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For Aditi

Social Contracting has always helped me in such experiences.

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For SImran

I have observed my mentor facilitators taking a lead whenever boundaries are crossed or consent is broken, but first allowing the group to handle it on their own. When the facilitators do take a lead I have noticed both parties are heard and help them come to mutual stance albeit also sending across clear message of what is acceptable an what is not (consent broken, etc)

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Go through the difficult conversation with cofac... being more open about any value mismatches... and talking about hopes and fears of both... got this as an advice in a crisis situation with cofacilitation myself.

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Asked for the purpose of the particular activity that was changed and seeked clarity on why it was put there in the first place so that the change doesn't affect the purpose

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For Preiti

Dialogue with self doubt. What do you want me to be careful about? How can you help me in learning better?

And how can I be open to making mistakes during the learning process?

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Could may be check-in with co-facilitator , share your feeling if comfortable and  realign with the co-facilitator
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Invited someone to cofacilitate midsession since this was a training where there were other facilitators, would be interesting to see how support could have come at time of crisis

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For Gagan

Can totally relate to such experience. What works for me is That I have learnt through experience of such disconnections I have had, is that I consciously and with effort remind myself as to how my state of mind is further going to affect the session, my performance , as well as participants' learnings. And it is just not worth putting all that at stake. Consciously being mindful has worked for me.

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For Simran

Probably acknowledge and apologize in front of group about the norm of confidentiality being broken. And that you will speak to the two people involved separately as well.

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A : In tasks such as these, I rather speak and share than 'write' :)
B : I sometimes feel I should go with the flow . Sometimes, I speak up and do as I like .
C: I do as I am guided from within.
D: Not Sure... .. :)

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Gagan

A - Design of the session not being upto the mark. Confusion and misalignment between co-facilitators.
B - kind of gave up and gone into withdrawn mode
C - lost interest, co facilitation was challenging, session didn't go very well
D - could have held fort and played a more active role in redesigning the session

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Event - feedback from a team member for doing things slight differently in the session

A - I could not explain myself as I felt like I have limited agency
B - I reflected on the feedback and shut down for sometime
C - It helped me understand the situation, where was it coming from
D- I could have had open discussion and questioned and got more clarity

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I recently attended a circle where non-judgement had to be the key. A: I started judging one of the participants for their behaviour. B: Could have been the devil's advocate, instead I stayed silent and let the other participant's ridicule this person. C: This participant felt alienated and unheard D: I would have asked more questions and atleast helped give everyone equal chance to share their perspectives. As a facilitator that should have been my role