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to create space to engage in conflict without judgement and shame

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to create space to engage in conflict without judgement and shame

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that conflict means the end, I want to see it as an opportunity for growth through repair

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that conflict means the end, I want to see it as an opportunity for growth through repair

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swallowing hurt to move on rather than confronting it

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swallowing hurt to move on rather than confronting it

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learn--patience, tools to listen well and address conflict.  To avoid fight, flight, freeze responses.  How to stay in the moment and in my body.

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learn--patience, tools to listen well and address conflict.  To avoid fight, flight, freeze responses.  How to stay in the moment and in my body.

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Conflict causes loss - of relationships, of credibility, of respect, of value to others.

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Conflict causes loss - of relationships, of credibility, of respect, of value to others.

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direct communication does not equal disrespect 

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direct communication does not equal disrespect 

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To have language of verbalizing my feelings without attacking another

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To have language of verbalizing my feelings without attacking another

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I want to undo the teaching that males need to engage in conflict to have self value/worth 

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I want to undo the teaching that males need to engage in conflict to have self value/worth 

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I want to unlearn being defensive when I am accused of doing the wrong thing or harming others.

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increase my comfort with nonclosure

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conflict is ugly/shameful and we don't talk about it after

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conflict is ugly/shameful and we don't talk about it after

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to be able to sit in conflict and not just jump to try and "solve" it

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to be able to sit in conflict and not just jump to try and "solve" it

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white folks, men are given more permission to be angry, activate and name conflict; BIPOC/women are not.
conflict is something to ignore, brush off. a kind of false peace.

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the negative/avoiding feeling in my body when I hear "conflict"

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the negative/avoiding feeling in my body when I hear "conflict"

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Challenging my freeze response during conflict that involves me or a situation where I don't feel confident.

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I want to normalize that speaking up and engaging in conflict isnt aggressive, but rather staying quiet can present as abuse

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I want to normalize that speaking up and engaging in conflict isnt aggressive, but rather staying quiet can present as abuse

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Conflict = rupture that requires repair 

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Conflict = rupture that requires repair 

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learn to listen with the intention to understand another person's point of view. continue to learn to end intentionally harmful conversation instead of remaining silent.

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learn to listen with the intention to understand another person's point of view. continue to learn to end intentionally harmful conversation instead of remaining silent.

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conflict is scary both at home and in the workplace

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conflict is scary both at home and in the workplace

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unlearn urgency...wanting to find the peace in honoring the process of repair and others' pace

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unlearn urgency...wanting to find the peace in honoring the process of repair and others' pace

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I've been taught that I am the peacemaker in my family. It leaves room for others to be in conflict around me, but doesn't leave room for me to be in conflict. Or to have others support me.

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I'd like unlearn being ok with lacking repair. I'd like to be able to state more clearly why and how repair would be helpful to my own growth.

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I'd like unlearn being ok with lacking repair. I'd like to be able to state more clearly why and how repair would be helpful to my own growth.

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Holding things in, especially with microaggressions 

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Holding things in, especially with microaggressions 

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How to engage in conflict from a space of choice rather than a space of anger

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How to engage in conflict from a space of choice rather than a space of anger

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How to heal after going through conflict 

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How to heal after going through conflict 

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Any questioning of conflict is aggression, and most often, those with the loudest voices are the ones that "win".

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Conflict is something that is part of life.

We don't have to agree but we need to respect each other's perspective

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I want to unlearn being reactionary during conflict

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how to uphold my values, principles and integrity in conflict

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dont engage in  arguments because I was young and didnt know what I was saying and respect my elders and stay silent. 

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dont engage in  arguments because I was young and didnt know what I was saying and respect my elders and stay silent. 

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Being loudest means your being heard.

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Anger that robs me of real self expression

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Anger that robs me of real self expression

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Be the peacemaker

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conflict is always avoidable (very untrue)

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conflict is always avoidable (very untrue)

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It's binary - about who is right and who is wrong

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It's binary - about who is right and who is wrong

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You'll be punished if you create conflict.

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You'll be punished if you create conflict.

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you are problematic if you encourage engaging in conflict

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Conflict is to be avoided at all costs.

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How to allow conflict to be a connecting experience.

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How to allow conflict to be a connecting experience.

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Real Men don't cry, don't back away from confrontation 

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Real Men don't cry, don't back away from confrontation 

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Conflict is bad. Silence is the response.

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Conflict is bad. Silence is the response.

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to always people please -especially in conflict ( meaning I can't express my needs)

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conflict is inconvenient and bothersome to others. ignore it.

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conflict is inconvenient and bothersome to others. ignore it.

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Good women do not engage in conflict. Conflict risks connection to community and family 

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Good women do not engage in conflict. Conflict risks connection to community and family 

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Conflict=aggression

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during conflict be quiet

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To not engage with others who disagree with  me.

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Ignore it and avoid it

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how to lean into conflict as a potential for change 

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how to lean into conflict as a potential for change 

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If you are in conflict you are a difficult person. 

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If you are in conflict you are a difficult person. 

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automatically thinking conflict (via anger, tension) is scary and that I'm responsible for fixing it immediately

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To listen to others even when you don't agree with it.

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example here!