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Elternseminar »Nikotin – Vapes und Co« - 08.07.2025 - 16:00 - 19:00

Elternseminar »Digitale Medien« - 10.09.2025 - 16:00 - 19:00

Höhenrausch Online-Elternabend - 16.09.2025 - 17:00 - 19:00

Elternseminar »HaLT – HART AM LIMIT« zum Thema Alkohol - 17.09.2025 - 16:00 - 19:00

Online-Kursreihe »Achterbahn der Gefühle – Substanzkonsum und alltägliche Herausforderungen in der Pubertät« - 18.09.2025 - 17:00 - 19:00

Elternseminar »Cannabis« - 13.10.2025 - 16:00 - 19:00

Online-Kursreihe »Achterbahn der Gefühle – Substanzkonsum und alltägliche Herausforderungen in der Pubertät« - 16.10.2025 - 17:00 - 19:00

Online-Kursreihe »Achterbahn der Gefühle – Substanzkonsum und alltägliche Herausforderungen in der Pubertät« - 20.11.2025 - 17:00 - 19:00

Elternseminar »Digitale Medien« - 27.11.2025 - 16:00 - 19:00

Online-Kursreihe »Achterbahn der Gefühle – Substanzkonsum und alltägliche Herausforderungen in der Pubertät« - 18.12.2025 - 17:00 - 19:00

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Familie – für Eltern – Suchtprävention Berlin

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Elternabend Suchtprävention - "Auf der Suche nach dem Kick" (12-16 Jahre)

Elternabend Konsumtrends bei Jugendlichen - "Von Pillen, Vapes und Co." (ab 12 Jahren)

Elternabend Cannabisprävention - "Cannabis - (K)ein Problem?!" (ab 12 Jahren)

Elternabend Medien - "Nur noch 10 Minuten...!" (9-16 Jahre)

Elternabend Medien für (Klein-)Kinder - Suchtprävention und sinnvolle Nutzung (1-8 Jahre)

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Eltern spielen in der Entwicklung ihres Kindes eine sehr wichtige Rolle, deshalb sollten Sie immer in die Suchtprävention mit einbezogen werden.

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U.S. Surgeon General's Social Media Advisory

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U.S. Surgeon General's Social Media Advisory

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This Advisory describes the current evidence on the impacts of social media on the mental health of children and adolescents. It states that we cannot conclude social media is sufficiently safe for children and adolescents and outlines immediate steps we can take to mitigate the risk of harm to children and adolescents.

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Angebot der gemeinnützigen Elterninitiative “Smarter Start ab14 e.V.”

Infos unter www.smarterstartab14.de

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Studien & Ressourcen — Smartphonefreie Schulen!

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Elterninitiative für eine Smartphonefreie Kindheit

Offizieller Partner der weltweiten Elternbewegung Smartphonefreechildhood und The Anxious Generation

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Wir wollen Eltern ermutigen, ihren kindern nicht zu früh ein eigenes smartphone zur verfügung zu stellen.
Wer kennt es nicht?
Das von unseren Kindern gerne eingesetzte Argument: „Alle anderen dürfen das aber! Alle anderen haben aber...!" Als Eltern fragt man sich dann: „Stimmt das? Ist mein Kind tatsächlich das einzige, das kein eigenes Smartphone besitzt? Sind wir die einzigen Eltern, die der Ansicht sind, es ist noch zu früh?..." weiterlesen

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Wer kennt es nicht? Das von unseren Kindern gerne eingesetzte Argument: „Alle anderen dürfen das aber! Alle anderen haben aber...!" Als Eltern fragt man sich dann: „Stimmt das? Ist mein Kind tatsächlich das einzige, das kein eigenes Smartphone besitzt? Sind wir die einzigen Eltern, die der Ansicht sind, es ist noch zu früh?..."

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Center for Humane Technology Youth Toolkit

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Center for Humane Technology Youth Toolkit

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Everyone who uses social media deserves to know how it works.

The guides contain questions and activities that can be self-directed or worked through in a group or classroom setting.

Each guide can be useful on its own, though they are best when used as a full curriculum. They are designed for educators to use with youth ages 13-25 but can be used by anyone to learn about these issues and to push for a humane, sustainable, and equitable future.

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Integrating expertise across technology, mindfulness, and educational instruction, this interactive toolkit helps young people navigate - and push to change - a broken social media environment.

Each guide contains questions and activities that can be self-directed or worked through in a group or classroom setting. Each guide can be useful on its own, though they are best when used as a full curriculum. They are designed for educators to use with youth ages 13-25 but can be used by anyone to learn about these issues and to push for a humane, sustainable, and equitable future.

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Guides for Healthy Tech Use for Kids & Youth - Center for Humane Technology

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We've provided a guide for educators to encourage more healthy and humane tech use with youth aged 13-25. However, this guide will be useful for anyone looking to encourage a more humane and sustainable future.

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Social media apps such as Snapchat, TikTok and Instagram are incredibly popular with young people.

These types of sites allow young people to be creative online, keep in touch with their friends, share photos and videos, and much more.

Many sites have a minimum user age of 13, although some sites, such as LEGO Life and PopJam, are specifically designed for younger children.

What are the key risks?

The internet can be a fantastic place for children, providing them with a wide range of opportunities. When it comes to using social media, recognising the positives and valuing your child's opinion shows that you are interested in their online world, and want to support them with their experiences.

Social media is not without its challenges, however, and children and young people need to be taught how to recognise and manage the risk factors that they may encounter.

Whilst social media provides a fantastic platform for entertainment, communication and learning, it is not possible to control what other people choose to share, and they may come across upsetting content. Young people must also remember that content they upload online can be further shared by anyone who sees it, and it is very difficult to 'take back' what they may regret be later.

Social media provides opportunities for children and young people to communicate with people outside of their offline friendship circle and this can be a positive thing. However, there is a risk of inappropriate or harmful contact from adults online, possibly by pretending to be a child, or using an anonymous profile.

Being kind and respectful online is something everyone should try and do. However, the ability to be anonymous online may make people think that they can be unkind without consequences.

Top tips

Ask your child what their favourite apps are and find out the recommended age for them. Talk to your child about why age limits are important - e.g. because these sites/games are used by adults too, because users can contact each other, because of the content that can be shared, etc.

Ensure that your child knows what personal information is, and what is okay / not okay to share online, e.g. using a nickname rather than a real name.

Protect their online reputation by encouraging your child to "think before you post," and use the safety settings provided to help manage their 'digital footprint'. Content posted online can last forever and could be shared publicly by anyone who sees it.

Make a report: Social media sites should have clear and accessible places to make a report. Make sure you talk with your child about these tools and ensure that they know how to use them.

Privacy settings: It is possible to set profiles to 'private' or 'friends only'. This is different to a public profile which can be seen by anyone. Most social media sites allow you to remove your profile from public search results by using the privacy settings.

Handling pressure: If your child is being pressured into doing something, let them know that they can talk to you about it and they won't be in trouble for asking for help. Explain that, if something happens that upsets you online, it's never too late to tell someone

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Social media apps such as Snapchat, TikTok and Instagram are incredibly popular with young people. These types of sites allow young people to be creative online, keep in touch with their friends, share photos and videos, and much more.

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Safer Internet Day 2025 - Online Parents Evening - Smart Phone and Device Regulation in Berlin and Abroad

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Safer Internet Day 2025 - Online Parents Evening - Smart Phone and Device Regulation in Berlin and Abroad

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Organized by the PEPtalk (Prevention Empowering Parents) group, this session will feature insights from parents on how schools in Berlin and beyond—including South Africa and Australia—are implementing measures to safeguard children in a digital environment. We will discuss approaches to smartphone and device restrictions during school hours and explore ways to foster a balanced use of technology at Nelson Mandela School.

Further reading material can be found here:

(1) Comprehensive overview of UNESCO member countries' smart phone regulations in schools (https://www.unesco.org/en/articles/smartphones-school-only-when-they-clearly-support-learning)

(2) First worldwide study to evaluate the impact of school phone policies on adolescent mental health and wellbeing, and other health and educational outcomes (https://www.birmingham.ac.uk/news/2025/school-bans-alone-not-enough-to-tackle-negative-impacts-of-phone-and-social-media-use)

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PEPtalk - Prevention Empowering Parents and Pupils

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PEPtalk - Prevention Empowering Parents and Pupils

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Our parent-led initiative aims to be a link between parents, pupils, and teachers/educators. Our goal is to empower the members of our community to deal with prevention and addiction topics affecting NMS students.

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Addiction Prevention
Addiction Prevention parent evening with the Berlin Police - October 2018
In case you missed this informative parents' evening with police prevention officer, Ms Michel, here are some useful facts and tips.
When should I start worrying about drugs and alcohol?
In Berlin, the average age at which young people first come into contact with drugs is 11-13 years. The most commonly available drugs are cannabis, alcohol and amphetamines.
Is cannabis legal in Germany? What happens if you get caught?
No! Even if you have heard rumours that cannabis is legal or tolerated in Berlin, it is an illegal drug. If a young person is found by the police to be in possession of or consuming the drug, this will be recorded and shared with the driving licence authorities.

The consequences for young people are serious and expensive! When you apply for a driving licence, the records are checked. If you have a drugs record, you will have to take regular official drugs tests for 1 year before you are even allowed to start driving lessons! And you have to pay the costs yourself (approx. 1500 Euros).

If a young person gets a criminal record for a drug-related offence, the Jugendamt (youth welfare office) will be informed and this may result in checks on the family. The young person will also be required to attend therapy sessions with a drugs counselling organisation (such as LogIn).
What are the warning signs that a teenager is using drugs?
Here are some warning signals that a child may be using drugs:

red eyes and dilated pupils

if you find unusual items in your child's bedroom which may be used as hiding places for drugs (e.g. cans of soup or drinks)

if you find shiny, colourful sachets (similar to football card packets) with cartoon characters on them (e.g. Homer Simpson, Scooby Doo). These can contain extremely dangerous (life threatening) synthetic drugs which are deliberately targeted at kids. You should report this to the police.

What can I do if I suspect my teenager is consuming drugs?

If you are concerned about your child, other students or an incident at school, you can contact one of the following staff members confidentially:
- any secondary educator
- a designated teacher counsellor (Vertrauenslehrerin): Ms Birmingham
- the addiction prevention coordinator: Herr Czwielong.

You can also seek advice confidentially (in English or German) at LogIn, centre for young people and addiction advice for Charlottenburg-Wilmersdorf.
What can I do as a parent to reduce the risk of my child taking drugs?

Here are some things parents can do to support their teenage children:

try to maintain an open and trusting relationship with your children

encourage them to feel confident talking to you about their concerns and experiences

encourage them to be physically active and regularly take part in sports activities

make sure you and your children are well-informed about the risks and effects on physical and mental health

You can find more information about the effects on brain development in the notes from Anne Wilkening's workshop for parents.

Remember, it's important for parents to support each other - keep in touch with other parents and don't be afraid to seek help if you have concerns.
Here are some useful resources on drugs prevention: From the Berlin Police (in German only): Information brochure for parents from Berlin Police (downloadable PDF) https://www.polizeifürdich.de/deine-themen/drogen.html Online resources in English:
What to Say to Your Teenager About Drugs (13-18 year olds):
https://drugfree.org/article/prevention-tips-for-every-age/#tips4
Advice for parents and carers worried about drug use:
https://www.talktofrank.com/worried-about-a-child
Advice for parents, scenarios for role-playing: http://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/teen/substance-abuse/Pages/Helping-Teens-Resist-Pressure-to-Try-Drugs.aspx

Parent guide to understanding and talking about peer pressure: https://www.drugrehab.com/addiction/alcohol/peer-pressure/

Cyberbullying

Cyberbullying - Parents' evening with Berlin Police (January & February 2018)

In case you missed this informative parents' evening with police prevention officer, Ms Janneck, here are some useful facts and tips.

What is cyberbullying?
When several people bully an individual via social media over a longer period of time (according to German law, more than 4 weeks). Cyberbullying among children most frequently occurs on Whatsapp within a class group. Incidents are usually initiated by one or two bullies but supported by others children who forward messages/do not speak out against them.

Here are some warning signals that a child may be a victim of bullying:

not wanting to go to school (or other social settings), they may claim to be ill in order to stay home.

withdrawing from social circles

noticeable changes in behavior

trivialising incidents they have experienced

withdrawing into an imaginary world (e.g. imaginary friends)

If you a concerned that your child is involved in/a victim of cyberbullying, you should contact the class teachers or educators. If caught early, such incidents can often be resolved through mediation.

If bullying is suspected, do not delete the messages/images as these provide evidence.

Legal consequences of cyberbullying
Insulting or threatening someone online is a criminal offence. Children who participate in cyberbullying (even by forwarding offensive messages/images /videos which were sent by others) are committing a criminal offence.

Children over the age of 14 years are considered criminally responsible in Germany, so if a cyberbullying incident is reported to the police, this could lead to a criminal record and details being stored by the police for several years. This can affect a young person's chances of finding a job or entering certain professions (which require a police check).
How can parents help their children to avoid involvement in bullying?

Help your child to pay attention to safety settings and age limits online (e.g. Whatsapp minimum age 13!)

Show interest in their online activities, e.g. ask them to show you how the games/sites they use work

Discourage children from giving away personal information/images etc. online

Set clear rules about time and activities online

Keep communication channels open and encourage your child to speak to you if they think messages/images are inappropriate

Help them recognise the difference between 'online friends' and 'real friends'

Online resources in German: Online resources in English:
Empowering Parents

Empowering Parents seminar (May 2017)

Thanks to all the parents who attended the fascinating and thought-provoking seminar by Anne Wilkening in April 2016. We learnt lots of interesting facts about what happens to the brain during puberty and got some practical tips on how to talk to our kids about gaming and substance abuse. And many of us had some interesting conversations with our kids the next day!

You'll find a wealth of information (in German only) on this website:

Here are a few important things we learnt:

About healthy media use:
Did you know that too much gaming actually causes you to gain weight?
Playing fast games in particular produces lots of adrenalin which in turn causes your body to produce unhealthy fat. Gaming should always be followed by physical activity!

Here are the maximum recommended weekly time limits for gaming:

Over 12 years - max. 6-9 hours per week

Under 12 years - max. 4-6 hours per week

Under 10 years - max. 2-4 hours per week

The best time to play games/use smartphones/tablets etc. is after getting home from school before homework and long before bedtime! The blue light that screens give off reduces the quality of sleep.

You can find lots of advice about safe gaming and internet use here:

Remember, it is important to know what your child is playing / doing online. Our school IT department has lots of ideas for fun, rewarding media resources you can try out with your kids.

About brain development:
Young people's brains are under construction from puberty until their twenties. Brain development is complete in young women by about age 23 and in young men by their mid- to late twenties.

About cannabis use:
Did you know that cigarette smoking amongst young people in Berlin has decreased but cannabis use has increased? The cannabis currently available in Berlin is 20 times stronger than what was around 15 years ago!

Cannabis also contains high levels of lead and cadmium which it absorbs from the soil.

Smoking cannabis during puberty permanently affects the parts of the brain and curtails brain development.

If you are concerned about someone you know, you can find information and advice on these sites

Delay, delay, delay!
The earlier that young people experiment with substances (alcohol, cannabis etc.), the more harmful and lasting the effects. So encouraging our kids to wait till they are older before they 'try' things out and helping them to find safe, healthy ways to have fun is vital (sports, music, programming and other hobbies).
If you want to read more about these issues, take a look at Anne Wilkening's presentations (in German only):

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PEPtalk Prevention - NMS - Nelson Mandela School, Berlin

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Addiction Prevention parent evening with the Berlin Police - October 2018 In case you missed this informative parents' evening with police prevention officer, Ms Michel, here are some useful facts and tips. When should I start worrying about drugs and alcohol? In Berlin, the average age at which young people first come into contact with drugs is 11-13 years.

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Social Learning Curriculum for Grades Flex to 6

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The Department of Social Pedagogues at Campus Pfalzburger Str. 23 (P23) have devised a programme addressing the specific needs of each campus.

We have developed the following curricula for the subject Social Learning:

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Programme - NMS - Nelson Mandela School, Berlin

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The Department of Social Pedagogues at Campus Pfalzburger Str. 23 (P23) have devised a programme addressing the specific needs of each campus. We have developed the following curricula for the subject Social Learning:

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The secondary educators work closely with the students to address issues related to addiction and safe media use. The educators are in regular contact with the school management, parent committees, local support organisations and the Berlin Police.

If problems are identified, support and information about where to get help are offered to the students and parents concerned.
If you have any individual questions or concerns, please request an appointment with one of the secondary educators. You can reach them by Here is an overview of the topics covered by the prevention program for the 2017/2018 school year. phone or e-mail.
Please note, there may be additions and changes as the program is regularly updated to respond to current issues and concerns in particular classes or grades.

7th Grade

Forest Workshop Waldschule Zehlendorf

Social media (using it safely and understanding potential risks)

Mobile phones - reflecting on how and how much they are used

Cyberbullying (film, discussion and questionnaire)

Class workshops and parents' evening with Berlin Police prevention officers (cyberbullying)

Antidiscrimination and antiracism workshops and black history class student workshops

8th Grade

External workshop with Karuna on alcohol

Workshop based on Hackedicht / Condrobs program (alcohol)

Class workshops with Berlin Police prevention officers (cannabis and German laws on drugs)

Antidiscrimination and antiracism workshops and black history class student workshops

9th Grade

Class workshops with Anne Wilkening: cannabis and 'party drugs'

Other issues may be addressed as relevant to each class
Ongoing projects and activities covering all grades:
10th Grade

Inner peace: meditation / dealing with exam stress

Individual consultations on career options

Peer mediation

Prevention projects according to current needs and issues

Close cooperation with Log-In addiction-related support and advice for young people and their parents (support available in English), as well as with other organisations

Compiled by NMS Secondary educators and PEPtalk prevention group

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Prevention Programs - NMS - Nelson Mandela School, Berlin

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The secondary educators work closely with the students to address issues related to addiction and safe media use. The educators are in regular contact with the school management, parent committees, local support organisations and the Berlin Police. If problems are identified, support and information about where to get help are offered to the students and parents concerned.

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Information and contact details for Primary Social Worker and Counsellor, Franziska Talai-Rad

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Guidance Counselling

I offer appointments regarding information, orientation and counselling in school matters and beyond for students, parents and colleagues at Nelson Mandela School Campus P23. I am open to all queries and can be approached with any question. Possible topics might be:

Assistance with seeking further support for your child

Situations of crisis and insecurity

Educational and family counselling

Contact to other professions and institutions

etc.

You may contact me for appointments for confidential counselling:
Contact

Nelson-Mandela-School - Campus P23
Room D200
Pfalzburger Str. 23
10719 Berlin
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Telephone: +49 160 9046 8743
Consultation hours (please make an appointment):
Tuesday, 8:00 - 9:30
Wednesday, 8:00 - 9:30
Thursday, 16:00-17:00

Please note: For all matters regarding school admission please contact the school secretary's office at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

Additional Social Pedagogical Activities at NMS P23

I support the school community with:

Anti-discrimination work

Encouraging a healthy group dynamic process

Specific pedagogical activities in school clubs

Prevention projects

Counselling and individual support

Stephanie Greenwald
Social Pedagogue / School Counsellor

My name is Stephanie Greenwald and I am the Social Pedagogue/ School Counsellor for the Nelson Mandela School Campus P23. I am originally from New York City and moved to Berlin in 2004 to dance with the Staatsballett Berlin. After retiring from my stage career, I studied Social Work at the Alice Salomon Hochschule Berlin and prior to NMS have worked in several Berlin primary schools through the cooperation with the education and outreach department of Staatsballett Berlin.

I specialize in the use of dance and theater as social work methods that allow for the development of identity, self-expression and self-determination. I also use these methods to promote healthy relationships by fostering empathy, respect and teamwork.

My mother tongue is English and I speak fluent German. I am available for counselling in either language (please make an appointment).

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Peer pressure is commonly associated with teens. However, people of all ages and backgrounds can fall victim to negative influences, especially when alcohol is involved. Knowing more about peer pressure, how to avoid it and ways to turn down a drink could help prevent alcohol abuse.

Peer pressure is the influence you feel from others to do something you otherwise would not. A peer could be a friend, co-worker, classmate, acquaintance or anyone you admire.

Peer pressure may occur directly or indirectly. Direct pressure involves peers explicitly asking you to do something. Indirect pressure happens when you witness others engaging in an activity and are motivated to do the same.

Peer Pressure Can Lead to Alcohol Use

It could occur in a workplace, school or via social media. Social media and alcohol use have become intertwined over the years. A report by the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University found 75 percent of surveyed teens feel encouraged to drink after seeing photographs of peers partying on social media.

Peer pressure can be positive or negative. Positive peer pressure could motivate individuals to exercise, display integrity and avoid drugs or alcohol.

Peer pressure can lead to alcohol abuse. It helps diminish a gene that prevents people from developing alcohol problems, per a study published in Alcoholism: Clinical and Experimental Research. Saying no can protect individuals from a host of consequences.

Who Is Affected by Peer Pressure?

Peer pressure is generally linked to adolescence. However, adults can also be influenced, especially when alcohol is involved.

Teens and Adults

Teens are most influenced by their peers. Though teens weigh the risks and rewards of an activity just as adults do, teens are more likely to ignore the risk for the reward when their peers are present, according to a study published by the U.S. National Library of Medicine.

This is partly because of brain structure. The systems of the brain that respond to reward are easily aroused during adolescence. This attracts teens to risky behaviors, including alcohol consumption, and makes them particularly vulnerable to peer influence.

Additionally, according to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, teens tend to overestimate how much their friends drink.

Adults, like teens, worry about what others think of them. They want to fit in and avoid awkwardness. Consequently, they are pressured to drink, either directly or indirectly, at company-sponsored functions or social situations where alcohol is present.

Single-Parent Households and Blended Families

Children from single-parent households or blended families are especially vulnerable, according to a University of Wisconsin study.

The report, which evaluated nearly 7,000 children aged 12 to 17, found that children who grew up in a household with both natural parents were less susceptible to pressure from friends. Children raised by a natural parent and a stepparent were just as likely to give in to peer pressure as those in single-parent homes.

Brett Laursen, a professor of psychology at Florida Atlantic University, says children with few friends are likely to be swayed by peer pressure. He says boys generally want to impress groups while girls aim to impress particular individuals.

How to Avoid Peer Pressure

People should never be pressured to drink alcohol against their own wishes and judgment. Giving in to temptation can be dangerous for teens and adults. Knowing how to turn down a drink is invaluable.

You could also say you don't drink. It's simple, to the point and truthful. If you are recovering from alcoholism, this is your best answer.

When turning down a drink, be confident. You can build confidence by rehearsing what to say in these situations. Practicing your responses in advance allows you to critique your approach and change your phrasing.

To avoid feeling pressured to drink, attend activities that don't involve alcohol. These settings could include coffeehouses, movie theaters, malls, fitness centers or your home.

Nonalcoholic Alternatives

In social settings, adults can turn to nonalcoholic drinks as an alternative. For example, mixing water and juice in a small glass could give the impression of a mixed alcoholic drink. This helps reduce peer pressure.

Consequences of Saying Yes

Each day, crowds of people succumb to peer pressure. However, doing so can lead to a number of problems.

Individuals are more likely to give into peer pressure in social settings and are more likely to drink if those around them are. When attending social settings alone, a person's odds of drinking increase.

Loss of Authenticity

Allowing others to make decisions for you can jeopardize your originality, self-esteem, happiness and physical and mental health. It could also alienate individuals from their family members and true friends.

Peers who pressure you to do something against your desires likely aren't your friends. Saying yes gives them more power and diminishes your own.

Effects of Alcohol

The effects of alcohol are dangerous. Alcohol affects parts of the brain that control movement, speech, judgment and memory. Heavy consumption can lead to blurred vision, slowed speech, impaired memory and difficulty walking.

Peer pressure is an epidemic among young people. In 2014, nearly 60 percent of full-time college students had drunk alcohol in the past month. Many students drink at bars or house parties, where peer pressure is common.

Consistently giving in to peer pressure can lead to frequent alcohol consumption. This could lead to alcohol problems or an alcohol addiction.

Outcomes of Saying No

Resisting peer pressure can be difficult, but the pros of doing so far outweigh the cons.

Less alcohol consumption could give way to a healthier lifestyle, letting you engage in safe activities alongside loved ones. You avoid the consequences of alcohol, stressful situations and negative influences.

Potential Push-Back

It is common for peers to shame individuals for turning down a drink. A study published in Social Behavior and Personality: an international journal found shame to be the strongest predictor of vulnerability to peer pressure.

Teens are most likely to give into shame. A study published in PeerJ suggests early life experiences are a predictor of someone's vulnerability to shame, specifically those abused as children. The report also linked shame with substance abuse.

You may be ridiculed, not invited to future get-togethers or lose relationships with certain individuals. However, this should not discourage you.

Be Yourself

Don't be a victim of someone else's behaviors. Make sure there is someone to call if you are feeling pressured to drink in social situations. Plan an escape if the temptation becomes great. Your peers should not control your decisions, so don't let them.

Surround yourself with strong people. Spending time with friends who resist peer pressure or avoid alcohol altogether increases your likelihood of doing the same. This positive influence may be helpful.

Medically Reviewed By - Ashraf Ali, MD

Dr. Ali graduated as a doctor of medicine from the Rajshahi Medical College, where he also completed his internship. He went on to earn a diploma in pediatrics from the National University of Ireland in Dublin, Ireland. Read more

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Peer pressure is the influence you feel from others to do something you otherwise would not. A peer could be a friend, co-worker, classmate, acquaintance or anyone you admire. Peer pressure may occur directly or indirectly. Direct pressure involves peers explicitly asking you to do something.

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As a parent, you are the biggest influence in your child's life and having open, honest conversations is one of the most powerful ways to connect with your kids and help them develop into healthy adults. When addressing some more challenging topics - like nicotine, alcohol or drugs - it's not about having a one-time "drug talk," but rather tackling the subject through more frequent, organic conversations that evolve as your child gets older. Some things to keep in mind:

Keep lines of communication open and make sure you come from a place of love and compassion - even when you're having tough conversations.

Balance any consequences with positive encouragement.

Frequent touch points and teachable moments come up all the time - use these as natural opportunities to discuss substance use.

Preschool (2-4 years old)

The preschool years are all about laying the foundation for healthy habits. The following are some age-appropriate scenarios to help your child understand risks related to substance use.

Scenario:

Taking your daily vitamin, or giving your child their daily vitamin.

What you can say:

Vitamins help your body grow. You need to take them every day so you can grow up big and strong, but you should only take what I give you. Someone else's vitamins or too many vitamins can hurt you and make you sick.

Scenario:

Your kids are curious about medicine bottles they see in your home.

What you can say:

You only take medicine when you're sick, and only if your parent or doctor gives it to you. Taking medicine by yourself, taking the wrong medicine or taking medicine that isn't especially for you could be dangerous.

Scenario:

Your child sees an adult smoking or vaping and, since you've talked about the dangers of smoking before, they are confused.

What you can say:

Grownups make their own decisions and sometimes those decisions aren't the best or healthiest choice for their bodies. When someone starts smoking, their body feels like it has to have cigarettes and that makes it harder for them to stop doing it. That's why it's so important to never even try smoking or vaping.

Prevention tips for preschoolers:

Explain the importance of taking good care of our bodies - eating right, exercising and getting a good night's sleep. Discuss how good you feel when you take care of yourself - how you can run, jump, play and even go to work for many hours.

Celebrate your child's decision-making skills. Whenever possible, let your child choose what to wear to help reinforce your child's ability to make decisions.

Help your child avoid dangerous substances that exist in their immediate world. Point out harmful chemicals commonly found in homes, such as bleach, kitchen cleaners and furniture polish.

Keep all substances out of sight and out of reach of kids.

Help your child understand the difference between make-believe and real life. Ask your child what they think about a TV program or story. Let your child know about your likes and dislikes and discuss how violence or bad decisions can hurt people.

Turn frustration into a learning opportunity. If a tower of blocks keeps collapsing during a play session, work with your child to find possible solutions to the problem. Whenever possible, allow your child to come up with solutions so that they can gain confidence in their own abilities to problem solve or self-soothe.

Early elementary (5-8 years old)

Younger elementary school children still crave time and connection with family and most are eager to please, but they're also beginning to explore their individuality. Building on the aforementioned tips, here are some age-appropriate scenarios to help your child understand how to stay healthy and avoid risks related to substance use.

Scenario:

Your child has expressed curiosity about the pills they see you take every day - and the other bottles in the medicine cabinet.

What you can say:

Just because it's in a family's medicine cabinet doesn't mean that it is safe for you to take. Even if your friends say it's okay, you can say, "No, my parents won't let me take something that doesn't have my name on the bottle and that my parents didn't give to me."

Scenario:

Your child chooses an outfit for school that doesn't match and will definitely attract attention.

What you can say:

"I love how you express your individual style and personality in your outfits." Whenever possible, let your child choose what to wear, even if the clothes don't quite match. You are reinforcing your child's ability to make decisions for themselves.

Prevention tips for early elementary school:

Talk to your kids about substance-related messages they see on TV or in movies or overhear at school. Ask your kids how they feel about the things they've seen or heard - you'll learn a great deal about what they're thinking.

Keep your discussions about substances focused on the present - long-term consequences are too distant to have meaning to most children of this age.

Discuss the differences between the medicinal uses and illegal uses of drugs, and how taking prescription medicine the wrong way can be very dangerous.

Set clear rules and expectations. If you smoke cigarettes, use vaping products or drink alcohol, be mindful of the message you are sending to your children. Try not to convey that it takes a drink or pill to relax, relieve stress or have fun. Be clear that alcohol and other substances are especially dangerous for kids whose brains and bodies are still developing.

Work on problem solving together: Help them find long-lasting solutions to homework trouble, a fight with a friend or dealing with a bully. Be sure to point out that quick fixes are not long-term solutions. Even if the choices they end up making are not exactly what you may have had in mind, there is opportunity to build confidence and resilience (assuming the choices are not dangerous).

Get to know your child's friends - and their parents. Check in to make sure they are giving their children the same kinds of messages you are giving yours. If those messages or different or inconsistent with yours, talk with your children about how different people make different choices. Explain why you believe your family's choices are best for you and your children.

Preteen (9-12 years old)

Preteens who are trying to figure out their place in the world tend to give their friends' opinions a great deal of power. At the same time, they're also beginning to question their parents' views and rules. This shift is natural, healthy and part of a normal process of maturity and identity development. The following are some age-appropriate scenarios to help your preteen understand how to stay healthy and avoid risks related to substance use.

Scenario:

Your child is just starting middle school and you know that it's more likely that they will now be exposed to substances at school or in social environments.

What you can say:

I know we talked about this when you were younger, but you're at the age now when you might be seeing or hear about other kids vaping, smoking, drinking or using drugs. I want you to remember that our family does not allow any substance use because it's bad for your health and your brain. I'm here for you and the best thing you can do is talk to me if you are confused or concerned.

Scenario:

You hear from other parents that kids are selling prescription drugs at your child's school. Your child hasn't mentioned it but you want to talk to them about it.

What you can say:

"I heard some kids at your school are selling pills - prescription medications that they or someone in their family takes. Have you heard about kids doing this?" Practice role playing some practical responses they can give if offered medications by a friend. Let them know that they can always use you as an excuse to get out of a bad situation. You can say, "If you're ever offered prescription medication, you can tell them, 'my parents would kill me if I did that' or 'my parents can always tell if I'm lying or hiding something.'"

Scenario:

Your child's favorite celebrity is involved in a drug scandal and your child read about it online.

What you can say:

Being in the public eye puts a lot of pressure on people, and some may turn to drug use because they think it will relieve that stress. But when a person uses drugs and alcohol - especially a young person who's still growing - it changes how their brain works and they make poor decisions. Most people who use drugs and alcohol need a lot of help to get better. I hope the celebrity has a good doctor and friends and family members to help them through this.

Prevention tips for preteens:

Make sure your child knows your rules - and that you'll enforce the consequences if rules are broken. Kids are less likely to use nicotine, alcohol and other substances if their parents have established a pattern of setting clear rules and consequences.

Feelings of insecurity, doubt and pressure may creep in during puberty. Offset those feelings with a lot of positive comments about your child's individuality and strengths. Focus on their effort, creativity and kindness rather than specific outcomes such as good grades or winning a game.

Get to know your child's friends - and their friends' parents. Check in by phone or a visit once in a while to make sure they are on the same page with regard to supervision and prohibiting substance use, particularly when their home is to be used for a party or sleepover.

Help children separate reality from fantasy. Watch shows or movies with them and ask lots of questions to reinforce the distinction between the two. Remember to include advertising in your discussions, as those messages are especially powerful.

Teenager (13-18 years old)

We know teens are incredibly savvy when it comes to their knowledge about substance use, and they need information and messages based in real life. This is a pivotal time for parents to help their kids make positive choices about substances. The following are some scenarios to help your child understand how to stay healthy and navigate risks related to substance use.

Scenario:

You're with your child and you both notice a few kids vaping.

What you can say:

"It really concerns me to see those kids vaping. I know that it's becoming more common among kids your age, but that doesn't mean it's safe. What do you think about vaping? Do any of your friends do it?" While vaping may be a popular activity for some teens, it isn't considered safe, especially for teens and young adults whose brains are still developing. Set clear expectations and explain why you don't want your child vaping (e.g., concern about toxins, a broad range of health consequences, nicotine addiction).

Scenario:

Your teen is starting high school - and you want to remind them that they do not have to give in to peer pressure to vape, drink or use substances.

What you can say:

"High school will be a fun time in your life, and we want you to enjoy yourself with your friends, but we also know you might experience pressure to drink alcohol, vape or use marijuana or other substances. A lot of people feel like this is just a normal part of being a teenager. It isn't. Most teens actually don't do those things.

You'll have lots of decisions to make for yourself, and you might even make some mistakes. Just know that you can talk to us about anything, anytime - even if you DO make a mistake or feel stuck in a situation and need our help. We won't freak out and, together, we'll figure out a way to help you."

Scenario:

Your teen has started to hang out with kids you don't know - and dropped their old friends.

What you can say:

"I've noticed you're hanging with a different crowd than you have in the past. Is something going on with your usual friends? Is there a problem with them, or are you just branching out and meeting some new kids? Tell me about your new friends. Do you want to invite them over to our house sometime? I'd really like to meet them."

Scenario:

Your kid comes home smelling of alcohol or cigarette smoke.

What you can say:

Your response should be measured, quiet and serious - not yelling, shouting or overly emotional. Your child should realize that this isn't just a small, frustrating moment like when they don't complete a chore or do what you've asked; this is a very serious moment. You can say, "I'm really upset that you're smoking/drinking. I love you and care about you and want to understand why you chose to do it. Your health and well-being are what's most important, and I need you to be honest. So for starters, tell me about what happened tonight and why you or your friends were drinking."

Prevention tips for teens:

Make sure your teen knows the rules and the consequences for breaking those rules - and, most importantly, that you really will enforce those consequences. Kids are less likely to use nicotine, alcohol and other substances if their parents have established a pattern of setting clear rules and consequences for breaking those rules. Those consequences should be reasonable, enforceable and short-lived. If there's no end in sight, teens will feel like there's no way out and no real reason to continue to refrain from engaging in the undesired behavior.

Make it clear that you disapprove of all alcohol, vaping, nicotine and drug use, and look for opportunities to discuss your feelings about substance use in a productive way: letters from the school, reacting to advertisements or seeing substance use on TV and in movies. Be ready to listen rather than give a lecture. Try using open-ended questions to get the conversation started.

Let your teen in on all the things you find wonderful about them. They need to hear a lot of positive comments about their lives, who they are as individuals and all of the wonderful things they have to look forward to if they are healthy and safe.

Show interest in and discuss your child's daily ups and downs. You'll earn their trust, learn how to talk to each other, and you won't take them by surprise when you voice a strong point of view about substances.

Young adult (19-25 years old)

As you prepare your young adult child for life after high school, you can help guide them to a healthy experience - while still supporting their independence. The following are some scenarios to help share guidance with your young adult child.

Scenario:

Your adult child is moving to their own apartment or into a college dorm.

What you can say:

"I know you're off to start your own life, and I respect that you're old enough to make your own choices, but if you ever want another perspective, please know that I'm always here for you."

Scenario:

After watching a movie portraying drug use together, you want to gauge your adult child's opinion on substance use.

What you can say:

"I know you might think I'm being over-protective or meddling, but that movie really disturbed me and I'm curious about your thoughts: Is there a lot of drug use going on at your school? Do you have any friends that use drugs? How do you feel about that?"

Tips for young adults:

Keep an open line of communication with your child as they leave home.

Your child needs to know that if any problems or difficult situations arise, they can turn to you for help. Be an at-home resource for your young adult child.

Stay alert to possible mental health issues. There is a strong link between mental and physical health issues (including stress and anxiety) and substance use. Make sure you know what campus mental health resources are available to your child - and make sure they know, too.

While the most popular drugs on college campuses are alcohol, vaping and marijuana, non-medical use of prescription stimulants, pain relievers and tranquilizers is also common and can be very dangerous. Though prescription medications can be beneficial when prescribed for your child by a doctor, their misuse (e.g., using someone else's pills or in amounts or for reasons not prescribed) can have serious short- and long-term consequences.

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You probably can't stop your child from coming into some contact with drugs, but by staying as informed as possible, you can help them make the right choices when they do.

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The peer pressure to try drugs is no less intense than the sexual pressure that so many adolescents face. As with any situation that could conceivably lead to trouble, we need to prepare our kids to refuse offers of alcohol and other drugs-preferably without alienating their peers, although sometimes that isn't possible. The strategies below mirror those for rebuffing sexual advances.

Give Them The Words To Avoid Temptation

"Just say no"? It's a start, but few teens bent on enticing a peer to try drugs will let the matter rest there. In fact, substance abusers tend to view converting the "straight" kid as an irresistible challenge, if not their civic duty, and they can be exasperatingly persistent.

"C'mon, dude, you'll love the buzz from this stuff! It's kickin'."

Role-play this scene with your youngster. The repertoire of possible replies includes:

A firm but friendly "No thanks!" There's no need for self-righteousness, along the lines of "Getting drunk? That's for losers." Let's encourage teens not to label other people as good or bad, only their behavior. Using drugs is wrong, but that doesn't necessarily make the drug abuser a bad person.

Change the subject. "No thanks. Hey, what did you think of that test yesterday in social studies?"

Suggest a change of plan. "I was hoping to get you guys to shoot some hoops down at the school. How about it?"

Say no repeatedly:
"Wanna party with us? This weed rocks!"
"No thanks."
"Aw, c'mon, man! It's killer stuff!"
"Sorry, not interested."
"Not even one toke?"
"Not even one."

Teach your child respect for her body. "No thanks, I don't drink. Besides, the girls' swim team has a meet tomorrow, and I need to be in top shape."

Then there's always this standby: "My parents would kill me if they found out that I got high, and they manage to find out!"

Warn Your Child About The Dangers of "Date-Rape" Drugs

In particular, the odorless, colorless drug benzodiazepine flunitrazepam (Rohypnol) has been linked to thousands of rapes in which youngsters secretly drop it into their unsuspecting dates' drinks, alcoholic or otherwise. It quickly causes them to be dizzy, disoriented and to black out.

Share the following tips with your daughter. Reading them could spare her from having to experience one of the most traumatic events of her life, and maybe even save her life.

Never leave your drink unattended at a party, dance club, restaurant or other gathering. If you have to use the rest room, take it with you or ask a trusted friend to keep an eye on it until you return.

Don't accept open-container drinks from anyone you don't know well (excluding servers and bartenders).

Although these substances are difficult to detect in a beverage, be aware of the taste, texture and appearance of your drink. For instance, GHB has a salty taste, while Rohypnol has been described as slightly bitter when sprinkled into alcohol. The new green tablets make light-colored liquids assume a bluish hue; darker liquids turn cloudy.

Friends look out for friends. If you suspect that another girl has ingested any drug -including alcohol, the most abused depressant of all- that could leave her defenseless against a possible rape attempt, get her out of the situation.

A young woman who believes she may have been drugged and sexually abused should go to a rape crisis center or hospital at once and alert the staff. Among other tests, a urine sample will be analyzed for evidence of any of these substances, which usually remain detectable for about three days.
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The peer pressure to try drugs is no less intense than the sexual pressure that so many adolescents face. As with any situation that could conceivably lead to trouble, we need to prepare our kids to refuse offers of alcohol and other drugs-preferably without alienating their peers, although sometimes that isn't possible.

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Nummer gegen Kummer e.V. hat sich zum Ziel gesetzt, Kindern, Jugendlichen und Eltern ein kompetenter Ansprechpartner zu sein bei kleinen und großen Sorgen, Problemen und Ängsten. Längst hat sich das Kinder- und Jugendtelefon zu einer Anlaufstelle entwickelt, bei der täglich rund 1500 Anrufe eingehen. Dabei geht es um Liebeskummer genauso wie um Schulprobleme, aber auch ganz schwerwiegende Situationen wie sexueller Missbrauch oder Suizidgedanken werden hier thematisiert.

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Nummer gegen Kummer e.V. hat sich zum Ziel gesetzt, Kindern, Jugendlichen und Eltern ein kompetenter Ansprechpartner zu sein bei kleinen und großen Sorgen, Problemen und Ängsten. Längst hat sich das Kinder- und Jugendtelefon zu einer Anlaufstelle entwickelt, bei der täglich rund 1500 Anrufe eingehen. Dabei geht es um Liebeskummer genauso wie um Schulprobleme, aber auch ganz schwerwiegende Situationen wie sexueller Missbrauch oder Suizidgedanken werden hier thematisiert.

Die Beratenden der „Nummer gegen Kummer" dienen dabei in erster Linie als Gesprächspartner, der die Anonymität der bzw. des Ratsuchenden einhält und Hilfe zur Selbsthilfe gibt. Das gilt genauso für die Angebote Jugendliche beraten Jugendliche, die Online-Beratung und das Elterntelefon.

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Cybermobbing ist eine Sonderform des Mobbings: Es weist im Grunde die gleichen Tatumstände auf, es bedient sich lediglich anderer Methoden. Die Täter(innen) nutzen Internet- und Mobiltelefondienste zum Bloßstellen und Schikanieren ihrer Opfer. Hierzu zählen im Internet E-Mail, Online-Communities, Mikrobloggs, Chats (Chatrooms, Instant Messenger), Diskussionsforen, Gästebücher und Boards, Video- und Fotoplattformen, Websites und andere Anwendungen. Mobiltelefone werden für Mobbingaktivitäten genutzt, um die Opfer mit Anrufen, SMS, MMS oder E-Mails zu tyrannisieren. Die multimediale Ausstattung von Smartphones, Sprachaufzeichnungsmöglichkeit und Internetzugang gibt jungen Menschen leicht nutzbare Technologien an die Hand.

Das Internet scheint die Hemmschwelle für Mobbingaktivitäten zu senken. Viele Kinder und Jugendliche trauen sich in der scheinbar anonymen virtuellen Welt eher, eigene Angriffe gegen andere, Beleidigungen oder Bloßstellungen von Menschen zu vollziehen. Dabei gibt es einen fließenden Übergang von Spaß oder Neckereien zur Gewaltausübung im Sinne von Mobbing. Mit Aussagen wie "Das war doch nicht ernst gemeint, das war nur Spaß" verdeutlichen junge Menschen, dass ihnen häufig das notwendige Unrechtsbewusstsein, die erforderliche Sensibilität für ihr eigenes Handeln fehlt. Andererseits erleben sie in Schule, sozialem Umfeld, Medien und Politik Erscheinungen und Personen, die durch vergleichbares Handeln den Eindruck entstehen lassen, dass es in Ordnung sei, andere bloßzustellen oder zu beleidigen.

Beim Cybermobbing können die Täter(innen) rund um die Uhr aktiv sein, das heißt, ihre Aktivitäten erfordern keinen direkten Kontakt zum Opfer. Die Täter(innen) finden im Internet zudem ein großes Publikum: Tausende Menschen können die Taten verfolgen, sie kommentieren oder unterstützen. Die veröffentlichten Texte, Fotos oder Videos werden durch andere Personen weiterverbreitet und somit weiteren Menschen zugänglich gemacht. Umfang und Auswirkungen der Veröffentlichungen zum Nachteil des Opfers sind somit weder zu steuern, noch sind sie überschaubar. Da das Internet nichts vergisst, also selbst gelöschte Inhalte immer wieder auftauchen können, ist es möglich, dass das Opfer selbst nach einer Beendigung des Konfliktes mit dem Täter immer wieder mit den Veröffentlichungen konfrontiert wird.

Auslöser von Mobbingprozessen sind oft Konflikte zwischen den Beteiligten, die keine Lösung erfahren. Im Übergang vom Konflikt zum Mobbing verliert das ursprüngliche sachliche Problem immer mehr an Bedeutung, die systematische Bloßstellung und das Tyrannisieren des Opfers tritt in den Vordergrund. Täter(innen) gewinnen dabei eine Machtposition, in der sich das Opfer unterlegen und ausgeliefert fühlt.

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Online bullying, or cyberbullying, is when someone uses the internet to target and deliberately upset someone.

Cyberbullying often happens on personal devices that young people have continuous access to. This means it can happen anywhere and at any time, so it can feel like it's hard to escape. The bully could be either someone that they know, or a complete stranger.

It can be hard to control the spread of messages, images and videos sent online, which means many people could see them in a short period of time. However, online bullying can leave a trail of evidence which can be helpful when dealing with the incident and reporting it.

Types of online bullying

What are the impacts?

If a child is being bullied online they can often feel scared, worried and overwhelmed by the situation. They might be embarrassed by what's happening, angry, confused, and even feel physically unwell.

There are no conclusive signs which will tell you if your child is being bullied online. Whilst some children and young people might show obvious signs of worry or upset, these could relate to a range of issues, and other children might hide it altogether. However, look out for:

Higher levels of emotion, such as anger

Changes in mood

Problems sleeping and eating

Low self-esteem

Self-harm

Withdrawal from online activities

Sudden changes in behaviour

Bullying others

Top tips

Encourage your child to save the evidence and show you

They can do this by taking a screenshot of what has happened or by keeping the messages they have received.

Don't deny access to technology

Although it can be very tempting to remove a device from a child if they are being bullied online, it may prevent your child from coming to you about online worries again. We have been told by pupils that the main reason they wouldn't speak to their parents about cyberbullying is because they were worried their technology would be taken away from them.

Don't reply

Most of the time a bully is looking for a reaction when they are being mean online. Tell your child not to reply. Instead, they should tell a trusted adult what has happened.

Use the tools available

Report, block and take a screenshot. You can report a person or profile, as well as content, e.g. a post, video or comment. This will then be flagged to the service who will review it against their terms and conditions.

Speak to the school

It is always worth having a conversation with your child's school about their experience of cyberbullying. Schools can offer support and advice to you and your child. Consider contacting their class teacher, form tutor, Head of Year, or a pastoral lead.

Conversation starters

1. What is the biggest challenge for young people your age online today?

2. What is the difference between banter and bullying?

3. How would you/your friends respond to cyberbullying?

4. Do you think there is a difference between physical face-to-face bullying and online bullying?

5. Is everything okay online? I'm here if you want to talk about anything.

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What to do if your child is being cyberbullied

Try to resist immediately taking away their device

Removing your child's phone or computer could be really unhelpful. Cutting off their online access does not teach them about online safety or help build resilience. It could alienate them from their peers, and it also removes an essential tool for them to communicate and connect with friends.

Stay calm and open - don't panic

You want your child to feel confident that you're not immediately going to get upset, angry or anxious if they tell you about the situation. You want them to know they can talk to you and feel heard.

The best way to do this is make sure you have an open dialogue from the beginning. Talk to them without being judgemental or angry, and make them feel like they can come to you with anything, without fear of being punished.

Listen, think, pause

Gauge the scale of the problem. Does it exist in a peer group or is it more widespread? Is it a few remarks here and there? Or is it more serious? Empathise with your child and let them know that you understand how they feel.

How badly is it affecting your child personally? If the bullying itself is not very intense, but your child seems quite seriously affected, this could be a symptom of something larger. In this case you may need to seek help, from a school counsellor, a helpline, or an external professional.

Try not to respond immediately. Take some time to consider the best course of action. Reassure your child you are working on it and will come together again very soon to talk through some options. Let them know you are there if they feel like they need to talk in the meantime.

Act to protect your child if necessary

If your child is being threatened, or if they indicate a wish to harm themselves, you should get professional help.

Call Triple Zero (000) immediately, if their physical safety is at risk.
Contact a counselling and support service like Kids Helpline.

Empower your child

Wherever possible, try to build your child's confidence and help them make wise decisions for themselves, rather than telling them what to do.

If you feel they may be struggling to open up to you, connect them with other trusted adults or with professional support.

Collect evidence

Don't delete the posts or abusive material straight away. Instead, start by taking screenshots and collecting evidence including dates and times.

The evidence may be useful if the behaviour continues and you need a record of how long it has been going on. You may also need evidence if you want to report it.

However, if the material involves sexualised images, be aware that possessing or sharing images of people under 18 may be a crime, even if you have just taken a screenshot for evidence purposes. For information about relevant laws in Australia, visit Youth Law Australia You can also read our advice about sharing intimate images in sending nudes and sexting.

Report the online harm

Report the content to the relevant online service provider. Many social media services, games, apps and websites have a simple process to report content posted by other people. The eSafety Guide has more information about how to report issues to commonly used online services.

If the service provider does not take action, you or your child can report to eSafety. We will ask you to complete our online reporting form and include evidence, such as a receipt, reference or report number from the service provider.

eSafety will determine whether the abuse meets the the legal definition of what can be removed. We can then take action to get serious cyberbullying material taken down and provide advice, support and assistance.

Find out more about how to report abusive content.

Prevent further contact

Advise your child not to retaliate or respond to bullying messages, as sometimes people say hurtful things just to get a response and it could make things worse. If they have already responded, encourage them not to respond further.

Help your child to use in-app functions to ignore, mute or block the other person.

Encourage your child to check their privacy settings and restrict who can see their posts and profile page. Advice on privacy settings is available in The eSafety Guide.

Encourage your child to ask their friends whether mean content is still being posted and if so, ask them to report it.

Consider seeking support from your child's school

Your child's school may have a policy in place to address cyberbullying and may be able to provide support, whether or not the bullying is from a student at your child's school.

With your child's agreement, talk to their teacher or the school counsellor.

Encourage positive connections and coping strategies

Try to keep your child engaged with interests like sports or dance that connect them with other young people outside school, or with activities that involve extended family. These things will also remind your child that they are loved and lovable.

Help your child identify tools they can use to work through the current situation, as well as help build resilience for any future challenges. Check out good habits start young for some tips.

Stay aware

Check in with your child from time-to-time about how they are feeling. Keep an eye on their eating and sleeping habits, their ability to concentrate and make decisions and their overall mood.

If you notice any changes that concern you, get help for your child through a counselling or online support service.
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Young people may recognise the term 'sexting' but would not often use it to describe this behaviour. They would more likely use terms such as 'sending nudes' or 'sending pics.'

The content is usually created to be sent to a particular individual, but can end up being shared more widely. For example, a person may send a nude image consensually to someone they feel they can trust, but that person may share it on elsewhere without permission. It is often associated with teenagers, but can happen between younger children as well.

Not all incidents of sexting are consensual. It might be that a person is blackmailed or coerced into sending them, through emotional exploitation, or by threatening to leak private information or other photos to friends and family.

A nude image may also appear amongst a peer group online, with the name of someone attached to it, but in fact is an image found online with no connection to the victim.

What are the risks and impact?

Wellbeing

Engaging in sexting can impact on young people's emotional wellbeing, self-esteem and relationships. Young people often put a lot of trust in those who they share an intimate image with. If someone they send an image to betrays that trust and shares on the image further without their consent, it can damage that relationship and cause emotional distress to the original sender. To know that peers, or a wider group of unknown others, have seen a photo that was originally meant for just one person can result in emotional upset and embarrassment.

The Law

Taking, sending and receiving a sexually explicit photo or video of an under 18 year old breaks the Protection of Children Act 1978, even if an under 18 year old took the picture of themselves. The National Police Chiefs' Council of England, Wales and Northern Ireland have stated that young people engaging in sexting should be treated as victims in the first instance and not face prosecution as first time offenders, but that the situation will be investigated to ensure the young people involved are not at further risk. The police's priority is those who profit from sexual images and exploit children. Repeat offenders and more extreme cases are reviewed differently, still with a focus on avoiding prosecution unless absolutely necessary. If someone is putting pressure on your child to send them a nude or nearly nude image, inform the police. The non-consensual sharing of someone's nude image, whether you are over 18 or not, is always illegal.

Advice

My child's nude image has been shared, what do I do next?

How can I minimise the distribution of a nude or nearly nude image online?

Top tips

Discuss the pressures

The creation of nude or partially nude content can be due to pressure from a partner or peer. Young people may also feel a pressure to request nude images, or send on other people's, in order to feel accepted, or part of a particular friendship group. Discussing peer pressure, healthy relationships and self-esteem with your child is a positive way to help them recognise unhealthy relationships or friendships and seek further support if they need to.

Discuss puberty and growing up

As children reach puberty, their bodies will begin to change and they may have questions. Taking images is one way young people may explore the way their body is growing and developing. They may wish to seek out images of other people's bodies in order to compare, or out of curiosity. Visit Family Lives for more information on how to have conversations around puberty

Discuss the consequences

Taking, sharing and having possession of nude and sexually explicit images of under 18s is illegal, even if a young person chooses to take this of themselves. It is important to know the police take a common sense approach, and do not want to unnecessarily criminalise young people for this behaviour. However, if the sharing is done with malicious intent, or is a repeat occurrence, they may take more serious action. It can also be hurtful and painful to recover from, and have a negative impact on their mental health, self-esteem and relationships.

Discuss respect and consent online

Talk to your child about safe and respectful online behaviour, and the different types of things that permission is needed for. If young people are ever unsure whether they have someone's consent or not, the crucial thing to remember is to ask.

Discuss who they can talk to

If you and your child can have an ongoing open dialogue about their life online, whilst still allowing them a certain level of privacy, they will be more likely to seek advice from you if they find themselves in a difficult situation. Reassure them it is never too late to seek help, regardless of what they might have done, or how long it's been going on for.

Conversation starters

1. How do you use technology to stay in touch with friends?

2. What sorts of things do you like to share with each other?

3. What could you do if you thought someone was being pressured to share images they were uncomfortable with?

4. How could you resist the pressure to share a nude image and say 'no'?

5. Who can you go to if you are worried about something online?

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There is no consensus among researchers about the impact of pornography on young people's attitudes and relationships, but at some point, many young people will accidentally stumble upon sexually explicit images or pornography online. One way that adults can help prepare young people, if and when they do come across this content, is to talk with them. Acknowledge that there is content online that is not appropriate for them and speak openly with them if you find they have seen pornography.

If your child stumbles upon porn, it's important to affirm that it's not their fault, so that they don't feel guilty about what they've seen. If your child has sought out this content, normalize the desire and curiosity around looking at porn. This can help minimize shame and secrecy.

It is also important to explain that porn is fiction and what they see in porn is not how sexual experiences are in real life. The body types they see in porn can be unrealistic, and some of the sexual behaviors are not common in many romantic relationships. The examples of sexual relationships that lack intimacy, trust and respect don't reflect what is healthiest for most people. It is important to provide information to help children put what they have seen in context and to redirect them to information they can trust. Use this as an opportunity to educate them instead of disciplining them.
CONVERSATION STARTERS
If you start essential conversations about topics like pornography with your children, then they will know they can come to you with questions. The easiest way to start these conversations is to talk about issues as they come up in everyday life.

Here are some ways to start these conversations:

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Easing the Teasing: How Parents Can Help Their Children. ERIC Digest.

by Freedman, Judy S.

Children who are teased on a school bus, in class, or during recess often don't want to go to school. Unfortunately, teasing can occur anywhere, and it is difficult to prevent--despite the best efforts of parents, teachers, and school administrators to create a more cooperative atmosphere (Ross, 1996). Most young children become upset automatically if they are called a name or ridiculed in any way. Parents cannot always protect children from these hurtful situations, but they can teach their children useful strategies to help them deal with teasing. Young children who learn these coping skills at an early age may be better prepared for more significant social challenges and conflicts in their preteen and teen years. This Digest discusses different types of teasing, why children tease other children, and strategies for both parents and children to help them deal with teasing.

TYPES OF TEASING

Not all teasing is harmful--playful teasing can be fun and constructive. Teasing and being the target of teasing can help young children develop social skills that they will need in adolescence and adulthood (Ross, 1996).

Playful or good-humored teasing occurs when it causes everyone to smile or laugh, including the person who is being teased. In contrast, hurtful teasing includes ridicule, name-calling, put-downs, and saying or doing annoying things. Unlike playful teasing, hurtful teasing may cause the person being teased to feel sad, hurt, or angry. More hostile teasing, which may include tormenting or harassing, may require ongoing intervention by a parent, caregiver, teacher, or school administrator.

WHY CHILDREN TEASE

Children tease for a number of different reasons:

* ATTENTION. Teasing is a good way of receiving negative

attention, and, unfortunately, for many children, negative

attention is better than no attention.

* IMITATION. Some children model or mimic what is happening to them at home by acting the same way to others at school or in the neighborhood. These teasers are children who may be teased by siblings or who experience aggressive or harsh parenting.

* FEELINGS OF SUPERIORITY OR POWER. Many teasers feel superior when they put others down, or they may feel powerful when teasing upsets others (Olweus, 1993).

* PEER ACCEPTANCE. It is not uncommon to see children engage in teasing behavior because they may perceive it as being the "cool" thing to do. It may help them feel part of a group. The need to belong may be so strong that a child may tease others to be accepted by the "popular" children.

* MISUNDERSTANDING DIFFERENCES. A lack of understanding of "differences" may be the underlying factor in some teasing. Many children are not familiar with or do not understand cultural or ethnic differences. In some instances, a child with a physical or a learning disability may be the target of teasing because she is different. Some children criticize anyone who is different instead of trying to learn or understand what makes others special.

* MEDIA INFLUENCE. One cannot discuss the reasons children tease without acknowledging the powerful influence of the media. Our children are frequently exposed to teasing, put-downs, sarcasm, and a lack of respect in many of the television programs geared toward children.

HOW PARENTS CAN HELP STRATEGIES FOR PARENTS

When your child experiences teasing, it is important to see the problem from the child's point of view. Sit down and listen attentively to your child in a nonjudgmental way. Ask your child to describe the teasing. Where is it happening? Who is the teaser? Understand and validate your child's feelings. It might be helpful to relate your experience of teasing as a child. The following strategies may also help:

* Do not overreact. A parent's overreaction can result in a child overreacting.

* Convey the message, "You can handle it."

* Encourage children to be with children who make them feel good, not bad.

* Review your own behavior. Do you model the behavior of a "victim," or do you tease your children inappropriately?

* Teach or review and practice the strategies discussed below.

STRATEGIES PARENTS CAN TEACH CHILDREN

Teasing cannot be prevented, and children cannot control what others say; however, they can learn to control their own reactions. Parents can teach their children the simple strategies listed below that will empower them and reduce feelings of helplessness. When children realize that there are effective strategies that they can use in teasing situations, their coping skills are strengthened.

* SELF-TALK. Encourage children to think about what they can say to themselves when they are in a teasing situation (Bloch, 1993). A child could say to himself, "Even though I don't like this teasing, I can handle it." A child should ask himself, "Is the tease true?" Often it is not. Another important question is, "Whose opinion is more important . . . the teaser's or mine?" It is also helpful for the teased child to think about her positive qualities to counteract the negative remarks.

* IGNORE. Displays of anger or tears often invite more teasing; therefore, it is often effective for children to ignore the teaser. The child who is being teased should not
look at or respond to the teaser. Children should try to pretend that the teaser is invisible and act as if nothing has happened. If possible, walking away from the teaser is encouraged. Parents can role play "ignoring" with their children and praise children for their excellent "acting." It should be noted that ignoring may not be effective in
prolonged teasing situations.

* THE I MESSAGE. The "I message" is an assertive way for children to effectively express their feelings. The child expresses how he feels, what has caused him to feel that way, and what he would like others to do differently. For example, a child could say, "I feel upset when you make fun of my glasses. I would like you to stop." This strategy generally works better when expressed in a more structured or supervised situation, such as a classroom. When used in other situations, such as recess or on the school bus, it may lead to more teasing when the teaser perceives the child being teased is upset. Nevertheless, it is an easy skill to teach children to help them deal with many situations. The child should learn to make eye contact, speak clearly, and use a polite tone of voice.

* VISUALIZATION. Many young children respond well to visualizing words "bouncing off" of them. It provides them with the image of not having to accept or believe what is said. This image can be created by showing how Nerf balls bounce off a person. Another effective visualization is for a child to pretend he has a shield around him that helps the teases and bad words bounce off. Again, this technique gives children the message that they can refuse these put-downs.

* REFRAMING. Reframing is changing one's perception about the negative comment; it is turning the teasing into a compliment. For example, a child teases another about her glasses, "Four eyes, four eyes, you have four eyes." The
child being teased could politely respond, "Thanks for noticing my glasses!" The teaser is usually confused, especially when there is not a reaction of anger or frustration. Another child might respond to a tease by saying, "That is a great put-down."

* AGREE WITH THE FACTS. Agreeing with the facts can be one of the easiest ways to handle an insult or tease (Cohen- Posey, 1995). The teaser says, "You have so many freckles." The teased child responds, "Yes, I have a lot of freckles." The teaser taunts, "You are such a cry baby. . . ." The teased child can answer, "I do cry
easily." Agreeing with facts usually eliminates the feeling of wanting to hide the freckles or the tears.

* "SO?" The response of "so?" to the teaser conveys an indifference that the tease doesn't matter. Children find this response simple yet quite effective. This strategy is
humorously addressed in Bill Cosby's book The Meanest Thing to Say.

* RESPOND TO THE TEASE WITH A COMPLIMENT. When a child is teased, it is often effective to respond with a compliment. For example, if a child is teased about the way he runs, he can answer, "You are a fast runner."

* USE HUMOR. Humor shows that little importance is placed on the put-downs or mean remarks. Laughing can often turn a hurtful situation into a funny one.

* ASK FOR HELP. At times, it is necessary for a child to seek adult assistance or intervention if the teaser is persistent.

WHEN TEASING BECOMES HARASSMENT

Most types of teasing can be dealt with effectively by the children involved, sometimes with the assistance of parents, caregivers, teachers, social workers, or counselors. Teasing becomes harassment, however, if it is repeated or prolonged, threatens or results in violence, or involves inappropriate touching or physical contact. Adults should be alert to the possibility of harassment and intervene as needed if harassment is suspected or anticipated. In such cases, it may be necessary to involve administrators and parents in determining the appropriate course of action to end the harassment.

CONCLUSION

You can help your children understand that teasing cannot be prevented, and they cannot control what others say. However, they can learn to control their own responses and reactions, which will "ease the tease."

This Digest was adapted from Freedman, Judy S. (1999, Spring). Easing the teasing: How parents can help their kids cope. EARLY CHILDHOOD, pp. 1, 4. Ms. Freedman is a licensed clinical social worker at Prairie Elementary School in Buffalo Grove, Illinois, and developer of a stress education program for children and parents. Her email address is info@easingtheteasing.com.

FOR MORE INFORMATION

Berry, Joy Wilt. (1985). LET'S TALK ABOUT TEASING. Chicago: Children's Press.

Biren, Richard L. (1997). NAH, NAH, NAH!: A COMPREHENSIVE TEASING-EDUCATION MANUAL FOR GRADES 3-5. Warminster, PA: Marco Products.

Bloch, Douglas. (1993). POSITIVE SELF-TALK FOR CHILDREN: TEACHING SELF-ESTEEM THROUGH AFFIRMATIONS. New York: Bantam Books.

Brigman, Greg, & Earley, Barbara. (1991). GROUP COUNSELING FOR SCHOOL COUNSELORS: A PRACTICAL GUIDE. Portland, ME: J. Weston Walch.

Cohen-Posey, Kate. (1995). HOW TO HANDLE BULLIES, TEASERS, AND OTHER MEANIES. Highland City, FL: Rainbow Books.

Cosby, Bill. (1997). THE MEANEST THING TO SAY. New York: Scholastic.

Cowan, David; Schilling, Dianne; & Schwallie-Giddis, Pat. (1993). COUNSELOR IN THE CLASSROOM: ACTIVITIES AND STRATEGIES FOR AN EFFECTIVE CLASSROOM GUIDANCE PROGRAM. Spring Valley, CA: Innerchoice.

Freedman, J. S. (Ed.). (1999). EASING THE TEASING [Online]. Available: http://www.easingtheteasing.com [1999, July 10].

Kaufman, Gershen, & Raphael, Lev. (1990). STICK UP FOR YOURSELF: EVERY KID'S GUIDE TO PERSONAL POWER AND POSITIVE SELF-ESTEEM. Minneapolis, MN: Free Spirit Publishing. Olweus, D. (1993). BULLYING AT SCHOOL: WHAT WE KNOW AND WHAT WE CAN DO. Cambridge, MA: Blackwell. ED 384 437.

Ross, Dorothea M. (1996). CHILDHOOD BULLYING AND TEASING: WHAT SCHOOL PERSONNEL, OTHER PROFESSIONALS, AND PARENTS CAN DO. Alexandria, VA: American Counseling Association. ED 402 527.

Webster-Doyle, Terrence. (1991). WHY IS EVERYBODY ALWAYS PICKING ON ME? A GUIDE TO HANDLING BULLIES. Middlebury, VT: Atrium Publications. ED 410 007.

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Dick & Dünn e.V. mit Sitz in Berlin-Schöneberg ist ein Beratungszentrum für Ess-Störungen.
Wir sind seit 1986 erste Anlaufstelle, wenn es um die Essstörungen Magersucht, Bulimie oder Esssucht / Binge Eating geht.

Wir zeigen gangbare Wege auf, wenn Sie ganz am Anfang einer Essstörung stehen, wir begleiten Sie im therapeutischen Prozess und helfen bei der Stabilisierung nach einem Klinikaufenthalt. Wir beraten Sie mit Empathie und Fachkompetenz, wenn Sie von Essstörungen betroffen sind oder aber eine von Essstörungen betroffene Person begleiten.

Zu uns kommen sowohl Betroffene ( Jugendliche, Frauen und Männer aller Geschlechter und Altersgruppen) - wir sind aber auch für Angehörige und Freunde da.

Ein wichtiger Arbeitsbereich ist die Prävention von Essstörungen an Schulen und Jugendeinrichtungen sowie der Weiterbildungsbereich für Kolleg*innen.

Wir freuen uns auf Deinen/Ihren Kontakt - der auf Wunsch auch immer anonym sein darf!

Kontakt
Telefonische Erreichbarkeit
Terminvergabe:

Montag, Dienstag und Freitag

10:00 - 12:00 Uhr

Sprechzeit:

Montag 13:00 - 15:00 Uhr

Dienstag 15:00 - 17:00 Uhr

Donnerstag 12:00 -14:00 Uhr

Innsbrucker Straße 37
D- 10825 Berlin

Telefon: +49 (0) 30 / 854 49 94
E-Mail: info@dick-und-duenn-berlin.de

Kostenlose Beratung mit vorheriger Terminvereinbarung für Jugendliche jeden Dienstag ab 16:00 Uhr mehr Infos>>

Diese Beratungen dauern 30 bis max 40 Minuten. Gerne können wir auch Termine an anderen Tagen vereinbaren.
Alle Beratungsangebote hier >>
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English

A warm welcome! We offer counseling for eating disorders for affected persons and their
relatives. If you are interested, please contact us during our office hours or by e-mail.
Your Dick & Dünn Team

French

Bienvenue! Nous proposons des conseils sur les troubles alimentaires aux personnes
concernées et à leurs proches. Si vous êtes intéressé(e), veuillez prendre contact avec nous
pendant nos heures de consultation téléphonique ou par e-mail. Votre équipe Dick & Dünn

Gorąco zapraszamy! Oferujemy poradnictwo w zakresie zaburzeń odżywiania dla osób
dotkniętych tym problemem i ich bliskich.
Osoby zainteresowane prosimy o kontakt w godzinach pracy naszego biura lub drogą
mailową. Twój zespół Dick & Dünn

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