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Courtesy is the use of polite manners. A courteous person is respectful and considerate of others. Courteous behavior requires an attitude of selflessness and can give you perspective on the situations of others. Consideration and kindness can create your reputation as a respectable and thoughtful person (Bolling 2013).

Elders, seniors and parents have a great role to play in making our society and nation courteous and well behaved(Singh 2013). Then, why do we still have rude people among us? What is the main cause of rudeness exactly?

Even though we have been taught to say "thank you" and you're welcome"since you were child, does it mean that you are courteous? No, because courteous attitude is more than that (Bolling 2013). Showing respect or being polite is directly related to courteous behaviour (Pickhardt 2011). But do you know how to show your respect? Do you know how to be polite? Continue reading this e-newsletter to know more...

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Why does courteous is important?. It is because it resounds not only in others, but also in us. It helps us to be in harmony with the people around us at an emotional level. Mina (2010) believe that courtesy is a value for yourself .Since our childhood, others have taught us the basics of courtesy and living together. It is important for us to always think about these rules in order to make them effective and useful. We can be authentic in this way when we use them.
Firstly, with courtesy we can show our appreciation for the usual ungrateful labors of somebody.Try to ask someone's name, greet someone in the morning or make a special effort.Good manners and social courtesy cost nothing and can affect other people profoundly (Jamieson 2009).
Secondly, driving in good manners, can also prevent accidents. Mayne(2018) stated that road rage was never good for anyone. Remember that errors are made by all drivers. It is up to you to keep your temper and avoid accidents by knowing all around you when you are behind the wheel.
Moreover, if you have good manners or good courtesy people will respect you (Chernyak 2018). It depends on how you react to different situations, so if you are polite with the people you have met and consistent with the right guidelines, you are more likely to do the same. For instance, "being polite to your friends will keep them calling"(Mayne 2018).When your friends know that you care enough for them, they are more likely to include you in events and activities.

Other than that ,it has been claimed that a courteous person that has no wealth is more likeable than one who is wealthy and is not courteous (Korrapati 2015). Courtesy is very important in life because when you are courteous people have a good impression of you and respect automatically follows, instead of hatred.For example, saying “Hello” to the person who works as reception, person who cleans the loos,the person serving you coffee and many more. Because of that it will help reduce their stress by paying attention to these little things, which in our own lives have a knock on effect.

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In this modern era, we could hardly find youths holding doors for the elderly or offering them seats if they need one (Tammy, 2015). Litter is not a weird thing to do, whether it’s the receipt after buying groceries, cigarette butts or beverage cans. Another rude behaviour is being noisy in public areas or at a neighbourhood such as yelling out your friends name or blasting music whether it's from your car, your home stereo, or in your yard. Besides that, children barging into their parents’ room are also an impolite thing to do.

In conclusion, these rude behaviours are hunting us down. Therefore, the reason why these acts are becoming more common must be identified and overcame gradually.

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Generally we can show politeness toward others by respecting them. Respect is a big word. It is being said that if we do not respect others than no one will respect us. The youngsters must respect  the older. It is a common knowledge that every single person should know. It is stated that parents should teach respect and not to laugh at others even their are different to their older children (Khalil.A , 2015). Respect can be shown everywhere. In the public transportation we can also be polite towards others.

It has been illustrated that boys have learned to give up their seats for women on the bus and to open the door for them years before their first crushes (Krueger.A , 2015). Khalil.A,2015 has also argued that we should stand up and give up our seat if we saw an older person walk in a room l, or riding a public transportation as being told by the elders. So, it is common sense that one way of being polite is being respectful of others.

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Children are growing up by observing their family, parents, siblings, their neighbours and their surroundings. Mandell (2015) criticizes that children are rude because they are copying the rude behaviour from what they see around them.

“A 2014 study by the Boston Medical Center, published in the journal Pediatrics, found that 75 percent of families observed at fast food restaurants checked their smart phones during the meal. About one-third of parents were on their smart phones the entire meal.”(Mandell, 2015)

Mandell (2015) adds that he is more worried with parents modelling improper behaviour in front of their children. For example, parents paying no attention to their children during meals while being on their devices. These rude behaviours are normally observed and copied by children from parents, teachers, movie stars. Basically, they are copying the behaviours based on what they see.

Nowadays, manners are not given much attention either at home or school. Under a survey done to parents, three-quarter said kids nowadays are less polite when they, themselves were growing up. This result shows how different is kids nowadays compared during our ancestors.

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Yusliza (2018) stated that babies are like white clothes waiting for their parents to color them. Hence, it’s the parents’ responsibilities to shape their children to become the future leaders.

Parents are responsible to teach manners where manners should be taught since childhood. Children would most likely to be impolite for most of their lives, if they have not been introduced to what’s right or to what’s wrong (Chris, 2015)

Moreover, if parents let their children to ignore what they are saying, be disrespectful to them, or they see their parents let other people step on them, they will find it hard to have respect on them.

In another case, parents should also have respect to their child. Parents that are constantly being harsh, ignoring their child, whom parents should know, children and teenagers need their attention; these kids will find it easy to disrespect them.

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“The normal adolescent processes of seeking more autonomy, relying more on peers, and learning to see their parents as “people” rather than an idolised parent figure, all result in teenagers no longer looking to their parents as a constant source of truth, comfort and guidance.  Subsequently parents can feel more disconnected from their teenager and become anxious about their role as a parent.” (Chris, 2015)

A mistake many parents make when this occurs is to maintain parenting the way they were during their teenager’s childhood. Worse, they become overly controlling and nosy in their parenting style. Barker (2018) argues that teen should be treated differently to a child.

Trying to have a parent-child connection with your teen by trying to constantly interfere your teenager’s life will only push your teenager further away. If your teen feels like you are being overly controlling, they will put up a wall to resist. The easiest way is by being rude.

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Children grew up in need of their parents' attention. Despite that, working is one of the common reasons why parents neglected their responsibilities as parents. Fa (2016) claims many working parents claimed the rise in living cost forces them to work hard in order to earn enough for a comfortable life. Whether its a contract for the future of their workplace, weekly meeting, or they are brainstorming ideas for the next project, they should know that children need much of their time, love and care.

Working parents would normally leave their children under the surveillance of caretakers. George (2017) illustrates  that parents' precious time that are filled with other responsibilities, particularly work will lessen their precious time with their love ones.

Children would not know how to be polite if politeness is not instilled since childhood. Consequently, lack in teamwork, communication, or work either at home or workplace would be evident as they grow older(George, 2017). In a nutshell, manners should be nurtured since birth.

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Other than that, politeness can be shown by helping those in need. Giving a helping hand and being friendly is not regretful. We cannot simply the people who are in need as that is considered a rude behaviour. It is stated that years ago a teacher had taught politeness by helping others from holding the door open to offering to seat people, taking their backpacks, carrying books when the others are overloaded or injured, waiting while being spoken to and using phrases (Krueger.A , 2015). This shows that helping others is very important.