found that mindful men tended to receive higher attractiveness ratings from women.

Before the session began, 91 students were asked to fill out a mindfulness questionnaire in which they indicated how much they agreed with statements like:

* "I perceive my feelings and emotions without having to react to them."

* "I notice changes in my body, such as whether my breathing slows down or speeds up."

* "I'm good at finding the words to describe my feelings."

After each interaction with an opposite-sex partner, students privately indicated how "sexy" they found their partner and how much they'd like to date that person.

Results showed that men were generally more drawn to physically attractive women. (Independent coders had rated the students' attractiveness beforehand.) But women were generally more attracted to mindful men.

Play extreme sports (carefully)

A 2014 study led by researchers at the University of Alaska at Anchorage found that women are attracted to men who take what the researchers call "hunter-gatherer risks."

More than 230 undergrads filled out questionnaires about how attractive they would find a partner who engaged in certain risky behaviours, as opposed to a partner who engaged in low- or no-risk behaviours.

Hunter-gatherer risks included mountain biking, deep-sea scuba diving, and extreme rollerblading. "Modern" risks included plagiarising an academic paper, casually handling chemicals in a lab, and not updating the virus-protection software on your computer.

Low- and no-risk behaviours included biking along paved paths and carefully handling chemicals in a chemistry-lab class.

Results showed that women said they would be more attracted to men who engaged in hunter-gatherer risks - the kinds that were similar to risks faced by ancestral humans. Women said they would be less attracted to men who engaged in modern risks, which might seem just plain dumb.

Wear a scented deodorant

Simply knowing that you're wearing a new fragrance can make you act more confident, and even make you seem more attractive to other people.

In a small 2009 study published in the International Journal of Cosmetic Science, researchers gave one group of male undergraduates a spray with antimicrobial ingredients and fragrance oil, and provided another group with an unscented spray that didn't contain antimicrobial ingredients. Over the next few days, the men who used the scented spray reported higher self-confidence and felt more attractive.

The strange part? When a group of women were shown silent videos of the men, they found those who were wearing scented spray more attractive, even though they obviously couldn't smell them. The researchers determined that the men using the scented spray displayed more confident behavior, which in turn made them more attractive.

Chow down on garlic

The smell of garlic on your breath is generally regarded as an instant romance killer. But a recent series of studies, from researchers at Charles University and the National Institute of Mental Health in the Czech Republic and the University of Stirling in the United Kingdom, suggests a different story when it comes to body odor.

In one study, eight men ate a slice of bread with cheese and 12 grams of fresh garlic; another eight ate bread and cheese without any garlic. For the next 12 hours, the men wore cotton pads under their armpits and were instructed not to use any deodorants or fragrances.

The following day, all the men returned to the lab, where 40 women sniffed the pads and rated the odor on pleasantness, attractiveness, masculinity, and intensity. Results showed that the garlic group was rated more pleasant and attractive and less masculine and intense.

Do volunteer work

A 2013 study from UK researchers found that women find men more appealing when they do volunteer work.

About 30 women looked at a picture of a man with a brief description of his hobbies, which sometimes included volunteer work. The same procedure was repeated with about 30 men looking at a picture of a woman. Everyone rated how attractive they found the person pictured for a short- and long-term relationship.

Both genders rated the person pictured as more attractive for a long-term relationship when they were described as a volunteer - but the effect was stronger for women rating men.

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Show off your scars

That scar on your chin from when you fell off a bike could help you attract a mate.

In a 2009 study, researchers at the University of Liverpool and the University of Stirling took photos of 24 male and 24 female undergrads. They digitally manipulated half of the images so the subjects appeared to have facial scars - for example, a line on the person's forehead that looked like the result of an injury.

Then the researchers recruited another group of about 200 heterosexual male and female undergrads to rate all the people pictured based on attractiveness for both short- and long-term relationships.

Results showed that men with scars appeared slightly more attractive for short-term relationships than men without scars. Women, on the other hand, were perceived as equally attractive regardless of whether they had scarred faces.

Use open body language in your online dating photo

A 2016 study - from researchers at the University of California, Berkeley, Stanford University, the University of Texas at Austin, and Northwestern University - suggests that we're more attracted to people who display expansive body language.

In one experiment included in the study, the researchers created profiles for three men and three women on a GPS-based dating app.

In one set of profiles, the men and women were pictured in contractive positions - for example, by crossing their arms or hunching their shoulders.

In the other set of profiles, the same men and women were pictured in expansive positions, like holding their arms upward in a "V" or reaching out to grab something.

Results showed that people in expansive postures were selected as potential dates more often than those in contractive postures. This effect was slightly larger for women selecting men.

Look proud

A 2011 University of British Columbia study revealed a curious finding: Heterosexual men and women prefer different emotional expressions on potential mates.

In one experiment included in the study, researchers had nearly 900 North American adults look at photos of opposite-sex individuals online.

The researchers were specifically comparing people's perceptions of expressions of pride, happiness, shame, and neutrality (other people had already identified the emotion behind the expression in the photo). For women evaluating men, the most appealing expression was pride, and the least appealing was happiness.

Even weirder, an expression of shame was relatively attractive on both men and women.
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Weight loss surgery gets a bad rap. It's often viewed as a "quick fix" for those who don't have the drive or discipline to drop major pounds through healthy eating and exercise. But the truth is that weight loss surgery is a lot more complicated than that.

Formally known as bariatric surgery, weight loss surgery is a term used to describe many different types of procedures, which involve reapportioning or rerouting your stomach and intestines to reduce your appetite and facilitate digestion, resulting in significant weight loss. Within the medical community, the controversy surrounding bariatric surgery has been swirling for years. While most doctors will recommend that patients looking to lose weight should adopt major lifestyle changes before considering bariatric surgery, many experts agree that for some people, it is a viable option.

If your body mass index (BMI) is 35 or higher ( the official definition of obesity is 30 or higher) and if you have two or more obesity-related chronic diseases, like diabetes or high blood pressure, you might be a good candidate for the procedure. says Stacy Brethauer, M.D., a surgeon at Cleveland Clinic and president of the American Society for Metabolic and Bariatric Surgery, and your insurance will likely cover the procedure. If your BMI is 40 or higher, you qualify even if you aren't experiencing those other health issues.

"Bariatric surgery should not be the first option considered, but it should also not be the last resort," she adds.

Plus, if you fall into this category and have consistently failed to maintain weight loss after trying traditional methods in the the past, weight loss surgery might be for you.

"The truth is our bodies are designed to resist starvation, but they're not designed to lose weight," says Erik Dutson, M.D., an associate professor and bariatric surgeon at UCLA Medical Center. "Diet and exercise are critical to a healthy lifestyle, but when you look at the statistics and meta-analyses we have going back many years, you find 98 percent of patients who lose weight through diet and exercise gain it back within six months."

That said, any time you go under the knife, it comes with risks. The main question: Is the surgery right for you-and if so, do the risks outweigh the reward? If you've been debating, here is what you should know about the most common types of bariatric surgery and what to expect after the operation.

1. Sleeve Gastrectomy

A sleeve gastrectomy involves removing the top 80 percent of your stomach. "The top areas of the stomach are more involved with storage, while the bottom of the stomach serves as the grinder that sends food downstream to the intestines," Dr. Dutson explains. "So we're removing that top portion while leaving the bottom."

Since your stomach is much smaller following the procedure, it holds less food, causing you to feel full very quickly. The removal of the top half of the stomach also causes beneficial changes to hunger hormones and gut-brain communication.

"We've found that three weeks after the procedure, there is already a profound change in the way the brain responds to food and appetite," Dr. Dutson says.

For those with inflammatory bowel disease, other bowel issues, or prior operations, this procedure is usually the go-to option, Dr. Brethauer adds.

The Pros: Patients can expect to lose 100 pounds during the first year following a sleeve gastrectomy. It also requires a shorter hospital stay than other weight loss procedures.

The Cons: Sleeve gastrectomy is non-reversible and can potentially put you at risk for long-term vitamin deficiencies, according to the American Society for Metabolic and Bariatric Surgery (ASMBS).

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2. Gastric Bypass

Gastric bypass is slightly more complicated than a sleeve gastrectomy and is often considered the "gold standard" bariatric procedure, Dr. Dutson says.

The surgery involves separating the top 10 percent of your stomach from the bottom 90 percent. That small top portion is made into a "pouch," which is then connected directly to a middle portion of your small intestine. The remaining stomach and the top part of the small intestine is also tied into the small intestine farther down.

The part of your stomach that receives food is much smaller, leaving you feeling full very quickly. In fact, the food you eat will actually bypass most of your stomach and the upper part of your small intestine, causing you to absorb fewer calories, according to National Institute of Diabetes and Digestive Kidney Diseases.

By keeping the rest of the stomach and connecting it to the small intestine, your stomach continues to produce digestive enzymes and hormones, which mix in with the food farther down your GI tract, Dr. Dutson explains.

"For patients with diabetes or reflux disease, those two issues are managed a little better with gastric bypass," Dr. Brethauer adds.

The Pros: Gastric bypass can help you lose 60 to 80 percent of your excess weight. Patients typically continue to lose more weight in the long term than those receiving a sleeve gastrectomy, explains Dr. Brethauer.

The Cons: Because gastric bypass involves a little more rerouting and changing of your digestive anatomy, it comes with slightly higher risks. Those include ulcers or blockages, and also the unintended healing or closing-off of surgery connections, which could require emergency or follow-up procedures, says Dr. Dutson.

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3. LAP-BAND Surgery

Gastric band or LAP-BAND surgery involves installing a band around the top portion of your stomach to limit the amount of food you can consume.

The Pros: It doesn't require any cutting of the stomach or rerouting of the intestines, according to the ASMBS.

The Cons: While the surgery used to be popular, it is now seldom performed, Dr. Dutson says. "You heard a lot about it a decade ago, but in the long-term, we've learned it's not a good option for most patients," he explains.

Just 20 percent of patients experienced good results, while most had problems-including inadequate weight loss, or issues associated with the band shifting or "expanding" into surrounding organs, which can cause pain or, in very rare cases, even death.
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The surgery recovery process is intense: "Because the stomach has been cut, patients are usually on a liquid diet for two weeks while they're healing," Dr. Dutson says. After about 6 weeks, patients can go back to eating regular whole foods.

Over time, the remaining stomach will loosen a bit and allow for less restrictive eating, but post-op patients will always have to watch what they eat to ensure they're not sabotaging the surgery or failing to get the nutrients they need. All patients take multivitamins and, in some cases, protein supplements to ensure they're meeting their body's nutritional needs.

You're also at risk for complications. Hernias, bowel disorders, digestive issues (like diarrhea or vomiting), ulcers, and malnutrition are just a few of the potential downsides. Luckily, these complications are experienced by a small percentage of patients-just 1 to 2 percent, Dr. Brethauer says.

Bottom line: Bariatric surgery isn't a cure-all, or a way around a healthy diet and exercise. It does, however, allow traditional lifestyle improvements to work where they failed before, Dr. Dutson says.

The success of the surgery is largely up to you. "Even the most perfectly done operation will fail if patients don't get their act together," he says, but if you discuss it with your doctor, and he or she thinks you're a viable candidate, it might be worth careful consideration.

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You know, if someone told you in 8 th grade that science was going to help you get laid some day, I bet you you would have paid a heck of a lot more attention in class. Well, the bad news is that it's still highly unlikely that we're going to start teaching our kids social and attraction skills at a school level any time soon. But the good news is that science actually does have some answers as far as male-female attraction dynamics go.

Following are 8 traits, both physical and behavioral, that actual scientific research has found that women find attractive in men. These are not mere assumptions or opinions, but actual conclusions that behavioral scientists have come to following extensive research. And what's even better, they're actually traits that you can actively work on cultivating and improving.

Fact 1: Height matters

A 2014 research conducted by professors at Rice University and the University of Northern Texas found out that out of around 1000 Yahoo! Personal Dating ads, nearly 50% of women claimed that they'd prefer to date a man who's taller than they were. But how did the stereotype of TALL, dark and handsome come about? Well, social psychologists claim that most women are psychologically geared towards finding taller men attractive because most of our world's cultures regard tall men as embodiments of all that is masculine.

But some scientists believe that the reasons for this go even deeper. A group of researchers from the University of Utah published a study which puts forth the idea that a woman's preference for taller men actually dates back to our caveman days. In a time and age where physical protection of her and her potential offspring were integral to a woman, she would have been evolutionary geared to gravitate towards taller men who had a clear physical advantage in a confrontation. And although this advantage might seem a little less important in a modern day context, the researchers still believe that this evolutionary programming to find taller men more attractive is still deeply embedded in the female psyche.

But what if you aren't the most vertically blessed man out there? Do not despair. A group of Dutch researchers have found that at the end of the day what really matters is that you are taller than your intended object of affection.

In addition, remember that it also helps a great deal to develop good posture regardless of your height. Not only will standing straight with your shoulders back make you seem much taller, but it will also help you appear more confidant and dominant.

Fact 2: A bit of stubble helps

There's a reason why actors like George Clooney, Brat Pitt and Hugh Jackman rock the two-days-without-a-shave look. They understand that women dig a bit of stubble. It's one of the bad-boy trademarks that women have a soft (and wet) spot for.

In fact, a group of Australian researchers from The University of New South Wales conducted a survey with over 350 women on their preferences for male facial hair, and the overwhelming majority agreed that a bit of stubble was the way to go. Experts in human evolutionarily psychology even claim that from an evolutionary standpoint, men with a bit of stubble would have been considered more dominant, masculine, aggressive and socially mature.

Fact 3: A deep voice is more attractive

Ask any woman who she would rather hookup with, David Beckham or John Hamm (based on their voices alone) and the chances are that she'll pick the Don. But why is it that women in general seem to find men with deeper, huskier voices more attractive? Well, according to a bunch of researchers from University College London, it's because women perceive a deeper voice as a sign of a larger and stronger physicality; something that women are evolutionarily geared to find attractive.

But what if your voice isn't honey-in-your-ears huskey like, say, Javier Bardem? Well as a singer I can tell you that the voice is an incredibly versatile instrument that can be tailored quite a bit. So if you're not happy with the squeak that you're producing when you talk to women, sign up for a few voice training or speaking lessons, and you'll be surprised with how much versatility you'll find in your voice.

Read our articles on how to get a deeper voice and the mistakes which keeps you away from making your voice deeper.

Fact 4: An athletic body

Now before you hit the gym and load up on protein supplements, read ahead. Researchers have found that out of all the body shapes, women in general seem to prefer a "V-shaped" athletic body on a man; that is to say a strong and well-defined musculature on the upper body and a narrow and slim waist. So if you're lacking in this department, it might be time to get yourself an advantage with a good exercise and diet plan.

Wearing clothes that fit perfectly is another good idea. A well-tailored blazer will often give the impression of broad shoulders while V-neck t-shirts can help make your torso look slimmer.

Check out our articles on how to prepare your body for the beach season, get the perfect abs, and get motivated to work out.

Fact 5: Slower movements

Look at any archetypical alpha male character from a movie and the first thing that you'll notice is that they seem to do everything extra slow. Take any Clint Eastwood character for instance. He hardly says more than a few dozen words in a movie but he still looks like the coolest fucking guy ever. In fact, researchers have found that men who have slower movements and speech are often perceived as more at ease and confident, and thus, more attractive. So start paying attention to the speed at which you operate in day-to-day life. Slowing yourself down might feel unnatural at first, but with practice it will become second nature.

Fact 6: A sense of humor is a huge asset

You know the cliché is true; you really can laugh your way into a girl's pants. But don't just take our word for it. Go on any dating site and take a look at ten profiles, and I'll guarantee you that at least 8 of them will list a good sense of humor as an important trait in a potential partner. But why do funny guys get the girl? Well researchers from Northumbria University claim that humans perceive a good sense of humor as a sign of both intellect and social intelligence. And according to Kristofor McCarty, the head of the research project, women are evolutionarily geared to respond to signs of intelligence and social intelligence as an attraction factor. The logic behind this being that an intelligent man would be better able to provide for and protect a woman and her potential offspring.

But what if you're not that funny? Well here's the good news, developing a sense of humor in a lot of ways is like learning a new instrument. You can definitely learn and you'll only get better with practice. So to start off pick a few movie or television characters that you think are funny and start paying attention to what it is exactly that makes them funny. And if you're willing to go the full yard, maybe even sign up for an amateur comedy class. You'll be surprised at the results some wit and humor will get you with women.

Fact 7: S ocial value is extremly powerful

Let's face it; women don't really want to be with the guy who sits around his apartment playing Xbox all day. Women want to be with men who are the life of the party wherever they go. They want to be with men who always seem to have a flock of both men and women crowding around them, trying to be a part of his exciting life. This is social value.

Here's an example. In a research carried out in 2010, a group of researchers from Duke University asked a group of heterosexual volunteers to rate the attractiveness of men and women who were photographed by themselves. The researchers then showed a second group of volunteers pictures of the same men and women, but this time paired with a person of the opposite sex whom the volunteers told were their exes. Their findings? The men and women who were photographed next to a "hot" ex were almost always rated as more attractive by the volunteers from the second group, even if they weren't rated as highly by volunteers from the first group. You can read more about this effect here.

So how do you go about creating this "social value" and pre-selection? Well you can start off small. Instead of focusing on going out alone and trying to pickup attractive women, instead start off by going out with the aim of meeting new and interesting people. Cultivate friendships with people who add value to your life and add value to your social presence. Make and effort and soon enough you'll be the guy that everyone at the party knows and gets to skip the line at any club. You'll be the guy with "social value."

Fact 8: Leadership skills are attractive also in your social life

Imagine yourself living in the days of our cavemen ancestors, when we used to hunt woolly mammoths for dinner and fight off saber tooth tigers every other Sunday. In such an environment a cavewoman's best chance at survival and raising a healthy bunch of cavebabies would have been to get with the caveman that led the group.

And according to behavioral psychologists this evolutionarily programming is still very much in effect in women today. In a study carried out in 2014, researchers found that people who are a part of a specific group were much more likely to find the group's leader attractive than people who weren't in the group. For example, employees at a particular firm were found to be more likely to find the firm's CEO attractive than people outside the firm would.

So how do you go about cultivating this trait? You can start small. Leadership is in many ways an art that takes time to develop. Put yourself in situations where you're forced to take the reins. It could be something as simple as taking control of your group of friends or it could be something as ambitious as founding your own startup company. Once women see that you are able to effortlessly and elegantly take control of and inspire a group of people into action, they'll find you a hundred times more attractive.

So there you have it. 8 scientifically proven traits that women find attractive in men. And remember, as always knowledge is only useful as long as it's applied. So I hope that you work on developing and honing these 8 traits in your own personality and that you enjoy a significant increase in your successes with women.

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What Do Women Find Attractive in Men? - 8 Scientifically Proven Traits

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You know, if someone told you in 8 th grade that science was going to help you get laid some day, I bet you you would have paid a heck of a lot more attention in class.

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"...we are witnessing an extraordinary fetishization of muscles and muscularity in young men at precisely the moment that fewer traditionally male manual jobs exist..."

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The metrosexual - the antithesis of the alpha male, or modern society's  middle ground?

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Back in the 20th century Paul Newman, heart throb, didn't seem compelled to work on his pecs!

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They say age ain't nothing but a number, but there are some pretty startling stats about what happens to the human body as time passes. "As men age, they can lose five to seven pounds of muscle mass every 10 years starting in their 30s, and more as they approach their 50s," says Wayne Westcott, Ph.D., professor of exercise science at Quincy College, researcher, and author of more than 20 books on strength training. "They also gain about 10 pounds over the same time frame." Now, some math: If you go down five or so in muscle, but up 10 overall-that's 15-plus pounds of fat gained each decade. (Not to mention, hair loss becomes an issue.)

Anti-Aging News: Can Exercise Help You Stay Young? >>>

As soon as you hear "fat gain" you may be tempted to up your game on the treadmill to burn off a few extra calories. According to the science, though, your time is better spent in the weight room. A little more math: In people who don't do any resistance training, each pound of muscle burns about six calories per day; so if you have 80 pounds of muscle, that's 480 calories per day. Add in regular strength training of two or three sessions per week, and those worked-out, in-need-of-repair muscles can burn nine calories per day at rest-a 50 percent increase!-or 630 calories. And that doesn't count what you work off during the workout itself. Further, resistance training is the only way to reduce (and even reverse) that pesky muscle loss due to aging.

That doesn't mean you should skip your cardio, though. "With age, people experience a decrease in aerobic capacity, as much as 10 percent per decade beginning after age 25 to 30," says Tracy Hafen, exercise physiologist and co-author of "The RealAge Workout." "Regular cardiorespiratory exercise, both moderate and high intensity, increases aerobic capacity by 20 to 30 percent, wiping out 20 to 30 years' worth of aging effects."
The Anti-Aging Workout Routine
Pretty much any strength-training program will do the trick, though the research skews heavily (pun intended) toward workouts that center on multi-joint exercises-which also have testosterone-boosting effects-performed at 70 to 80 percent of one-rep max for eight to 12 reps, with two to four sets per muscle group, like the "build-your-own" routine Hafen designed here.

Also important is how you do those reps: "For the first two to three sets, count to two on the concentric (shortening, contracting phase) and two on the eccentric (lengthening, releasing phase)," she says. "For the last one to two sets, count to one on the concentric and three on the eccentric." Microtears in muscles occur more in the eccentric phase, so focusing on longer durations there will ultimately improve strength further.
Pack On Muscle With Eccentric Exercise >>>
Hafen also suggests keeping your muscles guessing by varying the order of the exercises from one week to the next; for example doing push/pull supersets one week, upper body/ lower body supersets one week, rotating through a circuit another week, doing a pyramid another week, or completing the set one exercise at a time with 30 to 60 seconds rest between them. You also don't have to do all of the exercises in every session, particularly those single-joint arc and arm moves.

To build your 10-exercise workout, choose:

- One squat exercise, such as goblet squat, back-loaded squat, or split squat (both sides)
- One lunge exercise, such as lateral, reverse, or front lunges
- Two upper-body "pull" exercises, such as standing one-arm cable row or bentover rows, pullups or lat pulldowns
- Two upper-body "push" exercises, such as standing two-arm cable chest press or bench press, overhead shoulder press or military press
- One arc exercise, such as chest or reverse fly, or lateral raise
- One arm curl exercise, such as concentration, hammer, or preacher curls
- One arm extension exercise, such as triceps kickbacks, pressdowns, or overhead extension
- One functional core exercise, such as woodchops, reverse woodchops, or med ball slams

"You only need to perform one set of functional core exercises, as the core is working throughout the workout," Hafen says.

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They say age ain't nothing but a number, but there are some pretty startling stats about what happens to the human body as time passes. "As men age, they can lose five to seven pounds of muscle mass every 10 years starting in their 30s, and more as they approach their 50s," says Wayne Westcott, Ph.D., professor of exercise science at Quincy College, researcher, and author of more than 20 books on strength training.

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What might cartoons have to say about the 21st century man? 

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What might cartoons have to say about the 21st century man? 

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Mr Incredible, man of the 21st century is hypermasculinized and ready to take on the world!  (Mrs Incredible takes on the outside world as well!)

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What might cartoons tell us about the 20th century man? 

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What might cartoons tell us about the 20th century man? 

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Fred Flintstone, slightly portly (and unashamedly so), takes a nap - this is the 1960s after all!  (His work is done.)  Gill et.al (2005) suggest that social and economic changes have displaced work as a source of identity.

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Gill, Rosalind, Henwood, Karen & McLean, Carl (2005) "Body projects and the regulation of normative masculinity", Body & Society, 11(2), 37-62.

Kimmel, Michael S. 2008. The gendered society. 3 ed. New York: New York : Oxford University Press.
Kong, T.S.K. (2012) 'Chinese Male Bodies: A Transnational Study of Masculinity and Sexuality', in Turner, B.S., Pitts, V. & Whang, S. (Ed’s) Routledge Handbook of Body Studies. Taylor & Francis, Florence, 289-305.

Morrison, Ken. 2003.
Marx Durkheim Weber. London: SAGE Publications Ltd.

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According to Gill, Henwood and McLean (2005), "The male body has become an object of the gaze rather than simply the bearer of the look...(and)... males may increasingly be defining themselves through their bodies..."