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"If a man does not keep pace with his companions, perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer. Let him step to the music which he hears, however measured or far away." -Henry David Thoreau

Are you an individualist? To some extent, you probably are, whether you realize it or not. After all, individualism is baked into American culture.

We value independence, creativity, and self-expression, for example. We admire those who stand out from the crowd for their unique personalities and distinctive talents. We reward high achievers and celebrate heroes.

And rightly so. Whether they be artists, philosophers, explorers, or entrepreneurs, non-conformists can be revitalizing agents of change in a world gone stagnant.

But what exactly is individualism, and how does it fit in the American tradition? Let's explore this topic, starting with a definition:

Individualism is a philosophy that views people first and foremost as unique individuals rather than as members of a group. It emphasizes the importance of independence, individuality, and autonomy.

Individualism in American Culture

Many people throughout history, and American history especially, have embodied the spirit of individualism. These people stood out by going where others had not gone before, even when it required an inordinate amount of bravery.

Some of the first people in America to embody this spirit were the Western European explorers who settled the New World in the 15th, 16th and 17th centuries. Unlike the vast majority of their countrymen, these explorers were willing to leave their homes and create new lives for themselves in the budding colonies. Of course, life in North America was anything but easy. They faced countless hardships, like disease, cold, and famine. Yet despite all this, the promise of being able to chart their own course propelled them forward. For all its challenges, the New World offered them something that the Old World simply couldn't match: an opportunity to build a new society.

By the 18th century, the individualistic ethos of the early explorers had evolved into a fully fledged culture of its own. Then, being more independently minded, the colonists insisted on a significant degree of autonomy from Great Britain. When King George III refused to grant them this autonomy, the American Revolution was born, instigated by the Declaration of Independence, a veritable individualist manifesto.

The Revolution ushered in a new nation: the United States of America. And though the system of government created by the Founding Fathers had many flaws, it was rooted in a philosophy of political individualism (more on this later), enshrining people's rights to live their lives as they see fit.

As the 18th century gave way to the 19th century, a new generation of individualists boldly ventured west into the unexplored territory beyond the frontier. Facing harsh conditions and tremendous uncertainty, these "pioneers" were resolute and resilient, embracing an attitude of self-reliance that came to be known as "rugged individualism."

Such self-reliance was explored and celebrated in the works of 19th-century American philosophers like Ralph Waldo Emerson and Henry David Thoreau, who were pivotal figures in the development of individualistic societies.

But the history of American individualism hardly stops there. Indeed, as the last reaches of America were being explored, other kinds of explorers, pioneers, and revolutionaries began to emerge, such as inventors and entrepreneurs.

One of the most famous entrepreneurs from this time period was Henry Ford. Born in 1863, Ford was an incredibly talented and successful businessman, in large part because of his new and innovative ideas. He revolutionized the automobile industry by introducing assembly lines and mass production, making cars affordable even for the middle and lower classes.

But Ford was hardly the only individual making bold changes. Another well-known figure from this time was Thomas Edison, an American inventor and businessman. Famous for inventing the phonograph, the light bulb, and numerous other products, Edison also founded the first investor-owned electric utility company in 1882 in New York City. As with Ford and many other inventors of his time, Edison's curiosity, creativity, and out-of-the-box thinking helped create many of the technologies we now take for granted. Indeed, the willingness to stand out and explore new ideas characterized nearly all of the great inventors of that time, from the Wright brothers to Alexander Graham Bell and countless others.

Aside from technology and science, there have been many other individuals who have stood out in cross cultural fields such as arts, athletics, and moral leadership. There was Bob Dylan and John Lennon, Muhammad Ali and Amelia Earhart. And then there was Billy Graham, Martin Luther King Jr., and Richard Feynman. Though these people had radically different stories and impacts, the one thing they had in common was that they were all uncommon . Indeed, it was their uniqueness, their differentness, their individuality, which caused them to have the influence they did.

One of the earlier moral leaders was Frederick Douglass , an outspoken abolitionist. Douglass was one of the best orators of his time, and he spoke persuasively about the need to end the institution of slavery at a time when slavery was still widely practiced.

Isabel Paterson was another influential individual, though she is not as well known as she perhaps deserves to be. A journalist and novelist, Paterson was one of the first proponents of libertarianism in its modern form. Along with Rose Wilder Lane and Ayn Rand-who are also outstanding individuals in their own right-she helped lay the foundation for the freedom philosophy as we know it.

More recent mold-breakers include Lady Gaga, Johnny Depp, Dave Chapelle, Joe Rogan, Elon Musk, and Steve Jobs.

Jobs was not only an individualist himself, but infused individualism into the brand of his company Apple. He especially appealed to people who stood out from the crowd. This approach was famously captured by Apple's 1997-2002 "Think Different" ad campaign, which featured many of the iconic figures mentioned above. The text of the campaign's says it all.

"Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes, the ones who see things differently. They're not fond of rules, and they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them. About the only thing you can't do is ignore them. Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius. Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do."

From the early settlers to the leaders of today, many individuals have indeed changed the world. But the change they created never came by means of conformity. It always came because of the things that made them stand out.

Individualism in American Politics

Individualism has had a tremendous impact, not only on culture, but on social theory as well, and political philosophy in particular. We owe much of our freedom to that influence. The first ten amendments to the Constitution (collectively known as the Bill of Rights), for example, are all about protecting individual rights from government power. Such sweeping protections for personal freedoms were practically unheard of before the American Revolution.

In most cultures in the past, a person's rights were largely determined by their group identity. In ancient Rome, for example, there was a patrician class and a plebeian class. Patricians had considerably more rights and power than plebeians, but membership in the class (or caste) was determined by ancestry, so no amount of individual effort could change the power imbalance. Feudal societies likewise had strict distinctions between lords and serfs, making it nearly impossible to change one's social status.

All that changed, however, in the 18th century with the rise of classical liberalism , a thoroughly individualistic political philosophy (not to be confused with the modern liberalism associated with the political left). The main tenets of liberalism were simple, yet revolutionary. According to the philosophy, all people have equal rights as individuals regardless of their group identity, and they should be free to make use of their own persons and property however they see fit so long as they do not violate the equal rights of others to do the same.

The most famous codification of the principles of liberalism is found in the Declaration of Independence.

"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness."

In framing the Declaration of Independence, Thomas Jefferson and his co-authors drew largely on the philosophy of John Locke, who is known as the father of liberalism. In his Second Treatise of Government , Locke argued that individual rights are the foundation of a liberal society, beginning with the right of self-ownership.

"Though the earth, and all inferior creatures, be common to all men, yet every man has a property in his own person: this no body has any right to but himself. The labor of his body, and the work of his hands, we may say, are properly his."

Drawing on this foundation, Locke concluded that it is wrong to violate the property rights of others.

"The state of nature has a law of nature to govern it, which obliges every one: and reason, which is that law, teaches all mankind, who will but consult it, that being all equal and independent, no one ought to harm another in his life, health, liberty, or possessions."

Governments, Locke said, are instituted by citizens "for the mutual preservation of their lives, liberties and estates, which I call by the general name, property."

Though the Declaration of Independence used the phrase "pursuit of happiness" instead of "estates," it is clear that the protection of property rights is in view. This protection is articulated more explicitly in the Fifth Amendment, which states: "No person shall...be deprived of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law."

These individualistic principles became the pillars of the social institutions that now characterize what we call the "free world" (hence the term "liberal" democracies). And though it may seem self-evident that people's rights shouldn't depend on their group identity, it's worth remembering that this view was practically unheard of before the rise of classical liberalism.

Regrettably, the transition to treating people as individuals was not as swift as it should have been. Though the ideals espoused in the founding documents of America were noble, the early Americans were reluctant to apply them consistently. Racist and sexist policies in particular (read: vestigial forms of collectivism) were still widespread, and it would take many decades before the laws recognized that women and blacks were just as equal as anyone else. However, with the overthrow of caste systems like slavery, Jim Crow, and the legal subjugation of women, America has come much closer to living up to its individualistic founding principles. And hopefully, this progress can serve as an inspiration for further steps toward the protection of individual rights in the future.

A Philosophy for the Future

In just a few short centuries, the philosophy of individualism has radically reshaped how we relate to one another. It has created individualistic cultures that celebrate individual accomplishment, and political and economic structures that protect individual rights. As a result, generations of mold-breakers and trailblazers have renewed and improved our world, as explorers, pioneers, inventors, entrepreneurs, artists, scientists, and moral leaders.

But individualism is not merely something that happened in the past. As time marches forward, new innovators have the opportunity to rise up and make a difference. By resolving to chart our own course, we too can become revitalizing agents of change in a world gone stagnant. We can blaze new trails where others have not gone before, and we can set an example for those who come after us.

The opportunity to boldly venture into uncharted territory is more real today than it has ever been. The only question is whether we will seize it.

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When it comes to relationships, it's essential to foster a healthy and supportive environment. However, there are instances where relationships can turn toxic, causing harm and distress to those involved. Understanding what defines a toxic relationship, recognizing the signs, and knowing how to navigate them is crucial for your well-being.

So, how do you define a toxic relationship? A toxic relationship is characterized by recurring patterns of negative and harmful behaviors that leave one or both partners feeling emotionally drained, unsupported, and manipulated. It's essential to recognize the signs and take appropriate measures to protect yourself and your mental health.

In this comprehensive guide, we will explore the different types of toxic relationships, the signs and red flags to look out for, the distinction between toxicity and abuse, as well as the impacts of toxic relationships on mental health. We will also provide guidance on navigating toxic relationships and discuss whether it's possible to fix them.

Key Takeaways About Toxic Relationships

A toxic relationship is characterized by recurring patterns of negative and harmful behaviors.

Signs of a toxic relationship include lack of support, toxic communication, controlling behaviors, and constant stress.

Toxic relationships can have severe impacts on mental health, including anxiety, diminished self-worth, and chronic stress.

Coping with toxic relationships requires seeking help, setting boundaries, and prioritizing self-care.

While it's possible to fix some toxic relationships, it requires acceptance, investment, understanding, and sometimes outside help.

Sunshine City Counseling provides individual therapy, mental health coaching and couples therapy in St. Petersburg, FL. We work with issues such as anxiety treatment, depression counseling, postpartum depression, Christian counseling and premarital counseling (and more).

In order to navigate and understand toxic relationships, it is important to first define what exactly constitutes a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships are characterized by harmful and negative behaviors that can have a detrimental impact on one's emotional well-being. These relationships are marked by patterns of manipulation, control, and emotional abuse.

What Is a Toxic Relationship?

A toxic relationship is one that is defined by behaviors and dynamics that are harmful, detrimental, and draining. It is an unhealthy connection between two individuals where one or both partners exhibit toxic behavior. This toxic behavior can manifest in various forms, such as verbal, emotional, or even physical abuse. In a toxic relationship, there is a lack of respect, trust, and support, leading to constant emotional turmoil. When feeling trapped or confused, some people may turn to friends, therapy, or even a psychic online for guidance on how to proceed.

Signs of a Toxic Relationship

Recognizing the signs of a toxic relationship is crucial for understanding its impact and taking appropriate action. Some common signs of a toxic relationship include:

Constant criticism and belittling

Control and manipulative behavior

Jealousy and possessiveness

Lack of respect and boundaries

Isolation from friends and family

Emotional and physical abuse

Toxic vs. Abusive Relationships

It is important to differentiate between toxic and abusive relationships. While both types of relationships involve harmful behaviors, abusive relationships often involve physical violence or threats of violence, while toxic relationships primarily revolve around emotional manipulation and control. However, it is essential to remember that toxic relationships can escalate to become abusive if left unaddressed.

Toxic vs. Healthy Behavior

Understanding the difference between toxic and healthy behaviors in relationships is crucial for navigating healthy dynamics. In a healthy relationship, there is mutual respect, trust, and support. Healthy behaviors include effective communication, compromise, and the ability to resolve conflicts in a constructive manner. Toxic behavior, on the other hand, involves manipulation, control, and a lack of empathy.

Types of Toxic Relationships

In this section, we will explore different types of toxic relationships and provide descriptions and examples of each type. Identifying the specific dynamics of your relationship can help shed light on its toxic nature and empower you to take necessary steps towards healing and growth.

Deprecator-Belittler

The deprecator-belittler is a toxic partner who constantly diminishes your self-esteem and belittles your abilities and worth. They may mock your achievements, dismiss your feelings, and regularly criticize your choices. This type of toxic relationship can be emotionally draining and leave you feeling constantly invalidated.

The "Bad Temper" Toxic Partner

This type of toxic partner has a volatile and explosive temper, often resorting to anger, yelling, and aggression as a means of control. They may use intimidation and threats to manipulate you and others around them. This toxic behavior creates an environment of fear and instability.

The Guilt-Inducer

The guilt-inducer excels at using guilt as a weapon to control and manipulate you. They often make you feel responsible for their emotions and actions, even when you are not at fault. This toxic partner may employ emotional blackmail and manipulation tactics to keep you under their control.

The Overreactor/Deflector

The overreactor/deflector is a toxic partner who exaggerates small issues, blowing them out of proportion. They may deflect blame onto you or others for their own actions and refuse to take responsibility. This pattern of overreaction and deflection can create a tense and volatile environment.

The Over-Dependent Partner

An over-dependent partner is excessively reliant on you for emotional support, validation, and decision-making. They may become overly clingy and possessive, disregarding your personal boundaries and individuality. This type of toxic relationship can lead to codependency and a loss of personal agency.

The "Independent" (Non-Dependable) Toxic Controller

The "independent" toxic controller often presents themselves as self-sufficient and independent, but their behavior is marked by a lack of dependability and reliability. They may prioritize their own needs and goals above yours, often leaving you feeling neglected and unimportant.

The User

A user is a toxic partner who exploits you for personal gain, whether it be financial, emotional, or otherwise. They may take advantage of your kindness and generosity without showing genuine care or reciprocity. This type of toxic relationship can leave you feeling used and unappreciated.

The Possessive (Paranoid) Toxic Controller

A possessive toxic controller exhibits obsessive and controlling behavior, often driven by unfounded feelings of jealousy and possessiveness. They may isolate you from friends and family, monitor your every move, and exhibit controlling behaviors. This type of toxic relationship can lead to a loss of personal freedom and autonomy.

Toxic Relationship Types

Type of Toxic Relationship

Description

Examples

Signs of Toxic Relationship and Red Flags To Watch Out For

In order to recognize a toxic relationship, it is important to be aware of the signs and red flags that may indicate a problematic dynamic. These signs can vary from one relationship to another, but here are some common indicators to look out for:

Lack of Support

In a toxic relationship, you may find that your partner consistently fails to provide emotional support or actively undermines your goals and aspirations.

Toxic Communication

Communication in a toxic relationship is often characterized by constant criticism, sarcasm, insults, or manipulative tactics like gaslighting.

Envy or Jealousy

A toxic partner may display excessive jealousy or envy, often trying to control your interactions with others or undermine your self-esteem.

Controlling Behaviors

One of the key red flags in a toxic relationship is the presence of controlling behaviors, such as monitoring your activities, isolating you from friends and family, or making decisions without your input.

Resentment

Toxic relationships often involve unresolved resentment, where past grievances are continually brought up and used as ammunition in arguments.

Dishonesty

Trust is essential in any healthy relationship, but in toxic dynamics, dishonesty and deceit are common, leading to a lack of transparency and emotional safety.

Patterns of Disrespect

In a toxic relationship, there is a consistent pattern of disrespect, whether it's through name-calling, belittling, or disregarding your boundaries and feelings.

Negative Financial Behaviors

Financial abuse can be a sign of a toxic relationship, where one partner exerts control over finances, restricts access to money, or uses money as a means of manipulation.

Constant Stress

A toxic relationship is often characterized by a pervasive sense of stress and unease, where you may feel constantly on edge or walking on eggshells to avoid conflict.

Ignoring Your Needs

A toxic partner may consistently ignore your needs and prioritize their own desires, showing a lack of empathy and consideration for your well-being.

Lost Relationships

If you find that your toxic relationship has caused you to lose touch with friends or family members, it may be a sign that the dynamic is isolating and unhealthy.

Lack of Self-Care

A toxic relationship can often lead to neglecting your own self-care and well-being, as your focus becomes solely on appeasing your partner or surviving the toxic environment.

Hoping for Change

One common red flag in toxic relationships is holding onto the hope that your partner will change, despite a history of repeated toxic behaviors or promises unfulfilled.

Walking on Eggshells

Feeling like you have to be extremely cautious with your words and actions in order to avoid conflict or anger from your partner is a sign of a toxic relationship.

It's important to remember that experiencing one or two of these signs does not necessarily mean you are in a toxic relationship. However, if you find that multiple signs resonate with your relationship, it may be a signal to evaluate the health and impact of the dynamic.

Signs and Red Flags of Toxic Relationships

Signs and Red Flags

Definition

Lack of Support

Your partner fails to provide emotional support or undermines your goals and aspirations.

Toxic Communication

Constant criticism, sarcasm, insults, or manipulative tactics like gaslighting.

Envy or Jealousy

Excessive jealousy or envy, trying to control your interactions with others.

Controlling Behaviors

Monitoring your activities, isolating you from loved ones, making decisions without your input.

Resentment

Unresolved resentment, continually bringing up past grievances in arguments.

Dishonesty

Lack of transparency and emotional safety due to deceit and dishonesty.

Patterns of Disrespect

Name-calling, belittling, or disregarding your boundaries and feelings.

Negative Financial Behaviors

Financial abuse, exerting control over finances or using money as a means of manipulation.

Constant Stress

A pervasive sense of stress, feeling constantly on edge or walking on eggshells.

Ignoring Your Needs

Consistently ignoring your needs and prioritizing their own desires.

Lost Relationships

Loss of connections with friends or family members due to the toxic relationship.

Lack of Self-Care

Neglecting your own well-being and focusing solely on appeasing your partner.

Hoping for Change

Clutching onto hope for your partner to change despite repeated toxic behaviors.

Walking on Eggshells

Feeling the need to be cautious to avoid conflict or anger from your partner.

The Difference Between Abuse and Toxicity

In relationships, it's important to understand the difference between abuse and toxicity. While both can be harmful, they manifest in different ways and have distinct impacts on individuals involved. Recognizing the signs can help you navigate your own relationships and seek appropriate support.

Diminished Self-Worth

In a toxic relationship, you may experience a gradual erosion of your self-worth. Your partner's destructive behavior and constant criticism can chip away at your confidence and make you question your value. Abuse, on the other hand, often includes deliberate efforts to demean, belittle, and invalidate your sense of self-worth.

Chronic Stress, Anxiety, or Doubt

Toxicity in a relationship can lead to chronic stress, anxiety, and doubt. The negative dynamics and ongoing conflicts can create a constant state of emotional turmoil. In an abusive relationship, you may experience heightened fear and anxiety due to direct threats, physical violence, or intimidation.

Separation from Friends and Family

A toxic relationship can often result in isolation from your support system. Your partner may manipulate and control your interactions with friends and family, causing distance and damage to these important connections. In an abusive relationship, isolation can be a deliberate tactic to maintain power and control.

Interference with Work or School

Toxicity in a relationship may interfere with your ability to perform well at work or school. Constant conflicts and emotional burdens can impact your concentration, productivity, and overall performance. In some cases, an abusive partner may actively sabotage your professional or educational pursuits to maintain control.

Fear and Intimidation

Fear and intimidation are prevalent in abusive relationships. The abuser may resort to threats, physical violence, and gestures that instill fear in you. In a toxic relationship, while fear may also be present, it is often created through emotional manipulation rather than direct acts of violence.

Name-Calling and Put-Downs

Toxicity can involve name-calling and put-downs, where your partner uses derogatory language or insults to undermine your self-esteem. Abuse often includes these behaviors as well, but it can escalate to more severe forms of verbal abuse and humiliation.

Financial Restriction

In a toxic relationship, one partner may exercise control over finances, restricting your access to money and resources. This control can create dependency and limit your autonomy. In an abusive relationship, financial abuse can involve complete control of income, withholding funds, or forcing you into financial dependence.

Gaslighting

Gaslighting is characterized by manipulative tactics aimed at making you doubt your own reality and sanity. In a toxic relationship, gaslighting may be present, but it is often less deliberate and severe compared to abuse. In an abusive relationship, gaslighting is a common tactic used to maintain power and control by distorting your perception of reality.

Threats of Self-Harm

Threatening self-harm is a serious red flag in any relationship. While it can occur in toxic relationships, it is often used more prominently in abusive relationships as a means of emotional manipulation and control.

Physical Violence

The presence of physical violence is a clear indicator of an abusive relationship. Abuse involves the use of force, causing physical harm or injury, and it is never justifiable. While toxicity may include conflicts and aggressive behavior, it typically does not escalate to physical violence.

Abuse vs. Toxicity

Abuse

Toxicity

Involves deliberate acts of demeaning, belittling, and physical harm

Often includes emotional manipulation, conflicts, and negative behavior

Strives to maintain power and control

Can create emotional turmoil and damage self-worth

Includes severe forms of verbal abuse and humiliation

May involve name-calling and insults

Can lead to physical violence

Typically does not escalate to physical violence

Impacts of Toxic Relationships

Toxic Relationships and Mental Health

Being involved in a toxic relationship can have significant impacts on your mental health. The emotional, psychological, and behavioral consequences can be deeply detrimental, affecting various aspects of your well-being.

The toxic dynamics in a relationship can lead to feelings of anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. Constant criticism and belittling from a toxic partner can chip away at your self-worth, leaving you feeling worthless and doubt your own abilities.

Toxic relationships can also cause chronic stress, as you may constantly be on edge and walking on eggshells to avoid conflict or negative reactions from your partner. This chronic stress can manifest through physical symptoms such as headaches, muscle tension, and digestive issues.

Your mental health can also be affected by the isolation that often accompanies toxic relationships. Toxic partners may try to isolate you from friends and family, making you feel isolated and alone. This can worsen feelings of depression and anxiety, as you may no longer have the support system that you once had.

Additionally, being in a toxic relationship can interfere with your work or school life. The constant stress and turmoil can make it difficult to focus and perform well. This can lead to decreased productivity, missed opportunities, and further stress.

The impact of toxic relationships on mental health should not be underestimated. It is crucial to prioritize your well-being and seek support from mental health professionals if you find yourself in a toxic relationship. Taking steps to protect your mental health is essential for your overall happiness and fulfillment.

Impacts of Toxic Relationships on Mental Health

Impacts of Toxic Relationships on Mental Health

Description

Decreased self-worth

Toxic partners can chip away at your self-esteem, making you doubt your own worth and value.

Chronic stress, anxiety, or doubt

Toxic relationships can create a constant state of stress, leading to anxiety and self-doubt.

Separation from friends and family

Toxic partners may isolate you from your support system, leaving you feeling alone and isolated.

Interference with work or school

The stress and turmoil of a toxic relationship can affect your ability to concentrate and perform well in your professional or educational pursuits.

Coping With Toxic Relationships

Managing the challenges and emotions associated with toxic relationships can be incredibly difficult. However, there are practical strategies that can help you navigate these toxic dynamics and regain control of your life. It is important to remember that you do not have to face this alone; seeking professional help is highly recommended.

Get Help Now - Go To Therapy

When coping with toxic relationships, it is crucial to seek help and support from professionals who specialize in relationship counseling. Sunshine City Counseling offers expert guidance and assistance for individuals dealing with toxic dynamics. Their experienced counselors can provide you with the tools and resources needed to address the challenges you are facing.

Here are some steps you can take to cope with toxic relationships:

1. Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being and ensure that toxic behavior does not continue unchecked.

2. Practice self-care: Focus on taking care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Engage in activities that bring you joy and make your well-being a priority.

3. Build a support network: Surround yourself with friends and family who can provide support and understanding during this difficult time. Consider joining a support group or seeking out community resources.

4. Seek professional help: Don't be afraid to reach out to a relationship counselor who can provide guidance and support tailored to your specific situation. Professional intervention can help you make informed decisions and develop effective coping mechanisms.

5. Develop healthy coping mechanisms: Find healthy outlets for your emotions, such as journaling, exercise, or engaging in creative activities. Learning healthy ways to cope with stress and difficult emotions can be empowering.

Remember, coping with toxic relationships is a process that takes time and effort. You deserve to have healthy and fulfilling relationships in your life, and seeking help is the first step towards achieving that.

Benefits of Seeking Help vs. Why You Shouldn't Cope Alone

Benefits of Seeking Help

Why You Shouldn't Cope Alone

Professional guidance tailored to your situation

Support from people who understand what you're going through

Tools and resources to address the challenges you're facing

Validation of your experiences and feelings

Opportunity to develop healthy coping mechanisms

Expert advice on setting boundaries and managing toxic behavior

By seeking help and taking proactive steps, you can regain control of your life and find the support and guidance needed to cope with toxic relationships. Remember, you deserve to be in healthy and nurturing relationships.

Is It Possible to Fix a Toxic Relationship?

When you find yourself in a toxic relationship, it's natural to wonder if there is any hope for repair. While every situation is unique, there are certain key factors that can determine whether a toxic relationship can be fixed.

Acceptance of Responsibility

One crucial aspect of fixing a toxic relationship is the willingness of both partners to accept responsibility for their actions and the role they play in the toxicity. This requires honest self-reflection and acknowledging one's shortcomings and negative behaviors. Without acceptance of responsibility, it becomes challenging to create meaningful change in the relationship.

Willingness to Invest

Repairing a toxic relationship requires a significant investment of time, effort, and emotional energy from both partners. It means prioritizing the relationship and making a conscious decision to work towards a healthier dynamic. Both individuals must be committed to making the necessary changes and putting in the necessary work to rebuild trust and improve communication.

Shift from Blaming to Understanding

In order to move forward, it is essential to shift the focus from blaming one another to seeking understanding. This involves empathetic listening, trying to see things from the other person's perspective, and attempting to understand the underlying reasons behind each other's behaviors. By cultivating empathy and developing a deeper understanding of one another, it becomes easier to find resolution and create a more positive relationship dynamic.

Openness to Outside Help

Seeking outside help, such as couples therapy or relationship counseling, can be instrumental in repairing a toxic relationship. A neutral third party can provide guidance, tools, and strategies to navigate the challenges and promote healthier communication patterns. It demonstrates a willingness to seek professional support and work together towards positive change.

While some toxic relationships can be repaired with dedication and effort, it is important to recognize that not all relationships can or should be salvaged. Sometimes, the toxicity runs too deep or the damage is irreparable. It is crucial to prioritize your own well-being and safety in making decisions about the future of the relationship.

Remember, repairing a toxic relationship requires acceptance, investment, empathy, and a willingness to seek outside help. Ultimately, the decision to fix or end a toxic relationship is a deeply personal one that should prioritize your happiness and emotional well-being.

Frequently Asked Questions About Toxic Relationships:

What is a toxic relationship?

A toxic relationship refers to a relationship that is characterized by negative behaviors, emotions, and communication patterns that are harmful to one or both partners. It often involves controlling, manipulative, or abusive behavior.

How do you define a toxic relationship?

A toxic relationship is defined by a dynamic where one or both partners engage in behaviors that erode the emotional well-being, self-esteem, and overall happiness of the other partner. It involves a pattern of negative interactions and lack of support.

What are the signs of a toxic relationship?

Some signs of a toxic relationship include constant criticism, lack of trust, jealousy, controlling behaviors, disrespect, emotional manipulation, and a sense of constant stress and unhappiness. These signs indicate an unhealthy dynamic.

What is the difference between a toxic relationship and an abusive relationship?

While both toxic and abusive relationships are harmful, the main difference lies in the severity of the behaviors. A toxic relationship may involve emotional manipulation and unhealthy dynamics, while an abusive relationship involves physical or sexual violence, coercion, or extreme control.

What are the impacts of toxic relationships on mental health?

Toxic relationships can have significant impacts on mental health, leading to increased stress, anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. They can also contribute to feelings of isolation, loss of self-worth, and a negative outlook on relationships in general.

How can one cope with a toxic relationship?

Coping with a toxic relationship involves setting boundaries, seeking support from friends or family, practicing self-care, and considering professional help from counseling services such as Sunshine City Counseling. It is important to prioritize one's well-being and safety.

Is it possible to fix a toxic relationship?

It is possible to improve or change a toxic relationship, but it requires both partners to acknowledge their role, take responsibility for their behaviors, and commit to personal growth and change. Seeking outside help from relationship counselors can also be beneficial for overcoming toxic dynamics.

When it comes to relationships, it's essential to foster a healthy and supportive environment. However, there are instances where relationships can turn toxic, causing harm and distress to those involved. Understanding what defines a toxic relationship, recognizing the signs, and knowing how to navigate them is crucial for your well-being.

So, how do you define a toxic relationship? A toxic relationship is characterized by recurring patterns of negative and harmful behaviors that leave one or both partners feeling emotionally drained, unsupported, and manipulated. It's essential to recognize the signs and take appropriate measures to protect yourself and your mental health.

In this comprehensive guide, we will explore the different types of toxic relationships, the signs and red flags to look out for, the distinction between toxicity and abuse, as well as the impacts of toxic relationships on mental health. We will also provide guidance on navigating toxic relationships and discuss whether it's possible to fix them.

Key Takeaways About Toxic Relationships

A toxic relationship is characterized by recurring patterns of negative and harmful behaviors.

Signs of a toxic relationship include lack of support, toxic communication, controlling behaviors, and constant stress.

Toxic relationships can have severe impacts on mental health, including anxiety, diminished self-worth, and chronic stress.

Coping with toxic relationships requires seeking help, setting boundaries, and prioritizing self-care.

While it's possible to fix some toxic relationships, it requires acceptance, investment, understanding, and sometimes outside help.

Sunshine City Counseling provides individual therapy, mental health coaching and couples therapy in St. Petersburg, FL. We work with issues such as anxiety treatment, depression counseling, postpartum depression, Christian counseling and premarital counseling (and more).

In order to navigate and understand toxic relationships, it is important to first define what exactly constitutes a toxic relationship. Toxic relationships are characterized by harmful and negative behaviors that can have a detrimental impact on one's emotional well-being. These relationships are marked by patterns of manipulation, control, and emotional abuse.

What Is a Toxic Relationship?

A toxic relationship is one that is defined by behaviors and dynamics that are harmful, detrimental, and draining. It is an unhealthy connection between two individuals where one or both partners exhibit toxic behavior. This toxic behavior can manifest in various forms, such as verbal, emotional, or even physical abuse. In a toxic relationship, there is a lack of respect, trust, and support, leading to constant emotional turmoil. When feeling trapped or confused, some people may turn to friends, therapy, or even a psychic online for guidance on how to proceed.

Signs of a Toxic Relationship

Recognizing the signs of a toxic relationship is crucial for understanding its impact and taking appropriate action. Some common signs of a toxic relationship include:

Constant criticism and belittling

Control and manipulative behavior

Jealousy and possessiveness

Lack of respect and boundaries

Isolation from friends and family

Emotional and physical abuse

Toxic vs. Abusive Relationships

It is important to differentiate between toxic and abusive relationships. While both types of relationships involve harmful behaviors, abusive relationships often involve physical violence or threats of violence, while toxic relationships primarily revolve around emotional manipulation and control. However, it is essential to remember that toxic relationships can escalate to become abusive if left unaddressed.

Toxic vs. Healthy Behavior

Understanding the difference between toxic and healthy behaviors in relationships is crucial for navigating healthy dynamics. In a healthy relationship, there is mutual respect, trust, and support. Healthy behaviors include effective communication, compromise, and the ability to resolve conflicts in a constructive manner. Toxic behavior, on the other hand, involves manipulation, control, and a lack of empathy.

Types of Toxic Relationships

In this section, we will explore different types of toxic relationships and provide descriptions and examples of each type. Identifying the specific dynamics of your relationship can help shed light on its toxic nature and empower you to take necessary steps towards healing and growth.

Deprecator-Belittler

The deprecator-belittler is a toxic partner who constantly diminishes your self-esteem and belittles your abilities and worth. They may mock your achievements, dismiss your feelings, and regularly criticize your choices. This type of toxic relationship can be emotionally draining and leave you feeling constantly invalidated.

The "Bad Temper" Toxic Partner

This type of toxic partner has a volatile and explosive temper, often resorting to anger, yelling, and aggression as a means of control. They may use intimidation and threats to manipulate you and others around them. This toxic behavior creates an environment of fear and instability.

The Guilt-Inducer

The guilt-inducer excels at using guilt as a weapon to control and manipulate you. They often make you feel responsible for their emotions and actions, even when you are not at fault. This toxic partner may employ emotional blackmail and manipulation tactics to keep you under their control.

The Overreactor/Deflector

The overreactor/deflector is a toxic partner who exaggerates small issues, blowing them out of proportion. They may deflect blame onto you or others for their own actions and refuse to take responsibility. This pattern of overreaction and deflection can create a tense and volatile environment.

The Over-Dependent Partner

An over-dependent partner is excessively reliant on you for emotional support, validation, and decision-making. They may become overly clingy and possessive, disregarding your personal boundaries and individuality. This type of toxic relationship can lead to codependency and a loss of personal agency.

The "Independent" (Non-Dependable) Toxic Controller

The "independent" toxic controller often presents themselves as self-sufficient and independent, but their behavior is marked by a lack of dependability and reliability. They may prioritize their own needs and goals above yours, often leaving you feeling neglected and unimportant.

The User

A user is a toxic partner who exploits you for personal gain, whether it be financial, emotional, or otherwise. They may take advantage of your kindness and generosity without showing genuine care or reciprocity. This type of toxic relationship can leave you feeling used and unappreciated.

The Possessive (Paranoid) Toxic Controller

A possessive toxic controller exhibits obsessive and controlling behavior, often driven by unfounded feelings of jealousy and possessiveness. They may isolate you from friends and family, monitor your every move, and exhibit controlling behaviors. This type of toxic relationship can lead to a loss of personal freedom and autonomy.

Toxic Relationship Types

Type of Toxic Relationship

Description

Examples

Signs of Toxic Relationship and Red Flags To Watch Out For

In order to recognize a toxic relationship, it is important to be aware of the signs and red flags that may indicate a problematic dynamic. These signs can vary from one relationship to another, but here are some common indicators to look out for:

Lack of Support

In a toxic relationship, you may find that your partner consistently fails to provide emotional support or actively undermines your goals and aspirations.

Toxic Communication

Communication in a toxic relationship is often characterized by constant criticism, sarcasm, insults, or manipulative tactics like gaslighting.

Envy or Jealousy

A toxic partner may display excessive jealousy or envy, often trying to control your interactions with others or undermine your self-esteem.

Controlling Behaviors

One of the key red flags in a toxic relationship is the presence of controlling behaviors, such as monitoring your activities, isolating you from friends and family, or making decisions without your input.

Resentment

Toxic relationships often involve unresolved resentment, where past grievances are continually brought up and used as ammunition in arguments.

Dishonesty

Trust is essential in any healthy relationship, but in toxic dynamics, dishonesty and deceit are common, leading to a lack of transparency and emotional safety.

Patterns of Disrespect

In a toxic relationship, there is a consistent pattern of disrespect, whether it's through name-calling, belittling, or disregarding your boundaries and feelings.

Negative Financial Behaviors

Financial abuse can be a sign of a toxic relationship, where one partner exerts control over finances, restricts access to money, or uses money as a means of manipulation.

Constant Stress

A toxic relationship is often characterized by a pervasive sense of stress and unease, where you may feel constantly on edge or walking on eggshells to avoid conflict.

Ignoring Your Needs

A toxic partner may consistently ignore your needs and prioritize their own desires, showing a lack of empathy and consideration for your well-being.

Lost Relationships

If you find that your toxic relationship has caused you to lose touch with friends or family members, it may be a sign that the dynamic is isolating and unhealthy.

Lack of Self-Care

A toxic relationship can often lead to neglecting your own self-care and well-being, as your focus becomes solely on appeasing your partner or surviving the toxic environment.

Hoping for Change

One common red flag in toxic relationships is holding onto the hope that your partner will change, despite a history of repeated toxic behaviors or promises unfulfilled.

Walking on Eggshells

Feeling like you have to be extremely cautious with your words and actions in order to avoid conflict or anger from your partner is a sign of a toxic relationship.

It's important to remember that experiencing one or two of these signs does not necessarily mean you are in a toxic relationship. However, if you find that multiple signs resonate with your relationship, it may be a signal to evaluate the health and impact of the dynamic.

Signs and Red Flags of Toxic Relationships

Signs and Red Flags

Definition

Lack of Support

Your partner fails to provide emotional support or undermines your goals and aspirations.

Toxic Communication

Constant criticism, sarcasm, insults, or manipulative tactics like gaslighting.

Envy or Jealousy

Excessive jealousy or envy, trying to control your interactions with others.

Controlling Behaviors

Monitoring your activities, isolating you from loved ones, making decisions without your input.

Resentment

Unresolved resentment, continually bringing up past grievances in arguments.

Dishonesty

Lack of transparency and emotional safety due to deceit and dishonesty.

Patterns of Disrespect

Name-calling, belittling, or disregarding your boundaries and feelings.

Negative Financial Behaviors

Financial abuse, exerting control over finances or using money as a means of manipulation.

Constant Stress

A pervasive sense of stress, feeling constantly on edge or walking on eggshells.

Ignoring Your Needs

Consistently ignoring your needs and prioritizing their own desires.

Lost Relationships

Loss of connections with friends or family members due to the toxic relationship.

Lack of Self-Care

Neglecting your own well-being and focusing solely on appeasing your partner.

Hoping for Change

Clutching onto hope for your partner to change despite repeated toxic behaviors.

Walking on Eggshells

Feeling the need to be cautious to avoid conflict or anger from your partner.

The Difference Between Abuse and Toxicity

In relationships, it's important to understand the difference between abuse and toxicity. While both can be harmful, they manifest in different ways and have distinct impacts on individuals involved. Recognizing the signs can help you navigate your own relationships and seek appropriate support.

Diminished Self-Worth

In a toxic relationship, you may experience a gradual erosion of your self-worth. Your partner's destructive behavior and constant criticism can chip away at your confidence and make you question your value. Abuse, on the other hand, often includes deliberate efforts to demean, belittle, and invalidate your sense of self-worth.

Chronic Stress, Anxiety, or Doubt

Toxicity in a relationship can lead to chronic stress, anxiety, and doubt. The negative dynamics and ongoing conflicts can create a constant state of emotional turmoil. In an abusive relationship, you may experience heightened fear and anxiety due to direct threats, physical violence, or intimidation.

Separation from Friends and Family

A toxic relationship can often result in isolation from your support system. Your partner may manipulate and control your interactions with friends and family, causing distance and damage to these important connections. In an abusive relationship, isolation can be a deliberate tactic to maintain power and control.

Interference with Work or School

Toxicity in a relationship may interfere with your ability to perform well at work or school. Constant conflicts and emotional burdens can impact your concentration, productivity, and overall performance. In some cases, an abusive partner may actively sabotage your professional or educational pursuits to maintain control.

Fear and Intimidation

Fear and intimidation are prevalent in abusive relationships. The abuser may resort to threats, physical violence, and gestures that instill fear in you. In a toxic relationship, while fear may also be present, it is often created through emotional manipulation rather than direct acts of violence.

Name-Calling and Put-Downs

Toxicity can involve name-calling and put-downs, where your partner uses derogatory language or insults to undermine your self-esteem. Abuse often includes these behaviors as well, but it can escalate to more severe forms of verbal abuse and humiliation.

Financial Restriction

In a toxic relationship, one partner may exercise control over finances, restricting your access to money and resources. This control can create dependency and limit your autonomy. In an abusive relationship, financial abuse can involve complete control of income, withholding funds, or forcing you into financial dependence.

Gaslighting

Gaslighting is characterized by manipulative tactics aimed at making you doubt your own reality and sanity. In a toxic relationship, gaslighting may be present, but it is often less deliberate and severe compared to abuse. In an abusive relationship, gaslighting is a common tactic used to maintain power and control by distorting your perception of reality.

Threats of Self-Harm

Threatening self-harm is a serious red flag in any relationship. While it can occur in toxic relationships, it is often used more prominently in abusive relationships as a means of emotional manipulation and control.

Physical Violence

The presence of physical violence is a clear indicator of an abusive relationship. Abuse involves the use of force, causing physical harm or injury, and it is never justifiable. While toxicity may include conflicts and aggressive behavior, it typically does not escalate to physical violence.

Abuse vs. Toxicity

Abuse

Toxicity

Involves deliberate acts of demeaning, belittling, and physical harm

Often includes emotional manipulation, conflicts, and negative behavior

Strives to maintain power and control

Can create emotional turmoil and damage self-worth

Includes severe forms of verbal abuse and humiliation

May involve name-calling and insults

Can lead to physical violence

Typically does not escalate to physical violence

Impacts of Toxic Relationships

Toxic Relationships and Mental Health

Being involved in a toxic relationship can have significant impacts on your mental health. The emotional, psychological, and behavioral consequences can be deeply detrimental, affecting various aspects of your well-being.

The toxic dynamics in a relationship can lead to feelings of anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. Constant criticism and belittling from a toxic partner can chip away at your self-worth, leaving you feeling worthless and doubt your own abilities.

Toxic relationships can also cause chronic stress, as you may constantly be on edge and walking on eggshells to avoid conflict or negative reactions from your partner. This chronic stress can manifest through physical symptoms such as headaches, muscle tension, and digestive issues.

Your mental health can also be affected by the isolation that often accompanies toxic relationships. Toxic partners may try to isolate you from friends and family, making you feel isolated and alone. This can worsen feelings of depression and anxiety, as you may no longer have the support system that you once had.

Additionally, being in a toxic relationship can interfere with your work or school life. The constant stress and turmoil can make it difficult to focus and perform well. This can lead to decreased productivity, missed opportunities, and further stress.

The impact of toxic relationships on mental health should not be underestimated. It is crucial to prioritize your well-being and seek support from mental health professionals if you find yourself in a toxic relationship. Taking steps to protect your mental health is essential for your overall happiness and fulfillment.

Impacts of Toxic Relationships on Mental Health

Impacts of Toxic Relationships on Mental Health

Description

Decreased self-worth

Toxic partners can chip away at your self-esteem, making you doubt your own worth and value.

Chronic stress, anxiety, or doubt

Toxic relationships can create a constant state of stress, leading to anxiety and self-doubt.

Separation from friends and family

Toxic partners may isolate you from your support system, leaving you feeling alone and isolated.

Interference with work or school

The stress and turmoil of a toxic relationship can affect your ability to concentrate and perform well in your professional or educational pursuits.

Coping With Toxic Relationships

Managing the challenges and emotions associated with toxic relationships can be incredibly difficult. However, there are practical strategies that can help you navigate these toxic dynamics and regain control of your life. It is important to remember that you do not have to face this alone; seeking professional help is highly recommended.

Get Help Now - Go To Therapy

When coping with toxic relationships, it is crucial to seek help and support from professionals who specialize in relationship counseling. Sunshine City Counseling offers expert guidance and assistance for individuals dealing with toxic dynamics. Their experienced counselors can provide you with the tools and resources needed to address the challenges you are facing.

Here are some steps you can take to cope with toxic relationships:

1. Set boundaries: Establish clear boundaries to protect your emotional well-being and ensure that toxic behavior does not continue unchecked.

2. Practice self-care: Focus on taking care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Engage in activities that bring you joy and make your well-being a priority.

3. Build a support network: Surround yourself with friends and family who can provide support and understanding during this difficult time. Consider joining a support group or seeking out community resources.

4. Seek professional help: Don't be afraid to reach out to a relationship counselor who can provide guidance and support tailored to your specific situation. Professional intervention can help you make informed decisions and develop effective coping mechanisms.

5. Develop healthy coping mechanisms: Find healthy outlets for your emotions, such as journaling, exercise, or engaging in creative activities. Learning healthy ways to cope with stress and difficult emotions can be empowering.

Remember, coping with toxic relationships is a process that takes time and effort. You deserve to have healthy and fulfilling relationships in your life, and seeking help is the first step towards achieving that.

Benefits of Seeking Help vs. Why You Shouldn't Cope Alone

Benefits of Seeking Help

Why You Shouldn't Cope Alone

Professional guidance tailored to your situation

Support from people who understand what you're going through

Tools and resources to address the challenges you're facing

Validation of your experiences and feelings

Opportunity to develop healthy coping mechanisms

Expert advice on setting boundaries and managing toxic behavior

By seeking help and taking proactive steps, you can regain control of your life and find the support and guidance needed to cope with toxic relationships. Remember, you deserve to be in healthy and nurturing relationships.

Is It Possible to Fix a Toxic Relationship?

When you find yourself in a toxic relationship, it's natural to wonder if there is any hope for repair. While every situation is unique, there are certain key factors that can determine whether a toxic relationship can be fixed.

Acceptance of Responsibility

One crucial aspect of fixing a toxic relationship is the willingness of both partners to accept responsibility for their actions and the role they play in the toxicity. This requires honest self-reflection and acknowledging one's shortcomings and negative behaviors. Without acceptance of responsibility, it becomes challenging to create meaningful change in the relationship.

Willingness to Invest

Repairing a toxic relationship requires a significant investment of time, effort, and emotional energy from both partners. It means prioritizing the relationship and making a conscious decision to work towards a healthier dynamic. Both individuals must be committed to making the necessary changes and putting in the necessary work to rebuild trust and improve communication.

Shift from Blaming to Understanding

In order to move forward, it is essential to shift the focus from blaming one another to seeking understanding. This involves empathetic listening, trying to see things from the other person's perspective, and attempting to understand the underlying reasons behind each other's behaviors. By cultivating empathy and developing a deeper understanding of one another, it becomes easier to find resolution and create a more positive relationship dynamic.

Openness to Outside Help

Seeking outside help, such as couples therapy or relationship counseling, can be instrumental in repairing a toxic relationship. A neutral third party can provide guidance, tools, and strategies to navigate the challenges and promote healthier communication patterns. It demonstrates a willingness to seek professional support and work together towards positive change.

While some toxic relationships can be repaired with dedication and effort, it is important to recognize that not all relationships can or should be salvaged. Sometimes, the toxicity runs too deep or the damage is irreparable. It is crucial to prioritize your own well-being and safety in making decisions about the future of the relationship.

Remember, repairing a toxic relationship requires acceptance, investment, empathy, and a willingness to seek outside help. Ultimately, the decision to fix or end a toxic relationship is a deeply personal one that should prioritize your happiness and emotional well-being.

Frequently Asked Questions About Toxic Relationships:

What is a toxic relationship?

A toxic relationship refers to a relationship that is characterized by negative behaviors, emotions, and communication patterns that are harmful to one or both partners. It often involves controlling, manipulative, or abusive behavior.

How do you define a toxic relationship?

A toxic relationship is defined by a dynamic where one or both partners engage in behaviors that erode the emotional well-being, self-esteem, and overall happiness of the other partner. It involves a pattern of negative interactions and lack of support.

What are the signs of a toxic relationship?

Some signs of a toxic relationship include constant criticism, lack of trust, jealousy, controlling behaviors, disrespect, emotional manipulation, and a sense of constant stress and unhappiness. These signs indicate an unhealthy dynamic.

What is the difference between a toxic relationship and an abusive relationship?

While both toxic and abusive relationships are harmful, the main difference lies in the severity of the behaviors. A toxic relationship may involve emotional manipulation and unhealthy dynamics, while an abusive relationship involves physical or sexual violence, coercion, or extreme control.

What are the impacts of toxic relationships on mental health?

Toxic relationships can have significant impacts on mental health, leading to increased stress, anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. They can also contribute to feelings of isolation, loss of self-worth, and a negative outlook on relationships in general.

How can one cope with a toxic relationship?

Coping with a toxic relationship involves setting boundaries, seeking support from friends or family, practicing self-care, and considering professional help from counseling services such as Sunshine City Counseling. It is important to prioritize one's well-being and safety.

Is it possible to fix a toxic relationship?

It is possible to improve or change a toxic relationship, but it requires both partners to acknowledge their role, take responsibility for their behaviors, and commit to personal growth and change. Seeking outside help from relationship counselors can also be beneficial for overcoming toxic dynamics.

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While there are a number of keys to building trust within any group, it's important to realize that this ethos should permeate every aspect of your engagement program.

The challenge of course is that we have entered an era of declining trust (though to varying degrees) in government and institutions of all types and across most nations. As has been widely documented, this poses serious challenges to those of us seeking to engage communities in an effective discussion, decision-making and participation processes.

Several drivers contribute to this decline in trust - many of which highlight issues that an effective engagement process should be designed to anticipate and/or address. These include:

Perceptions of bias of those convening or facilitating the process or in the information available

Limited engagement with, or understanding of the processes and expectations of engagement

Political polarization and the reliance on 'proxy attributes' guiding pre-conceived perceptions

Persistence of wicked issues

Increased distance between professionals and citizens as governance processes and activities become increasingly specialized and complex (Adapted from Matthews, 2008).

The Keys to Building Trust

Several key imperatives are found throughout the substantial trust literature. Each of these can be enhanced - or conversely undermined - in a number of implicit and explicit ways. They include:

Effective communication. This includes before, throughout, and following your formal engagement efforts. If pursued effectively, the more citizens and communities understand the process, your goals and intended outcomes, the information they need to make an informed decision, the perspectives of each other, and their role(s) and stake in the process and issue, the more trust your engagement efforts will engender and be able to build from in the long-run.

Respect. While this sounds obvious, it is absolutely essential that the tone, content, and facilitation of your engagement efforts genuinely respects the input of all participants or members - even if it's sometimes difficult.

Transparency of processes. Your entire engagement efforts should be clear and well-understood by all stakeholders, devoid of 'hidden' or alternative agendas (personal, political, or informational), and honest about the role and influence citizens will have in the either the decision-making or implementation of solutions. Many community engagement efforts have failed in this regard.

Sharing information widely. Effective engagement and trust requires that everyone involved is working from a common understanding of the issue and each other's perspectives as possible. If participants or residents feel that information is only shared with some members or does not do justice to all perspectives on an issue, you are very unlikely to be able to create the trust you need for effective or sustainable engagement.

Engaging stakeholders in meaningful ways. Although closely related to respect, stakeholders will show greater trust in the engagement efforts that account for their perspectives, view their contributions, and employ their skills in a manner that they feel is consistent with their perspectives of these attributes.

In developing your strategies and tools to enhance trust, Stephen M.R. Covey (2006) has identified 'five waves of trust' that are worth considering. A brief summary highlights:

Self-trust.

The Principle of Credibility. In its simplest form: "do you trust yourself and are you someone that others can trust?" It is critical that you can honestly answer 'yes' to both these questions.

Relationship Trust.

This is all about consistent behavior in all your relationships with others. People judge us on our behavior not our intentions.

Organizational Trust.

The principle here is alignment - in essence does your organization structures, policies, and systems engender the trust you want to achieve?

Market Trust.

This refers to your organization's overall reputation - a trust that can be built or destroyed at incredible speed.

Societal Trust.

This is based on the principle of contribution - do stakeholders see your organization or entity as having a past record of accomplishment and contribution to the things they care about?

References

Matthews, David. " Connections 2008: Focus on Communities." Kettering Foundation, 2008. Covey, Stephen M.R. " The Speed of trust: the one thing that changes everything." Simon and Schuster, 2006.

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Lola Tulloch and Tulla Robinson explore their feelings about toxic friendships and what it means to have close friends

Confidants; supporters; defenders; motivators; companions; collaborators; energisers and thought provokers. Whoever they are, whatever they do, friends are important. So important in fact that, according to scientific reports in The Fader magazine, positive relationships can extend your life expectancy and reduce risk of heart problems.

Our best friends are supportive, kind, compassionate and caring.

It can sometimes be difficult to read another person when they're troubled; emotions are complex. It helps to empathise, put yourself in your friends' shoes, try to understand why they might have particular worries and concerns.

Doesn't it feel good when a friend provides comfort, without you having to say much? I know when I'm feeling difficult emotions it's not always easy to open up but the more I trust someone and feel safe, the easier I find it to talk. From past experience I know that my worries only get worse if I bottle them all up. Also, I think it helps others feel free to express their feelings when you open up.

It's healthy to be transparent and authentic with your friends so they know the true you. Even letting them know you don't feel good but you're struggling to explain it right now is a great start.

The best friendships are healthy and rewarding relationships where you bring out the best in each other

Whenever a friend seems unhappy, it's good to ask them why they feel sad, but you also need to give them space if they don't want to talk. You can still be there for them but let them breathe. Let them talk in their own time. Having patience and the capacity to listen are great qualities and can bring relief to a friend in turmoil.

The best friendships are healthy and rewarding relationships. You not only bring out the best in each other, but you also enjoy spending time together and appreciating one another's differences. When I'm with good friends I feel relaxed and comfortable and on an equal footing. When I come away, I feel energised and good about myself.

A while ago when I was really sad, three of my friends wrote me a letter. They each wrote a paragraph about how I made them feel comfortable and happy.

The letter made me realise how much my friends value me and take notice of the things I do. It made me feel loved. I think this was such a positive experience of friendship, through their caring and generous gestures I really started to feel happier.

However, it can be draining to be friends with someone who tries to control or manipulate you. At times like these it's especially important to see the difference between healthy and unhealthy friendships. If a friendship is unhealthy you might often feel sad, anxious or undermined in their company and be relieved once you're away from them.

They tried to stop me making new friends and would get mad and jealous if I hung out with other people

I once had a friend who would always ask to go through my phone, and would make me promise that I was their #1 best friend. They would want to 'phone swap' so they could go through my messages.

They wanted to look through my personal things like my photos and my notes too. When I told them that I didn't want to 'phone swap' they would get very annoyed at me.

It became clear that this friend had little respect for what I wanted and how I felt. They tried to stop me making new friends and would get mad and jealous if I hung out with other people. It started to dawn on me that this was a toxic and controlling friendship.

Luckily, I was able to drift away and started to surround myself with the people that I had a good time with and who really did care about me.

I think it's good to remember, controlling people don't have your best interests at heart. The relationship is based on their attempt to control you, not on mutual respect.

We have both been through toxic friendships and feel blessed right now to have each other and our other lovely friends. We encourage anyone who can relate to our encounters of negative friendships to make a stand and move away from these people. You can get more advice from Reachout.com here.

It's good to be mindful of how people make you feel. It's so worth working out what's toxic and what's not so you can move forward with awareness into romantic relationships where there could be even more at stake. You can get more advice here from the Your Best Friend #FriendsCanTell campaign.
Thanks to SafeLives, which is operating the Your Best Friend Fund, for making this fantastic #FriendsCanTell campaign possible.

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Friendships: what they mean and why they're important - Exposure

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Collage created by Lola and Tulla with their own photographs. Notebook image by Markus Spiske from Pixabay Lola Tulloch and Tulla Robinson explore their feelings about toxic friendships and what it means to have close friends Confidants; supporters; defenders; motivators; companions; collaborators; energisers and thought provokers.

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Anxiety is an emotion characterized by feelings of tension, worried thoughts, and physical changes like increased blood pressure.

People with anxiety disorders usually have recurring intrusive thoughts or concerns. They may avoid certain situations out of worry. They may also have physical symptoms such as sweating, trembling, dizziness, or a rapid heartbeat.

Anxiety is not the same as fear, but they are often used interchangeably. Anxiety is considered a future-oriented, long-acting response broadly focused on a diffuse threat, whereas fear is an appropriate, present-oriented, and short-lived response to a clearly identifiable and specific threat.

Adapted from the Encyclopedia of Psychology and APA Dictionary of Psychology

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Anxiety is characterized by feelings of tension, worried thoughts and physical changes. Anxiety disorders such as panic disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) cause recurring intrusive thoughts or concerns and physical symptoms such as sweating, trembling, dizziness or a rapid heartbeat.

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Second Chances – A World Full of Meaning in Just Two Words

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Discover inspiring second-chance stories of real people who turned their lives around and overcame their biggest challenges.

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Whether a person lives in isolation or not, feeling a lack of social connectedness can be painful. Loneliness can be described in different ways; a commonly used measure of loneliness, the UCLA Loneliness Scale, asks individuals about a range of feelings or deficits of connection, including how often they:

feel they lack companionship

feel left out

feel "in tune" with people around them

feel outgoing and friendly

feel there are people they can turn to

Given the potential health consequences for those who feel like they have few or no supportive social connections, widespread loneliness poses a major societal challenge. But it underscores a demand for increased outreach and connection on a personal level, too.

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Though our need to connect is innate, many of us frequently feel alone. Loneliness is the state of distress or discomfort that results when one perceives a gap between one's desires for social connection and actual experiences of it. Even some people who are surrounded by others throughout the day-or are in a long-lasting marriage-still experience a deep and pervasive loneliness.