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Having to have the privilege to do what they want should be the right thing to do. Having to have several nice's and nephews, all these individuals seem to a different norm than the traditional men women doing. Having my nieces play with toy cars and even a nephew with a doll, this perception that one should do, Judih Lorber talks about this notion how men and women do a specific thing for themselves. Whether there is a "process" or a sameness or difference, gender should not be something that is looked up only a boy and a girl, but perhaps a broader perspective that all things should be the same. As these kids grow older, one's hope is to respect what they wear, play or simply without the notion of "boy" or "girl"

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One can say they will always love their mom. My mother, having to have six children here in the United States, always attempted to give us a better life and hope to succeed. Having to be born in Mexico, she had her own path to eventually come into the United States. One of these obstacles was having to get pregnant over there and deliver a child. The meaning of Transitional Motherhood by Pierrette Hondagneu-Sotelo Ernestine Avila gives a spot on transition of my mother dealing with having a child in another country. By coming to the United States to hope for the better hood of her daughter, she eventually seem to start another life as she met my dad and built another family here. Her daughter in which essentially grew without a daughter somehow unfortunately lost contact with her for 10 plus years as she lost contact from her family altogether. It was not until three years ago through social media, that my mother was able to find her and hopes to rekindle a relationship in which her daughter. Having to be taken care from her grandma and aunt, they both eventually passed away and is doing her own life with a child of her own. Today as fractured as their relationship seems to be, they still contact with one another once a month, catching up on the time they missed.

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The oldest individual in our family was my sister. Having to dealt with three brothers and two others sisters, she always stood her ground in terms of masculinity. Things escalated for her especially with the passing of my father. As soon as she graduated high school, she developed such phase of female masculinity in which she felt the same if not even better than a normal man. Athena Nguyen in her paper of Patriarchy, Power, and Female Masculinity, writes about such figure of a "butch" in which she herself went through for several years. By having to decide who she wanted to have a relationship with (boy or girl), she was able to learn about gender in a more broader perspective. Although she eventually phased out and got married with a man, she still today holds such butch idealism of having to a partriacial status quo.

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Me and my two brothers have gone through thick and thin to hope to achieve the status of life an happiness. Through the ups of our lives, we have our different views of how life works. Such example of this would be something simple life one would want cheese on their burger, or thousand island instead of regular ranch dressing. One thing that links this course to us is Patriarchy, the system by Allan G Johnson. Upon analyzing such reading. some of us seem to have such views on feminism or gender equality. In no particular order one believes his wife should do everything for him while the other believes otherwise. Having to have such feeling of control or dominance also adds to masculinity as they feel they should always be above their spouses. Unfortunately for them they did not seek any further education past high school, and as I learn more about this course, I see them as examples of how they are dealing with their relationships.

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Here above is the last picture with me and my whole family. Having to have the oldest sister move out to New Jersey, she was not able to make it to my sister's graduation a few years ago. By learning of simplistic things of gender identity, patriarchy or even masculinity, our family seems to be of what they call of the norm. Having all of us be hetrosexual, it is hard to say how would we have been if we were taught more openly about gender and sexuality. As stated on the previous picture, aside from my other brothers not seeking further education, the same case if for my sisters as I was the only of six to even to college. Being given such wide range of opportunity to learn things outside my major (History) is great to learn especially when I decide to start a family of my own. Having to have only 7 nephews and nieces so far as stated earlier, I hope to follow them into a god path and hope to teach my brothers and sisters a bit of this course as well.