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This group was created for high school students who are struggling with family changes, specifically divorce. The group will focus on exploring feelings and coping skills. It is meant to help reduce negative emotions and provide students with ways to cope.

Divorce is very common and can affect children's education and mental health. It is estimated that about 25% of children who experience parental divorce suffer from emotional and behavioral problems (American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, n.d.). Giving students support and educating them on coping skills can help in reducing these negative effects.

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To inform the students about the group flyers will be sent home with the students. Teachers will be sent the information viva email. Students can reach out if interested and teachers can refer students who might benefit from attending.

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The students will be informed of the rules for the group during the first session. These will be reviewed by students along with the facilitator and they will have the opportunity to add any additional rules.

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The article breakdowns the effects that divorce has on children. All children react and suffer effects in different areas. Having students share their experiences with others along with learning about coping skills and social support can help reduce or eliminate the effects of divorce.

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Splitting up isn't easy. Entire novels and pop songs have been written about it. And when children are involved, divorce can be an especially sensitive situation.

Breathe. You're in the right place. The truth is that divorce does impact kids - sometimes in ways you wouldn't quite expect. But it isn't all doom and gloom.

If you're feeling overwhelmed, remind yourself that you're doing what's right for you and your family. Moving forward, try your very best to plan, understand the potential warning signs, and make yourself emotionally available to your child.

That all said, let's jump in with some ways your child may express their feelings surrounding separation.

Kids may feel angry about divorce. If you think about it, it makes sense. Their whole world is changing - and they don't necessarily have much input.

Anger can strike at any age, but it's particularly present with school-aged kids and teens. These emotions may arise from feelings of abandonment or loss of control. Anger may even be directed inward, as some children blame themselves for their parents' divorce.

You may also notice that your social butterfly child has become quite shy or anxious. They're likely thinking about and feeling a lot right now. They may seem uninterested or even fearful of social situations, like hanging out with friends or attending school events.

Low self-image is associated with both divorce and social withdrawal, so boosting your child's confidence and inner dialogue may help them come out of their shell again.

Academically, kids going through divorce may earn lower grades and even face a higher dropout rate compared to their peers. These effects may be seen as early as age 6 but may be more noticeable as kids reach the ages of 13 to 18 years old.

There are several possible reasons for this link, including that children may feel neglected, depressed, or distracted by increased conflict between their parents. With time, less interest in academics at the high school level may trickle over to less interest with furthering their education overall.

Younger children may show signs of separation anxiety, such as increased crying or clinginess. Of course, this is also a developmental milestone that tends to begin between the ages of 6 to 9 months and resolve by 18 months.

Still, older toddlers and kids may show signs of separation anxiety or may ask for the other parent when they're not around.

Some kids may respond well to a consistent routine as well as visual tools, such as a calendar, with visitations clearly labeled on it.

Toddlers and preschoolers between the ages of 18 months and 6 years old may revert back to behaviors like clinginess, bedwetting, thumb sucking, and temper tantrums.

If you notice regression, it may be a sign of increased stress on your child or their difficulty with transition. These behaviors can be worrisome - and you may not know where to start with helping your little one. The keys here are continual reassurance and consistency in the environment - actions that make your child feel safe.

One 2019 study poses the question of whether or not children literally carry the weight of divorce. While body mass index (BMI) in kids doesn't immediately show an impact, the BMI over time may be "significantly" higher than children who haven't gone through divorce. And these effects are particularly noted in kids who experience separation before turning 6 years old.

Children in most age groups also encounter sleep issues, which may contribute to weight gain. This goes back to regression, but also includes things like nightmares or belief in monsters or other fantastical beings that bring about feelings of anxiety around bedtime.

When parents fight, research explains that children go through both cognitive dissonance and loyalty conflict. This is just a fancy way of saying that they feel uncomfortable being stuck in the middle, not knowing if they should side with one parent over another.

This may show up as an intense need for "fairness" even if it's harmful to their own development. Kids may also show their discomfort with increased stomachaches or headaches.

The loyalty conflict may become even more pronounced as children get older, eventually leading to a total break in contact with one parent (though the chosen parent may change with time).

While a child may initially feel low or sad about the divorce, studies report that children of divorce are at risk of developing clinical depression. Even more concerning, a few are also at higher risk of suicide threats or attempts.

While these issues can impact kids of any age, they tend to be more prominent with kids ages 11 years and older. And boys may be more at risk of suicidal thoughts than girls, according to the American Academy of Pediatrics.

Enlisting the help of a licensed mental health professional is critically important for this reason.

Related: Yes - children need to take mental health days

Abuse of alcohol and drugs, aggressive behavior, and early introduction to sexual activity are also possible. For example, studies show that teen girls tend to have sex at earlier ages when they live in a household where the father isn't present.

Research does not show the same risk for boys. And this early "sexual debut" may be attributed to several factors, including modified beliefs about marriage and thoughts on childbearing.

Finally, show that when parents divorce, there's a good chance that their kids could wind up in the same position as adults. The idea here is that a split between parents may change a child's attitude toward relationships in general. They may be less enthused to enter long-term, committed relationships.

And living through divorce shows kids that there are many alternatives to family models. The research also suggests that children may choose cohabitation (living together without being married) over marriage. However, it's worth noting that this is fairly normalized in our current culture, regardless of family history.

There's no way around it - talking about the divorce with your kids is tough. And when you're at the point of divorce, you have likely already thought about it and talked about it a million times.

Your children, however, may have absolutely no clue anything has been going on. To them, the idea may be entirely out of left field. An open and honest discussion can help.

Therapist Lisa Herrick, PhD, shares some tips:

Bring up the topic a good 2 to 3 weeks before any separation is set to begin. This gives kids some time to process the situation.

Be sure you have a plan in your mind, even if it's loose. Your child will probably have a lot of questions about logistics (who's moving out, where they're moving, what visitation might look like, etc.), and it's assuring to them if there's some framework in place.

Have the talk in a quiet space that's free from distraction. You may also want to make sure there are no pressing obligations later on in the day. For example, a weekend day may be best.

Consider telling your child's teacher a day or so before you tell your child. This gives the teacher a heads up if your child begins acting out or needs support. Of course, you can also request that the teacher doesn't mention it to your child unless your child mentions it to them.

Hone in on certain points, like how you and your partner didn't come to the decision easily. Instead, you have thought about this for a long while after trying many other ways to make things work better.

Assure your child that the split isn't in response to their behavior. Likewise, explain how your little one is free to love each parent fully and equally. Resist casting any blame, even if it seems impossible given the circumstances.

And be sure to give your child room to feel how they need to feel. You may even want to say something along the lines of, "All feelings are normal feelings. You may feel worried, angry, or even sad, and that's OK. We'll work through these feelings together."

Related: Depression and divorce: What can you do?

Eventually, you or your ex may find another person you want to spend your life with. And this can feel like an especially tricky thing to bring up with the kids.

It's important to talk about this idea well in advance of a first meeting. Otherwise, the specific timing, boundaries, and ground rules are all totally up to the parents involved - but these are all discussion points that should come up before thrusting the kids into a potentially emotional situation.

You may choose, for example, to wait until you're in an exclusive relationship for several months before involving the kids. But the timeline will look different for each family.

The same goes with the boundaries you set. No matter how you do it, though, try your best to have a plan and plenty of understanding for any emotions that crop up.

Related: How can pediatricians help a family going through divorce?

Things can get tough and touchy in even the most cooperative of split-ups. Divorce isn't an easy topic to broach. But your children will appreciate your transparency and understanding of their stake in the situation.

Some other tips to help them cope:

Encourage your child to talk to you. Explain that you're a safe place to share any feelings they might be having. Then, most importantly, listen with open ears to anything they have to say.

Understand that all kids process change differently. What works for one of your kids may not speak to another. Pay attention to any acting out or other cues you see, and pivot your approach accordingly.

Try to eliminate conflict between yourself and your ex if possible (and it may not always be possible). When parents fight in front of their kids, it has the potential to result in "taking sides" or loyalty to one parent over another. (By the way, this isn't a divorce phenomenon. It happens with kids of married couples who fight, too.)

Reach out for help if you need it. This may be in the form of your own family and friends support system. But if your child is starting to display some warning signs, call your pediatrician or a mental health professional. You don't need to face things alone.

Be kind to yourself. Yes, your child needs you to be strong and centered. Still, you're only human. It's perfectly fine and even encouraged to show emotions in front of your kids. Showing your own emotions will likely help your children open up about their own as well.

Related: Co-parenting with a narcissist

In much of the research and writings on divorce, it's clear that kids are resilient. The effects of separation tend to be more challenging in the first 1 to 3 years.

Plus, not all kids see negative effects from divorce. Those living in high conflict environments may even see the separation as something positive.

In the end, it goes back to doing what's right for your family. And families can take on many forms. Try your best to explain to your child that, no matter what, you are still a family - you're simply changing.

More than anything else, your child wants to know that they have your unconditional love and support regardless of your relationship status.

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Effects of Divorce on Children: Behavioral, Social, and More

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Splitting up isn't easy. Entire novels and pop songs have been written about it. And when children are involved, divorce can be an especially sensitive situation. Breathe. You're in the right place. The truth is that divorce does impact kids - sometimes in ways you wouldn't quite expect.

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The following of Yalom's therapeutic factors will be present throughout the group sessions:

Universality- Students will see that they are not alone in their struggles. Additionally, they will see others who are experiencing a similar situation and feelings.

Installation of Hope- Students will learn that they can learn to manage their emotions with coping skills.

Altruism- As students learn how to manage their emotions they are able to help others in finding ways to cope by sharing their experiences.

Direct Advice- Students and the facilitator will share coping mechanisms with the group in order to find something that works for each student.

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The American Counseling Association code of ethics lists the following ethical guidelines that apply to group sessions.

Section A.9.a  states that proper screening should be conducted in group settings in order to ensure that the students selected are compatible with group goals.

Section B.4. specifies the importance of establishing and explaining confidentiality within the group.

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Through this group students will meet the following behavior standards:

B-SMS 7 Effective Coping Skills
B-SMS 10. Ability to manage transitions and adapt to change

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A pre-group interview will be conducted with each student who shows interest in the group or was referred by teachers. This interview will serve to find students who are a good fit for the group and would benefit from attending.

The TAP-in process would be used in which participants will be informed about:

Group goals and expectations.

Be asked about what they are wanting to gain from the group, career goals, and confidentiality.

Pick group members who would fit the group's goals and follow confidentiality.

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Stage 1: During this stage, it is important to work on building trust between the group participants. This will be done by completing an ice breaker activity which can help to make students feel comfortable.

Stage 2: This stage will occur over several sessions in which students will work on accomplishing their individual goals. This will be completed by covering a series of activities that will cover the topics of negative emotions, social support, and coping skills.

Stage 3: During this stage, the group will work on closure by a reflection activity in which students will explore their progress. Additionally, students will plan on how they can continue using the skills learned in the group.

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American Counseling Association. (2014). 2014 ACA code of ethics. https://www.counseling.org/docs/default-source/default-document-library/2014-code-of-ethics-finaladdress.pdf

Marcin, A. (2020, May 7). 10 Effects of Divorce on
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https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/effects-of-divorce-on-children

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implementing, and evaluating school-based counseling groups.

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group psychotherapy (4th ed.). New York: Basic Books.

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There are several legal requirements that are involved when working with minors.

Public Education code section 33.003 require parents to provide written consent in order for students to participate in the group session.

American Counseling Code of Ethics (2014) specifies in section B.5. a the responsibility to maintain confidentiality when working with minors.

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Informed consent forms will be sent home with students who were selected to participate. Along with this, information about the group will be given to parents to provide the purpose of the group. Additionally, students will be given a consent form during their first session.

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For this group the leadership style that will be used is participative. This type of leadership seems the most appropriate and beneficial since it allows the students to participate. Participative leadership will be best in helping accomplish the group goals and students are likely to be more motivated when they are directly participating.