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Friends are so wonderful sometimes. They make you laugh, they go on adventures with you, and they're there for you when times are tough. But sometimes making new friends can feel really hard, whether you're trying to meet friends in school, online, or as an adult. Fortunately, making new friends doesn't have to be hard, especially once you know where to look and how to put yourself out there. Keep reading to learn foolproof tips and strategies for making new friends so you can start building the friendships you deserve.

1. Make yourself available. If you want to make friends, you first need to put yourself out there somehow in order to meet people. If you just sit alone, friends might come to you, but that's not likely because they might think you want to stay alone. For example, if you're still in school, sit somewhere with other people. It doesn't have to be a crowded table, but try to choose one with at least 2 other people.

Remember, friends rarely come knocking on your door while you sit at home playing on your laptop.

If you see opportunities to get out there and meet people, take them. For example, try going to social functions at school or work. If someone invites you to a party, go for it!

2. Join an organization or club to meet new people. This is a great way to find other people who have common interests. You don't necessarily need to have a lot of common interests with people in order to make friends with them. Some of the most rewarding friendships are between 2 people who don't have much in common at all. However, if you like a specific topic, try searching for a location where you can meet people who share that interest.

For example, you could join the science club at school, the marching band, a knitting group, or any other shared-interest group.

If you play instruments or sing, try joining a band or choir. Joining a sports team is a good option if you're the athletic type or just want to try something challenging and new!

If you're religious, a church, Mosque, temple, or other house of worship is a great place to start since you and the other people there will at least have a religious faith in common.

Tip: There are lots of online resources for finding groups that share your interests. Try looking at local groups on Meetup.com or browsing groups and events in your area on Facebook.

3. Try to connect with people you already know. Chances are, you already know a few people who could potentially become good friends. Consider trying to get to know your co-workers, classmates, or even people in your social media network.

For example, if you're a parent, you might reach out to the other parents of your child's classmates. Setting up a play-date for the kids can be a good opportunity for you to get to know some new adult friends.

1. Look for opportunities to talk to people. You can join a club, go to school, or go to church, but you still won't make friends if you don't actually talk to people. By the same token, you don't have to be involved with an organization to be social. Any time you talk to someone, you have a chance at making a lasting friend. Don't worry about saying anything special-just open a conversation by saying something friendly (like "Isn't it a gorgeous day?" or "That is an awesome shirt!") and see where it goes from there!

You can talk to anybody: the clerk at the video store, the person sitting next to you on public transit, or the person in front of you in the lunch line. Don't be too picky.

Having good manners goes a long way. You can start talking to people by simply greeting them with a "Good morning, how are you?" as you pass them by. Showing simple good manners by greeting people makes you seem more friendly and people tend to respond well to it. It's a great way to start communicating with people.

2. If you don't present a friendly and inviting appearance, people are less likely to be receptive to your friendship. Look people directly in the eye when they are speaking to you (or when you are speaking to them) and offer them a warm, friendly smile.

Do not squint, look bored, frown, or look deadpan. Try to avoid closed-off body language, like folding your arms or hanging out alone in a corner.

Did you know? Mirroring another person's body language is a great way to build rapport with them. While you're talking to someone, try to subtly imitate their expressions and gestures. For example, if they smile or lean forward while talking to you, do the same.

3. Try a variety of conversation starters. Once you find a person you're interested in becoming friends with, you need to initiate a conversation with that person. This will help you connect with them and start forming a friendship. There are a few different approaches you could try. For example:

Try making a comment about your immediate environment. The weather is a classic: "At least it's not raining like last week!"

Make a request for help: "Can you help me carry a few boxes, if you have a minute?" or "Can you help me decide which one of these is a better gift for my mom?" Alternatively, you could offer help. For example, "Hey, do you need a hand cleaning up?"

Give a compliment, such as, "That's a nice car," or "I love your shoes." Avoid making the compliment too personal, though, since that can make people uncomfortable.

Follow up immediately with a related question. For example, "Where'd you get those shoes? I've been looking for a pair like that."

4. Keep the conversation going with small talk. If the other person seems interested in continuing the conversation, try to keep it going by asking questions and offering a little information about yourself. It doesn't have to be anything profound or super personal. The important thing is to show that you can both listen and make interesting contributions to the conversation.

People enjoy talking about themselves and about how great they are or look. By listening more than you talk, you will come across as a desirable friend.

Show that you are listening actively by nodding, maintaining eye contact, and following up what they say with questions or comments.

For example, if the other person tells you about their job, you could say something like, "Oh, cool! How did you get into that?"

5. Ask them out for lunch or coffee. That will give you a better opportunity to talk and get to know each other a little bit better. Invite them to join you for coffee sometime and give them your email address or phone number. This gives the person the opportunity to contact you. They may or may not give you their information in return, but that's fine.

A good way to extend yourself is to say: "Well, I've got to go, but if you ever want to talk over lunch or coffee or anything like that, let me give you my number/e-mail address."

The other person will be more likely to meet up with you if you suggest a specific time and place. For example, you might say, "Hey, it was really fun chatting today! Would you like to get together at the Bagel Palace for coffee and a muffin on Saturday?"

If it feels awkward to invite them to a one-on-one get together, consider asking them to go to a group event with you, like a party or a movie night.

6. Pursue common interests. If you've discovered that the person you're talking to shares a common interest with you, ask them more about it and, if appropriate, whether they get together with others (in a club, for example) to pursue this interest. If so, this is a perfect opportunity to ask about joining them. If you clearly express interest (when? where? can anyone come?), they'll probably invite you.

If you have a club, band, church, or other group or activity that you think they might enjoy, take the opportunity to give them your number or email address and invite them to join you.

1. Put in your share of the work to keep the friendship going. Good friendships take a lot of work. If your friend is always checking up on you, initiating get-togethers, remembering your birthdays, and offering to spot you lunch, it's important that you try to do the same whenever you can.

Check in with yourself occasionally and ask if you're being the kind of friend you'd want to have.

On the other side of the coin, ask yourself if your friend is doing their part. If not, it might be time to have a heart-to-heart talk with your friend (but take care not to make accusations or lay all the blame on them if the friendship isn't going the way you want).

2. Be reliable. When you say you'll do something, do it. Be someone that people know that they can count on. If you embody these qualities in your treatment of others, it will attract others who appreciate reliability and who will be reliable in return.

If you and your friend agree to meet somewhere, don't be late, and do not stand them up.

If you're not going to make it on time or make it at all, call them as soon as you realize it. Apologize and ask to reschedule.

Don't make them wait for you unexpectedly; it's rude, and it is certainly not a good way to launch a potential friendship.

3. Be trustworthy. One of the best things about having a friend is that you have someone to whom you can talk about anything, even secrets that you hide from the rest of the world. Before people even feel comfortable opening up to you, however, you need to build trust.

The key to being a good confidante is the ability to keep secrets. It's no secret that you shouldn't tell other people things that were told to you in confidence.

Don't talk about your friend behind their back or let them down when they're depending on you. You can also build their trust by being honest and accountable.

4. Emphasize your good qualities. Project the good, unique qualities about yourself. Show others what makes you stand apart from the crowd. Talk about your interests and hobbies. Share a little bit about your background with new friends. Everyone has interesting stories to tell-don't be afraid to share yours. If you are a unique person, then show it.

A little humor always keeps conversation light and happy. People love to be around someone who makes them laugh.

Friendships work best when you and your friend feel comfortable just being yourselves. Embrace your best qualities and let them shine when you're with your friend, but don't try to be something you're not just to please or impress them.

5. Choose your friends wisely. As you befriend more people, you may find that some are easier to get along with than others. While you should always give people the benefit of the doubt, sometimes you may realize that certain friendships are unhealthy, such as if a person is obsessively needy or controlling towards you, is constantly critical, or introduces dangers or threats into your life. If this is the case, ease your way out of the friendship as gracefully as possible.

Cherish those friends you make who are a positive influence in your life, and do your best to be a positive influence in theirs.

Leaving a friendship can be difficult, even if it's unhealthy. If you have to end your friendship, give yourself time to grieve over the loss.

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How do you make friends when you are worried about what they will think of you?

Trudi Griffin is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Wisconsin specializing in Addictions and Mental Health. She provides therapy to people who struggle with addictions, mental health, and trauma in community health settings and private practice. She received her MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Marquette University in 2011.

First, people don't think about you as much as you think they do. Second, you cannot control what others think of you. Third, what they think of you is their business, not yours. Fourth, even if you know what they think about you, there is nothing you can do about it anyway. Just be you. If people do not think well of you, then you don't want to be around them anyway. If this is something that preoccupies you so much you can't make friends, talk to a therapist who can help you work past it.

How do you tell if people will be good or bad friends?

Trudi Griffin is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Wisconsin specializing in Addictions and Mental Health. She provides therapy to people who struggle with addictions, mental health, and trauma in community health settings and private practice. She received her MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Marquette University in 2011.

It is difficult to learn that until you know them better. One way to tell is by listening carefully to their stories. Do they talk about people they used to be friends with? Why are they no longer friends with that person? Sometimes that will give you clues to their character. Otherwise, pay attention to their actions as you get to know them and then make decisions about the time you spend with them. It is important to maintain boundaries with friends and those who overstep your boundaries without concern or apology are not people you want as friends.

You don't have to be a superstar to be a good friend. Try to be positive and friendly so that people feel good and appreciated when they're around you.

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When you get to know someone really well, there's bound to be conflict occasionally. If you get into a fight with a friend, don't blame them or lash out. Give them some space and apologize for your part in the disagreement.

Don't overly trust others. Remember that not everyone who calls themself a "friend" is a true friend. There are some "friends" who hide hypocrisy and unhealthy interests behind this mask.

This article was co-authored by Trudi Griffin, LPC, MS and by wikiHow staff writer, Megaera Lorenz, PhD. Trudi Griffin is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Wisconsin specializing in Addictions and Mental Health. She provides therapy to people who struggle with addictions, mental health, and trauma in community health settings and private practice. She received her MS in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Marquette University in 2011. This article has been viewed 9,928,366 times.

Updated: October 16, 2023

To make friends, join an organization, club, or sports team, since one of the best ways to make friends is to find people with similar interests. Try volunteering somewhere to meet potential friends who are passionate about the same causes as you are. If joining a group or volunteering is too far out of your comfort zone, try striking up conversations with people you see regularly, like someone you sit next to in class or the cashier at your favorite store. You could also try sitting with different people during lunch. It's OK if you're nervous to talk to new people. Just smile, stand up straight, and make eye contact so you seem friendly. Once you've talked a few times, try initiating a get-together by inviting them somewhere, like a sports game or a concert. After you start hanging out, you'll quickly become better friends! For more advice from our co-author, including specific pointers on how to ask someone to hang out, read on!

Thanks to all authors for creating a page that has been read 9,928,366 times.

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