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What is the main topic or theme of the podcast episode?

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What is the main topic or theme of the podcast episode?

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Engaging in backtalk with your child, or letting yourself lose your temper over it, does not teach anyone to be more respectful, and often makes you feel worse. Also, losing it and getting on the same level as your child is undermining your relationship with your child.

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What are the key concepts or ideas discussed? & 	What evidence or examples are provided to support the ideas discussed?

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What are the key concepts or ideas discussed? & 	What evidence or examples are provided to support the ideas discussed?

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Talking back pinpoints.

Sassiness, eyerolling, disrespect, talking back, pushing back, arguing with requests, sarcasm, being condescending, refusing, make me attitude, or blame shifting.

Examples:

Your 9-year-old rolls their eyes and says, “Whatever, mom,” or “bruh.”

Your teenager gets a curfew, and they tell you that you’re the worst mom in the whole wide world.

Another example:

You tell your child to put their dirty dishes in the sink, they say no, and don’t do it after asking them more than 3 times. So, now you're frustrated and you feel disrespected and mad, so you lose it.

But losing it and talking back to your child is like you’re stepping down to meet them on their level, or taking it very seriously can undermine your relationship. This doesn’t “teach” them a lesson or to be more respectful.

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What are the perspectives or viewpoints presented in the podcast?

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What are the perspectives or viewpoints presented in the podcast?

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Developmental context

Dr Aliza's input on developmental context:

Toddlers

Have limited language, and a lot of times they show physical expressions of their frustration. So, their backtalk is pretty limited to just a lot of "NO!"

And no is very developmentally appropriate, no is saying, this is the only word I know as a toddler. Toddlers don't know what it means to push back by saying no, so they're going to try it and see what happens.

Early Elementary school ages (5-8)

They now have a lot more words added to their vocabulary. But they don't have the skills to follow all the social rules. So, they start to repeat phrases that they heard from social media or at school, or maybe they saw someone eye roll, etc. They're testing it out, but they don't necessarily know if they've gone too far in offending someone or if the phrases are okay to say.

Middle school childhood

They have a better ability to argue. They have the cognitive capacity to understand that they don't like what's happening, and they'll start to question authority. As their critical thinking develops and their peers are influencing them, wanting their peers' approval becomes more interesting than having their parents' approval.

Adolescence

It's when teens begin to test the waters and start to pull and push back and away and back again. This is when teens want to be more independent, and go off and be on their own, and then they need to come back to you to remind themselves that you're still there. Their pushback is part of their identity formation, and they'll start rejecting parents and family members. Their peer relationships become more relevant to them.

If the pushback becomes a typical way of communication at home, then that's when one should speak to a pro.

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How does the podcast content relate to current trends or issues in special education or community?

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How does the podcast content relate to current trends or issues in special education or community?

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Developmental context refers to the various settings and circumstances that influence an individual's growth and development throughout their lifespan. These contexts include family, school, community, socio-economic, and culture, all interacting to shape experiences, behaviors, and overall growth. Understanding these contexts is crucial for promoting healthy development and addressing potential challenges at different life stages.

https://www.numberanalytics.com/blog/developmental-contexts-across-lifespan#:~:text=Conclusion,optimal%20development%20across%20the%20lifespan.

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What implications does the podcast content have for practice in special education or other applicable setting?

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What implications does the podcast content have for practice in special education or other applicable setting?

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In the context of special education, developmental context refers to understanding how a child's disability impacts their development across all ages and in various environments. It emphasizes the importance of tailoring educational and support services to a child's individual needs as they progress through different life stages

https://www.kidsfirstservices.com/first-insights/cognitive-growth-in-early-years

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Cognitive Growth in Early Years - Kids First

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Understanding the Path: Key Phases of Early Cognitive Development

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Are there any new strategies, resources, or approaches mentioned in the podcast that could be useful in special education settings or in the community?

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Are there any new strategies, resources, or approaches mentioned in the podcast that could be useful in special education settings or in the community?

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10 strategies to use when responding to backtalk:

1. Breathe and pause – before responding, take a deep breath and count to six. This short pause can turn off your “fight” response.

2. Acknowledge the feeling behind the words – understand that behavior is communication. What is your child trying to tell you?

3. Set clear boundaries with natural consequences – explain to your child that disrespectful language has consequences.

4. Offer a “Do-Over” – a do-over gives everyone a second chance to express themselves appropriately.

5. Collaborative problem-solving – include your child in the problem-solving process within your set boundaries.

6. Change your voice (lower and slow down) – by lowering and slowing down your voice (neurobiological mirroring), you can help bring their nervous system down and encourage a more respectful tone from them.

7. Connect before you redirect – As Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson suggest, this means connecting with your child first to open their brain for learning and cooperation.

8. Use “I” statements instead of “You” statements – To minimize defensiveness and shame, focus on how you feel.

9. Offer limited choices – Empower your child by giving them choices, even when a boundary is firm.

10. Have conversations during calm moments – Save important conversations about backtalk for a calm time.

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How does the podcast content relate to your own experiences or professional goals in your future career or personal life?

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How does the podcast content relate to your own experiences or professional goals in your future career or personal life?

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As a solo parent of an 11-year-old, I've had my fair share of experiences with all the stages and ages my son has backtalked to me in. From toddler to early elementary to middle school, I've witnessed it all. I would be lying if I said I was a "perfect mother," and my son never backtalks to me. I'm one of those that is breaking cycles and lets my son speak whatever feelings and thoughts he is going through at the moment, because he has every right to. If we ever did and do bump heads, we say timeout, take a break, come back at a calm moment, apologize, hug, and get our points across in a respectful manner, taking turns in speaking and coming to some kind of deal or agreement. I know this is working because I heard from everybody that he is very wise for his age, since he was in kindergarten. I want to raise a smart, respectful human and not have him be another statistic.

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How does the podcast content challenge or expand your understanding of special education or disability?

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How does the podcast content challenge or expand your understanding of special education or disability?

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This podcast challenged me to try out the 10 strategies list (mentioned in Padlet) the next time I find myself about to lose it when getting backtalk from my child or even an adult. I also have a better understanding that when receiving backtalk from any student in the special education field, it can relate to a behavior disorder or disability. Therefore, I have to find ways to help out with their cognitive behavior development and provide social skill interventions and therapy.

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Podcast

10 Ways to Respond to Backtalk Without Damaging Your Relationship. Raising Good Humans with Dr. Aliza.

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-good-humans/id1473072044

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As a parent, do you ever wish someone could just whisper some realistic and trustworthy support in your ear? And not make you feel awful for not having all the answers? Well, that's what I'm here for.

I'm Dr. Aliza Pressman, developmental psychologist, parent educator, asst. clinical professor, and co-founder of both Mount Sinai Parenting Center and SeedlingsGroup. And I'm a mom... trying to raise two good humans myself, so I'm in this with you!

In each episode, we'll go deep (but brief) with both experts and parents to share the most effective approaches and tools and talk about the important bigger picture of raising good humans. My goal is to make your parenting journey less overwhelming and a lot more joyful!

Please join me every Friday for new episodes of Raising Good Humans.

As a parent, do you ever wish someone could just whisper some realistic and trustworthy support in your ear? And not make you feel awful for not having all the answers? Well, that's what I'm here for.

I'm Dr. Aliza Pressman, developmental psychologist, parent educator, asst. clinical professor, and co-founder of both Mount Sinai Parenting Center and SeedlingsGroup. And I'm a mom... trying to raise two good humans myself, so I'm in this with you!

In each episode, we'll go deep (but brief) with both experts and parents to share the most effective approaches and tools and talk about the important bigger picture of raising good humans. My goal is to make your parenting journey less overwhelming and a lot more joyful!

Please join me every Friday for new episodes of Raising Good Humans.

Amazing podcast!

Such a great podcast and so needed in times like these.

The BEST parenting podcast I've found

I can't say enough good things about this podcast. As a young mother, I've been hungry for research-based information about child development. I've learned so much from Dr. Aliza and her many wonderful guests. My daughter is only a toddler but I've felt so much better prepared to handle challenges big and small because of what I've learned here. Thank you!

Real Facts w/ Real Parenting Experts

Love this podcast! Learning so much and enlightening to hear some things come to life when you are already thinking about it, but having that something be confirmed by an expert! Please keep going. Glad I found you (thank you Drew Barrymore)! Love!

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‎As a parent, do you ever wish someone could just whisper some realistic and trustworthy support in your ear? And not make you feel awful for not having all the answers? Well, that's what I'm here for. I'm Dr. Aliza Pressman, developmental psychologist, parent educator, asst. clinical professor, an...