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Parenting is an incredibly rewarding and challenging experience.

At times, it can feel like a real roller coaster of emotions - particularly if your child or young person is behaving in ways that feel difficult to manage or understand.

If your child's behaviour is challenging at the moment, it might feel exhausting. But things can change. With support, both of you can experience a more positive family life. On this page, we've got lots of ideas and strategies to help you deal with difficult moments.

What is challenging behaviour?

Most children and young people will behave in challenging ways at some point. Feeling upset, angry, stressed or disappointed is a normal part of life. Because we develop our ability to manage our emotions as we grow up, children and young people do sometimes act out when they're going through big feelings. In response to their emotions, they may display a range of behaviours. It's normal for younger children to hit or 'have a tantrum' sometimes. And it's normal for teenagers to shout, lash out or storm out sometimes. Most children and teenagers will also push boundaries as they test their independence.

But sometimes, challenging behaviour can become more frequent and difficult to deal with. It may start to have an impact on someone's day-to-day quality of life, on relationships and learning at school, and on other family members.

Examples of challenging behaviour include:

having lots of angry outbursts or 'tantrums'

regularly shouting, swearing, hitting, biting or kicking

kicking, hitting, smashing or damaging things in the home

regularly refusing boundaries and routines, including not wanting to respond to reasonable requests

being impulsive and taking physical risks

blaming others for their behaviour

bullying or being unkind towards others

persistently getting into trouble at school

refusing to engage in conversations about what's going on

Why do children and young people behave in challenging ways?

An iceberg submerged in water, with the text 'When we seem angry or aggressive, there are often other feelings hidden under the surface'. The words Angry and Aggressive are displayed on the section of the iceberg above the water, and the words Worried, Hurt, Scared, Lonely, Stressed, Overwhelmed, Ashamed, Ignored, Sad are displayed on the iceberg below the water.

The way your child behaves is a communication about how they're feeling.

When your child is acting out, it can be helpful to think about the image of an iceberg. We only see the top of an iceberg because most of it is underwater. Similarly, when your child is behaving in challenging ways, there will be feelings going on under the surface that you cannot see. Your child may not be aware of these feelings and may need your help to talk about them.

Underneath their behaviour, a child or young person may be feeling angry, tired, stressed, anxious, confused, hurt, jealous, bored or something else. Whatever's going on, try to remember that the behaviour you see on the surface is not the whole story.

Talking to your child about their behaviour

If your child is acting out, starting a conversation about what's going on can often feel like the hardest bit. Your child might not want to talk, or they might find it hard to recognise that there is a problem.

Starting a conversation while doing an activity together is a good strategy to try. This can help your child to relax by making it feel like less of a 'big chat'. Depending on your child's age, you could go for a walk, cook or bake together, or do something creative like colouring. Or you could start a conversation while travelling somewhere together.

If your child cannot talk at the moment, you could start a conversation by text or write them a letter instead.

Whether you're talking in-person or in another way, our tips below can help you to have a positive conversation with your child.

Try to use simple phrases such as:

"I notice there is a lot of shouting happening."

"I think something might be upsetting you."

"I feel worried you're not happy."

"I need you to know you can talk to me about what's going on."

Be specific about the behaviour you have noticed, without using labels or negative words such as 'naughty', 'bad behaviour' or 'horrible'.

Tell your child that it's normal to feel angry, frustrated or upset, but it's not okay to express it in this way.

Helping your child to manage their behaviour

Having some behaviour management strategies in mind can help you to feel more confident. Below are some things you can try to help your child manage their behaviour. Have a go at some different strategies until you find what works for you and your child. Be patient if new strategies do not seem to work straightaway. It often does take a bit of time for change to happen, and for your child to get used to things.

Remembering to explain why can help - so rather than just shouting 'sit down' at the table, I try to let them know that I'd like them to sit down so we can enjoy eating and that we can go and play when we've finished.

Challenging behaviour is exhausting and demoralising. In our family it often leads to everyone feeling less positive and only picking out the negative behaviours, which is so hard not to do. When we notice that we have all gotten stuck in a negative rut, we make an effort to pick up on and name some positives, however small, and this helps us move through a difficult time.

Depending on their age, some of these strategies might help your child to calm down:

drawing or painting

doing something active like running or their favourite sport

listening to music

having some time alone

reading a book

writing

cooking or baking

making something out of playdough or Lego

Having a list of coping strategies will help them to build up a bank of tools they can use when they're struggling.

Reading stories together that talk about feelings has helped my child get used to the words - giving them a way to talk about positive and difficult things.

It's completely normal to feel frustrated, angry, overwhelmed or hurt when your child is behaving in challenging ways. But try not to react or argue back, as this will only escalate the situation.

If you feel yourself running out of patience and it is safe to do so, it's okay to walk away for a few minutes to calm down. This is actually a positive strategy your child can learn from you when they see you doing it. After a particular incident, make sure both of you have some space before you try to talk about what has happened.

Finding professional support for your child

A counsellor or therapist can support your child to understand and manage their feelings and behaviour. Counsellors working with younger children will usually do this through play and arts activities.

Have a look at our guide to counselling and therapy to find out how you can access services in your area.

Be open with the school about the challenges you are experiencing and ask them for advice. Lots of primary and secondary schools provide extra support like mentoring, pastoral check-ins, learning support, peer buddying, and clubs and activities.

Whether they are at primary or secondary school, you might have noticed that something at school is triggering your child's behaviour. This could be their relationships with their peers, their schoolwork or learning, or the school environment. If this is the case, work with the school to address this. You can find information and advice to help you do this in our guide to school anxiety.

If you are worried that your child is behaving in challenging ways because they are struggling with their mental health, it's a good idea to speak to a GP. If you have a younger child, you can speak to the GP yourself to get information and advice. If you have a teenager, you can encourage them to make an appointment or ask them to go to an appointment with you.

The GP can discuss what's happening and make suggestions for what might help. They can also make a referral to the NHS mental health service for children and young people, called CAMHS.

You can find out more about how GPs can help in our guide to getting support from the GP.

Sometimes, children and young people behave in challenging ways when they have an additional need, neurodiverse condition, learning disability or developmental difficulty that has not been recognised. This can include dyslexia, dyspraxia, autism, ADHD, or difficulties hearing or speaking. In this situation, they may be acting out because their needs are not understood at home or school.

If you think your child might have an additional need, speak to your GP, or to your child's teacher, pastoral lead or SENCO. They can make a referral for an assessment. It's helpful to make a log of the behaviour you have noticed so that you can provide evidence when communicating with professionals.

If your child is diagnosed with an additional need, you can ask the professionals supporting them about parenting strategies that will best suit them.

You can find out more about the support available in our guide to getting mental health support.

Looking after yourself

Supporting a child who is behaving in challenging ways can be an exhausting task. If things are tough at the moment, don't be hard on yourself or your abilities as a parent. While it's normal to feel upset when your child is acting out, often it is not about you. Like us, children and young people take things out on those they feel closest to and safest with. So try not to take it personally. Keep doing the things that help you re-charge and ask for support when you need it.

You might also find it helpful to reach out to other parents. It can be very reassuring to hear what they are struggling with and how they handle difficult situations. They can also be someone who gets it when you need to talk.

You can connect with other parents by:

reaching out to family and friends

accessing peer and group parent support through Parenting Mental Health

joining Facebook groups or other online groups

setting up your own parent support group using our guide

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Useful helplines and websites

While we take care to ensure that the organisations we signpost to provide high quality information and advice, we cannot take responsibility for any specific pieces of advice they may offer. We encourage parents and carers to always explore the website of a linked service or organisation to understand who they are and what support they offer before engaging with them.
This page was reviewed in July 2023. It was created with parents and carers with lived experience of supporting their child or young person with challenging behaviour. We will next review the page in 2026. YoungMinds is a proud member of PIF TICK - the UK's quality mark for trusted health information.
Whether you love the page or think something is missing, we appreciate your feedback. It all helps us to support more young people with their mental health.

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Respect uses the term Child and Adolescent to Parent Violence and Abuse (CAPVA) to describe the dynamic where a young person (8 years -18 years) engages in repeated abusive behaviour towards a parent or adult carer.

Abusive behaviour can include physical violence; emotional, economic or sexual abuse; and coercive control. It may also include damage to property and abuse towards other family members, particularly siblings.
Read our full definition here
How does CAPVA impact families?

Experiencing CAPVA can be devastating. Families report high levels of distress, and a negative impact on the mental health of all those involved.

Recent research from London's Violence Reduction Unit found that:

40% of those experiencing CAPVA refuse to report it.

The majority of CAPVA cases involve boys in late adolescence and their mothers, and is most likely to be physical violence.

Parents/carers interviewed said they only contacted the police at crisis points when they felt they had no other choice and were afraid for their physical safety.

All parents/carers affected said they had experienced multiple incidents of violence before reaching crisis point.

How common is CAPVA?

CAPVA is known as a hidden harm. It's common for parents and young people to feel shame about this behaviour, and many are scared that their child will be criminalised or removed from the family. As a result, CAPVA incidents often go unreported.

Adding to this, there isn't a universally agreed definition for CAPVA. This means that when families do report, the recording of incidents is inconsistent across agencies.
What we do know is:

In a youth offending sample, Respect and Numbers for Good found the prevalence of CAPVA in caseloads were between 21 and 27%, and between 64 and 67% of police Domestic Abuse incidents where the suspect was under 18. There were also significant levels of CAPVA reported in Children's Social Care, including Early Help caseloads.

Between 6 March 2019 and 4 January 2020, Northumbria police responded to an average of two incidents of CAPVA per day (515 total).

In a 2021 report commissioned by the Domestic Abuse Commissioner, we called for a shared definition to improve measurements of prevalence and access to support. This call was supported further by research from London's Violence Reduction Unit.

How does Respect address CAPVA?

The Respect Young People's Programme (RYPP) is a well-evidenced intervention designed to address CAPVA. Our team trains groups of professionals to deliver the programme.

Read more about the RYPP

Where can families access support with CAPVA?

Respect lists CAPVA support providers in a specialist directory for parents and practitioners.

Holes in the Wall - A blog focusing on CAPVA created by social worker and CAPVA expert, Helen Bonnick. The blog is aimed at parents, professionals and academics.

CAPA First Response - An organisation focusing on CAPVA, providing information and support for parents and professionals.

Family Lives - An organisation providing information and support around CAPVA.

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Sometimes bullying can be hard to describe, especially if you're being bullied by friends.

If someone's trying to make you feel bad, that's not okay. We're here to help.

Sometimes bullying can be harassment or threatening behaviour, which is against the law. So if someone keeps making you feel scared on purpose, what they're doing could be illegal.

Harassment can include someone:

lying to you about who they are

threatening to hurt you

sending nasty or offensive messages to you or about you.

Telling someone how you feel can be tough, but it can really help you feel less alone.

You don't need to tell someone everything at once. You could start by choosing one person you trust to talk to. If you can't think of anyone, you can always talk to us.

If you're struggling to say what's happening out loud, you could try:

Taking your mind off what's happening can help you have more energy to cope when things are difficult.

Why not try:

Taking a break from checking your messages
Try muting your notifications and doing something else if people are messaging you online, even if it's just for a short time.

Going for a walk
If you feel it's safe to, go for a walk or run in the park. Or try playing sports.

Creating a maze
Focus on making it as big or complex as you want. If you want to challenge yourself, try making one without taking your pen off the paper.

Distracting yourself right now

If you're struggling with your feelings, try moving away from anything that might distract you and take a few deep breaths. Focus on what's around you and name:

5 things you can see

4 things you can touch or feel

3 things you can hear

2 things you can smell

1 thing you can taste

Bottling up your feelings can make them hard to cope with. But there are lots of ways you can let them out. Why not try:

Listening to music
Try listening to music that matches how you feel. Or if you want to distract yourself, listen to music that makes you happy or a podcast.

Writing a poem
Write a poem about how you're feeling now. Or keep your mind busy by coming up with limericks or rhyming poems.

Making a comic book
You could make a comic about what's happening, what you'd like to happen or something completely different.

Bullying can have a big effect on your confidence. You might be worried about going out or spending time with people, which can really affect your mental health.

Doing something small every day can really help you to feel better and build your confidence.
Feeling better with positive statements
Saying positive statements to yourself can help when you're feeling low or like the bullying's your fault. You could say them out loud or in your head.

Focus on positive things happening now and try making some up yourself. Or use some of the examples below:

"The bullying isn't my fault"

"I deserve to have a life without bullying"

"Today is only one day"

"Things can change"

"I'm strong enough to keep trying".

Making sure you have a healthy routine and taking care of yourself can have a big impact on your mental health.

Having a healthy routine includes:

making sure you get enough sleep

eating healthily and not having too much junk food

doing something every day that makes you feel good or proud

spending time with people who make you happy

exercising or spending time outside.

Your mental health is just as important as your physical health. And if you're worried about it, it's important to get support.

You can talk to your doctor about anything you might be feeling. Big or small. If you're not sure where to start, you can use sites like DocReady to help make a list of your symptoms.

Self-harm and suicide
Lots of young people talk to us about feeling suicidal and wanting to self-harm. If you're feeling this way, it's good to tell your doctor about it or you can always talk to us.

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Let them know you're there for them
Listening and letting someone who's being bullied know you're there if they want to chat can make a massive difference. Chatting to them regularly and saying you're there for them can help them feel less alone.

Help them to get support
You could offer to go with them to report the bullying and help them think about what they want to say. Or you could help them report it on social media.

Think before you like or comment on something
Liking, sharing or commenting on a post designed to bully someone can make it more popular and visible, even if you're not supporting it. Don't respond to a post, even if you're not sure if it's meant to bully someone.

Help to distract them
Help them to take their mind off things for a short while. You could watch a film, play sports or a game together.

Be positive around people
Whether it's posting positive things online, or being friendly to people at school, being positive can help lots of people to feel better.

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CAMHS is offering various face-to-face sessions across Hampshire facilitated by clinical professionals.

Information & Advice Drop-ins (Winchester)

Speak directly with CAMHS clinicians to ask questions and access mental health resources.

Dates: 1 April, 6 May, 3 June, and 1 July 2026

P.A.C.E. (Parent and Carer Events)

Designed to help families understand and support the various needs and challenges young people may face.

16 April 2026: Eastleigh

8 May 2026: Lyndhurst

25 June 2026: Andover

Specialized Training Days

Parent & Carer Training (Chandler's Ford): 15 May 2026. A full day focusing on parental emotional needs, guilt, and acceptance while supporting a child’s mental health.

Trauma Training (Basingstoke): 4 June 2026. Understanding how trauma impacts a young person's brain and behaviour.

How to Book: Visit the CAMHS events page at https://hampshirecamhs.nhs.uk/events/

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CAMHS is offering various face-to-face sessions across Hampshire facilitated by clinical professionals.

Information & Advice Drop-ins (Winchester)

Speak directly with CAMHS clinicians to ask questions and access mental health resources.

Dates: 1 April, 6 May, 3 June, and 1 July 2026

P.A.C.E. (Parent and Carer Events)

Designed to help families understand and support the various needs and challenges young people may face.

16 April 2026: Eastleigh

8 May 2026: Lyndhurst

25 June 2026: Andover

Specialized Training Days

Parent & Carer Training (Chandler's Ford): 15 May 2026. A full day focusing on parental emotional needs, guilt, and acceptance while supporting a child’s mental health.

Trauma Training (Basingstoke): 4 June 2026. Understanding how trauma impacts a young person's brain and behaviour.

How to Book: Visit the CAMHS events page at https://hampshirecamhs.nhs.uk/events/

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Raising Resilient Children: Tuesdays, 21 April – 19 May (7:30pm–9pm). Focuses on building strong relationships and independence.

Stepping Into School: Tuesdays, 28 April – 19 May (10am–11:30am). Covers school readiness, early skills, and building confidence.

Positive Parenting: Mondays, 8 June – 6 July (7:30pm–9pm). Strategies for positive relationships and managing behaviour.

How to Book: Visit the Hampshire County Council Online Shop. For enquiries regarding waiting lists, email learninginlibraries@hants.gov.uk.

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Free online courses for ALL parents, parents-to-be, carers, grandparents and teens living in Hampshire. Plus courses for professionals working with children.

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The course consists of six workshops, lasting up to two or three hours, providing learning, support and advice on various aspects of being autistic. This can be pre, during or post your child’s assessment/diagnosis. The workshops are open to family members and others closely associated with the care and support of the child. Professionals may only attend in their capacity as parents or carers.

Each session will cover a different area with the aim of increasing understanding of your child’s perception of the world, and how this may show itself in how they react to everyday situations.

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Autism Hampshire offers workshops for families of autistic children and young people, which are funded by the local councils and CPD accredited.

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Understanding your child with additional needs (free online course)

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Understanding your child with additional needs (free online course)

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Peer Support and Online Development (POD) for carers is a space designed for people who are supporting someone else with an eating disorder, featuring:

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Understanding Emotionally Based School Avoidance: 1.5hour workshop

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Understanding Emotionally Based School Avoidance: 1.5hour workshop

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Understanding emotionally based school avoidance seminar

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Fight Flight Freeze – A Guide to Anxiety for Kids

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The Frankie Service: therapeutic counselling to Children and Young People 0-18yrs who are victims of sexual abuse, sexual exploitation or female genital mutilation

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The Frankie Service: therapeutic counselling to Children and Young People 0-18yrs who are victims of sexual abuse, sexual exploitation or female genital mutilation

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The Frankie Service will provide therapeutic counselling to Children and Young people aged 0-18 years, and play therapy for children who are victims of sexual abuse, sexual exploitation or female genital mutilation.

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We Stand - supports non-abusing parents and carers whose children have been sexually abused.

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We Stand - supports non-abusing parents and carers whose children have been sexually abused.

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The Victim Care Service provides free, confidential support for victims of crime who are residents of Hampshire and the Isle of Wight aged 4 upwards. Our aim is to help you cope and recover from the effects of crime, regardless of whether or not you have reported to the police.

Funded by the Police and Crime Commissioner for Hampshire and the Isle of Wight, the Victim Care Service is delivered by Victim Support, the independent charity for people affected by crime and traumatic events in England and Wales.

You do not have to report a crime to the police to use the service.

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Hampshire Victim Care - For victims and witnesses in Hampshire and the Isle of Wight

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The Victim Care Service provides free, confidential support for victims of crime who are residents of Hampshire and the Isle of Wight aged 4 upwards. Our aim is to help you cope and recover from the effects of crime, regardless of whether or not you have reported to the police.

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Victim Support is here to help anyone affected by crime. You can talk to us whether or not the police or criminal justice system are involved

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We help all those affected by domestic abuse by providing innovative and unique services. We work to ensure that victims are supported to recover and perpetrators are supported to change their behaviour.

Do you need support and advice or safe and secure accommodation?

We offer a confidential support service, simply call or email today:

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If it is unsafe for you to speak on the phone, after dialling 999 just press 55 for the silent solution.

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Not Fine in School is a parent-led organisation empowering families & raising awareness of school attendance barriers (school refusal/ anxiety/ SEND/ bullying)

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Do you need some support responding to an EHCP or a Working Document? Join one of our online clinics where we'll guide you through the process.

Impartial Special Educational Needs and Disability Information, Advice and Support (SENDIASS) in Hampshire

Hampshire SENDIASS is an impartial Special Educational Needs and Disability Information, Advice and Support Service (SENDIASS) that aims to make a positive and lasting difference for children and young people with special educational needs and/or disability (SEND) and their parents and carers. We do this by providing timely confidential, impartial information, advice and support through our online resources, at events and workshops, via our helpline service and through individual casework.

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Hampshire SENDIASS is provided by Polaris Children's Services, part of a leading Children's Services Group with over 24 years of experience in supporting children, young people and their families to build brighter futures.

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starving the anxiety gremlin: a cognitive behavioural therapy workbook on anxiety management for young people: 1 (gremlin and thief cbt workbooks)

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Order the Book!

1. Transforming What-iffing

2. Passing through Panic

3. Conquering Overwhelm

4. Navigating Friendships

5. Activate your P.O.W.E.R.

"A tween's first-aid kit for the worry, anxiety, panic, and stress epidemics facing our youth." - Sophia, school counselor

"This book described my students to a tee! I see avoidant behavior in my classroom so often, where my students are afraid to try new things, speak up, or even show up! Reading Superpowered helped me understand how to coach them toward greater confidence and resilience." - Annette, high school SPED

"What a fabulous first-aid book for those in the trenches of the classroom, who see first hand the uptick in anxiety and the effects it is having. I'll be strongly recommending this book to my colleagues." - John, 8th grade math teacher

"I feel like I now understand my ninth graders better than ever before. What most inspired me was the discussion on growth-mindset. I'm eager to apply what I've learned and see if I can help some of my struggling students re-engage with their work." - Michael, 9th grade humanities teacher

"Superpowered can talk to and encourage my son in ways I always wished I could, but didn't know how." - Edgar, a father of three

"We must do a better job of meeting the social and emotional learning needs of our youth, and this book is a great place to start. What does it matter if our students have mastered long-division and persuasive writing yet have no sense of self-worth, confidence, or innate motivation? - Patrice, middle school teacher

"I have used GoZen! Online Programs at my school for three years with much success. Now I have the hard-copy version at my fingertips that will help me find new ways to connect with my students." - Kelsey, school counselor

"Perfect tool for this mom of three kids who are struggling with confidence, fear and anxiety issues. My new parent guidebook for answers! This is the What to Expect When You're Expecting for your older babies" - Julie, relieved mom of a 10, 12 and 13 year old

"Now I know that feeling sick about going to school and feeling nervous around my friends doesn't mean I'm broken. Now I have Superpowers to help me be okay." - Lilly, 9 years old

"This is the best teacher training I've received in years, hands down. I feel like I was directly placed in the shoes and minds of my students, and the insight I've gained is invaluable." - Jennifer, 6th grade teacher

"Superpowered helps people of all ages understand a little more about what goes on inside their head on a day to day basis. It helps us tackle our thoughts and feelings with healthier, more mindful strategies, and it's all packaged in a humane, truthful, and entertaining way." - Audrey, 18 year old college student

"I go back to Superpowered regularly to find tools for whatever hurts that day." - Lacey, middle school student
"Superpowered is incredible! I wish I had this book as a kid! As a child I felt so lost and misunderstood with my own generalized/social anxiety, and this would have helped me feel more seen. Written using soft, supportive, and encouraging language, Superpowered helps my students show up as themselves." - Kelly, Certified School Psychologist

"Whether you are struggling with anxiety, low self-esteem or negative-self talk... this book will change your life. Very easy to understand and breaks down complex anxiety into strength-based strategies!" - Clare, 4th grade teacher

"As a therapist, I found the descriptions of anxiety in Superpowered are very digestible, relatable and hopeful. I love the direct quotes and poems from other kids, which helps students connect with their peers and makes them feel less alone. The exercises help kids open up and discuss their own thoughts and feelings, knowing there are others out there who feel the same as they do." - Noelle, school counselor

Order the Book!

Yes! You can order the book through your local Amazon retailer. Make sure you check their latest shipping guidelines. 🙂

The book is for ages 8-15 (approximately). The book has scenarios that resonate with kids of a variety of ages. We recommend reading along with your kids, but it's certainly a book they can read (and write in) on their own!

We're happy to help. Just email us at go@gozen.com and we'll get right back to you.

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SUPERPOWERED: Transform Anxiety into Resilience for Kids & Teens

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Order the Book! 1. Transforming What-iffing 2. Passing through Panic 3. Conquering Overwhelm 4. Navigating Friendships 5. Activate your P.O.W.E.R. "A tween's first-aid kit for the worry, anxiety, panic, and stress epidemics facing our youth." - Sophia, school counselor "This book described my students to a tee!

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Sometimes, being a young carer can get too much to deal with on your own. Talk to your teacher, school nurse, college counsellor or GP if you're having any of these feelings:

feeling stressed by too much responsibility

feeling physically tired

feeling worried about your relative's health

struggling to cope with other people's mood

having no time for yourself or your homework

missing school

feeling embarrassed about your situation

being bullied

experiencing low self-esteem, anxiety, anger or guilt

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Young Carers | Mental Health Tips for Young Carers

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Sometimes, being a young carer can get too much to deal with on your own.

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A young carer is someone aged 25 and under who cares for a friend or family member who, due to illness, disability, a mental health problem or an addiction, cannot cope without their support. Older young carers are also known as young adult carers and they may have different support needs to younger carers.

What might a young carer do?

Practical tasks, like cooking, housework and shopping.

Physical care, such as helping someone out of bed.

Emotional support, including talking to someone who is distressed.

Personal care, such as helping someone dress.

Managing the family budget and collecting prescriptions.

Helping to give medicine.

Helping someone communicate.

Looking after brothers and sisters.

How many young carers are there?

The 2011 Census identified 177,918 young carers in England and Wales. One in eight of those were aged under eight.

Scottish Government recognises that there are at least 29,000 young carers in Scotland.

This is widely believed to be the tip of the iceberg, with some estimates suggesting that as many as one in five schoolchildren are young carers (University of Nottingham 2018), with this number increasing during the COVID-19 pandemic.

Being a young carer can have a big impact on the things that are important to growing up

Young carers are already likely to have significantly lower educational attainment than their peers.

With the added complications of COVID-19, young carers have missed out on even more school than before and urgent support is needed if they are not to be left behind their peers.

Caring can also be an isolating experience but having the right support in place can give young carers a better chance of succeeding in all parts of their lives.

How we support young carers

Young Carers Action Day

Young Carers Action Day is an annual event led by Carers Trust. It raises awareness and calls for action to increase support for young people with caring responsibilities. On Young Carers Action Day 2022, we are calling on all governments across the UK to commit to taking action to reduce isolation for young and young adult carers including access to short breaks, These are important in providing much-needed freedom from caring responsibilities, as well as reducing isolation and promoting wellbeing.

Specialist services for young carers

Carers Trust helps young carers to cope with their caring role through specialised services delivered by its network of local carer organisations across the UK. They are independent charities. Activities offered include:

Activities and breaks.

Peer and community support, including young carer groups and peer mentoring schemes.

Information, advice and guidance, including one-to-one support and age appropriate information.

Emotional support.

Advocacy.

Brokerage and support planning.

Training in subjects such as health and safety, wellbeing and life skills.

Supporting families and young carers to apply for appropriate benefits.

Emergency planning support.

Whole family support.

Engaging young carers in informing service development.

I think I might be a young or young adult carer, where can I go for support?

The responsibilities of young and young adult carers vary greatly, so you may be eligible for support, even if you don't feel like you do a lot of caring. If you think that you might be a young or young adult carer, get in touch with your local carer service. Support workers will be able to ensure that you receive the support you need.

Find your local carer service

There are also lots of organisation that can support young carers with a range of issues.

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Young Carers - Support for Young Carers in Eastleigh (8years plus)

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Young Carers - Support for Young Carers in Eastleigh

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One Community offer support services for young carers aged 8-18 in Eastleigh Borough, through activities, school and family support.

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Honeypot is the only UK charity to provide a consistent level of support for young carers in the 5-12 age range. We want to build brighter futures for young carers and help them make happy childhood memories that they cherish for a lifetime.

Our early-intervention, Wrap-Round service is designed to provide relief, protect mental health, and develop social confidence, and delivered in safe, nurturing environment. Each year, we aim to offer places to over 2,500 young carers and vulnerable children across the UK through residential breaks, and a wide range of services to meet changing young carers needs.

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At Honeypot, we receive no government funding and rely entirely on donations and support from individuals, businesses, foundations and organisations to provide our services; completely free for every child we support.

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Honeypot is the only charity in the UK that provides continuous support for young carers groups (aged 5-12). Help us be here for some of the most overlooked children in the country.

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Hampshire Young Carers Alliance | Supporting Young Carers in Hampshire

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The Hampshire Young Carers Alliance (HYCA) is a consortium of ten Young Carer projects/services across Hampshire. Learn more.

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Webinar (1hr): Understanding Eating Disorders: What is ARFID?

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Webinar (1hr): Understanding Eating Disorders: What is ARFID?

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Understanding Eating Disorders: What is ARFID?

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How to identify and Support a Young Person with an Eating Difficulty including ARFID

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How to identify and Support a Young Person with an Eating Difficulty including ARFID

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Updated Wellstead Attendance Support leaflet for parents

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SEN Support, Advice, and Resources - Witherslack Group

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A library of free SEN support, advice, & resources created by SEN professionals for parents & carers of children & young people with special educational needs.

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ADHD and you - practical tips for helping at home

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ADHD and you - practical tips for helping at home

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ADHD can have a huge impact on family and home life. Things may have been stressful for some time, with tensions running high. Every family has its stresses, but ADHD can add to this because a child with ADHD is likely to be disorganised, messy, noisy and have occasional emotional outbursts.

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Did you know?

If a GP needs to refer you for a physical or mental health condition, in most cases you have the legal right to choose the hospital or service you'd like to go to.

This will include many private hospitals if they provide services to the NHS and it does not cost the NHS any more than a referral to a standard NHS hospital.

You can also choose a clinical team led by a consultant or named healthcare professional, as long as that team provides the treatment you require. Find out more about choosing a hospital or consultant and choosing a mental health service.

You can book your appointment via the NHS e-Referral service. It can be done while you're at the GP surgery, or online, using the shortlist of hospitals or services provided in your appointment request letter. The shortlist is selected by your GP, so make sure you tell them about your preferences during the appointment.

To agree on the shortlist, you and your GP can compare information about hospitals or consultants on this website, including quality outcomes, waiting times, parking and travel. Use the services near you link to make an informed decision before booking.

You have the legal right to ask for your appointment to be moved to a different provider if you're likely to wait longer than the maximum waiting time specified for your treatment.

The hospital or integrated care board (ICB) will have to investigate and offer you a range of suitable alternative hospitals or clinics that would be able to see you sooner. Read the guide to waiting times for more information.

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Right to Choose - If you are based in England under the NHS you now have a legal right to choose your mental healthcare provider and your choice of mental healthcare team.

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An introduction to Autism  (55minutes video)

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An introduction to Autism  (55minutes video)

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Hampshire and IOW Healthcare NHS Foundation Trust

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How to support a young person who may have ADHD- CAMHS video

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Our Mental Health Space - Sussex Partnership NHS Foundation Trust

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Managing ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder)

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Let Me Be Your Camera - Understanding ADHD

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Autism Central for Parents and Carers | Autism Central

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Autism Central offers a wealth of resources for parents, carers and personal assistants of autistic people in England – from articles and learning materials to signposting you to services and support in your local area.

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Do you think your child is autistic or have they been recently diagnosed?If the answer is yes, you will have many questions about what to do next. Ambitious about Autism’s Right from the Start parent toolkit is here to help.

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ADHD in Girls Checklist (The ADHD Centre)

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ADHD in Girls Checklist (The ADHD Centre)

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ADHD manifests differently in girls compared to boys, often presenting challenges that can be overlooked or misinterpreted.

ADHD UK reports that the global prevalence of children with ADHD is approximately 5%. However, diagnostic data reveals a significant difference between genders, with 3.62% of boys diagnosed, compared to just 0.85% of girls. That translates to a gender split of roughly 4:1, boys:girls.

As we delve into the complexities and manifestations of ADHD in girls, it's crucial to recognise the distinct - and often misinterpreted - signs and symptoms that may indicate the presence of this neurodevelopmental condition.

From inattentiveness to potential emotional struggles, understanding the truth behind these gender differences is the first step toward providing the necessary support.

Join us as we present an ADHD in girls checklist, tailored to identify the unique aspects of ADHD in young females. Along the way, we'll discuss the pathways to awareness, importance of early intervention, and comprehensive well-being for girls with ADHD.

Is ADHD More Common In Boys or Girls?

Despite prevalent stereotypes, ADHD is not biased towards a specific gender.

Historically, the disorder has been predominantly associated with hyperactive males - we've all heard the expression, 'boys will be boys', right? - leading to a skewed perception of its prevalence.

Contemporary research ( Skogli, 2013; Slobodin, 2019) challenges this narrative, emphasising that ADHD occurs in both boys and girls. However, the way symptoms manifest can differ significantly, contributing to a higher likelihood of boys being diagnosed.

Girls with ADHD often exhibit inattentiveness rather than hyperactivity, for instance, making their symptoms less conspicuous. This gender-based discrepancy in symptom presentation contributes to the underdiagnosis of ADHD in girls.

In reality, the disorder is equally distributed across genders, but societal expectations and diagnostic biases have led to a disproportionate representation in clinical settings.
Learn more about ADHD in girls & child ADHD assessment with The ADHD Centre
So Why the Diagnostic Disparity?

The diagnostic disparity between boys and girls in ADHD can be attributed to a myriad of complex factors.

Understanding the reasons for female underdiagnosis is crucial for dismantling gender bias and ensuring that girls with ADHD receive the attention and support they deserve. Here are key contributors to the underdiagnosis of girls:

Symptom Presentation: Girls with ADHD commonly exhibit inattentiveness and internal struggles, whereas boys often display more overt hyperactivity. This variance in symptom presentation leads to girls' symptoms being overlooked or attributed to other causes. Societal Expectations: Societal norms and expectations play a significant role. There's a stereotype that ADHD is synonymous with disruptive behaviour, aligning more with traditional perceptions of 'boyish' behaviour. Girls may internalise their struggles, making their symptoms less visible.

Gender Bias in Research: Historical research on ADHD has primarily focused on male subjects, influencing diagnostic criteria.

Coping Mechanisms: Girls with ADHD often develop coping mechanisms to mask their difficulties, such as perfectionism or withdrawal. While these strategies may help manage symptoms temporarily, they hinder the recognition of underlying issues.

Comorbidity with Other Conditions: ADHD in girls often presents with comorbid conditions like anxiety or depression. These accompanying issues can overshadow the primary symptoms.

Educational Environment: Girls may adapt better to the structured and verbal aspects of a school or classroom environment, masking struggles with attention and executive functions. This adaptability can lead educators to overlook potential ADHD indicators.

The ADHD in Girls Checklist

ADHD in girls often presents differently than in boys, with symptoms that may be less conspicuous - but equally impactful on daily life.

Here's our ADHD in girls checklist to help identify potential signs:

Things to Remember About ADHD in Girls

Unfortunately, the gender disparities in ADHD diagnosis can make treatment, and symptom navigation, more complicated for girls. The condition is often not recognised until later in life, when comorbidities may have become more prevalent, and coping mechanisms more deeply-ingrained.

Recently, a Dutch study found that:

47% of boys received medication, compared to 6% of girls, and

38% of boys underwent counselling compared to 8% of girls.

As our clinical understanding of ADHD and girls develops, researchers point to several gender-based nuances that parents and carers should be aware of.

1. Hormones Make a Difference

Girls with ADHD may experience symptom fluctuations during hormonal changes, such as puberty and the menstrual cycle (or menopause, later in life).

For instance, increased oestrogen levels can influence neurotransmitter activity, affecting attention and mood. Clinicians must consider these hormonal dynamics when assessing and managing ADHD symptoms in girls.

At The ADHD Centre, we observe variations in symptom severity throughout the menstrual cycle. This can be particularly impactful for girls as they make the transition into puberty. Understanding these patterns helps us tailor treatment plans more effectively.

2. Silent Trauma May Be At Work

Girls often internalise ADHD-related struggles, leading to trauma that goes unspoken or unrecognised. It's crucial to recognise signs of emotional distress, such as anxiety or depression, and provide a safe space for expression.

Identifying and addressing these emotional aspects is vital for comprehensive ADHD care.

For instance: imagine a teenage girl with ADHD, struggling silently with feelings of inadequacy. Regular counselling sessions can help her articulate these emotions, fostering a healthier emotional well-being; but, without that clinical recognition, the trauma is allowed to fester beneath the surface.

3. Eating & Self-Esteem Can Be Affected

ADHD's impact on executive functions may affect eating habits and self-esteem. Girls might use food as a coping mechanism; equally, parents might notice their daughter avoiding food altogether.

Clinicians should explore the relationship between ADHD, eating patterns, and body image to develop targeted interventions.

We often work with girls to develop mindful, proper eating habits. Connecting their nutritional choices with overall well-being helps establish a healthy relationship with food.

4. Treatment Doesn't End With Medication

While medication can be a valuable component of treatment, a comprehensive approach involves a holistic approach, including strategies such as behavioural interventions and academic support.

Clinicians collaborate with educators, parents, and mental health professionals to create a supportive environment for girls with ADHD.

From a clinical perspective, truly effective treatment extends to the school and home environments.

Accommodations, understanding, personalised learning plans, and teacher/parent collaboration, for instance, demonstrably enhance academic success for girls with ADHD.

A More Inclusive Diagnosis

Ultimately, promoting a more inclusive ADHD diagnosis involves challenging stereotypes, raising awareness, and advocating for personalised assessments.

In brief, here's how we can contribute to a more comprehensive understanding:

Gender-Informed Screening Tools: We aim to implement ADHD screening tools that consider gender-specific manifestations. This ensures a more accurate identification of symptoms in girls, preventing misdiagnosis or overlooked cases.

Educational Initiatives: Campaigns for parents, teachers, and healthcare professionals highlight the diverse ways ADHD can present in girls, fostering awareness and reducing stigmas.

Parent and Teacher Collaboration: Work toward open communication with teachers. Creating a collaborative environment ensures that observations from both home and school factor in a more accurate diagnosis.

Holistic Assessment Approach: A holistic assessment approach considers not only observable behaviours, but also emotional well-being, academic performance, and social interactions.

By challenging existing norms and embracing a gender-sensitive perspective, we can ensure that every individual, regardless of gender, receives the support and understanding needed for effective ADHD management.

If you think your daughter or a young female in your life may be dealing with the effects of undiagnosed ADHD, don't hesitate to book an ADHD assessment today.

Are ADHD symptoms different in girls compared to boys?

Yes, ADHD symptoms can manifest differently in girls. While boys often display more overt hyperactivity, girls may exhibit inattentiveness, daydreaming, or emotional sensitivity. Recognizing these gender-specific symptoms is crucial for accurate diagnosis and tailored treatment.

What are some common challenges faced by girls with ADHD in school?

Girls with ADHD may encounter academic challenges related to inattention, organisation, and time management. They might struggle with completing tasks, staying organised, and managing their time efficiently, impacting their academic performance.

How can parents and teachers collaborate to support girls with ADHD?

Open communication is key. Parents and teachers should share observations and insights to create a comprehensive understanding of a girl's behaviour. A collaborative approach ensures that both home and school environments contribute to effective support and intervention.

What role do hormones play in ADHD symptoms in girls?

Hormonal changes, especially during puberty, can influence the manifestation of ADHD symptoms in girls. Understanding these hormonal dynamics is essential for recognizing the nuances in symptom presentation and adapting treatment strategies accordingly.

Is medication the only treatment option for girls with ADHD?

No, medication is just one aspect of ADHD treatment. A comprehensive approach includes behavioural therapy, lifestyle adjustments, and support systems. Tailoring interventions to address individual needs ensures a more holistic and effective management of ADHD symptoms in girls.

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What are the signs and symptoms of ADHD in young females? And how can you help? An ADHD in girls checklist. Book an assessment today.

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ADHD symptoms in girls often look different than in boys and can go unrecognized. Here are 20 signs to help you identify ADHD in girls so you can seek help.