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Takeaway: Attitude is everything. The relationships you build, or not, and the way you decide to approach students and obstacles can only be controlled by you.

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I really enjoyed listening to this episode because I feel like there are many points I can use in my classroom to help with some of my students. I learned the reasons students misbehave can be for attention, power, control, competence, or belonging. Getting a student to be a helper can work well because they are getting all five of these things. I have seen this work in my own classroom with a helper who likes to carry our lunch bin. Another point I took away from this episode is that our thought process every day should be to make a child's life a little better than when they came to us. After being with us for the day our students will go home either feeling better about themselves or worse. Many of our students come from tough homes. It is so important to be patient and offer words of encouragement to uplift them and make them believe in themselves. I want every student in my class to feel safe, loved, and have a sense of belonging. It is easier to get a child to improve their behavior when a relationship has been established and they can feel that their teacher cares about them and wants to see them succeed.

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Teacher-student relationships matter! Positive relationships have the ability to unleash untapped potential in our students. We do not have the time not to build healthy relationship with our students. Relationships and instruction are an incredible combination. Research tells us this combination will increase student engagement, motivation, test scores, and overall averages while decreasing absenteeism, dropout rates, and discipline issues. As educators, we may be the only positive role model in many of our students’ lives. Sometimes we may get frustrated; however, we should never yell or demean a student; instead, we should show respect and help our students understand and learn the power of positive, healthy interaction.

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My huge take away from this is to build relationships with students and parents.  When students see that their teacher and parent are working together as a team, sometimes the student is less likely to be disruptive. A lot times, students act out because they are seeking attention.  As a teacher, I try to find out what students love to do outside of the classroom.  I try to attend their games or events outside of school to show support.  Once students see their teacher in a different atmosphere from school, they feel they matter to someone other than family.  Their behavior changes some and makes them feel a sense of belonging.

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My takeaway from this podcast was to build solid relationships with your students and parents.  Without trust, honesty and genuine fondness for your students and their parents, you will never build those strong relationships in your classroom.  Going to their baseball games, birthday parties, Dance recitals and making those phone calls when they’ve had a great day are the things that show parents that you really care.  Keeping in touch with families even after their child has moved on to another grade or even another state shows you truly care about your students.  By doing things like this makes your students want to do a good job for you in class. When you show respect to them, then you will receive respect back.  Conscious Discipline teaches us to give to the child something they need help with the most!  If they need to be more responsible, then, let them be responsible for more things in the classroom.
I believe Bryan was saying pretty much the same thing. Build those relationships, compliment that student who is having trouble following the rules.  Find something good in all students and you’ll get them on your side.

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One word.....RELATIONSHIPS! Relationships are imperative with our students. Every moment can be used as a teachable moment. Not just for students but for us as well. When students are sent to my room, I always ask them why? What was the cause of them being put out of their classroom? What could they have done differently? It is important for students to understand that there better ways to handle their actions.

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Build relationships with parents and students. Especially parents because if they know you are TEAM their child, they are willing to jump the bandwagon and support your decisions. Allow parents to make decisions to incorporate into the classroom with their child.

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My takeaway from this episode 2 is building relationship with children, families and each other. Being a positive role model and showing/giving  positive feedback will encourage students to do better than they did before. Turn negatives into positives.

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Normally when I've had kids who had behavior issues I will allow those students to cling to me more. They are so willing to help and be apart of something greater than what they feel they may be. They go above and beyond to prove themselves because some may not want to be looked at as the problem kid all the time. Medler stated in another one of his podcast that "no kid comes to school wanting to get in trouble." So when those kids do something great and you praise them for it, it makes them want to continue to do great things. Praising children becomes addictive to them, they will do anything to keep it coming.

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My huge take away from this is that a teacher can definitely help students find positive ways out of bad situation. Allowing kids to see positive options even outside of school can lead to a student defusing his /her own situation.  Being a positive role model help them see that bullying is not always the answer.  Allowing our students to take on important roles in the classroom and out will definitely help a child be in control of many situation. Every situation will be different but when teachers set their rules and allow students to be a part of them it allows the teachers to have control.
Wilson

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This episode reinforced my main focus as a teacher; building relationships with students and families are vital to all student success. This is especially true for some of our more difficult students and behaviors. The only way to get to the cause/root of a behavior is to really get to know that student and the outside factors that play a role in how a student behaves or reacts. Once we identify the root we can start working towards growth in that area. I think what really stood out for me is to allow time for that process to happen. Change will not happen overnight and really requires dedication and passion.

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My huge takeaway from this episode was to never give up on kids. Kids who misbehave have a reason for doing it. There is something they need so figure out what that need is and meet it. If they need attention give them positive attention to reduce the chance of acting out for negative attention. You may not reach every kid but don’t give up trying

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My huge take away from this episode is the importance of building relationships with my students. This may not be easy and it may be more difficult with some students, but make it a goal to cause some type of positive change in my students' lives. whether it is doing little hings like showing up where you know the kids will be or making them feel important the moment they enter my class. treating them like THEY MATTER.

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My huge takeaway is to not let having a challenging student get you down, to stay as strong as you can, and know there are ways to reach them. It may not be easy, but you have to go above and beyond. If you really want to reach them, you have to try to make an effort outside of school. If the student gets into trouble, on that same day you need to call the student that afternoon to start diffusing the situation by first expressing how sorry you are that anyone in your school got as upset as they did today and any part any staff member played in it. Just remember the goal is to diffuse. You also want to get to the root of their anger, which is normally a combination of 5 things. Attention, power, control, competence and belonging.  Figure out something for that student to do at school that gives them some power and control. Look at it as filling that child's needs, but make sure that it’s something that makes that child feel successful.

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My huge takeaway from this episode is to find ways to make problem kids the leaders in the class. This will empower them, and then they will be on "your side." I also learned that students misbehave for 5 main reasons:  Attention, Power, Control, Competence, and Belonging.  It is important for all students to have a sense of belonging and a sincere relationship the teacher.

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Episode 2, June 3
My huge takeaway from this episode is that no matter how good you are at something, you will not always be successful each and every time. Changing a student has to happen outside of school. Diffuse the situation by calling the student to apologize for anything that made him/her angry. Students misbehave for the following five main reasons:
1. Attention
2. Power
3. Control
4. Competence
5. Belonging
Figure out the reason and fill that need. Have the student do something where they will feel successful. Be sure to work with the student on their anger to get to the root of it.

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My big takeaway from this podcast is that you have to understand that no matter what you will not always be one hundred percent successful at something. Also, you need to always have a relationship with each student. When they are acting out there is usually a reason. Try your best to figure out what the problem is and help the student figure out how to deal with the problem.

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I have to start with this:
No matter how good you are at something, you are never going to succeed all the time.  Do not let a miss get you down.
The middle of the show talked about the need to change our thought process for challenging students.  In most cases, we need to have the opposite mindset.  For example, praise a bully for his/her leadership skills.  Tell the student they have the ability to influence other students.  Next, put that student in a positive situation where they need to use those leadership skills (mentoring another student).  I have used this strategy before.  It works!
The last part of the show talked about surviving a teacher you hate.  No matter what, we will eventually have students that do not like us.  It is imperative that teachers find a way to "like" students.  I also appreciate Mendler's suggestions for students (simply say good morning and thank you to the teacher you hate).  It always comes down to the little things!
Wagner

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My huge take away from this podcast is to stay mentally strong. Remember to keep trying to reach each student, Changes may happen away from the school-Ice Cream Parlor. Get to know the student. Diffuse the situation. Get to the root of the anger. The problem may be attention seeking, lack of power/control, competence, and belonging problems. Help make child feel useful-helping others. Work on anger and give praise.

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My huge takeaway from this podcast is that every student who acts out has an unmet or unfulfilled need! We as teachers have to find a way to fill that need! Students act out due to attention, need for power, control, competence and belonging. I think that belonging is one of the biggest needs our Fonde students deal with. I feel we are on the right track using our Fonde families to foster a feeling of belonging. But, I also believe that we still need to do better connecting to students, especially with our sped. babies. They need to know that ALL of their teachers take ownership for them and their learning and want them to be in their class.  Sped. students needs to know that ALL of their teachers care about them and have their backs.

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As the teacher in a situation with a trouble student, we all need to remind ourselves to stay positive and not let the situation make us feel defeated.  It is important to be patient with students and understanding that child’s background to gather some insight on their behavior.  Students act out for several different reasons:

1.       Attention

2.       Power

3.       Control

4.       Competence

5.       Belonging

It can be beneficial to give student attention and control in positive situations.  Find jobs for children to do to fill that want and need for these feelings.  If you know the students background and their personalities behind the behavior issues then you can easily find activities to fill the need of the student for their success.
Cook

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My huge take away:
Be patient. I have realized that the longer I teacher the less patience I have. I had to check myself. This podcast made me realize that I will not always be successful in getting to a difficult student. I need to try and make connections by doing things such as taking them to lunch, or even attend some outside function that the student is involved in. As a result I might discover the root of the students problems and help them better deal with them.

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No matter how good you are at something you are not ALWAYS successful 100% of the time. When a student is a behavior problem there are usually a reason:
1. attention
2. Power
3. Control
4. Competence
5. Belonging
Find the root of the anger and allow the student to take control of the situation. Look for ways they can help and give them the tools to be successful.
A powerful way to defuse a situation is to start the conversation with "I'm sorry"
Raines

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My huge takeaway is to go above and beyond to reach students outside of the classroom to form a relationship with them. For example, attend their football game or take them out to dinner. Also, when dealing with a bully it is important to find out what is making him the way he is. Focus on the student getting attention, power, control, competence, and belonging.

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My Huge Takeaway
Be patient when dealing with a student and realize they can not be fixed overnight because it took x amount of years to make that student who he is. Focus on trying to fix the student outside of school by making a phone call after school, dinner etc... Work on diffusing the situation by apologizing to the student, find out the root of his anger, fill his need of either attention, power, control, competence and belonging. Teachers need to find ways for the student to become a helper, such as, mentoring and becoming a teacher assistant. Also, work with the student to find out the root of his anger. Also, find ways to praise him on his leadership skills and channel it in a more positive direction than bullying.

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Don't get discouraged when a situation with a difficult student is not "fixed".  Realize that there are things that are out of my control.  That there are more than likely, outside influences and factors that contribute to his/her aggressive behavior.  Attempt to get to the "root" of the student's anger.
Chism

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This is my favorite episode so far!
One of my biggest take away from this episode came from the first question of this podcast. The question and answer was based on an angry 17 year old who deals with his anger in negative and harmful ways. Although there is an age difference, it reminded me a lot of the problems I have with one of my 1st graders.
Brian mentions starting the conversation with the angry child by apologizing because that instantly diffuses that anger. Next, Brian talks about finding the root of the anger.
1. Attention
2. Power/control
3. Competence
4. Belonging

I listened to this a while ago, so I actually had a chance to use this advice with my challenging/angry kiddo. His reaction to my apologizing was priceless. I could tell he was expecting an angry response from me, and he was shocked to hear differently. Brian mentioned that if the behavior is a power/control problem, then you should try finding ways to let that child help and lead others in a positive way. I assigned that kiddo to be my "teacher assistant". He completes simple tasks for me which both helps me out and makes him feel "in charge" and a sense of belonging.

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My huge take away is to give a bully power of control. He or she needs attention, power, and  control.  Brian Mendler said, "Maybe he feels he doesn't belong that's one reason he lashes out."  Reach out outside of school where you can get to know that student.

Markham