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Negative command: " Shut up"
Positive command: " Can you please keep quiet while others are sleeping"

Assertive communication:
Confidence
Optimism
Cheerful
Empathy
Respect
Honest
Simple

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Assertive Communication encompasses

Simplicity
Honesty
Directness
Tactfulness
Respect
Concreteness
Flexibility
Confidence
Persistence
Empathy

Example: “I would like it if you can sit down quietly”, “I am sure you can sit down quietly” instead of “Why can’t you be quiet?”, “Keep quiet!”

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Positive: You're doing great, but let's speed up a little to catch up with your friends~
Negative: You're too slow, hurry up!

Key factors of assertive commands:
Honesty, flexibility, respect.

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For children who push / hit others -
"STOP! Why you pushed your child A?" vs
"Hands are for helping  other and holding things not for hitting."

Walk with your walking feet!
vs Don't run!

Assertive Communication
- Serious and clear tone but not loud
- Respect the child
- Be geniue and not brushing the child off
- talk to the child at his or eye level.

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Positive instructions: "please" and "John, I need your help"
Negative commands: "Don't do that!"

Some factors in assertive communication are respect, flexible, empathy and more. Respectful adults confront children privately and focus on improving behaviours. It is
important to be flexible as well as assertive with the right approach as adults can better handle children with problems and mete out fair and just disciplinary actions. Empathy in communication is effective which involve sincere understanding and caring.

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when a child starts running we can say or ask them to use their walking feet, or an example of what we do in my centre is we request them to use their inner voice when speaking.

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negative: "don't be so dirty! clean up yourself!"
positive: "please use the tissue to clean yourself up. you look neater that way."

- confidence: what is said are really meant to be
- empathy: put self into others shoe
- persistence: make assertive communication work
- respect: confront child privately
- honesty: not to lie and trick child into compliance

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Positive instructions versus Negative Commands’

Please stand here and hold my hand instead of Quit running.

Some of the 11 key factors in assertive communication -  Practice active listening, build emotional intelligence, act on child;s unput, ask instead of telling, cultivate confidence

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Positive instruction: Please help me put away the toys
Negative Command: Hurry up and keep your toys

Assertive communication
-Honesty
-tact
-respect
-flexibility

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An example of positive instructions vs negative commands would be telling children to "walk please" instead of "don't run".

Some of the key factors in assertive communication would be honesty, simplicity, directness, respect and more. It is important for us to be honest to children and to not trick them into following instructions and commands. We should also be simple and direct when speaking to children so that it is easier for them to understand. By having mutual respect between the adults and children, it helps them to learn and understand more about how we should carry ourselves and be respectable to others.

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negative command: i want more
positive command: can i have more please?

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1. I like the way Y is sitting vs Dont stand
2. Thank you for not talking vs Dont talk
3. walking feet vs Dont run

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Positive instructions help your child succeed because they tell your child exactly what you want them to do.
For example, say, 'Please chew with your mouth closed' instead of 'Don't eat like that'.
This can increase the chances of your child doing what you ask, because it gives your child some choice.

Some of the 11 key factors in assertive communication
Respect, Concreteness, Flexibility, Confidence, Persistence

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1. Don't run vs use your walking feet.
2. Keep quiet vs use your inner voice.
3. You are not listening! did you leave your ears at home? vs use your listening ears

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Negative command: Don't run!!
Positive instruction: Walking feet please

To me follow through with what you said was one of the difficult but important factor.
This creates trust.