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SFC Couple Coordinators Training Manual - 2017 Edition

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JM & Gsel Calingacion
Emil Estabillo

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UHT Manual

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Outline flow:

I. Introduction

II. Being an SFC Couple Coordinator is "fulfilling"

III. What can you expect in your journey with SFCs?

IV. Effective SFC Couple Coordinators need to remember what they are, and what they are not.

V. Conclusion

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Rationale:

OBJECTIVES:
1. To provide SFC Couple Coordinators with the basic information needed to understand the SFC ministry.
2. To equip SFC Couple Coordinators to appreciate the SFC ministry and the role it plays in the CFC community in light of the SFC Mission and Vision.
3. To prepare the SFC Couple Coordinators to take on the responsibility of guiding, mentoring and pastoring SFCs under their care.

TENOR: Informative and Uplifting

SUGGESTED SCHEDULE AND SESSIONS:

SPEAKERS PROFILE:
An active CFC SFC sector or provincial couple coordinator who has served at least 2 years in the service and can explain the session with enthusiasm and passion.

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Gerald Libar
Krizha Plaza
Mary Jo Martinez

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Clem Pomuceno
Jamaica Calicdan

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Nina Leido
Jov Germata

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Follow the CFC Format in Writing outlines. Create Objectives, Key Messages, Speakers Profile, Tenor, etc.

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Follow the CFC Format in Writing outlines. Create Objectives, Key Messages, Speakers Profile, Tenor, etc.

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Follow the CFC Format in Writing outlines. Create Objectives, Key Messages, Speakers Profile, Tenor, etc.

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Main Points
A. You Shall Go - The Call (Jeremiah 1:4-9)
B. Take On God's Heart
C. Our Response to the Call

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Main Points
A. The Unit Head
B. Relationships of a Unit Head
C. The Unit Head's Pastoral Care

Possibly remove or move to a different session: Teaching Program in SFC

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Main points:

1. Being a servant according to Scripture
2. Obstacles to servanthood
3. Maturity in being a Christian servant

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Main Points:
A. Shed off the Flesh / Get Fit
B. Follow the Spirit
C. Off to the Fight / Off to War

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A. Principles of Total Surrender
B. Our Posture in Surrender

*Create a new Talk: Taking on the Mission
-integrate: Open to give a talk, going on mission, possibility of being a program coordinator or mission volunteer

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Workshop 1 - Loving Responses
Workshop 2 - Giving a Talk

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From 9 Talks to 6 Talks
Finish in 6 months

New:
Talk 1 - The Power of Prayer (From Talk 4)
Talk 2 - The Unit Head - A Disciple and Pastor (From Talk 1 and Talk 2)
* possibly transfer unit head as a pastoral head to CLT
Talk 3 - Being a Burden or a Blessing
Talk 4 - Earthly and Heavenly Treasure (From Talk 5)
Talk 5 - Gateway to Mature Leadership (From Talk 6 and Talk 7)
Talk 6 - Kingdom Relationships (From Talk 8 and Talk 9)

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Main Points:
A. The Household
B. The Household Members
C. The Household Meeting

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CLO Talk 1: The Chapter
Main Points:
A. The Chapter
B. The Chapter Leaders
C. Chapter Activities

CLO Talk 2: Mananging a Chapter
Main Points:
A. Service Meeting
B. Household Grouping
C. Developing the Next Chapter Leaders
D. Relationship with the rest of SFC

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Main Points:
A. Relationships of a Household Head
B. Evangelistic Headship
C. Effects of Evangelistic Headship

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Session 1 - Ministry Appreciation

SFC  Vision  -  ‘Experiencing Christ’ means our relationship with  God is an ongoing, dynamic and intentional act of knowing Him in everything we do. Our experience with Christ goes beyond the ministry. He meets us where we are, whether at home, at work, or elsewhere. He is with us in all we do.

On being the ‘next generation of Couples For Christ
- The emphasis is on married life since we advocate for the future generation of CFC. Although we recognize that not everyone is called to married life, we acknowledge that some are called to single-blessedness and religious life.
- The next generation of CFC also pertains to other ministries such as HOLD and SOLD. We believe that some of our SFC members are future leaders and members of HOLD and SOLD and of course, of CFC.

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Important Notes/ Points to Stress:
3. In our formation, we follow STAGES and not years because we believe that formation is not time-bound. We recognize the anointing and discernment of the SFC leaders (and couples coordinators) on what is the necessary formation that should be given to their members. Overall, the entire 3 stages can sustain a member for a period of 6-8 years.
4. These formation weekends are prerequisites for the succeeding pastoral formation weekends.
Stage 1 - Covenant Orientation Weekend
Stage 2 - Christ Pursuit Weekend
5. Is it still necessary to include this?

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LEADING THE NEXT GENERATION OF COUPLES FOR CHRIST

Session 3

III.

III.  Effective SFC Couple Coordinators need to remember what they are, and what they are not.

A) SFC Couple Coordinators are mentors and not the immediate parents of the SFCs

1. Parents are still the primary pastors of the SFCs. There will be certain things you may not be able to force upon the SFCs because of their upbringing, experiences, biases, education, etc. Do not feel as if you have to change them entirely or that if you are unable to change them, you are not effective. You have to build trust and create an environment where they feel seen and safe. You are called to be their mentors, providing spiritual guidance, wisdom, and support to help them discern their vocation, whether they are called to married life, single blessedness, or religious life. Moreover, you help them discover or develop their God-given talents and maximize those gifts to be of service to others.

2. If there are times when SFCs are more open about sharing their struggles than their parents or family members, support them in building strong communication to reinforce their dedication to their families.

B) SFC Couple Coordinators are leaders and not the bosses of SFCs.

1. As SFC Couple Coordinators, to guide SFCs to become the next generation of CFC, we should lead by example by living out our covenant with the Lord. We should faithfully grow in prayer, and wisdom, participate in the community life, and seek God's will to provide vision, direction, and inspiration to the team.
2. Indeed, there will be a lot of things to do, and there will be the temptation to demand that they "do as you say". An authoritarian relationship will create friction in the long run for both parties. As leaders, we follow Christ's example of servant leadership. A Christian servant leader is someone who takes the first step and shows up, especially when circumstances are unfavorable and difficult. Active listening is also a vital skill a Christian servant leader should possess. The people you will be serving are mature individuals who want their opinions to be heard and appreciated, so it would be helpful to provide meaningful dialogue rather than lord it over them and create opportunities for growth where they can lead and expand their capabilities.

C)  SFC Couple Coordinators are pastors, and not just spectators of SFCs.

Saying yes to everything the SFCs want to do is not proper. You are not in a peer group where you need to give in to their pressure to feel that they have accepted you. Always practice pastoral leadership. Discern carefully the whites, the blacks, and the grays that will be presented to you in the course of your service. Encourage SFCs to deepen their relationship with the Lord by spending concrete encounters with their family, receiving the Sacraments (Reconciliation and Holy Eucharist), joyfully living out the SFC covenant, taking part in SFC activities, and responding to God’s call in their lives. As SFC couple coordinators, you model these actions because you are accountable for them. When SFCs are going through some hard times, when they feel lost and confused, you are called to be like Jesus, our Good Shepherd, who went after the lost sheep and brought it back home. Pray for the grace to have a heart like Jesus to love and reach for those who are lost and broken. They need to see Christ in you.

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CCT1:
CHO + Teaching Series (Initiatives)

CCT2:
ABCs of Couples Coordinators

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This Talk will be Talk 3 of the CLO.

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HHO Talk 4: Zeal and Single-Mindedness for God

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HHO Talk 4: Zeal and Single-Mindedness for God

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Main Points:
A. Zeal for Righteousness
B. Exercise of Zeal in Our Lives
C. Single-Minded for God

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This talk will be Talk 4 of CLO

CLO Talk 4 new: The Pastoral Leader

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Workshop 1 - Leading a Prayer Meeting
Workshop 2 - Conducting One on ones
Workshop 3 - Leading Worship

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Leading a Prayer Meeting - integrate how to us the members portal
- integrate discerning the topic

Leading Worship - integrate exhortation and songs for discerned topic

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Leading a Prayer Assembly to Conducting a Chapter Teaching

Note: mention that prayer assembly is with the CFC chapter

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The Cluster Couple Coordinator - remove this. Chapter leaders do not need to know this. This can be in the Cluster Couple Coordinators Training or CCT.

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IV. Sequence of Worship
1. ... Start by exhorting (you) members first.
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Start by exhorting your members first.

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Attention to all Sector/Provincial/National Couple Coordinators

The past 30 years of CFC Singles for Christ is God’s affirmation of His great love for us and the ministry. We are thus entrusted with the great and essential task of paving
the way for the next 30 years of our ministry’s life and mission. Your role of training our new Chapter Leaders is vital in making sure that all our members will experience the same love that will nourish and form them to be future bearers of God’s light. We honor you for saying ‘YES’ in leading this training. This manual will be
your guide to the new SFC Chapter Leaders Training (CLT).

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IV. 1. a. Why do we need to exhort?
b. How do we exhort?
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IV. 1.
a. What is exhortation?
b. Why do we need to exhort?
c. How do we exhort?