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1.   My traditional Filipino upbringing entails the notion of ‘courtship before dating’.  Courtship means asking consent for a person to connect with someone with the intent of having a romantic relationshipꟷ the typical Filipino concept of “panliligaw.” On the other hand, dating means getting to know each other better and there’s exclusivity between two people.

2.   After reading the articles, I’ve learned that my notions about dating and courtship are far from what the articles convey. There a big difference between courtship and dating, especially regarding its view on marriage. Dating is not courtship. It is important for us to not use courtship and dating interchangeably.  We should not enter into these two things lightly.

3.   Intent. The key difference between courtship and dating lies on the intent. Courtship has marriage in mind as the ultimate goal. There’s exclusivity happening. Courting someone means that your find this person as a person you want to spend your life with. You commit yourself to him in a sense that you forsake others, not indefinitely but as courtship ensue. Dating is a form of entertainment. Dating someone means you spend time with the person without serious bearing or commitment. There’s no marriage in mind. It is more of a sampling process. Engagement means a person it set to marry someone; he/she already made a decision to marry.

4.   How the modern time understands and practices these concepts differs because it is dependent on someone’s upbringing and opinion regarding these matters. There are people who treat dating and courtship in a serious manner and there are people who don’t. However, to be honest, I observed that most people of our generation today lack the seriousness when it comes to dating and courtship. They treat these two as something they would enter for the sake of experience or the pressure of getting into a ‘relationship.’ Hence, I feel that they forget the concept of Christian courtship and dating. Dating and courtship now becomes a mean to satisfy and pleasure ourselves and of self-validation, rather than a mean for to know each other in a way that will lead us to marriage.

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1.    At first, I thought that courtship and dating equate the same thing. I thought that courtship was the process two people undergo so as to know each other better before officially dating—same notion as the Filipino concept of “panliligaw”. Both of these happen when two people decide to take on the challenge of building a deeper connection with each other as couples.

2.     I have learned that my assumption of how courtship and dating is defined is entirely different from what it truly means. My initial idea about the two was that one thing leads to another, as courtship leads to dating. I’ve learned that these two are completely different practices--with courtship having greater weight than dating as it has marriage in mind.

3.    What sets the two apart is their concept with respect to marriage—wherein courting someone mean that you value your exclusivity with this someone, commit, and have marriage in mind; whereas dating someone does not always mean that you plan on marrying in the future. Moreover, dating does not involve the commitment and responsibility that comes with establishing relationships. It is more of the immediate gratification of our desires and longing for companionship. In this connection, engagement is the time when people who are in a courtship decide to marry.

4.    I think today’s generation has varying motions with regards to these concepts. Most people nowadays willingly choose to not commit themselves up until marriage for varying reasons. Some of these reasons include their fear of commitment, their notion of building a family as something economically unwise, or simply because they find that they enjoy their freedom to date or to be single more than being exclusive with someone.  However, I still think that there are Christians upholding the value of courtship with response to God’s call for us to marry. It is a challenge for us, therefore, to contemplate how the world has changed our views with regards to courtship and marriage.

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1. I think courtship as a whole means getting to know a person more and knowing it that person's intention towards you is good. Furthermore, it is the period wherein the both of you are showing your desires and love and giving evidences that it is real. While dating for me is the time where you are more attached to each other and you have that "trust" gained while in the period of courtship.

2. It was a shock that courtship and dating in the article was so different. It was an eye opener that in courting the end goal is marriage which means that the two persons involve should be serious with their intentions. While dating was just for pleasure and no serious commitments.

3. Courtship and dating's main difference is THE GOAL because courtship is eyeing for marriage while dating is just the surface feeling and playing around.

4. I believe that the modern generation, the millenials somehow lacks the seriousness in relationship during these times because you'll see that many relationships now last just for a few days or months if lucky. I wish that pur generation would me more inclined to the relationship  that lasts and that is eyeing for marriage because that is the main reason for it.

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1. Your preconceived notions / definition of what is courtship and dating (before you read the articles)

Before reading the context/articles I see dating as a infatuation thing for the teenagers. It is just a casual thing where you go on a lunch or dinner date and you gave flowers and chocolates and then that’s it you’re now dating. I view it as a very simple thing. Dating and courtship for me is getting to know your chosen partner, it is where you know him/her deeply. And through courtship, you’ll see if they’re serious or not.

2. What new learning / understanding have you gained?

I learned that dating is a serious thing and not just simple. It is the foundation of every relationship. I learned that the Church’s dating and courtship is really serious and it is like a covenant.

3. What are the key differences between Christian coutship / dating and engagement?

Biblical courtship, also known as Christian courtship is a conservative Christian alternative to dating. "Courtship" is a rather outdated word used to describe the activities that occur when a couple is past the dating stage and in a more serious stage of their relationship. It happens before the couple becomes engaged or married and is usually meant to describe when a man is attempting to woo a woman, with marriage as the end goal.

Dating has a more informal connotation and implies that the couple is not necessarily exclusive.

An engagement, betrothal, or fiancer is a promise to wed, and also the period of time between a marriage proposal and a marriage.

4. How do you think modern time understand and practice these concepts?

I think the modern time understands these concepts just the way we did, as a Christian we are thought by our parents about how important marriage is in a very simple way. I think the modern times will value it in a respectable manner.

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1. Your preconceived notions / definitions of what is courtship and dating (before you read the articles)

Before I've encountered the articles dating for me is a casual interaction with the opposite gender with the mere intention of getting to know each other and exploring each other's traits branching the relationship out to a potential partner or an amazing friend, while courting is a more aggressive approach of getting to know. courting is where either person woo the other one with the same intention as dating which is to explore the potential partner's traits to branch their relationship to being partners or just friends.

2.What new learning / understanding you gained?

I learned that my viewpoint about dating and courtship isn't that far off to the ideas of dating and courtship of the Church. There may be several differences, I believed dating and courtship can be in 2 succession stages, for example after that casual date the guy tries to woo the woman thus the courtship stage. Apparently it is not in a succession stage. Learning new things everyday :)

3. What are the key differences between Christian courtship / dating and engagement.

Christian courtship - Where a person is ready to settle in so he/she undergo courtship with people that he/she thinks as a potential partner. The intention is serious and the goal is to find a person to marry. The courtship stage spans only a short period of time, won't last on years due to the temptations of flesh may bring to the lovers.

Dating - Dating is a casual interaction with other person. Yeah it may sound the same as Christian courtship but dating on our society is more of an entertainment for us. It can includes sinful sex act, pleasuring each other and sees where it goes after that. It is very different of Christian courtship where all remain pure.

engagement - Engagement is where you just tell the person you want to marry right now. That's where the word engaged (A status nearing marriage) incorporated.

4.  How do you think modern time understand and practice these concepts

Modern time understand these concepts similarly to mine. Where we clearly do not understand fully Christian courtship. as Dating and engagement is just as I've listed above. to summarize it all. The society thinks dating is a casual get to know, courtship is a more aggressive approach of get to know (not knowing the real christian way of courtship), and finally engagement is a step before marriage.

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1. Your preconceived notions/ definition of what is courtship and dating ( before you read the articles)

Courtship happens first before dating because in courtship this involves acts of doing something for another person in a romantic way to deepen their relationship that eventually leads to dating when they have established a closely intimate relationship.

2. What new learning/ understanding have you gained?

I learned that there is a big difference between courtship and dating. I understood from the articles that marriage should always be kept in mind and it is the end goal for courtship while for dating it can just be done to satisfy pleasure without upholding serious commitments.

3. What are the key differences between Christian courtship/ dating and engagement

Courtship is inclined to emphasize on marriage as the main goal that involves Christian values in fulfilling commitments to the person that he/she thinks is the right person to consider as his/her wife or husband in the future. Dating is just used for entertainment purposes to satisfy worldly desires. Engagement is when the person has decided that he or she wants to marry.

4. How do you think modern time understand and practice these concepts

I think that people in the modern time does not fully utilize and comprehend the concepts of Christian courtship and dating because I see that people nowadays neglect practicing this type of Christian courtship but instead practices more the concept of dating that is just for seeking pleasure without thinking about nourishing the commitments they established. People tend to forget in their relationships the importance of Christian values in fulfilling their commitments with one another which leads to problems or conflicts in their relationships. I also think that many people in the modern time today view relationships as a worldly tool for satisfying temporary satisfaction instead of forming these relationships with Christian values to achieve a more permanent satisfaction with the grace of God.

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Discuss nalang natin dito thoughts natinnn ((:

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Here are the links:
1.    https://www.catholicnewsagency.com/column/the-difference-between-courtship-and-dating-1276

2.  https://tradcatfem.com/2017/07/27/stages-of-traditional-catholic-courtship/

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Hi guys!
Bale nag post si ma'am neto:

There will be no class on Friday, April 26.  In lieu of class, please read, understand  and study the following online articles and attached powerpoint.  This lesson will be included in your quizzes and finals.  So please make sure you do this activity conscientiously.

Then with your Class Activity groups, create a padlet to talk and discuss  with one another:

1. Your preconceived notions/ definition of what is courtship and dating ( before you read the articles)

2.  What new learning/ understanding have you gained?

3. What are the key differences between Christian courtship/ dating and engagement

4.  How do you think modern time understand and practice these concepts