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I never realized that I was putting things into stereotypes, or creating single stories for things. I try to be open and not to do this, but in reality I still do it anyways without thinking about it. Even in Their Eyes Were Watching God, Jody silences her because she is a woman, and she isn't smart enough to do things like that. Janie didn't put people into a stereotypes, she saw both sides of Tea Cake, while the town could only see him as a poor man. It was nice to read a book were the main character wasn't a white male, but instead a colored female, who had a different story to tell.

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In Their Eyes Were Watching God, after the hurricane, the white people who had died got coffins to be buried in, while the black people who had died, didn't get coffins, they were just buried into a big hole.  Another instance is that at Janie's trial, Janie was silenced and couldn't tell her side of the story, because she was a colored female. I never had thought about white privilege, but that's probably because I'm a white person. But it must be hard to not have band-aids that aren't your skin color, and other things that are colored for a white skin tone. Also just knowing that you will be watched by the police more just because of your skin color, and feeling unsafe because of something you can't control.

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This story of freedom was so interesting and it was a miracle that it worked out. William and Ellen went through all this planning and working out the tiny details, just so they can run away to a free state, so they could get married by a minister and for their children to have freedom. It was a miracle that she was light enough to pass, that she could be pass as a white man, because she could walk, talk and sounded like a white man because of the people she was raised around. In Their Eyes Were Watching God, Janie's grandmother  was raped by her slave owner, and she had Janie's mother because of it. Her slave owners wife, told Nanny that once her daughter was old enough she would see her, so Nanny ran away and hid in the swamp till the war ended. Nanny was scared to be separated  from her daughter just like how William and Ellen were scared to be separated from each other or from their children, when they have children.

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In 1849, abolitionist and attorney Wendell Phillips wrote:

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Why I, as a black man, attend a KKK rallies

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Why I, as a black man, attend a KKK rallies

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It's not right that in our society, parents of colored children still have to explain to their children what racism is. Also that in our society, that we claim is very progressive, that we still have groups like the KKK, and that if we were so progressive. In the part, during very first interview, when the strange noise happened, that everyone jumped to conclusions about the other person even before knowing what happened, it's like those fight or flight reflex. But a soda can moving shouldn't trigger that reflex, but that is how ignorant our society has become. When Davis said that he became best friend with this KKK leader, it surprised me, and it also surprised me that  Davis convinced Kelly to change his views and leave the KKK, is a miracle, but it was very surprising.

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Why I, as a black man, attend KKK rallies. | Daryl Davis | TEDxNaperville

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This shocked me, and how it was used as in the performances reasons and it became the norm back then. It represented a strange mix of env, fascination, desire, and fear, but it also created stereotypes, that are still around even today. It surprised me that people were so fearful of colored people in the late 19th and early 20th century, that colored performers started to use blackface makeup as well. It was a sign for the white audiences to feel comfortable, and that they could have a good time, but for black audiences it's insulting. They even used this makeup on children, because it was normal, but that's just not right. It also scared me that people today still think it's okay for this to be used now. It's like we are moving backwards.

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Blackface: A cultural history of a racist art form

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Even now, women are still stereotyped into one category, and that is that they can better at raising a family then men are, and that they aren't strong enough to do some of the jobs that men do, which isn't true. Women are just as capable to do these high-paying jobs that men do, but yet even if a woman works hard to do these high-paying jobs, they are probably going to be paid less. And even if a company pays men and women equally, they can still discriminate against women in the employee handbook.Which isn't right because why pay each sex equality but then still discriminate against women in the workplace, that's not moving forward in society, that's moving backwards. In Their Eyes Were Watching God, Jody silenced and forced Janie to work only in the kitchen or do simple tasks at the store, and he also didn't let her give speeches to the public, because he didn't think she was "smart enough." But with Tea Cake, she works in the swamps alongside him, and he also never silenced her, and he treated her equally.

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Violence against women is a human rights violation

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Violence against women is a human rights violation

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In Their Eyes Were Watching God, Tea Cake beat Janie in front some people, but that's because beating your wife was customary in those times, to show power in the relationship. In modern America, we have moved away that mentality, and no it's not okay to hit your wife. And even though domestic violence still happens here, it is frowned down upon and can lead to legal punishments.But in other countries, like countries in Asia, abuse towards your wife is , and it is okay. Being able to beat woman, along with other things, is not okay, even if it's customary. Because that person you are beating and hurting is an equal human being and they should be treated equally. But in Asia they do believe that women are not equal and they are shouldn't be treated equally, so it's okay to beat them, hurt them, and abuse them.

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Violence against women — it's a men's issue

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Violence against women — it's a men's issue

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Many times after domestic or sexual violence happens, everyone blames the woman, they blame the person who was affected by this terrible event, not the person who caused this even. We ask questions like "what was she wearing when this happened?" or "well it's her fault for going back." and we blame victims who just happen to be in the wrong place at the wrong time or got into the wrong relationship. In this TED talk, Katz talks about how men need to break the silence and speak out against this big issue. Of course there are male victims to domestic abuse, but they don't talk about it, they silence it, because it's not right for men to speak about it. But it's not "correct" for men to speak out about this because only women have to deal with that, to end this level of domestic and sexual violence, we need men in power to speak out and do something. Women may be the main victims to this violence, but they often get silenced, but men can speak out and will not be silenced.

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Violence against women -- it’s a men’s issue

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Domestic violence and sexual abuse are often called “women’s issues.” But in this bold, blunt talk, Jackson Katz points out that these are intrinsically men’s issues -- and shows how these violent behaviors are tied to definitions of manhood. A clarion call for us all -- women and men -- to call out unacceptable behavior and be leaders of change.

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As a society we teach boys from an early age that they have to be masculine and tough all the time, and they can't do/say anything that shows them ask weak or feminine. But this isn't right, it's teaching boy/men to hold in their feelings and that if they are emotional then they are weak, and it's also teaching girls/women that being strong isn't your role in the world and they have to be weak and emotional all the time. There needs to be a balance in life, a break of this stereotype that society has created because its toxic. We have also set up this taboo in our society were its not okay to ask for help if you are a man, because apparently if you ask for help you are weak, and you should be able to do it on your own. We need to be teaching boys that it is okay to feel weak sometimes, that it is okay for them to ask for help, but what is not okay is for them to suffer through things alone and hold in their emotions, because that is not healthy and it doesn't end well.

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Justin Baldoni: Why I'm done trying to be "man enough"

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Justin Baldoni wants to start a dialogue with men about redefining masculinity -- to figure out ways to be not just good men but good humans. In a warm, personal talk, he shares his effort to reconcile who he is with who the world tells him a man should be.

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Why domestic violence victims don't leave

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Why domestic violence victims don't leave

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It is scary that one in three women can end up being in abusive relationships, that's a big statistic for something that we don't talk about enough. Most people ask these victims one question: "why didn't you just leave?" people don't ask "how are you doing?" or "are you safe?" or even "what can I do to help?". But what those people don't realize that it is "safer" to stay with their abuser because if they leave they are putting themselves at risk for long term stalking or even death. But these people who criticize the victims for staying don't know these facts, they are blinded by this fact and they think this abusive relationship can just be ended like a healthy relationship can. In Their Eyes were Watching God,  Janie marriage with Jody was an abusive one, were he at first gained her trust and made her feel safe with him, but then started dictating her life, like how she could wear her hair, and then he started to hit her and verbally abusing her, but Janie couldn't leave till Jody had lost some of his power, because of what he might have done to her if she had left.

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Leslie Morgan Steiner: Why domestic violence victims don't leave

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Leslie Morgan Steiner was in "crazy love" -- that is, madly in love with a man who routinely abused her and threatened her life. Steiner tells the story of her relationship, correcting misconceptions many people hold about victims of domestic violence, and explaining how we can all help break the silence.