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I Am Every Good Thing - Derrick Barnes (Author) & Gordon C. James (Illustrator) Hardcover picture book - September 1st, 2020.

The confident Black narrator of this book is proud of everything that makes him who he is. He's got big plans, and no doubt he'll see them through as he's creative, adventurous, smart, funny, and a good friend. Sometimes he falls, but he always gets back up.

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The Name Jar - Yangsook Choi (Author and Illustrator) Picture book - October 14, 2003.

Being the new kid in school is hard enough, but what happens when nobody can pronounce your name? Having just moved from Korea, Unhei is anxious about fitting in. So instead of introducing herself on the first day of school, she decides to choose an American name from a glass jar. But while Unhei thinks of being a Suzy, Laura, or Amanda, nothing feels right. With the help of a new friend, Unhei will learn that the best name is her own.

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Looking for the best children's books about identity? These picture books on identity for elementary students are engaging for primary and upper elementary kids. Books with lesson plans and activities linked. Picture books about various topics such as culture, personality, family history, each person's own uniqueness and more for your kindergarten, first, second, third, fourth or fifth grade students. Your students will delight in these classic and brand new books!
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I Talk Like a River by Jordan Scott
I wake up each morning with the sounds of words all around me. And I can't say them all . . .
When a boy who stutters feels isolated, alone, and incapable of communicating in the way he'd like, it takes a kindly father and a walk by the river to help him find his voice. Compassionate parents everywhere will instantly recognize a father's ability to reconnect a child with the world around him. A great book for students with disabilities.
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Thunder Boy Jr. by Sherman Alexie

Thunder Boy Jr. wants a normal name...one that's all his own. Dad is known as big Thunder, but little thunder doesn't want to share a name. He wants a name that celebrates something cool he's done like Touch the Clouds, Not Afraid of Ten Thousand Teeth, or Full of Wonder.

But just when Little Thunder thinks all hope is lost, dad picks the best name...Lightning! Their love will be loud and bright, and together they will light up the sky. A great books about a Native American tradition.
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I Am Every Good Thing by Derrick Barnes

The confident Black narrator of this book is proud of everything that makes him who he is. He's got big plans, and no doubt he'll see them through-as he's creative, adventurous, smart, funny, and a good friend. Sometimes he falls, but he always gets back up. And other times he's afraid, because he's so often misunderstood and called what he is not. So slow down and really look and listen, when somebody tells you-and shows you-who they are. There are superheroes in our midst!
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Watercress by Andrea Wang

Driving through Ohio in an old Pontiac, a young girl's parents stop suddenly when they spot watercress growing wild in a ditch by the side of the road. Grabbing an old paper bag and some rusty scissors, the whole family wades into the muck to collect as much of the muddy, snail covered watercress as they can.

At first, she's embarrassed. Why can't her family get food from the grocery store? But when her mother shares a story of her family's time in China, the girl learns to appreciate the fresh food they foraged. Together, they make a new memory of watercress. A great book about Asian Americans and family history.
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Milo Imagines the World by Matt de la Pena

Milo is on a long subway ride with his older sister. To pass the time, he studies the faces around him and makes pictures of their lives. There's the whiskered man with the crossword puzzle; Milo imagines him playing solitaire in a cluttered apartment full of pets. There's the wedding-dressed woman with a little dog peeking out of her handbag; Milo imagines her in a grand cathedral ceremony. And then there's the boy in the suit with the bright white sneakers; Milo imagines him arriving home to a castle with a drawbridge and a butler. But when the boy in the suit gets off on the same stop as Milo-walking the same path, going to the exact same place-Milo realizes that you can't really know anyone just by looking at them. A great book about perspective.
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Marisol McDonald Doesn't Match

Mortimer is looking for love. And he's looking everywhere! He's worked out at the gym (if only his arm wouldn't keep falling off). He also tried ballroom dancing lessons (but the ladies found him to be a bit stiff). He's even been on stalemate.com. How's a guy supposed to find a ghoul? When it seems all hope has died, could the girl of Mortimer's dreams be just one horrifying shriek away?
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The Name Jar by Yangsook Choi

Being the new kid in school is hard enough, but what about when nobody can pronounce your name? Having just moved from Korea, Unhei is anxious that American kids will like her. So instead of introducing herself on the first day of school, she tells the class that she will choose a name by the following week. Her new classmates are fascinated by this no-name girl and decide to help out by filling a glass jar with names for her to pick from. But while Unhei practices being a Suzy, Laura, or Amanda, one of her classmates comes to her neighborhood and discovers her real name and its special meaning. On the day of her name choosing, the name jar has mysteriously disappeared. Encouraged by her new friends, Unhei chooses her own Korean name and helps everyone pronounce it- Yoon-Hey.
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Oliver Button Is A Sissy by Tomie Depaola

Oliver Button is a sissy. At least that's what the other boys call him. But here's what Oliver Button really is: a reader, and an artist, and a singer, and a dancer, and more. What will his classmates say when he steps into the spotlight? A great anti bullying book.
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Islandborn by Junot Diaz
Every kid in Lola's school was from somewhere else.
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So when Lola's teacher asks the students to draw a picture of where their families immigrated from, all the kids are excited. Except Lola. She can't remember The Island-she left when she was just a baby. But with the help of her family and friends, and their memories-joyous, fantastical, heartbreaking, and frightening-Lola's imagination takes her on an extraordinary journey back to The Island. As she draws closer to the heart of her family's story, Lola comes to understand the truth of her abuela's words: "Just because you don't remember a place doesn't mean it's not in you."
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My Name is Elizabeth! by Annika Dunklee

Meet Elizabeth. She's got an excellent pet duck, a loving granddad and a first name that's just awesome. After all, she's got a queen named after her! So she's really not amused when people insist on using nicknames like Lizzy and Beth. She bears her frustration in silence until an otherwise ordinary autumn day, when she discovers her power to change things once and for all.
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Teach Us Your Name by Huda Essa

Embracing the diversity of our names is one of the first steps we can take to show our appreciation of diversity and inclusion. Everyone has a name and every name has a story. Teach Us Your Name focuses on the many stories and ways we can all connect by helping children take pride in their many identities and to utilize the opportunity to learn from others. This book lends itself to countless invaluable discussions about cultural norms, languages, unconscious bias, and much more. Most of all, Teach Us Your Name is focused on showing respect for ourselves and all others. The author has a TED Talk that further explains the value of this topic as it applies to adults and older children, as well.
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Chrysanthemum by Kevin Henkes

Chrysanthemum thinks her name is absolutely perfect-until her first day of school. "You're named after a flower!" teases Victoria. "Let's smell her," says Jo. Chrysanthemum wilts. What will it take to make her blossom again? How could this classic NOT be one of my favorite September read alouds?

Eyes That Kiss in the Corners by Joanna Ho
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A young Asian girl notices that her eyes look different from her peers'. They have big, round eyes and long lashes. She realizes that her eyes are like her mother's, her grandmother's, and her little sister's. They have eyes that kiss in the corners and glow like warm tea, crinkle into crescent moons, and are filled with stories of the past and hope for the future.

Drawing from the strength of these powerful women in her life, she recognizes her own beauty and discovers a path to self-love and empowerment. This powerful, poetic picture book will resonate with readers of all ages.
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Leo the Late Bloomer by Robert Kraus

Leo isn't reading, or writing, or drawing, or even speaking, and his father is concerned. But Leo's mother isn't. She knows her son will do all those things, and more, when he's ready.
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Drawn Together by Minh Le

When a young boy visits his grandfather, their lack of a common language leads to confusion, frustration, and silence. But as they sit down to draw together, something magical happens-with a shared love of art and storytelling, the two form a bond that goes beyond words.
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Frederick by Leo Lionni

Winter is coming, and all the mice are gathering food . . . except for Frederick. But when the days grow short and the snow begins to fall, it's Frederick's poems that warm the hearts and spirits of his fellow field mice. With this also being a winner of a 1967 Caldecott Honor, how could Frederick not be a favorite September read aloud?

The Bear and the Piano by David Litchfield

One day, a bear cub finds something strange and wonderful in the forest. When he touches the keys, they make a horrible noise. Yet he is drawn back again and again. Eventually, he learns to play beautiful sounds, delighting his woodland friends.
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Then the bear is invited to share his sounds with new friends in the city. He longs to explore the world beyond his home, and to play bigger and better than before. But he knows that if he leaves, the other bears will be very sad . . .

This gorgeously illustrated tale of following one's dreams reminds us of the value of friendship, wherever we go.
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You Are Special by Max Lucado

In the town of Wemmickville there lives a Wemmick named Punchinello. Each day the residents award stickers―gold stars for the talented, smart, and attractive Wemmicks, and gray dots for those who make mistakes or are just plain ordinary. Punchinello, covered in gray dots, begins to feel worthless. Then one day he visits Eli the woodcarver, his creator, and he learns that his worth comes from a different source.
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Going Down Home With Daddy

Down home is Granny's house. It's where Lil Alan and his parents and sister will gather with great-grandparents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. Down home is where Lil Alan will hear stories of the ancestors and visit the land that has meant so much to all of them. And down home is where all of the children will find their special way to pay tribute to their family history. All the kids have to decide what they'll share, but what will Lil Alan do?

Alma And How She Got Her Name by Juana Martinez-Neal
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What's in a name? For one little girl, her very long name tells the vibrant story of where she came from - and who she may one day be.
A powerful, vibrantly illustrated story about the first day of school-and two sisters on one's first day of hijab-by Olympic medalist and social justice activist Ibtihaj Muhammad.
If you ask her, Alma Sofia Esperanza José Pura Candela has way too many names: six! How did such a small person wind up with such a large name? Alma turns to Daddy for an answer and learns of Sofia, the grandmother who loved books and flowers; Esperanza, the great-grandmother who longed to travel; José, the grandfather who was an artist; and other namesakes, too. As she hears the story of her name, Alma starts to think it might be a perfect fit after all - and realizes that she will one day have her own story to tell. In her author-illustrator debut, Juana Martinez-Neal opens a treasure box of discovery for children who may be curious about their own origin stories or names.
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The Proudest Blue by Ibtihaj Muhammad

With her new backpack and light-up shoes, Faizah knows the first day of school is going to be special. It's the start of a brand new year and, best of all, it's her older sister Asiya's first day of hijab-a hijab of beautiful blue fabric, like the ocean waving to the sky. But not everyone sees hijab as beautiful, and in the face of hurtful, confusing words, Faizah will find new ways to be strong.

Mary Wears What She Wants by Keith Negley

Once upon a time (but not that long ago), girls only wore dresses. And only boys wore pants.

Until one day, a young girl named Mary had an idea: She would wear whatever she wanted. And she wanted to wear pants! This bold, original picture book encourages readers to think for themselves while gently challenging gender and societal norms.

The Remember Balloons by Jessie Oliveros
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James's Grandpa has the best balloons because he has the best memories. He has balloons showing Dad when he was young and Grandma when they were married. Grandpa has balloons about camping and Aunt Nelle's poor cow. Grandpa also has a silver balloon filled with the memory of a fishing trip he and James took together.

But when Grandpa's balloons begin to float away, James is heartbroken. No matter how hard he runs, James can't catch them. One day, Grandpa lets go of the silver balloon-and he doesn't even notice! Grandpa no longer has balloons of his own. But James has many more than before. It's up to him to share those balloons, one by one.
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The Girl Who Ran by Frances Poletti

When Bobbi Gibb saw the Boston Marathon her mind was set-she had to be a part of it. But when the time came to apply for the marathon, she was refused entry. They told her girls don't run, girls can't run. That didn't stop Bobbi. This picture book tells the true story of how she broke the rules in 1966 and how, one step at a time, her grit and determination changed the world. A really heroic part of women's history.
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Ruby the Copycat by Peggy Rathmann

It's the first day of school, and Ruby is new. When her classmate Angela wears a red bow in her hair, Ruby comes back from lunch wearing a red bow, too. When Angela wears a flowered dress, suddenly Ruby's wearing one, too. Fortunately, Ruby's teacher knows a better way to help Ruby fit in-by showing how much fun it is to be herself!

Nerdy Birdy by Aaron Reynolds

Nerdy Birdy likes reading, video games, and reading about video games, which immediately disqualifies him for membership in the cool crowd. One thing is clear: being a nerdy birdy is a lonely lifestyle. When he's at his lowest point, Nerdy Birdy meets a flock just like him. He has friends and discovers that there are far more nerdy birdies than cool birdies in the sky.
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You Matter by Christian Robinson

In this full, bright, and beautiful picture book, many different perspectives around the world are deftly and empathetically explored-from a pair of bird-watchers to the pigeons they're feeding. Young readers will be drawn into the luminous illustrations inviting them to engage with the world in a new way and see how everyone is connected, and that everyone matters.
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Grandfather's Journey by Allen Say

Lyrical, breathtaking, splendid-words used to describe Allen Say's Grandfather's Journey when it was first published. At once deeply personal yet expressing universally held emotions, this tale of one man's love for two countries and his constant desire to be in both places captured readers' attention and hearts. Fifteen years later, it remains as historically relevant and emotionally engaging as ever.
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Not Quite Narwhal by Jessie Sima

Growing up in the ocean, Kelp has always assumed that he was a narwhal like the rest of his family. Sure, he's always been a little bit different-his tusk isn't as long, he's not as good of a swimmer, and he really doesn't enjoy the cuisine. Then one night, an extra strong current sweeps Kelp to the surface, where he spots a mysterious creature that looks just like him! Kelp discovers that he and the creature are actually unicorns. The revelation leaves him torn: is he a land narwhal or a sea unicorn? But perhaps, if Kelp is clever, he may find a way to have the best of both worlds.

Just Ask by Sonia Sotomayor
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Feeling different, especially as a kid, can be tough. But in the same way that different types of plants and flowers make a garden more beautiful and enjoyable, different types of people make our world more vibrant and wonderful.

In Just Ask, United States Supreme Court Justice Sonia Sotomayor celebrates the different abilities kids (and people of all ages) have. Using her own experience as a child who was diagnosed with diabetes, Justice Sotomayor writes about children with all sorts of challenges-and looks at the special powers those kids have as well. As the kids work together to build a community garden, asking questions of each other along the way, this book encourages readers to do the same: When we come across someone who is different from us but we're not sure why, all we have to do is Just Ask.
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They All Saw a Cat by Brendan Wenzel

The cat walked through the world, with its whiskers, ears, and paws . . . In this glorious celebration of observation, curiosity, and imagination, Brendan Wenzel shows us the many lives of one cat, and how perspective shapes what we see. When you see a cat, what do you see?
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Julian is a Mermaid by Jessica Love

While riding the subway home from the pool with his abuela one day, Julián notices three women spectacularly dressed up. Their hair billows in brilliant hues, their dresses end in fishtails, and their joy fills the train car. When Julián gets home, daydreaming of the magic he's seen, all he can think about is dressing up just like the ladies in his own fabulous mermaid costume: a butter-yellow curtain for his tail, the fronds of a potted fern for his headdress. But what will Abuela think about the mess he makes - and even more importantly, what will she think about how Julián sees himself? Mesmerizing and full of heart, Jessica Love's author-illustrator debut is a jubilant picture of self-love and a radiant celebration of individuality. A great LGBT children's book!
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We Are Still Here! by Traci Sorell

Too often, Native American history is treated as a finished chapter instead of relevant and ongoing. This companion book to the award-winning We Are Grateful: Otsaliheliga offers readers everything they never learned in school about Native American people's past, present, and future. Precise, lyrical writing presents topics including: forced assimilation (such as boarding schools), land allotment and Native tribal reorganization, termination (the US government not recognizing tribes as nations), Native urban relocation (from reservations), self-determination (tribal self-empowerment), Native civil rights, the Indian Child Welfare Act (ICWA), religious freedom, economic development (including casino development), Native language revival efforts, cultural persistence, and nationhood.

We Are All Wonders by R. J. Palacio

Countless fans have asked R. J. Palacio to write a book for younger readers. With We're All Wonders, she makes her picture-book debut as both author and artist, with a spare, powerful text and striking, richly imagined illustrations. Palacio shows readers what it's like to live in Auggie's world-a world in which he feels like any other kid but is not always seen that way.

We're All Wonders may be Auggie's story, but it taps into every child's longing to belong, and to be seen for who they truly are. It's the perfect way for families and educators to talk about empathy and kindness with young children.

Best Children's Books About Identity

What are some of your favorite children's books about identity? Are there any must read children's books about identity that I left out? Let me know in the comments, and I'll add it!

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34 New and Notable Children's Books About Identity

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Check out the best children's books about identity including your culture, gender, family, name and many more perfect for elementary students

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Amazing Grace - Mary Hoffman & Caroline Binch (Authors) Paperback - January 1st, 2007.

Grace loves to act out stories. When her school decides to perform Peter Pan , Grace is longing to play Peter, but her classmates say that Peter was a boy, and besides, he wasn't black...But Grace's Ma and Nana tell her she can be anything she wants if she puts her mind to it.

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The Day You Begin - Jacqueline Woodson (Author) & Rafael Lopez (Illustrator) Hardcover picture book - August 28, 2018.

There are many reasons to feel different. Maybe it's how you look or talk, or where you're from; maybe it's what you eat, or something just as random. It's not easy to take those first steps into a place where nobody really knows you yet, but somehow you do it.

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37 Picture Books on Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence

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All Are Welcome - Alexandra Penfold (Author) & Suzanne Kaufman (Illustrator) Hardcover picture book - July 10th, 2018.

Readers will follow a group of children through a day in their school, where everyone is welcomed with open arms. A school where students from all backgrounds learn from and celebrate each other's traditions. A school that shows the world as we will make it to be.

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A Family Is a Family Is a Family - Sara O'Leary (Author) & Qin Leng (Illustrator) Hardcover picture book - September 1st, 2016.

When a teacher asks the children in her class to think about what makes their families special, the answers are all different in many ways ― but the same in the one way that matters most of all.

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In many situations, especially difficult ones, children's books share messages and teach lessons better than any parent or family member could.

This holds especially true when it comes to kids learning about differences ― different races, different religions, different abilities and more. We've rounded up 25 children's books that celebrate various differences in ways children can both understand and enjoy. Check them out below.

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25 Children's Books That Celebrate Differences

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In many situations, especially difficult ones, children's books share messages and teach lessons better than any parent or family member could. This holds especially true when it comes to kids learning about differences ― different races, different religions, different abilities and more.

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"The school made anti-bias education a primary focus and was dedicated to trying out new ideas; integrating theory, research, and practice; and building a culture that allowed risk taking and making mistakes—essential components of anti-bias education" (NAEYC, 2016).

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"Having a tool such as the framework for anti-bias teaching supported educators as they learned to consider anti-bias issues in deeper, more holistic and intentional ways. It also held teachers accountable for keeping anti-bias education in the forefront of their teaching repertoire—implementing purposeful curriculum to move the work in the classroom forward" (NAEYC, 2016).

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1. Use children’s home languages as a resource

"Even if you do not speak the home languages of children in your program, you can still include their languages in conversations. Get help from family members by inviting them to come teach you and the class important words; also ask them for recommendations on literature and songs written and recorded in their languages" (NAEYC, 2019).

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2. Pair conversations with joint activities

"There are several reasons why joint activities in small groups promote conversation: a shared activity gives participants a common subject to talk about; the tools or props related to the activity can aid in communication; and educators can tailor the activity and, based on the interests of the children participating, guide the conversation, thereby increasing the children’s motivation and the likelihood that they will share their ideas" (NAEYC, 2019).

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Chapman de Sousa, E.B. 2017. “Promoting the Contributions of Multilingual Preschoolers.” Linguistics and Education 39: 1–13.

DiGiacomo, D.K., & K.D. Gutiérrez. 2016. “Relational Equity as a Design Tool within Making and Tinkering Activities.” Mind, Culture, and Activity 23 (2): 141–53.

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Take advantage of their artistic talents and let them colour or paint. There are brushes and drawing utensils that have big easy-to-grab shapes so that children who have little mobility can easily grab them! Finger painting is also a fun option.

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Place a variety of toys on a tray or flat surface to stimulate your child. Try sensory toys or toys with suction cups that will stick on flat surfaces. You could also use sponges or cups

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UNICEF. (2024). https://www.unicef.org/parenting/child-care/10-playful-educational-activities-children-disabilities

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Keeping little ones busy can be a full-time job, so it's always useful to have ideas on-hand for fun activities that you can do together. The best way for children to learn, no matter their abilities, is through play. Play is all about discovery - and having fun. Here are 10 stimulating activities that you can do indoors with your child. Be patient, listen and enjoy spending time and learning together!

1. Place a variety of toys on a tray or flat surface to stimulate your child. Try sensory toys or toys with suction cups that will stick on flat surfaces. You could also use sponges or cups.

2. Make up a game using a ball - you can even make one together using cloth. Decide the best way to play with your hands and feet depending on the mobility of your child.

3. Make a video of the things you have recorded your child doing and play it for them. You can also do this with just an audio recorder to play back their singing or laughing.

4. Take your children to the kitchen to help prepare food. Depending on what you're doing and how interested your child is, you can let them help you or just give them their own plastic bowl and spoon to mimic your actions.

5. Take advantage of their artistic talents and let them colour or paint. There are brushes and drawing utensils that have big easy-to-grab shapes so that children who have little mobility can easily grab them! Finger painting is also a fun option.

6. Read books together in a comfortable position sitting or standing (depending on your child's ability). You can also pull out family photo albums and point to familiar faces. Finding the best position, which can be done with a pillow or using an angled tray on a table, will help your child to feel more comfortable and encourage him to keep his head up.

7. Make a tray of water or sand for your child to play with different textures. You can also add toys.

8. Play with dough, either clay or homemade. Use molds and have fun cutting and assembling shapes. Cookie cutters or large cups with large handles may be easier for your child to grasp.

9. Spend some quiet time playing with simple puzzles or making shape, colour, word or number cards. Using a flat, smooth surface such as a table or tray will make the activity easier.

10. Sing, dance and make noise with your child. Your little one can use any cooking pot and homemade instruments to keep rhythm with you.
>> For more ideas, check out Learning together at home

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10 playful activities for children with disabilities

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1. Recognize that your assumptions carry weight

"Teachers know even the youngest students are extremely perceptive. That definitely includes observing the teacher. Your reactions to questions kids ask about the differences they observe in people around them, for example, paint a landscape for your students" (Flavin, 2018).

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3. Allow kids to notice and talk about differences

"This one might seem obvious, but it can be tricky to know what to say when a student blurts out something an adult would never say. But it’s very natural for children to make observations and ask questions about race, gender and family structure differences" (Flavin, 2018).

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"... And the very sleepy bunny said, 'Goodnight Mom, goodnight Dad.'"

A line like this wrapping up a sweet children's story probably doesn't cause you any surprise. But if you are a preschooler with two moms or a toddler living with an auntie, then these familiar lines are painting pictures-and parameters-of what a family looks like.

Make no mistake, families with one mom and one dad are wonderful. But other family structures are wonderful as well. When kids know their family looks different than the stories represent, they can feel excluded or confused about where they fit in and if their family counts.

The importance of recognizing diverse families

"The early childhood school setting is often a child's first experience with diversity," says Dawn Kurtz, Ph.D., chief program officer at Child360. "Research has shown that between the ages of two and five years, children become aware of differences, such as gender, ethnicity, disabilities-even differences in family structures."

This can be excellent news for educators who want to instill a sense of confidence in students in the face of their differences. Kurtz explains that talking about our differences is beneficial for children's identity development, while also fostering a sense of curiosity and appreciation for other people.

"You're teaching children about respect for others. Celebrating the beauty in our differences helps to build a stronger community, diminishes prejudice or fear and enriches our society by creating global citizens in our children," Kurtz says.

On top of that, honoring diverse families in your classroom will help children feel included in their learning environment. "When children know that their family-the people they love most in the world-are valued and truly seen by their teachers, it helps send the message that they belong in that classroom," says Chelsea Myers, early childhood educator at Hilltop Children's Center. "Children learn best in that environment."

Since the heart of education is to help children learn, including diverse families in your classroom is a great goal to set for any classroom. To get your ideas flowing, we asked experts in early childhood education to weigh in on honoring diverse family structures.

8 Ways to create an inclusive environment for students from diverse families

1. Recognize that your assumptions carry weight

Teachers know even the youngest students are extremely perceptive. That definitely includes observing the teacher. Your reactions to questions kids ask about the differences they observe in people around them, for example, paint a landscape for your students. And at an age where you might be one of the only adults they interact with outside the home-your opinions have major impact.

"An educator plays an integral role in helping to shape how a child views themselves, their family unit and the world," Kurtz says. "Research reveals that by age two, babies use observations to classify who 'their' people are, and show preference based upon skin color. These conclusions are often learned by what they perceive from their caregivers."

In the same way, Kurtz explains, children make connections about how their caregivers perceive family systems. If teachers speak about families in exclusively "mom and dad" terms, kids notice. But even a little awareness goes a long way. Teachers who are aware of diverse families can intentionally loop in examples and encourage children to realize that every family looks different.

"The most natural approach is to create an environment that celebrates all differences as a whole," Kurtz says.

2. Add a few characters to dramatic play environments

If your classroom has a play area, a dollhouse or any zone that encourages kids to play act, be sure to include characters and dolls that encourage inclusion.

"Offer persona dolls in the dramatic play areas and have displays around the classroom that include photographs of people from around the world," Kurtz suggests. Maybe this means adding a grandma and grandpa to the dollhouse-or costume clothing choices from around the world. According to Kurtz, a classroom that celebrates differences in all categories will best honor diverse families.

3. Allow kids to notice and talk about differences

This one might seem obvious, but it can be tricky to know what to say when a student blurts out something an adult would never say. But it's very natural for children to make observations and ask questions about race, gender and family structure differences.

"Remember, children are merely making observations of differences-what makes a boy or a girl, differences in skin color-they are not making assumptions that fall into what we, as adults, know as racism or prejudice," Kurtz says. "Every conversation and interaction is a valuable opportunity to begin supporting inclusive ideas and identity development early in life."

4. Be intentional with story time

"Books are an excellent way to start," Myers says, adding that you can find stories that lay out a counter-narrative from the norm as well as stories depicting the many ways to make a family. "These books help validate my children's own lives, they showcase ways that others live and they spark rich conversations."

"There are all types of families, including same-sex parents and multiracial parents, which can be celebrated and embraced through classroom practices," Kurtz says. Representing different kinds of families in picture books is one of the most straightforward ways to showcase diverse families.

5. Invite family members to share in class

Any activity that puts your students' family members in the classroom spotlight can teach more than words ever will. Kurtz suggests inviting family members to visit the classroom and share about their heritage. Even inviting family members to participate in show and tell for a day-or to talk about a meal they love could work.

"All of these actions help normalize the idea that all of our families do not look the same," Kurtz says. Activities like these offer the added bonus of giving you more time with your students' families. Those partnerships are known for supporting student learning.

6. Model curiosity

Curiosity about other people and their families can find roots in an amazing imagination. "When talking to kids about their play, we can help open their worlds," Kurtz says. "They are so creative already-if a baby leopard can run the fastest and fly, then it can easily also have two moms."

This is another way where the creative and imaginative environment of your classroom can have a huge impact. Dream big, imagine things and ask questions. "When talking to kids about their home life, we can be the ones modeling curiosity about others instead of judgment," Kurtz says. "We can ask questions instead of making assumptions."

7. Look into free resources

Trying to add diverse families to your curriculum or classroom environment can feel like a big task, but Myers encourages everyone to take advantage of free resources. "You don't need to reinvent the wheel-people have been working on this for a long time."

For ideas, Myers suggests checking out your state's ECE licensing website. "They may offer financial assistance, calendars of trainings or maybe even book lists or other classroom resources." Expanding your work in this way might not feel easy, "But it will be worth it," Myers says.

8. Emphasize the importance of family

In a sense, honoring diverse families boils down to the idea that every family is valuable and important. Family structures, no matter what they look like, are the foundation your students are standing on. That is always worth encouraging.

"It's important to have a baseline of valuing the families that are in your classroom, even if they all look like the stereotype," Kurtz says. "Making a family book from photos or displaying photos of your children's families around the classroom or school is one way to get that ball rolling."

Making every family important in the classroom space is an excellent way to encourage your students to understand and respect the value of all families and not just the ones that look similar to their own families.

Building on a solid foundation

The best teachers are always going the extra mile for their students. When you see those little eyes light up with understanding, the extra effort you put into your job feels so worth it. In the end, it's about how they develop and approach their own lives.

"As these children grow up, I want them to know that it's wonderful that the people around them are different," Myers says. "I also want them to know that however they make a family later in life is wonderful."

Education is the foundation for a diverse and prosperous future-and while it may seem easy enough to follow the "Golden Rule" of treating others as you'd like to be treated, we all have our blind spots. One way to fix that is to enroll in an ECE program that challenges students to recognize these biases. Learn more in our article, " 5 Ways Rasmussen College ECE Students Are Equipped to Educate in a Diverse World."

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Diverse families are represented in every classroom, so how are you incorporating this into your lessons? Get some ideas from early childhood experts on how to honor various family structures in your curriculum.

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Practice counteracting stereotypes.

"Exposing our brains to images that contradict stereotypes can actually decrease our implicit, unconscious biases. Find images that do not fit traditional gender stereotypes—women doing construction work or men in care-taking roles—and post them in places you view often at home or at work, e.g., save them to your phone or use them as your screensaver" (Harvard, 2018).

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Watch your language.

"Our language sends messages about our expectations based on gender. When we comment on how pretty girls look or how strong boys are, for example, we send messages about our expectations for kids based on their gender. Use gender-neutral words like “they” or say “she or he” when talking about people in the abstract. Say “firefighter” instead of “fireman” and “police officer” instead of “policeman.” Be on the look-out for statements that start with “all girls” or “all boys.” (Harvard, 2018).

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Why

We all carry biases that are based on gender; throughout our lives we receive daily messages about what is expected of males and females. These biases become ingrained and it's often impossible to completely get rid of them. But, if we can be more aware of our biases, we have a better chance of counteracting them.

How

Take a hard look at how biases might be affecting your attitudes or actions. Be mindful that the relationships, language, and behaviors that come naturally to you may express bias. Think about what conclusions you jump to about what boys or girls should dress like, act like, think about and feel.

TRY THIS

Practice counteracting stereotypes. Exposing our brains to images that contradict stereotypes can actually decrease our implicit, unconscious biases. Find images that do not fit traditional gender stereotypes-women doing construction work or men in care-taking roles-and post them in places you view often at home or at work, e.g., save them to your phone or use them as your screensaver.

Watch your language. Our language sends messages about our expectations based on gender. When we comment on how pretty girls look or how strong boys are, for example, we send messages about our expectations for kids based on their gender. Use gender-neutral words like "they" or say "she or he" when talking about people in the abstract. Say "firefighter" instead of "fireman" and "police officer" instead of "policeman." Be on the look-out for statements that start with "all girls" or "all boys."

Check in with a friend or family member. Because we all are blind to some of our biases, we need feedback. Talk to close friends and family members about your own gender biases and ask them whether you are expressing gender biases that you might be unaware of. Ask kids to hold you accountable, to give you feedback if you are modeling stereotypes or expressing bias. Modeling this openness and being willing to admit bias sends a powerful message to kids about the nature of biases and how they are counteracted. It can be, of course, very hard to receive this kind of feedback from our kids or other loved ones, but it's a key part of responsible, moral parenting.

2. Engage Your Kids in Making Your Home a Bias-Free Zone

Why

Beginning at a very young age, kids notice differences between girls and boys that can develop into narrow understandings of gender. Parents and caregivers can shape healthier understandings about gender by cultivating family practices that widen kids' sense of gender roles and alert them to bias.

How

Develop routines and habits in your family, with input from your kids, that help to counteract and prevent biases and stereotypes. Build strong, trusting relationships with your children so it's easier for them to ask you uncomfortable questions related to gender. When kids ask questions about differences, let them know that you appreciate the question, and answer with straightforward, honest language.

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Mix it up. Proactively start conversations with your kids about how responsibilities get divvied up in your family. Talk about what is fair and balanced, rather than make assumptions about who does what based on gender. Create a chore wheel so that everyone gets a chance to participate in all the types of chores. Be willing to model behavior that doesn't fit gender stereotypes and show kids that you can step outside your own comfort zone.

Hold each other accountable. Periodically ask kids whether they think your family practices are gender-biased in any way. Are there different expectations of females and males in the family? If so, why? When kids do identify biases or inequities at home, brainstorm solutions with them.

Tell your story. Share with your kids examples of times when you've experienced bias because of your gender. Talk to them about times you've felt you've been treated unfairly or times that you've taken a stand against gender bias and injustice. Sharing your stories opens the door for them to share theirs.

Expand their horizons. Provide your kids with books, games, TV shows, movies, art, etc. that show people from diverse racial and cultural backgrounds demonstrating non-traditional gender roles, images that they may not see in mainstream media. Expose both boys and girls to a variety of activities. Don't just assume, for example, that boys will like sports and girls will like ballet. Ask girls to imagine themselves as senators, sports team managers and business leaders and ask boys to imagine themselves as child care directors and dance choreographers. Facilitate children interacting with mixed gender groups and developing cross-gender friendships.

3. Help Kids Kick Stereotypes to the Curb

Why

Kids are often unaware of the gender biases and stereotypes they confront every day, biases and stereotypes that can powerfully shape their views of gender. Kids need to learn from the adults in their lives how to recognize bias in themselves and others, how to talk constructively to others about biases, and how to avoid being influenced by stereotypes

How

Be alert to and prepared to explain to kids why bias is harmful in ways that they can understand and appreciate and give kids strategies for responding to biases and stereotypes that are appropriate for their developmental stage.

TRY THIS

Ask kids what they think. Kids are excellent at finding unfair images of themselves and others, whether at school, in the neighborhood or in the media. Create a list together of gender stereotypes you both see or hear. Spot them when you're watching television, listening to a song, or shopping for clothes together. Talk to them about how these stereotypes make them feel. If you see a bias or stereotype that your kids don't see, point it out to them. Make the connection clear: "That commercial shows girls not caring about school as much as about how they look. That doesn't seem fair."

Help kids be a first responder. Brainstorm with kids strategies for responding to stereotypes they encounter in their daily interactions. Talk together about the words they can use to speak up, and how those words might be different when talking to a friend or a stranger or a teacher, for example. Practice different responses and conduct role plays that help children find the right words. Help kids identify who their allies could be when they need more help in a difficult interaction.

Question their lingo. When you hear kids use terms to describe boys or girls that reflect biases, ask them to consider what the words mean and what messages these words might send.

4. Don't Just Let "Boys Be Boys"

Why

Too often boys' demeaning stereotypes and remarks about girls go unchecked. Often both adults' and kids' peers don't know how to intervene when boys make demeaning remarks about girls and often they fear being written off or ridiculed. Yet excusing these behaviors as "boys being boys" sends them the message that those behaviors are okay.

How

Take time to consider how to intervene when boys are demeaning to girls, and step in immediately if you observe or hear these behaviors.

TRY THIS

Talk about real honor and strength. Point out to boys the false bravado in demeaning girls and the real courage and strength in defying one's peers when they devalue girls in general or divide girls into "good girls" and "bad girls." Talk about commonly used, denigrating words to describe girls and why they're offensive, even when they're used "just as a joke" or sarcastically. Brainstorm strategies with boys for talking to their peers about this denigration that won't cause them to be ridiculed or spurned.

Allow boys to express their full selves. Encourage them to talk about vulnerabilities and worries, and appreciate them when they do. Encourage and recognize their expressions of empathy and care, especially for girls and others who are different from them.

Teach boys to value and stand up for girls and women. Help boys understand their responsibility in counteracting gender bias and stereotypes. Reinforce that being an ally to girls and women means not just avoiding demeaning girls but also speaking up when others do. Show them that you support and appreciate the women in your life.

5. Build Girls' Leadership Skills and Self-Confidence

Why

Too many girls are dealing with biases about their leadership capacity specifically. Perhaps the best way for girls to counteract their negative images about their own and other girls' leadership capacity is for them to experience themselves as effective leaders.

How

Expose girls to various, appealing examples of leadership and help them develop the skills and confidence they need to become leaders in a wide variety of fields. Too often girls avoid leadership because they don't feel confident in skills such as public speaking or because they fear their peers will disapprove. Many girls fear appearing bossy

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Connect girls to leadership opportunities that are meaningful to them. Discuss with girls many types of leadership and explore with them how their interests and passions align with these different types. Show them images of girls and women in a range of leadership positions, such as the lead scientist in the recent Pluto mission.

Help girls develop specific leadership skills. Give girls chances to practice public speaking, to participate in decision-making processes, to work in teams, and to give and receive feedback. Invite them to practice these skills in decisions your family makes, for example, or encourage them to take action on problems they're concerned about in their schools and communities.

Talk to girls about their fears. Start conversations with girls about the things they feel hold them back from leadership. Model for them that it's okay to feel nervous or worried about how they'll be perceived or the reactions they may get when in leadership roles. Explore with girls various strategies for dealing with disapproval and criticism. Consider with girls how they might engage peers as supporters and allies when they face disapproval.

Encourage girls to lead in collaboration with diverse groups of girls. Collaboration and teamwork are essential skills for leadership in today's workplace, helping to develop social awareness, problem-solving abilities, perspective-taking and other key skills. And working in racial and economically diverse groups can enrich girls' understandings of different cultures, expose girls to a wide range of leadership styles and abilities, and enable girls to draw on various kinds of cultural wisdom about leadership.

Last reviewed October 2018.

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